Rebuilding Self-Trust, Even When You Don't Know It's Lost

Stacy and Wayne talk about why the real struggle often isn’t confidence, it’s self-trust built or broken by follow-through. We share simple ways to collect “receipts” through small wins so midlife goals stop feeling heavy and start feeling doable. 

You’ll hear practical strategies you can use immediately: tiny promises that are specific and realistic, accountability that helps you break comfortable patterns, gratitude and journaling that takes minutes not pages, habit stacking like pairing water with coffee, and time blocking so what matters actually gets scheduled. We end with a simple takeaway: imperfect action still counts, and action itself is a win that rebuilds self-trust one day at a time.

If you’re in a season where you need support, rebuilding clarity, confidence, momentum, coaching can really help you close that gap.

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Welcome And The Core Question

Coach Stacy 0:08

What if your confidence problem isn't really a confidence problem? What if the deeper issue is that somewhere along the way you stop trusting yourself to follow through? Today, we're talking about the gap between what we intend to do and what we actually do. Not from a place of shame, but from a place of curiosity, compassion, and practical action.

Coach Wayne 0:38

You found the midlife revolution unleashed, the space to embrace your wisdom, reignite your passions, and move boldly into what's next. I am Coach Wayne, the VIP coach.

Coach Stacy 0:51

And I'm Coach Stacy M. Lewis. We're here with insights, stories, and strategies to fuel your midlife journey. So take a breath, lean in. Your revolution starts now.

Coach Wayne 1:08

You know, Stacy, I was listening to the intro, and it occurred to me that here we are talking about midlife. And oftentimes, midlife, we realize that we have had so many intentions, Stacy, but things come in the way, you know, self-caring for our adults, children, caring for those who are our parents, just life in things happen. And so sometimes there are gaps with intentions. And in fact, we we we see these gaps and they build up and we start losing some some of the self-belief to your point today. And that's what we're gonna talk about today, Stacy. So absolutely, absolutely.

Coach Stacy 1:52

I love that that that little light that just went off, right? So we're it's it's it's not about calling ourselves lazy or shaming ourselves, as I said in the intro, or browbeating ourselves, but it's about understanding how the repeated gaps between the intention and the actions can really impact our self-belief and our self-trust. So, welcome to Midlife Revolution Unleashed. I'm your co-host, Stacey M. Lewis, a nonprofit executive, a midlife women's coach, and a lover of God and his people. And I'm accompanied once again by my infamous co-host, Coach Wayne. Introduce yourself, Coach Wayne.

Coach Wayne 2:37

Well, I'm the dude, the dude, Coach Wayne, the VIP dude. The dude. Yeah, Stacy, I work with Medlife, midlife men, helping them across the threshold of midlife into the the second half. And I try to make sure that the landing is soft and and good.

Coach Stacy 2:55

So that's what I be doing, Stacy. That's what you be doing. That's what you be doing.

Coach Wayne 3:00

That's right.

Coach Stacy 3:01

Let's let's jump into this conversation, Coach

Confidence Vs Self-Trust Defined

Coach Stacy 3:05

Wayne, about self-trust and the self-trust gap.

Coach Wayne 3:11

Cool. You know, confidence is really about us saying, I believe I can, and moving with some assurance. And unfortunately, as time goes on, sometimes we lose the self-trust because we feel like we didn't quite get things done the way we wanted or intended for various reasons, but we we hold on to it, and I think it kind of throws off a bit of our self-trust as a result.

Coach Stacy 3:48

Yeah, yeah, that feeling often it is our actions that cause us not to trust ourselves as much, right? And the self-trust comes from a place of I believe I will, right? That that to your point, that confidence is like, I can do this, I can do this. But self-trust says, I will do this, I will do this. And I think it's so important that we recognize you highlighted so many of the impacting factors that cause us to have whether it be a lack of confidence or a lack of self-trust, because all of these responsibilities sometimes get in the way of our actions, right? So we're caring for others, we're we're looking to excel in our businesses or on our jobs, and we forget to show up for ourselves, right? So sometimes that deeper question is will I actually show up for myself and keep my word to myself? And that's what builds our self-trust.

Coach Wayne 4:58

Yeah, yeah. Stacey, let's talk a little bit about as we talk about this self-trust. You had mentioned evidence early. How does evidence play into the self-trust?

The Evidence That Shapes Belief

Coach Stacy 5:10

Yeah, the evidence that impacts our self-trust is often the evidence of us not taking action. And so, Wayne, you know, I'll I'll jump into like my my personal experience with this whole self-trust and the evidence. You know, I'm not the biggest fan of fan of social media, I'm just not. And the the evidence that impacts my self-trust is the fact that I say that I will post on LinkedIn or Instagram or whatever, you know, once a week, and then I don't. Right? So it is it is the evidence I'm proving to myself in my inaction that I'm not trustworthy in in this in this space, right? I'm not keeping my word to myself when I say like I'm going to do this weekly, I'm going to post weekly. And so that that is the evidence. The evidence that I don't that that leads to a lack of self-trust is this evidence that demonstrates I'm not keeping my word to myself.

Coach Wayne 6:40

However, many midlifers know that they're capable. They have the ability to do things, but to your point, it's not really a capacity issue. It's uh it's an evidential, an evidence issue. It's gathering the evidence rather than questioning your capacity. Is that correct?

Coach Stacy 7:05

Yeah, and looking at ourselves and our behaviors of follow-through. You know, where do we tend to question our own follow-through? And so for me, the example I use was social media for others, you know, it could be health. I'm going to exercise three times a week. I'm not going to go down that road today. But, you know, and then do I take the action? Right? Or am I questioning my own follow-through because of the inaction, the lack of action that I'm taking? And I think it impacts, you know, health, money, business, boundaries. It it impacts so many areas of our life. This acknowledging and questioning our own follow-through.

Coach Wayne 8:11

So, in essence, what happens oftentimes for us, especially at midlife, is we have had, for whatever the disruptions are, we have had gaps based on our intent and our actual delivery or intent and our performance. And when we look back, we're saying, you know, I should have, I didn't, I could have. And so that builds up over time, I imagine, gradually, to a place of distrust where we are struggling with, you know, I said I was gonna do this thing, and I betrayed my myself in not falling up, falling through. I see, I see. Well, but we can turn that around.

Coach Stacy 8:59

Oh, we definitely can turn it around. We definitely can turn it around. I think what we're talking about here, and what you and I both learned as coaches, is that you cannot heal what you don't reveal. So until we begin to look at and dissect this area of self-trust, recognizing that the gaps in the level of trust that we have in ourselves form slowly, right? It is the consistency that we demonstrate over time of making promises to ourselves and and then not keeping them. And we can move through that, but not until we acknowledge it, not until we dissect it and see how how is it showing up? Is it showing up in overcommitting and underdelivering? You know, is it is it showing up in putting off our dreams in in ways that they now feel super risky or just unattainable? Um, how is that gap of self-trust showing up so that we can then, to your point, yes, we can coach Wayne with good coaching. We can fill that gap, right? Begin to fill that gap and move into a deeper level of self-trust.

Coach Wayne 10:36

Sounds like some of this we're talking about is to develop strategies that will allow us to fill the gap. And to your point, firstly, is to call a thing a thing, to to pronounce that we are falling short with the weight management plan that we have for ourselves. And and not to kind of you know shy away from it, don't want to deal with it, and continue with the same old patterns, right? And and confidence, really, a lot of times, Stacey, to bring back the confidence. What I have found is sometimes you gotta do it anyway, even without the evidence to show that you can just break through and do it. And in the doing, you will now develop a new set of receipts that says it can be done to build back that self-trust.

Coach Stacy 11:28

I I totally agree, right? It is in the doing. The confidence is reminding us like, yes, I can. We feel that on the inside, we we process that internally. The confidence is internal, and the self-trust is because we took that action to your point, whether you felt confident, whether you really believed you were gonna do it, but taking that action is what then bills the receipts and says, Yes, I can trust myself to take better care of myself, to excel in this area.

Accountability And Noticing What Went Right

Coach Wayne 12:08

Yeah. And one of the things that I would urge the listener to do is to get an accountability person, but in your corner that can help with helping you get through and have those breakthroughs. Sometimes these patterns are comfortable for us, and it's harder to get out of them on your own. Let's face it, you know, if you could have, maybe you would have. So building that self-trust and and breaking through, having a gym buddy, for example, if part of the, you know, just to say, hey, you haven't showed up last week. What's up, man? I think that's important.

Coach Stacy 12:49

Yeah, I think that accountability piece is really important and it can be helpful. One of the things we tend to do, in particular, I think, in midlife, because we have so much going on, right? Whatever the it is, the life be lifing. And the responsibilities are heavy, and we don't often give ourselves credit for what it is we are doing. So we focus on the negative, we focus on what we didn't do, right? I I didn't I didn't go to the gym this week, but we don't acknowledge that, you know, I had a really challenging conversation with my manager, and and I did it from a place of confidence and authority, right? I didn't want to do it to your point of sometime you just got to do it. I was concerned about doing it, but I did it, and I took that action. So it's very, I don't know about you, Coach Wayne, but even in my own experience, you know, I can very easily connect with what I didn't do, with what I didn't say, with you know, the action I didn't take. And I totally put to the side, totally discount what I did do.

Coach Wayne 14:21

Yeah, yeah. I call it sometimes those automatic thinking that takes you down that rabbit hole of what you could have, should have, and you beat yourself up, stinking thinking. You know what I mean? Yep, yep. And and to your point, we talked a little bit about the glass being half empty, half full. It's so easy, especially if we're on a downward spiral and we missed the opportunity that we had in in a business venture, for example. We carry that on our back and then we start defining ourselves so negatively, losing trust in what we're capable of. And we forgot that we got ourselves invited to the table in the first place. That's evidence of that's good we can win, right? That's good. Yeah, we may have not closed the deal, but hey, we got to the table.

Coach Stacy 15:11

We got we got to the table. So, as coaches, one of the questions I know that I would pose in a coaching setting is what evidence are we using to judge ourselves? And is that evidence complete?

Coach Wayne 15:28

Yes.

Coach Stacy 15:29

What evidence have you been using against yourself? Yes. Yes. There's some there's some really, you know, there's some thinking there. What evidence have you ignored that proves you are more consistent, more courageous, or more capable than you think? Yes, yes. What you know, what are you dismissing? What progress are you dismissing because it didn't look perfect when you and I have some great green room conversations, right? And we talk about managing perfectionism. Yes, right? Making sure that we are not, yes, we we have a standard, and yes, we want Midlife Revolution Unleashed to be an impactful podcast to our midlife community so that they can celebrate their richness. And at the same time, we have to challenge ourselves as individuals and as coaches to make sure we are not trapped in perfectionism. And so those receipts, right, are our receipts for our resilience that we we can we can bounce back and we have to remember to count those receipts too.

Coach Wayne 16:44

Yeah, yeah. I was looking at my notes and kind of got got lost in the sauce because I'm thinking through in a practical sense. I start my coaching practice, you know, with saying to folks, hey, what what is a win that you want me to celebrate with you for last week? And people typically don't come to the table saying, I'm gonna celebrate a win because we're so trained to, as people of color, to stay small and humble yourself. Otherwise, people are gonna say you're arrogant and all that. But you know, even small wins matter. And so it helps us to give up some evidence of our success, of what we're doing right, to help with the self-trust, self-confidence. Because then people show up for coaching. Most times it's not because they want to show up because they feel they got it together, it's because they feel somewhere there's a gap or they're broken. So you know you're gonna hear about what's not happening, right? We already know that. Asking yourself this week to identify one or two wins, and it doesn't matter how you think it's insignificant or small, you need to acknowledge them and call them.

Coach Stacy 17:57

Absolutely, Coach Wayne. I think we can sit here for a minute because how often do we just gloss over the winds? Yes. And when what happens when we do that is that then they're not embodied, right? They don't become part of our memory, memory in our mind, memory in our body about like what that wind felt like. They don't become memory because we don't acknowledge them. Yeah, and then those wins are no longer evidence because they haven't been acknowledged as wins. And you know, scripturally, right, the the word says that we should not despise the small beginnings. And I think every day, right? The word also says that every day is a is a fresh 24, right? Every day is a new beginning, new mercies, new grace. And we don't want to despise the small beginnings, the small wins, and making them insignificant is what then disallows them from becoming part of our next step. You know, part of reminding us that oh I I did that. I did that. That's the self-trust, right? Like I I need to do this, I did that.

Coach Wayne 19:40

That's cool. That's cool. I

Journaling Wins And Gratitude Receipts

Coach Wayne 19:42

like that. You know, I'm gonna go back to the old journaling, Stacey. I know the journaling in you ain't friends, but part of the journaling is about writing down your wins, and that's creating the evidence. You know, again, my spouse and I, we do on a daily basis as much as possible. We do the whole what am I grateful for daily? And it's it's it looks like a small insignificant thing, but while you're busy thinking about what you're grateful for, you're building up confidence and trust, and you're feeling a sense of uh of gratitude for the gifts you have. It gives you a sense of leverage then to move through because it's not all that bad. The grass sometimes looks green on the other side, but when you can call some of the things in, Stacy, for the gifts that you have, it's a great way to start your day or end your day. And again, if you are not journaling and that's something that you'd like to try, you can begin with a gratitude journal by checking off the wins you have to build up self-trust, self-confidence.

Coach Stacy 20:58

Love, love, love, love, love. Because self-trust is rebuilt daily through evidence, right? And the receipts that you're talking about, written down receipts, those are the proof. Those are the small pieces of evidence to say, I showed up, right? I'm grateful I showed up. I honored myself. And so I love this idea of journaling. Although, yes, if you are a follower of Midlife Revolution Unleashed, you know I'm not much of a journalist. Definitely Coach Wayne's jam. Yet there is value in writing it down. And what I like about what you just shared, Coach Wayne, is that you can take this journaling opportunity. It doesn't have to be 52 paragraphs, right? We're not talking about journaling a dissertation. Right. We're talking about one journaling that one courageous act, right? That one action that you took today to remind yourself, right? That's that's the receipts. When we go to the store, right, we make a purchase, and the receipt prints out, verifying that we made the purchase. So here, with the writing it down, that one courageous act, we're generating, creating a receipt that says, I took the action. This is the action I took. I made the appointment. I, you know, sent the text message. Not huge, doesn't have to be, you know, this long diatribe around how I trusted myself today. But slowly, every day, rebuilding with those daily receipts is invaluable.

Coach Wayne 22:50

Yeah. And Stacey, I heard clearly, and I want to resonate with what you said, one small step. Just start small. If you want to get back in the gym, you don't have to start by signing up for a half marathon. You start off with just taking a walk around the park. Instead of letting your dog in the backyard, you might want to walk the dog. So you're getting the exercise and you know, participating in something that you want to do for the dog anyway. One small step. And again, just you don't have to overpromise and and over explain what you're doing when you are well intended and you you miss. Forgive yourself, give yourself grace and see it as feedback to reset and take that small step again and just keep moving forward.

Coach Stacy 23:43

Yeah. I'm loving it. I'm loving it. So we're we're talking receipts, right? When one one receipt is one courageous act, another receipt is one promise kept. The one I'd I'd like in the in the one promise kept, you know, I love the walking. And the praying, you know, for me, I'm really, it's one of the areas where I could easily condemn myself, right? Like I'm not praying enough. But the receipt is, or in the receipt is, did I have a conversation with God today? Did you know, did did I, did I acknowledge God's presence with my words today? Because that's that's a prayer. You know what I'm saying? Did I say God help me today? And so we are are really encouraging this receipt keeping around self-trust because it we recognize as coaches and as midlifers that it's very easy to look at what we didn't do and break down the trust that we have in ourselves. And we're looking at opportunities to rebuild that self-trust and move forward.

Habit Stacking Small Promises

Coach Wayne 25:09

You know, Stacey, when we were kicking some ideas around, one of the stuff that came up when we're talking about building habits and one small step, I saw one of the ideas of if if someone says, and I'm always guilty of this, you don't drink enough water. How many people in the room don't drink enough water on a daily basis? And they tell you when you get up in the morning, instead of having a coffee, how many people have coffee first thing in the morning? Drink some water, right? And I I I I I I saw one of the strategies is to match the drinking of water with coffee. Drink a cup of water before you have your coffee. And so as you go through building these receipts to these, I guess, failed promises you had to yourself that caused the mistrust in the first place. You can you can tie them up with a habit that you're currently doing. You know, if you have to take your vitamins in the morning and you don't normally do it, set it out at night with a morning activity, you know, set it out at night with the medication you have to take, stuff like that. So tie in to get small wins and to almost assure yourself that you will get some receipts to move forward.

Coach Stacy 26:29

I I think that's excellent, Coach Wayne, because it is you're reminding yourself, right? If you are the medicine taker and you put your your medicine out, you know, and you couple that with the the water habit, you're starting from a place of remembrance or bringing the evidence in, right? I know how to take my medication every day on time. And so I can couple that, as you said, with making sure that it's with a full glass of water that I do that in order to remind myself or prove to myself, collect a receipt to myself that I can take better care of myself by drinking more water. Again, sometimes we make things so huge in our minds, right? So we think about self-trust. We're like, oh, I suck at this and I didn't do that. And the reality is, you know, we're we're all doing the best we can. And as coaches, we want to make sure that we are acknowledging the small wins and that we are presenting opportunities for you to take and make more small wins.

Coach Wayne 27:53

Yeah, yeah. Don't smile up yourself, man.

Coach Stacy 27:57

So I love it. Every time you say that, it cracks me up.

Coach Wayne 28:01

Slap yourself on the back, right? In a way of appreciation. You know, do the water dance if you had enough water, if you had your gallon or whatever you're supposed to do. Celebrate yourself.

Coach Stacy 28:13

Celebrate, you're absolutely right. And and coach went to that point, you know, another receipt is the 60-second acknowledgement, right? Don't small up yourself like today. Oh, I did have that glass of water. Today, I kept my word to myself. Today, you know, doing X, Y, and Z. Oh, this counts. This counts because this is what. So for me, it would be yesterday, I posted on LinkedIn, right? You know what I'm saying? And I did not acknowledge that as a small win until just now. So thank you, Coach Wayne. Thank you for this excellent topic and this this coaching conversation because that just blessed me.

Coach Wayne 29:02

Hey, Stacey, that's what we do. Iron sharpened and iron, they say.

Coach Stacy 29:06

That's it. That's it. That is it. You know, sometimes we keep promises, we don't keep promises to ourselves because we make the promise so big, yeah, or too vague, yeah, or very disconnected from our real capacity. Yeah, yeah. But we get to really, you know, make those promises smaller in a way that's going to be more actionable and more meaningful. And I know you're a you're a smart goals guy, but I think this this idea of making those promises smaller so that we can build trust self-trust is a good one.

Coach Wayne 29:49

Yeah, and it's um we talk about smart goals. There's a part of that that talks about attainable and realistic. So you want to make sure that these smart small promises that you're making to each other, to yourself, are not setting you up for failure. Right? They're attainable, they're realistic. You can make it happen. You're not gonna create a promise that you're gonna go back to school and get a bachelor's in two years, though they're sure that happens. But you want to make it realistic based on your what you're capable of, what you have available to you in terms of the resources. And again, it's also important to remember that this race is not for others, this is about you. Work within the scope of your control and what you're capable of doing, your resources.

Coach Stacy 30:40

Right. Coach Wayne, I just reflected on a recent coaching conversation that I had. And there, you know, we were we were talking about some actions that my client wanted to take. And she said, no, I need to schedule, you know, I need to, I need to write down for, you know, 15 minutes X, Y, and Z. And so I then said to her, okay, let's put it on your calendar, right? So these small promises to build self-trust should not only be, to your point, of the smart goal framework, right? The measurable, the obtainable, the achievable, but they should also be scheduled. How many, how often, right? I think part of my issue with social is that it's not scheduled. So I go throughout the day doing the other things I need to do. And then, you know, then it's 11 o'clock at night. I'm like, I'm not touching anything social at 11 o'clock at night. Not my jam, might be yours, not mine. But I think that, you know, this idea of not just making the goals small, but also scheduling the opportunities, the the promise keeping to yourself is an impactful way to build those receipts.

Scheduling Time Blocking And Realistic Goals

Coach Wayne 32:21

So funny you said that, Stacy. I have a client that dealing with a lot of stuff, and we talked about scheduling, right? Blocking time, right? In a previous episode, we we talked about managing energy and managing time, and we had some strategies. Folks can go back and look at some of those. But in this particular situation, we were talking about blocking time to get things done because the person felt overwhelmed. And there was also time outside of the getting tasks done, there was time to do some gardening. His spouse had gotten him some flowers to kind of relax him, to do some gardening. And he said, Okay, I got the notes done and I got the administrative stuff done because I had it blocked. And I said, Well, how's the garden? He says, I didn't get to that. And you know what we did? We blocked time for that too. Because if it wasn't blocked, it wasn't happening. So even the things that you may think, perfunctory, day-to-day, I don't need to worry about. If you're failing yourself or disappointing yourself because it's just not happening and it's building up that gap of self, self-distrust, you know, then you want to you want to pencil that in too. Block time for that too.

Coach Stacy 33:46

Yeah, it's it's so it's it sounds not impactful, but it truly is meaningful. And we're talking about taking actions that matter to you, that are aligned with your actual life, right? Wayne and I have shared some examples both, you know, from our own lives and and our coaching experience. But there are meaningful and simple opportunities for you to repeatedly build your self-trust. And so to your point, Wayne, in looking at that example that you gave of, you know, I'm going to go back to school and get my bachelor's in two years, great goal. But if you leave it broad and lofty like that, right, you're it's going to be hard to accomplish. If that is the destination, maybe the next step is, or building the self-trust is, and this week I'm going to spend 30 minutes looking for the right online program. Right? Instead of saying something like, I'm gonna get my whole life together. How many of us have said that? I've said that a couple of times. Maybe it's something as simple as, to your point, Coach Wayne, I'm going to walk the dog for 10 minutes at two o'clock.

Coach Wayne 35:23

Absolutely. The low-hanging fruits, pick those. Right. Right, right. Stacey, are there some takeaways that we can leave with our listener so that they can improve on their self-trust?

Takeaways Imperfect Action And Closing

Coach Stacy 35:39

Absolutely. You know, certainly we invite you to think about, you know, to take in, absorb what we've shared, to pause and reflect what is one small promise you are willing to keep to yourself today, and then engage in that that process of making sure that it's specific and realistic and and adding it to your schedule. And I think a key takeaway would be that confidence and self-trust are related, but they're not the same. The self-trust is really built through the evidence based on your actions.

Coach Wayne 36:29

And I would say that just take action is so key. I know we are afraid sometimes of outcome. We're thinking, oh, we may lose. But just take action because in taking action, even if it's not the result that you intended, you have won because you acted. And that's receipt that builds up. So take some sort of action. Procrastination is another way of just putting off, you know, possibilities when you think of it that way. You want to act.

Coach Stacy 37:09

Right. We're really, you know, talking about this gap between your intention and your action. And that is what can erode or deplete your self-trust. And the interruptions in our lives are real. We're not saying they don't exist, but the small promises to yourself do matter. And those honest promises are better than impressive ones. And to your point, Coach Wayne, of taking that in action, remind yourself that it can be imperfect action. It doesn't have to be perfect action. You know, journaling with the with the blue gel pen at 1010 a.m. Take action, journal, write something down.

Coach Wayne 38:00

Yes. And Coach Stacy, before we get out of here, I wanted to talk about trust. And I am trusting that if you have gotten this far in this episode, and if you've been watching some of the others or listening to others, you may not have remembered to, but it's nice that you do, even as we speak, to subscribe to this channel. Because in subscribing, you're giving folks an opportunity to hear what we are delivering. And so if this has any good for you and you'd like to be a part of future episodes, please subscribe. It really helps us.

Coach Stacy 38:41

I agree with you, Coach Wayne. And I would add that if you're in a season where you need support, rebuilding clarity, confidence, momentum, coaching can really help you close that gap. And I want you to know that Coach Wayne is available. Tell the people, Coach Wayne, how they can reach you.

Coach Wayne 39:00

Absolutely. I can be reached at VnP Transformative Living.com. And all my channels are there. You'll see it where I am on social media. Just reach out to your dude, man. By the way, Stacy, I haven't said it in a while, but I have a free self-assessment that helps men to kind of figure out where they are and their next first step.

Coach Stacy 39:22

Okay. We'll make sure that that is included in the show notes. And trust and believe you know how to get in touch with Coach Wayne. I'm Coach Stacy. I can be reached at the StacyMlewis.com. It is my joy and honor to co-host with Coach Wayne. I think in closing, I would say, remind yourself that in this season you are worth the time, the talent, and your treasure in pouring into yourself. You can rebuild trust with yourself with one promise kept at a time. That's how self-trust is built.

Coach Wayne 40:14

Yeah, yeah. Coach Stacy, you know, this weekend what I'm gonna do to build some self-trust is you had gifted my wife and I a beautiful bottle of champagne, wine as well. I think I know champagne for sure hasn't been busted yet. And so we're gonna bust that court this weekend, Stacy. We trust that it's gonna do right by us. So you know, building up the evidence, yo.

Coach Stacy 40:44

That's right. And you take you take the imperfect action, right? It it it might not be the best in the whole wide world, but hey, you open the bottle. So every time you follow through, you give yourself evidence. Evidence becomes belief, and belief creates movement. The movement is what creates momentum. I'm Stacy, and I'm cheering you on.

Coach Wayne 41:10

And I'm Coach Wayne, the VIP coach, and I'll see you at the top.

Coach Stacy 41:16

Thanks for tuning in to Midlife Revolution Unleashed. We're grateful you're part of this journey.

Coach Wayne 41:21

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Coach Stacy 41:28

I'm Coach Stacy, and I'm cheering you on.

Coach Wayne 41:31

And I'm Coach Wayne, and I'll see you at the top.