Episode 46 - Chaos and Caffeine (Can ADHD Awareness Break Generational Trauma?)

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Jami sits down with fellow ADHD podcaster and mom, Danielle Kelly, host of Chaos and Caffeine. Together, they explore how ADHD affects not just the individual—but entire family systems.

Danielle shares what it was like growing up with two undiagnosed ADHD parents and how that shaped her own emotional world. From walking on eggshells to discovering her diagnosis while parenting her son, Danielle brings honesty, humor, and healing to the conversation.

Jami reflects on her own parenting journey before and after her diagnosis—offering insight, validation, and a few laugh-out-loud moments along the way.

Whether you’re an adult child trying to understand your upbringing, a parent learning to do things differently, or someone just beginning to connect the dots—this episode is for you.

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Chapters

• 0:01 Podcast Introduction & Community Welcome
• 3:40 How Danielle discovered her own ADHD while parenting her son—and what changed after
• 14:28 What it was like growing up with two undiagnosed ADHD parents
• 20:53 The emotional toll of being a child in a dysregulated home—and the anxiety that lingers
• 22:14 Why so many women with ADHD feel like they “just can’t get it together”
• 26:26 Would you press the button to get rid of ADHD? Danielle’s powerful 50/50 answer
• 28:28 The surprising connection between ADHD, rumination, scarcity mindset, and self-worth
• 30:03 Practical Tips for Downsizing with ADHD
• 34:11 What adult children can do to reframe childhood hurt through the lens of ADHD
• 34:11 What adult children can do to reframe childhood hurt through the lens of ADHD
• 36:13 Advice for grandparents: how to support your kids who are parenting differently
• 36:13 Advice for grandparents: how to support your kids who are parenting differently
• 38:37 Why giving yourself—and your parents—grace is part of healing the ADHD cycle
• 41:06 The joy of finding “your people” in the ADHD community