In this Chainbreaker episode, we confront a pattern that is far more common than most men want to admit they engage in on their sexual addiction recovery journey. It is the act of approaching mentors, coaches, partners, and support spaces under the guise of wanting help, while secretly protecting the very behaviors that keep them stuck. Many men enter healing spaces without the mindset required for real transformation. They arrive with chaos, denial, defensiveness, and ego; and when boundaries are set and when someone in the space dares to challenge the man's dysfunctional patterns, these men interpret accountability as an attack. Instead of receiving guidance, they create disorder, lash out at the person trying to help them, and sabotage the very healing process that they claim to desire.

This episode draws a hard line. It teaches men that genuine recovery requires humility, emotional responsibility, and a willingness to be led. Manipulation, tantrums (also known as man-trums), and resistance are not signs of someone seeking healing. They are, instead, signs of a man who is trying to retain control while pretending to grow. Here, listeners will learn why these patterns destroy opportunities for change, why helpers must refuse to absorb men’s emotional messes, and what true readiness for transformation actually looks like. For those who sincerely want to break their chains, this message is a mirror and a wake-up call: you cannot heal while fighting the hand that is trying to help pull you out of the mess that you are in.

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In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we take a hard, honest look at why so many men stay stuck in their sexual addiction cycles even while appearing to “do the work.” Too many men show up, participate in groups, talk a good game, read the books, or exchange casual check-ins with accountability partners, yet never touch the wounded, neglected, or underdeveloped parts of themselves that actually require healing. This episode calls out the illusion of progress—the busy work that consumes time but produces no transformation. Men learn that their recovery stalls because they avoid the truth about themselves: the loneliness, the immaturity, the emotional fragmentation, and the places where they have simply not grown up.

We dig into the fact that hiding, running, gaslighting, and operating from a “we will see what happens” mentality are not strategies; they are symptoms of resistance. Real healing begins only when a man names what is broken and actively confronts it. This episode challenges listeners to abandon passivity and step into intentional self-examination. It is a direct invitation to stop wasting time, to stop performing recovery, and to start doing the internal work that restores integrity, identity, and direction.

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In this episode of Chainbreaker, we go beyond surface-level recovery to uncover the deeper truth: real healing doesn’t come from denying your sexual urges or running from temptation — it comes from transforming desire itself. Many men try to “white-knuckle” their way through addiction, believing that self-control alone will save them. However, denial only feeds the shadows. True recovery begins when you stop hiding from your desire and start understanding it.

In this episode, I will help the listener to understand how to face sexual addiction, not fear it — how to walk out the same way you walked in, but this time with awareness, humility, and a new direction. You’ll learn what it means to shift from behavior management to soul transformation — where your desires are no longer your master, but your teachers. This is the stage of recovery where you stop fighting the addiction and start evolving beyond it.

This episode is for the man who has already done the groundwork — the one ready to move past avoidance and into genuine transformation. If you’ve built your foundation and you’re ready to become a different kind of man, this message will meet you exactly where you are.

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In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we confront one of the most dangerous and overlooked realities of modern society — the system that has been intentionally designed to shape men into sexual addicts and women into sexual objects - from early exposure to sexualized media to the normalization of pornography and hookup culture. We live in a world where cultural conditioning, technology, and global industries work together to ensnare young men in lifelong cycles of lust, shame, and dependency. 

This isn’t a drill or a conspiracy theory. It’s a calculated structure that weakens men, destroys relationships, and erodes the moral and emotional foundation of entire societies.

However, there is hope. This episode calls men to open their eyes and see what’s really happening — to recognize the manipulation, accept responsibility for their part in it, and begin reclaiming their futures. It’s time to stop living as victims of a broken system and start rebuilding from the inside out. Whether it means reaching out for help, finding accountability, or making the choice to live with discipline and clarity, this conversation challenges every man to step into his rightful power — not the kind sold through lust and ego, but the kind rooted in truth, strength, and integrity.

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In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we break down why taking recovery one step at a time isn’t just helpful—it’s essential. Too many men try to skip ahead in their sexual recovery work, only to find themselves stumbling and falling back into old patterns. 

True sexual addiction recovery is a process. It’s a journey that demands patience, presence, and discipline. You will never stop being an addict—but you can stop being controlled by your addiction. You can learn to walk free of the persistent nagging of your addiction; of being stalked and tortured by it. When you learn to honor each stage of your recovery and do the work that is required, you begin to regain power over your life and experience real freedom from the constant pull of your desires.

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In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we dive into how men can tackle sexual addiction recovery on their own, even if they can't access one-on-one coaching. Learn how, when, and why to confront the deeper, scarier parts of yourself, embrace discomfort, and stop running from the hard work of self-reflection. While independent recovery comes with challenges—overwhelm, discomfort, and moments of doubt—this episode provides actionable strategies to navigate them effectively and make meaningful progress on your own.

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In this episode of Chainbreaker, Mistress Alisa tackles one of the hardest realities men face in sexual addiction recovery: the crushing guilt that comes with “failing” and slipping back into old patterns of sex, porn, or masturbation. Far too many men believe recovery should be a straight line forward—and when they relapse, they label themselves weak, broken, or hopeless; and they tend to give up. This episode helps to dismantle the myth that leads men to believe that sexual addiction recovery happens right upfront and with no setbacks. It is important that men understand why setbacks are actually a natural part of the journey, especially in the early stages of sexual addiction recovery.

You’ll learn how to reset your expectations, stop treating every slip as a catastrophe, and start viewing the recovery process as a long-term path that requires patience, honesty, and recalibration. Mistress Alisa also shares practical ways to make better use of her free resources, taking you step by step into strategies that bring her 1-on-1 coaching approach into your own personal work.

If guilt has been holding you hostage and making you believe you can’t break free, this episode will help you breathe again—and remind you that progress is measured by resilience, not perfection.

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In this unapologetically honest episode, we pull back the curtain on a silent epidemic—men’s emotional dependence on sexual pleasure. This isn’t about shame or blame. It’s about revealing how boys are conditioned to bury emotion, celebrate numbness, and turn to sex as their only outlet for comfort, validation, and self-worth. From childhood wounds to cultural programming, we unpack how your entire emotional system got hijacked—and why every feeling now gets rerouted into arousal.

You’ll confront hard truths: how porn rewired your brain, why you can’t connect without performance, and what it really costs you to keep chasing orgasm instead of learning presence. But there’s hope—and power—on the other side. Real transformation begins with emotional ownership. You’ll hear a bold call to stop running from yourself and start building the inner strength to feel deeply, lead wisely, and live free.

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In this raw and unflinching episode, we dig beneath the surface of sexual addiction to uncover the deeper ache driving the cycle: the longing to be loved - and the tragic ways addicts sabotage that love before they ever get the chance to receive it.

Meet Sid, a cautionary tale of what happens when you fake recovery, rush intimacy, and weaponize women’s hearts in your pursuit of healing. His story is a wake-up call to every man who thinks quitting porn is the same thing as becoming whole.

We'll break down:

• Why love becomes the new drug for many recovering addicts.
• How false selves, performance, and emotional immaturity ruin real relationships.
• Why you’re not ready for love if you haven’t learned how to love yourself.

This isn’t just a message. It’s a mirror. For the man reaching for something deeper but unsure how to hold it. For the one trying to be different but falling into the same traps. For the one who’s hurt women while claiming to heal.

“Don’t be like Sid - Do.Your.Work.”

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In this transformative episode, we dive into one of the most important truths in sex addiction recovery: Mindset. Far too often, men attempt to break free from porn, sex, and masturbation addictions while clinging to the same beliefs, habits, and thought patterns that kept them trapped. However, true healing requires more than just behavior change. It requires a renewed mind.

We'll explore how dysfunctional thinking - shame, entitlement, secrecy, control, and self-sabotage - feeds addiction, and why real recovery begins with confronting those broken mental frameworks. This episode challenges listeners to do more than just manage urges. It's a call to take radical ownership of your internal world and adopt a new mindset rooted in truth, humility, accountability, and hope.

If you're ready to move beyond surface-level change and pursue real freedom, this episode will give you the clarity and direction you need to start thinking - and healing - differently.

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In this raw and transformative episode, we dive deep into the journey from compulsion to connection. "Transitioning From Sexual Addict to Lover" explores what it means to move beyond the empty highs of addiction and step into the vulnerability, courage, and intimacy required to love—and be loved.

This episode offers practical insights, mindset shifts, and hope for those ready to stop performing and start feeling. If you’re recovering from sexual addiction recovery, this episode invites you to become a lover - not just in body, but in heart, mind, and soul.

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In this empowering episode, we tackle a question many men silently fear: Will recovery mean the end of my sexuality? The answer is a resounding no.

You'll learn why healing from sex addiction doesn’t mean giving up desire, pleasure, or your unique sexual interests. Instead, it’s about addressing the root character flaws—like dishonesty, selfishness, and emotional immaturity—that fuel addiction and keep you stuck in cycles of shame.

We explore how true recovery leads to deeper intimacy, stronger self-awareness, and a richer sex life—one built on trust, connection, and authentic expression. Your kinks and fetishes don’t have to vanish; they can become healthy, vibrant parts of your sexuality once you’re free from the grip of compulsive behavior.

This episode is a powerful reminder: a better life—and better sex—awaits on the other side of addiction.

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In this episode of Chainbreaker, we dive deep into the harsh reality of why sexual addicts struggle to build and maintain healthy relationships. Many believe that love and commitment can override addiction, but the truth is far more complex.

We’ll explore the destructive patterns that sexual addiction breeds—dishonesty, emotional detachment, unrealistic expectations, and a constant need for novelty. These behaviors create cycles of betrayal, mistrust, and dissatisfaction, making it nearly impossible to foster genuine intimacy.

In this episode, I take a deep dive into the psychological and emotional toll sexual addiction takes on both the addict and their partners. More importantly, we’ll discuss the critical steps needed to break free, rebuild trust, and establish meaningful connections that aren’t driven by compulsion.

If you’ve ever wondered why relationships seem to fall apart despite good intentions, this episode will shed light on the missing piece. Tune in and learn how to move from destructive cycles to true emotional freedom.

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Not everyone who seeks help for sexual (sex/porn/masturbation) addiction is truly looking for recovery. Some are just looking for another way to feed their addiction - using therapy, accountability groups, and even their partners as tools to manipulate and deceive.

In this episode of Chainbreaker, I expose the mind games that sexual addicts play when they pretend to be on the road to recovery but are actually using counseling sessions as another outlet for their addiction. Through real-life examples, I walk you through the tactics I’ve seen firsthand - like confessing just enough to ease guilt without real change, using therapy to gain sympathy instead of accountability, or even twisting recovery language to justify their behavior.

If you’ve ever felt like someone in your life is playing the system instead of doing the real work, or if you have been guilty of such behavior, this episode might be of assistance to you.

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In this episode of The Chainbreaker Podcast, we dive into the misunderstood concept of willpower in sexual addiction recovery. Many men only start to consider self-control when their addiction has already wreaked havoc on their lives - but by then, relying on willpower alone is ineffective. Recovery is not about sheer force of will. Rather, it’s about embracing truth and integrity. In today's episode, I help to uncover why focusing on willpower sets men up for failure, and I introduce a proven, more effective approach to breaking free from addiction. My method prioritizes honesty, accountability, and creating a life built on purpose and self-awareness. Tune in to learn how to effectively work through the cycle of addiction and reclaim control of your life - not through willpower, but through transformation.

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In this thought-provoking episode, we dive into a critical distinction that many men struggling with sex, porn, and masturbation addiction often blur: the difference between sex and love. While society frequently glorifies physical intimacy as the ultimate expression of love, this episode reveals why such an outlook can be damaging—both to relationships and to an individual's personal well-being.

I explore how addiction skews perceptions of sex, reducing it to a transactional or escapist act rather than a meaningful connection. Listeners will learn to identify how their approach to sex might be hindering emotional intimacy, fostering unrealistic expectations, or even contributing to the breakdown of their relationships.

Together, we’ll redefine what love truly is—a bond built on trust, vulnerability, and genuine care. By addressing the myths and misconceptions about sex and love, I’ll guide you toward healthier ways to connect with yourself and your partner. This episode is your first step toward breaking the chains of addiction and building relationships rooted in respect, understanding, and authenticity.

Sex is not love—but understanding the difference will help you find the love you deserve.

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In this raw and eye-opening episode, we confront the harsh realities of how sexual addiction wreaks havoc on relationships. This isn’t about sugarcoating or sidestepping the truth. It’s a call for men to wake up and face the behaviors that damage their partners, families, and themselves.

We’ll unpack:

• The unhealthy patterns and behaviors that often go unnoticed or unacknowledged.
• The ways sexual addiction masks itself as love, care, or investment in relationships.
• Practical steps to identify and begin addressing these destructive habits.

This episode is both a challenge and an invitation -- to take an unflinching look at the truth, take responsibility, and start making changes that lead to real connection and growth. If you’re ready to stop hiding and start healing, this is the episode for you.

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Embarking on the road to recovery from sex, porn, and masturbation addictions can feel overwhelming, especially when false starts threaten progress. In this episode, we dive deep into the common pitfalls that derail men at the beginning of their recovery journey. We'll explore numerous traps that oftentimes keep men from meeting their goals, while sharing practical tools to build a foundation for lasting change.

Tune in to learn how to take the first steps with confidence and avoid the false starts that hinder true transformation.

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In this episode, we dive into the concept of the "default mode" of sexual addiction—those automatic patterns and behaviors that take over during idle moments, emotional vulnerability, or specific triggers. We discuss how to identify these habitual cycles by recognizing the times, places, and emotional states that tend to activate addictive behaviors. Whether you’re at the beginning of your journey or looking for tools to strengthen your resolve, this episode offers actionable insights to help you break the cycle of sexual addiction and to reclaim your power.

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In this episode of Chainbreaker, we explore how acknowledging and prioritizing your mental and emotional needs can be a game-changer in learning to work through sex, porn, and masturbation addictions. Addiction often thrives in emptiness, so we focus on identifying unmet emotional needs, combating mental exhaustion, and building routines that nourish your well-being. Learn practical strategies to fill your “tank” in healthy ways, break free from destructive cycles, and create a life of purpose, clarity, and true satisfaction. Managing your emotional and mental health is not just self-care. It is a critical step toward lasting freedom.

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In this episode of Chainbreaker, titled "Doing the Work," we dive deep into the vital importance of consistent, intentional action in breaking free from sexual addiction. True recovery isn’t something that happens by accident or simply because you’ve had a few good days. Men need to understand that genuine change demands focus and dedication. We’ll talk about why simply ignoring your addiction or hoping it will fade isn’t enough and how putting in the work every day is key to reclaiming your life. This episode is a powerful reminder that, no matter the struggle, actively engaging in your recovery journey is the only way to break the chains of addiction for good.

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In this episode of Chainbreaker, we dive deep into the experience of Post-Orgasm Depression, a state many men find themselves in after engaging in sexual activities. Often, men are filled with overwhelming feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and remorse after the act, which leads them to cycle further into their addiction. I discuss how these moments, while uncomfortable, are critical to the healing process. Instead of running from these emotions, men must learn to sit with them, process them, and understand the root causes of their distress. These post-orgasm moments hold the secrets to their addiction, offering valuable insights into unresolved emotional needs and unhealthy patterns. By respecting and exploring these feelings rather than avoiding them, men can begin to unlock the path to healing, growth, and true recovery. Tune in to learn how to embrace these pivotal moments on the journey toward breaking the chains of addiction.
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In this episode, I guide men through the critical process of identifying their sexual addiction triggers. We'll explore how to recognize the moments that lead to unhealthy behaviors and dig deeper into what you're truly seeking in those situations. It's not just about recognizing the triggers, but understanding the emotional or psychological need behind them. I offer strategies to help you break free from destructive patterns by focusing on getting what you genuinely need, rather than falling into the trap of feeding your addiction. This episode is a key step in reclaiming control and moving toward lasting recovery.

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In this episode, I dive into the controversial topic of the male sex drive and how it has been demonized in today's society. I explore why the natural desires of men are often misunderstood or misrepresented and how this impacts their relationships, especially in the context of sex, porn, and masturbation addiction recovery. I also offer practical advice on how men can improve intimacy with their female partners by fostering better communication and understanding. I talk to men about breaking down the stigma surrounding the male sex drive and discuss healthier approaches to managing it within a recovery framework.

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In this episode of the Chainbreaker podcast, titled "Starting the Work for Sexual Addiction Recovery," we dive into the crucial first steps needed to begin your journey toward breaking free from sex, porn, and masturbation addiction. Recovery isn't just about wanting to change. Rather it is about committing to the process and putting in the hard work required to overcome deeply rooted behaviors. In this episode, I’ll outline the practical actions you can take to set the foundation for real change, including building self-awareness, identifying triggers, and creating a solid plan for daily recovery.

You’ll also learn why starting the work is often the hardest part, and how to shift your mindset from one of avoidance to one of active engagement in your healing process. Whether you’re just beginning your recovery journey or struggling to get started, this episode will guide you toward making meaningful progress. Tune in, take action, and start the work that will lead to lasting freedom.

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