Anne: [00:00:00] Hi, I am Anne, and I'm Helen. And welcome to Metaphysical Street Smarts. What is Metaphysical Street Smarts? Helen 

Helen: Physical is everything you can see with your human eye. You can see, touch, feel, taste as a human. Metaphysical. Is that what you cannot see? Wifi microwave energy. When you feel somebody staring at you, you can't really feel eyesight.

Helen: So metaphysical is that what you can't perceive with the human eye? Street smarts means let's take the woowoo, the energetic, the airy fairy, and add it to logic so that you can have a better experience of yourself. In this one, 

Anne: as always, we invite you to take what blesses you and leave the rest. We're so glad you're here.

Anne: Let's jump in. 

Helen: Okay, here we go. Alright, I'm ready for 

Anne: number 39, baby at the end. Awesome. [00:01:00] Okay. Well, yeah, episode 39 now. Oh, well the cosmic nudge for this week was just, uh. I was just gonna ask you, can we talk about the concept of not talking about the things we don't want? Yeah, that's a good one that came up at the retreat and I think that, uh, it's a great reminder if people have already heard this and if they haven't, get ready to get your mind blown, you know?

Anne: Okie dokie. 

Helen: Yep. Did you wanna do hello or anything, 

Anne: please? Oh, did we not? No. Oh, well, yeah, let's do that. Hi Helen. How are you doing?

Helen: Sometimes very spacey, sometimes really good, sometimes baffled. It's, it's a pretty fun experience to be me right now. Oh, 

Anne: well, I'm sorry that you're spacey. I obviously, I don't know what that's like. [00:02:00] 

Helen: The nice part is, is we don't suffer about being that way. We could just laugh, 

Anne: right? Yep. I love it. Cool.

Anne: Well, uh. As I previously said, our cosmic nudge this week is, um, just can we talk about the concept of not talking about the things we don't want? Yes. That's, 

Helen: you know, that's, uh, it, it can be so tricky, especially in the beginning because the mind, the egoic part of the mind that's about survival, which, you know, we're not really living in that, that survival energy right now.

Helen: Uh, it likes drama. It likes to be afraid. Very afraid. It's mesmerized by drama, and yet if you're always looking at problems, you're always gonna have more problems. So whatever you're focused on is what you bring awareness to. It all exists, all of it exists. Problems and solutions exist at the same time.

Helen: Which one are you gonna spend more time with? So if you [00:03:00] think of analogies that help the mind understand this, if you're. With a job that you know has to upgrade technology. I mean, that happens to all jobs today and sometimes it cannot be a pleasant experience and it can even cost money. Do you wanna be at a job where the owner or the boss or the coworkers are all complaining about what went wrong two years ago with the upgrade over and over and over?

Helen: Or do you just want people who say, okay, this time it's gonna make this and this faster, let's dive in and learn it. We all know we prefer not to hear the same complaint 400 times. You know, it, it doesn't make us feel good. And I don't know about you, but I remember all those decades ago when I was pregnant, people would wanna tell you about horror birth stories.

Helen: Mm-hmm. Like what is that? Like? You know, you're already pregnant, you know it's coming. You don't need any horror stories. Yeah. So it's a funny thing about the human, um, ego. [00:04:00] Likes the drama. It's very entertaining. And so each time you talk about what you don't want, your mind hears you and gives you more of what you don't want.

Helen: Now, I'm not. Suggesting you never speak about reality as it is, and yet I am encouraging you to think about, um, in the rules. I like. Is it necessary to talk about it? Is it true and is it kind? Well, if you know that every time you speak a complaint, every time you speak, lack, every time you speak of. Things that have disappointed you, hurt you, betrayed you, let you down, frustrated you, your mind hears, you speak it and usually you're speaking it.

Helen: It's, it's strong enough just if you're speaking it to yourself, and yet if you get others engaged in hearing it and witnessing it, now everybody's believing you're victimized. That's a hard energy to pop out of. [00:05:00] So. If it's not what you want and it's not necessary, just quit talking about it. Uh, another version of this teaching is from Louise Hay.

Helen: She went on some trip to an indigenous tribe, and what they did is. When somebody had a real hardship, like somebody had died or something bad had happened, the, the whole village would gather and the person would get in the middle of the circle and they would tell their sad, painful story three times and that was it.

Helen: And then after that, if they told it again, people would ignore them or shun, shun them. And so Louise came back and she was teaching only Tell your sad story three times. Well, if you're only ever gonna say it three times, you better be real picky who you say it to. Maybe a, maybe a psychologist, maybe a coach, maybe a very close friend that wouldn't see you that way.[00:06:00] 

Helen: Really be thoughtful about, um, who you're telling. And then what I would add to that is ask why you're speaking it. You know, sometimes people will wanna tell me about all their weaknesses and all, and I'm like, what is it you want me to hear about you? What is it you want me to perceive? And, and, uh, think about you.

Helen: Why are you telling me this? So most of us, until we get on this journey, we just repeat the things we've repeated the most and we're not even aware of why we're doing it. And so. You know, the reminder is whatever you focus on is what you're gonna be more and more aware of. If you're always focused on problems, they're gonna seem bigger and harder and more challenging.

Helen: If, on the other hand, you're always focused on solutions, you're gonna get super fast at solutions. 

Anne: I think it's the idea that, I mean, unless it's [00:07:00] a, an extreme circumstance, mm. None of these, like situations that I am in, I'll use myself, are absolutes. There's nothing is totally, absolutely bad. Nothing is no relationship that I have only, I only brings me hardship.

Anne: There's, there might be hardship in there, uh, but there's also laughter, there's fun, there's connection, there's in something, in a relationship that's not. What I would consider abusive. I would rather focus on the things that I do get from them and that I get to give and magnifying those and letting that be the story of that relationship.

Anne: I dunno. And then 

Helen: what happens is, is you speak of what you enjoy, what you like, what you appreciate, what you want more of, what you, um, are [00:08:00] intending to create in the future. Your mind hears you. Vibrationally, you become a match for more of that. And if you like, if think of somebody who's really angry, they will notice every opportunity to be angry.

Helen: And so more and more anger is evident around them. They'll watch TV shows with anger. News. Neighbors will express anger or strangers, they'll see it everywhere because they're tuned into it. We experience everything in life through our mind. Our mind has limitations and it is about evolving the mind and guiding the mind and using the mind as a tool to have more of what you want.

Helen: So the mind is how we perceive and experience life. 'cause think about it, if you're brain dead, you're done experiencing life. So the mind only is stable in this dimension we're in through repetition. So if you understand that, you know, if, if we. [00:09:00] Just experienced everything we thought. Can you imagine what a nightmare that would be?

Helen: How many things can you think in an hour? Total 

Anne: nightmare. Total nightmare. 

Helen: And yet the things that we repeat, repeat, repeat. That's really what we expect to see, what we expect to feel. That's really what's normalized to us. So it tends to be a bigger chunk of our experience. And then of course, there are new unexpected things that come in because that's how you evolve and grow.

Helen: Right. We don't always expect repairs or problems, and they do show up because that's the natural nature of being on a, on this planet and in human form. And yet the bulk of your experiences match what you talk about most because you're teaching the mind what to perceive and pay attention to. It's kinda like that analogy, if you're gonna buy, you know, I don't know if you're gonna buy a Mini Cooper, all of a sudden you'll see mini Coopers everywhere when you didn't before.

Helen: Um, and the tricky [00:10:00] part I think, is evolving to the next level of what you want by training the mind to focus on all the things that would make you a good vibrational match for that next level of you. Easy peasy. Got this. Well, no. Well, the easiest things are really challenging to do, and I have a theory on that.

Anne: Mm-hmm. 

Helen: It's always a lot of work. Repetition, consistency, focus, determination, perseverance. Even though the teaching's easy, because we are such complex beings, we have to get all levels of our mind unconscious, subconscious, conscious, super conscious, all levels of our emotional body, which most of us have emotional trauma, still running some of the show.

Helen: And then we have to catch the physical up with it, and we have to shift all our energy and then we have to allow that, the matrix around us, the universe, the people, the. Those [00:11:00] could all shift and move as they need to also. And then we're in the new state. Even though it was a simple teaching of just speak what you want and stop speaking what you do not want.

Helen: Simple but not easy is my opinion. 

Anne: Okay. Practice, practice, practice. That's it. Yeah. All we can do. Um, are we ready for our listener question this week? 

Helen: Absolutely. 

Anne: Okay. Well, we've got Julia here. Julia's question is. Is there a spiritual reason why the same type of challenge keeps showing up in my life, even after I've done the work around it?

Helen: Ah, well that ties in beautifully, doesn't it? Thank you, Julia. Uh, so yes, there is the spiritual reason is that. Let me see. I'm gonna back up for a minute and give you what we know in Psychology today for children. If a child loses a parent at a young age, they have to deal with grief at that age [00:12:00] of consciousness, and then when they become a teenager, they have to revisit that grief from a teenager consciousness and when they become a young adult.

Helen: Grief is a whole different experience as a young adult, and if they later become a parent, their grief for their missing parent is a whole different consciousness experience. So for those of us on earth who are spiritually evolving on purpose with purpose, we will revisit the same. Themes. You know, the soul seems to come in with a certain amount of themes.

Helen: Some have a few more, but most of us have a few dominant themes, and we will revisit it at different levels of consciousness to really evolve out of it. And so as you grow spiritually, what would, in my definition, that would mean? You're paying attention to what you think you're creating choice for, goodness [00:13:00] for yourself.

Helen: You're evolving in self-love, uh, self discernment, the stamina and skill of choosing how you think, feel, speak, and show up. Uh. This. These are all signs to me of spiritual commitment and growth. While at each level of that version of you, the old energy pattern comes in to be tweaked even more. So, you know, if you think of, I don't know if this is gonna be a good analogy, but we'll give it a go.

Helen: If you think of. You buy a house, you love the house. The house is amazing. Brand new house. It's gorgeous. Well, 20 years later, what happens? Ugh, it's so outdated. Now you gotta redo it. The bones are there, but you want new something, right? It's a little bit like that, but not so surface and physical. It's more that the evolution of consciousness.

Helen: We know that fear-based [00:14:00] emotions are universal. They're across the board, every culture, every income bracket. And how do we evolve those fear-based emotional patterns, thought patterns into more light and love, even in physicality on earth? Well, we have to keep working at it. They've existed a really long time.

Helen: So where I am today when I work on a trigger. I don't feel that bad, and it's not, doesn't take me very long now to get to the choosing of love and evolving that energy, transforming that energy into light. When I started, oh my gosh, let's just suffer for decades. Right? So could you imagine that my contribution of working with human Trigger at a high fast level is as valid and, and contributes as much to consciousness as a whole?

Helen: As does the person struggling through the beginning of that journey. Right? When [00:15:00] we, when we go to, you know, always go to earth analogies, the person who's been mountain climbing for a long time, they have wisdom from experience that the newbie doesn't have. Or the mid experienced person doesn't have. Yeah, and all are valid.

Helen: We need the newbies, we need the mid experienced, and we need the wise ones. All of it contributes to the whole. So in your personal journey, you are 24 7 contributing to the evolution of consciousness. And so at every skill set you have, you're contributing maybe in a little different way, and yet it's all contributing.

Helen: So each time you revisit a spiritual pattern that your soul agreed to evolve while in form you're contributing to the changing of that pattern, that evolution of that pattern in different frequency ways because of your [00:16:00] consciousness level. 

Anne: It's such a big. A big concept, I think, uh, it seems simple and then when I, when you start talking about it, I'm like, do I really understand anything at all in the whole wide world?

Anne: I dunno. 

Helen: The more I learn the lesson seriously, you realize I know seriously. So, and. Let me see if this helps. So I love this. I can't remember who told me this. A student gave it to me. It was fascinating. So picture a mountain and you have the west side of the mountain. You have the, the, you have the north side, the east side, the south side, right?

Helen: So if you're at the bottom of the mountain to go all the way around, the rat mountain is really hard work and long and takes forever. And then you start going up the mountain and then you go higher and higher and you get around the mountain quicker. If you think of the mountain, you know, like in a. Peak.

Helen: Well, every time you're on the west side, you might revisit that pattern and then there'll be a different pattern on the north side and a different pattern on the the east side and a different pattern on the south side. [00:17:00] If you're spiritually evolving, if you're growing. In experience and skillset, you're going up the mountain.

Helen: And so when you revisit the west side and say that side's betrayal it, it's never as long and as tedious when you're at the bottom. That was much bigger. Yeah. And longer and harder. And you're just keep going up until you're contributing where you can just respond to the human patterns that have plagued mankind and consciousness and.

Helen: Been such a challenge and a struggle with easy love and acceptance and light, which is as important and not better than, or worse than when you were down at the bottom and trudging through it. It's all a value. 

Anne: Yeah. Okay. I get that's, that's helpful. Yeah. Yeah. It really is all of value each level that we're processing these things at and contributing toward.

Anne: It kind of makes it feel a little [00:18:00] bit like an honor almost. I mean, having to or choosing to break a pattern or do something different is hard work. And until 

Helen: it's not. 

Anne: Until it's not. It's kind of like, I don't know. Yesterday I, Claire and I raced down the street, and it's been a while since I've sprinted and it's like the, the getting started takes effort.

Anne: But then once you're going, it's like it gets a lot easier. 

Helen: And, and so think of this, Anne, I'll use you 'cause you've been so, you've been so lovingly open and generous in sharing. So you know, you made up your mind to parent your children. In in the mission statement of fun and safe. And that was so hard in the beginning, like, what is that?

Helen: How do I do that? Who's doing that? How, what worked? What doesn't work? It seems like it's hard. And now do you [00:19:00] notice it's easier and easier to keep aligning to that? Yeah. And it gets more and more fun, right? You're having fun too. Not just them. So it's hard until it isn't. And yes, I may. You know, I may not really get triggered much anymore, and yet now I can see other people's triggers and bless that and lie to them, give support to them in it.

Helen: And that's also a contribution without me having to be in it the way I was when I first began. 

Anne: Yeah. Not having to get stuck in the trenches, the trying to run underwater, 

Helen: you know, think of examples like. Say a woman went through a really horrible health thing or uh, domestic abuse, and then she evolves and grows and writes a book, and then opens an organization that helps women who had that health issue or domestic abuse, whichever storyline, and that's [00:20:00] contributing.

Helen: Yet it's in the same pattern as repeating, but now she's doing. Supportive work for the cleanup for other people's patterns in it. But the pattern exists without us, like, it's not really as personal as we make it. 

Anne: Mm-hmm. 

Helen: Just our soul decided, oh, I'll go work on this. And we wanna remember it's not personal.

Helen: And look at it as, I love the word you said, it kind of is an honor and a privilege. Oh, I get to dismantle the belief in this energy and or I get to transform this energy into more love and light into a choice. Yeah. And so that might be helpful for you to understand that spiritual pattern. So the question I would have would be, what do you know about the spiritual pattern you're evolving?

Helen: Um, because it is spiritual, even fear-based is spiritual, because without fear you couldn't, no courage without cruelty, you couldn't, no kindness. Without impatience, you couldn't choose patience without fear, you couldn't. [00:21:00] Evolve to choose love. So it's all a spiritual invitation if you want it to be. So if you could define the challenge you're going through, could you look at it as what are the spiritual gifts from this?

Helen: And what are the spiritual gifts or even the human gifts of this challenge, this life challenge at different levels of your consciousness? And that might shift your perspective in a way that it doesn't have to be so sticky for you anymore. 

Anne: Some of this work, we do get to feel really proud. I don't know, just I, yeah, there are some things that I'm working through that I'm like, I'm really proud that I get to do this differently, that I get to contribute in this way.

Anne: So 

Helen: I also like to think of it as, um, so I've had a lot of physical pain in my lifetime. Um, chronic pain twice and. Yeah, that's not fun. That's hard. And when it revisited, that was really hard. And [00:22:00] yet, because of my capacity to experience physical limitation and pain, it set me on this journey of learning about the body and health and movement.

Helen: And so in my sixties, I'm aging so differently than I would've without that big focus. And so Benjamin Buttons, oh yeah, gimme some of that energy. Right? And so whatever you have suffered through whatever challenge has, has been experienced as suffering. There's also the opposite of it. That will be one of your biggest strengths if you so desire it to be in focus on that.

Helen: So again, I would, you know, ask the question, what's the pattern and what would the opposite be? And how blessed are you to have that invitation and to be a co-creator in the quality of your experience in that gift. 

Anne: I feel like the, oh, yes, Benjamin Buttons needs to be on a t-shirt.[00:23:00] 

Anne: Well, 

Helen: thank you for another glorious week, Helen. Fabulous. Uh, pretty exciting. This was number 39. 39, so the challenge is out there. Please send us questions, uh, for the next, the next few. 

Anne: Yeah. Yeah. We got 12 more episodes in this season. 

Helen: Please be a part of it by sending us questions and tuning in with us.

Helen: We appreciate this exchange of information and curiosity and possible 

Anne: Thank you for being part of it. And thank you again, Helen. Always loved being here with you. I do too with you. So much fun. 

Helen: All right. Until next week. See you next week. Bye. Ciao. 

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Anne: Thanks for being here. Until next time, stay grounded.