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121 When a conflict ends but it's on replay in your mind

February 01, 2026 • Dr. Deborah Sword, with co-host Tyson Bankert • Season 5 • Episode 121

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Perhaps a bad relationship, (or even a good relationship) ends, but it leaves questions and emotions stuck in your mind. Or the fight is over, the other person is gone, and you still have the fight going on. Only now you supply the dialogue for both parts. We discuss the conflict competencies for dealing with conflict in which you are the sole active participant.

Show notes:
Episode 15; Has conflict really ended your relationship?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDUc2mM1vtw
Dr. Daniel Kahneman, peak end bias https://www.nobelprize.org/prizes/economic-sciences/2002/kahneman/facts/
https://thedecisionlab.com/thinkers/economics/daniel-kahneman

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