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How to turn your fear into an ally in conflict 132

April 19, 2026 • Dr. Deborah Sword, with co-host Tyson Bankert • Season 6 • Episode 132

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Actors use their fears and high emotions to inspire their performances. You can too.
Your fears are an energy source and your thoughts are information about the situation. Your fears tell you what you anticipate might happen, and your thoughts direct your action.
If you want use your thoughts and fears competently in conflicts, I show you the steps for turning your fears into allies rather than adversaries. You improve the quality of your relationships when you acknowledge your fears, act the way you want to show up, and take ownership of your mindset.

Show notes:
Episode 47: Train your brain for conflict competence https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UUaTuyS6v4c&t=2s

Research about your thoughts and beliefs changing your mindset:
Dr. Alia Crum: https://stanfordmag.org/contents/better-believe-it
Dr. Geoffry Hinton: https://alumni.utoronto.ca/news/dr-geoffrey-hinton-how-ai-can-support-childrens-learning

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