Doula Talk: Postpartum, Babies and the Battle for Sleep
61 - The Missing Village: Why Parenthood Feels Harder Than It Should
Jul 14, 2026
Season 2
Episode 61
Doula Deb
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Becoming a parent isn’t supposed to be a solo journey, but for many families today, that’s exactly what it feels like.
In this episode, I’m talking about the “missing village” and why so many new parents feel overwhelmed, isolated, and like they’re somehow failing when, in reality, they’re simply trying to do one of life’s biggest jobs without the support humans were designed to have.
We’ll explore why postpartum can feel so much harder than expected, how social media and information overload often add to the stress, and why asking for help is one of the strongest things you can do, not a sign of failure.
I also share real stories from recent client consultations, including one family who went from multiple false starts and frequent night wakings to a dramatically better night with just a few realistic adjustments. It’s a reminder that progress doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Why modern parents are missing the village they were meant to have
- The hidden mental load of postpartum
- Why information overload often increases anxiety instead of confidence
- The difference between seeking perfection and making progress
- How compassionate, individualized support can help you feel confident again
- Practical ways to start building your own village
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why does this feel so much harder than I thought it would?” this episode is for you.
Resources Mentioned
🤍 Learn more about my postpartum, sleep, and first-year support: https://www.douladeb.com
🤍 Book a free discovery call: https://www.douladeb.com/contact
🤍 Join my free monthly Baby Lounge for expecting parents and families with babies: https://www.douladeb.com/events
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The content in this podcast is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider for personalized advice and information.