Self Love & Saying YES To Yourself

In this episode, Laura discusses the transformative power of saying yes to yourself, emphasizing the importance of self-love, personal growth, and prioritizing your own needs and desires.

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Laura Livermore (00:01.294)
And welcome back to another episode of the Mind Body Manifest Podcast. I'm your host Laura. And this week, I want to talk to you about a concept that has completely changed my life. And that is saying yes to yourself. Saying yes to yourself means prioritizing your self-care, your wants, your needs. It's honoring and upholding your own boundaries.

It's saying no to the obligations and the things you don't want to do or that don't light you up. It's trusting yourself fully. It's investing in your personal growth, your health, your wellbeing. It's being honest with yourself about what you truly desire and going after those desires despite what anybody else thinks and despite your own fears.

So saying yes to yourself really is the ultimate form of self-love. It's saying, I matter. My wants and needs matter. My happiness, my wellbeing matters. It's saying, I love myself so much that I'm going to stay true to myself no matter what. And I don't know if you can relate to this, but as a recovering people pleaser,

I realized that people pleasing is really just the opposite of self-love. It's the result of low self-worth. And when you're people pleasing, you put others' wants, needs, their priorities above your own because deep down, you're afraid that if you say no or you go into opposition to what they think, that they won't love you or accept you or they'll abandon you or they'll judge you.

And all of that stems from low self-worth. On a subconscious level, it's like you're saying, I'm not enough as I am, so I must bend my boundaries, my values, or change my opinion to gain their love, their acceptance, or their approval. Ooh, I hope that hit home for you because when I realized this, I was like, mind blown.

Laura Livermore (02:26.572)
And it sparked a huge change within me. And the thing is, is that people pleasing often backfires because it's hard to respect someone that doesn't respect themselves. When you uphold your boundaries, your values, you stay true to yourself. People respect you more. They treat you better. When you stand up for yourself.

or you voice your true opinion or your true desires. If the other person wants to leave, then that just creates space for someone better, more aligned for you in a relationship or a friendship or whatever it is to come in. So why not stay true to yourself? Saying no to the things that are not a full body like, fuck yes.

is really you honoring yourself and staying true to yourself no matter what. But in order to do that, you have to know yourself, right? You have to give yourself permission to explore. Get curious with yourself. Get curious about what you enjoy, what lights you up, what you want to learn more about, what makes you feel good, and go do those things.

prioritize the things and the moments that bring you joy and inner peace. And that could be so many different things. It's going to vary from person to person, but maybe it's waking up just five minutes earlier to meditate and to get some inner peace. Maybe that's going on a walk or signing up for a class that you're interested or

investing in some kind of education or a program or a course. Maybe it's taking a trip somewhere that you've always wanted to go. Like that is you saying yes to yourself. And I used to be the person that was always like, I don't have time. I don't have the money. I don't have, I have lots, I had lots of excuses. But once I started saying yes,

Laura Livermore (04:46.242)
to myself and prioritizing my wants and my needs and my desires, doing the things that made me feel good and lit me up, everything in my life changed. I never once have ever regretted investing in myself or taking a trip somewhere or just prioritizing my wellbeing has always made me feel good or I've learned something from the situation.

And look, I get it. Sometimes we feel, we feel guilty about putting ourselves first, especially moms, like moms, I'm talking to you. And I get it. I'm a mom now. Sometimes we have that mom guilt where we just, we naturally want to take care of everyone else. We want to put the people that we love first. We want to give, give, give, be there for the people that we love. But

Prioritizing yourself isn't a selfish act. It's actually an act of love.

It's loving yourself. And when you love yourself, you're able to give so much more love to others. It's, it's just like the saying, you know, you can't pour from an empty cup. know that's cliche, but it's so true. When you feel good, your energy radiates to everyone else around you. And that makes them feel good too. People want to be around you.

So prioritizing your energy, your mindset, your vibration, your mental, physical, emotional wellbeing is the least selfish thing you could do. You should always make that your number one priority because it doesn't just affect you, it affects your coworkers, your family, your friends, everyone you come into contact with feels your energy and your vibration.

Laura Livermore (06:55.724)
So saying yes to yourself can look like a lot of different things. Maybe it's investing in yourself. So maybe it's education to learn a new skill, a coaching program, or a retreat for personal growth. Maybe it's investing in your well, like your physical wellbeing, something to boost your confidence. it could be a new workout membership or getting your hair done or your nails done or

a spa treatment. could be saying yes to yourself could be finally admitting that you need more help and hiring someone to help you, whether that's a team member or a nanny or an assistant, a contractor, whatever it is. Saying, yes, I need help gives you more time.

Saying yes to yourself could be finally deciding to start that project that you've been putting off or going after the big dream that you have, but you've been scared to start it. I have said yes to myself so many times now that my life is completely different than it was 10 years ago. And I really started to notice this when I moved back to Denver because the last time I lived here,

was a decade ago, 2015, I was working in a corporate job, dating someone else. I hadn't discovered or fully embraced meditation or yoga or manifestation yet. I hadn't really done any personal development work. I was stressed out, partying a lot. And I just felt like a completely different version of myself than who I am now. And I am a completely different person because I've started

investing in myself, investing in my personal growth, my mental health. I just started saying yes to myself. I got to know myself on a much deeper level instead of just doing the things I thought I should do or what my friends want or what my parents think I'm good at. I just started trusting myself when I signed up for yoga teacher training and the six other certifications that I have.

Laura Livermore (09:19.596)
That was me saying yes to what my soul was craving and saying yes to the big vision for transforming other people's lives that I had. When I moved across the country from Florida to San Diego, to Denver, to LA, back to Florida, and then back to Denver over the course of like 15 years of my adult life, I was trusting myself and saying yes.

to what my heart and my soul wanted. Like moving across the country isn't always easy. You make new friends, you're in a new environment. But I trusted myself and it was the best decision I've ever made to make those leaps. When I stayed in to work on my business instead of meeting friends out for drinks, I was prioritizing my future and saying yes to myself. When I...

got asked to speak at events or on other podcasts, I said yes, even when I was nervous and scared. Doing anything for the first time can be scary, but doing it is you saying yes to yourself. Yes, I can do this. Yes, I can conquer this, learn this. I'm okay with being a beginner because you have to start somewhere and you'll never master anything.

or your goals or become the person you're meant to be if you just stay on the sidelines and do the things you've always done. Saying yes to yourself requires you to be brave, to face challenges, to start something new, but that is how you grow and evolve and transform on such a deep inner level. That is how you become the happiest, healthiest, most

vibrant version of yourself by going all in on you. Everything in your reality is a reflection of who you are being. So why would you not become the best version of yourself? When you are the best version of yourself, the happiest, the healthiest, the most vibrant, you become magnetic.

Laura Livermore (11:37.592)
to more amazing experiences and people that match your vibration, life just keeps getting better and better. So why not start saying yes? Why not see where that takes you? Especially if you have been the person that's like, no, I can't, no, I have X, Y, excuses. And maybe you've convinced yourself that those excuses are truly valid, but just try it out.

The biggest thing that people regret at the end of their life is not saying yes to themselves more, not experiencing the things they deeply wanted because of whatever excuses they had. And you don't want to regret, you don't want to get to the end of your life and regret or resent yourself or any of that.

So this is your invitation to deepen your self-love, to start prioritizing your wants, your needs, your soul desires, to just jump in headfirst into it. Don't overthink it. Don't give into your excuses. Just do it. Do it scared. Do it messy. Have fun with it. Learn from your experiences because you will never regret investing in yourself.

prioritizing yourself or going after what lights up your soul. You might learn lessons along the way, but honestly, that's the point. If you are so used to putting others needs before your own or saying no to things, I want you to just start small, choose one new habit or one way

You can say yes to yourself and start there. You can build upon it. And micro moves will begin to compound. When I first started meditating every morning, sometimes it was just like five minutes to prioritize my mental health and my stress levels. Over time, I felt completely different. I started thinking differently and frankly, I was different. I had more inner peace.

Laura Livermore (13:55.32)
more patience, more presence, more awareness. So what is that for you? What is that for you? Just think about how much better your life can and will get when you start loving yourself more by saying yes to yourself. Okay. That is it for today. I truly hope that this

This episode gave you an aha moment. I hope that it inspired you to start trusting yourself and saying yes to yourself and going after your big dreams, goals, desires, starting something new. I hope it inspired you to start something fresh. And that's it for today. I will see you in next week's episode.