Is something in my life holding love back?

You’re doing the work. You’re open. And still… no soulmate.

This episode explores a question that lingers beneath the surface for high-achieving women who know they’re meant for more—but can’t quite name what’s off.

If you’ve ever thought, “Is it me?” or “What else do I need to fix?”—this one's for you.

Highlights

• A mindset shift that removes the pressure to “fix” yourself
• A deeper way to think about readiness for love
• The #1 thought pattern that subtly blocks soulmate alignment

 Music by 🎼Hoa Minh Vau Thien Nhien

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You know that deep-down feeling that love is meant for you? That it’s supposed to be easier than this? You’re right.

Love isn’t something you chase. It’s something you attract when you shift into the energy that calls it in.

The problem isn’t you—it’s the way you’ve been taught to approach love. I help women break the cycle of overthinking and searching so they can finally start receiving the relationship they know is out there.

That’s exactly what we do in 1:1 coaching. We clear the hidden blocks keeping love just out of reach, so it stops feeling like a struggle—and starts feeling inevitable.

If that hit home, let’s talk. Book a free discovery call at https://calendly.com/kayvandunk/30min, and let’s get started on the path to the love you deserve.

Transcript

The Struggle with Perfection
 If you've been single for a while, you’ve probably found yourself wondering, What else can I do to find love more quickly? What’s going on with my dating situation? Why haven’t I met my soulmate yet?

You might hear yourself saying things like: Maybe I need to lose weight, get a better job, or move to a new city. Or, There’s something about me I need to fix before I can start dating or be ready for love.

The Truth About External Changes
 It often feels like we need to reach some perfect place in life before love shows up, right? But the truth is, that’s not what’s keeping love from you, and it’s definitely not the thing that will bring love to you either.

You are amazing just as you are. Love will come when you’re aligned with who you truly are, not when everything is "perfect." So, instead of waiting for external circumstances to change, get to a place where you know your soulmate is ready to meet you, even if you have a few extra pounds to lose or aren’t where you’d like to be in your career.

Your soulmate might love you just as you are, or they might even be willing to go through the journey with you. But no matter what, your exterior isn’t what's keeping love away. It's your internal alignment that matters.

Reframing the Question
 Let’s reframe this thought: rather than believing you need to change something external about yourself before love can find you, think about how your life is already aligned with your soulmate. Your soul sees you for who you are on the inside—not your weight, job, or location. That’s what will attract your soulmate.

So, do you need to change something in your life before love can come in? If it's something external, the answer is no. However, if there’s deep trauma or challenges preventing you from being open to a committed relationship, those are worth working on. But even with those challenges, your soulmate can still find you. Sometimes, they’re the one who helps you through it.

The Power of Internal Alignment
 The work you’re doing on yourself is bringing you closer to love. So, instead of asking, Do I need to change something in my life before I can let love in? let’s reframe it: How is my life already aligned to my soulmate?

Thinking like this helps you realize that you’re already in the right place to attract love. The key is to approach life with the mindset of moving forward towards meeting your soulmate in ways that truly matter. Your current circumstances and challenges don’t need fixing. They are the foundation for the love you’ll build with your soulmate.

Embracing the Present Moment
 Love isn’t about becoming perfect first. It’s about being open to the present moment and the lessons life is teaching you. The things you think you need to fix aren’t what your soulmate is going to see. They’ll see you—wonderful just as you are.

Gratitude and Reflection
 As we wrap up, I’d like to ask you: What are you grateful for? Gratitude is the highest vibration, and just taking a moment to reflect on one thing you're thankful for can shift your energy.

I’m grateful to you for tuning in. And remember, when love is on the brain, asking better questions leads to better answers.