Divorce Curious
Divorce-Curious is where we say the quiet parts out loud as we get real about all the things that come with deciding if you should get a divorce. Divorce-Curious conversations cover everything from the "how did I end up here?" confusion to the "I'm a married single parent" anger to the "we never have sex" frustration and all the financial, legal and logistical pieces that come with considering a divorce. So how do you decide the next best step for you? Listen and find out.
Divorce Curious
Relationships, Repair & Nervous System SOS with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT
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If you've ever thought "is this really as good as it gets?," this episode is your answer. Lisa sits down with Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, whose no-judgment social media content has been stopping people mid-scroll and mid-spiral for years. Melissa brings the kind of real, digestible wisdom that makes you feel like she was literally sitting in your living room for your last argument. From the pursuer-withdrawer cycle to why healthy couples do fight, to what actually happens when you outgrow each other — this one hits.
In This Episode You'll Hear:
- "Love isn't luck, it's a skill" — what that actually means and why the apps are working against us
- The 3 must-haves / 3 can't-stands exercise — the simplest and most powerful filter for dating clarity
- The pursuer-withdrawer cycle explained — why you always seem to marry your opposite and what to do about it
- Your nervous system is running your relationship — what attachment style has to do with how you fight
- Why repair doesn't happen — and the exact reason couples wait too long to fix what's broken
- The slow emotional drift — why "nothing's really wrong" can still be a completely valid reason to be unhappy
- Outgrowing your partner — is it real, is it fair, and what do you actually do with it?
Key Takeaways & Actionable Insights
- Get clear before you get out there. Before downloading the app or gussying up for the grocery store, ask yourself: what do I actually want?
- Try the 3 must-haves / 3 can't-stands exercise. Boil your relationship non-negotiables down to just six things.
- Know your conflict style. Are you the one who needs to talk about it right now (pursuer) or the one who needs to step away until things cool down (withdrawer)?
- Regulate before you communicate. When you feel the script starting, your body will tell you first — heart racing, voice rising, shoulders up around your ears. That's your cue.
- Repair is not optional. Sweeping it under the rug doesn't end the fight — it just adds it to the pile you'll trip over next time. Healthy couples argue and repair. Both parts matter.
- Wanting more is not selfish. Wanting to feel desired, connected, and seen in your relationship is not a character flaw. It's a human need. Stop apologizing for having it.
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