#26 - 3 Powerful Ways to Instill God-Given Identity in Your Children

In a world full of confusion and noise, how can we help our children know who they truly are? In this heartfelt and practical episode of Kingdom Mothers, Brandy shares three intentional, spirit-led ways to instill identity in your children—grounded in biblical truth rather than the world's false narratives. You’ll learn how to speak life and scripture over your kids, how to give identity to their bodies with purpose, and how to declare destiny and divine authority over their lives. This episode is full of encouragement, real-life examples, and powerful declarations you can start using today to raise confident, kingdom-minded children.

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10:53:32 If our behavior stems from our identity, then how do we instill a divine identity and authority in our children?
10:53:40 This is a conversation I want to have to you today. This is a topic I'm going to dive into and I want to share with you three ways that we can begin instilling identity into our children that comes from their God-given identity instead of the world's version identity. So let's dive in.
10:54:17 I'm your host, Brandy, and I want to talk to you guys about instilling identity into our children.
10:54:24 And I believe that when we instill Their divine identity and authority is god given then that behavior comes. Think about it. If you're going into a place, right? And you're wanting somebody to see you or respect you as a certain way you're not going to walk in there
10:54:44 Hunched over, low confidence, low self-esteem. No, you're going to walk in with confidence. You're probably going to wear a suit. You're probably going to look dressed up or put together. You're going to present yourself in the way that you want to be treated and the way that you want to behave.
10:55:03 Start that over.
10:55:13 Welcome back to another episode of Kingdom Mothers. I'm your host brandy and i want to talk to you about instilling identity into our children. That is God ordained.
10:55:23 There's so much in the world right now that's trying to speak into your children that's trying to push into your children what they think that their identity should be and it's all false. And so it falls on us as parents to instill into our children who they are
10:55:39 As a child of God. And so there's three ways that we can begin instilling identity into our children that comes from their God-given identity instead of the world's vision version. And that's what I want to talk to you about today.
10:55:52 And just also know that as we instill identity and we keep speaking life into them and speaking truth.
10:55:58 Into them, then their behavior is going to follow. The world wants to preach behavior modification, control and correction. And when we truly do partner with God's design for parenting it's more about connection and relationship and grace and love than it is about control and fear and correction.
10:56:21 Yes, correction is part of it, right? As we're discipling our children, we do need to correct them and guide them on the path that God's laid before them.
10:56:30 But it's coming from a place of love versus a place of love You need to behave this way because society tells you to. You need to behave this way because it makes me look bad. You need to behave this way because
10:56:43 It's whatever, whatever the excuse is, right? It's disruptive. It's inappropriate Well, when you know your identity, that's how you behave and you can Think logically about this. I know that i am a child of God. And so Now that I know my identity, I'm so much more confident. I behave more confidently.
10:57:06 I speak more clearly. I know exactly what I want to do and where I want to go.
10:57:12 And there's just like my behavior and the decisions that I'm making stems from my identity. And so the more we can speak that life and truth into our children.
10:57:22 The more their behavior will follow. So that leads me to my point number one is just speak life And get them to speak life. So in Proverbs 18, 21, it says death and life are in the power of the tongue and those who love it will eat its fruit.
10:57:38 And for so long, I did not use my voice. And I even believed a lie that if I prayed out loud.
10:57:47 That. Demons would hear me or hear me And guess what? I want the demons to hear me. I want Satan to hear me.
10:57:55 Speak. I want him to hear the power in my tongue and the confidence in my tongue.
10:58:01 And I want him to flee. So training our children how to use their voice and use it with the truth in the life that we are trained in the trained is so powerful and important.
10:58:16 And so teaching your children how to pray out loud, teach them how to speak life over themselves is so important.
10:58:23 And I love in the story of Moses where he's like, who do you say that you are?
10:58:30 God says, I am that I am. And so whenever we say the words I am, we are speaking identity.
10:58:39 Over us and we can speak death or we can speak life So be very careful for yourselves, but also for your children what you're hearing them speak.
10:58:49 And so this is, I have a five-year-old son and we're working through this right now together. And so I want to share some examples with you of how I'm instilling this into my son and practicing this with him. So a lot of times he says, I can't.
10:59:02 I can't do this. I can't do this. And I hate when he says I can't.
10:59:06 And I say, no, you can. And I make him say, I can do hard things.
10:59:12 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me So one of the things I always… coached with my business clients was speaking affirmations and declarations that were actually founded in scripture. And so anytime that you can partner an I am statement or an affirmation or a declaration that is
10:59:32 Also backed by scripture, then you know that you're speaking truth so a lot of times I just have him say i can do hard things, but I also am trying to teach him scripture. And so partnering with that with like a bible verse like i philippians 4 13 verses i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me is also very powerful
10:59:54 Another example where he'll speak something like, I am scared. And I also hate when he says, I am scared Usually it's not things that he needs to be afraid of. And I do not want to cater to fear. And so I have him say, I have the power
11:00:12 I have him say I have not been given a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power, love, and sound mind.
11:00:19 And I need to pull up that scripture verse, but I didn't have that one written down because I used to just say it so much.
11:00:26 But I have him speak that be like, we don't have a spirit of fear.
11:00:30 So we have a spirit of power, love, and sound mind. So you can jump in the pool.
11:00:35 You can go up on that slide that seems high like You don't need to be afraid. Mommy's here.
11:00:43 You have a spirit of power, love, and sound mind. And so speaking that into him and encouraging power, love, and sound mind Versus encouraging. Yes, we can encourage him to be safe. Like, hey, let's Is that safe or is that going to potentially, you know, teaching him boundaries but
11:01:02 A lot of times, for example, he was afraid of going into a dark cave. We went on like a cave trail with a tour guide in Alabama.
11:01:13 And it was really dark and there was you know just the lights on the floor and the tour guide's flashlight.
11:01:19 For light and so for light And he, you know, as we got in, he started saying, I'm kind of scared. And I'm like, you don't need to be afraid.
11:01:26 Mommy dad are here and you have a spirit of power, love, and sound mind, not a spirit of fear.
11:01:30 And then we just go about our lives. And so that has really given him encouragement to just like not be afraid I'm not giving into the spirit of fear and so That is something that has been really cool to see him
11:01:47 They're like, oh, you know what? I don't need to be afraid in this situation.
11:01:51 So, and then the another example of this This one breaks my heart and we had the situation happened last night. So my son has been in speech therapy. Shout out to Amy, our speech therapist who's awesome.
11:02:06 Since he was two and he's also kind of developed a stutter when he it's like his brain is working so fast that he can't like get his thoughts out. And so he's like He was stomping his feet and we're like take
11:02:22 Take a breath, think about what you want to say and then say it.
11:02:25 And so now he just like does like four or five breaths And then he'll say what he needs to say.
11:02:32 And last night he just like couldn't get the words out and he just starts crying. It breaks my heart. I'm going to start crying myself.
11:02:39 And he says, I can't talk. And I was like, honey You are good at speaking.
11:02:46 And we prayed together and we just rebuked any spirits that were coming against him, any weapon being formed against his voice, against his tongue.
11:02:55 And again, I can speak life and say like you have the power of life and death on your tongue.
11:03:02 You are good at speaking. And so I have him say, I have the power of life and death on my tongue. I am good at speaking.
11:03:08 I speak easily. And so we're working on that one with him instilling these identities and these These thoughts in him now and replacing the negative self-talk that he's doing on his own and it just breaks my heart to see this
11:03:26 Of just like how our flesh is so default and it's just like fallen, right? Because that's what the enemy wants. He wants us to lean into the flesh versus the spirit and be overcome by our circumstances and be overwhelmed by
11:03:44 What's happening around us instead of looking and keeping our eyes on Jesus and speaking life and truth.
11:03:53 And so that's why it's so important for us as parents To be doing these activities ourselves, but then also teaching our children how to speak life.
11:04:01 And truth over themselves and speak that I am identity that God gave them Instead of the I am identity that the world is going to give them that the enemy is going to give them.
11:04:12 And this leads me to my second part, which is give identity to their body parts I don't need to go into this too much. We know like the world's been insane and insane Especially on the body part conversation.
11:04:29 So us as parents can be instilling into our children what their body parts are for from a divine identity perspective.
11:04:37 And so this is something, again, I've been working with my son on Especially as we're teaching them how to be kind how to be helpful how to be helpful you know not you use his hands and his feet for kind things, not for hurting
11:04:53 And so we're destroying. So he wants to like destroy toys or he wants to kick or hit things. And I'm like, no, that's not what our hands are for And so he says he knows how to say my hands are for building up creating
11:05:08 Helping and healing. And if he hurt somebody, we apologize. We ask for forgiveness and then i have him say a healing prayer over them.
11:05:18 And right now it sounds like, dear Jesus, please heal my friend's boo-boo Thank you for giving them strength as their body heals. Amen.
11:05:27 But I'm teaching him that that is not how we operate in this family.
11:05:33 We are going to use our hands for healing. And helping and lifting up and be building up and creating life, not tearing down and destroying.
11:05:43 And so using that and he'll say it back to me He doesn't always use his hands for that still like we're still learning self-control.
11:05:52 But the fact that he can say it back to me is encouraging.
11:05:56 So speak life over their hands. Again, we're speaking life over his voice. So having him say my voice is for speaking truth in life. My voice shares the good news of Jesus.
11:06:07 My feet take me around the world so I can share God's love.
11:06:11 My mind is for thinking thoughts that are true and noble, honest, pure, lovely, praiseworthy.
11:06:17 Comes from Philippians 4.8. I have the mind of christ 1 Corinthians 2.16 My arms are strong for the task. That comes from Proverbs 31.
11:06:30 So give their body parts identity. And make it age appropriate right but like we're speaking To… like what their body is to be used for. It's meant to build up the kingdom of God, not destroy the kingdom of God. It's meant to help
11:06:48 It's meant to heal. It's meant to speak life. It's meant to speak truth. It's meant to stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves.
11:06:54 Bring a voice to those who can't have a voice for themselves. So start speaking life And truth, an identity over their body parts as well, just as much as you speak it over their their being. And then the third point I want to say is give identity to their purpose.
11:07:11 And start speaking. God's will into them and God's purpose into them.
11:07:16 And, you know, I love Esther 4.14 where it says you were created for such a time as this. Our children were created for such a time as this.
11:07:26 And I believe we're created for such a time as this, parents, to be equipped and empowered to raise up a next generation of kingdom warriors. And God is bringing together a kingdom army of parents who are getting back into the word that are getting back into his truth and
11:07:45 His purpose and will for raising of children And so when we can speak these truths into our children, we are shifting a generation. We are changing a generation.
11:07:58 Another verse that I speak to myself that I'm also teaching my child is 1 Thessalonians 5, 18. And I love it because it literally said, this is the will of God. It says, rejoice always.
11:08:08 Pray continually. Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.
11:08:14 So that's actually 1 Thessalonians 5, 16 through 18. And so this is what we're mandated to do.
11:08:24 To rejoice, to be joyful, to keep rejoicing. Just like Paul and Silas rejoiced in the prison and the walls fell down.
11:08:33 Pray continually continually be in relationship with jesus And giving thanks in the circumstances.
11:08:42 In praising in the storms, teaching our children how to Be joyful how to keep their eyes on Jesus and how to be grateful in all circumstances.
11:08:52 Because this is God's will, is going to serve them Life.
11:08:57 And I know you know what I'm talking about. Like if you've experienced life, you know that the storms come.
11:09:03 And you feel like you're getting got punched left and right I'm in a season where it feels like we're getting death by a thousand cuts, like the enemy's coming at us from every direction right now.
11:09:13 And all I can do is rejoice, keep the joy of the Lord, pray, keep in that relationship with Jesus.
11:09:20 And keep praising and giving thanks. Because I know that I have the victory. I know my identity and authority. So I know that when I speak, a life happens.
11:09:31 I know that when I pray. Angel armies are activated.
11:09:37 My prayers activate something in the spirit realm where no weapon formed against me is going to prosper.
11:09:43 And so I can continue to give thanks because God has brought me out of the depths before. God has turned situations around for me before so I can keep praising.
11:09:52 And so if I can do this myself, I can encourage my child also to do these things.
11:09:56 And so as he grows, he's going to be equipped and empowered to face the battles and the storms that are coming towards his generation.
11:10:06 We are raising kingdom warriors. I have no doubt about that. There is a war coming.
11:10:10 I don't know what type of war it is, what it's going to look like.
11:10:15 But I know that we are being equipped and empowered to train up this next generation and we have to do it differently.
11:10:20 And that's why this podcast is alive because god told me to start this and told me He's giving me content and he's given me messages I'm supposed to be putting out.
11:10:30 To whoever wants to listen. And that's why also Gracel parenting is something I'm so passionate about.
11:10:37 Because we have to train up our children for a world that we've never experienced before.
11:10:46 Okay, so… The last, there's like one final verse that I want to share with you.
11:10:54 And that's 1 Timothy 4.12. And this one's so powerful and important for our youth It says, don't let anyone look down on you because you are young.
11:11:02 But set an example for the believers and speech in conduct and love and faith and in purity.
11:11:11 So again, as we're speaking and giving identity to our children's purposes.
11:11:17 Showing them that just because they are young doesn't mean they can't speak and conduct themselves.
11:11:24 And love and faith and impurity. And that they get to be an example to their peers.
11:11:30 And they get to be a light. For Jesus here and now, regardless of their age So continuing to give identity not only to their being, to their body parts and to their purpose.
11:11:44 Because if we don't, the world's going to do it for us. And it is up to our to it is up to us as parents to introduce our children to Jesus.
11:11:51 To introduce our children to their divine identity and authority that they have as a child of God.
11:11:57 And it starts with us knowing that first. And so I encourage you, mama, to get into the world word and know and cultivate your own relationship with Jesus.
11:12:08 And again, if you're looking for a community to help you disciple you on your parenting journey as you disciple your children, I would love for you to join us in our next Graceful Parenting 13-week academy where you will learn God's design for parenting
11:12:22 Which is parenting from the tree of life. And that's filled with identity, grace, peace, and connection instead of correction control and behavior modification. So if you're interested in that, there's still time to join. You can go to brandythomas.com to register today and classes are going to be starting on May 6th.
11:12:40 2025, which is next tuesday So I'll give you like a week's grace period, but then after that, I am going to close down the registration for this cohort.