Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas
Kia ora, Hello! I’m Ruth Vercoe, a teacher-turned-mum, here on a mission to demystify Child’s Play through understanding play schemas.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, 'Why is my child doing that?'—whether it’s throwing their soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up their crayons —then you’re in the right place, and certainly not alone.
Here, we’ll explore the magic of play through the lens of play schemas—those hidden repeated patterns in your child’s behaviour that hold the key to unlocking more meaningful play and connection.
Join me each week as we dive into playful insights that will help you bring more joy, connection and understanding into your parenting journey.
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Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas
019 Understanding Play Schemas & Love Languages in Parenting
Wrapping Up the Love Languages Series: How Play Can Deepen Your Connection with Your Child
Do you ever wonder what’s really behind your child’s play? Or why they behave a certain way when they’re feeling disconnected? Understanding play schemas and love languages can completely transform the way you interact with your little one—making parenting more intentional, fun, and fulfilling!
In this final episode of our Love Languages & Play series, we bring everything together to help you recognise, respond to, and nurture your child’s emotional needs through play.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
✅ How Play Schemas & Love Languages Work Together – Discover how your child’s natural play tendencies (like spinning, building, or transporting objects) can align with their love language and emotional needs.
✅ Spotting Your Child’s Love Language in Daily Life – Learn the simple ways children express what they need, from asking for quality time to seeking physical touch.
✅ Why Love Languages Change Over Time – Understand how your child’s love language may shift as they grow, and how to stay attuned to their evolving needs.
✅ The Connection Between Love Tanks & Behaviour – Is your child acting out, or are they just running low on love? Learn how unmet emotional needs can show up in tantrums, clinginess, or defiance.
✅ Discipline Through the Lens of Love Languages – Why using the wrong consequence could do more harm than good, and how to guide your child in a way that keeps their love tank full.
✅ Building a Stronger Family Culture – Encourage siblings, partners, and extended family to understand and support each other’s love languages, creating a more connected home.
💡 Try This Today!
Next time your child is upset, ask yourself: Have I filled their love tank today? Take just five minutes to connect in their love language—whether it’s a cuddle, a game, or simply telling them how much you love them. You might be surprised by the difference it makes!
💬 We’d love to hear from you! What love language does your child respond to most? Share your experiences with us!
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