Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas
Kia ora, Hello! I’m Ruth Vercoe, a teacher-turned-mum, here on a mission to demystify Child’s Play through understanding play schemas.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, 'Why is my child doing that?'—whether it’s throwing their soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up their crayons —then you’re in the right place, and certainly not alone.
Here, we’ll explore the magic of play through the lens of play schemas—those hidden repeated patterns in your child’s behaviour that hold the key to unlocking more meaningful play and connection.
Join me each week as we dive into playful insights that will help you bring more joy, connection and understanding into your parenting journey.
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Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas
055 Less Stuff, More Play: Creating a Connected Christmas
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If your living room has ever looked like a toy shop exploded on Christmas morning, you’re not alone. The wrapping paper, the noise, the overstimulated kids… and that quiet thought in the back of your mind: “How did we end up here again?”
In this episode of Demystifying Child’s Play, host Ruth Vercoe brings a fresh, reassuring perspective to the festive season, one that’s grounded in child development, play-based learning, and realistic expectations for busy parents. Less stuff. More play. More connection.
“Less Stuff, More Play: Creating a Connected Christmas” explores what really supports young children during the holidays, and why understanding their play schemas can turn Christmas from overstimulating chaos into joyful, meaningful moments.
You’ll hear relatable stories, gentle insights, and down-to-earth guidance that helps you cut through the noise (and the unsolicited gift suggestions!) so you can focus on what matters most: your child, their curiosity, and the simple joy of playing together.
• Why “more” can quickly become too much
Discover the science behind overstimulation, why young children often ignore new toys at Christmas, and how aligning gifts with your child’s play schema can bring calm back into the holiday season.
• How simple play invitations can transform Christmas morning
Get practical, budget-friendly ideas based on the 10 play schemas — from wrapping-and-unwrapping (enveloping) to moving baskets of baubles (transporting) to watching the tree lights from underneath (orientation). No fancy setups. No Pinterest pressure. Just real play that meets your child where they are.
• The magic of slowing down and building connection
Find out why quiet in-between moments matter more than perfectly curated traditions — and how following your child’s natural play urges leads to deeper bonding, calmer days, and a Christmas they’ll actually remember.
As parents, we often carry the invisible weight of “making Christmas magical.” But the truth is: your child doesn’t need more things, they need more play, and more of you.
All key takeaways, scripts, and schema-based ideas mentioned in the episode are available in the show notes at playschemas.com/blog — plus you can download Ruth’s free Christmas Play Schema Guide at playschemas.com/free.
You’ve got this — and remember: today is a great day to play.
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