Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas
Kia ora, Hello! I’m Ruth Vercoe, a teacher-turned-mum, here on a mission to demystify Child’s Play through understanding play schemas.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, 'Why is my child doing that?'—whether it’s throwing their soft toys, hiding stones around the house, or lining up their crayons —then you’re in the right place, and certainly not alone.
Here, we’ll explore the magic of play through the lens of play schemas—those hidden repeated patterns in your child’s behaviour that hold the key to unlocking more meaningful play and connection.
Join me each week as we dive into playful insights that will help you bring more joy, connection and understanding into your parenting journey.
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Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas
060 Play Schema Series - Disconnection 101
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What is the Disconnection Play Schema? A 101 Overview
Have you ever watched your toddler peel every sticker off a book, pull tissues out one by one, or dismantle a block tower you just built… and wondered why they do it?
In this episode, we’re diving into the Disconnection Play Schema, one of the most misunderstood (and often messy!) forms of toddler play.
Disconnection play is all about a child’s deep, instinctive urge to understand how things come apart. It’s the opening, pulling, removing, unzipping, unscrewing, tearing, and undoing that helps children explore how the world works. And while it can look destructive on the surface, it’s actually powerful learning in action.
In this 101 overview, you’ll learn:
- What the Disconnection Play Schema really is
- Why toddlers are driven to pull things apart (again and again)
- How disconnection play supports problem-solving, fine motor skills, persistence, and early STEM thinking
- Why this behaviour is healthy, necessary, and developmentally appropriate
- Simple ways to support disconnection play safely at home (without losing your sanity)
If you’re in the thick of toddler life and feeling overwhelmed by the constant dismantling, this episode is for you. Understanding the why behind the behaviour can completely change how it feels, and how you respond.
Because your child isn’t undoing your work to frustrate you.
They’re doing their work, building the foundations for learning, curiosity, and critical thinking.
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