Humans Are Dope | Mental Health, Trauma Healing & Personal Growth

The Dark Side of People Pleasing

Deana Panza | Licensed Therapist & Mental Health Coach Season 1 Episode 26

In this conversation, I explore the complexities of people pleasing, highlighting its roots as a defense mechanism that often stems from early relational experiences. I discuss how people pleasing can inhibit connections and lead to emotional detachment in our most important relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-connection and open communication in repairing relationships and addressing emotional needs.


I discuss:

  • Where people pleasing comes from
  • What we loose out on from people pleasing
  • How people pleasers show up differently in low stakes and high stakes relationships
  • Repairing relationships takes time and requires self-awareness.
  • Our relationships suffer when needs are not expressed.
  • Emotional needs do not disappear; they resurface in different ways.
  • Understanding oneself is the first step to addressing people pleasing.


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