3. Should You Swear Off Men?

• Definition and Origin:
  • Originating from South Korea, the "4B Movement" empowers women to opt out of traditional patriarchal structures.
  • Focus on rejecting societal pressures to conform to roles tied to marriage, relationships, and reproduction.
• Core Principles:
  • "No dating, no sex, no marriage, no children."
  • Promotes self-reliance, self-worth, and personal healing outside of romantic involvement.
• Growing popularity globally as women prioritize their mental health and autonomy.

Healing and Taking Back Your Power

• Shadow reason for swearing off men
  • anger, taking a stand, resentment,
  • Like attracts like: if you’ve attracted difficult people, it means you’re difficult.
  • If you attract avoidants, you’re projecting your own avoidance (and available to avoidance)
• Why Some Women Swear Off Men:
  • Experiences of toxic relationships, emotional burnout, or societal expectations.
  • To heal, find yourself/self-discovery, personal growth, …it’s a recalibration. (It’s not forever)
• The Role of Healing:
  • Emphasizing healing past wounds before entering healthy relationships.
  • Therapy, inner child work, shadow work, and mindfulness practices.
    • In what ways were you (your truth) beat down to the point of you always doubting yourself?
    • If you were cheated on, what are our unfaithful triggers?
    • If you were abandoned, what are the triggers? 
    • If you were abused, what sets you off?
    • If you were disappointed by low quality men, what beliefs are projected out into the world?
  • Practical advice for women using this time to recalibrate their lives.
    • Use this time as a gift, not as a punishment for men. The more you’re in your bliss, the more it will inspire him/them to heal. You can’t force healing through defiance.