9. The Power of an Open Heart: How Vulnerability Attracts Him In

1. How Men Sense Openness vs. Guardedness: 
   • Men, especially conscious men, are attuned to whether a woman’s heart is open or closed. 
   • If they sense she’s withholding or impenetrable, it creates an internal response similar to being physically pushed away.
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2. The Impact of Vulnerability: 
   • When a woman allows herself to be vulnerable, she’s not projecting blame or frustration onto him. 
   • This openness is attractive because it doesn’t trigger his fears of “getting it wrong” or “not being enough,” which past experiences with closed-hearted partners may have left him sensitive to.
3. Guided Openness: 
   • Embrace an honest but gentle approach to sharing. 
   • You can express past challenges without overwhelming yourself or your partner by saying something like, “I’m feeling sensitive due to past experiences. I’m not ready to share everything, but here’s what I am open to sharing.”
4. Resisting Attachment to Past Wounds: 
   • Importance of being willing to release attachments to past pain rather than expecting a partner to change around those unhealed wounds. Pushing for him to adapt to unresolved pain can build resentment and distance.