10. Liking the Men We Love: The Secret to Attracting Better Men

1. The Influence of Collective Resentment: 
   • Societal movements and the empowerment of women have sometimes led to subconscious resentments or judgments toward men.
   • Unresolved feelings around past experiences of control, betrayal, and abandonment can lead women to distrust or even subtly disrespect men.
2. Subtle Disrespect & Its Impact: 
   • Behaviors like playful mocking, judgment, criticism, controlling, and “mothering” can signal disrespect. 
   • These behaviors can wound a man’s need to feel respected and trusted—a need that is fundamental to the masculine psyche.
3. Understanding Masculine Needs: 
   • Men have an innate need for their thoughts and actions to be respected. When this need is unmet, it can lead to compliant, overly passive men or defiant, controlling, and even abusive men.
4. Wounded Energy and Attraction Patterns: 
   • Unhealed trauma in women can lead them to attract men they feel they can control or men they subconsciously set out to change. 
   • However, truly empowered men don’t allow themselves to be controlled or emasculated—they value boundaries and mutual respect.
5. The Power of Genuine Admiration: 
   • A shift in focus to appreciating men’s inherent qualities creates an entirely different dynamic. 
   • Celebrate qualities of the divine masculine: honoring his strength, courage, loyalty, and desire to support.
6. Practical Ways to Show Admiration: 
   • Notice and compliment these positive qualities in men. 
   • This admiration communicates openness and respect, making it more likely for a confident, self-assured man to respond positively.