Speaker 1: This is Rad Dad Secrets, episode 11 my nine year old said, what!?
Speaker 2: So the big question is this. How do regular dads like us who weren't given a playbook on parenting, who only have 24 hours in a day to make it all happen How do we provide for our families in a way that will allow us to raise happy, successful children and have a thriving marriage while still being a man and doing the things we love That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. This is Rad dad secrets. Welcome back everyone. This is Jefferson and Eric. This is rad dead secrets. And I wanted to start off this podcast by telling a little story. So a couple blood days ago,
Speaker 1: my wife and I, we were sitting down with our kids and we were kind of going over it, a little discussion on how to right the wrong and how to make things right after you've done something wrong. So we, you know, we went through the discussion and I, we figured that it was all over and we go to stand up and, and everyone goes and they start doing their homework or start, you know, taking a bath and stuff like that. And I got up to do the dishes and I was sitting there doing the dishes and my nine year old came up to me and said, dad, I have something to tell you. And I said, okay, what do you need to tell me sweetie And she was, she was kind of quiet about it because she didn't want anyone else to hear. During our discussion, we kind of, my wife and I kind of said almost, have you, have you seen that episode of the office where Michael Michael Scott, the manager of the office
Speaker 1: Yeah, the branch manager. He gets up and he says, Hey, this is the time right now to, you've got immunity. If you've done something wrong in the office, let me know. You know, and there's, there's this, this lady, this Meredith gets up and she just says something horrible like, and everyone's like, uh, she needs to be punished. And Mike was like, no, she's got immunity. I said that. So I kind of felt like that because my wife and I, we said, look, if you guys, if you, if you've ever done anything wrong, come up to us and tell us and let's write this wrong and let's move on for him. Let's grow from this. And so she came up to me, she's like, I need to tell you something. Um, I've been using bad language at school. Ooh. And I'm like, what do you mean you've been using bad language at school, Sweetie, you're nine years old.
Speaker 1: So we go from the kitchen and I, and I take it back to the room creating this podcast and in doing research on, on dads and, and how can I become a better dad My blood was boiling, but at the same time I was like, okay, I've got to, I've got to stay composed. I need to approach this in the, in the correct way. Right. One of our, one of our mottos is discipline with love, not with anger. And so going to the go into the bedroom, she, she basically explains to me that she's been using some, some bad language of school. I'm not going to get into the language. I said, okay sweetie, why, why would you use those words And she's like, I don't know. And I, you know, I'm trying to get these answers out of us, like our other kids using these words.
Speaker 1: And she's like, yes. And I said, okay. So I basically diffuse the situation and I did it lovingly. I, as much as I just wanted to just lay into her, I didn't, I said, okay, let's write this wrong. Can you promise to me that you won't use those languages Can you be the example at school for other kids by using correct language and good language And she said, yes, dad. And so yeah. So it got me thinking though after, after she left, it got me thinking about a couple of things. Number one, I have always said that I want to be the one to teach my kids. I do not want the world to teach my kids. I did not want other influences. Teaching my kids, taking the responsibility as a parent, as a father, I am going to be the one to teach my kids