Speaker 1: Everybody. This is Rad Dad Secrets, episode 12 be prepared.
Speaker 2: So the big question is this, how do regular dads like us who weren't given a playbook on parenting, who only have 24 hours in a day to make it all happen How do we provide for our families in a way that will allow us to raise happy, successful children and have a thriving marriage while still being a man and doing the things we love That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. This is Rad dad secrets. All right everybody, this is Eric and Jefferson
Speaker 1: and we want to talk to you yesterday about being prepared. So my son was asked to give a lesson for a youth group and he had never taught, he's 14 never taught the lesson before. So I was pretty proud of him. He sat down on his own and started putting it together, this lesson and he put up, put together a pretty good lesson, found some stuff on the Internet and I sat down and refined a few things with him and, and we went over it. He was doing good. And I just, I really emphasize you really need to go over this multiple times. And then I kind of left it in his court. We went, you know, the next day he taught his lesson and all in all it went really good. Um, but there are a few moments where I could tell he was kind of at a loss and wasn't sure where to go.
Speaker 1: And tis defense his first time he's ever taught a lesson like this before we got through the lesson and it was really good. And afterwards I was like, how do you think it went And he's like, well it went pretty good. I was like, yeah, I agree. And he was like, it went really good when they adults would talk though. And I was like, yeah, yeah, I mean, why do you think that is It's like, well I dunno cause you guys are grownups. It's like, well yeah, kind of. I was like, honestly, it's because we've prepared, we've taught hundreds if not thousands of lessons, right We've talked about these subjects so many different times that our confidence levels are so, so high. And he's like, oh, okay. And I gave him the example and I just said, you know, like when I, when I teach a lesson or you know, in my office idea of health presentations and when I go to give a health presentation, I deliver that talk on that night and people watch it and it's 30 to 45 minutes long and it's, it's pretty flawless and everybody is like, Oh wow, that was really great.
Speaker 1: And it looked really easy for you. Really. It was pretty easy for me. And the thing was though, what they don't see or didn't know is that that 30 to 45 minute talk, I had practiced that literally the night before for hours, went through it 10 to 15 times start to finish and just really, really became a master of that talk. What that does for you when you get that prepared is it allows you to go off the cuff, right It allows you to, if somebody derails you a little bit, you know exactly where you don't have to use your brain anymore to actually think about things. You're just on autopilot and you can bring it right back in. And he was like, okay, yeah, I get that. I get that. So, you know, I'm hoping next time that he hill, you know, go through and practice a little bit more. And how does that relate back to being a dad Well, let's be honest as as a dad, if, if we're not cognizant, if we're not preparing ourselves to be the best dad possible, man, I get curve balls every single day from my kids and when I'm not on my game, I trip up and I fall hard. And, and whether that's falling into old habits, whether that's losing my temper, whether that's not responding properly, if I'm not in tune with, with what needs to be done, it falls apart fairly quick.
Speaker 4: Yeah. And I think what we've talked about on previous podcasts who really helps with as being prepared now we're not going to be giving presentations to our kids and stuff like that. But mental preparedness. When you do have those situatio