Speaker 1: Hey everybody, welcome to Rad Dad Secrets episode number 15, how a trip without my kids helped me become a better.
Speaker 2: So the big question is this. How do regular dads like us who weren't given a playbook on parenting, who only have 24 hours in a day to make it all happen How do we provide for our families in a way that will allow us to raise happy, successful children and have a thriving marriage while still being a man and doing the things we love That is the question and this podcast will give you the answers. This is Rad dad secrets. Okay, everybody. Hey Jefferson Harmon here. I recently returned from a trip to Disneyland with my wife and no kids kids.
Speaker 1: It was one of the best experiences I've ever had in my life. I love Disneyland. My wife and I, that's one of our favorite places to go is Disneyland. I know it sounds crazy and Jim Gaffigan does a bit on this about the crazy adults that are there with no kids. Yes, that was my wife, myself and a couple of members of her family. Well, most of her family. Uh, the adults in her family. We went to Disneyland to celebrate a birthday of somebody in one of my inlaws. It was one of the funnest times I've ever had in my life. Uh, we were there for five days in the park, going back from, from Disneyland to California adventure. We were there for five days. We walked over 70 miles. I was about to say 70,000 miles, but now 20,000 steps a day, 70 miles. In those five days, we were exhausted.
Speaker 1: I felt like when I came back, I needed a vacation from my vacation, but it was super fun. Now going away with my wife, just, just her and I without the kids is crucial in becoming a totally red debt for me. I love my children, but at the same time, I need time to reconnect with my spouse. This one on one time helps us reconnect without the hustle and bustle of every single day life. We live very neat. I say hectic lives. My wife, she is the, the master of the house. She, she's the, the taxi driver. She's the cook. She does most of the chores. I help around the house a little bit, but she is basically the air traffic controller of the house. She, she makes sure things are nice and organized in the house. And we have five kids and tonight we actually signed every single one of them up for soccer.
Speaker 1: We have three kids in track, so three of those kids are going to do soccer and track. We have my three girls are in dance, so some of my kids have, we live busy lives and I know I'm preaching to the choir there. There are many of you dads and moms out there that also from lead busy lives. So this right here is one of the most important things that I can do for my marriage is take time away from my kids to reconnect with my wife. I want to say that we, we go on about a couple of vacations a year without the kids. Uh, and it's, it's some of my favorite times now vacationing with my family. It's again, it's one of my favorite times as well. But going away, just my wife and I is, is phenomenal and it is a crucial, crucial step in becoming a totally rad dead.
Speaker 1: Now my wife and I were walking around Disneyland and I was thinking to myself, this place has it figured out. They have everything figured out now. They've had years and years and years to perfect what they've, what they're doing. Uh, we walked around one day and we just, we were kind of looking around and as much garbage as they sell, as much food and souvenirs and everything that they sell inside the park. If you go to Disneyland and look around, you will hardly find trash on the ground, even if it's just popcorn or, or just food. You know, kids will be eating food and they'll spill. I mean, Mike and my kids still all the time, but spilling food on the ground, you will rarely find litter on the ground as, because they have tons and tons of cast members. That's a, that's what they call their employees.
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