Wedding TikTok Is OUT OF CONTROL 😳 DJs, Drama & The Weirdest Wedding Stories Ever

Wedding planning isn’t all Pinterest-perfect moments… sometimes it’s chaos, controversy, and completely unhinged stories 🤯

In this episode of Totally Absolutely Engaged, it’s just us — no guests — diving into our viral TikTok and Instagram comments, reacting to the wildest takes, biggest debates, and funniest (and harshest) opinions from the internet.

From wedding DJs vs playlists to makeup artist horror stories, and even a debate that sparked serious backlash about taking your partner’s last name, we’re breaking it ALL down.

Plus… we share some of the most ridiculous real-life wedding stories we’ve ever heard (trust us, you are NOT ready for the post box story 😳).

💥 In this episode:
Why wedding DJs are so controversial right now
The truth about “overplayed” wedding songs
Should you trust your suppliers or control everything?
The BIG debate: do you have to take your partner’s surname?
Wedding timelines – are earlier ceremonies ruining the party?
Real wedding horror stories (including one you won’t believe…)

If you're planning a wedding or just love behind-the-scenes drama, this episode is unfiltered, honest, and hilarious.

🎧 Hit play now — and find out what people REALLY think about weddings.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:06

Hello everybody and welcome back to another episode of Totally Absolutely Engaged. Hello. Today's a different Okay.

SPEAKER_01 0:16

Well, what's funny about that? Because normally I would then introduce the guests.

SPEAKER_00 0:20

Oh, so you didn't know what to say.

SPEAKER_01 0:21

So I just said hello and then thought there's no one to introduce.

SPEAKER_00 0:25

Okay, well, today it's just me and Paul because we don't have a guest. We thought that would shake things up a little bit.

SPEAKER_01 0:31

Well, we did, and also you were ill in the week, and we had to cancel three. Well, I wasn't gonna mention that.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

We did. That is the truth.

SPEAKER_01 0:38

So because we've now cancelled three guests, we're now three weeks behind schedule. So keeping this one in.

SPEAKER_00 0:46

Yeah. Well, we figured that considering our TikTok and Instagram have been popping off again, that we'd basically go through some of the comments on our viral videos.

SPEAKER_01 0:57

We did, we did, and one of them is um well, I I got a few actually, and it was changed the colour of my shirt. And I was like, oh right, I must look a bit fat, a little bit a bit chubby. So what I've done is I've looked at the videos and I thought I didn't I don't look that bad. And I've gone back to the message and I should have carried on reading because it was about you and your Sun Tan. And people are basically implied that I look very ill compared to your Suntan.

SPEAKER_00 1:31

And you've implied that I look very orange.

SPEAKER_01 1:34

No, they they did. But um so I've gone back to a black t-shirt.

SPEAKER_00 1:41

And I'm not toning down my pants.

SPEAKER_01 1:43

So that was the number one comment, actually. So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 1:46

Well, that's good to know, isn't it? I'm glad that we're being judged. Cheers, guys, really appreciate it.

SPEAKER_01 1:50

We're being judged, definitely.

SPEAKER_00 1:53

Well, the fate hands here to stay, so I'm glad that you've changed your time.

SPEAKER_01 1:56

Well, I'm catching up anyway. The sun's come out in it this week, so I will catch up. Maybe not that much, but I'm okay.

SPEAKER_00 2:02

He's not actually ill, guys. That was just me. Right, so we need to start with DJ Chris, don't we?

SPEAKER_01 2:10

He got yeah, he got an obscene amount of hits, doesn't he? An obscene amount of comments, obscene amount of hate.

SPEAKER_00 2:18

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 2:18

Uh it definitely stirred. It stirred a lot of emotion, actually, didn't it?

SPEAKER_00 2:22

People don't seem to like wedding DJs.

SPEAKER_01 2:24

No, no.

SPEAKER_00 2:26

Which is it surprising? I was quite surprised.

SPEAKER_01 2:29

I feel like DJs don't like DJs. It was just odd that they they started digging on each other. Then people were saying, What they were what what are they actually paying for when they get a DJ? Then a lot of people are just like, Oh, it's all Spotify or Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 2:45

It's amazing the amount of people that don't seem to think you need a DJ, which I'd argue you absolutely do, but and I do get what Chris was saying.

SPEAKER_01 2:54

He was basically saying that he judges the room and he plays from the room, which makes sense, yeah. But then you've got other DJs that argue that obviously there's the blueprint, which is what Harry said. The UK blueprint, yeah, yeah, uh, which went down very popular, and then you get other people that think it's my DJ, I've paid for him, I want him to play my songs.

SPEAKER_00 3:15

This is where I think the DJ that you pick matters very much so if this commenter had said I would never hire this DJ. Sorry, Chris, we love you, we'd hire you. I would never hire this DJ. I guarantee he plays all the usual wedding crap: Mr. Brightside, Uptown Funk, Angels, Dancing Queen, and Chelsea Dagger.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

Yeah. Oof. I mean, I don't like a lot of those songs. I don't think you should stand on Chelsea Dagger. Yeah, I don't think you should have Chelsea Dagger in there. I like that song. The thing is, them songs, whether we like them or hate them, if we are drunk or slightly tipsy, yeah, we're on the dance floor. So the DJ is giving.

SPEAKER_00 3:54

I agree to an extent, but I know from being at so many weddings, you'll beg to differ that I've not done so many weddings, but I feel like I have. That hearing those same songs over and over and over, I am sick of it.

SPEAKER_01 4:08

But the people that are at that wedding have only been to maybe one or two weddings in the last five years.

SPEAKER_00 4:13

It's not necessarily true though. It is because you've got to think you hit an age, late 20s, early 30s, you're going to weddings constant.

SPEAKER_01 4:22

And if it's just the same cheesy music, it is gonna get to a point where it is, but then if you've got if you've got wedding guests of say 80 to 100 people, yeah, it's only really that core 25 people that are going to every wedding, as it were. Yeah, you're still catering for the other 70, aren't you?

SPEAKER_00 4:45

I guess so. I just think I personally would instruct my DJ to not do that.

SPEAKER_01 4:53

So I guess that's why you've got to- So you're gonna play a load of songs that no one's ever heard. No, not that no one's or knowing you a load of Ibitha songs.

SPEAKER_00 5:00

Yes, potentially.

SPEAKER_01 5:02

Which only suit your mates.

SPEAKER_00 5:04

But no, because I think that it would suit a larger crowd, but that's because I know, and this is what the comments are saying, I know my crowd, so I know what they're gonna like. So if I say play XYZ, I know that they're gonna like XYZ. But then I guess if the DJ's doing XYZ and nobody's moving on the dance floor, then they're gonna have to change it up and whack missabrights like that, aren't they?

SPEAKER_01 5:24

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 5:24

And I do I do see what Chris was saying, and I do feel like there was harsh comments, but there was, but some people did offer solutions actually, and I shall I shall really read them to you if I can find them. Yeah, they offered solutions to this to these problems that we are discussing. Okay, well, this was a commenter who I had a bad experience with a DJ. She this isn't a solution. The one and only time I hired a DJ was for my birthday. I asked him to play some 80s slash 90s rock, and he flat out refused. You don't know my guest better than I do. Everyone would have loved all of it. My friends, wait, everyone would have loved it, all of my friends like rock.

SPEAKER_01 6:02

Yeah, but was that one of the comments on that?

SPEAKER_00 6:05

That's one of the comments. But this is why I think that you need to find a DJ that you vibe with and that suits your vibe.

SPEAKER_01 6:12

I feel like you could give the DJ guidance and say, look, there's there's a group of people that like Nirvana, there's a group of people that like Oasis, and then he can then feel the room. Yeah, and change accordingly. Yeah, I don't think he can just throw a DJ in cold and go, right, yeah, work out what they all like and start playing. Because that's never gonna happen, is it? No. I mean, even in this office alone, there's what there's eight of us in this building that work regularly, none of us have the same taste.

SPEAKER_00 6:40

No, literally none of us. Yeah, so the solutions that were offered were my friend created a Spotify wedding playlist and asked people to add what they would like to hear on the day. The DJ did his thing, problem solved, it worked really well. Which I thought was quite a good idea, just whack in a massive group Spotify.

SPEAKER_01 6:57

Yeah. I mean, I I did something similar where everyone when we sent the invites, you know, when they reply, they write one song that they like.

SPEAKER_00 7:06

Yes, I'd seen that.

SPEAKER_01 7:07

And some mates did take the piss and just start putting like umbop and stuff like that from Hansen and stuff like that. So it might not be a good one. So occasionally you got the odd song, and you thought, oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 7:17

Well, someone in the comments said that they did that, didn't have a DJ, and just put that playlist on Shuffle, and then was adding songs to it throughout the night, and I just thought Well, that's risky. That's a fat no from me.

SPEAKER_01 7:31

Yeah, there's gotta be some structure.

SPEAKER_00 7:33

Yeah, I gotta be. I personally wouldn't be able to do that. But keeping online with the DJs, we then had HM Sounds on, and he also caused some controversy. A videographer actually has commented the best weddings are live bands, worst ones are a DJ after Singing Waiters who have just got everyone up and dancing for two hours previously. I always feel bad for the DJs at those ones. We've just had singing waiters on as well, haven't we? We have, and there's a lot of anecdotes, anecdotes, anecdotes, but they were saying that they do get the vibe up, and it is then hard to match that vibe.

SPEAKER_01 8:11

I mean, I I always think the DJ's got a hard job anyway, because even if you've got the singing waiters, that's like the end of your wedding breakfast, predominantly. So then by then everyone's finished, you've had speeches, you've cut the a lot of places cut the cake before that the party turnaround nowadays, and then they go out and then come back into the room, and you're coming back into the room, and the DJ's then faced with everybody, and everyone's just waiting for like entertain me. Yeah. So I do feel like it's a really hard job that earlier doors.

SPEAKER_00 8:45

I think it is, but I think this leads into the conversation we were having with the plough about wedding start times.

SPEAKER_02 8:52

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:53

Because if you are having an earlier wedding ceremony, you are basically allowing your guests to fall into that lull that the DJ has then to work really hard to try and pick the vibe up again. And I think that's why having a later one and then just filling those little bits of time with easier bits of entertainment that aren't just gonna die off dead quickly, would make the evening entertainment then so much easier.

SPEAKER_01 9:19

Yeah, I guess so. I mean that all that whole thing created controversy anyway, didn't it? We've had we've had Alison uh from Lasting Memories.

SPEAKER_00 9:27

Yeah, people could not agree on a start time at all.

SPEAKER_01 9:30

Laurie then put did she say two o'clock from the plow?

SPEAKER_00 9:33

Lori said two o'clock, which we agree with.

SPEAKER_01 9:36

Yeah, I mean we agree with it because we're suppliers and obviously it gives us more time.

SPEAKER_00 9:41

But being a guest at a wedding as well.

SPEAKER_01 9:43

But I do agree with it as a guest, doesn't it? I do, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 9:46

It's like okay, you might prolong the day for you guys, but there was actually a comment on that post which I shall read because I thought this was from a wedding photographer, and I think she said it really well. Um so I hear this a lot, but it really makes the day more enjoyable. There can be too much of a good thing. Yeah, you'll have a lot of lull periods, time to fill, you and guests will be subconsciously pacing yourselves, it makes the day too long. I've honestly found weddings have busier dance floors at ceremonies with a later start.

SPEAKER_01 10:16

Yeah. And I think that's I think it's because the day just flows. Yeah. No lulls, day flows, people are calmer, or I get that it builds up nerves for the for the bride and groom because you wait until two o'clock to get married.

SPEAKER_00 10:30

Well, you are. I think that's more so for the groom, though, because I think there's that much for the bride to do. Like you've got to think like the first looks, the photos that you have, drinks with your bridesmaids and like your mom, and all that.

SPEAKER_01 10:44

Because their day's already started, isn't it? They've already got, like, say, all the makeup artists, but they've also had the dealings with the videographer, the content creator.

SPEAKER_00 10:53

But this is where was it Liam from Line and Swan? They've created the groom's package.

SPEAKER_01 11:00

Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:01

It's I think that's this is where venues need to start catching up a bit and start making bits enjoyable for the grooms in the morning. I think brides naturally do have so much more to do.

SPEAKER_01 11:13

Yeah. I think uh definitely venues like Coleshaw are good at that. They've got they've got male entertainment, do they? And then the men have got something to do and they can bond beforehand. Whereas there is a lot of venues that just leave the men out. They do. It's like, well, what do we do? Yeah. When they are just waiting, and for that, a two o'clock wedding and a four o'clock wedding must be agony. Because that's just a long day before you've actually had your long day.

SPEAKER_00 11:38

It is. Well, one of the comments, they got married at half past seven in the evening. Yeah, I mean, what's the point? I mean, fair play, but what actually is the point?

SPEAKER_01 11:49

Yeah, yeah, that's just an evening party, innit, really.

SPEAKER_00 11:51

Yeah, you might as well have just had a house party at that point. Okay, well, another one that was viral was Sophie Brown. So if you don't know and haven't seen her episode, go and watch it. It was really helpful. Uh, she's a makeup artist, and she was basically explaining about makeup mistakes.

SPEAKER_02 12:13

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 12:14

And somebody has said my makeup artist turned up two hours late, and I was really late to my wedding because of her. If I'd been another five minutes, they said they'd have had to have cancelled the wedding. It was such a horrible morning. I was so stressed and upset. She never explained why either, just kept texting saying she will be there any moment.

SPEAKER_01 12:31

Right.

SPEAKER_00 12:33

Now, when we're sat here preaching, trust your suppliers, do your research into your suppliers.

SPEAKER_01 12:39

Oh my god, I know. I mean, the suppliers trust thing is a big thing anyway, isn't it? Yeah. A lot of for some reason, a lot of the messages that seem to come in either through TikTok, Instagram, are always like, How do I trust my supplier? What should I be asking them, etc. etc. And you've just highlighted uh us trying to support other suppliers, that just then messes that up.

SPEAKER_00 13:04

I think this is why it's important. I know that sometimes people bash recommended suppliers, yeah, but I think with like the hub, our hub, for example, you've selected suppliers that you know are trustworthy, yeah, that you know are gonna turn up on time, like listen to other suppliers, yeah, and the venues and the venues, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 13:26

You've got to trust the venue that you're getting married at. Um I mean it pains me when there's recommended supply lists, and we're not on that supply list, and you think, oh god, give someone else a chance. But I get why the venue are very much this is our supply list because it they work with the times, they know everything, etc. etc. Yeah, I do understand that. Yeah, and I think when um also when we were talking to like the venue dressers again, like Alison and uh even Pearney uh from a while ago, people were saying that um people bring their own ideas and they try forcing them to go down a certain route, and actually you're paying for their creativeness, aren't you? So you should really trust the supplier, and you're paying for their time and their interpretation of what you want. You shouldn't you shouldn't get a venue dresser and then tell them what you want to do. And have completely rigid ideas and not be over the stuff. It's that micromanagement. I mean, why why pay the money and then micromanage?

SPEAKER_00 14:26

I just think at that point, do it yourself.

SPEAKER_01 14:28

Yeah, yeah, just be a DIY bride and be done.

SPEAKER_00 14:31

Just do it. I mean, you know, it is it is harder and it does come with its own complications, but if you are gonna micromanage a supplier, yeah, I think save yourself the money because if you're gonna stress yourself out anyway, ultimately you're paying suppliers to take that pressure off yourself.

SPEAKER_01 14:44

Yeah, exactly. And I think you should be able to share the inspiration, but at the same time let the supplier interpret it the way they would.

SPEAKER_00 14:52

Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 14:53

And I think if you've actually sat down, you've spoken to that supplier and you've got that trust and you've actually talked properly and you've got that sort of chemistry, then they'll give you what you want anyway. I think I think if you're just saying yes to any venue dresser, and then that's when the problems happen. Don't don't go for the cheapest venue dresser, go for the one that actually you bond with and actually have a connection with. Yeah. And I think you'll have a far better day. And I think it works like that with all um aspects of the wedding, isn't it? I agree.

SPEAKER_00 15:24

I mean it's what everyone said, isn't it? Like have conversations with them before you actually go, Oh, take my money.

SPEAKER_01 15:30

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 15:30

Because if you don't get on with them, they're not getting your vibe. Literally, what is the point? You are causing yourself so much unnecessary stress.

SPEAKER_01 15:38

It does seem very important, doesn't it? With the hair people, hair, hair, makeup, makeup, yeah, photographer.

SPEAKER_00 15:43

That was a big one.

SPEAKER_01 15:44

Because you're with them all day. I think the ones that you're with all day, by the sounds of it, you definitely need a good connection with them.

SPEAKER_00 15:51

Yeah, because I mean ultimately with us, say they get a selfie mirror. Well, throw the self mirror in, you're not really gonna see us again. You can hate us all you want. The self mirror does the job, but yeah, with the ones that are literally there. If you've got somebody at your wedding that you despise, you just yeah.

SPEAKER_01 16:07

I mean, if you don't like your photographer and you're there all day with them, that's gonna really drag your day out, isn't it?

SPEAKER_00 16:14

That they're like, smile, you're like, no, it makes me miss your buttons.

SPEAKER_01 16:17

So, yeah, that would that was a big talking point, I think. And uh, I think Holly as well, most one of the most recent ones that we've done, she had a great piece of advice with the holding hands thing. Yes, that because that got a lot of interest, and I actually thought that was pretty good advice.

SPEAKER_00 16:34

It is, and it's not something I'd even thought about because I'm not really a hand holder, I'll be honest. I get sweaty hands, yeah. But I understand that people are gonna be wanting to talk to both of you, and you've got your two sides of the family as well, two sets of friends in a lot of circumstances, it's a very split audience, actually. It kind of is. It's it's one of the few times where you're probably mingling with your with both your sides.

SPEAKER_01 16:58

There's not many scenarios where that would and the sides mixing with the sides because how often does your aunt and uncle meet their aunt and uncle?

SPEAKER_00 17:05

Well, exactly, yeah.

SPEAKER_01 17:06

So it's there's a lot to negotiate, actually. But I do think holding hands after you've got married, after all the adrenaline, etc. I think Holly made a very good point that just stay with your partner and actually greet people together, definitely, and uh you'll enjoy your day and be able to take it in a lot more. Good point while I like I liked her, yeah, yeah. I like that. It's a good show, that one actually, to be fair.

SPEAKER_00 17:28

It was go check it out. Plug, plug, plug. And then moving on to my personal favourite, because it's me. So this was my video that did well, but it did well for all the wrong reasons.

SPEAKER_01 17:45

So this was the last time we did a show together, wasn't it?

SPEAKER_00 17:47

This was the last show we did together.

SPEAKER_01 17:49

We thought it'd be a great idea to give twelve it was Christmas, wasn't it? It was twelve. It was twelve advice.

SPEAKER_00 17:57

Yeah, yes, I think it was.

SPEAKER_01 18:00

I think it was, etc. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:01

And I implied that I wouldn't want to take my husband's last name.

SPEAKER_01 18:09

Yeah, and that got some massive.

SPEAKER_00 18:11

I was hoping that we'd hit the girly pop audience and that it'd be like, yeah, Slay girl power.

SPEAKER_01 18:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 18:16

I didn't, I hit the hit the women hated man side of TikTok. So it didn't go very well, and basically I've been told that I'm a gold digger bimbo bitch, I believe.

SPEAKER_02 18:32

Yeah, yeah. That was a nice comment.

SPEAKER_00 18:34

Um, but that women can't have last names. Is one of the comments.

SPEAKER_01 18:41

So I thought it was very strange how they a lot of the the audience related it to you chasing the man's wealth, which is why you wanted to get married, and then you were throwing it back in their face by not taking their name. Yes, I did think it was a very weird psychology, and then I got a bashing because I didn't support men, even though I just think everyone's got a right to choose, it doesn't really matter.

SPEAKER_00 19:09

Yeah, it was very bizarre, but I think that we just need to reiterate what marriage actually stands for, and this is actually a conversation that I think that we should have. Because in the modern day, what do we honestly think that the purpose of marriage is from your perspective? Oh wow, I just figured that I'd throw in a deep question, just because I think that like back in the day, I think it like for societal purposes, it had a reason like you couldn't really live together. I think sex before marriage was like shunned or whatever the word is kids out of wedlock, all of that malarchy was frowned upon. Whereas obviously in this day and age, you can pretty much do with it. So why are why is marriage such a prevalent thing despite the divorce rate being 50%?

SPEAKER_01 20:06

Is that what it is though? God, um I don't know, yeah. Well, less it's just got to be the romance of it all, hasn't it? Yeah, really. I mean, if you've genuinely found someone that you want to be with for the rest of your life, yeah, it's just a n it's a lovely gesture and it's a lovely thing to do, and it unites the family, whether you take their name or not. It does, it unites the family. I especially think if you've got kids as well, it gives you it unites all that, doesn't it?

SPEAKER_00 20:35

It does.

SPEAKER_01 20:36

But um I guess in today's society we don't need to. Exactly. But doesn't that make it nicer?

SPEAKER_00 20:43

Well, this is my point, and I think that it is about just showing and like confirming's kind of the wrong word because you can do that anyway, but showing your love to each other and that commitment to each other. Yeah, so ultimately, who actually cares about the traditions? Yeah, like I don't think it's done for tradition traditional reasons anymore. So I think doing all the traditional things is just so unnecessary in modern day weddings.

SPEAKER_01 21:10

Yeah. So get rid of all traditions, is what you're I don't think get rid of all traditions.

SPEAKER_00 21:13

I just think do what you want with your wedding, and if that's keeping your last name, keep your last name for Christ's sake. Women can't have last names.

SPEAKER_01 21:22

Are you trying to appeal to the girly pops?

unknown 21:24

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 21:25

Certainly am. I'm here for the girls and only the girls.

SPEAKER_01 21:30

Oh, they're so coming after you.

SPEAKER_00 21:34

Should I should I name and shame some of the comments? It's like we had some people commenting that um you need to get married so that the man knows that the kid's his. Yeah, I mean, I've got just some very bizarre things were were said.

SPEAKER_01 21:49

So now it made interesting reading. Interesting's a word for it. And I'm glad it was you that got the hate. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. That's Tami. It's a good little Christmas bonus.

SPEAKER_00 22:03

I think so.

SPEAKER_01 22:04

One of the other main things.

SPEAKER_00 22:05

Go.

SPEAKER_01 22:06

Mums.

SPEAKER_00 22:08

Oh my god, I didn't get that comment.

SPEAKER_01 22:11

Mums have uh what was it? It was in the episode. Well, there's been a few episodes. There's been a few, hasn't there, that have mentioned it.

SPEAKER_00 22:20

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 22:20

But it was Laurie that actually said mum's getting involved.

SPEAKER_00 22:24

Exactly.

SPEAKER_01 22:25

And my god, the mums reacted. And there was one particular kind of money. One particular she was trying to argue a point, and I just thought, you've now just proved everything that we've ever just said.

SPEAKER_00 22:39

Um she was taking over Barry Mum to a whole new level.

SPEAKER_01 22:43

Yeah, yeah. And she was even saying that she's made all the decisions, and that if her daughter is given a decision, she she makes the final decision. I just thought that's the worst argument I've ever read.

SPEAKER_00 22:57

It was poor. It was poor.

SPEAKER_01 22:59

And I love interaction and I love people texting in and doing whatever. But um, yeah, I do like reading stupid comments, and that was one of them.

SPEAKER_00 23:09

There are some funny comments on our TikTok page. I didn't quite realise how um there are so stupid some people are. So it's making fair, yeah, good reading.

SPEAKER_01 23:25

Anyway, go on. Anyway, what's this stuff?

SPEAKER_00 23:28

I wanted you to tell a story.

SPEAKER_01 23:31

Alright.

SPEAKER_00 23:32

I've mentioned that I've wanted you to tell this story for a while now, and it's never we've never really had an opportunity an opportunity to share the story. It never seemed appropriate.

SPEAKER_01 23:42

Right.

SPEAKER_00 23:43

But if I said post box. Right, would you be able would you be able to share that story?

SPEAKER_01 23:53

I can. I'm not gonna say the venue.

SPEAKER_00 23:56

No, no, don't say the venue, don't say details.

SPEAKER_01 23:59

Obviously, we drop a post box off in the morning and people fill it up with letters, etc. etc. Uh gifts for the bride and groom. And at night, when we come to collect our items, whether it be letters, selfie mirror, we collect our post box. And there was this one particular night where I was like, Where's the post box gone? Couldn't find this post box anywhere. And it was just one of those nights where we genuinely needed that post box because there was a bride that wanted it the following day. So I I did make it not a false, but I was certainly like we need to find the post box, we need to look for it everywhere. So the venue were looking round, and the venue were really good about it actually, and they were looking in all the little hidey places, everything that could the the bride and groom come back for the next day goes in this section. There was nothing there in there. Anyway, it was still quite early in terms of time, it must be about half eleven, something like that, half eleven, quarter to twelve. So the wedding hadn't actually finished, um, but the box had disappeared, which is what the panic was about. Anyway, it turned out that it was in a room. And we someone's opened the door to the room, and literally there is I can't I don't I can't even can I even say which member of the wedding party it was. I mean it was it was the groom. Oh, it was the groom and basically the groom had his cock in the letterbox. No, I'm I'm I'm hoping it was like a private joke or something they were doing.

SPEAKER_00 25:41

Was there anyone else in the room?

SPEAKER_01 25:43

Well, yeah, the person that opened the room, which was actually I've not even thought about this, but that was actually his mate. So I'm guessing that was another groomsman. So they're obviously having male banter having a laugh. But uh, as we opened the door, me and the wedding coordinator at the time witnessed basically the groom's cock in a post box, um pretending to have fun with it.

SPEAKER_00 26:13

I just men's brains baffled me. Honestly, they baffled me.

SPEAKER_01 26:19

So yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:19

So what did you do in that circumstance, please?

SPEAKER_01 26:22

Um to be honest, I don't know. No we just asked him to Do you know what I actually do Do you know what I actually said bizarrely? And I don't know why, I just said, are there any letters in there?

SPEAKER_02 26:51

But anyway Anyway, the bottles got returned and sanitized. Are there any letters in there?

SPEAKER_01 27:10

Um and to this day I've never known if there was letters in there or what what story that's one of my favourite stories.

SPEAKER_00 27:24

I seen a story, I think it was on Reddit or something. So how true this is, I don't know. But the groom went missing. It was shaking a post floor. The groom went missing, and they could not find him anywhere. And basically, the bride went in to the toilets to go for a wee, opened the toilet door, and the groom and his mum were in there together, and she was breastfeeding him.

SPEAKER_01 27:56

The groom's mum. The groom I can't even So there's a twenty well, let's say a 25-year-old man sucking at his mum's teeth.

SPEAKER_00 28:17

Yes, and so the wife never knew that this was a thing and they immediately got a divorce.

SPEAKER_01 28:24

I would hope so.

SPEAKER_00 28:27

Absolutely, so I thought that that was an interesting story.

SPEAKER_01 28:31

Yeah, so I don't really know where you can go from there.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

I think that's a conversation end up. Yeah, yeah. I enjoyed those stories. So if you want to see the comments or want to give us hate, or give us a story, or give us a story.

SPEAKER_01 28:48

Why not?

SPEAKER_00 28:48

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SPEAKER_01 29:01

Correct. Yeah, yeah. And there's great advice on there. There's we've we've got someone that works with something called Esme.

SPEAKER_00 29:05

We do.

SPEAKER_01 29:06

And she does a feature Friday, so she actually features a bride and a groom every week on Friday. Yeah. Heads feature Friday. Heads feature Friday. That's full. Um and uh she does regular blogging, doesn't she? Um, and just loads of advice on there. Um, just trying to make everyone's planning of a wedding a lot easier and a lot more stress-free. Yep. Um, and it'll have uh shows attached to there, all the all the podcast shows, won't it, and all the transcripts, etc.

SPEAKER_00 29:38

It certainly will.

SPEAKER_01 29:39

So yeah. Head over, yeah, go check it out.

SPEAKER_00 29:43

Yeah, perfect, and we will see you next week.

SPEAKER_01 29:46

Bye bye.