Flip the Script: Turning Setbacks Into Setups For Success!

In this episode of The MrMind Podcast, we dive into the transformative Power of Perspective. Do you often feel like life is happening to you instead of for you? If so, this is the mindset reset you need! We explore how to reframe failure from an end point to a launchpad for growth.

With real-life examples and four practical steps, you'll learn to:

1. Detach emotionally from setbacks.
2. Analyze and extract lessons from failure.
3. Reframe your narrative with resilience.
4. Take meaningful action to move forward.

Discover how every great comeback starts with a setback. Plus, we leave you with a simple but impactful challenge that could change the way you see your "failures" forever.

Listen in, and remember—your origin story is being written with every setback you overcome!

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Transcript

Ryan Johnson (00:00):

The power of perspective. If you're more of a, oh man, the world is happening to me instead of for me, you should stay tuned because I today will be teaching you how to turn your setbacks into setups. Let's go. Thank you so much for tuning in to the Mr. Mind Podcast or twice a week Dose of Lipid. Well, I, Ryan Johnson, your mindset coach for today, for these precious minutes that you chose to spin with us today. The power of prospective. What is that really? What is the power of perspective? Well, first we need to define failure because society, it usually labels failure as an end, but in reality, failure is just feedback. When we rethink failure, it shifts our emotional and mental response to it. For instance, I am not good at this. Say, I am learning how not to do this, and this is something that I have done and repeatedly do on a daily basis.
(01:22)
So parenting is something new to me. It's something brand new to me. So daily, I'm like, well, how can I do this better? I'm not like, well, that's it. Throw the kids away. Looks like I failed as a parent. No, no, not at all. It's like, okay, well, how can I do this better? Same with marriage. Throw this marriage away. No. Do we not argue? Yes, we argue, of course, because we're human. So how can we fix this? How do we make this better? And sometimes the change will be so dramatic on my end, I'm like, okay, well let me change this and do whatever that the next time we argue. Then we come to that point and I say, forget it, whatever. And I put in the patch that I would put in in that instance, and my wife will say, are you joking?
(02:14)
Doesn't even know what to say. She won't even know what to say. Hey, are you joking? No, I figured it out. I figured this leads to arguments, so let's change it. Because continuously doing the same thing over and over and hoping for a different response is, as we all know, insanity. Henry Ford said, failure is simply the opportunity to begin again this time more intelligently. That's a very interesting way to look at it. And we will have setbacks. We will always have setbacks. You will. I will the president, will the prime minister, will everybody here living on this earth will because we need, can't not have setbacks and be successful. That's just not how it works. So setbacks, what they do is they provide clarity and they'll help refine our strategies, what they'll do. For instance, Edison's 10,000 attempts to invent the light bulb weren't failures.
(03:18)
What they were were discoveries of what didn't work. He said, I didn't fail 10,000 times. I found 10,000 ways not to do it. Ryan, how did you get to where you are at golf? I'm not the best golfer in the world, but for someone that never had any experience, Hey, I'm okay. Well, how'd you get like that? Man? I tell you, I would continuously go to the driving range again and again and again. No one else is there, which is me again. Again, again. If you don't have time for it, well make time for it. Now, I'm confident in my drives. Got to work on my irons a little bit, although I think I got a technique now. And let me tell you, you would not believe how many ways I figured out how to not hit a ball. I'm telling you there's countless. So the question is, how do we reframe failures?
(04:10)
Well, let me tell you, there are practical steps, and the first practical step is to detach emotionally because it's so easy to take failure personally. What you want to do is separate your identity from the outcome because it's not who you are, it's just the process that you're going through. Number two, analyze the situation. Ask yourself, what did I learn? What can I improve? Example, a FEL interview might teach you to refine your storytelling or improve your specific skills. Number three, shift the narrative. Reframe the experience as growth. Instead of saying, I am bad at this, think I am building resilience. And number four, take action. Use where you've learned everything that you've learned, the good and the bad, the ugly, and adjust that to move forward. Remember, action is the antidote to fear and stagnation. You have to move. You have to take action.
(05:13)
Don't just think about it because it's easy to think about it. Well, I can just do this differently. I can do that differently. Write it down and do it. Did you know that Oprah Winfrey was fired from her first TV job? She was told that she wasn't fit for tv, but what it did, it didn't destroy her dreams. It filled that fire. It led her to find her purpose as a TV talk show host Michael Jordan. He was cut from his high school basketball team and he didn't quit. We all know that because we all know the name Michael Jordan. That failure fueled his determination to become what we all know him as the greatest of all time the goat. So the four practical steps to reframe, failures are one, detach emotionally. Two, analyze the situation. Three, shift the narrative, and four, take action. Do these, and I promise you will be on your way to reframe your failures into something positive, into something that will help you grow into little seedlets to help you become who you need to be.
(06:24)
And remember, guys, failure is not the end. It's a stepping stone. By reframing setbacks, what we can do is we can turn those setups to success. So question, what is one failure that you've been holding onto? Do this today. Try it out. Write down three things it taught you and one way you can use it to grow. Very simple. Take a look at your failure. Write down three things that it taught you and one thing that you can use to grow. And remember, guys, every great comeback starts with a setback. Whenever I have setbacks, I think to myself, well, this is just the origin story. Flip the script guys, and you'll see how powerful you really are. Thank you so much for tuning in to today's episode. If you can subscribe, that'd be great. But what's even more important is if you could leave the very last person you sent a text message to, if you can shoot a text over to them and say, Hey, I hope you're having a good morning. Hey, I hope you're having a good afternoon and an even better night because you never know. They just might need it. Aloha.