Get the H*ll out of your Way - NOW!: How to Stop Self-Sabotaging and Start Winning

Ever feel like you’re running a race but also the one setting up the hurdles? Yeah, same. In this episode, we’re tackling the #1 reason you’re stuck—YOU. But don’t worry, that’s actually great news because it means you can fix it.

We’ll break down why we overthink, fear looking dumb, and sabotage our own success (spoiler: your brain is playing games with you). Plus, I’ll give you three simple ways to stop blocking your own blessings and start making moves today.

No fluff, no BS—just real talk, mindset shifts, and maybe a few laughs at our collective life struggles. Tune in, get out of your own way, and let’s start winning.

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Transcript

Ryan Johnson (00:01):

Let me ask you something. Have you ever stopped and realized that the only common denominator in all of your problems is you and I understand? Yes, it is a very tough pill to swallow, but don't worry, I am going to wash it down with a very nice, tall glass of truth today. Do not click away. Don't click away yet, because there's a good side about you being the source of all of your problems. You ready? That also means that you are the solution. Let's go. Thank you so much for tuning into the Mr. Mind Podcast, your twice a week dose of living. Well, I am Ryan Johnson, and I'll be your mindset coach for today. Oh, yeah, today, you know what we're going to do today? Today we are talking about how the heck to get out of your own way. I mean, you ever feel like no matter how much you want to change, you just keep tripping over your own dam.
(01:13)
Two fate. It's like you're running a race, but you're also the one throwing the obstacles in your lane. Don't worry, I have definitely been there myself, and by the end of this episode, you're going to have three solid ways to help stop self sabotaging. So let's dive right into it. First, we must break down why we get in our own way. One of the ways is we overthink everything. You ever spent more time planning to do something than it actually would've taken to just do the damn thing. You ever done that before? Lemme just make a vision. Boy, write it out step by step. Watch 15 YouTube episodes about it. Sleep on it. Ask my mom, talk to my dog about it, and dah, dah, dah, dah. Six months later, you're like, oh, wow, I haven't even really started. You see, overthinking, what that is, is just fear and disguise.
(02:14)
Your brain is trying to protect you by keeping you stuck in a never ending loop, and that sucks. Example number two, fear of looking stupid. Oh yeah, this one definitely is a classic. You don't start because what if people judge you? I do want to let you know something. Nobody's thinking about you that hard. I'm sorry. No one's thinking about you that hard. And I'll tell you why. It's because everyone is way too busy worrying about themselves. I used to hesitate before posting content because I thought, what if people don't like it? But you know what? Some people won't like it. That's just that. And guess what happens after the world keeps spinning?
(03:04)
It keeps spinning. Who would've thought? Here's another example for you guys. How about that? How about self sabotage? I mean, you ever notice how you'll start making progress and then boom, you mess it up on purpose? You know what I mean? Things are going too well, and your brain's like, nah, we're going to mess things up today. Today, Tuesday. Perfect. We're going to mess it up just a little bit. I mean, you finally start eating healthy and then suddenly you're like, you know what? You, it'd be really good right now. Triple cheeseburger that Double, double. Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Or you get into a solid routine and your brain's like, Hey, let's stay up until 3:00 AM watching tiktoks instead. That would be a good idea.
(03:58)
And lemme tell you, self-sabotage is just your brain trying to keep you where it's comfortable. And here's the trick, catching yourself in the act. How do we actually get out of our own way? All right, let's talk solutions. Okay? So here are three simple ways to stop tripping over yourself and actually move forward. Here's one right here. You're going to have to catch yourself in the act. You have to do it, guys. You got to call yourself out in real time. And when you catch yourself making these excuses, pause and say, ah, here I go again, but I got you. For instance, I'm going to start on Monday. Nope, that guys, that is a trap. What you're doing is delaying action for no reason. And you'll feel good about it too. Oh, Monday, a little hit of dopamine gets released. That's your body saying, yeah, good boy, good boy.
(04:59)
Give you a little pat on your back. Good boy. Yeah, wait until Monday, guys, stop that right there. Better thought is, I'll start now. Even if it's small. Even if it's small. Here's another way right here. Make it easy. I mean, really easy. I'm talking stupidly easy. I mean, you ever notice how we make things way harder than they need to be? Instead of just starting, we create a full blown strategy on how to start. I'm going to put my foot to the lift and then twist it. No, just walk. Just walk. Want to work out? Don't commit to an hour at the gym. Just do five pushups. Start with five. You want to start a business? Well, don't plan out the next five years right away. Just take one small action today. Very small. I like go by this thing called ready, shoot, aim instead of ready, aim, shoot.
(06:02)
Because my whole life, well, a majority of my life, I did ready, aim, fire, and that got me nowhere. I was stuck at the aim part. I was stuck at the aim part, making it really easy. What that does is that's going to remove the resistance. Here's another way. Treat yourself like a friend. Yeah, try that. Treat yourself like a friend. If your best friend came to you and said, I want to start something, but I don't think I'm good enough, would you be like, yeah, you probably suck. You probably just suck. No, you'd hype them up. Be your hype, man. This is very interesting because we talk to ourselves like that all the time, right? We say, I'll probably fail. I'm not smart enough. No, no, no. Flip that script. Start talking to yourself like somebody that you actually want to succeed. How about that?
(07:06)
And remember guys, your mind believes whatever you tell it, whatever you tell it. So how about this? Start feeding it some better material. How far do you think you can go with that? We definitely have to reframe our minds. We have to understand that we are the solution because that's what we are. We're both the obstacle and the answer. And that's a good thing. Because if we made the mess, that means we can clean it up. I mean, think about it. Everything you want is on the other side of you just getting out of your own way. Lemme tell you a quick story. When I first started the company that I am now doing, man, I was taking forever to do it. I didn't want to start. I was comfortable in the position that I was at until I wasn't. And it's so funny because I laid it for years.
(07:59)
I'm talking two, three years, just waiting, just waiting. I'm going to start it. I'm going to start it. And the thing that really made me jump was my old boss. He pissed me off and then I was like, you know what? Screw it. I'm just going to do it. And that really pushed me over the edge. And I tell you what, man, I was in my head on not wanting to do it in my head. And it's so funny because when it actually started happening, when things started moving, I realized, oh my God, I could have been doing this two, three years ago. I could have been doing my own thing right now, but I didn't. And that was a big realization. That was me realizing, oh my God, Ryan, you are stuck in the aim. People come up to me and say, Hey, Ryan, you going to do the company still?
(08:47)
And I like, yeah, I just got to go over some things and make sure I got to make sure that this is the T is crossed. Six months later, the teeth is grasped, but then the eyes, I could look at the eyes. No, I just had to start. And I didn't realize that I was in my own way. Thank goodness for my other boss man. My old boss man, he was such a jerk. And just one day I said, screw it. And I ran to the dealership and bought my first fan. It's funny because once I stopped standing and my own way, things actually started moving. I use this example a lot because it's so true. The car, when you want to buy that car, that moped or that bike, what do you start to see around? You start to notice that car. You start to notice that moped. You start to notice that skateboard, that bike. And it's because we train our brain to start noticing that stuff more. You start noticing different tires. Oh yeah, that tire is really nice. It's a nice tire. Oh, look at the sparks. It's just how it works. Why? I don't know. I don't know. But that's just how it works. So how about we just apply that same science to what we want to do in our lives?
(10:09)
Ask yourself this. Where am I creating obstacles? And then once you figure that out, ask yourself this. What's one way I can make things easier on myself today? Because it's that simple. You don't need motivation. You just need to stop blocking yourself from doing the thing that you already know you need to do. So let's recap real quick. You get in your own way by overthinking, fearing judgment and self-sabotaging. So the way out, catch yourself in an act, make it stupidly easy and talk to yourself like a friend. Remember, you're not broken. You're just in your own way. And that's the good news because what it means, you have the power to move. Here's my challenge for you. Find one place today where you're getting in your own way. Then do something about it. No overthinking. Just one small step. And if this episode hit home for you, share it with the friend that needs to hear it too.
(11:31)
Thank you so much for tuning into the Mr. Mind podcast. Can you do me a really big favor? No, no, not those two things I told you about before, but how about this text, that very last person you sent the text message to honestly do it this time. I know you hear this a lot, but do it and watch that person light up on the other end. Just feel that light up, right? Text that person. Say, Hey, I hope you have a really good morning today, and I also hope you have a great afternoon and an even better evening because you never know, they just might need it. Aloha.