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Ep 4 - Galentines, Love Languages, and Self-Love: Celebrating Your Way

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Episode Summary:

Valentine’s Day—it’s either cute or chaos, and we’re here to talk about all of it. In this episode, we’re getting into the highs, the cringe, and the expectations around love and romance. We’re sharing our own stories, breaking down love languages, hyping up the power of self-love, and, of course, giving major love to friendships. Whether you’re all about the romance, rolling your eyes at it, or just here for the chocolate, we’ve got you.

  • 💌 The love/hate relationship with Valentine’s Day
  • 💖 Why Galentine’s Day deserves all the hype
  • 🔥 Love languages & how they show up in real relationships
  • 💆‍♀️ Self-love ideas for treating yourself right
  • 😂 Your best (and worst) Valentine’s stories—because we need to hear them

So grab a glass of wine, send a “wyd” text (or don’t), and let’s get into it. 💘


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Speaker 1:

Welcome to Episode 4 of Maximalists Live. I'm your host, brianna, and I'm Tamika. It's our Valentine's Day episode.

Speaker 2:

That's why we're dressed like this. Well, you can't see, I'm in red.

Speaker 1:

And I'm in pink.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and I'm wearing a necklace that says Drew Michael Cute. I have a little heart bow oh cute. And I have heart earrings Ooh, Festive. Yeah, kind of fun. I feel like I look like a little present.

Speaker 1:

Oh, you're gonna get unwrapped later. Yeah Well, I thought it might be fun if we start our episodes like saying something that we did this week that was maximalist. Okay, that could be fun.

Speaker 2:

I did a lot of things. What did you do? We were celebrating Drew's birthday, nice. So let's see. Saturday we worked Sparked in the morning because Drew said we have to do it every weekend. So we worked Sparked in the morning at like 10 am, even though we stayed up late the night before, drinking probably and so then we had to work at 10 until 1, and then everyone was at our house by 3 for his party. Wow.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, oh, just a reminder for our listeners Sparked is your permanent jewelry business.

Speaker 2:

Yes, yes, yes, yes. So we had appointments and then we came home, I had to cook food and then everyone came over, and then we just hung out. And then sunday yeah, I was there? Yeah, you were there I.

Speaker 1:

I don't know why that feels like it was so long ago.

Speaker 2:

It does it feels like it was two weeks ago.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it was just barely this past week. Mm-hmm, yeah, that was really fun. Yeah, it was a good time we stayed up really late. My favorite part was the Olympia.

Speaker 2:

Oh, the Olympia. I didn't make it this time. I was because we just did. I cooked too much already and I was like I can't do all this stuff. Yeah. So we had Filipino food and food and that was good.

Speaker 1:

That's drew's favorite, um and then I committed to come here and do the podcast in the morning, even though I knew I was gonna stay up too late oh, yeah, yeah, and so monday we went to napa oh yeah, monday went to napa.

Speaker 2:

We went to ashes and diamonds, which is a really cute winery. It's like mid-century. They have like a big, huge yellow door hella cute and the tasting actually is like in the middle range, in like the 40 I think it might be some. I think there's like three different kinds. If you want to go there, the place is hella cute it looked cute when you sent it to me.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's really really cute and I like the people. What's it called? Again, ashes and Diamonds, it's really, really cute. But they do have an interesting champagne and, um, they had one other one that drew liked. And then we went ate at a pizza place that's like a local spot and they had like more of the chicago style pizza.

Speaker 1:

Okay, there's like deep dish, you know which I don't know if that's my favorite yeah.

Speaker 2:

So it was just. A lot of people were like I love this place, you know, and for me it was just like it was okay, Like I don't know, I prefer more of the like the Italian style pizza. Yeah, Like, give me a good margarita pizza.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Like that's what I really want you know, and the other maximalist thing I did was Drew and I stayed up till 1.30 watching TikToks and drinking. So now I'm here.

Speaker 1:

I stayed up till 1.30 watching TikToks and drinking.

Speaker 2:

So now I'm here. Aw, mm-hmm, that's sweet, yeah, something like that. But now I'm here real early in the morning.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, mm-hmm, I had a super relaxing weekend last weekend. I mean, the only thing I really did was I came to your house for Drew's birthday. Yeah, and ate a lot of Lumpia, mm-hmm yeah, and a a lot Olympian, and probably the most maximalist thing I did this week was okay. So you know, you get in this, you get in this thing where you're like I kind of want bangs mm-hmm, I know I shouldn't yeah, and so I know I'm a hairstylist yeah, I know this was what clients do.

Speaker 1:

Yes, do it you go back and forth and then you get them and you go. Why did I do that? I was like what about these clip-in bangs?

Speaker 2:

Mmm, so I ordered these like.

Speaker 1:

Bangs okay. Amazon and they are pretty good. Wait you. So you've tried them. Well, I haven't like worn them out, right.

Speaker 2:

Did you take some photos in them or anything?

Speaker 1:

No, because okay. So I I tried them at home. I put them in. I was like, actually these look really good. Um, the thing is, I need to cut them a little bit shorter, I think. And then the other thing that I got was um clip-in space buns, which okay, didn't even know that was the thing.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I didn't know either. I figured you just put your own space buns in yeah, okay, so here's the thing.

Speaker 1:

So I you know I have extensions, and so my hair is pretty much the same length as my extensions. It's just I really need it for the volume. Yeah, I know my hair's not that thick and so I really like to do space buns. That's just like half up.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's so cute, and you have two little ones at the top and I tried to do that.

Speaker 1:

I think it was last year when Brie and I went to outside lands. I don't know if that was last year, the year before, but, um, it was cute. I thought it was cute.

Speaker 1:

It took so long to make them, like, look poofy because I don't have a lot of hair on the top yeah, you really have to like pull them out, and when you put them, when you roll them up, you have to make sure they're not tight yeah, but then they don't feel as secure, so you have to keep fussing with them yeah, it was almost like it's just like you just didn't look as good, and then I feel like my hair is so fine and kind of fragile where I don't want to like, rat it out and do all this stuff to make it look poofier, yeah so, yeah, they have these little clip ins. Thank you so.

Speaker 2:

I'm gonna try them. I'm gonna try them and then I will.

Speaker 1:

I'll give you guys a review. I'll wear them one time. I'll wear them when we record. Okay, and the bangs, I mean not the same time. Yeah, put them on at the same time, I guess I could you're gonna look like an anime girl? Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, so that was my, that was my big maximalist thing.

Speaker 1:

They were very cheap too, I'm sure they are. For both of them it was like under $20. Yeah, amazon too. I'm sure they are. For both of them it was like under $20. Amazon got them the next day. Perfect, so you can do anything, can be maximalist, like that just made me so happy to be like I can just have things anytime I want. Yeah, so yeah, but um, okay. So Valentine's day is coming up in a couple of weeks here and you know, I know, that people have mixed emotions about Valentine's Day, like some people are super into it and a lot of people are like it's just like a Hallmark holiday. But either way, I feel like most people try to celebrate it in some way, whether that's with your spouse or significant other or your mom, your mom, yeah, your daughter, I so I love anything like that we could celebrate, right.

Speaker 2:

yeah, of course, like I would celebrate anything. This is like my favorite thing and I think because to me his birthday is the 17th yeah, like it's always kind of in this thing where her birthdays were always kind of like valentine's, like kind of themed, you know that's, and so I think it's still a little close to my heart.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah, well and ever since Galentine's Day became a thing it's been your thing. I love that.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think that's really sweet.

Speaker 1:

I used to with my high school seniors. I used to throw a Galentine's Day party every year for them and they would come and it was so fun and we did like a little brunch thing and we kind of like deck out the whole studio with decorations and that was like my most excited, like I was the most excited about that. Yeah, every year, yeah, yeah, but yeah, you can celebrate with your friends or even just with yourself.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think that you should not be sad on Valentine's.

Speaker 1:

Definitely don't be sad about it.

Speaker 2:

I think you need to take initiative to not sit home and feel sorry for yourself and be sad about, like, maybe you don't have a significant other or, I don't know, your divorce or whatever. It is Not that that those things are sad, but like no, like pity on yourself If you just want to be as lazy as like watching a rom-com.

Speaker 1:

Oh yeah.

Speaker 2:

Some chocolate, but not in a sad way.

Speaker 1:

Like you know, this is fun, like this is cozy, yeah, yeah not in a sad way, like in a this is fun, like this is cozy, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, make it fun. Yeah, well, and you know we touched on this, you touched on this earlier when we were talking about this is like, specifically when it comes to your significant other. Sometimes valentine's day is sad, not just like if you're single yeah but even if you are married or you have a relationship, because you have these expectations of your partner that maybe you don't voice or say, and it's almost like they don't know that you care about this that much or something. And so then you get sad because you're like oh, they didn't want to celebrate or they didn't plan something so extravagant.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think that I always thought that I wanted Drew to be a little bit more romantic you know, and like I know okay, so these are really dumb things, but I know that some men like take their wives cars to get washed and like they fill their gas up every Sunday and like they bring them flowers every Friday, every weekend and stuff like that, and Drew's just really not that guy. He never really has been. Uh he's. I mean when we go to the gas station together he pumps the gas. But that's nice, yeah, that's nice enough. Like he doesn't make me pump the gas and I don't drive.

Speaker 2:

So I guess that's romantic enough, right, but still, like you know, it would be nice if, like on Sundays, he just made sure my car was filled up Wow. But he doesn't. Because that's just not really him and I think about those just like fleeting thoughts. Right, it's not really like I need him to be romantic and do those kind of things, but he is romantic in a way that like every day when I come home and I don't eat dinner or whatever, he has dinner like ready and warm for me, like he asked me like what time am I gonna get?

Speaker 2:

home, so that like I'm not hangry when I get home and that like I have dinner cause he knows I didn't eat all day probably and he just is really good at like anticipating my needs. So I think that when we decided on doing like Valentine-y things, if I wanted to do something I needed to just plan it and not be like spiteful or like hateful to him to plan it. He was always going to do it, but it just like.

Speaker 1:

He's just like excited about it. He's not gonna go out of his way. That's the thing too. You just have to. I mean, I think that's something with a lot of things are in people in our life. It's like you just have to accept okay, this is just who they are yeah, and he's happy to go.

Speaker 2:

He'll be like well, what do you want to do for Valentine's Day? Some people, they'll just be like oh, I planned this whole thing for you. I have a dress out here for you, I did this whole dinner thing. He's like what do you want to do? And he's like whatever you want to do, it's fine yeah, and he at least wants to do it yeah, yeah, yeah, he definitely wants to do it because there's definitely, I can assure you our husbands out there yeah, who are like I'm not doing that shit.

Speaker 1:

Whatever you want to do, even if you plan it, I don't want to do that. That's stupid, I know so. I mean well, and I think it's from a lot of the stuff that I know about your marriage it seems like Drew is more of like a, an acts of service type of love language, like that's how he shows affection or love to you, right?

Speaker 2:

and I think that that I mean they say this like you, you put out your love language too yeah that's because that's his love language like a gift giving and gift receiving isn't one of his love languages, but it's yours, but it is mine, yeah, and so I think that that's where it gets lost with us a little bit. Yeah, and also because he's like I mean, the only thing you ever want is like expensive things, which is true, because if it's they're silly little things, we just buy them, or like if it's small yeah, it's like what is he gonna buy me?

Speaker 2:

like a shirt, you know. I'm saying like what do we, what are we buying, you know? And so it's like anything I want is like expensive and like you're not buying those on valentine's day yeah, yeah, I think that is so true.

Speaker 1:

Like you, you do like the way that you show love to someone is also the way that you want other people to show love to you, which you have to recognize because well, because it's difficult if you're, if you're, in a relationship with someone you don't have the same love languages, it can easily, you can easily misinterpret things like they don't care or they don't love me enough for the words like or you put in too much effort.

Speaker 2:

Doing like so drew doesn't like gifts.

Speaker 1:

I mean, it's not that he doesn't like them.

Speaker 2:

He just that's not, like he doesn't really give a shit about them, like he could take it or leave it right, so he appreciates a gift. But like, if I do something like that is like this huge gift for him and I thought like, oh, this is going to be so amazing all this stuff. And he got it and he was like I can't believe you got me a gift to like go to school. And he was kind of like upset, like he just kept making a big deal and the kids were like, damn, dad, like you're kind of being rude, which he's not to be like that, and that's so weird. But when the so the class came months later and it was that I sent him and his friend to go.

Speaker 1:

I mean, wait, you said a wine, class wine class.

Speaker 2:

I thought you said glass, no, wine class, oh, class yeah, a wine class.

Speaker 2:

So then months later, when they went, it was like this whole thing. And then we met, like we met them after and it was like you know, you spend time together and stuff like that, and he loved it, mm-hmm. But he was like you're just giving me this gift, because he doesn't really care about gifts, yeah, and then I sent him to school and the funny thing is I got him that first birthday this year again and before I gave it to me is like I know it's me, you got me something stupid. Did give you that you asshole. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1:

I was actually excited to go, but still, yeah, it'll be fun.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it's just super easy to uh to take things that people uh, they show their love in a certain way and then you, yeah, it's like because it doesn't mean the same to you and so it can easily be misinterpreted or you feel disappointed. Yeah, you really, really it's a really big deal for people to know their love language and of the person that they're with. I actually red Ooh, I have to think of. I got to think of the name of it. I'll look it up and I'll put it in the show notes. Um, but there's like an updated love language quiz or whatever Cause you know there's the.

Speaker 1:

The traditional one has five yes and the one that I took. I think there was eight, and I thought it was really cool because one of them it kind of took some of them and split them up yeah, so it's not so like, yeah, like, for example, words of affirmation which is one of mine.

Speaker 1:

Um, in the new updated version it's kind of split up, like I just specifically remember that there's one and of course now I can't think of the name. It's um, it's called emotional, I don't know. But basically it's like can this person have like deep conversations?

Speaker 2:

with you Instead of words of affirmation. Like you, broke it up a little bit more. Yeah, Because.

Speaker 1:

I'm like yes, I do like when someone you think of words of affirmation like they're complimenting you or whatever. I hate that. Just so everyone knows yeah.

Speaker 2:

If you tell me you like my outfit too much, I will Never wear it again. Wear it again. I literally will throw it in the garbage.

Speaker 1:

I know you're stupid. I hate compliments to myself.

Speaker 2:

I know I don't like it.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. Side note, you had that really cute jean dress outfit that you wore at the Women on Top event last year.

Speaker 2:

You've never seen me. You got like 30 fucking compliments.

Speaker 1:

You've never seen me wear it again. I've never seen it.

Speaker 2:

Well, first of all, it's kind of like a special dress. You can't wear it all the time. You can't just really wear it all the time but once a year. I know it's long on me too, so I really have to wear it with heels and wore it actually to.

Speaker 1:

Mexico City. Okay, you only wore it if it's in another country. Yeah, I just feel like it's a nicer, it's kind of a different kind of dress. Yeah, it's a more memorable outfit, so you can't.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I repeat, but yeah, I mean, I do like it. I'm like, oh yeah, you know, I like what people give me comments, but I really don't like. I tell people like I just want to be in the background. I know, yeah, even though I want to wear like I just want to be in the background. I know, yeah, Even though I want to wear like nice outfits that are noticeable because I think that other people should stand out.

Speaker 1:

What's funny. We have a friend like that, who she always has really colorful hair and she, like she, dresses really cute too.

Speaker 2:

So she's so cute. I just love her, she's so pretty and she also.

Speaker 1:

Sometimes she does these like little kind of like glittery, like freckle things on her face Because she is like a makeup artist also and so her makeup always looks amazing. But she is one of those people who's like I don't want people looking at me.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, she gets nervous too. You know she doesn't like it. Yeah, she gets anxiety too.

Speaker 1:

But it's like you're walking around with pink and purple hair and glittery freckles, so of course people are gonna stare at you because you look like a little baby unicorn. Yeah, she's so cute, but I guess, so I get it.

Speaker 2:

That's how you are with your outfits yeah, like I just want to like be me, but then I just don't want, like anyone, to don't say anything. Don't talk to me. Don't talk to me, don't look at me. That's what we always say in our house don't talk to me, don't look at me.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I know oh my gosh, yeah, but I uh, I'll put it in the notes so if anyone wants to check it out and see what. Yeah you could do that with your partner on valentine's yeah, um, and you know, I don't know if there's one.

Speaker 1:

You know how they have different versions, like yeah what are your friends, love languages, or even your kids? Um, that'd probably be good. I think that's good because I I want to do that because you know, I think when my son was little and I would read these parenting books and it was always like your kids just want to spend time with you.

Speaker 1:

And while I do think that that's true and you, you know, should make memories with your kids, yeah, a lot of time and kids do appreciate that, like I know that that's not one of my son's top love languages, for sure time together.

Speaker 2:

I don't believe that that is one of his thoughts.

Speaker 1:

And not just because he's like a teenager almost now, but he's just always kind of been like I don't know. I think like I mean that's like you Right, like physical. I think physical touch is one. He's very like affectionate. He'll like always come up and hug me, or like he'll like hold my, my hand, or he's just like so sweet, like that I love when like older kids, hold your hand that's just so cute. It's so freaking cute, I know.

Speaker 1:

I love it I hope he just always does that. So anyway, that's a really good thing and that's like a obviously completely free thing that you could do on Valentine's. Day, and it'll just kind of give you a little more insight how to show your love for the people in your life all year round. Mm-hmm, yeah, mm-hmm, yeah, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, mm-hmm, that's so cute, yeah, yeah. What about the kids? What kind of do you do stuff for your kids for Valentine's Day?

Speaker 2:

Okay. So here's the thing, because I'm crazy, you know, I know I have always when Drew and I were 15, I went to the dollar store and I got, like these little, I got a basket, I remember, and it had hearts. It was like it looked like a mini laundry basket but it had hearts on it. Right, so cute. Right, I don't even know there was no Pinterest and there's. I don't even know if there's internet. Right, like that, you're looking up pictures.

Speaker 1:

What are we doing right?

Speaker 2:

You know, then, and I filled it up with all these because he loves Reese's cups, no peanut butter cups.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2:

And so I filled it up and then I made these little things where you get a straw and then you put like the peanut butter cup inside and then you get like Twizzlers or licorice and you just like make these little flowers.

Speaker 1:

Like petals with the Twizzlers.

Speaker 2:

Yes make these little flowers like petals with yes and I'm like glowing them and stuff, and then they're all sticking out like this and there's like a bunch of shit everywhere, and then you have to carry it so like soft?

Speaker 1:

yeah, because it's not it will play out and I remember bringing it over. I was like here you go, and he's just like what is this?

Speaker 2:

you know like he's like what kind of you know, crafty, weird shit is this, you know? But no, he liked it, or whatever. Um, and so then I always just did that with the kids, like valentine baskets or whatever. So I do that, and you know we don't really go to like dinner on valentine's day. Yeah, that's the worst.

Speaker 1:

I think, I, oh, I think so too.

Speaker 2:

I mean, here's the thing I love to celebrate it, but I don't want to be out there with the rest of everyone else.

Speaker 1:

I don't want to celebrate with everybody. Also, you can't really like get a reservation.

Speaker 2:

Everywhere is packed, I don't know what movie I saw but one time I saw it where it's just like all the tables are just like one in one and there's hella balloons and you're just like this, just next to each other, next to each other, shoulder to shoulder talking. And then you only got one hour yeah, and you gotta get out yeah and you have to always.

Speaker 2:

They always have like a prefix menu which is like it's fine, whatever. Especially in our small town there's not really that many good places to go. We'd have to go to Napa or Sac or San Francisco and it's like I mean I'm not going to BJ's for Valentine's Day.

Speaker 1:

That's not probably the spot that I want to go to, not the type of BJ we want for Valentine's Day.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah, probably not. So we always did where we would make a certain dinner.

Speaker 2:

We always make steak and scallops, that's just been like a thing since the kids were really little, that we stayed home with them and we did that. And then you know, a lot of times Drew and I would go to lunch or dinner like a couple days before the weekend before, Just like, oh, it's like I love you, Like we just like think, like I don't know, I don't know why we even go to dinner before. Yeah, I mean yeah, you don't really need to do that. I mean you should. If your husband wants to take you, please go, Take what you can get that's a treat.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I mean like that is a treat. Yeah, I think the thing is just not like doing things for Valentine's Day, because you feel like you have't. Also, if she don't like gifts, don't get her flowers.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, do something, but women do expect that.

Speaker 1:

So don't be like in the doghouse.

Speaker 2:

Please do something.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. I think I would rather get a gift that was like a silly gift or like a funny. You know you could get those like those socks with like your face on it or I'm going to get drew the shirt with my face all over it. I freaking love it.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I told him I'm going to get get this and I was like, will you wear it? And he's like, yeah, whatever, I'll wear whatever you want, but I was like you can just wear it when you work out.

Speaker 1:

If you want. Kristen got one of my face thing you can wear all the time and it's gonna say best friend at the top with forever.

Speaker 2:

Oh yeah, that's friends.

Speaker 1:

Forever, never and ever you never gonna get rid of me mm-hmm well, also speaking of friends forever.

Speaker 2:

What.

Speaker 1:

Galentine's Day.

Speaker 2:

Galentine's Day. Yes, I never really celebrated Galentine's, yeah, because I have a husband.

Speaker 1:

Didn't need to. Yeah, yeah, I didn't really need to. Well, and all your friends I feel like are like married.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, but you know, one of the things that I've always wanted to do and I've never done it before was I wanted to have a Valentine's Day party dinner, like a dinner party with your friends, with my friends wait.

Speaker 1:

So just the girls, or, like no, everyone with their husbands. Oh, that's cute and then have.

Speaker 2:

I would make like place cards and it would be super like Pinterest decorated out and all that stuff. But like you know, people do their own thing but maybe they don't want to.

Speaker 1:

Maybe you're saving them from having to do like the whole yeah, valentine's thing. They're like man. Are we gonna do is?

Speaker 2:

that, like I'm in a point in my life where my friends, kids, like when we hang out it's like all of our kids too, and sometimes when I want to do dinner parties like that, I want to say no kids, but like that's not really something that I think is that we should do right now yeah, I mean, I can tell them. And here's the thing I have my niece with me. So who am I to say like, hey, you can't bring your kid.

Speaker 1:

I mean easier, because she, while she's not like very old, she's older. She's not a little kid and she's very mature for her age. Something like you could be like hey, you gotta go hang out in your room.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, but so I think, and I I Think it's hard for them when you bring your kids. Okay, so it'd be like okay, I invite everyone over.

Speaker 1:

Because all of our kids are the same age, right, well, but there's some little. Yeah, there's some little.

Speaker 2:

But most of them like as far as like Christina, tony and Pablo and Brent, like our kids, like you know, they're all like 11 and 12 and stuff yeah, and just hang out, watch a movie or whatever. But it's just like when you're at someone else's house and you have your kid there.

Speaker 2:

It's just like in the back of your mind and like kid needs something or like whatever, like I'd like to have a nice dinner party, but I feel like you should only have it on Valentine's Day and that's just like you know, you can't really do that you gotta spend time with your kids and stuff, so that's my dream yeah, but couldn't you do it the day before on, because the 13th is technically? Galentine's day. Yeah, that's just a thursday night because that's gal.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, that's for like girl, but also that's just like a thursday night yeah, make it special so that uh thing will just stream on in my head forever well, maybe, yeah, okay, it could be fun, it could be really fun. Yeah, yeah, um, yeah, I think, I think that would be cute with your friends too. I mean, obviously you could throw a Galentine's party and I've been seeing on TikTok these like $20 Walmart heart-shaped cakes, yeah, uh-huh, which I'm like I love that and you could just everyone would be like, okay, everyone grab a cake at Walmart 20 bucks and let's just have like a little cake decorating, like vintage cake decorating.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, like that's really cute.

Speaker 1:

We've done a Valentine's Day brunch with all the girls at the studio before and yeah, I mean, when you do that stuff it does take a lot of like thought and effort and you have to really like plan it out and you're getting decorations, and so if that's not your thing, you could I mean celebrating valentine's day with your friends, or like for your friends, or whatever. However you want to say it. You could just like write a little love letter to your friends, like you could just write them a little letter or a car, like make them a card that just tells them like what a great friend they are, and just I think that would be so cute and that's super cute.

Speaker 2:

It's so sweet and I think too, I mean the thing about the Galentine's party it doesn't have to be super elaborate and like crazy, it doesn't you really could just get decorations from. I love sometimes when parties are like old school, cheesy, like little kid, and I think that that's so fun. You just like some plastic tablecloths and it just has like love and like little characters, like you know, and like silly things like that. Like I think that that stuff is fun. You know, also, it doesn't need to be decorated. You come out and someone you say, okay, yeah, it's valentine's day and so, like, wear pink or red. And then you just come over and like I don't know, like I said, watch some movies together.

Speaker 1:

You know, like you could have a little rom-com marathon, just stuff like that it doesn't even have to be like this crazy thing.

Speaker 2:

Unless you want it to be, Let me know and then I'll plan it for you. Yeah, you love that. You love doing that, yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, oh my gosh.

Speaker 2:

I know I do.

Speaker 1:

And you could do stuff too. Like the thing is with, it doesn't even have to be about other people. I mean, it could also be more of like a self-love type of day, and we did actually last year with our email list, we did a whole self-love challenge. That's right, it was like this seven-day thing, and so I mean you can look everywhere on social media. You can look up like self-love challenge or even like journal prompts or this or that.

Speaker 1:

So, like this year, for Valentine's Day, because it's on a Friday which is kind of nice, that's kind of nice. Yeah Well, I'm okay. So here's the thing. I thought that my son had school that day, so I planned this whole thing Like I'm going to take myself to a spa, and I was like, hey, he's going to leave for school and then I'm just going to spend a whole day myself. And then, um, and then I looked at the school calendar, he actually has the day off. So why do they have the day off?

Speaker 2:

well, because it's a long weekend for president's day on that monday, so they have like a four day, yeah what a bunch of like.

Speaker 1:

They can't even give us the day to like, celebrate valentine's day and then have our kids that night. Right, take them. Take them for six hours, please. I know you're like I'm just trying to go to the spa. Yeah, I'm still gonna go.

Speaker 2:

Okay, he can just stay at home or I'll drop him off at your house yeah, we'll be home, since I'm not doing a valentine's dinner.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, no damn it, yeah, so it could just be whatever. I mean, there's so many things that you could do yeah, also okay.

Speaker 2:

So one of the things that I've I mean everyone has seen this and I think it's so funny things that you could do. Yeah, also okay. So one of the things that I've, I mean everyone has seen this and I think it's so funny, and Drew and I haven't done it because I don't know where you paint portraits of each other, that is so freaking hilarious. Like, if you're a couple, sure you could do it with your girlfriends too, because that would probably be funny too, no-transcript. And then just paint each other.

Speaker 1:

It's so fucking funny, yeah, because you can just get those little canvases Cheap so cheap.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, you can get them for like $5.

Speaker 1:

Easily. And use a Michael's coupon also, I don't know if everyone has this, but we have the store um five below. Yeah, always have like super cheap canvases, paint. Yeah, you know, it's not like super high quality, but whatever for this, like that's fun.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, you're just gonna throw those away. You're not hanging those in your house.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, you would, I can't. Oh my gosh, maybe I should do that with Bentley. He loves doing like artsy stuff and you already have all the stuff. I have so much paint supplies at my house.

Speaker 2:

So many, that could be really fun.

Speaker 1:

That's fun. Okay, maybe that's what I'll do. I know Cause last year, cause he really likes to cook and we I wanted to do more like cooking together. Yeah, you should, but his thing is like he, he doesn't like that. He kind of wants to just cook by himself, like he'd rather just cook the dinner and be like let me present this dinner to you at the end and show you what I've done for you um, which is really nice, because then he cooks dinner a few times a week and um, I love that.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it's so nice because, you know, I don't have a husband who's cooking yeah and say it's kind of like having a partner. Yeah, and I don't really love cooking. I don't hate it, but I don't love it. So it's nice that he takes over sometimes.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah, um, oh. So last year I was like, oh, you should like cook this valentine's dinner together, be so fun. And I went to Trader Joe's and they had these heart-shaped noodles and then they had all these like little heart-shaped cookies it was, like, you know, on like a end cap. They had like all this valentine's day like food stuff. So I got all this stuff and I was like, oh, we're gonna cook this Valentine's dinner, it's gonna be so fun. And he was just kind of like mom, I don't want to do that. Like this is cheesy, you know so, you know. So probably we won't do that, but he would like the portrait painting like he would like the thing with kids, I found that you just have to keep doing it.

Speaker 2:

And then they, they find it so normal that you do it. Like I think, with the baskets, like the kids are just like yeah, whatever, now, like, if I don't give them a basket, they fucking freak out and they're 22. Yeah, so for Easter, tamiya, I try to trick her. She knows I'm tricking her, so it's a joke, but I'll be like you're too old to get a basket, you know. And I always tell her, like my niece replaced her, like ah, lives in a room. Yeah, you know, we take care of her. So I think it's like yeah, that's our new person here, so you could just go away. And so she'll just be like Tamika. If you know, if I don't have a basket on Easter morning, I'm gonna be so mad. I'm like like, yeah, yeah, what's so funny? Of course I buy her hella shit all the time.

Speaker 2:

Of course, yeah, yeah, I send her gifts on Amazon all the time. Oh my god.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, that's so cute.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, she's just like. I'm like, oh, did you check your mail and she's like yeah, or she'll be like no and she'll go down.

Speaker 1:

She's like oh, thanks, you know, yeah, you know lately something that I've been buying for my son and I. This is what I'm talking about, like if I get him something expensive or if I get he's kind of like cool, whatever. But if I come home, but I just like saw the gas station on the way home and I get him a brisk iced tea. I'm mom of the year he's like.

Speaker 1:

Thank you so much, so you just have to find out what people want. Just find out what the end. He's just like Thank you so much, mom, and they'll just be so much nicer to me. Yeah, that night, which is so. And he's just like thank you so much, mom, and it'll just be so much nicer to me. Yeah, that night, which is so silly. It's just like the easiest little thing, yeah, so you just got to figure it out.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, yeah, little rewards, yeah.

Speaker 1:

These like little little daily delights, yeah, that are just make your day better.

Speaker 2:

And it's like oh, I know he probably wants One of the gifts that I wanted Drew to get me that he would never know to get me, even because he wouldn't know it existed, and I think this is so cute.

Speaker 2:

I don't know if a lot of people have seen this, but because I shop too much and I look on Instagram too much but, I came upon these people that make ceramics and I mean, you can use this for anything, but basically it's like a ceramic, like it looks like a piece of paper, right. It's like wavy, right, and it's just like it could be like a dish for your jewelry or whatever, and they so to me it looks like a piece of paper, like a ceramic piece of paper, and then they like write whatever you want, like a written note, so cute. And I found one of drew's old cards and I want to put that on there and I so I sent this is me. This is how gifts go in our house. I sent it to him and I was like I want this for Valentine's Day and he goes okay, buy it.

Speaker 2:

Of course, just buy it. Yeah, if you want that, just fucking buy it, okay. You know, like I don't know what you he's like, um, what's it called like pre-sales of them. So they open it up and they do that and it's so freaking cute, we'll post it. We should tag them. I mean it's it's really special because it could be just someone that, like, like your grandma died right, and then you have like this written thing you just have like this dish on your nightstand and you just have your gold jewelry on it.

Speaker 2:

It's so cute. Or to gift to someone you know that it's really special, you know I think that's so cute. Um, so I really that was like the most like interesting gift. You know, we were scrolling on Instagram last night, him and I, and there's these, um, adidas came out with these shoes and the stripes.

Speaker 2:

There's little hearts on them and they're like red and they totally have hearts and I was like every year I don't know why they Adidas and Nike's come out with like Valentine's shoes and I'm always looking at them. A couple of times Drew has actually bought me those, like cause he knows I'm into that or whatever. And he's like, yeah, and he was like, all right, buy it. He was like that could be your Valentine's present here, he knows Like. I'm like I'm like, oh, these are cute. He's like, yeah, those are pretty cute. Just, you should have those for Valentine's. And I was like I don't even want to buy these.

Speaker 1:

Oh, my God.

Speaker 2:

I know I know, Silly. Yeah, it is really silly.

Speaker 1:

I know.

Speaker 2:

I don't think so. Do people go on a lot of first dates on Valentine's? Probably not, I don't think so. Yeah, I don't think so.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I think it's typically more of like a relationship type of thing. Yeah, but if you guys listening, if you've ever tell us, I kind of want to hear some maybe like best and worst Valentine's Day stories, yeah, I can't think of any either that, like Drew and I were fighting.

Speaker 2:

Let me tell you about a Mother's Day. I had a bad Mother's Day one day.

Speaker 1:

And you know actually.

Speaker 2:

I don't even remember what happened, I just remember there was no gift I didn't feel like appreciated or something, and so I don't remember this. It was a couple of years ago, I think. This was like three years ago, and I I remember just being pissed like just so fucking pissed that day and I was like this is shitty Right. And I think those are the times that come in that come in that where I'm like I just wish Drew was just a little bit, would put a little bit more time and effort in this, but when it comes to father's day, he doesn't give a if I do something or not.

Speaker 2:

that's what's really difficult about like that kind of scenario, right, he takes care of me so much throughout the year and drew's thing, because he's kind of a dick. He's like you're not my mom, okay. This guy goes you're not my mom, right, yes, and I'm like, you're such a dick.

Speaker 2:

Okay, so my kids do treat me nice and they are really kind to me and stuff. So wait, so let me finish this story because I think this is hilarious. This is the part. So I say this, and the funny thing is my sister-in-law then says something like a couple weeks later I'm like'm like, oh, how was your Mother's Day? And she was like, say, it went the same way, mind it, mmm. And then two weeks later I talked to my other sister-in-law. I was like, oh, what'd you guys do for Mother's Day? And she was like it was the same way that both of ours went. It was shitty and they were all fucking shitty right once man's three brothers are all fucking shitty right. And then here's the thing they all take such good of us, but I swear those fools are so bad at Mother's Day. I don't know why. And the thing is, and then when Father's Day rolls around, I go.

Speaker 2:

I hope you guys get treated better than we were all treated on Mother's Day.

Speaker 1:

I know that's. The thing that sucks is that I hate that Father's Day is after Mother's Day, because it's like I wish I could, you know, do the Father's Day thing first and, like, set the example, so then maybe you understand. A month later, when Mother's Day could happen that. You know, maybe you should get it together. But it's like Mother's Day happens first, yeah, and then you don't want to be like spiteful on Father's Day and be like, well, man, I'm not doing shit for you.

Speaker 2:

But you kind of feel like that sometimes. Yeah, I, I think, I mean, I don't feel like I shouldn't do anything because I time, so much time has passed, and you're just like whatever, right, uh, but I fuck I, yeah, I, I do appreciate that, like.

Speaker 1:

I Drew, doesn't expect anything.

Speaker 2:

Well, yeah, it is like I and I don't know why I expect anything well, because you birth these children? Yeah, I mean I get that, but I mean Drew has very much taken care of all of us yeah. Right, and so, like my thing is like I don't know why do I?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it should be that my kids, especially now that my kids are adults, are the ones that like you know, whatever, but I don't know, just holidays and stuff weren't that big for like their family. And so I mean they were big like they did stuff and they like had family time, but the boys just like that's just like that, not their love language to, like you know, put in a lot of effort in that area.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

But they're so good in different areas.

Speaker 1:

So it's like, oh, who cares? Well, it's funny, like along the lines of what you're saying, how drew is like we're not my mom, you know stuff like that. So my, so bentley's dad, uh, when we were married, I okay, so I was pregnant with bentley and my due date, which I honestly now can't even remember, my exact date but it was like a week after mother's day he was born on may 27th, was like fucking week late.

Speaker 1:

So Mother's Day came up that year and I was like super excited. I'm like, oh my God, it's like my first Mother's Day. I'm here, I'm like nine months pregnant, I'm about to have this baby in a week it really am two weeks and my husband didn't do shit, didn't do shit for me, like like not even a card, not even like a happy mother's day, like didn't even acknowledge. And I was so upset and so I brought it up, of course, and I was just like so you know, today was mother's day, don't know if you remember.

Speaker 1:

And he, of course, remembered because like he called his mom, his grandma and all this stuff and uh, I mean he didn't say like you're not my mom, kind of thing, but he was like but you're not a mom. And I'm like, what are you talking about? And he was just like I mean you're not a mom yet. I'm like I am, I have a full-grown baby in my stomach. What do you mean? I'm not a mom yet. And that like he was so serious, like he was like I mean you're not really a mom. Yeah, and I was. I never, ever let him live it down.

Speaker 1:

Every Mother's Day. After that I was like remember, when you told me I wasn't a mom, Fuck you.

Speaker 2:

Well, I think Drew's joking. And you know, to Drew's defense too, mother's Day is typically my birthday.

Speaker 1:

That's true Because my birthday is May 7th, mother's Day is typically that weekend.

Speaker 2:

Yes, mother's day is typically that weekend, yeah, and so I'm always doing shit. I got so much fucking shit planned, and so drew's probably like I'm done celebrating this bitch. I'm so fucking done with these gifts she wants to do or these trips she wants to fucking take. Like, let her kids take care of her on mother's day. They can do whatever that is so.

Speaker 1:

That's so true. Yes, yeah, I didn't even think about that yeah, my birthday, your birthday is so close.

Speaker 2:

My birthday is typically like Mother's Day weekend.

Speaker 1:

It's within, yeah, at least like oh my.

Speaker 2:

God yeah, so it's like a weird time too.

Speaker 1:

So my birthday is always like a week and a half. It's a week and a half before Valentine's.

Speaker 2:

Day yeah.

Speaker 1:

So we would always kind of run into that situation where it's like you just had your fucking birthday and my birthday's like just barely a month over Christmas and it's like okay, we did the Christmas thing, a month later we did the birthday thing and now, two weeks later, we have to do the freaking Valentine's Day thing. I know, and so it sucks when your your birthday it does.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I think it does.

Speaker 1:

So, my brother, my brother, my son's birthday is on Halloween which I think that's super fun, like, I think, if your birthday is on Halloween on.

Speaker 2:

New Year's and 4th of July. I think if your birthday is on Halloween, on New Year's and Fourth of July, I think those would probably be the dopest, like kind of holidays, like always fireworks, always something to do. You dress up Like those are kind of cool birthdays, I think. I just hate having a winter birthday, I know, I mean even mine. In May, you don't? It's usually hella, fucking windy. I have hella bad allergies.

Speaker 1:

Like it's really bullshit too. Yeah, I mean I would like to petition for a new birthday, july or august, even though it's so fucking hot yeah, but at least you have so many options of things. Yeah, you can do so many things.

Speaker 2:

I mean I think that's why people take trips on their birthday. Yeah, so they go to the climate that they want to be at. Yeah, right, smart, yeah.

Speaker 1:

I mean last year I went to mexico City and it was so fun, it was so hot and it was like amazing yeah, that's perfect yeah well, if you guys have any ideas, um of things that maybe things you are doing to celebrate Valentine's Day, or things you have done that were really fun, let us know. Yeah, you can shoot us a DM, as always, check us out on Instagram at maximalistlifepodcast, and let us know. We'd love to hear about what you guys are planning to do.

Speaker 1:

Or even if you have like a best or worst Valentine's Day story, like a cringe story, yeah, one of the cringey stories, yeah, and we would love to share it. We'll share it, obviously, anonymously, but and we would love to share it.

Speaker 2:

We'll share it, obviously anonymously but yeah, let us know, we'll read it. We'll read it and put it on our next episode. I can't wait to hear what people say.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, it'll be so fun, okay, so thank you guys so much for hanging out with us on this special Valentine's Day episode of Maximilist Life, and we will see you next time, next time. Hope you're having fun. It's up, dicks out. I got my tits out today. I don't have my dick out, though.