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Maximalist Life
This is Maximalist Life, with Brianna Gamble and Tamika Stringfellow. This unfiltered podcast is your permission slip to chase after everything you damn well desire.
Join us as we dish out no-holds-barred conversations and invite you to step into a life filled with limitless possibilities. Forget fear and embrace the maximalist mentality with us every week.
Get ready to experience piss your pants laughter, cringe-worthy truths, and be inspired to break free from living a mediocre life.
Maximalist Life
Ep 15 - Orgasm Gaps & Women’s Pleasure: Why Are We Still Faking It?
In this episode, we’re getting real about the orgasm gap—why it exists, why so many women feel the need to fake it, and how we can start changing the narrative. We’re diving into the stats, the social conditioning, and the personal stories behind this all-too-common experience.
- 📊 The surprising (and frustrating) truth about orgasm inequality
- 🎭 Why faking it does more harm than good (but why so many still do it)
- 💬 How communication can make or break your sex life
- 🔥 Practical tips for having real conversations about pleasure
- ❤️🔥 Why mutual satisfaction matters way more than checking a box
- ✨ A little nudge to explore what you actually want—no shame, no pressure
Get ready for an honest, unfiltered, and maybe even a little spicy conversation. Let’s close the gap, one orgasm at a time!
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Speaker 1:I'm Tamika and we are here to talk to you today about the orgasm gap, the, oh, the orgasm gap. Yeah, why are we still faking it? Are bitches faking it? Yeah, oh, they are. I think so, have you faked it? Yeah, for sure, oh, no. So I mean here's the thing. Sometimes, because I don't want to hurt their feelings, like I mean here's the thing. Sometimes, because I don't want to hurt their feelings, like I feel bad if they're like just trying so hard and I'm like, god, all right. And then other times because, like, I just want it to be over, and they're like on a mission, like no, I'm not going to stop. You're like can you finish already? Yeah, so I'm like oh, that's so great, you know.
Speaker 1:And then it's like but then it's so awkward too, if anyone ever asks you when they're like refaking it and you have. They asked you you're not doing a job. Yeah, over here, like, oh, that's good coming right. Yeah, I'm done. No, I think I do a pretty good job acting. But then someone asked you well, I think I do a pretty good job acting. But then someone asked you Well, I think it's because I, I just think I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1:Okay, I think it's just because, yeah, let's not fake it. Let's just tell Don't fake it till you make it. Let's tell them how to do it correctly, mm-hmm, right. Well, it's kind of, because it just reinforces these bad habits, and then they're going to do the same stupid shit every time and think that that's what you like. It's kind of like when someone cooks you dinner and then you pretend like you like it. So then they cook it for you all the time and you're like I fucking hate this shit. You have to just be a little honest. Drew gets upset when I tell him I don't like things, but I can't just keep eating this for you. Drew michael so like.
Speaker 1:I think that goes to show like, yeah, if I don't like it, don't do it. Yeah. And then you're not. I think it's respectful because you're not like wasting his time, like he's not just making all the shit that you don't even like. Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I really think that women should just say like okay. So, for example, a guy's eating you out oh okay. It's licking your little clit oh my okay. And you're like or your big clit, yeah, your enormous one, sure, why not, if you want one? You know it's like the size of micro penises and he's like almost hitting the spot, but not quite there. You should just be able to say like just move a little higher or just move them, yeah, up, right here, right up, right here, right here, right. Here's a spot where. Here's a spot like you should. But I think women are embarrassed. Well, you don't want to look, you don't want to be like needy, yeah, but here's the spot, like I here's.
Speaker 1:The thing that I think we don't understand is guys want you to tell them, yes, they want you to direct them. We're not here to waste people's time. They don't want wasting time. Yeah, he's wasting his time. You're wasting your time. No one's gonna come. Yeah, what are we doing? Where's the come come? Not, when is the come coming? It's not coming.
Speaker 1:If you keep going down that little spot right there, that's not working for you, that's not it. Oh, yeah, they want us to tell them what to do, how to do it, like they. They are like yeah, don't make me guess. Like they hate that. They have no idea what the fuck they're doing, and every woman is so different too, and what might work with one may not work with the other, and they know that. Yeah, yeah, they're just going off of like experience and maybe what they're doing with you, that isn't working and you think it sucks. Maybe that did work for someone else and that's why they're like yeah, it's my go-to move. Yeah, and you're like that's no longer, no longer needed. Take it off, the whole fucking menu sucks. Send it back, yeah, return.
Speaker 1:I read this stat. That was like a little statistic. You know I hate numbers, I know it's easy, it's not a math problem. Okay, 95% of men this is strictly a heterosexual relationships. So 95, sorry, yeah, 95% of men say that they orgasm like every time or almost every time that they have sex. Okay, but women, it's only 65 percent of women, which I actually think that's pretty high. I was thinking the same thing. I'm like 65, I was thinking, I was thinking it was going to be below 50 for sure, actually, just, yeah, well, they're saying every time, like almost every time. So, yeah, that is high, I think so, mm-hmm, mm-hmm and these I don't have the exact statistics, but it said for in same-sex couples, the gap there is much smaller, which makes sense.
Speaker 1:I mean, you have the same body parts, so that's true. So you know, kind of, you know what works for you a little bit more. Yeah, and I don't know what it is. This like the male female dynamic is just so different for some, like if you're a guy and a guy you're on, I don't want to say the same level, because that's not what I mean, but you know what I mean. The same understanding, yeah, or like, if you're a woman and you're with another woman, maybe you feel like more comfortable talking to them about Especially women, like women, women, right, that's? Yeah, that's what I mean. So, whereas and even with guys, it's like so much easier for them to come anyway, they probably don't even need to talk about it.
Speaker 1:There's dry jacking all over the place. I love me a good dry jack. Just kidding, I think there's like just I think part of it is there's so much misinformation out there. Like even porn, okay, like porn makes it seem like women can, like all women can just come from penetration alone. That's how it seems. That's the number. I think we've looked that up too. It's really low, low number. Yeah, I think it was like under 30%. Yeah, actually do that, which is pretty. That's not a lot of women. No, mm-hmm, you got. You gotta have a little stimulation. Most needs some clit stone.
Speaker 1:Yeah, extra, yeah, well, extra on the outside, yeah, yeah, so, and then you have to figure that out too, because then they don't know how and there's so many moving parts going on down there already, and then you have to add another like extremity down there to like get everything going. And you're trying to concentrate, like he's trying to hit it from the back and like finger you like nicely, and it's like nicely, it's just like a lot of like shit going on, you know, like we're all trying to, and so he's holding you up, yeah, and he's trying to push into you and he's trying to finger you and you're trying to push back to holding yourself. Oh my god, it's like you know, that's exhausting. Yeah, that's a lot. Yeah, it might be easier. Just put your toy down there. That's what I do. Yeah, where's my toy? Yeah, where's my toy. You're just screaming it out there. Come on, just hand it to me. Just scalpel, yeah, just hand it. Okay, so stupid.
Speaker 1:I mean I think, uh, it's also like they, you know. I mean we've talked about this before but, like you know, like women should be givers, it's kind of like this whole thing where I think it's like men's pleasure in sex is prioritized, where women's pleasure is optional. Yeah, it's that whole thing like we were bred to, like, you know, serve our masters, oh my god. And we were bred to, like you know, serve our masters. Oh my God. And we're supposed to like be on our knees sucking that dick hard. You pocket pussy.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I do think that, like you know, a lot of times for men they just they don't really know how to please women, so we just take a backseat to it. Yeah, and you know, we, and especially in early on in relationships, or if we really like the guy, yeah, we just kind of we're just quiet about it and we're just like, yeah, I mean well, because you don't want like okay, say it's your first, or like first couple of sexual experiences with someone. It's like, of course, you want it to be this like magnetic connection and like seems so effortless, like oh, we just had the best sex, it's like the beginning of this relationship. You don't want to be like having to have all this communication in the middle of it and like troubleshooting as you go, because it just seems a little clunky, and so I think that's why we just kind of let it go, because you're just like it's fine. It's fine, yeah, it's so great, yeah, it's.
Speaker 1:It's not like how the books, like you're not just like coming together every time, like you're coming at the same time, right at the end, when he says you should come and stuff like that also. It's not like movies, where you he just comes inside you and the girl just like hops off and she's like all right, goes on with her day, like this bitch is leaking out, where is she going? That she's just walking around the house leaking semen all over the place. You know, and I don't think that men really realize like cum comes out of us for three days. Okay, because here's the thing. We have talked about this in our friend group with the boys and I had said it and drew was like no, and I told the girl, I said christina, veronica, is this not true? And they're like yeah, and it seemed like the boys had no fucking clue. They don't, and we're over here just dripping cum for three days and they don't even know what's happening.
Speaker 1:So you know what I do now when that happens to me. It happens to be two to three days later or whatever. Because here's the thing I have to wear panty, all panty, liner, all the time, because there's always just fucking come coming out of me. I text you and I go well, all your come just came out of me so you could deal with it with me too. Okay, I literally take care about All your come just fucking shot out of me in the middle of a shoe, like I'll say something like that, like just like super he's and yeah, it's like all fucking came out. Yeah, just like when I sneeze during sex and it came out. Yeah, so I, when I sneezed during sex and it came out, yeah, so I mean I tell them that and your husband should know, because I mean this was a more recent like conversation that we had maybe five, seven years ago.
Speaker 1:So this whole time men, our husbands don't know that your cum is just constantly coming out of me for three days, that I have to wear a panty liner for the rest of my life now, because of our sex. That's an inconvenience, hello, for the rest of my life now, because of our sex. That's an inconvenient, hello. Why is it not talked about more? Yeah, shit, I don't like to do the panty layer. I just shove a little tampon in there and then just soak it on up, just soak it up, and then I can just throw it away. Yeah, but it doesn't still comes out three days later. You gotta like really, just that's all out right after. That's such an inconvenience too, the fact that we have to do that. I just sit down the toilet, I just spread my lips and just, and then I gotta wear this tampon for three days. Uh-uh, that's what I'm talking about. I'm actually getting mad now. Fuck this bullshit.
Speaker 1:So we have to fake our orgasms. Deal with your cum. This sounds like a really good deal. Yeah, sounds fun. It sounds like a really good deal. Yeah, sounds like a fun one. Okay, because I'm tired of this. Oh my god, sometimes you go, yeah, that's your stuff. Now you took it. Well, yeah, you took. I don't give a fuck what you do with it. Do whatever you want. No, I can't. Okay, wait, I have a question. Okay, wait, you were going to say something. No, it already flew out of my brain. Okay, are you Okay? So it reminded me too.
Speaker 1:And I think it's funny because, like, I'm like you know, suck in, and then the cum comes and I go, yeah, and then I get. I have to like, uncomfortably, get off, like this is the thing about sex, it's so silly, right. So then I'm like getting off the bed and it's like this huge bed, I've got to go, and then I'm just like, and I'm like spitting into the sink, and then sometimes I think that's not very sexy of me. No, no, it isn't, yeah, it's just like. And then I'm like brushing my teeth immediately, like that's just what I do, that's just like what I do. And I'm like and I asked her, I was like, does it bother you? And he's like, look, I don't give a shit what you do with that shit, it's yours. As long as I can put in your mouth, I don't care. Okay, so this is what I do.
Speaker 1:Okay, so what I do is dependent on how selfish the guy is. Oh, okay, yeah, so like, let's say, we're doing stuff or whatever, and I and he just seems very selfish about the whole sexual experience. Then if I'm sucking his dick and it gets to that point, I just spit it back on him, I just let it. It comes out in my mouth and I just, I just open my mouth and I just, and I just let it go back all on his dick and then he can run to the bathroom and clean it up. That's so fucking, because I'm not fucking running to the bathroom, because here's what happens when it's in my mouth and I'm running to the bathroom. I'm running the bathroom and it's like swishing and I go, and then I'm gagging, I'm fuck you, nope. So it depends on how much I like him or not if I will spit it on him or spit it in the sink. Either way, I will not swallow it.
Speaker 1:Yes, one time recent, more recently, I decided I was gonna swallow it, right, and I drew like looked at me it, I go, I swallowed it. He goes. His eyes got big, he goes, you did, yeah, like that, it was a surprise. He couldn't believe it. And then I was thinking like maybe I should just swallow it, like his face was enough for me, like he was kind of excited. Oh, my god, I like that reaction. You know me, I like the reaction, yeah, um, and so then I was like I mean, it wasn't horrible, it wasn't horrible, I don't prefer it. I just, you know, I really like to just spit it out. Yeah, yeah, I love spitting it on them. That's so much better, it's so messy. That's what you get. That's what you get. That's how I think of it.
Speaker 1:Okay, so one of my first like one of I know, here's all this like little cummy cum and my spit all over you, and then it could just be like dripping down your sides and stuff. Like you, you hold it and run around all crazy and clean it up, like, if I do that, like, yeah, I'll walk to the bathroom and then, after I rinse out my mouth, then I'll get you something to clean it up with. That's what these fools do. Yeah, that's true. Yeah, it depends, it depends on the guy. And like, like I said what the situation is, yeah, this guy, but, um, oh my gosh, I was gonna tell you something. Yeah, you were, I just keep it's just slipping right out, and you were the one that was talking. It wasn't like I interrupted you, you were actually going on like you're, like whatever you're gonna say, and then you just stopped. Oh, my god, oh, okay.
Speaker 1:So one of my very early sexual experiences. So I was probably, god, maybe 17 or 18. It was like one of the first times I ever sucked a dick and I didn't really know what I was supposed to do. And then he didn't say, like he didn't warn me when he was going to come in my mouth. You have to warn. That's so fucked up, that's sexual assault, it's really unfair, it's so rude. That's why he didn't spit on you. Yeah, well, I didn't know. And then I felt so like I was so scared, I was like I didn't know what to do, and so then I did swallow it and I was so grossed out. I just remember I felt so dirty for like days after that, like I was like I just put this inside my body and I felt so gross about it and I was just like I'll never do that. You're freaking out.
Speaker 1:I tried it a couple more times since then and then you're like this is my preference. I just don't like the spit is my preference. Yeah, yeah. I mean, I just don't understand why I can't swallow. I can't get, I can't get myself to swallow it. It's already in my fucking mouth, yeah, so why can't I just get myself to, and then I don't have to have it in my mouth? The thing is it's if I was just continuously sucking it and swallowing it, it wouldn't have to be chipmunking to the bathroom. Chipmunking, yeah, right, like chipmunking. Yeah, you know, holding your mouth. It would be easier if it just went. No, it's just the texture. Yeah, this is a bit slimy, but but if you eat my pussy, you get it all over you. No, that's what you get. Yeah, that's not sexual assault. That's not sexual assault. No, no, yeah, you're welcome. Look it up, eat it up, look it up. Yeah, I mean so.
Speaker 1:I think we definitely need to stop feeling like we're selfish for wanting to have an orgasm when we have sex. Yeah, I mean, what's the point? Why are we not? Yeah, I mean, yes, penetration feels good and all the sex feels good and stuff like that. But I mean, why does he get orgasm and I don't? It's not very fair, that's rude. Yeah, I think it is rude. Well, and it should be. I mean so.
Speaker 1:I mean there are some guys who are it's like it's their mission to make sure that you come and it's like they won't come until you do mm-hmm, and I think that's really nice. Yeah, I mean, that's how my husband is. I think you want to make sure like we're both getting like something good out of the whole situation. Yeah, that is how it should be. Like I mean, I want drew to come. Yeah, you're not. Like I hope that you don't, but what? Yeah, not that the guys think that I mean they want to sue too, but like they're not willing to always put in the work. Yeah, yeah, like men that don't eat their wife's pussy is crazy to me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I had a friend. I had a friend this is a really long time ago and her husband was like, nah, I'm not doing that, like never, never, ever. He was like I just do, I don't like that. I'm like, well, was she expected to suck his dick? I don't know, I don't know, but I think she did. Yeah, she did yeah. If he was like, yeah, you better. But yeah, I'm like that's so weird to me.
Speaker 1:This is like, yeah, this is like a mutual thing, like that we're saying we want to do together. Why is it that you get to get off? And I don't? Yeah, I think there's I mean recently especially, there's been more like kind of resources out there, like little educational sites and things like that, and I think we always say, like guys need to take classes, they need to get a sex coach. I mean women do too. I mean women need to not be a dead fish. I mean we say this all the time yeah, I don't. Yeah, you can't just lay there, do nothing. Yeah, I mean you need to be able to arch your back a little bit. Yeah, I get something. Yeah, I mean I have seen women they can't even arch their backs and then they're just like or you know, I get the comment too a lot when I'm telling women these boudoir positions, they go you must have really good sex.
Speaker 1:I do, because your position, like you know all the poses and I'm like, I mean, I know how to arch my back, yeah, sure. Also, we're not doing these poses in the bedroom. How can I do this pose in the bedroom? How is he going to sit his pose in there? Okay, but I do have to tell you something kind of silly, okay, and so sometimes okay, so, like if I'm having sex, especially if it's like like a new guy or something, like there'll be times like if, okay, if they go to the bathroom or something, and then you're like waiting on the bed for them, not that I'm in like a boudoir pose, but like anytime I'm just laying on the bed, I will do a little like it's like in my head to do something to make it like oh, I know I can make my butt look bigger like this, or I can like, you know, and I always think like I'm just doing these little boudoir poses and it's so stupid, but I'm trying to make it look really casual too.
Speaker 1:He comes out and you're just like on your knees with your straps out like this full boudoir. Pose you ready as I am. You're on the doggy style one, are you just like? You're just you're repeating what I always say okay, left knee on right leg off left hand, more, point your toes and arch back. Yeah, and by do, and I do this like if they're behind me or something. I put my hair back, put your hair in the back and like all this stuff. I always just think of all these stupid things and I laugh at myself. Yeah, yeah, this is so dumb. Yeah, what am I doing? I Well, I mean, that's what we're trying to do. It makes you feel sexier. It does Like if he's behind me, I'll put my hair in the back. If he comes back to the front, I split it and put it back in the front. I'm like I gotta frame my face. I can't believe you think about these things I do. That's so stupid. But you know, I don't think it shows. I think they don't know If that's what you like, who cares? They don't know. You feel better that way, then just do it. Yeah, yeah, who cares?
Speaker 1:There's a I think I mentioned it before. It's called OMG, yes, yeah, the little, the sex where it's like tutorials, right, and I haven't. I haven't like signed up. It it's like tutorials, right, I haven't I haven't like signed up. It's a little. It's not a subscription you get one time and then it's like a little website that has like all these little videos, graphics, like whatever, and I think there's like there's real women on there who are they're like getting interviewed, but I think they actually do like.
Speaker 1:I think they like finger themselves and like show, like, as they're talking, oh, they're trying to do like showing you on a real person, like this is what's happening in this, like in that scenario, is it, or is it for both? Like she's like fingering herself for like a woman, to see like you know, this is how we do it, or is it for, like a man? It's for a man? It's for them or for their partner? Like for, okay, not for yourself. Yeah, not for yourself. Yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1:I think the whole point of their website is like partner education, which it looks pretty cool, and I'm sure there's stuff. It's not just women focus, it's for both. Yeah. Well, I feel like the only things I've seen and maybe just because I am a woman is like the ads that get targeted to me. I only see them with women. I don't know if there's men on there, but I mean, how much education do we need to to get a guy to come? I mean, yeah, I'm sure there's some, yeah, there's some things we could learn and take away. But, yeah, don't a little corn on the cob, no, please, yeah, yeah. So if you want to buy your husband that for Father's Day OMG, I mean, it's a couple months away or his birthday or anniversary, please buy my gift card for yeah, I don't, it's a couple months away or his birthday or your anniversary, please buy him a gift card for that. Yeah, I don't know how much it is.
Speaker 1:If you need, like a little extra help in the bedroom, yeah, I read some of the little testimonials and they were just like, yeah, like it was nice to watch the videos together. It's something like you would do together and then you could talk about it, and it's kind of cool. I'm like huge advocate in listening or watching things together, so that you like have a place to start. Like you know, yeah, it's not just you going like I really want you to do this, it's like, oh, we're going to like watch and learn or listen and learn and stuff like that. So I think that's really, really good for couples yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1:Or single guys that need to watch how to like. Please a girl better, please, yeah for you. Sorry, god, they gotta learn, but how do they get their penises bigger? I don't think that's where a lot of guys have a problem. I don't know what. They need their penis to be bigger. That's true. They just needed to watch these tutorials. To do other things, yeah, if your penis isn't big, that's okay, but you gotta know how to do all the things with it and with other body parts. Yeah, sometimes I just feel bad for you. You deal with the small penises and then, on top of that, they don't know how to do what you do. They're not that good at other stuff, too, and I'm just like what am I doing here? Yeah, what are you doing Before? I think I'm going to, I'm, I need to make a tutorial and then send it to them.
Speaker 1:Oh, a map of your pussy too. This is where you go for this, and this is where you go for this, and this is the hot spots right here. It's like red and it's like the hot spots like a ding, ding, ding, yeah. And then this is where, like, cold, cold, cold, cold, cold, or you're getting colder, don't go hotter, hotter, hotter. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, make a list of like do's and don'ts. Mm's a good idea. Just make them a little welcome guide, not the welcome guy. You're the video showing? Yeah, you're the video. Like the lady. Yeah, it's educational, only educational purposes. Yeah, it's not sexual. I'm just showing you so that when the time is right, you're not gonna look like an idiot.
Speaker 1:I wonder what would have happened in life if we had, like you know how cars have, like manuals, if we would have had those in our lives and like, when you marry someone or you start a relationship with someone, you just present them. This is my manual and this is how all of my Like the manual of Tamika, this is how all of my functions work. Oh my God. And Genius. You have to so you can figure out which buttons to press and which ones to not. I'm gonna start one. I love it, yeah, yeah, I'll make it in Canva, so it's really cute and it has lots of photo examples.
Speaker 1:Yeah, is it that your husband or partner should be trying to maximize your experience too? Absolutely, yeah, so, like you guys should have manuals on each other and how each other work. It's hard to keep that all up in your brain, but if you had a notebook of it, you could just go back. Yeah, let me look at my notes first. Yeah, let me go to the table. Okay, so I need him to do these things. Where where do I go? Oh no, that is so funny. That's really smart. Yeah, it should be for like all aspects of your life, like not even just in the bedroom. No, that's if I yeah, if I'm not talkative, it could be A, b or C. I'm really hungry. Yeah, that's what I think Mad at you. Yeah, yeah, it's like for your whole life, damn, yeah, that would be great. That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:Like you get in a relationship and then here's your manual. It's just passed to you. Yeah, it's like your dowry Dowry. Yeah, is that? Oh, like you get money and you marry someone, but you just get the manual. You get the manual, we'll figure it out. Yeah, wow, that's a really good idea. Yeah, I should have been writing one of my children. Like you, the parent writes it. Yeah, it starts. It's like a baby book. They start as a child and then when you turn 18 or 16 or whatever. Then the kid starts to write it too about their own manual, relationship or whatever. Then the kid starts to write it too about their own manual and then it's just like you send it off with the, the new partner. It just grows with you over time. Wow, maybe I just started a new thing. Yeah, yeah, write your own life manual.
Speaker 1:Needs to just try some new shit. Figure out what you like, be direct about what you like with your partner and partners. If you have multiple, I was trying to throw the little apostrophe S, wait, not apostrophe, just S, no S. Parenthesis, parenthesis, oh my God. Partners I'm going to go with a Z. Partners, ooh, sexual partners, sexual zebra partners, so stupid.
Speaker 1:Yeah, tell everyone what you want, tell everyone how to stimulate your clit and if you need like a pulse or a vibration, just a rubbing, what do you need? Which one, which one? Let them know. Let them know. Rubbing, the tapping, what is it Sucking? Yes, yeah, the sucking, the licking, the flat tongues. Do people know that? The rubbing, the tapping, what is it Sucking? Oh, yeah, yes, yeah, the sucking, all the things, the licking, the flat tongues. Do people know that these are all the options? Some do. Do men know that these are a ton of options. All you have to do is Google it and just go read through some Reddit threads and you'll be a pro after that. That's all you got to do. I don't know if they know there's option.
Speaker 1:It's not just this like a little cat which is like licking the milk. Yeah, yeah, that's the worst. Yeah, just a little. This is a little tip, just like I. It's nice, for in between it can be a transition. Yeah, you don't have to just powerhouse it for yeah, yeah, but switch it up. Switch it up until you tell I tell you this is what you're doing, you're doing it right. And then do not stop doing that. Yeah, don't change. God, girls just say that it's right there so they don't move too. Like also telling them what to do, but also telling them what's good is like that that is good. Well, and then that's part of aftercare too.
Speaker 1:The debrief, your review. I love getting Our Google reviews. I like to get a review. I like to do a little debrief. That's what's going to be in our manual too. There's reviews in the back that men have gone in and reviewed us and they tell you like she gets crazy if she does this. God, I'm really liking this manual.
Speaker 1:She's kind of a bitch when she's hungry. You might have a lot of bad reviews if you're mean, yeah, that could be, that could happen. All the reviews in the back yeah, damn, those are the tips and tricks from previous partners. Men would have horrible ones too. Oh, they'd have the worst reviews. And bitches, I feel like can do a lot more descriptions than the boys oh, we'd have the worst. And bitches, I feel like can do a lot more descriptions than the boys. Oh, we would be writing novels yeah, it would be awful. Or guys would just be like she's a bitch, yeah, that's it, that's all. How would the boys ones go? They're the bitch. Oh, the boys the ones.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the men's manuals oh my God, probably. Oh my God, yeah, you'd be talking about everything. Well, see, and I know that I am an overly sensitive person and so little things that people do bother me they like irritate me when they're just regular things, and it shouldn't irritate me, but because I am a little sensitive, it just really gets on my fucking nerves, yeah. And so I think if I were writing the reviews on these guys, I probably would sound a little psycho or petty, like I'm just writing all these little quirks and things. That just piss me the fuck off. But really it was just like he ate too loud and he breathes all the time. Yeah, it's just like these little fucking things. Someone would write that in your manual. She's really aggressive in the manual writing, so I don't know if you want to date her. Yeah, oh my gosh, she is easily annoyed. So just FYI, yeah, I mean.
Speaker 1:So the takeaway today is that we need to have owner manuals for ourselves, because we can't seem to just tell our partners things. Sometimes. Write it down. If you must Write a letter, write a letter to your partner saying here is how to pleasure me better. That's the title and send it with a naked photo of yourself. Oh my God, yeah, that's a really good idea. Yeah, say like I really want you to do whatever and then send a really sexy photo with it.
Speaker 1:This is what you could do, okay, okay, let's hear it. What you're going to do is you're going to go into your notes on your phone and then you're gonna do voice record. Okay, okay, record it so you can just talk. Just say the things. It doesn't have to sound great, it doesn't need sound put together and just be like I don't like it when you do the fucking rabbit pounding and blah, blah, blah, blah. I need you to do this more little. I say all the things and then just copy and paste that into chat, gpt, and say, like, write an empathetic and loving letter to my husband and say these things in a better way. And then just copy and paste it and then it'll spit out this perfect letter you can give to him. And then you just take your little selfie, send it off. Yeah, I like it, I'm sure he'll love it. He's going to be like this bitch is crazy. This bitch just gave me a review. Don't make it too wordy, I know. Just tell him one thing. I'm being a little facetious Compliment sandwich. I would do that. Yeah, you would. I know Compliment sandwich.
Speaker 1:I told you that time whenever I had this boyfriend in high school and I wanted to go to that time, whenever I had this boyfriend in high school and I wanted to have a talk with him about stuff. Like he was really pissing me off and I was like let's have this talk. And so we had this whole conversation and I said you know what? There's so many things I need to talk about. I think that we should write a list of all the things we hate about each other first, and then we come into this little meeting with our list and then we could talk it out.
Speaker 1:God, dating you is exhausting. It's funny. What a nightmare. Yeah, I mean, I was like 17, yeah, and I was like what you were doing at 17? Yeah, what a manipulating bitch. It doesn't seem fun. No, I was not a fun girlfriend. Oh, I think I would be a fun girl. I think I'm a fun like girlfriend, wife now, but not with my first husband. I wasn't very fun with my first husband. I with my second husband, I tried to be fun, but he wasn't fucking fun with stuff. So, uh, but yeah, when I was younger I was not fun, very toxic. Well, now you're a good time girl. Oh, a good time girl, yeah.
Speaker 1:But yeah, I was like let's write all the things we hated about each other. And then I went off and I wrote a list of like 20 things and then he came back and he had like two, yeah, and I was like you didn't even write, and he's like I don't really have anything I hate about, and the things that he said he hated about me were like that I don't spend enough time with him, and all the shit that I said was like really mean stuff about him and all that shit that you said it was like festering in you. Huh, yeah, you just couldn't stand. You played too many video games and just all these others, just like it was all about him and how I like, basically don't like him at all. Yeah, it was so sad. Yeah, so it's kind of really nice of you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I definitely would do the chat. Gbt letter about this is a nicer version right of that, right, right. Yeah, that's what I would do. I just like direct feedback. I need a partner who also enjoys direct feedback. Yeah, I mean very direct and wants to say everything yeah, we have. You have to really like to talk it out. Here's the thing. Does it hurt your feelings, though, when they say these things to you, or no? I mean, it depends on what it is.
Speaker 1:So if we're sitting here talking about, like, if it's a sex thing, I feel like I was constantly asking my ex-husband, because he would never say anything. He was just like yeah, I just like everything. Yeah, I like everything. And I'm like how could I suck your dick better? And he would just be like I don't know, but are you the type that just keeps asking yes, yeah, I hate that.
Speaker 1:I'm like come up with something, just say something. So you're the one that's like are you okay? Are you okay? Oh, my God, you know I hate that. No, I would just be like can you just like? What are the things that I do that you really like? Is there anything that I do that all good, like you can't like everything the same amount, right, and he's just like, yeah, I mean, I do. So. I'm like, yeah, I want you to tell me so I can fix it.
Speaker 1:Well, he was doing those other things with other girls. Yeah, so that's why he didn't need you to do those. He didn't need it. Yeah, well, and I think too, now I would really like feedback, because I'm not as reactive as a person as I used to be. I used to be extremely reactive, and so you say something, I just pop the fuck off, yeah, about it. So it's like don't come at me, don't. And I was really defensive, whereas now I'm a lot more self-aware and a lot more like empathetic towards other people, and I want to be the best version of myself for that person.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so yeah, but anywho, let us know if you guys have any, any fun stories, or tell us actually tell us if you would write a letter to your partner letting them know how they can pleasure you better. Yeah, and let us know if you're still faking your orgasms, please. Yeah, let us know if you still are doing that and why we won't reveal our sources. Yeah, promise your secret is safe with us. Yeah, shoot us a DM on our Instagram at maximalistlifepodcast and we will see you guys next time. Hope you're having fun. Tips up, dig out, thank you.