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Ep 17 - Your Sunday Scaries Survival Guide
Episode Summary:
We’re here to kick those Sunday Scaries to the curb – you know, that pre-Monday anxiety that makes the end of your weekend feel more stressful than relaxing. Let’s turn that feeling into a “Sunday Reset” that actually leaves you feeling refreshed and ready for the week ahead.
- 👗 Plan ahead for outfits, meals, and your schedule without letting it overwhelm you.
- 🧘♀️ Create simple, enjoyable Sunday rituals that help you embrace the end of the weekend instead of dread it.
- 🌿 Make your "Sunday Reset" a calm, intentional routine that brings peace, not stress.
- 🏡 Set up your space so Monday feels like a smooth transition, not a chaotic mess.
- 📱 Cut back on doom-scrolling and constant email checks that just fuel your anxiety.
- 📅 Spread tasks throughout the week instead of trying to do it all on Sunday.
- 🧘♀️ Shift your mindset from "Sunday Scaries" to "Sunday Relaxing" and take the stress out of your weekend.
Let's make Sundays something to look forward to!
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ready, we're ready. Guys is everyone ready in five, four, three, two go fuck yourself all right, welcome to maximalist life. I'm your host, brianna, and I'm tamika, and today we are talking about sunday scurries, the sunday willies. I hate it okay, but first we have a, we have a question, we have a special guest and it's a question okay, the question for today is what reality tv show, what do you think that you would win or do well on, and which one do you think you'd be kicked, kicked off immediately?
Speaker 2:okay, so I couldn't win any of the wilderness ones. I was gonna say survive what's it called survival, survivor, survivor, survivor, immediately or like alone, the one where you have to just go up there and just like you have to get, like your own food, like all those things, like I cannot, I don't even want to go to the grocery store and get my own food.
Speaker 1:No, I just Instagram everything, yeah. So I definitely I'd be honking the horn Get me, yeah.
Speaker 2:Get me. Yeah, I don't know that's what they do. We're not going up there and like the one that's like alone or the one that I watch.
Speaker 1:They have to like create their own house. Yes, yes, right, that's the one alone. And then you have to like make your own fire every night so I I'll die immediately.
Speaker 2:The running joke I believe in gender roles. So all those things the boys have to do I'm not doing anything we're going old school caveman, you got to go out there and hunt and you gotta go out there and find my shelter.
Speaker 1:I'm not doing any of that, I would do it. I just don't know how to do it and I don't really want to necessarily, but I would like I would do. Okay, fine, but like, probably not yeah, I'm just my thing is like I just can't be out there and have no access to like pizza yeah I'm not. Yeah, I need to just eat some like shit food.
Speaker 2:You know, eat some round table.
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna have some. I'm not gonna like go out and like grab a fish out of the fucking river and eat it like, what am I doing?
Speaker 2:yeah, I'm not cutting it up, scaling it, doing the whole thing.
Speaker 1:And then I gotta put all my shit up in the tree so the bear doesn't get it and like go fuck yourself, just eat it. Yeah, no me too.
Speaker 2:I'm calling the producer and say you have to come get me, send the helicopter, be prepared, bring pizza. Yeah, I need in and out as soon as I land, like for those marvel people that when tony stark got, you know, kidnapped or whatever. The first thing he's like I need a burger that'd be me yeah we're now.
Speaker 2:It's like. You know, do you ever go to like? When you come home and then you like get off the plane and you're coming from the airport, the first thing that we do is we go to in and out our family always goes to in and out every time.
Speaker 1:There's like a little tradition yeah, we're like where's in and out? Yeah, yeah, uh, let's see a tv show that I think I would do well on, or when I I do well on like trivia type shows, I would be horrible. I don't necessarily think I would do well on like jeopardy.
Speaker 2:I mean, I try my best when I watch it, but man they're so fucking fast with those clickers and uh, what's the one with the letters, oh, will of fortune oh, I would kill that will of fortune but I would do stuff like on. I could do well on like price is right, also these are game shows.
Speaker 1:I just realized these are not reality shows, but whatever I mean, game shows are reality shows.
Speaker 2:They're real time. Yeah, okay, but they're like scripted the game shows.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like it's like this how it goes, like, oh, I have a host and they're like a reality show.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but the thing that is half right. I mean, I get that, but it's still categories. I think it's a reality show. I show a reality show under the same umbrella because the things that is happening are real, like with the what are they called? The contestants. Yeah, yeah I think, um, or like I'd be good at I think I'd be good at like family food, these are all. Oh, I'm so good at family. Yeah, I'd be too like.
Speaker 1:I'd be knowing all the number one. I don't even need my family to come, I'll just go by myself. I'll just like skip to the next, like I'm the next person. It would just be person feud. I would just put on a different hat, yeah, and then just go on the next little spot.
Speaker 2:Um, okay, so reality shows.
Speaker 1:We're talking like I don't know, like Love is Blind or like, but what's one that's not like a loved one Dating Real World?
Speaker 2:That's so old school yeah, but it's not like a competition, no but it's just fine, that's a reality show, it's just like which one would you be good at? You'd be good at just living with people. You see what I'm saying, like we said, like the ones that we would be bad at would be like the ones that it's still like a competition. Yeah yeah I don't know how does the greatest race one work, like they do puzzles, or they find things, or do they I?
Speaker 1:I literally have never yeah, I don't think I've watched that one so yeah, I mean the dating ones I don't know, I don't know. Yeah, I, I like there was this show I don't know if it's still on and it was like um, you say there was people in a house, okay, and then all of them, each person, was, like, related to a famous person, but you don't know what famous person they're related to, and that's like the point of the game, is you like?
Speaker 1:you have to guess, and so there's like these different clues throughout and then people get like kicked off and I would always guess who, like I was pretty good at guessing who they were related to based off the clues or just like whatever. And then the other one I feel like I'm good at that I guess is also a game show. I I don't know is the Masked Singer.
Speaker 2:I usually could guess the person.
Speaker 1:yeah, but I also hate that show. It's so annoying.
Speaker 2:I hate their costumes. This is so stupid. It's so dumb. The costumes to me are the ones that I just feel like I don't want to watch this.
Speaker 1:This looks so dumb, oh you know what, when? I would definitely be the best at what, but it better be good, brianna. It's going to be so good On Jimmy Fallon when they do the lip sync battle. Lip sync battle. I would kill that, yeah, yeah. If I don't have to like actually sing, I could just like perform.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would be really bad at the Voice or anything that American Idol yeah me too. Me too, yeah I can't sing.
Speaker 1:No judges turning their chair, they're actually running. Didn't even make it to get invited. You didn't make it past audition. No, what? Yeah? But okay but reality slash game show. Whatever you want to call it that I would. That would be like the most fun. My most favorite show even though, like I wouldn't be good at it is the British baking show. That's my favorite. That's your favorite. That's my one of my favorite shows ever.
Speaker 2:I just want to like be in the tent and I just want to like talk to the people and be like one of the little hosts I think I'd want to do like a iron chef iron chef, is that what it's called where it's just like the two, but they're, yeah, the iron chef, because they're already famous chefs. I want to be in there with a what's that guy named the, the white guy that does the science. What is his name?
Speaker 2:just say it no the other, the science one. Oh, it starts with a, his name starts with a. Yeah, he always does the sciencey things, whatever. And he's like asking him, like so what are you cooking?
Speaker 1:and I want to be with them, like yeah, bobby, what?
Speaker 2:are you making? Over there, you know what kind of things I want to be. I want to be with them, oh my god I just want to be a producer on cooking shows. Yeah, that'd be fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I think that would be a fun thing. Also, I always wonder, like, how much food do they get to eat on there?
Speaker 2:like are they eating any of that? Oh, I think they're eating all of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would, yeah yeah, I mean so I do like to watch some shows on, like when I'm kind of winding down at night, especially Sunday nights. In today's episode we are talking about Sunday scaries. So today we're doing a Sunday scaries survival guide. So okay, first of all, what are Sunday scaries Like? What are Sunday scaries to you? What does that even mean?
Speaker 2:The realization that you have to work tomorrow morning, yeah, realization that you have to work tomorrow morning, yeah, just like thinking like tomorrow is not another like day where there's these things that get to happen tomorrow is like back to reality. Back to reality not necessarily like at a job that, like I.
Speaker 2:I mean, for some people it's probably like a job I don't want to be at or whatever, but for me it's just like at a job that your job is mostly like you're forced to do Right, because if we were all rich, we probably wouldn't have the jobs we have.
Speaker 2:Right you know what I'm saying? Yeah, so really, it's just back to reality that you have to go to a job, whether you love it or not, or whether you like it or not, and they want to go to their job. But for most of us, if you're thinking about Sunday scaries it's that you have to go back to a job tomorrow. You don't get to just do something fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's like this anxiety, Like because usually Mondays for people are stressful. I mean, yeah, I mean I am a Monday, but yeah, you're pretty stressful.
Speaker 2:That's what I said. I think I give people Sunday scaries Fuck, but fuck our mondays. How many times have I texted you monday morning? It's the wi-fi is down.
Speaker 1:Uh, the client was late due to traffic.
Speaker 2:So you know everything. Everything is like a hot mess. There might be a wasp in the studio, you know it's like there's no power, it's like the computer won't turn on, it's like everything.
Speaker 1:So that traumatizes you, so that you just are like what's monday gonna bring yeah, it's like anticipation of like bad things that could happen also, just like knowing that monday and like that's the beginning of a week. It's not even like that's all you're like.
Speaker 2:Oh my god.
Speaker 1:I have all this stuff I have to do starting tomorrow and I was reading like it's also people like grieving over the weekend being over. It's like, oh, like the fun days are over, you're sad because you don't get to have any more fun days for like five more days after this or whatever, whenever your weekend starts.
Speaker 2:The thing is I actually really like Sundays. Oh, I do love Sundays Because that's my relaxed day, that's my day. Like I know I'm probably not going to get ready. I don't have to put makeup on, I don't have to get out of my sweats. I'm probably going to hang out with my friends if they end up hanging out. Otherwise, I know like Sundays we usually have mimosas and we just like hang out.
Speaker 1:Chill. Yeah, I mean same. I think for most people Sundays lack a lot of structure, which is nice and relaxing. I think in the mornings, like Sunday mornings, are my favorite.
Speaker 2:Sunday afternoons I like, and then but then I think it gives your mind too much space to wonder, and then that's when things can start to snowball, and then you're just like, oh my God, I have so much to do this week you start thinking about work because, like I think, our brains will start to prep automatically, you know subconsciously, just like prepping for tomorrow and all of our needs or whatever, and so I think that we start to just be like, it starts filtering in one by one. I got to send this email to this person. I got to like to this person it's just I gotta like call this person, I gotta do this.
Speaker 2:And then our head, our brain, just starts filling up with just those things, and then yeah, there's, like all the things, it just like piles on top of each other, and then you're just like, then you can't even.
Speaker 1:You can't even enjoy your sunday like you can't even relax and like whatever.
Speaker 1:I don't even relax and like whatever, I don't know. It's tough, like I think that's why, like, sunday morning is a little bit more than the afternoon, but also like, okay, there's things you could do. So I mean, I think, like, in order to avoid the Sunday scaries, I mean it's like you have to plan ahead. I mean one thing that I do try to do, because the one thing that really stresses me out during the week is like picking out my outfits. Oh my God, like I cannot be a day of I'm not a day of outfit picker. Um, because I get too stressed out and right, and because it stresses me out like not only because I'm not good at like quickly putting an outfit together, but also, you know, know, half my laundry is just on my fucking bed, and so it's like I gotta like find shit.
Speaker 2:And then it's like, depending on what I'm wearing, I might need a different bra, or you know me, I have to get my responsibilities done, so sometimes I push them off, like I really should do my responsibilities on Friday so that.
Speaker 2:I have. I don't feel like that, but sometimes it's like my responsibilities don't get done until Sunday night. But I know, and that makes me have the Sunday scaries, because I'm like thinking about like, oh, I need to fold this whole load of laundry. I got to put it away, I got to like do all these things, and so then I'm like, okay, I then I know that my responsibilities are like give me anxiety, and then that's because it's leading up to the day that I have to go to work and it's like all these things we pile on top of ourselves oh yeah just add so many layers of stress onto ourselves and I mean I think that's where I just like.
Speaker 1:It's just crazy in my head all the time yeah, I mean like for me yeah, the outfits I gotta pay, I have to like. I don't do this every week. I mean ideally. I've been trying to do this for a while, but yeah, obviously every week it doesn't happen. But I try to like in the beginning of the week, like okay, get all my fucking outfits together in one little section in my closet so I already know like this is what I'm wearing each day. And then if I need to get anything else together or wash anything else, or they also like steaming it, steaming it or ironing it, if it's required, like I don't want to wait till the morning, I have to be doing shit, like that, yeah.
Speaker 2:This last week I tried to the last two weeks I think I tried to pull my outfits at least the night before, so I'm not thinking about it in the morning.
Speaker 2:I don't know why I think my brain has been so tired every morning and I just need that Like I don't want the rushed, and I just need that Like I don't want the rushed, I just don't want the rushed feeling. Yeah, so I've been trying to just like pick my outfits out. I mean, it only takes like 10 minutes, but then I can just like not think about that.
Speaker 1:Not use that.
Speaker 2:And that goes back to what I said before how minimalists with their outfits, having a uniform, they're able to use more brain power, like because they're able to use more brain power, like because they're not worried about their outfits every morning and they don't think about it and they don't need to, and it's like I'm going to wear this outfit and they don't have to even think about it the night before or the sunday before. They just have this uniform that they wear and they're like it doesn't matter I'm just gonna wear.
Speaker 2:This is a cute outfit that I decided I'm wearing monday through.
Speaker 1:And that's it. I'm going to wear my Steve Jobs black turtleneck, yeah, every day.
Speaker 2:And because here's the thing, okay, this especially for me in here, like I try not to really repeat outfits, but I see different clients every single day yeah, it doesn't really matter I could, except for, like, if the makeup artist sees me you know the two makeup artists like, and what would that matter?
Speaker 2:but to me everyone would think I was wearing a different outfit. Yeah, so it wouldn't even matter. Or if I just had one outfit that I wore monday, tuesday, wednesday, th Thursday, every week, you know, that would solve all my fucking problems too, but you can't, you can't do that. But I respect those numberless that like do that because they get to use their brain in a different capacity than I do, and that is like a huge benefit to having like a capsule wardrobe and if everything just like goes together and it's easy.
Speaker 1:You just pull whatever and it goes. It's like alright, whatever, but still even with a capsule wardrobe, I still feel like I would still be like trying to like. You're still putting together outfits. I guess I mean like a minimal yeah, minimalist version of a capsule. Yeah, yeah you literally just grab a top and a bottom like you're not layering stuff you're not like, so I mean you can never do that. Sorry, yeah, no.
Speaker 1:I would feel so frumpy. Yeah, I think so. Like planning ahead for outfits or even food, like planning ahead for the week, because nothing is worse. Okay, well, I know that you like you're you not only like to uh dress for how you feel that day, but you like to eat dinner for how you feel that day too, which fucking stresses me out, that you don't just plan your meals ahead because because you're like I can't, because then I might not want it.
Speaker 2:I never want to eat that yeah. Drew, I mean, you feel like that, but Drew is so fucking frustrated with me that he has to ask me every single day. What do you want to eat, babe? Or like I'll be, like I don't care, but then I'll come home and be like well, I don't really want these, but I'm gonna eat anyways, and like yeah.
Speaker 2:I'll eat it, but he doesn't want to hear me complain. He doesn't want me to not eat the things that I want to eat after I've had, you know, a 12 hour day, you know, and so he's always just like okay, what do you want to do?
Speaker 1:what do you want to do, see so for me? Uh, I mean, because you know we're not all lucky enough to have a husband like that.
Speaker 1:Um, I gotta, I gotta, plan the dinners you know, and so I mean, I know I plug this shit all the time, but hey, that's why my hello fresh comes in handy. And so I just spent and I've been doing this too, like okay, because usually on hello fresh so they bill you every week and so you just pick the meals for the next week ahead of time and then they, they ship it to you so you have your meals for the whole week or whatever. But lately what I've been doing is like in the beginning of the month I just pick all the meals for every week of the month, so I don't even have to do it every week and then, just in the beginning of the month, I have a calendar reminder of like yeah because that too would like add to my weekly, like sunday stress of like I gotta plan shit out better
Speaker 1:yeah, it's just like I mean, because I think you can do up to like six deliveries in advance, and so I'll just do as many as I can in advance, um, so I don't even have to worry about it, and then, so that's better for me. I don't want to think about it, I just want to like come home, be like all right, this we're reading, um yeah, because too stressful.
Speaker 2:I mean even drew like he's been doing it all these years. And he he said look guys, I need help with dinner. He said, if everyone can pick a night and then I'll do two nights.
Speaker 2:But it would just help me a little bit. And the thing is, is he's not against helping me cook? Like on Fridays I'll be like well, I don't know what I want to cook, and then I'll figure out. He's like OK, well, I mean like I'll help you cook or I'll go to the grocery store. So I just try to like no, I'll do everything. Like you take a rest. Today, if I'm really stressed or I have a lot of shit going on, maybe I might ask them to like help me cook, but I haven't yet, yeah, and so I'm just like no, you take a rest, I'll take care of it yeah, don't worry about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I've been telling Bentley like asking him okay, I need you to cook at least two nights you need because he could do the HelloFresh dinners. So easy.
Speaker 2:So I'm like I need you to cook two of them a week, like come on. I got the other five, but shit yeah, help me out, help a lady out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, and one day a week. You know he goes to Bible study every Tuesday night with his friends, and so every Tuesday night I just usually eat pop tarts for dinner okay, I just do some type of girl dinner. I eat cereal or pop tarts for dinner every Tuesday night, so and I am so okay with that, yeah um, whatever you're comfortable with, and then you can do your like whatever scary stuff.
Speaker 2:yeah, with your, with my Pop-Tarts.
Speaker 1:I love them, just the chocolate ones, yeah. So planning I like the s'more ones, yeah, so does Bentley. It's like sometimes I really like the s'more ones and sometimes I'm like, eh yeah, you're just like it's too rich. It is, yeah, it's not, I don. It's planning your meals ahead of time. I would go as far as you plan your hairstyles and your makeup if you wanted to. So I try to plan that too. Like I have decided that my hair wash days are Monday night and Thursday night. Yeah, before we record my, my hair wash is Thursday. I have to do Thursday night because we record, yeah, the podcast Friday mornings and I don't look like an idiot, and then I feel like my hair is washed for the weekend in case I go do anything which I normally don't do a lot of stuff and I have not been going on dates for like months, but that's kind of how it was, like I'd be ready to go, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then I know that by Monday, like I've just been doing, monday is hat day and I think at the studio for most of us Monday has been hat day for the past like few weeks.
Speaker 1:I'm too tired to think Mond hat day for the past like few weeks, I'm too tired to think. Mondays most of us come and we're wearing our little pink door hats or beanies or whatever type of merch we got going on, and so, uh, I'll wash my hair that night, because I usually have shoots to like Tuesday, wednesday. So I'm like, okay, I'll put together, because I've been trying to be more like take behind the scenes stuff. So, anyway, just planning ahead for like hair wash days, like literally anything, anything you could possibly plan ahead for do. Also, I like to check my whole schedule, like my work schedule, my personal schedule, make sure there's no like conflicting appointments or that I didn't forget to schedule anything for the week. See if there's anything with my son that needs to be like whatever coordinated or something. Yeah, I think planning ahead, but also like not panicking about it, like all right just plan ahead.
Speaker 1:But also don't be so stressed if for some reason, like, let's say, you were out doing something that Sunday and like you didn't have time to get all your outfits ready for the whole week, okay, I'll just have tomorrow's ready yeah, it's fine, it's not like do your best and uh, that'll help a lot.
Speaker 1:Um, also, I think well, when we have a lot of time because, like we're talking about, sundays are kind of not structured we tend to do stuff like doom scrolling and we're just like scrolling on social media, you get, and then you, I don't know I get weird like anxiety when I'm on social media for too long, or I get like upset over stuff, or like I see too much news shit on Facebook and I'm just like, oh my god, this stresses me out.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm not even like having a fun time now it's weird because, uh, you know, social media or scrolling doesn't stress me out like it doesn't.
Speaker 2:I'm just like whatever. It just doesn't really affect me the way. Like I always ask people this, they'll be like oh, I cut social media out of my life or I'm off Instagram. Okay, so what are you filling your life with? Like it better be something that you're reading these like self-help books, or you better be like you're you, you're utilizing that, but if you're telling me you're just watching more tv, that's the same thing as scrolling to me like if you're, I don't watch.
Speaker 2:If you're just watching a show, okay. Well, it's just an entertainment and entertainment on a screen.
Speaker 1:To me, I think it depends on the reason. So, if people are saying like, they're trying to say like oh, they cut social media. Yeah, I think it depends on the reason. Like, if they're trying to act like oh yeah, I don't, I don't do social media anymore, it's more of like a like I have better things to do, then, yeah, that's annoying. You're just replacing it with something that's really similar, but to me, like it's equally a waste of time for me to watch netflix as it is for me to scroll on social media, but watching net Netflix gives me zero anxiety or stress yeah, I mean, I guess, if it stresses you out, social media will a lot of time.
Speaker 1:Just I don't know how to explain it. It just it's like this weird and it's mostly Facebook. It's mostly, I would say, I have less issues scrolling on Instagram. Uh, because I think there's so many targeted ads on Facebook and I don't know. I just feel like they're just I don't know there's so many targeted ads on Facebook and I don't know, I just feel like there's just I don't know, there's just too much shit on there and it gets it just like clusters up my mind with too much stuff. Yeah, but even like checking emails and shit like that Like I try to because sometimes it's just a habit Like I'll just be like checking emails, checking our messages for work, and it's's like why am I doing this on a Sunday? We're closed. We don't.
Speaker 1:Nobody is like there's no emergence, there's no photography emergency happening that I need to be checking emails, um so like trying to limit stuff like that, so anything that like adds like don't start working before work starts yeah, you don't have to get so far ahead.
Speaker 1:I think just making a priority list or like making a to-do list for Monday, so that you know like, okay, once I get in tomorrow, I have my priorities already set up, I have my schedule for the day. I think that is takes down the anxiety a little bit, because you already know when you get in, you know what to expect and you'll be able to like knock stuff out. But yeah, not getting ahead on work on Sunday, for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you don't need to get ahead.
Speaker 1:No, I think too, like if you can create some Sunday rituals that you really love, that will help you, I think. So there's things, okay, I think there's like two things. Some one is like the things we're talking about right now, like planning ahead or like preparing for the week or whatever, will help your anxiety. But the other thing is the like making more of an effort to enjoy Sunday and to like kind of make it last all the way till Sunday night, like let the weekend be the weekend yeah, and just like I have mimos and stuff like that's what I look forward to like we'll get up, we have mimos, we eat something yummy on.
Speaker 2:Sunday.
Speaker 1:You know something like that yeah, something just like a little fun, like we usually like we order donuts on Sunday, every Sunday morning that's like our little thing. We just like get donuts. It's just like this little thing, but it just makes it feel like I don't know. It's kind of like our little tradition is something to look forward to, but it could be something you do at night. Or maybe you have like a family game night that you do on Sundays and it's like okay, no one has their phones out.
Speaker 1:We're just like this is time to just like connect as a family or whatever, and spend time before we're about to all like go different ways on Monday morning spend time before we're about to all like go different ways on monday morning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, one thing drew and I do that's kind of inappropriate, but we uh, we make it like it's like a big sex night for us. Oh my, yeah, like we do everything, we spend like extra time together, like we're just like this is like like I don't know, so then it relaxes you to go to sleep and get a good night's sleep you just have a sex marathon on sunday it's like sunday night.
Speaker 2:We just have like this, like big, like sex night oh my god sunday snack, sunday dessert that's what he says, and so he's always like I'm ready for my sunday dessert and so we just do all the things at night, like that's the night. We know, and maybe putting that in place too makes it, so it takes pressure off, like having to do it, like thinking about doing it during out the week. Sometimes you know you got one underneath your belt at least where you're doing all the things. You know the other ones maybe there's quickies or whatever it is. You know. Yeah, you know you're doing all the things that night and it's just like something to look forward to.
Speaker 2:Every sunday we're just like we're gonna do all the things tonight, I know, and then because I know every week that's coming, maybe if you're like an anticipator, like worried about sex or something you're not so worried about it. You're like it's a fun night.
Speaker 1:It's always just a fun night together oh, that's a fun one yeah, yeah yeah anything that can make you look forward to sunday night, I think is great, and then try to get all your planning shit done before that so you can actually like end enjoy that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they enjoy. Yeah, yeah, otherwise you're like I gotta get all these things done before I start sucking his dick you better hurry it up.
Speaker 1:Yeah, hurry it up three minutes and under uh, even like setting up your environment to be better. So like, okay, when I get up early in the mornings and I come downstairs, my worst thing, the thing I just freaking hate the most, is I come downstairs and there's like dirty dishes in the sink or stuff just like not put away. It, just it really does not start my day off well.
Speaker 1:So like especially Monday mornings, but really like Any day when you have dishes in the sink Any day, but really like day when you have dishes in the sink any day, but really like especially work days, I'm like I want to come downstairs because I have a certain amount of time to get my get like kind of like admin work done before I need to come into the studio, and so that time is needs to be really focused. So when I come down, so like what I try to do is every night especially again if it's a like a work day the next day try to make sure like everything downstairs is clean, and especially on Sundays I try to like extra clean it, make sure everything's good, like set up my coffee maker. So when I come downstairs all I have to do is press the button.
Speaker 1:I don't really have to do the timer in case I, like I don't know, oversleep or something so I'll just like I just want to press the button, get my computer running and get going. I don't want to like if I come downstairs and then I can't really focus and then I'm like I have to start off my day with like doing dishes oh, I would fucking kill myself.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I would go right back to bed mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:So I gotta set up my environment to be like it needs to be. It needs to feel like relaxing, so it's not one more thing added to your plate that you have to worry about.
Speaker 2:It feels stressful, it feels stressful if there's like I think that's why I talk about like doing my responsibilities Sunday night, because I can't go into this next week with fucking laundry basket full of clothes or all my clothes on the floor from the following week because I was too lazy to put them away, or like I just set shit down in our room. Like I feel like I have to like get that shit together.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like if it ends up being like that throughout the week, like sometimes that happens and that's not good either, but I get anxiety like going into the next week with all that.
Speaker 1:Like yeah.
Speaker 2:It's like just like I might as well have all these clothes on top of me, just like trying to walk through the next week like trying to walk through the next week, like weighing you down yeah, I might as well be carrying the laundry basket, well, you know, and doing all these things because it's I can't even. I don't want to even go into my room at night because it stresses me out so I'm just like I just got to get it all done by Sunday. Yeah, yeah otherwise it's not fun, no, it's not fun.
Speaker 1:Yeah so yeah, it is super important for me to have even with my bathroom.
Speaker 1:Like you know, I try to do a good job like cleaning up my bathroom every day, like after I get ready, but sometimes you know you're kind of rushing to get ready and you're like, yeah, you're just like fucking throwing shit around, so you kind of have like makeup and shit all over your whatever sink and stuff, and so definitely Sunday nights, I'm like, okay, my bathroom needs to be clean, trash is gonna be taken out, everything needs to be like set up yeah, I um, I was calling it my Sunday reset.
Speaker 2:It's like you just reset your whole life real quick, yeah, and you reset your house a little bit and you start from the beginning, even though it got a little messy throughout the week and it's okay, but that way it resets your brain. It's like you reset yourself so that you're gonna have a good week and starting yourself off. So I'm like I gotta go do my Sunday reset real quick, yeah.
Speaker 1:And I think you can make your Sunday reset ritual like fun and you're like. I know, like I have, you could be like I have a Sunday reset playlist that I put on and I do all this stuff you have like specific podcasts.
Speaker 2:You listen to our podcast. Our podcast.
Speaker 1:Yeah, maybe you just put on a little maximalist and then you just you know you're cleaning your house, getting all your shit ready. That's what you guys should do.
Speaker 2:Okay, put it on your, put it on your list, just like something to make it more enjoyable yeah, do whatever, and our like your whole family is like involved, like we clean out the fridge we drew, is like can we clean out the fridge, or whatever and I don't think my sister-in-law saw it and then so heard him say that or whatever and so I'm cleaning out the fridge and Fabi looks over and she goes. You know, I just appreciate that this is happening as a group. Like this is, you know, like this is like a thing that you guys are working because it is easier to like talk through the fridge and like be like because we cook a lot, so sometimes we have a lot of leftovers yeah whatever, and so we try to like get rid of it at the end of each week to make sure.
Speaker 2:And then, of course, there's dishes to be done, because you just got rid of you know 10 tupperwares, you know with different sauces in it or whatever. Right, so I mean doing those things together. It's helpful too. You don't feel like, oh god, I have to clean out this fucking fridge by myself. You're like your husband helps you a little bit. Or you're just like, hey, just take everything out, I'll look at it, we'll throw in the.
Speaker 2:You take the trash out, because now it has this food in it, and I'll wash the dishes real quick yeah, you know, like stuff, like that just like when you have a partner that helps, or like if you have to tell your partner like look, this really stresses me out, but you just help me a little bit. I mean Drew has to constantly say that to me because I'm so, I'm the messy one, so he has to say like look, I can't live like this.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm being serious yeah he'll just be like you know, or like can you help me like clean the kitchen out, or I mean the fridge out, or like can you make sure you get your stuff, or can you like make sure you like pull the clothes, or whatever yeah, I know, I do that, you know because bentley really hates doing chores I mean, I don't know any kids that love doing chores, but especially on the weekend because he has his weekend chores.
Speaker 1:He just wants to play and he's just like damn it, mom, yeah, and then he goes I'm just wasting time, I'm just wasting time, I'm just wasting away my free time and I'm like excuse me.
Speaker 2:All you have is free time. You're little what are you 12?
Speaker 1:You're 12.
Speaker 1:Yeah so I started to be like, okay, we started I mean, we started doing this a couple years ago. It was like, all right, we're gonna do chores at the same time, and it used to be, we do it together, and it was a little bit more fun because we I would like put on some music and we would. We would both be like into like the music going on. We have our own little chores, but we're kind of like doing it all together, um, whereas now he'll kill himself if he has to listen to my music, um, or my podcast or anything.
Speaker 2:So we yeah, kids don't want to really listen to podcasts.
Speaker 1:No, yeah, so I just like I don't really want to listen to jack harlow all day while I'm cleaning, so I'm like you can put your airpods in.
Speaker 1:I'll put my hairpods in and we'll just go about this yeah, we're doing it together still, and it makes it easier and I think it makes him feel less like, oh, like I gotta do all these chores because he sees me doing chores too, and it's like it's more it emphasizes that like we're both in this family and we live in this house and this is us like contributing to the household yeah and stuff like that.
Speaker 1:So that makes it easier and it makes it more enjoyable for me too, because well, and I, and it pushes me to like, all right, I have to get him to do it, because I'm gonna have to, like, set the example, like, yeah, it's time to do this and I and I don't complain about it because I don't want to make it like oh we have to do our chores.
Speaker 1:Like I'm like, all right, get your airpods, like let's do it, and I like put a little time, like let's try to get it done by like almost like a little competition. Yeah, like try to like let's just do it in an hour, like come on, we don't need to take three hours to clean the house, like we can do this so fast.
Speaker 2:And then he's like all right, fine, you know, and so that makes I don't know why, but I just I feel like I need to do something else. Yeah, oh Sorry, I know.
Speaker 1:Sorry, you have to do responsibilities. Yeah, it sucks. God, why don't we just have like? Why have they not come up with just like you know? It's like I understand we have Roombas, but it's like I need a Roomba for every chore. Like it's just a little robot. It goes around and it does everything. It does the dishes, it does it like, literally does everything. It cleans the toilets, it puts away your clothes and it's just like you just press it and then you could like you could program in what chores you want it to do and then you just hit go and then I mean, that's what the little tesla robot is yeah, we need one.
Speaker 1:Like you can't have it, it's gonna take over us, I know that's right.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think I would be scared to have a robot assistant in my house. Really, I think so. I I think you know.
Speaker 2:Here's the thing they always say, like it's because it's the unknown right like how uh, I always bring it back to this one, you know, because they have, like, the self-driving cars now. You know, and um, I listened to this podcast about it and it's a. It said like when they were doing the elevators, you know, and I listened to this podcast about it and it said like when they were doing the elevators, you know, there was a person like that was controlling the elevator back in the day.
Speaker 2:And when they said they were going to do it automated or whatever and you just press the button, people were like no, that can't happen, you know, because that machine is going to error, you know, and the humans. But they were finding that the human is erroring more than the machine. Right, because that's how typically it goes. So I thought about that with the driving cars.
Speaker 2:I was thinking like oh, these self-driving cars are kind of scary too right, but then, like the elevators, there's not a lot of elevator accidents, right, um, and so I guess that's got to be the same thing with the robot. But I mean, if it has that ai intelligent, I don't want it to learn too much about me. Yeah, I might try to do something weird to me. Learn to anticipate my needs I would love.
Speaker 1:I need my ai to be deaf, so it can't learn. Yeah, I only all it knows is if I program things in manually.
Speaker 2:Yeah, which you would get overwhelmed doing yeah, yeah, so annoying you're like I don't know. I didn't program it, so now I have to do it, so now you're gonna do it. Damn it, oh god oh my god also.
Speaker 1:Okay, I know you hate this one, but I think for Sundays too, like trying to go to bed a little bit earlier and just like no, I actually do go to bed earlier on sundays.
Speaker 1:I feel like and just have like I have to do my sunday your sex-a-thon yeah, so we gotta get a good like a good time well, and I I like to have like a um, almost like a slower wind down than normal like I feel like on a regular weeknight it's like I know, when it's getting close to bedtime then I just kind of like have this like little routine, that's like bam, bam, bam, bam bam and then go to bed, whereas like on sundays, like my routine might spread out a little bit more it might like take more time to like get in bed, you know too.
Speaker 2:I think that it is. There is something to say about feeling fresh for your beginning of your work week. It's, you know, because you've got how many days to go. You know it's one thing to stay up late on a Thursday or you know, you got one for me. I got one day to go.
Speaker 2:You know, I just have the next day and then I can do fuck off for the weekend or whatever you know, but you know, starting Monday morning fresh, knowing that you have hell of shit to do, it could go fucking haywire and crazy. It's probably a good thing, oh yeah. So yeah, I do think that going to bed early is probably helpful. Do your responsibilities, Set your reset button and go to bed early Go to bed early. Yeah. Or go to bed at a good time, right after your sex-a-thon, oh my God, yeah. Or go to bed at a good time, right after your sexathon oh my god.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, although maybe you just have like some like fun ideas to do on sunday or not even fun, like maybe it's just like maybe you're someone who doesn't consistently like journal or do stuff, but like maybe it's like that's what you do on Sundays, to kind of like it's like you're like you're setting your intentions for the week and maybe it's something that, like, you only commit to on Sundays because it kind of helps you like get ready for the week, like that yeah, so okay, while you were saying this, this thing popped in my head how, like, okay, you get the Sunday scaries because Monday is like Monday madness.
Speaker 2:Right, but what if, like, sunday was like Sunday relaxing instead?
Speaker 2:it was like it was like you relax and do the things that need to be done at a slow pace and then you get to, like, go to bed earlier and you take a bath, and it was like it becomes not the Sundayay scary, this becomes like sunday reset and it's just sunday refresh and like that's how we have to like manipulate our minds into thinking, instead of it's like it's like we have so much anxiety because all these things we need to do, but if we kind of build in these little slower pace things throughout the day, it kind of takes away from the anxiety and stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:So that we can go into Monday madness where it's going to be fucking crazy. You know, I just think that every day of the week has its own little things, you know. And then Monday madness that turns into like you're terrified Tuesdays because you're all the overflow from Monday madness.
Speaker 1:And then what the fuck? Wednesday yeah.
Speaker 2:But like you're getting over this like hump day, and then you go on a Thursday and then you're like I can't believe it's Friday. You know, like shit, like that. Like you know, I think we just have to try to really manipulate our brains and to try to prep, I mean with anything we know that prepping is key to relieve stress 100%.
Speaker 1:So small, tiny things. Also, I would consider not doing your entire reset on Sunday if it's too overwhelming too. Like, yeah, it is the day before the week and, yeah, you're about to start the week, but that doesn't mean you have to do this stuff on Sunday. Like, maybe it's better for you to do all of the things we're talking about on Saturday or whatever like, depending on your schedule, maybe you can knock that stuff out on a Saturday.
Speaker 1:That way you have all day Sunday to literally just relax and do your like your nice relaxing rituals. You're not planning, you're not like preparing. That stuff's already done, it's behind you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You can just chill.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like behind you, yeah, you can just chill yeah, like, for example, if you like, did your laundry saturday mornings and everything was put away and stuff, and then sunday it's like more fun, like oh, I'm gonna pick out my outfits yeah, instead of it being like I have to fold my fucking clothes, I have to put them away and I have to pick out these damn outfits, and it's like that feels overwhelming you know, it's too much yeah, yeah, like okay.
Speaker 1:So we have Monday morning meetings and typically I try to prepare for the Monday meeting on the Thursday before because that's my last like work day of the week, and so Thursday mornings is usually when I try to look ahead and like make our little outline for Monday meetings, because I don't want to do it Monday morning. I don't want to do it Monday morning, I don't want to do it on Sunday, because just doing stuff right before, even though it's still before the meeting, it still just like kind of stresses me out. Yeah, where I just know like oh, we got Monday meeting. No, it's, I'm ready to go. I just got to pull up my little yeah link and then I can just read it off.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so much better yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:So I've been trying to do and I have. I try to incorporate some stuff like our like the days when we're like ordering our Instacart, or like I get our HelloFresh meals delivered on Thursdays yeah, stuff like that because Friday is trash day, so like I try to set it up where it's getting delivered on Thursday, that way that is the night that we can like clean out the fridge, throw stuff out. Everything can just be cleaned up and ready. So starting the weekend already is already more relaxing because I'm not even having to do food stuff.
Speaker 1:Yeah so, yeah. So just trying to like think about your schedule and see like what works best for you is definitely something to consider yeah, where you can like plug and play, like everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, instead of like it being like everything is on Sunday, which is stressful for a lot of people yeah, yeah it's too much, yeah, so I agree. So let's change it let's change our mindset.
Speaker 1:Let's change our routine let's plan ahead, but don't be panicky about it. Review your calendar, get your outfits picked out, plan ahead for meals, if you can, like you said, change your mindset.
Speaker 2:Make some time for pleasure, not punishment lots of unless you like punishment lots of pleasure and punishment at the end of the night on sundays create some sunday relaxing rituals that you really love.
Speaker 1:Limit your doom scrolling and email checking. Set up your environment so that you really love Limit your doom scrolling and email checking. Set up your environment so that you're ready to go Monday morning and everything is ready. Just a clean start. Your Sunday reset Calm vibes. Yeah, get your reset all done.
Speaker 2:You'll be ready to go? Yeah, you'll try.
Speaker 1:I mean, obviously you don't know what's to come the next week but as prepared as you can be yes yeah make it better for yourself, all right, so let us know what is one thing that you're gonna add to your Sunday night or Sunday during the day to make it feel like a self-care day instead of a stressful or Sunday scary type of a day? Yeah, or let us know if you guys have any tips, like what kind of things do you guys do to prepare for the week? What kind of things have you done to avoid Sunday scaries and to get yourself into a more calm, relaxing place to start your week off? Love to hear any tips that you guys have, anything that you guys have tried before that really worked for you or your family. Let us know on our Instagram us a message. It could be a message you type out, it could be a voice memo, whatever you want. Just send us some type of message to our dms on instagram at maximalist life podcast and we will see you guys next time. Hope you're having fun. Tits up, dicks out.