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Maximalist Life
This is Maximalist Life, with Brianna Gamble and Tamika Stringfellow. This unfiltered podcast is your permission slip to chase after everything you damn well desire.
Join us as we dish out no-holds-barred conversations and invite you to step into a life filled with limitless possibilities. Forget fear and embrace the maximalist mentality with us every week.
Get ready to experience piss your pants laughter, cringe-worthy truths, and be inspired to break free from living a mediocre life.
Maximalist Life
Ep 23 - Why Have One Job When You Can Have Three?
Episode Summary:
Brianna and Tamika get real about intimate moments, entrepreneurial fears, and their exciting new ventures in this candid conversation about juggling multiple business pursuits and finding balance.
💋 Personal stories about sex, boundaries, and those embarrassing intimate moments.
💦 A frank discussion about squirting and the science behind it (no shame!).
👗 Tamika’s deep passion for fashion styling and her plans to turn it into a full-blown business.
📈 Brianna’s intention to relaunch her business coaching services and help others level up.
💼 Details on their upcoming Women on Top networking event for badass female entrepreneurs.
🎤 The challenge of sharing client experiences professionally while staying authentic.
🏙️ The evolution of their photography studio—going from a tough location to downtown success.
📅 May 7th is the big deadline for launching their new business ventures (exciting stuff ahead!).
🎨 Balancing creative dreams with the realities of running a business.
🔒 Stories of strange encounters at the studio—and why the door is always locked.
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Better we do it. All right, here we go.
Speaker 2:Here we go.
Speaker 1:Okay, now we're starting. Welcome to Maximalist Life. I'm your host, Brianna.
Speaker 2:And I'm Tamika and we suck dicks.
Speaker 1:All the time. Forever, and I just spit it out.
Speaker 2:Yeah gross, Okay, wait, hold on what you didn't watch it Forever. And I just spit it out yeah gross, Okay, wait, hold on what you didn't watch it. I know you didn't see Sinners. No, but there is a scene in Sinners, yeah, and Haley Steinfeld fucking spits in Michael B Jordan's mouth just what, she's a vampire and oh, that's kind of kind of spoiler. Well, I, people know that and everyone's talking about it and you know, I kind of like the spitting scenes in books when when they spit in their mouth but it was disgusting.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that sounds disgusting yeah, I mean, I kind of liked it. Still. I think it's like, oh, I really like the movie center, you should see, liked it still. I think it's like, ooh, I really liked the movie Center, you should see it, if you haven't. And it's, you know, that's my guy, that's the only reason why I went to see it, because you know I don't see scary movies. But you know it wasn't really that scary.
Speaker 1:I just like to spit drinks into each other's mouths. What?
Speaker 2:Yeah, like if you're drinking like a beer that I want to taste like you drink and then you spit into my mouth. Okay, I like to do that. Did you ever do the thing when you were little oh god uh where you'd smoke weed and then one would blow it into the other?
Speaker 1:person's mouth. No, I just did drinks.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we would do that I drew, my drew, and I have never spit each other's drinking each other's mouth.
Speaker 1:Oh, it's really fun. You should try it. I like that, but it's just spitting spit. I don't really like that. I'm not doing that yeah, I probably.
Speaker 2:I mean, the thing is, you know, I like to fantasize about these things, but you know I probably don't.
Speaker 1:Okay, I'm just gonna say this so justin like that the spitting. So I, I will spit in his mouth, but you won't. You're never spitting nothing in my mouth, so he doesn't spit in your mouth no, he wants me to spit on his like, his face, like he just yeah he wants you to pee on him too I mean, yeah, he was gross, he would do some gross stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean whatever you guys can't see my face if you're listening to this, but it's full wide eye mouth dropping, eyes bulging shock.
Speaker 1:Yeah well, I mean, no one's shitting on anybody, okay.
Speaker 2:So let's clarify I don't kink, shame, sure, I mean, it's probably all hot. Oh, you didn't think so a hot steamy pile of poo no, I don't mean the poop, but, like you know, other things that I don't do.
Speaker 1:But I would never do that, but yeah you want me to pee on you. Fine, I'll pee on you, I don't care oh, now, where are we peeing?
Speaker 2:on your face, on your body, where's I mean? Not my face or my body, yeah, just the body yeah, I mean like I'm not gonna pee on your face also. Yeah, it has to be like in the shower or something we're not like just in the bed on your face, and then I have to kiss you or something no, right, no, because then that's me eating my own pee or taste do you kiss after someone eats you out?
Speaker 1:I really don't like that. I really don't like it. But also I'm not gonna be like no, like I'm not gonna ruin the moment. Also, mr monday likes to do oh, he likes to be like having sex and then wants me to suck his dick, after which grosses me out. Because I'm like I can't any of the first few seconds I have to like hold my breath, because I'm like, if I can't be like smelling that, it just grossed me out yeah, not really my thing either, he really likes it, and so I'm like okay, but you know he'll do some, he'll do all the things.
Speaker 2:So I'm like I'll do some stuff for you, because he is like top tier yeah, when drew eats me out, though he takes a moment and like washes it because he has a full beard. Oh yeah, he's so nice you know, and he like cleans himself off and then comes back, but then I find that the beard then is dry. Dry, it's like kind of drier it's not his it's not. It doesn't have his regular, just like oils that you know and then. So then it's kind of dry and I'm just like man.
Speaker 1:Yeah well, it's either dry or puss juice you get to pick I don't prefer to lick my own puss juice I don't prefer to lick pussy, so I don't really prefer that here's the thing. It's different when you're just licking the outside of someone's puss, as opposed to a whole dick is inside of your body and then it goes in your mouth. I think it's very different.
Speaker 2:Yes, so I agree with that, yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean I don't really suck Drew's dick after, even if we did it that night.
Speaker 1:Don't try it.
Speaker 2:Even if we did it like the night before and then if he like wanted me to suck his dick and I just be like I don't really want to ew, even though it's like cleaned off, I just oh, like after he showered yeah, like well, we don't really shower after at night because we shower before yeah it's just get you, just get cleaned up like you're wiping down yeah like wet ones and stuff like that.
Speaker 2:So I don't know, even though it's like wiped out the wet ones, I still feel like I don't really want to suck it no, I want you to go take a shower.
Speaker 1:Oh, no, no no yeah also I'm not sucking any dick unless you did just take a shower or like, or it's during the sex things, because here's my thing too. Like you're just in the bathroom, like I just picture you're going pee and you're just like shaking your little dick off and now there's just like a little peepee yeah, that is crusted on there. I don't want that. Yeah, also, I don't know if you touch some other stuff and then you touch your dick and your hands are dirty. I don't want that in my mouth.
Speaker 2:What's he touching?
Speaker 1:anything. You know I'm a little germaphobe, yeah, so I don't like that. Like also, don't finger me, don't touch any part of me, and like go wash your hands first, I don't yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't like that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you don't want inside you.
Speaker 1:Don't.
Speaker 2:I mean, we shower every night and then things happen, or whatever. Yeah, that's true too. I didn't think about that. But you know what Drew doesn't really like to wash his hands after. Oh he said he likes to smell.
Speaker 1:No no, no no, no, no, I don't like that. Yeah, I mean, I just don't want to smell my own stuff. So I don't appreciate that. But you know, like I said, I'll do that. It depends on who it is. That's true, mr Monday, sure I'll do whatever you want, because he'll do whatever.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:He'll do everything.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and I'm like, okay, fine, fine, fine, god Fine, I'll lick my own pussy.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, I guess.
Speaker 2:God.
Speaker 1:Why do you have to?
Speaker 2:be so nice to me and do these nice things for me, so that I feel like I should do these things for you too.
Speaker 1:Because they're not that of a big deal. Also, like you're going to go down on me and you want to kiss me and I'm mad about it. Right on me and you want to kiss me and I'm mad about it, like, and he just like wants to kiss and like he's so nice and stuff and so I'm like okay, keep your mouth to yourself.
Speaker 2:No, you imagine if we kept our mouths to ourselves during sex?
Speaker 1:it's so boring yeah, I don't like that. What are we doing?
Speaker 2:I don't like that, yeah I bet there are some people that just like okay, penetration okay, so one threesome that I had oh great. The rule was she was like you guys can fuck you whatever, I don't want you guys to kiss yeah, I mean I don't know why it's been since, like pretty woman, that like it's just always been a thing where kissing is so intimate for people but not sticking a dick in someone's vagina is intimate. It's just like I don't know, what is it?
Speaker 1:I don't know, but also I was like I didn't even want to kiss him do you feel that way, that kissing?
Speaker 2:is more intimate than having like penetration not really.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean I guess I could understand. Yeah, I get it, but I'm also like I don't know about you, but like I mean I never fell in love with someone just from kissing them. Like, don't worry, I'm not gonna fall in love with your boyfriend yeah also like I'm never gonna talk to you guys again, so it doesn't matter yeah it.
Speaker 2:But it does amaze me that, like she's like oh, I can watch you guys, like literally his dick goes in you, but I cannot, or he eats your pussy like yeah eating someone's pussy is like the most intimate thing I feel. Right like that is so intimate.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she was fine with it. She was like, yeah, do whatever, but don't kiss. And I was like what? Okay, that's weird, but it's better than the girl who was like you guys could do everything, but you can't actually have intercourse what?
Speaker 2:yeah, that's weird, that's so selfish cool.
Speaker 1:So I'm just here sucking a dick yeah, I don't. And then you guys get to fuck. Well, that's rude everyone. Better be eating my pussy then she wasn't good at it, she was oh no, how could girls not be good at it? It was her first time. It was like it was just like nothing. I'm like come on, Stick your whole tongue out. What are you doing? She was so unsure, but then kept wanting to try. I was like we can keep practicing, I guess. Do you want feedback during this?
Speaker 2:First of all, don't ever say practice this girl.
Speaker 1:I went on a date with the couple. She said back during this or don't ever say practice, practice. That's what the girl, this girl, the girl I went on a date, the couple, uh-huh. She said so can you squirt?
Speaker 2:uh-huh, doesn't? She ask and I said she's been practicing yeah, but she can't, she goes.
Speaker 1:I really want to.
Speaker 2:I said well, I mean, give me some tips and tricks yeah, you have to like, watch these videos and, like you know, try to get and. I said we could practice. She said, yeah, I really want to teach her now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she really wants it. The boyfriend was like yeah, yeah, you should try.
Speaker 2:It's funny because people that squirt are like yeah, I mean Right, like it's just like OK, messy, really messy yeah like okay, messy really messy. Yeah, also I mean I'm not convinced that it's not just half piss oh, no, it is like it is so here's the thing drew decided because he listened to a stupid podcast or he read some fucking article. You know how he is he reads me these sex things, he sends me these sex like articles and stuff.
Speaker 1:It's really funny, right, yeah, yeah, you would like that, right? And I'm like, directly, you want me to read all these.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, you would like that, right, and I'm like you're right, you want me to read all these things yeah, you read it and then you tell me you just want the like readers digest yeah, headlines, please tell me which dildo to buy.
Speaker 2:You know, I don't need you to tell me like these are the reasons and here's like seven top. You just pick it for me, send it, just buy it, then I'll use it like okay. So he sends or he tells us this article about, like you know this it's like they do these like MRIs on these girls where their bladder is completely empty. And then when they orgasm, it's completely full, or and then it's empty, as soon as they orgasm.
Speaker 2:So, and then they tested it and they put dye in it and they did all these things. And they said it is 100%, like mostly pee.
Speaker 1:Mm hmm, mm, hmm, like they did all these things which is weird because I feel like, so I always will pee before I have sex, because I'm always scared that I'm like what if I'm just gonna?
Speaker 2:this is what they had done they peed, emptied their bladders, yeah, and then it was full, and then it, and then somehow they knew it was. Oh, because then they put dye in their bladder after they peed, so then the stuff that came out was all dyed. That's so weird. And then their bladders were empty again.
Speaker 1:Well, I was gonna say what's weird is like okay, this is very tmi, but I mean, whatever are we, I'm always that's always pretty dehydrated, like I'm not very good at staying hydrated, so I feel like I'll pee before and I feel like that's very different color than what's happening yeah, during sex and I go what, how is that possible? Because then also I'll pee after sex too, and then it's like it's back to yellow and I'm like, yeah, I don't know it's really weird this article in the thing.
Speaker 2:Everyone can read it, but it says that it's mostly piss but I, I feel like and I go.
Speaker 1:I feel like most people know that, but like, I feel like a lot of these guys are just like, oh well.
Speaker 2:Like just piss all over the place. Yeah.
Speaker 1:But except for that one, that one like little boyfriend that I had, oh yeah, the petite one. He said he thought squirting was so disgusting.
Speaker 2:Well, he was disgusting. He was so boring. The things he said was just like. I hate you.
Speaker 1:So that was like the only person who ever was like ew.
Speaker 2:He really liked you, he really wanted to be your boyfriend.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but what he sucks.
Speaker 2:Yeah, he sucks dick. Hopefully he should yeah.
Speaker 1:So what was I going to say? I don't know what.
Speaker 2:what he sucks yeah, he sucks dick. Hopefully he should yeah. So what are they gonna say? What are we saying? Who knows? Welcome to maximus life. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 1:So yeah, I guess you just have to practice, practice squirting. Yeah, I feel like there's things that you could and I get. Like people say like oh, not everyone could do it and like whatever, where I go, I don't. I think everyone might be able to do it if you just there's specific things yeah, yeah, yeah okay, so here's the thing too okay, here we go here's another tmi, and actually this was really funny, okay. So, mr monday yeah, yeah great.
Speaker 2:I'm glad we brought back mr monday here, because, man, I have missed some of these stories I feel like he would be so hilarious as a guest.
Speaker 1:Okay, oh no, I would never. Okay, embarrassing, yeah, you can't, I might. Okay, so he used to have a podcast with his friend and so I feel like he would like he would get how to do it too. Anyway, I would never bring him on here, but, um, what was I gonna say? Oh, he's really into the squirting situation he's like that's his goal every time yeah, and every time I go there, he's like let's get this.
Speaker 1:He has like a whole setup. He's like, okay, I have like he has like specific like blankets and they're like ones like waterproof under, like a whole thing, like let's set up this whole thing, and I'm like we do this every time yeah, you have to do this whole thing, yeah and recently.
Speaker 1:So I don't know if this how it is for everybody. So I feel like sometimes, when you're doing that, I mean you're kind of like it's like you, it's like you're like tightened up, almost like pushing out, and this recent time this was literally this past week I fucking farted. This is great, yeah, and I was so. It was like so small now where was he. Thank god, his face was not there okay, that's always terrified.
Speaker 1:I'm always terrified, yeah, because he always wanted to be like oh, and like let me eat you out and stuff. And I'm like if I fucking burn this fool's face I'll never talk to him again yeah, I'll literally get up right then and just walk out naked. Um, I gotta go. You're your mother's daughter gotta go? Yeah, so embarrassed. Get my plane ticket, I gotta go. You're your mother's daughter, gotta go. Yeah, so embarrassing.
Speaker 2:Get my plane ticket. I gotta go home. Yeah, I'm leaving, I'm leaving this whole trip Scary. Leaving this earth. I gotta get in the rocket.
Speaker 1:I feel like there's been a few times where I go oh God, I don't know, I'm scared, like something's gonna happen, and so this was the time. So I mean, he wasn't yeah, his face wasn't, thank God, and it was so small, thank God too. It wasn't like I was all you know this whole huge thing also. Maybe you could just say it was a quiff, I. So I'm wondering if he thought that yeah but I don't know.
Speaker 1:I think he knew okay and I could not stop laughing. I had like a funeral fit of laughs. Yeah, he knew that was a fart, he knew it wasn't I couldn't, and he was not laughing like.
Speaker 1:He was like let's keep going, and I feel like he was so much more into it after that after the fart he liked it like all of a sudden, he seemed very aggressive, he was harder, like yeah, and he was like like super, like kissing me and all the stuff, and I was like that's what, that's what we need to do here, like I just had to fucking fart on you.
Speaker 2:Now you see why guys wanted to get pooped on. I can't believe I was mortified, and then I couldn't stop thinking about it okay, can you do an experiment where you just fart one time again and see if he just gets more aggressive in this again? Because what if that is what happens, like okay, and then he just like it gets like more aggressive well, I wanted to bring it up during the review.
Speaker 2:Oh, I was gonna be like so so are you telling me that after sex you lay there and you're just like, okay, what was good for you?
Speaker 1:not every time no, okay, um, but I will be like, oh, there is this thing, so like, uh, I feel like he's such like a. He has to have things be such like a vibe, like he has like specific, like playlists he wants to have. He has like lights, like he'll have like his dim lights and all this whatever. And when I went there this last time he had kind of like he has these little lights, but they were kind of like a color. It was like a mood like, not like a.
Speaker 2:It wasn't like flashing like a fucking strobe light, yeah, yeah um disco ball is just like hella different colors and you're like this is like 70s theme, that yeah, no, it was just like a little mood light, but it was kind of like blue, yeah.
Speaker 1:And then there was like a moon. There was like a moon like projected on the wall and I said what, you just have this moon over here. And he goes. I always have that and I'm like I have never seen this fucking moon on the wall and he's like it's here every time. I'm like, no, it isn't. You also never had this blue light in here. And he's like yes, I have. Yeah, I was like I can't believe you just have this moon. I said I can't believe we've never had this moon before. And he's like shut the fuck, the fuck up, the moon is always there.
Speaker 1:So then this time too, he was like the light is coming like this towards the wall and we're on the couch this way, and he did this. So this time he goes, cause I never thought of this. I never put two and two together, cause there's other lights, but never blue and moon, not to my knowledge, I never even considered the fact that our silhouette would be on the wall during this. I never pay attention to that. And this time he's behind and it's kind of aggressive. He grabs my face and he jerked my face towards while he said look at it. And I was like, oh my god. And then he was like he really wanted me to like, look at as fucking yeah I was like oh my god did you like that you didn't I did also.
Speaker 1:I thought I looked pretty cute okay in my silhouette. I was like wow, this is a nice lighting situation you're like, okay, we could do all these fans yeah, yeah. Well, and when he did the whip, my hair did a little whip in the shadow and I go, oh God, my hair looks so good the hair thing.
Speaker 2:You're obsessed with that, oh I love the hair flip. Yeah, you do.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so you know, that's what's been going on lately Farting in moonlights, farting in the moonlight, farting in the moonlight that is the name of this episode yeah, farting moonlight sex squirts, squirting sex squirts and farts under the moon. That's where I've been.
Speaker 2:I like it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, it's been pretty nice, yeah, so I just have to practice now you're squirting yeah, with this girl yeah she just really wants to know. She's like I just need you to teach me. I'm like, all right, I guess, teach classes. Now I was telling her. When the guy said, oh, you're giving like a dominatrix vibe, I said, god, I really want to go to Dom's school. I've been talking about it and she was like there's Dom's schools. I'm like, yeah, in San.
Speaker 1:Francisco. They have them. She's going to start going. She was like what, yeah? I was like, yeah, I kind of want to go, but then, you know, I have to get a backpack and I have to go there from eight to three. I gotta take the bus hours, I gotta pack my lunch, yeah.
Speaker 2:So I don't know, that's a lot yeah, you're not doing that fucking crazy that I can't believe. You thought it was like a real school. I was like what are we doing?
Speaker 1:yeah, I thought it was a real school, weekends or something.
Speaker 2:It can't be like eight to three every day, like you're going to real school they have bells and stuff. Yeah, no, come on the morning announcement I was like what, why can't you go?
Speaker 1:I don't understand oh, I wish it was. I would love. I think it'd be so much better if it was like a real school, like what would the mascot be of the dominatrix?
Speaker 2:you have to wear a leather skirt like that yes that's uniform, but you just wear like a choker necklace, the mascot is the guy in the dominatrix mask with the chain and you're pulling it, and he has a collar on yeah.
Speaker 1:God, I want to do that so bad. I feel like that's what I want to do. That's my next.
Speaker 2:Venture.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I bet Mr Monday would be so down. Yeah, but I bet, mr Monday would be so down if I was like, just let me boss you around.
Speaker 2:Maybe you know some guys are like I don't want that Like, because when we did our dominatrix here and then the partners joined, even though it was like the girls are supposed to exude, like this dominatrix, when we did it I was like okay, so like asking yeah. And the boys were like, oh no, she's not doing that to me, One guy me one guy, yeah, yeah, I remember he was. I mean he looked a little like toxic masculinity yeah, he was like no, she's not doing that to me.
Speaker 1:I think he would totally let me do whatever he also said he would like he's really not into like having threesomes with two guys, like he's like I'm not, but he's like, if that's what you want to do, because I was like I really want to have threesomes with two guys, but I would want one of the guys to be you because I like know you and I feel comfortable and he's like okay I would.
Speaker 1:He just doesn't want to do anything with the guy, though, right, yeah, yeah he's like I mean, and he was like, yeah, that's what you want to do.
Speaker 2:He's like I have done it before and he's like it's fine, like I'm not gonna be weird about it, I'm not gonna be like oh, your dick touched me, but like I really don't want to do that, I could see why he wouldn't want someone else dick to touch his butt yeah, what if their dick just accidentally went inside your butthole? I don't think there's accidents where that happens. Oops, accidentally slipped in, because I would try to accidentally do that all the time but true, accidentally went in the wrong one, it doesn't accidentally. Yeah, there's.
Speaker 1:There's a lot of workup right, yeah, yeah, okay, yeah, so yeah, sorry, sorry, it's not gonna just slip in, no, unfortunately yeah, maybe next time yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:Well, this is a great episode. The next full moon yeah, um.
Speaker 1:So what other social events have we have been besides all this like sex stuff? What are the social events? My sexy social calendar has been pretty full, but yeah, I appreciate that.
Speaker 2:I feel like you're getting back to like your, your own, like social things, because you've're getting back to your own social things. Because you've been so busy with work, social things, which I think is really overwhelming when we have to just have like work, work, work, work is all on our calendar.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And there's no fun stuff just for you.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean even tonight. So me and Angela are going to go to this bar. So we're going to a dive bar in Marin that supposedly is the dive bar where millionaires hang out. That's what we've heard. So we'll, I mean, who knows, maybe, maybe, so maybe not. Also, maybe they're millionaires and they're ugly and old. You never know, I'm just going to give it a. Give it a whirl.
Speaker 2:Yeah, why not Hope you have fun doing?
Speaker 1:that might be fun. Yeah, and you know that they drink if they're hanging out at the dive or less, unless you're just having their mocktails.
Speaker 2:You know, you can see that happening. It's a bunch of mocktail guys I would hate that yeah, me too. Just have a drink and loosen up yeah, that's so mean.
Speaker 1:I mean, if you're alcoholic, don't do that please don't do that, yeah, don't listen to us. Don yeah, don't listen to us. Don't listen to us, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, don't ever take life advice from us.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, I guess you can see behind us. We're on a new set.
Speaker 1:We do have a new set.
Speaker 2:Which I wish we could just be here forever, all the time.
Speaker 1:I never want an event here at the studio tomorrow. Actually, my god, our women on top networking event. Yeah, it's about it's for like sex. Yeah, women being on top. We have speakers that teach you how to score. Yeah, they'll just teach you how to be a better writer mm-hmm teach you like different sexual positions Techniques.
Speaker 2:There's a sex toy like demonstration.
Speaker 1:Expo.
Speaker 2:Yeah, we're totally kidding. We have some doms coming to talk to us about things. Oh my God, this is a little mini dom school. Yeah, just kidding. Oh my God. Maybe, that is an event that we should put on.
Speaker 1:That would be fun.
Speaker 2:Are you allowed to do that? Why not?
Speaker 1:I don't know I feel like to have a sex life. It is well, it's just kidding, probably here, um, in this little conservative town, yeah, no, but seriously, women on top is our book on top of.
Speaker 2:It is actually a networking event for female business owners, which we're all about yeah, we put out a magazine once a year and we take like branding photos for everyone and then they do a little write-up about their little sales pitch about themselves and the magazine's pretty dope it's really dope.
Speaker 1:So our graphic designer, riley, who's pretty dope, she might be one of the dopest people that I know. Don't be mad, kristen, that I didn't say it was you when you listen to this. Okay, because I know you're gonna look at the transcript and you're gonna see your name yeah. Kristen's obviously pretty dope too, but man Riley can really bust some shit out when it comes to graphic design, she's a real artist oh, the most artistic.
Speaker 1:yeah, she designed this whole magazine. So I mean, we took the photos and she designed the magazine and, like you said, everyone had their own like feature basically their own like page in the magazine, but then she also like wrote articles and designed all these like fun pages throughout. So it's a full like magazine for local female business owners and entrepreneurs.
Speaker 2:And then we do a networking event where we're gonna.
Speaker 1:So it's like a magazine launch slash networking event yeah, we're gonna do a live podcast show though yeah, we're gonna record an episode at the event, which is a little scary yeah, so that makes me do the most embarrassing things, and this was one of them.
Speaker 2:I I mean I really should give more pushback when she tells me like all these things, like I have to host this damn panel, like I don't want to do any of this.
Speaker 1:I know I was going to say if you don't want to host a panel, we can make Christina do it. Yeah, we're going to have. Okay. So it's networking. We're going to do speed networking, kind of like speed dating. See, she loves this shit.
Speaker 1:I'm like this oh, I love that yeah because, okay, networking events in general are really awkward and typically everyone feels like you just feel weird, like what am I supposed to say to these people? And I'm just walking around and it's like there's people in the room who maybe you do want to connect with, you do want to meet them, but, like I said, you don't know what to say in the moment or you feel awkward, and so I want to try and have this event be a little bit more guided on the networking portion. So we're going to do a little speed networking, so you have like literally two minutes to talk to this person and we'll have like a prompt, um, and then it gives you time to like connect one-on-one, just quickly with people, and then you can be like okay, let's follow each other on instagram so we can like continue this conversation or whatever later. And then we're gonna have a speakers panel. So there's five business ladies, business owners, that are gonna be sitting up here in these chairs and then you're gonna be asking us questions.
Speaker 1:And yeah, we tried to get five women in different industries, at different levels of business, different years in business. Some have like staff, some work by themselves, some have you know, whatever. Some are younger. Some are like how old is the one girl? She's only like 22 or 23. Who, matea?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think her and Tamir are the same age.
Speaker 1:She's pretty young, not as young old.
Speaker 2:I mean, I'm not on the panel, but I'm old.
Speaker 1:I might be the oldest one, I think yeah, so anyway. So it's a good range, yeah people yeah so hopefully that'll.
Speaker 1:We're gonna kick off the event with that. Hopefully that'll kind of get people a little bit more like inspired and then that'll lead into the speed networking. Then we're gonna do our live podcast recording. So we'll see how that goes. Might be embarrassing and the topic is going to be confessions of a million dollar studio. So we're going to like do a little behind the scenes and kind of like I don't know how you would say like kind of giving, like a little behind the curtain, peek at what it's like to run a million dollar business.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I think it's really hard to talk about the behind the scenes of businesses, because you know when you're with your friends and stuff and then you're just like talking about work and you know you might be talking shit a little bit, right, of course, but like, in those aspects there are lessons to be learned, right, and you're human so you're allowed to have these feelings of whatever you're saying. You know you can't always just be so, you know political fucking correct and like positive, all the things.
Speaker 2:So I think it's really hard to then explain to people like, oh well, this client was a pain in the ass, and these are the things. For example, right, without feeling, without other people feeling, like you're talking shit. I think, yeah, there's such like a hard thing with that, like I don't even really know how to you know it's really, it's almost like people.
Speaker 1:It's almost like there's this expectation like you should just be so grateful that you have these clients and not bitch about it when in reality, behind the scenes is some of these people treat us like shit right and are real huge pains in the asses and a lot, all, most of these women that are at this event we've shot, so, like you know, yeah, they could think back like was I are they talking?
Speaker 2:about me. Is there something in my session that they would talk shit about, like you know? And so that's really hard and you're just like trying to be honest with like this is how I deal with this kind of client and like don't let people take advantage of you, and like these are why we have these rules and stuff, and so I am like feeling as if I have to hold my tongue a little bit in these, like for this podcast.
Speaker 1:For that episode, yeah.
Speaker 2:Which I think that we try anyways always to be like as gentle, when we're talking about work. You know stuff, know stuff because it isn't like we.
Speaker 1:It's not like we aren't grateful for these clients and, of course and we it's it's rare that you get a client. You're like god.
Speaker 2:I really don't like this lady yeah, I never feel like I don't like this lady. I always just feel like this situation was crazy. Yeah, you know, and like. Those are the types of things that, like I know, a lot of people feel and I I think that, like hairstylists, I know they want to just go on their instagram stories and just be like I just have this fucking client and this like suck the life out of me you know, and these are the reasons why and you can't do that.
Speaker 2:And it's like it kind of sucks that like at time, unless you're in a very private setting, that you can kind of just like let everything out. You know, and you really want to let all these things out and it, and then maybe the other person can can help you, but it's like you don't ever want to feel like you're talking shit about your client. So I think it's for sure weird.
Speaker 1:Thing yeah, I know and I, like you said, I mean most of the women in the room that are going to be listening to us yeah, we have taken their photos and stuff but also a lot of people who listen to this podcast are clients too, or even potential clients, and yeah, I mean I hope that, um, you know, I hope it comes off the way it's intended, that, like we're just trying to be, you know, vulnerable and share from, like, a business owner's standpoint, because that this whole event that we're putting on is for business owners and we need to like, connect and talk about. When we're talking about these scenarios that come up, it's like we're really there to talk about it to to number one, to show people like it doesn't really matter what level you're at in business, you're always going to have these issues.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And two to like talk about how to deal with them, whether that's like setting boundaries with clients or whatever, and just having a more healthy work life. I hate work life balance. I hate saying that, but you know what I mean. Um, so yeah, I mean I it's just. It just, we'll see how it goes. I mean because it's going to be live, yeah, so whatever we say, it's out there.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and we get kind of silly. Well and we're going to be drinking Mimos so it might be really crazy. I'm going to have a shot, yeah, and then everything's just going to fly out of my tongue.
Speaker 1:I mean, if I'm being honest, I'm more nervous about what you're going to say than what I'm going to say. Sometimes, you know, like that date I was telling you, sometimes you'll be talking and I'll look at you like, oh, what's she going to say here?
Speaker 2:Which date.
Speaker 1:My date with the couple, where the guy was like abrupt and like a little more like blunt and the girl was kind of like what are you gonna say? That's gonna be us, you're gonna be the guy? Yeah, because you'll just say some shit. And I think it's easier for you because, number one, you're photographing 90 of the clients, so you have like at this point over the past five years, like you have more direct one-on-one client experience than I am currently experiencing yeah and two, you're not the owner of the business and so it's easier, like naturally, to feel a certain way or to say a certain thing without where.
Speaker 1:Like, if I'm coming from like a business owner standpoint, I go.
Speaker 2:Maybe we shouldn't say that also I just want to be real with people too yeah, I think that a lot of people feel that way, and so if someone just needs to say it, and then everyone can gripe them too, because then everyone feels like yeah, I know shit like thank god, someone said it. It's like thank god, you finally come. You know like that kind of thing, like thank god, because I want to come too. You know like please?
Speaker 2:so I do feel like that sometimes, like someone just needs to be real and say things yeah and I just you know it's hard because I think I'll say this like when we're saying it's like here's the thing I appreciate every client I want to hype everyone up, but not everyone is doing that same thing for me you know like not everyone is like treating me the same way that I'm treating them, and so, yeah, I feel like I can say these things then, and you know when I got to pull you back because you are not treating me that way?
Speaker 1:yeah, I might tell your story a little bit yeah you know, and my thing too is, if anyone listens to like that episode, or if we ever talk about business and and there's people who go like well, I'm not doing business there because of the I mean for being honest, like I don't really like. We're at a point now where it's like you truly only want clients who really align with like who you are, what you believe that you really connect with. And so if people don't want to like they don't like that you have boundaries. They don't like that you have policies, they don't like that. Like they can't just fuck you over and not show up for their appointment or whatever, and that's the reason they're not going to book with us.
Speaker 1:Good, I hope that they don't. Then, yeah, I hope that makes sense. You know how I'm saying. It is that, like, if those are the reasons that you're not going to book with us because we're saying that, then yeah, it probably wasn't a good fit, is what I mean. Yeah, so, um, anyway, it should be an interesting uh episode. I'm really, I'm really excited. I'm super excited for the event yeah yeah, I think it's gonna be fun.
Speaker 1:we're gonna see how it goes. Timing wise, I we would love to do something that our producer, christina, came up with of like kind of going around and like interviewing some of the women about stuff, and so I hope we have time to do that. Like there's a lot of stuff we're packing into this four hours tomorrow, but yeah, I had to go to Brianna's house and help her with outfits yesterday. Yes, thank God. Thank God that you did.
Speaker 2:I mean you'd have been fine. I really need you to start your fashion styling I want to, I really want to do it so that, um, everyone can maximize, maximize like their time, you know, in our fucking closet yeah, because here's the thing I so I didn't know what to wear for this event.
Speaker 1:I was like I don't know what to wear. I'm I'm in like a weird, weird, like transition time of like I have been losing weight and so a lot of clothes don't fit anymore. Then you don't want to buy clothes in case you lose more weight and land I don't know. That's why I like my little newly too. Yeah, then you could just rent stuff my old titties out your whole tit put that away jesus.
Speaker 1:Um, yeah. So I was like I just got some stuff together. I was like here's the things that currently like fit and that I think might be good for this event, but I don't know how to put any of this together. Can you help me? And so you're like, yeah, let me just run over to your house really quick. So you just came over and within two minutes you had put three full outfits together from not that many items. How many many pieces was that Like 12 to 15.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's about it. And you put together three outfits that were really cute and I never would have put those things together. I don't know that I would have, except for maybe the like jeans that have the all of stuff with the blazer, that's it. But I wouldn't have even thought to put, like, the vest under. But anyway, I'll post the outfits that she um picked out. But I just think you have such an eye for that and you're really good at it and you're good at like staying on top of the trends with stuff, and it's just really hard for people just all of us regular people to like do that and I think you're really being selfish by not giving us your expertise.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna try. I I am going to try in this next month or so to really get myself out there and like to, you know, to try to push it and try to like open these doors for myself, but it's really hard to have all these businesses.
Speaker 1:Well, I mean, let's talk about that. So you currently you work here full timetime. You own a whole nother business sparked, which you do every single week. Yeah, you own another whole business. Xoxo, tamika, I'm not really doing that I mean you were. Yeah, it's just like it was like for the kids. Yeah, the kids were really like being little entrepreneurs and really doing it that's so cute, yeah, and then you kind of were doing your fashion styling thing for a bit yeah, and you were starting to kind of get into it.
Speaker 1:You just take a little break right now you also still have hair clients.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I still do hair. Yeah, how the fuck what I don't have. First of all, I don't really have small children. I mean, I have one technically, but and yeah, she has some games and stuff, but for the most part I don't have to worry about her so much, true, yeah, who takes care of her, uh, in a way that, like you know, I don't have to worry about, like school or any pickups or anything like that.
Speaker 2:So I think that gives me a little bit more headspace, you know? Um, and yeah, I think because we don't have small children makes it so that I just like try to do a lot of things. Yeah, there's not a lot of relaxing during the week, but that's okay. What else am I going to do? And I don't really need that so much. I think that's a thing too.
Speaker 2:It's just like the way that I work. I like all that stuff. I mean just like when we had talked about an episode before about like boss babes and stuff. Like I like that, I like this you like the hustle I love the hustle. Yeah, there are times where I feel like the hustle.
Speaker 2:I wish I was making a million dollars doing the hustle right, you know that would be nice, but I enjoy the hustle, I can stand it and I mean, I don't know how much longer I could do it because I am old now and I don't know how much longer, like my brain will be able to allow me to do this yeah, so while. I can't. I'm just like, yeah, I'll just do it all and also it while we're saying this. Yeah, I do here, but I have like five clients yeah so it's not like I'm over here doing three, four clients a day you know, I do like one a week yeah, um still yeah.
Speaker 2:And then you know, sparked, yeah I. You know have to text and email and like you're setting up appointments all week like every day.
Speaker 1:And then you know sparked, yeah, I you know, have to text and email and like you're setting up appointments all week, like every day, and then saturdays drew and I are here like four hours yeah yeah, max.
Speaker 2:So I definitely could do like the styling stuff, but like you know, that's like starting a whole business it is literally starting a business.
Speaker 1:It is yeah, I mean I really want to sit down. I want to have a meeting about this, yeah, and I want to do a business planning sesh, yeah, and just get this going yeah because I really think, I just really think it's such a missed opportunity for you and there's like not really anything here in our town no like that, like does something like that.
Speaker 2:Where they come to you, they'll style your wardrobe that you already currently have and then you know, just add a few pieces and like for, like an affordable price like yeah, it's one thing like you could go and find a stylist for about you know three, four thousand dollars of course but and they're going to want to bring pieces in so much. I really want people to focus on what they have and then just bring in some staples. If you can't, I mean, some people are just going to need a whole new wardrobe, I'm sure.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, depending on where they are. As far as styling, some people just need a whole. They're like I hate everything in my closet, overhaul everything. Yeah, I hate everything in my closet. Okay, then we can start from scratch. Yeah, but I really want to go in and see what people have and see like to try to really style them differently yeah because people need that. I think people need help with that a little bit for sure yeah, and I just that's.
Speaker 1:What I really like is that you'll take stuff that I already have and you just put the outfits together and yeah, you'll send me stuff and like, if I'm like, well, I don't know what do I need to be able, because you know how sometimes you just buy things like you just buy, like you're just walking through fucking target or something you're like, oh, I like this shirt. You just throw it in your cart, but you're like I don't really have anything to wear this with.
Speaker 2:But oh, whatever, I'll figure it out, and then you never wear it or what happens, too, with people is they go and they're like, okay, this is the outfit I'm gonna wear this time to this event, right, but they don't know how to repurpose that outfit so that they could wear it in their regular life, or they feel like it doesn't look like just this outfit, that that's the only one they're wearing they don't know how to like.
Speaker 2:I could wear this shirt with this and these pants with this, and this and this. So I think that that's the thing is like people need recipes for their outfits, and like they can't figure it out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so for sure, yeah well, and I was telling you one thing that I wanted to start doing with you that I would like you to start offering is almost like a like a seasonal subscription for people, where it's like, literally every season you come to my house and you go okay, we're refreshing the wardrobe for the next season yeah let's get rid of some stuff, let's get some new stuff.
Speaker 1:Let's like spruce it up. It's just like, yeah, a little refresh. You don't need to get like a whole new wardrobe, but come on, I don't want to be wearing the same shit all the time and I want to really do like uh, I really want to do like vacation outfits where like I, I basically am packing your vacation luggage.
Speaker 2:It's like this is what you should wear, these are the shoes, this is the bathing suit you wear, and this is how you should wear your jewelry.
Speaker 1:And this is how you should wear your hair that day I wish you know like could have done that for my hawaii trip. I didn't give you any like heads up, yeah, or any time to do it. I know yeah.
Speaker 2:So I would love to do that, like I think that that is really fun and I really like styling, that kind of resort wear too, and stuff like that, and that tends to be when people buy new pieces and then they need to be able to repurpose. You need to be able to wear that sundress in real life, but there's like I just went on vacation. I don't really know what I could do with this you know, and.
Speaker 2:I'm like, okay, well, wear it like this, you know. So yeah, I mean, I really, really want to do that, but it feels overwhelming, it's hard to start, it's hard to start, especially when you're like a business offering a service.
Speaker 1:It's always like how do I price this out? How do I make like? Do I make packages? Do I charge hourly? Do I?
Speaker 2:like, and then you feel like failure too. Like am I going to do this and no one's going to book me? Am I going to do this and no one's going to like me? Am I going to go in there and like they don't like any of the outfits that I picked for them? Or like all this stuff? Like you know what? What are we?
Speaker 1:There's so many unknowns.
Speaker 2:Scary, and so then you go.
Speaker 1:I'll just figure it out later.
Speaker 2:I'm not going jump into this Like it's something that I feel like I could do, but I don't know.
Speaker 1:So I feel the same way about my coaching stuff.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:And I know we've had this conversation so many fucking times. I almost don't even want to talk about it, I know.
Speaker 1:But yeah, it's like I've done the business coaching off and on, off and on off and on for years where it's like in the beginning I just wanted to coach other photographers and that's what I was doing in the beginning. And then I was doing I mean, I mostly did one-on-one, yeah and I wanted to start this like group program, I wanted to make courses, I want to do all this stuff. And then I kind of started expanding into other like service-based businesses and doing again like one-on-one stuff.
Speaker 1:But I just never really found my groove with it, um, and I just kept going back and forth between, like, do I want to be like a not general business coach, but like for, like all service-based businesses or whatever? Or am I like, do I want to stick to the photography realm? I just go back and forth and then same thing. Do I want to do a group program? Do I want, dude? I like, do I want to stick to the photography realm? I just go back and forth and then same thing. Do I want to do a group program? Do I want, dude, I like doing one-on-ones. Would I rather just do courses a little and I just get stuck in this little cycle and then I put it off and then I go okay, and I do nothing.
Speaker 2:Right For months. It's the nothing thing.
Speaker 1:And then I come and then I go, okay, so then I get a couple more coaching clients and I start working with them and I go, yeah, yeah, and I kind of get like excited to like get it going again, and then I get overwhelmed and then I go I'm taking another break, yeah, and it's just like I think what's hard too is when you already have a job or you already own a business. It's hard to for me. I'm like I know how to make money owning a photography studio, like I know that. I know exactly what's going to make us money, what's exactly not going to make us money. I know where to be spending my time, all of that, whereas in another niche or another type of business you're like I'm not a hundred percent sure, and so it gets scary to take time away from the business that guarantees your income and you know how to do it to give it to this other entity.
Speaker 1:That might be a failure. And you're like so scary, do I want, or do I just like double down on what I'm already doing and just stick with that?
Speaker 2:yeah, like do I spend time, more time doing like sparked and stuff and not like this, like you know, styling thing. But then I'm like no, I really want to do this styling thing, like you know, and I really think that this could be like a full on business that I have you know. So, yeah, it's so scary. I mean I think that just with anyone is scary.
Speaker 2:Like you know, when I was a hairstylist before I decided, before I you know, started doing photography, I was like I'm gonna start doing lashes, right, and I kept thinking like I need something.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, I was like I just need something because you get bored like you get, I get really bored and I was like I just need to bring another service in my, you know, in this realm and I like, and there was a room at my salon that I could like, use and like all this stuff and no one was doing lashes like at our salon and I was like I should do lashes Like this is the thing, and so I talked to the owner and I was like I think I'm gonna do lashes.
Speaker 2:She's like okay, yeah. But then the photography thing came and I was like okay, this, like that it, or what if I'm?
Speaker 1:not good at it.
Speaker 2:I mean it's always like what if I'm not good at it, can I really charge these people and like say these things? But I feel pretty confident in my styling where I know that people aren't gonna say I'm not good at it. Yeah, I just feel confident enough in that. Yeah, they might think that like my styling is weird or something, but I don't think they're gonna be like she doesn't really know how to style at all yeah, she doesn't know what she's doing yeah, but is it enough that they want to pay for it?
Speaker 1:I mean, people already have paid for it. Yeah, people have been paying you for it. So, yes, they would. I know, and I guess that's the thing too, like I'm, I'm I'm saying it in terms of like, oh, starting a different business, but it's even like just bringing another service in, like you're saying, to your existing business. Yeah, like, if you're someone who has like a bunch you're a hairstylist, you have a bunch of color clients- right but you're like, oh, I want to start doing extensions.
Speaker 1:But it's like, right, do I want to commit to like taking the certification courses and I'm paying to do it. And then I'm like marketing this and then, if nobody books me for extensions, and then now I'm like like now I'm losing my color clients because I'm raising my color prices because I want to be doing extensions, and it's like it's the same thing. It's like it's scary. Yeah, you have to, it's a big old leap of faith yeah, you just have to jump.
Speaker 2:And I tell people all the time, just jump. But like I, here we are, I can't jump myself. We're both sitting on the edge of the cliff, teetering, and we're just like and I'm scared of heights, so I don't want to go down, and we both kind of keep pushing each other towards the edge.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you keep it like, just fucking do it. What are you fucking? Doing, let's just hold hands okay, all right, fine, as long as I have a cute outfit on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, let's make sure, okay, perfect, yeah, yeah, because I even think like there's I have so many ideas and just incorporating like styling into our branding sessions and me being a part of that yes, and like doing that, where it's like I want to do even these things.
Speaker 1:You know so also can we just talk about how stupid we are, that like I literally am a business coach and I can help you plan and create your whole entire business and you have access to all of our branding clients, that I could give you all of these clients and you could be like I could utilize all of your services not only for my business but for my personal life, but we're both just sitting here like I don't know. Maybe we can't do it yeah, what are we doing?
Speaker 1:because we have to worry about the washer and dryer getting delivered jesus christ and our instagram getting shut down, yeah, and all this bullshit that happens at the studio. So it's like, where is the time where is that? Oh, we just need, I just need to give our assistant more hours. Yes, we just need to give her more things to do so that we have the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but we're idiots so I guess we're starting new businesses and hopefully you guys uh patronize us.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know yeah, hopefully you book uh tamika for all your fashion styling needs, specifically your vacations.
Speaker 2:Yes, especially as summer's coming up, I will do a whole Pinterest board with you and I will send you links to all the things and it doesn't have to be like super expensive. It could be. If you're Amazon girly, that's even better.
Speaker 1:What's the date? Right now? It's May 3rd. Let's pick a date right now it's may 3rd.
Speaker 2:Let's pick a date right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, pick a date where you're gonna officially launch this. I'm saying I don't want to pick a date. No, I'm picking a date.
Speaker 2:I'm picking a date I don't want to jump. I jump, you jump jack.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's your favorite gilmore girls scene and I'm gonna be a paratus what's the date? I don't know. Look at your. Oh, you don't have anything on your google calendar, so my birthday, that's in four days, next week.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not ready. I don't have like anything we don't have anything to do on monday I just have to make graphics and everything we have to do this fucking podcast editing yeah, yeah, and I have to my birthday shoot on tuesday we'll figure it out by then.
Speaker 1:Yeah, the day you turn 40 is the day you become a stylist may 7th, okay, if you're listening to this, and it is after may 7th 2025, tamika is now an official fashion stylist and you should reach out to her my instagram handle is tamika streak. Fellow, strength fellow make a string fall you know, it's weird too.
Speaker 2:My family's been calling me by my maiden last name, and I hate it. What is your maiden last name? Rivera? So then I just hear the tamika maria rivera yeah, they always go tamika rivera or you never text me the other day tam Tamika Rivera and I was like, quit calling me that. I have a string fellow. Why do you keep calling me that?
Speaker 1:I haven't had my maiden name since I was like 20.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but you know, I just did my real ID and I had to like write it down Because they're like, have you gone by any other name? And I actually had to put it in I need to get my real id too I actually don't even have my driver's license.
Speaker 1:Wait, you have a passport though, yes or no?
Speaker 2:I do, yeah, okay because you know people that don't have their passports and they can't even travel, yeah, within the united states, yeah, without the damn real id if they don't have their passports, yeah, yeah, I mean, I had to spend two and a half hours because if I didn't do that, the next appointment was until June 11th to actually make appointment at the DMV. Which here's the thing. If you live in our area, I believe that Fairfield goes a lot fucking faster than Vacaville. I think Vacaville is a slow slug, slug, yeah, but Fairfield they got you going, they got all their windows open and they're okay, here we go and they have a kiosk.
Speaker 2:okay, here we go and they have a kiosk. I don't think you can use a kiosk for your real id, no, but it is a little bit better.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, good to know, because you know I lost my driver's license.
Speaker 2:This is second time now you don't have one right now I don't have one right now and she's so bad and that's why I was worried, because you know, because I don't have a wallet is next week and my driver's license expires on my birthday, so it would be expired too. That's why I was like I gotta go yeah, see, my driver's license is not expired I just don't actually have it.
Speaker 1:I have a picture of it. I took a photo of it and I have it. It worked because when we were in hawaii my grandpa got a rental car but he was like I don't, I want you to drive. And I was like I didn't even think of it till we.
Speaker 2:I said I don't have a driver's license because I just use my passport when I know they're trying to do it. So you put in your wallet, just like your car, your app oh, your Apple.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you're not the girl, but they're like a lot of people aren't gonna take it though well, this lady, oh this lady, kehlani at budget car rentals like to, I mean she was so nice oh my gosh, she was a nice and so funny and he was like well, I gotta get my granddaughter, you know, on here. And I said here's the thing, kaylani, I don't have my driver's license with me.
Speaker 2:She always calls everyone by their name.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I look at the name tag, kaylani, so so hawaiian of you. And um, I said I have because she was like, oh, like we, you know, can't add you as a driver. I'm like, well, I have a picture of it on my phone and my aunt, aunt's like, oh, my like what, if? Why would you even fucking say that? And she's like, okay, well, she was like, let me see it. So I just pulled up the photo and I showed it to her.
Speaker 2:And she's like okay, well, I'm not going to.
Speaker 1:That was not her real name, that was just a pen name. Uh-huh, that was her stripper name. Yeah, she was so nice and she was like it's okay, because I showed her the photo and she was like, okay, it doesn't expire until 2029.
Speaker 2:I mean, the thing is, you do have a valid.
Speaker 1:it is valid and I got it up here.
Speaker 2:I memorized my over. I'll just tell them the number and they could just fucking look it up. I mean, I'll still get.
Speaker 1:Probably the thing is like, you know you, I had to get ready for my driver's license photo. The whole thing. I hate it. I want to retake it. So I tried really hard the last time I oh, and I take my photo and I got all ready and I would like practice my, my practice, my pose and all the things. They took my photos so up close it was literally like cropped on just my face I was like why the fuck is it so zoomed in?
Speaker 2:but I mean it looked okay I really like my passport photo right now, I mean my driver's license photo right now. Oh, I gotta see it I have, oh it's.
Speaker 1:Oh wait, you're like, you're one that's gonna expire. Yes, oh, I really like it sorry, have you seen? Did they show you no?
Speaker 2:there was nothing they like. It's not. There's not a thing on, like they didn't show you on the screen once it comes.
Speaker 1:No, it comes up. No, they showed me I said why did? It.
Speaker 2:So jesus christina bless you uh-huh, they didn't show me anything I gotta see it here. It's pretty good let's see this photo, not horrible. Let's see, oh, my legs.
Speaker 1:That is the fakest smile I ever saw in my whole life.
Speaker 2:Yeah but I just look, okay. I don't want it to be ugly.
Speaker 1:I don't like that photo of you. Yeah, I like it. No, you could take something way better Nah it's just regular. No.
Speaker 2:Like. My makeup looks good and everything looks good. She looks like she wants to kill herself.
Speaker 1:No, it's just that is not a good photo of you. Yeah, no, you're not allowed to. I just want to take my own.
Speaker 2:I heard you're allowed to submit your passport one now. What, yeah you?
Speaker 1:I heard that you, I mean it has to be the you know Regulation, but you can print it or whatever, but now you can take multiple so that, like you know, you don't have to go to a place. Okay, can we talk about how many people knock on our front door asking if we'll take their passport photos and I'm like we don't do that here and they're like can't you just take it?
Speaker 2:no, we don't do it, and you know what it is. It's always like older ethnic people always yeah, it's like older asians, uh, like indian, which is asian yeah, as well, but like always older people I mean older white men, they. They come to the door too, but you know the older white men they're like. Can you guys restore these photos?
Speaker 1:for us. Oh my gosh, they always.
Speaker 2:Yeah, they're always asking, like it is always these older white men too, asking. I'm just like.
Speaker 1:They need to restore their photos, or they got to get it off a USB and they don't know how.
Speaker 2:And I'm like we don't offer these. First of like I can't do this for you. I helped one guy one time who came to the door, and it it was. He was so nice they're so, they're always really nice and I'm like I'm sorry and then okay, not the older Asian ones.
Speaker 1:They're mad because I say no, we can't take your passport. And they're like why can't you just take it? And I'm like because I don't fucking do that. I don't even know what the regulation is, you have to print that.
Speaker 2:They print it out for you and give it to you. I don't have a one by one printer.
Speaker 1:I use my little like Instax.
Speaker 2:Yeah, send that in and see what happens. Yeah, you want me to take it Okay, and then here's your photo $100. No, also, I mean. So they just look up photo studio, but then they don't see like that that. That is a service. So when they go to our website, right, they don't. They don't see passport photos on there yeah it's like branding boudoir seniors.
Speaker 1:You know family yeah, not passport photos. I mean I guess we just pop up on there whenever people put in.
Speaker 2:I mean I guess you would think like I mean, I wouldn't think this, but people will think like photo studio okay, oh yeah, it's good yeah I know that's so silly.
Speaker 1:That is silly, happens all the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I always get freaked out if, like, I hear anyone like come to the door unexpectedly, I hate that which is weird because my I probably shouldn't say that. Okay, never mind. So people come in unannounced in my house all the time like they weren't invited or whatever, and they come and I'm never worried, right. But like here I'm like someone knocked on the door.
Speaker 1:Who the fuck is that? Who's here? Why are they here? Yeah, do you hear something you know yeah, yeah, I know I hate that too. Also, the whole front of our studio is just windows, and so you can't hide like if someone is walking up and they want like they want to knock on the door, we can't act like we didn't see them which the reason why the things are locked in our.
Speaker 2:Our front door is locked because a uh, homeless lady did come walk in on me doing a viewing with multiple dogs and a machete, and she came into the studio while I was doing a viewing and was screaming that someone was killing her to kill her, and I was like I didn't know what was happening. This is when we used to keep our doors unlocked and I was just like oh my god.
Speaker 1:And I told my client.
Speaker 2:I was like you stay in here, because it was like a room. Then uh, that was, you could close the door. And I came out and I just see this homeless lady with the machete multiple dogs. You know, you guys know I don't like deal with the dogs and they were big dogs no, they were little oh, I thought you know they were like little chihuahuas, oh, but you know I don't really do.
Speaker 2:They're like little, or dogs like little size and chihuahuas there's three of them, though. Right, she comes in this hallway and she's got this machete and she's like. He's trying to kill me and I'm like and she's trying to run in the back.
Speaker 1:She's trying to hide in the back.
Speaker 2:I'm calling 911. She puts the machete down, finally, and I take it and I like hide it. So I'm like this bitch is about to murder me, yeah. So then I'm hiding the machete and let me tell you. So we call the cops, I wait for the cops. The cops finally come. I'm like he passes our studio and then he comes back and then he literally walks through the door and he just goes, deid right, he already knew who he was, who she was, from my description of like calling 911, and also like I lock us in because I'm looking like is there a guy that's gonna bust through here, like trying to murder us? Like I was really worried yeah does he have a gun?
Speaker 2:what's happening so? Ever since then we lock our doors and we kind of peek around the corner to look through his ear, you know when we're in the back, because it could be scary.
Speaker 1:I mean, nothing like that has happened at this studio, I was gonna say just to clarify, this was like five years ago at our old studio, which was in a kind of shittier part of town where right now we're just smacked down in the middle of downtown.
Speaker 2:It's not shitty at all, it's yeah, not weird, it's not that like it was so shitty where we were, it was just like an alley kind of. And then there was a park near it and everyone knows when there's like a park there's a little bit more homeless there's a lot of homeless people over there and we.
Speaker 2:That was when we would have a warming shelter where we lived, and so they would bus in a lot of homeless people or I mean, some of them are like drug addicts to our area. They let them stay there only from like eight o'clock at night to six in the morning, and then they have to leave the warming shelter.
Speaker 1:So everyone's just kind of hanging out like six am, there's just all these homeless people wandering around like zombies and I think there was a problem, like where we were.
Speaker 2:Like you know, our town was like we can't have like these drug addicts in. Like some of them, you know, did drugs just like in our parks and stuff right by us, and so we don't live by there we don't work with our studios in there anymore.
Speaker 2:But so sometimes, yeah, like remember the guy brie and I he we had these big old windows and he just came up to the window and he was just licking the windows, oh, my god, it's always just coming out, in and out, yeah, and he would just like stare into your soul and like lick our windows oh my god and I was like relock the door and she had to run to the front and lock the door.
Speaker 1:So there was like one time I showed up to work and there was a lady like bathing in our um like the hose hookup like the spigot yeah, she was like taking a little shower, yeah, right outside. I was like oh, okay okay, yeah, or there would just be people like sitting literally right outside our front door like just smoking weed, just just sitting in like leaned up on the front door.
Speaker 2:I don't know what kind of place it our spot was just like a white building too, so it could look like nothing.
Speaker 1:We didn't have a, we didn't have signage, because I was scared to put photo studio, because it was kind of a shitty area and I thought people would break in because they would think like, oh, you have all this equipment, yeah, and so it's funny, though, because where we are now is only blocks away from there and it's such a different, yeah, situation, yeah, but also it's really, we're literally smacked up right in the middle of like main street and so we're like there's everyone's around there's like that was secluded over there, where this is kind of like this weird alley over there.
Speaker 1:So it's like and it was across the street from at the time, a continuation high school and that's where, like all these kids would just be.
Speaker 2:And there was that drug house that like meth house, like a banded meth house right kind of diagonal behind us and so, yeah, it was a good spot. Yeah, we've really come up from there, jesus yeah, god.
Speaker 1:But when I feel like once you walked in, it was just like, wow, it just seemed like such a different, like inside. When you were inside, it was like such a nice studio and it was like bright and god, so I love that studio. And then, but the second, you walk outside. Oh boy, it's kind of scary.
Speaker 2:So ever since then. That is the reason why, if you ever come to our studio because people have have said this, our doors are locked.
Speaker 1:Yeah, clients are always texting us like I'm here, the door is locked, and we're like I know we can't let you in until the time, because also, we don't have like a waiting area, like there's just clients, like there's clients in viewings, there's clients in shoots, there's clients in hair and makeup receptionist who can kind of, yeah, so, anyway, yeah. So if you come to our studio and it's locked, that's why because people always be like, oh, I tried to stop by a few times, but you, you guys are never there and I'm like, oh no, we're always here, we're always here.
Speaker 1:We're either in the back or we're upstairs doing shoots, but the door is just locked yeah, sorry it's not a stop by type of place don't come in here neither is, neither is my house.
Speaker 2:Don't ever stop by yeah, I'm always like everyone. Stop by, please, come to my house and hang out with me. No, I need a little bit.
Speaker 1:I have to, we're gonna have shots I have to mentally prepare before someone comes to my house like that's a text me before, text me on your way yesterday I said text me when you're on your way, text me on your way. I just need to know something like, okay, I need to know when you're coming and like no, I just have to be ready, just to come.
Speaker 2:Uh, the only thing is like, I feel like I have to put a bra on oh, I didn't. I mean, I don't feel like if you were coming over I would do that yeah, not only when drew's friends come over, like if tony and pablo are coming over, I'm like I gotta go put my bra on.
Speaker 1:That's so annoying, I know, fuck them. They should have.
Speaker 2:They should have to wear a bra we all have to put our bras on yeah, yeah christina comes over with tony.
Speaker 1:She doesn't have bra yeah but I have to put a bra on, I feel like my sister is one of those who I mean, I don't know if she's still like this, but she used to be like you know, she didn't really wear a bra. That's how riley is too.
Speaker 2:I mean too it's that generation.
Speaker 1:Yeah and uh. She would just be at my house. This is when I was married and I would be like your nipples are showing and she's like. So she's like oh, my nipples are showing like through her shirt, not like out of her shirt I'd be like you're just walking around, my husband with your nipples out, like that, and she'd be like get over yourself, like who cares?
Speaker 2:I just could never, I'm not, I'm, I don't know, I could never, just I always put something, unless there has been once in a while where I have a big sweatshirt on yes and then I always have a blanket on whenever, and so if I'm way too lazy and paul is just paul coming over and he's like I'm just gonna come over for one drink or whatever, I'm like fuck it. But most of the time if drew's friends are coming over, I go I better go put a bra on, yeah, yeah, sorry I know.
Speaker 2:That's why I kind of like when to me his boyfriend stays with us, because I feel like. I always have to fucking have a bra on, even though that's their generation. They never like his generation or their. They don't wear fucking bras they don't and they're not bothered it, but I just feel like Tamia's mom's walking around without a bra on as her nipples are showing and stuff.
Speaker 1:I know that's how I feel when my family's visiting, like my grandpa's visiting. I'm like I have to wear a bra all the time.
Speaker 2:Now that sucks, or sometimes if my brothers are there, I'm never wearing like a t-shirt and no bra. Like I'll put a sweatshirt on. Sometimes I'll go. I'm not putting a bra on.
Speaker 1:You have to announce it. I have to announce it Also. Probably no one is even paying attention, except you know us. No, my stupid brothers would walk around without their shirt on, with their dicks out man, that's inappropriate, I know Just walking around in their underwear and stuff.
Speaker 2:Christian does, and he just has like white tights on sometimes I just see him in his underwear.
Speaker 1:When, what day is this Christian he's so bad?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, so maybe you're going to open up a business. No, tell us if anyone else is opening a business.
Speaker 1:You're opening a business May 7th. Okay, I'm going to relaunch my coaching business.
Speaker 2:You're going to coach me.
Speaker 1:I'm going to start with you, yeah, so I guess it's not going to be just photographers then, huh.
Speaker 2:I feel I mean, I know you always, I know you always.
Speaker 2:So here's the thing I know people have to decide whether it's like very like niche or general, and you always say niche, niche niche but it's just that I think that you have so much stuff out there to like help the world, like other industries you could really help, and so it sucks that you know that you're so like I want to just do this for photography Because I think that you could help other businesses, so it's tough mean, yeah, maybe service-based, like that could it. Yeah, like creative businesses, service-based businesses, I feel like it kind of you don't really need to like help anyone in the tech world.
Speaker 1:I would not even know what to say to them. I'd be like more like service creatives, yeah, like you're a hairstylist, you're a fashion stylist, I mean, even if you're like an injector, if you're a hairstylist, if you're a fashion stylist, I mean even if you're like an injector, If you're like, yeah, any like services like that, I think I could.
Speaker 2:Especially if you're starting to like open a small business Like I think that you could really help in that aspect Because you know you love fucking spreadsheets.
Speaker 1:Ooh and planning.
Speaker 2:And like all that shit, like, yeah, you love that shit let's get all your systems all set up.
Speaker 1:Your workflow I hate all those like.
Speaker 2:I don't want to have anything to do with those, you know, I just want to come in and be creative, that's I think that's what people want to do that's what's tough for me, especially though it's, like some people, you like both I do like both, but I like the business side more yeah, for me it's like I just want to come in, be creative and just fucking bounce. See you later. Hope you like your outfits.
Speaker 1:Post them on instagram yeah, you know, that's all I want to do yeah, so yeah, it's almost like.
Speaker 1:I almost would love to start. I feel like people have such a hard time keeping up with stuff and I've been reading all these threads, like I've been starting to go back into photography groups on facebook and, uh, you know, and people are just always posting and I feel like this is so with all small businesses, like you're just so overwhelmed by all the stuff that you have to do. Yeah, it's like, and you just need someone even to just like say okay, here's the things you should be focusing.
Speaker 1:Yeah list it's like I really just want to be more of like an accountability coach is mostly what it is, where it's like let me just keep you on the right path and focus on things that actually matter, not worried about the shit that doesn't matter.
Speaker 2:Make sure you have all your shit like set up and like streamlined yeah, that's why I think, like definitely like you, doing coaching calls is what's good, like encouragement, coaching calls, you know, and like you know stuff like that. Like I think that that's really good because it keeps you like accountable for like the things you need to do every week like you had a Monday morning and you're like, okay, I'm on Monday morning with my you know coaching like lady, and she's gonna tell me all these things.
Speaker 2:Or I'm gonna like tell her like I didn't do all the things from last week and then like those types of things and I want to have this.
Speaker 1:you book your call and then there's a drop down it. It's like what tone do you want the call to be? Encouraging, mean to me? I could be really mean to you and be like listen, you stupid bitch, you didn't do your homework from last week. Or I could be like oh, my God, you're doing so great, like what motivates you the most? Oh, that could be fun.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's do it.
Speaker 1:Okay, march May 7th, not March.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or else that came and gone. That's next year.
Speaker 1:That's next year.
Speaker 2:We have 10 months. The business better be ready to go.
Speaker 1:Shit Rolling in the profits by then yeah, yeah yeah, okay. Well, I'm so glad that we have all these fucking businesses, jesus, and I'm so excited to see where it's gonna go. We're just gonna take off. We're gonna get our outfits on and jump off the cliff without our bras yeah, let's not, I'm just gonna go naked, okay?
Speaker 2:I don't know, I think I need to cover up my vagina.
Speaker 1:It's just like flapping when and your kids are like yeah, we need someone make us a drawing of just us jumping off the and the vag lips just, and then just ripples in your butt, cheeks, yeah, oh my god, so good. And your, your lips too. It's like where are we skydiving? Jesus yeah it's really clipped up and all the way up there, really far down, we have our parachutes and just this episode's getting too silly, god.
Speaker 2:Okay, it must be time for a nap so, oh god, the nap every time she's like a baby. I know it's 10 am and she's like I need a nap.
Speaker 1:I know well, that's what happens. You wake up at four yeah, it's early. Okay, let us know what kind of business you run, or if you want to start a business or start a new service in your business, and what's been holding you back from doing it.
Speaker 2:And if you want to utilize our businesses coaching, call an audit or I'm going to style you for your next business event or vacation, yeah yes let us know, yeah, on our instagram at maximalist life podcast, and we will see you guys next time hope you're having fun. Dicks out, little dicks out.