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Ep 29 - Sex Myths We’re Sick of Hearing
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Episode Summary:
We’re busting sex myths wide open in this episode 🔥 From cringey misconceptions to straight-up hilarious beliefs, we’re breaking down what society gets wrong about intimacy—and replacing it with truth, laughs, and zero shame.
👶 That whole “looseness after childbirth” thing? Total B.S.—and don’t even get us started on the “husband stitch”
🍆 Size does matter… just not the way you think (spoiler: most people prefer somewhere in the middle)
🎥 Real sex ≠ porn. Period. It’s not all stamina marathons and perfect lighting
💦 Vaginal wetness + erections? Not always tied to arousal—so stop overthinking it
💔 Not every time is going to be fireworks, even in the best relationships
🤯 Someone out there really thought hollow penises = gay sex and black condoms = birth control… we can’t
🔥 Women wanting sex, initiating sex, or enjoying sex isn’t taboo—it’s ✨normal✨
Tune in for myth-busting, wild stories, and permission to own your pleasure, no matter what you’ve been told.
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I got my little drink . Perfect . What's in there ? It looks like water . Almost 10 am . I can have a drink . 10 am , uh-huh , 9.51 .
Speaker 1There's a White Claw , which I don't really like . White Claws I don't either , but I didn't want to open the whole bottle of Prosecco . I mean I would probably drink it all . But If you had to choose between the two , are you team white claw or team truly ? I think they all taste the same . They're all gross , really . I think truly is so much better . Yeah , I'd rather have a memo any day . Well , yeah , you know , you only can pick between the two . No , I have to have me .
Speaker 1I never , I mean , we never buy those . Those are not something that we ever ever have in our house . We have hard alcohol or champagne or wine . I think mostly White Claws and Trulies are for white people , are they ? Yeah , they're just like little sultrs . Yeah , just a little watered down .
Speaker 1I thought they were just like girl drinks . Well , I mean , yeah , I guess . Yeah , white people , you know , because , like Christina always brings , like Sojis and like what do they call it ? Soju or soju ? Yeah , soju , soju , soju , she's telling us our producer . Or she brings like a oh , we have sake . Yeah , that's true , you do . Yeah , yeah , not , I'll just bring the Trulies . Yeah , you don't ever bring those . No , I would never . I was like what you bring ? Pepsi , pepsi , yeah , I do , I don't even bring it , you just get it . Yeah , you just have it for me Because you don't really drink . I mean , usually if people don't drink , they just drink the La Croix's at our house . Yeah , and I don't even like La Croix's , yeah . So then , like you have to have Pepsi , you're always like I got your Pepsi , britt , go get her a Pepsi . Yeah , yeah , yeah . Oh , my God , I like to try to be a good host .
Speaker 1Welcome to Maximalist Life . It's weird that you're staring at me . I am just sitting here across the table . We're doing things a little different today . Okay , yeah , we are . We didn't even give our intro before we started our conversation , but I kind of liked it that way . Yeah , I think it's better . Yeah , it's also serious , serious . I'm Tika and I'm Brianna . We're the host of maximal slides .
Speaker 1Oh good , is that a scissor ? Lesbians , lesbians for life . I just made that up right now . She went you have to go lesbians for life and then scissor it . I don't know , I just came up with that Because I'm such a lesbian the lesbians they cut two fingers off , right , so they can finger jam there .
Speaker 1Yeah , yeah , I mean that would make sense . I don't know which ones of these two . Christina , our producer , she Googled it . She's a lesbian , so she'll tell you .
Speaker 1No , but one time I did like my nails had broke . I had a couple broken and to me it just goes mom , what in the lesbian nails do you have going on ? And I go what do you mean ? And then that's how I found out that lesbians have like that is funny short nails . I would just keep them all short . I can't just have two . It's a style . No , I don't want it , okay ? Um , I have a question for you . No , so this is a little controversial , okay , because today's a spicy episode . Spicy , spicy , yeah , which people say they've been liking the spicy . They have been saying that and we have actually had a lot of people saying that they are discussing the topics on the spicy wins or even listening to the episodes with their spouses . Yesterday I had a .
Speaker 1We had someone in here I never like to name names on the pod , so it's not in here that she was doing something with us as like a little collab and she was like I listened to my husband on the way they were having a date night and they listened to it in the car and she said it like brings up a lot of things . And she was like kind of like , starts off like a conversation , yeah , and it's a little . Yeah , she texted me about it too . Yeah , I was like , yeah , I really like to hear that . That's pretty cool , and I appreciate that men like to hear our nonsense . I don't know if they like to . They appreciate that they put up with it . Yeah , bullshit , they're . What are these two bitches talking about ? Yeah , and then if they don't like what we're talking about or what like we're saying , it's okay , because , like , they don't know us and so they could just talk shit and their wife could be like , oh , I like to start the conversation , though , by you know , it gives you a little in to . I think that's such a fun way to do it , like listening on your way to a date . Yeah , that's cute , yeah .
Speaker 1So my question for you and to all of our listeners okay , do you agree that watching porn is cheating ? No , I don't agree that watching porn is cheating . No , I don't agree that watching porn is cheating . Um , I don't know why . I don't really have a good answer for you . I just I don't know . I just don't think . I think that if it's like anything else or you become addicted to it , then it's a problem . But if they're just watching it , I don't care if you lust over that stupid girl , I don't think it is cheating either , and I and I think of it in this way . So to me there's physical cheating and there's emotional cheating .
Speaker 1There's like these different types of cheating that you do with someone that you know or like someone kind of like in real life . Watching porn to me is the same as like lusting over a celebrity , like you don't know this person , you'll never meet them , you you'll never have any physical or emotional . It's a fictional character . Yeah , it could be . I could just be like jacking off my book boyfriend . Yeah , I mean , that's the kind of . I think that might be . Why , too , like you're jacking off , just jacking it off . You're jacking your clit off . Um , yeah , I think the same . Like , well then , I can't read my little porn books . Yeah , to me , that it's . That's what it is to me . I mean , and I , and yeah , I mean some people would disagree with what we're saying .
Speaker 1And so , yeah , I'm just wondering . Uh , you know , some people think that , or and maybe they wouldn't use the word cheating , but they would say that it's inappropriate . It's inappropriate or it's like disrespectful , or it's something like it's shocking to them to think that their spouse would watch these videos . Or uh , drew was watching a show where , uh , I can't remember what it's called , but um , they were . The guy was watching porn in the bed , jacking off with his spouse in the bed with him . Was she sleeping ? I don't know if she was sleeping or what . I think so I don't , you know . And then we were like that's inappropriate .
Speaker 1Hmm , because in a sense , like , why aren't we just doing things together ? You're just like doing this for yourself . She's like go for it whatever . Yeah , I guess it's not really , it's just that's so weird , that's a weird situation . She didn't know , I think it's a little weird . But like , yeah , it's a little weird , yeah , that is weird . I don't know if I love that . Yeah , like it's like a weird situation . Like you're just like watching porn , jacking off . We're just like so I'm reading my book , no , or like I'm watching a show and then you just have your computer and then you just turn on porn and start jacking off . Well , yeah , that's so weird , that's weird . Yeah , yeah , or I wake up to you watching porn and jacking off Kind of weird .
Speaker 1Don't do that in front of me . Yeah , seems like a private moment , right , yeah , that's just , that's a weird thing . Yeah , weird way to go about it . Yeah , exactly , but there is such thing as mutual masturbation , yeah , and that's different . When we're both involved in something , it's very different .
Speaker 1But I think what we're talking about is singular . That's weird , right , don't be . Don't , just don't be weird , please , although I like weird people , but not that level of weird . Yeah , yeah , I really like weird people , but I don't want anyone to masturbate in front of me . No , I mean , you want to do a couple strokes ? If you want to do a couple strokes , you like , what are we doing ? You're just like jacking off in front of me . He's like you don't need to be here . Yeah , what ? Why aren't we doing things together ? It doesn't make any sense . That literally makes no sense . The whole point is for us to pleasure each other . Yeah , I mean , it's fine to masturbate Like , but like together . Right , yeah , it's okay . Yeah , yeah , okay . So I'm interested . Anyone listening ? Tell us , tell us your thoughts , shoot us a dm on our instagram and let us know what you think , because I am so interested to hear .
Speaker 1Yeah , um , today we wanted to talk about sex myths . So there's a lot of myths about about sex , and so we wanted to kind of debunk some of these . Okay , first one also I just have to tell anyone listening if you could see our notes , like our outline for some of our episodes , like , right now I just have bullet pointed loose mom puss , small dicks . Sex isn't like porn . The bullet points are hilarious . Yeah , um , really two words just to remind us , because we can't be reading paragraphs while we're like up here , but we need sometimes a reminder of , like , this is what we want to talk about . You know when we outline it .
Speaker 1Yeah , our first one is the myth that once you have a baby vaginally , do a vaginal birth , you're loose . Yeah , so I mean so much that they had like the husband stitch , right , isn't that what they call it ? What I never read , yeah , where doctors used to do one extra stitch after you have the baby . It's called the husband stitch . I thought you said have the husband stitch ? No , and I was like , wow , they're just just gonna stitch his dick hole right on . Yeah , close it up , husband stitch to make it a little bit tighter for him . Oh , that's what they called it . That's kind of them , yeah , so much just for the men again . Yeah , yeah , that's typical .
Speaker 1We had to go through the pain of an extra stitch in our badge for you , which I remember it being very painful . I do , oh , I remember Uh-huh , but also I had no drugs , so I don't know , I just don't remember the stitching being like such a painful thing that you know . I remember being like Afterwards yeah , I mean , when you're going to pee and it fucking burns because you got the stitch , you know , yeah , and they got to put the water on you . You squeeze and it fucking burns because you got the stitch . You know , yeah , they gotta put the water on you . You squeeze a little water , yeah , I just went through this whole traumatic experience and like I thought it was over and now you have to put a needle in my vagina , or how about ?
Speaker 1You thought you were done , you have to give birth to the placenta , or yeah , I see , I don't remember that part . I just remember afterwards they massaged your whatever . How to ? I don't know what it , I don't know , they're massaging your uterus . And I was like I want to punch the lady . But yeah , I don't think . Uh , yeah , so that is a a myth that you are loose after having kids . That is not true . Yeah , um , you have to remember that vaginas stretch out for childbirth and then they contract back together and you have to think about it . Like I saw this thing . Okay , I saw this like hilarious .
Speaker 1It was like a meme talking and it was talking about this topic and then it it showed like a , like a penis . I was like , think about , because they say , like after childbirth , or like , if you had a lot of sex , that's the other thing . Like , if you had sex with guys with huge dicks , you'll be looser . Or like , oh , if you're such a slut , you'll be really loose . Like , no , they're , like that's so ridiculous . And they were like , think about the opposite . What if you're a guy ?
Speaker 1It into more vaginas . It's like a lollipop , right . So it just shrinks every time . The more you lick , the more you get smaller and smaller . So there's poof . There's no penis , it's just a stick . Yeah , it's a kickstand . A soggy one too , because you're sucking it so hard . A flat one , oh my God .
Speaker 1What about the myth that this one's gonna be something . Okay , let's hear it . Bigger dicks equal bigger , better sex I yeah , I mean , here's the thing . I think medium dicks are probably the way agreed , because big dicks hurtful , could be really hurtful . You have to really prepare for them .
Speaker 1I've heard women that do have husbands with bigger or wider dicks say like they're sore for a lot of days , which I mean I could see how the soreness could be like a like a fun thing , Like just being like you know , I don't know , it's just a weird thing the first time , yeah , just like a weird sex thing that you think , or like they tell you like you're gonna be sore tomorrow . You're not gonna mean , yeah , yeah , that kind of weird shit , ew , um , but I do think that if you could work it , you're probably pretty much okay with any size dick , except for micros hate to say it . You know what ? Also , though , I have had sex with guys with not technically a micro penis , but it was small , smaller than preferred , and it wasn't good and it was not good . But that's why they have to have like a really good oral sex game and they don't . Yeah , that's always the problem , I know .
Speaker 1I know we joke a lot about the small penises here , which is fucked up , which is mean , which is mean . We really shouldn't . I know I'm sorry if your husband has a small penis , but he also probably pleases you , right , because , in whatever way , because you stay with him , right , hopefully , right . So it's like orally , or he really knows how to work your spots in there or he knows , you know , whatever it is . But , yeah , I mean I would say the medium to large dicks are probably the way to go . Yeah , the medium to large dicks are probably the way to go . Yeah , the large and then the small . I would rather deal with a large than a small , for sure , but medium is preferred . Yeah , probably is probably going to be your best . I bet if we had to check off boxes , most women would probably check medium . Yeah , I think a lot of girls say large .
Speaker 1Also , I think we have a misconception on what a large penis is . You know , I was gonna say like , like . I think we see videos all the time and say like 12 inches , and they're like jesus christ , you , you know , like . Girls say they want 12 inches and you're like . You know that 12 inches is the size of a ruler . You're trying to put that in . Like what , what are we saying here , you know ? Or like two soda cans , that's , that's a lot . Yeah , no , I'm like what ? Like that ? No , that doesn't seem enjoyable whatsoever . Yeah , it just seems like a challenge to pull out a ruler and show people what 12 inches is , because they want to say 12 , 10 .
Speaker 1These are hurtful areas 10 to 12 . So whenever I was in the Air Force , you had to stand like we'd be outside and we're standing , and then they would tell you like you're supposed to have your feet like 12 inches apart or whatever . And so they'd be like all right , have your feet 12 inches apart , whatever . No-transcript , yeah , it would kill me every time . Um , yeah , I think people , I think most people would probably ask for like a five and a half to seven and a half . Yeah , that's great . I think that's where I think that's great . That is like a , a good area also .
Speaker 1The other thing , though that's tough too , is no matter the length . If it's too skinny , that's a tough one for me . Where it's like it's too skinny , he's like a little width , not not a crazy amount of girth here , but like , again , medium , just medium . Yeah , I don't . It's funny how , in every aspect of life , we always want to be above average . But this might be where a woman says they just want an average . Yeah , you know where people might be like average would be good . You , you know , actually , more is actually not more in this case . Yeah , I mean , I saw this .
Speaker 1There's this porn guy that we follow on TikTok , or I followed . He just had like some good stories or whatever , and he's like girthman2000 or whatever . That's his username . Yeah , it's like I can't remember what it is or Mr girth or something , and he talks about women and how . I think he had a girl on there in a video and she was like , yeah , I mean , I had to prep for a lot of days for him and I was like I , I like after I have sex with him , it's like nothing for a week and they're like porn stars because his penis is so huge . Yeah , I'd have to pay a lot of money for me to do that . Yeah , I mean , once I see it , I have to run . I would run away . If it's , I gotta go , sorry , scream . Yeah , what's in my throat ? Oh , not the throat , never the throat . Um , yeah , okay , I mean that that is our next one .
Speaker 1Like sex is not like porn . So the myth that like sex should be like porn . Yeah , yeah , I don't . I don't know why . Yeah , I guess because it's a . It's the fantasy . Yes , right , it's always the fantasy .
Speaker 1It's a production . It lasts forever . You're doing hundreds of positions . You're just like . You're staying hard the whole time . You're squirting For hours . Yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , where is that coming from ? You're so dehydrated now You're just performing this whole time . Like , like , everything that they do is so great . You're just screaming all the time . Yeah , it's just like the best thing that you've ever experienced . No , yeah , I think it's so unrealistic and I think that you know when we're talking about porn and stuff like , yeah , of course , like that's where porn becomes an issue is , if you are watching it and then you're expecting that to be , or you're like comparing your sex life to that , then that's a problem because that's not real life . It's a movie . It's the actors .
Speaker 1Yeah , I've heard people like I know some people they like put it on and they just like , maybe do some things that they do , you know , kind of act it out , but I mean we can't do a whole show . I don't think . No , I don't want to put my video camera . I mean , here's the thing how about this ? How about people like videotaping themselves , like having sex , which I think could be fun ? I would do that .
Speaker 1Yeah , I think you could , drew , and I have never done that . I don't know . I don't know if I could watch it later . Even I would just like be embarrassed to like see myself . I'd be like I can't . I only want to look like what Drew's doing , but I can't watch myself . Yeah , you know , I'd be so embarrassed , but I can see how that is appealing , though , like you put it on , it's like watching a porno later , but then it's your porno . Yeah , like I would record it and then he could just watch it later .
Speaker 1I'm not going to watch it later , yeah , because you're all . Yeah , I'll be on there . Yeah , yeah , but you better make sure the angles are good . Yeah , I mean , it's like taking boudoir photos , sexy Of yourself , though . Yeah , tough , yeah , that is tough . Yeah , it's a tough thing , tough ways to grab it .
Speaker 1Yeah , you might need to hire a videographer for that if you want to do a porno at home . Yeah , a videographer for that if you want to do a porno at home . So , um , yeah , weird , I haven't thought about , like I wonder if any of my friends do . They like make pornos at home and they just have a little collection . I do , I'm sure that they do . Do you think so ? I think some people , you think it's more common that people . Actually , I think it's more common than you would think . Yeah , it's more normal . Okay , I'm gonna .
Speaker 1I've personally never done that . I'm gonna do it . I'm gonna see if you'll do it , but yeah , I'm sure he would do that quicker than you guys doing anal . Yeah , yeah , he's not . He's not ready . Yeah , you know too , it's funny that the husband's not ready to do the anal . Yeah , yeah , I just remember I did do that one time . Oh , you did actually did do that one time . It was that great .
Speaker 1It was a very short um , it was like too dark and like he didn't know and I just wouldn't . I didn't really care . It was like he wanted to do it and I was just like , yeah , record whatever . But also they don't know what they're doing . And then you're like you're just trying to hold this thing and then like you're trying to hold your phone and do all this stuff and I was like what do you don't have a tripod ? And do people get worried that now there's a tape out there that either like For sure you know like I'm not saying like your husband would , but it could go bad , people get divorced all the fucking time you know or you know you're just going to do it with a boyfriend or girlfriend and then now your tape is just out there .
Speaker 1For men , I don't think that ever the tapes or the footage I mean the photos that are leaked , are ever as bad for the guys as they are for the girls . No , they're always awful for us Because everyone is judging us . If you're out there sending nudes and taking videos that show your face , then you're that stupid anyway . Yeah , but also , like I don't know , like I don't really care , I feel like before I would be like like that would have mortified me , whereas now if someone , like if someone ever came into my life right now and was like , oh , I'm gonna leak this photo of you , I'd be like , do it , bitch , do it . Hopefully you get some money for it , because same , I really don't care .
Speaker 1Also , because my kids are adults and I don't think that we ever had a household where , like you , would be so ashamed that , first of all , my kids would never watch it , anyone that is my family or a friend , they wouldn't watch the video , right ? That would be weird first of all . So it'd be like , oh , she got this like video leaked or whatever . Nobody would . They would feel bad for me , not for , like you know , and what , like I'm ashamed that I had sex , you know like . So my kids , like you know .
Speaker 1And then there's like all this thing , I'm not a celebrity , so like , that's probably different , right ? I think I watched Amber Rose . She has only fans and she said she really like stopped putting like really sexual content on there , because she's like my kids are getting older and I just that her shit just gets played everywhere so they just might be scrolling on Instagram and it's their mom's pussy . You , you know , like who wants to see that . You know , so , like that's different , but yeah , but I mean , I bet people do worry about like , okay , now he just has this video sent to all his fucking friends and then , like you know , the younger kids in their mid twenties , you know , yeah , yeah , I think it's heavily dependent on , like , your relationship status , the person that you're doing this with , your age , uh , and your career .
Speaker 1Like , also for me , like , what's gonna happen to me if a porn gets out , I don't give a fuck . I own a boudoir photography studio . It's so on brand for me to have a sex . I already have my butt it out on my instagram . I don't give a fuck about . So what ? My ? You see my pussy ? Like nobody is trying to look at it .
Speaker 1Yeah , but it's different , like if I was some like you know ceo of a fucking tech company . Yeah , that would be awful for my career . Or if you're a religious or any , any , yeah , it depends . It completely depends on your , um , I guess , your situation , your situation , your career , your like your kids , your family , whatever , yeah , um , yeah , I think too , and I'm sure my family would not be like thrilled about it , but also , I'm not , I don't have the type of family that would be like we're gonna just own you because you , yeah , like my mom , would be like , okay , you're an idiot . Yeah , you're dumb , and same with my grandparents would be like god you're . So what are you thinking ? Yeah , like what , you thought this was a good idea , but they wouldn't be like they would never be mad at me . No , like , yeah , like you're saying like , disown me for any reason . My brothers too , they'd be like god , you're dumb , okay , I mean , they probably think I'm dumb all the time , but you know , yeah , yeah . So if you're gonna make a sex tape , make sure you do it with someone , you keep it , make sure it's with someone you trust and preferably , do not show your face in this video .
Speaker 1Um , there's a myth that I think a lot of guys believe , like if a girl is not soaking wet , she must not be turned on like you're , or you're just like not wet at all . They might be like she's not into this . Yeah , I don't think that's true . I mean , it's the same . It's the same thing . I think it goes to like with penises not getting hard , it could be biological , it could be your hormone levels , it could be the medication that you take , that you're under a lot of fucking stress , like you have no idea what's happening , like like I think with those two things specifically , people need to have more understanding . So here's the thing . I I think it's two things .
Speaker 1I feel like you've told me stories where you go into these situations where you're gonna have sex with these guys and these guys are like talking it up , talking it up , talking it up . It's like the situation is like we're going to have sex on , like the ship all bought and then they can't get hard , right ? I think that's a different situation , like how you have to react in those situations , or what you think . Not react you should just be nice , I guess . Yeah , but what you think later then , like it's your spouse or it's your husband or it's like your partner , and then they can't get it up for whatever reason , I think that's more of like , okay , we're investigating , like what's going on ? Are you stressed ? Yeah , we're doing an investigation . Are you stressed ? You try to be more helpful . And the same thing , I think , for women too , like you know , if she is dry , like we need to figure out what the solution is and why .
Speaker 1I mean , I think for girls it's easier . You can squirt some lube . Guys , they can't get it up , they're fucked , sorry , yeah , like , what are we going to do ? I guess you have to eat me out for 10 hours . Which ? Who wants to do that ? It's so fun .
Speaker 1Yeah , it's really easy in those situations to , when you're the other person , to feel like it's because of you , or like something that you've done or that you're not doing right , to feel like , oh no , are they ? They are not attracted to me , or and you just have to realize , like 99 of the time , has nothing to do with you . Also , the other person is way more embarrassed and is , you know , like they're the ones that it's happening to . So , like , don't make it , yeah , don't make it about you . They're literally it's happening to them , they're embarrassed as fuck . They will tell you like I'm so turned on , but they can't get wet or they can't get hard , like come on , get you know , help them out or just be like nice or whatever . Yeah , yeah , I mean , those two things are tough . Those are like tough because they're like , they're like medical issues . This is a medical condition . Yeah , yeah , they're not necessarily , you know , like because I'm turned on or not turned on .
Speaker 1Also , maybe it I think that sometimes this has happened where it's like it's like a quickie or whatever , for with me and Drew , like we just like it starts too quick , so it's like I'm not complete , like we're just putting it in , like I'm not completely wet yet , so it's a couple of thrusts to get me like completely wet , you know , and so I feel like that happens too . Yeah , you know , yeah , it's like you have , whatever the situation is , you're not , you don't have enough foreplay leading up to it . Yeah , it's like we're just going to do it , but we haven't like done anything yet . So it's like yeah , of course I'm not wet yet . Sorry , right , takes a minute , give me a couple thrusts or whatever and then I'll get wet . It's fine . You know Well , and I think that it . Yeah , I don't know .
Speaker 1I think there's a myth with men or like about men , that they're just like always ready to have sex Anytime . They could drop anything that they're doing and they're ready to go . And that is just not true . No , that's so ridiculous . No , when Drew's stressed out he doesn't want to have sex . No , because who wants to have sex when they're stressed out ?
Speaker 1Also , like I think that we , a lot of people , put a lot of emphasis on women needing this like emotional connection to someone to have sex . But a lot of guys do too . And so for a lot of guys , like let's say you don't know , let's say it's not your spouse , it's like someone you're dating or whatever , and like maybe there's just not enough of a connection yet for them to really want to do that yet . And it doesn't mean that they're not into you or that they don't like eventually want to do that , but I just think that it's really , um , the the connection that guys need in order to have sex is completely underrated .
Speaker 1Yeah , for sure , for sure , yeah , yeah , they can't just be ready all the time , but Hard dicks all the time Walk around with a boner , all the time , tent . They have a tent all the time , just like searching . They're searching for a pussy . Yeah , like this . Where is she at ? Yeah , where is she ? Yeah , yeah , yeah , yeah , where is she ?
Speaker 1I gotta get in my place , yeah , yeah , but on the on the flip side , I think the there's also a myth that women must have such a deep emotional connection to have sex with somebody , which also is not true . Yeah , I think that's again very situational . Depends on the person , the situation , the , the partner that you're talking about . There's just so many factors involved . How drunk we are , yeah , I think sex is like such a complicated , like layered situation that people just yeah , right off , as like this easy thing , that should just be so effortless , and if it isn't , then there must be something wrong . Yeah , what the fuck ? And that's it's actually so hard and so hard to navigate . No pun intended . Yeah , yeah , yeah , and that's the thing . Like , okay , that , okay , that makes me think of something else .
Speaker 1So every single time that you do have sex with your partner isn't always going to be 10 out of 10 . No , like there might be times where you're like that actually kind of sucked , like we'll try harder next time and it could be for again , for whatever reason . Maybe there are like physical things going on , but a lot of it is because the mental and emotional aspect that is behind what's going on is really just creating a barrier where you just can't , for whatever reason , you're just not having as good , as great of a connection as you maybe you normally do . Maybe you're like we just have great sex all the time and then I don't know what happened last night , like things were not good , we just like were not in sync and things just like felt really awkward and it's so again . So easy to just jump to conclusions like what's going on ? Or like maybe he's cheating on me or Lola , and it's like it's just you can't expect every time Just like I say with our , with photography you can't expect every single photograph to be a masterpiece . Okay , every session , every , even every session , every single one to be the best thing you've ever ever done your whole life the best work you've ever put out ? Yeah , best thing you've ever . Ever done your whole life , the best work you've ever put out ? Yeah , no , that's not gonna be every time you have sex . Can't be the best time you've ever had , yeah . So , yeah , when some , you lose some .
Speaker 1I think there was a time uh , I don't know , this must have been last year or something , I don't know drew and I had sex and I was like , uh , the next day I said I didn't really like our sex last night . And he goes what ? And I go yeah , I didn't really like our sex last night . And he goes what ? And I go yeah , I didn't really like the position we were doing it in . And he was like you said you wanted to do it like that . And I go yeah , then I didn't really like it , I didn't want it . Yeah , what ? Yeah , I didn't really like it like that . Yeah , sometimes I didn't really feel connected . Yeah , try again next time . All right , we're not doing that anymore . I like it . Yeah , I had .
Speaker 1I have had situations like that where I'm like I don't know what's going on , but this is not that fun . Like , should we continue ? I'll stop in the middle . I'll say something in the middle . I'll be like you will . Yeah , if it's just like weird or like just seems like we're just forcing it kind of , I'll say I'll say something . Yeah , I mean like , not like what the fuck is going on . Yeah , I'll just kind of be like are you having fun ? That's so awkward . No , like I'll say something . I don't know , like I don't even who knows what I would exactly , but I feel like I have said stuff in the past . I just I can't remember . It's been a while .
Speaker 1But yeah , yeah , and if it's just not working out , like , all right , maybe we should take a break . Are you hungry ? Do you need anything ? Maybe we could just circle back a little bit later . Yeah , I Like we have sex and then it's time to go to bed because we have to work long , we're tired . So , like , this is now or never . Hurry up , yeah .
Speaker 1So sometimes you're just like , okay , yeah , I mean okay , I mean it doesn't happen . No-transcript , I don't know why I didn't like it . Weird . You try to analyze it and stuff , and then you're just like , eh , I mean , fuck it , there's going to be hundreds of millions more times , so just move along . Well , remember , drew did his calculations of how many more times you guys will have sex in your lifetime . Yeah , so it's fine , just move on . So it's like can't be perfect . Every time the thing is like can't be perfect , yeah , yeah , no , not everything's going to be perfect every time . It's like that's not how the world fucking works . Yeah , you just got to keep moving on .
Speaker 1Also , I think people think you were mentioning people think , like everyone else is having more sex than you are . Some are obviously yeah , sometimes you're in a drought and you're just not having as much sex . And there are other people that are in a drought too . You know , I don't know . People are like I think I heard something that's like one to three is like average for a married couple . One to three times a week . Yeah , yeah , I think so .
Speaker 1So I would like to have sex every day , but not the pressure of having sex every day . You have to . Yeah , drew , when I tell drew that he goes , it's too much pressure , babe , like it's pressure that we have to force . Yeah , we have to every day and I go , fine , like every other day , but then sometimes every day , sometimes the days are consecutive , yeah , so it's like you know , I want to do it more , like every day , and Drew's like I want to do it every other day so there's not so much pressure , and I go , I know , but still you know , and he's like , oh my god , you're just so spoiled . He's like , whenever you want to do it , we have to do it . I'm like , yeah , but that way you don't have to ask . You know that I wanted and that's what I told .
Speaker 1I told him that too , like if I think that , if that's how you feel because I think with relationships too , or yeah , any relationship has to be right , the having to start it , or feeling like you're the one , oh , like initiating this , yeah , exactly that you're the one that has to initiate it . And then feeling like you could get rejected or you could . You know , people like hate that you know . And so I feel like I just wanted to tell drew like I'm open to have sex every day , twice a day . Oh , my god , whenever you want , I will . At this point , right now , I will not deny at all . So ask me whenever you would like to . I am fully open to it . Yeah , and so that's how it's been for a while now and I think , being open like that if you want to .
Speaker 1Yeah , I'm like you , trying to initiate every time , like you know , and then you feel worried . You know why am I always initiating happen ? You're never . I think that's all . That's such a huge conflict for for marriages , like the initiation thing , and so I think that if you want to do it all the time , just let them know one time and then they just have they know that , yeah , just communicate , yeah , so you don't have to be like worried and don't try to be tit for tat and like , well , I'm not gonna initiate this time because I initiated the last three times . All right , then you're gonna go to bed pissed off . Yeah , because I would still say , even though I told you that I want to have sex all the time , all day , he still initiates almost 100 . You're not the initiator , but you still want to be the girl . Oh god , I know , I love gender roles , I know you . Yeah , I want him to initiate , I don't know why . Yeah , I mean , I touch him all the time . So , like , I just feel , like you know I want to do it . So just let me know when you want to . Oh , my God , okay .
Speaker 1So we looked up some funny sex myths , so these are from people on the internet . Sex myths is like christmas sex , because it went just all together sex , sex , yeah , christmas sex . So these are things that people on the internet believed to be true . Okay , well , here's the thing . I mean I don't have anything . I mean I can tell you a weird story . Maybe I , I did have this thing .
Speaker 1Do you have any myths that you believe , when you were younger , that , like you had to debunk yourself ? Oh my God , I don't think so , yeah . Or like you were just naive to , or like you know , like anything like that ? So for me , I mean , this is kind of weird to say . I don't think I should say this out loud , but I'm going to say anyway so I didn't use any protection .
Speaker 1I had sex for the first time when I was in eighth grade . All the way until , probably for almost well , until I had sex with Drew . So , yeah , almost two years , I just wasn't using anything for the most part and they were just like coming at me and I just never got pregnant . You just got lucky . This is a little slut , little slut , slut . Yeah , I was molested . So , jesus , that's your excuse . Everything , yeah , yeah , yeah . Well , when you're , you know , highly sexual at such a young age . It is like you know , correlates , but , um , yeah , and I just just like whatever . So I thought , I think I thought I couldn't get pregnant yeah , okay , because it had went for so long , like that's a long time I so I was just so irresponsible and I never got pregnant until Drew . So it was meant to be yeah , yeah , wow , that's crazy , isn't that crazy ? That is crazy .
Speaker 1Just so many things about what you said is fucking crazy . Yeah , the whole thing . I don't know that I have anything . I'm trying to think if there was anything . Yeah , there's nothing that I really can remember . Honestly , me too , me too , I like you know people think like sex was this or sex was that . Like , we're going to read because we read , you know , a few earlier , but the only thing that maybe I mean this isn't like crazy , but , um , I think and I think I don't know if this is even , I don't think this is true I still , to be honest , don't know .
Speaker 1Okay , so , but this is things that , like people would say , is like like , uh , the longer that you're like on birth control , or like you're on birth control for extended period of time , like it's harder for you to get pregnant or like you can't like , the longer you're on birth control then the longer it takes to get pregnant once you get off . Yeah , I mean , I don't think that that's a standard rule , because some , you know , you hear about your friends where they're like I got birth control and literally first month I was fucking pregnant , you know , and they were on , you know , birth control . So they were 16 and they were 30 . So , like , I don't think that that is a standard . No , no's not , though , you know , but I think , yeah , that was something I believed . I was like , really , yeah , so I'm gonna have to like I gotta plan for like years . Yeah , I gotta plan ahead . Yeah , but yeah , that was the only thing that I kind of thought .
Speaker 1Yeah , which is interesting , that it's like I wonder if women's like myths are mostly around pregnancy . Probably , probably . Okay , our funny sex myths from the people of the internet Christmas sex , wait , what do you mean ? Sex myths , sex mix ? Yeah , sex myths . We're going to celebrate sex myths this year . Yes , I genuinely 100% thought that some men had hollow penises and that's how gay sex worked .
Speaker 1Okay , one dick went in the other dick . Yeah , it's just like this you put a dick inside the other dick , I'll do it in the video Like this . And then they just went like this or the other one . They both get to have sex like this . And then this one goes in yeah , one's the one goes in , yeah , one's . The vagina , basically , yeah , that's . The hole just opens up . That's hilarious . Okay , that's a good one .
Speaker 1Okay , who told you these things ? These are All my friends and I thought that you could never get a girl pregnant if the condom was black . We thought the sperm would get lost or it would be too confused to find an egg in the dark . Wait , what ? So ? If it was a clear condom , you could get pregnant because they could just see through . It could go right through . What guys you are so weird , okay , oh , my gosh . Uh , I would think blowjob means literally blow on the guy's penis . Just blowing raspberries , perfect .
Speaker 1I used to think oral sex was the same thing as phone sex . You just take that phone and shove it up your mouth . That means sucking on the phone receiver . Okay , great . Your mouth , that means sucking on the phone receiver okay , great . I thought humans always did it doggy style . I just assumed all creatures did it that way . They just saw dogs having sex and they're like that's how you do it . What happened ? Well , I mean , it's true , All the animals are doing it doggy style . God , this one's sad .
Speaker 1Up until age 19 or so , I legitimately thought women were physically incapable of enjoying sex . I bet that guy has a 12 inch dick . That's who said that . But you know , I think that that is probably the truth for a lot of women . Oh for sure , sure that they just haven't enjoyed sex because they haven't found the right partner . Yeah , that was sad . That's really sad . Um , I thought it was true that I would immediately come . Once a girl's tongue touched my dick , shut up . I bet that's happened to somebody . Oh , oh , yeah , yeah , just like Drew's cock ring story , fucking shoots off immediately as soon as it got turned on . Goddamn my mom , oh God . My mom made an attempt to explain to me what porn was when I was around 10 years old . Sadly , I then proceeded to think that every sex scene in a movie was called porn and that they actually did have sex . Oh my gosh , oh my gosh .
Speaker 1And then the last one is that it's intrinsically something immoral and shameful . Sex is a fundamental part of life , and being ashamed of it I'm sorry I can't read . Sex is a fundamental part of life and being ashamed of even wanting it is no way to live . Be respectful , be safe , exercise consent and you're fine . Yeah , I think the wanting is a huge thing for women , I mean that . I think that goes to the initiation thing . Girls don't want to initiate because it's like we're ashamed that , like we want sex and no one gave us permission to want sex , and we feel like we talk about this a lot like feeling sexual and all our desires are OK and it's like we are conditioned to that . Yeah , which is fucking crazy . Yeah , it is , and I don't know why we allow it still to this day .
Speaker 1I feel like there are women you know coming of age and that is what they believe . Mm , hmm , so it's crazy . Wait , this day , I feel like there are women you know coming of age and that is what they believe sucks , crazy , wait , there's one more . Okay , let's hear it . I thought during sex the guy would pee into the girl's vagina . Not to pee , yeah , golden showers , yeah , okay . Into the girl's vagina . Then the pee that entered the girl would be peed back into the guy's dick . No , and that cycle would continue until both of us fell asleep . Just pee , pee , pee , pee , pee and sleeping . Yeah , what the fuck ?
Speaker 1Who tells in these situations ? Oh , my god , or they just come up with it and then they are start spreading their it to their friends when they're younger , and then everyone believes these things . They're like hey , hey , hey , hey , I'm going to start some rumors too . Tell some kids in the neighborhood , just kidding , we're not going to tell kids about sex scenes . Yeah , we're going to be on the registry now for saying that yeah , okay , so I didn't . Yeah , well , I didn't that up .
Speaker 1Um , does anyone listening ? We want to hear . Is anyone listening ? They turned it off after the kid thing . No one's listening . Nobody's listening . Hello , is anyone out there ? I thank God this isn't like a live radio show . It's nobody going to be like dark . Yeah , ratings are low guys . Yeah , we're fired , yeah , yeah , yeah , we're fired , we're fired . We're fired from our payless job . Yeah , okay , that's totally fine . Sponsor position yeah , I want to know .
Speaker 1These are hilarious , hilarious . Like reading these myths . Yeah , people online are so freaking funny . Like I have to hear more . Yeah , like , tell us what you believed , yeah , or what did your parents tell you ? Weird shit . Or what did your kids tell you ? That there was some weird shit going on , you know , yeah , yeah , definitely , we have to hear it . And if you send us any of these myths , we'll definitely repost them , yeah , um , on our instagram . So shoot us a dm about your sex myths that you believed or your parents told you . We want to hear it on instagram at maximalist life podcast . Okay , wait .
Speaker 1So someone had said that they always , like , talk back to us in like when we're recording or whatever , and they're talking out loud , yeah , and then so they're like oh , I say I'm gonna send it later or whatever , but just do a voice memo and send it to our instagram , because before I say anything , I forget to message you guys or whatever . But just send us a little voice memo . What you want to tell us yeah , it could be anything , what episode you're listening to , and then just say whatever and we'll just try to figure it out . Whatever , yeah , yeah , yeah , just whatever . Yeah , just let us know . Say it doesn't even need to be a full sentence , yeah , yeah , yeah , just quick so that we can get it , because people always say like I forgot , and they'll tell us in person these things .
Speaker 1Yeah , yeah , but we want to share with the world . Oh , my god , this is such a funny one , really silly , yeah . Well , hopefully you guys reach out on Instagram . We'd love to hear from you guys and we will see you next time . Hope you're having fun . Tits up , dicks out .