Decoding Yourself is a podcast focused on self-awareness and personal growth through the lens of the Personality Code, a framework Shannon developed after realizing her learning style differed from typical self-help approaches. Drawing from her background in leadership development and salon work, she discusses how understanding your own personality type can improve communication, break limiting beliefs, and help you implement growth at your own pace rather than forcing yourself to mimic others. The show, now in Season 3, expands from its earlier “Decoding Your Clients” focus on client relationships to deeper self-reflection on beliefs and decision-making.
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Do you know everyone has a natural way they learn? Some personalities find it a struggle to learn from others, or just implementing what they learn into their life.
I am breaking down the strengths and weaknesses we face with our personality types. Why some people just soak up new ideas and others hear it, but can't put it into practice.
Learning is key in our lives, so lets jump in and see if you struggle with this.
Hello, welcome to Decoding Clients for Stylists. I'm Shannon Kahrhoff. This week I want to break down a little bit of how to become a learner with your personalities. Everyone takes in information differently. Some people eat it up. They want all the information they can get to make life better, to understand things, to grow themselves, and then there's others that think it's a challenge or it's hard. So it's all in how you personally run, on how you handle growth and change into your life. And I want to break it down just a little bit to help you understand if any of it sounds familiar on how to get past it, how to get through it. Because our thinking is what runs our life. We have this internal monologue in our head constantly that talk to ourselves and it's what we listen to. And I never quite understood how relevant your thought process in your head really makes a difference in how your day-to-day decisions are made in your life. And. Everyone does it. Everyone thinks it. Sometimes you have this very positive, uplifting voice in your head that your subconscious is building you up and encouraging you to keep growing and changing and becoming. And then most people have the negative mindset that says, who are you? It doesn't matter what you think, no one cares, so pay attention to your inner voice because this decides who you are and how much potential you feel like you have in yourself. Sometimes we have to struggle and we have to learn from other people on the affirmations we hear from others on if we think it's possible or not, and it's so quick. I was so good at this years ago of. Focusing on my inner voice, being positive and uplifting, and encouraging myself, my own self, how to believe in my progress, and that I am a very powerful person. But if you don't pay attention to it, if you have one negative interaction with someone, or you're not happy with something that you did, you can beat yourself up pretty darn fast. And until you understand, you have to stop that inner monologue of breaking yourself down and decreasing your positive. You have to reinforce the positive and the productivity of who you are, because who else is going to do it? If it's not you? No one understands what's going inside your head better than yourself if you take the time to figure it out. So let's break this down. I'm gonna break it down by personalities, because for me, this is how a defining moment where everyone is, and again, you have a mixture of different things. So you might have an inner battle with your inner thoughts because you have the uplifting positive mindset, or you might have the negative mindset and they might be battling it out. If you need to go back and double check with the past episodes about the personalities and what their strengths and the weaknesses are on if you're an extrovert or an introvert naturally. So let's start. My whole thing is, are you a hungry learner? And if you are, fantastic. This is what I want everyone to know is how to learn, how to grow, how to pick the important things for yourself. Don't be led by anyone else trying to tell you. This is the most important thing. The whole thing is learning what's important to you. So the direct personality, you are a very natural born leader. You take action without anyone waiting to give you the permission to be the leader to take action. Action is your main word. So for a direct, there's a tendency to not always understand that other people have knowledge that you don't. So you have to open yourself up to possibilities and take in. Constructive criticism or being able to learn from everyone. If it's someone who just had a different walk in life or a different perspective, keep your mouth quiet for a little bit and listen, it's okay to not know everything in this world because we all come from different areas of strengths. As a direct person, sit there, listen, analyze it for yourself because you want to just jump into something and figure out what works and doesn't work. So you need to acknowledge that you have to take information and from other people, process it a little bit and figure out if it fits for you and understand why different information is important for you. Because if you naturally want to go in this direction, super hard, super fast, don't think things through all the way, and you have someone beside you who's already thought a little bit deeper about something, but is more hesitant in the action format of life, then you could understand the thinking, and you might be able to solve a few problems without having to bang your head against the wall with a mistake that you could have learned. This is where mentors come in. If you trust and rely on this person to have the more in depth thought process of how things will work, and you can listen and learn and consume what you need, and then make your own decisions from there. Great. But be able to be hungry enough to learn because we always have things we can learn from others. Everyone has great strengths that we can learn from. So a direct personality, you need to be careful that your ego does not get in the way and make you think that you know everything better than anyone else, and no one is worth listening to. That is a big weakness of the direct personality. Listen, try and learn. Even it's, if it's just one little nugget, you'll be amazed on how much further you get in your action by hearing a different perspective. You might just round it out a little bit better. For the fun loving personality. Everything is quick action. Not a lot of deep thought about anything, but you're that extrovert. You want to be out there and just loving on people and being a part of everything. The fun, loving you, love to learn if it's fun, but you have to understand that just because. It's not fun, it's not boring. You can take this information in for yourself, try and make yourself focus on it even more. because there is something in the nitty gritty details that is not your strength to understand as well. That is important because as a hairstylist to know that you need to sanitize your combs. That's not fun at all. But if you don't sanitize it, you're gonna have some dirty, icky combs that your clients, especially if they're that rule maker personality that does not want that icky comb in their hair. That's a boring detail. But the fun loving, you love being in classes and learning and being a part of a group of anything. So you might totally take it in, consume it all, and you walk out the door and it's just outta sight outta mind. So you need to keep the thought in your head of what you just learned. Take out something that is something you really are interested in how to learn and put into action. Don't let it just escape your head as soon as you walk out the door because you have a tendency to. Flitter on to the next thought, the next process, the next fun, and you wind up wasting all this money that you just spent on education, on learning something and understanding something. You just gloss over some of the information that you think is useful, but the details aren't there. So you might miss a really important detail in the process because it didn't seem important to you at the time. So my suggestion for the Fun Loving is yes, you love the learning and the growing. But slow down. Slow your mind down. Slow your body down and take notes, honestly, because it'll be easier whenever you have that thought process of, oh, what was I supposed to do here? Instead of just guessing. It'll take you a lot farther down your path of learning and growing by having that slowing down process to actually absorb the new information that you're really wanting and you want to grow from, but you have to understand how to make your own instincts relevant and strengthen yourself to learn this stuff and keep it in your head so that it's there a little bit longer than just as you walk out the door of your class. So slow down, be consistent, and understand how to put this new information into action as you're learning it. Because if you put it into a fun way of reference into your life, you're more likely to implement it as you walk outside of that classroom. When you get back to work or your life, and you can automatically think about how you're going to implement it yourself, it'll be great. Okay. Hold onto your hats little rule makers, because I know you love to learn. But the difference is you have this natural instinct that you think you have to be perfect. You do not have to be perfect. No one thinks that you know everything. No one expects you to know everything, so slow down. It's okay to understand yourself, that no one thinks you have to be perfect. It is okay to not know everything, to be willing to learn and to grow. I know that you have no problem taking notes and learning the details and everything like that. The next thing you need to know is how to implement it into your life. You do not have to analyze and detail and timeline it, or pros and cons list on everything. It's okay to understand the information that you have and go out and implement it into your life to just put it into action as quick as you can. I know the instinct is to naturally process and understand, and worst case scenario, layout of what it's going to look like in your life, what you're gonna switch out in your steps and your processes to make it work. It's okay. Just go try it. Go put it into action and work with it as you implement it, and you can buffer it out and figure it out. It is really okay. Steady. I know that you love your nice, calm routine. You like things the way it is, because it feels comfortable. You are all about comfort and ease and keeping it simple. But it's okay to go learn something new. You stepped outside of your comfort zone. You put yourself in a room or in an environment to go learn new things. Bravo, this is fantastic. Now it's time for you to. Put this into action. You don't have to hesitate. It's only gonna be uncomfortable the first two times you do it, and then it's going to be a normal routine. So you need to understand it might be uncomfortable the first time or two that you implement it, but then it becomes a new habit. It'll be easy, it'll be wonderful. You don't have to worry about it being too hard. Consistently. Remember, a change or a new habit only takes 21 days if you do it consistently. It'll be okay. As a steady take the time to allow change into your comfortable life, it's key. It's important. You don't want to be in the same spot you are now five years down the road, unless you're totally happy with your life and you don't want more out of your life. I don't know many people that would want that. Everyone hungers for change and growth, except for a steady. But it's okay. You want to improve. You don't want to be in the same skillset that you were when you graduated cosmetology school because that's scary. You want to grow and change and become more. So if you take little steps here and there of adding new habits, when you get this knowledge in your hands to actually implement it, put it into your life and it only hurts for a little bit. Stretch yourself outside of where you are because life is way more than just being comfortable your whole life. You've got to put that little bit of uncomfortableness so that you could progress. You want growth and change. You want more out of life than where you are right now. It is okay. It is safe. You can go back right into your comfortable zone when for you stretch it. A little bit of stretch of your comfort is key. So this is the little simple, just rundown of understanding how to grow and change, to be hungry for that new knowledge. Because life is all about learning and understanding, and to me, becoming better. We are wonderful human beings, but if we don't find a way to implement new information, what are we doing in our life The direct personality and the fun loving, you're automatically, you want to go jump in and go do stuff. The direct you are just steamrolling right through. So if you can put in that new information I learned from anyone and everyone, you'll be much better than just trying to do a one person show and just get it done the way you think it's right. You need to understand that everyone has this information to help you to grow and to become better. So if you find those powerhouse people around you in all different personality types to learn from, it's going to be so much better for you personally, for your career, for your clients. It, it's amazing if you just stretch, fun loving, you're that go-getter. Also, you don't want the forethought, you just want to just jump in. Sometimes the thought isn't even fully formed in your head and you're already jumping off and doing whatever. Fantastic. But learning is important and getting those details are important. So just push through, have fun and do better, because when you grow, you're going to have so much excitement. If someone notices that you moved a little bit farther down the road in the path, and you're coming better in every little format of your life, good job. Keep it going. Rule maker, it's okay to not be okay and change things. You're growing, you're changing. You're doing better. Fantastic. You're learning. You don't have to waste all the time in processing it, understanding it. They're giving you step-by-step directions on how to get it done. Follow it. You love your list, you love rules. Go for it. You just stretch your mind for more rules, more regulations, and more information. Good job. Keep growing. You're doing great. In the steady push yourself to learn new things and implement it into your life. It'll be okay. It's only uncomfortable for a short amount of time, and then you can just push right through it, learn something, stretch your mind in new steps, and then you have a new comfort zone. Good job, you did it. It's not that hard. Hopefully you guys got a little bit out of this. I know I can be harsh on certain personalities and I can be a little brash at certain times. That's okay. I've dealt with all of these different personalities. I have different pieces of these personalities in me. I feel like that's why I am harder on those personalities because. I am very hard on myself. I know that I have so many flaws and so many things I personally work on constantly that whenever I slack, I can feel my flaws coming up, and attacking me, and it's okay. I'm learning. I'm growing. I'm human. This is fantastic. Keep going and growing Have a great week and I'll see you next week.
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