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Y'all, The Dating Pool Got Pee In It! Let’s Talk...

• Chrissy A., Sir Anthony • Season 2 • Episode 3

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Ever been on a date where your companion talks about himself in the third person? Or how about an unexpected celebrity encounter? In this episode of the Pure Intentions Podcast, Chrissy A. and Sir Anthony share some of the most hilarious, awkward, and insightful dating experiences. From laugh-out-loud moments to deep reflections on relationship expectations, we explore how these experiences shape our approach to love and connection.

We dive into how social media, reality TV, and societal norms influence modern dating dynamics—tackling topics like age, body count taboos, and the pressure to conform. Whether you're looking for relationship advice or just need a good laugh, this episode is packed with valuable insights and entertainment.

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Key Takeaways:

  • Awkward dating experiences offer valuable lessons in self-awareness and relationship readiness.
  • Societal pressures influence how we perceive age, monogamy, and personal values in dating.
  • Humor and authenticity are key to building meaningful connections and overcoming dating anxieties.
  • Open conversations with friends can provide fresh perspectives and personal growth.
Sir Anthony:

We got the time out like what's the extent of what we can talk about?

Chrissy A.:

What is your viewpoint of amazing? Is this about a sexual date? No, did you 50 Shades of Grey? A bitch.

Sir Anthony:

No, okay.

Chrissy A.:

I'm not into that.

Sir Anthony:

Like to each their own, Like that whole the whipping and all. That's just not my thing. That don't turn me on, oh shit.

Chrissy A.:

We're going to make an adjustment, since she likes that, and I'm going to watch some videos and learn.

Erica:

There are safe words you can create a safe word.

Chrissy A.:

It doesn't have to be dangerous. There is like lightness to it. That can happen, but you know it can get a little exciting. Welcome to the pure intentions podcast, where real love, raw emotions and intentional relationships come together. Welcome back to the pure intentions podcast, where we talk everything relationship from an intentional point of view. I am your host, chissy A.

Sir Anthony:

I'm your co-host, sir Anthony.

Chrissy A.:

And we are going to go into some deep secrets and stories. Well, not necessarily secrets, but we're going to tell stories about dating experiences, and you know the good, the bad experiences, and you know the good the bad. We're gonna call this episode hotels. He came up with that, so I'll be ready for this episode.

Chrissy A.:

I'm not because I want us to be authentic and you know just real about our experiences with dating. Like I do know that a lot of people say the dating pool is terrible, it got peeing in it, and you know. So if you're looking at us, I think people just coming into our lives might see it like oh, that's so cute, they found somebody, they found their person. But what happened before? It was a us. How did we get here? And the things that we went through to get to this moment indeed so first question Ladies first.

Sir Anthony:

We shall see.

Chrissy A.:

What was your absolute worst dating experience that you can think about?

Sir Anthony:

Be a little bit more specific.

Chrissy A.:

Like the date that, when, the date that when. Okay, so this is the date that. Maybe when you saw them, it was cool, but when y'all started talking and engaging and get to know each other, maybe some weird stuff happened, or maybe they were tripping or I don't know. Whatever you feel like was, because I got some stories. But well, come on with me okay.

Chrissy A.:

Well, I started off then, okay. So I have a lot of worse dating experience? I don't think I have a worse. I think just people are just terrible at times, um, but I would say the one that, let's just say, irritated me the most was I went on a date. I think I was in my mid-20s. I went on a date with this guy. His name was I'm giving names well, I don't think that's his real name oh, maybe I shouldn't say it, because people probably know who he is.

Chrissy A.:

Okay, hey, girl, I'll put his at in the comments. Can you put a boop right there?

Erica:

okay, thank you.

Chrissy A.:

I dated this. I went on a date with this guy. We actually went to um, I love jerk chicken. A lot of my first dates was jerk chicken y'all. But we went on when Cermak on Cermak, they opened up a, um, jerk villa. During this time this is when jerk villa, like kinda, was fresh and Cermak they tried to make it so like a little club, little scenery, like a pop in with the bar and everything. It was pretty dope and he took me there. Um, I did ride with him. Typically I don't ride with people because I'm like I don't want you to know where I live, because you might be crazy. I think this was the experience that led me to not ride with people on dates. But we ended up going to Jerk Villa.

Chrissy A.:

We sat down, we was having a decent conversation and he kept referring to himself. I told you this, though he kept referring to himself what is it third person? And it was just like yeah. I asked him like what do you like to do? Well, likes to go out to eat a lot. And at first I laughed because I'm like he's just joking. He's so funny, that's cute. He funny, cute, he's attractive. So this works. But then he did it the entire night. I don't know, and now that I'm thinking about I don't know if he did it, because I laughed at it the first time and he thought like, okay, I made her laugh, let me continue it, but it was a weird, it was weird as hell. Yeah, it was weird. It was definitely given no second date and we definitely didn't go on no second date. It's funny because I tell a story and when I every time I tell it, I end up seeing him somewhere.

Sir Anthony:

Oh, I went to this cat. Sir anthony does not want you in our presence period and chrissy a approves and Chrissy. A approves alright, so this is actually not too long before we met. I had met this young lady on the beach and you just mean bitches on the beaches. B&b's bitches and beaches that's your thing, huh.

Sir Anthony:

That's what it is. But met on the beach, was drinking wine that day, the next day went out, and so to our audible listeners and if you're listening, out of order, of course, I just got out of Engagement. I'm free, I'm doing me, so I'm being being, I'm eating bitches on the beach and this person, when we met, she was like you look familiar, like this gal for instagram, this famous gal for instagram. I'm like you know, you've seen my instagram.

Chrissy A.:

I am not famous at all yes, so go follow him on instagram, ladies. No, but don't, no, no, don't fucking follow my man. I'm just talking about time out, don't follow my man Period. Look, and now they finna all go follow you.

Erica:

I check his.

Chrissy A.:

DMs. No, I'm just playing. I don't do that.

Erica:

Oh.

Chrissy A.:

Wait.

Sir Anthony:

Oh, it's E DMs. No, I'm just playing, I don't do that. Oh Wait, put on blast on the show. We filming live on the show and you put on blast. So tell us some of your business. What's the worst date that you've had? The worst date? Yes, at Puttshack.

Chrissy A.:

At Putschack what?

Erica:

happened. I was, um, I had a little on this date with this guy. It was our first date and he was just super controlling and like competitive and I'm like we supposed to be getting to know each other and you trying to run, trying to tell me what to and you gotta do it this way, and it just it just turned weird. And then he asked to pick me up and I was like no, I'll just drive. And so it's like, towards the end we kind of had a conversation about it and he just got mad aggressive like we. I talked to him like I was in his car and he got mad. I was like I'm gonna go. And then I got in my car and he just sped off I'm like car and he was like I'm going to go. I got in my car and he just sped off. I'm like yeah.

Chrissy A.:

Oh, he was mad, mad. I done had a couple of people speed off on me before, but we in the middle of filming you now have became a part of this podcast.

Erica:

Okay, well, go ahead.

Chrissy A.:

I'm so sorry okay, y'all, that was lady e she was on a previous podcast um last week what's the topic?

Sir Anthony:

it was about spinning the block, going back and rekindling those old things.

Chrissy A.:

So that nigga that she talking about he has to spit. No, he has to spin the block literally. He spit that motherfucker. He was heated uh, oh that.

Sir Anthony:

Just that call made me think of an even worse date, but let's continue this worse sir, it's crazy if that's a word it's not, it's just worse.

Chrissy A.:

Yeah, it's bad and then better, worse. It is weird, though, like why we got. Never mind, that's off topic.

Sir Anthony:

So listen, at the beach picked up so we went out the next day she thought that I look like somebody and I guess her mind got the buzz in that night Text in the middle of night and I didn't get it because I'm on my face. Sleep. She wanted to talk. Sleep she wanted to talk. Why she wanted to talk? Because she did her investigative duties and went and found me on the gram with my ex and when we got together for the date she was real antsy and fidgety. I'm like you, all right, went to the wine spot to drink some more. I'm like what's going on? Yeah, you lying because this is you and this is your girl and I'm like um, triggered much listen, I told you I'm just recently out of something.

Sir Anthony:

Yes, that was my ex and I'm on some news. So either and I said it as blunt as this, I'm sorry to say it's a very asshole statement, it's direct though. I said, listen, either we're gonna continue this date or, you know, you can go on about your day. I'm gonna stay here, get to drinking it's other people in here. I'm gonna vibe and have a good time with whoever I meet, and eventually she drunk some more and I guess that loosened up and she got to act together.

Chrissy A.:

But I would have loved. I ain't gonna hold you. My pride wouldn't have. Let me sit that nigga. It's other people in here. All right, we're gonna go talk to one of them. Bitches, she could have went and did her own thing.

Sir Anthony:

I'm not twisting nobody on.

Chrissy A.:

I get that. I'm just saying me and my pride wouldn't have, after you made that statement, I wouldn't have been able to just sit there and finish having drinks with you yeah.

Chrissy A.:

Well, to each their own um, yeah that ultimatum thing, right, that you did like either you gonna be here or your ass gonna leave. That happened to me, right? This is what a nigga said to me and I'm gonna say it because it's my life. So I had found out that the dude I was dating at the time was cheating on me. Out that the dude I was dating at the time was cheating on me and he had in his mind that he didn't want a monogamous relationship. But he never. And that's okay.

Chrissy A.:

Like, if you're non-monogamous, like you want the polygamy and all of that, that's fine. But you have to be forthcoming, because there are women out there that would like that type of life. I'm not one of them. Okay, I'm not one of them. However, I found out he was cheating on me with somebody and then it got to the point where he was just like you know what, fuck it. He got tired of lying, he got tired of doing that. He was like either you gonna deal with it or you not, or you can gone about your business. I was like I'm going to take gone about my business because your dick ain't big enough and you definitely ain't got enough money for me to be dealing with that shit.

Sir Anthony:

Oh, my God, I can tell you from a fella's perspective, and the fellas that's listening, that definitely put the dagger in the heart with the twist to the ego.

Chrissy A.:

And the dick definitely wasn't big. It's okay, like my short kings needed to. However, like you not, finna sit here and talk to me like I'm finna, be savage to a savage to another savage, and you ain't supporting me financially or you falling short in other areas literally and figuratively, huh like, come on now, fuck out of here.

Chrissy A.:

And his feet was big. That feet being big thing is a lie. This nigga was a size 14 and his penis was 14 centimeters, moving along okay, so of course, everything isn't all bad all the time. So we do have those people who we have really good dates with, and sometimes they just don't go anywhere, and that's okay too. So, like what's one amazing date that you had? Like one date that you will always remember?

Sir Anthony:

I don't know if this show or you are prepared for that listen. Wait, we got the time out, like what's the extent of what we can talk about?

Chrissy A.:

what is your viewpoint of amazing? Does it? Does it? Is this about a sexual date? No, did you? 50 shades of gray, a bitch no, okay, I'm not into that like no to each to own that.

Sir Anthony:

Like that whole the whipping and all. That's just not my thing. That don't turn me on. Oh shit, do I? We're gonna make an adjustment.

Chrissy A.:

Sis, she likes that and I'm going to watch some videos and learn there are safe words you can create a safe word. It doesn't have to be dangerous. There is like lightness to it. That can happen. But you know it can get a little exciting. I learned something today and I'm gonna do some research now tell us about your amazing date that you don't think we ready to hear oh man, this is wild.

Sir Anthony:

So I have to structure it like this because I don't want nobody googling, nothing um I'm finna be so, um, I got to feel what it feels like to be. Um, what would you call a trophy guy? Is it trophy? Guy Ooh you got catered to Is that? Whatever the term is, y'all DM us, inbox us, whatever. Go to the website Pure Intentions. We have something where you can email us and get on the show. We ask and answer.

Chrissy A.:

You ask, we answer you were the prize, I was the prize, you was the prize.

Sir Anthony:

Ironically, this person was a famous person. They are the prize. So for it to be reversed we go into. We went to a strip club.

Sir Anthony:

She likes strip clubs and so I've never heard this story, y'all it was like a new, new story for me as I'm like what's the extent of what we can go to on this? And then, if you all see, after we cut and my eye a little puffy um nah, anything before me ain't got nothing to do with me so we went to the strip club and every stripper stopped on the pole, recognized her and like, is that so-and-so?

Sir Anthony:

Yeah. So then we went to the little VIP spot and we got a lap dance and like everywhere we went around she paraded me like it was. I'm just not used to that concept. I'm like I'm not a celebrity or nothing like that, but if I'm going and I got on my arm, then everybody looking at her and then they looking at me like man, okay, fella, like for the fellas, that's not jealous and the ladies they looking like who is that? I've never experienced where it's in reverse, where she paraded me around and all of the strippers bad was looking like who is that?

Chrissy A.:

Yeah, yeah.

Sir Anthony:

It felt good. It felt good, I must admit.

Chrissy A.:

So that was your amazing date.

Sir Anthony:

I guess you could say it was different because I never had that experience before.

Chrissy A.:

I get that because I believe that an amazing date would be something that you experience that you haven't experienced before, something that is different, and that's what makes it amazing. Yeah, so that's what makes it amazing. Yeah, so that's cool. Well, y'all go ahead, make me famous so I can carry him around and I can be his amazing date.

Sir Anthony:

do that now you can go ahead, go get a couple dollars, no, period.

Chrissy A.:

I'm for it yeah I don't mind it. I heard, so when I run this video back it gotta be some pea valley shit, though we can't be pole cats in it yeah, no, I don't like I ain't gonna knock that, because then they might see them.

Sir Anthony:

What's wrong with people? Pole cats?

Chrissy A.:

they're not real strippers. That's what's wrong with them.

Sir Anthony:

The fuck they're going to be Googling if they're not from Chicago Like what's pole cats?

Chrissy A.:

I'm just not going to say I'm just going to leave it where it is Because y'all going to cancel, cancel me. So my amazing date. You already heard about it. I, I was. I'm in a dark about stuff.

Sir Anthony:

this was done in dark. Come to no, I'm just playing.

Chrissy A.:

But that's true, that's facts. But my amazing date was valentine's day and y'all, my birthday is the day before Valentine's Day. I'm a Valentine's Day Eve baby, so I've never really celebrated Valentine's Day and I never had anybody like ask me, would you be my valentine? Which, if y'all still in a relationship still ask your woman to be your valentine, don't fall short of that. Like we like romance, give it to us.

Chrissy A.:

Anyways, this guy on facebook apparently I knew him before then, but I really don't remember ever meeting him before then. He said he he knew me, but he had to because he was my Facebook friend. Anyways, he hit my inbox up and he asked me to be his Valentine. It was a little convo before that, but it ended with him saying would you like to be my Valentine? And I'm like sure, because nobody's ever asked me. So I'm like fuck it, let's do it. And he came and got me from my brother house because it was after the date with the guy person. Yeah, anyways. So he came and picked me up from my brother house. I came downstairs he was like OK, so this is what we're going to do. He first texted to me we're going to go to what's our wine place called.

Sir Anthony:

Cooper's Hawk.

Chrissy A.:

We're going to go to Cooper's Hawk and I know you like to have fun and you like games, so we're going to go to this VR place. This was during COVID, like within that timeframe, and they had opened back up the VR place but then they shut down again, so those plans had got canceled. But he never really told me that until he came and got me. And as I'm getting in the car, he gets out the car, opens the door for me, he hands me a bouquet of flowers before he opened the door and I'm like, oh, that's so sweet. He was like this is for happy Valentine's day and I take the flowers. They were so pretty, they had glitter on it, everything. Then he opens the door and there's another bouquet of flowers on the seat and he was like oh and, happy birthday. And I was like, okay, points, points, points. I'm feeling it. And we get in the car and he's driving. He was like, oh, we're not gonna go to Cooper's Hawk. And no, he said we're not gonna go to the VR place because they're shut down. So I'm thinking like, okay, well, we're gonna go to Cooper's Hawk. I've never been a Cooper's Hawk at this point. Um, so we're driving and we going like in a hood and I'm like I know damn well Cooper's Hawk ain't in a hood. So I'm like texting my brother, like sharing my location, like I think you need to pull up.

Chrissy A.:

You know, I'm saying because this nigga taking me on artesian, like I was confused, like this nigga trying to set me up like who he know, finna, sex trade me, you know I a whole bunch of stuff going through my head and he saw it and he felt it and he was like I promise you I'm not kidnapping you. He was like you just said that it was your first valentine's day, that you never experienced valentine's. So I wanted to do something different and my instinct was like, just go with the flow. But then my head was like uh-uh-uh, bitch, he trying to kill you, trying to murder you run. But I went with my little instinct and I was just like, okay, I'm going to chill. If he's trying to kill me, bitch is dead. The best I can do is fight my way up out of it. It is what it is.

Chrissy A.:

But we're at his house and I'm like I know this nigga didn't just bring me to his house. He opens the door and his house goes up the stairs. There's rose petals all on the floor going up the stairs. So I'm like, oh, this is cute. And now I'm like my sister I'm relaxing and shit, like, okay, he's, he's being romantic, let me let him be romantic. And we get up the stairs and someone else opened the door. He has on his shelf, you know, I mean chef uniform and he's there's jazz music playing in the background and there's balloons everywhere, there's a table that's candle lit and there's rose petals on the floor. And I'm just like, oh, this is this is super cute and super dope. And we sat and he cooked. The chef cooked for us a three course meal and it was really good and we just talked the entire time. We talked for like three and a half hours and nowhere in that conversation was there anything about sex. So that was my most amazing date that I've ever been on Kudos to him.

Sir Anthony:

Gotta give him kudos. Yeah, he did that. You credit where credit is due.

Chrissy A.:

He did that.

Sir Anthony:

But then he fumbled the ball.

Chrissy A.:

He did Big time.

Sir Anthony:

Eventually, your boy picked it up, and now I'm going to the goal.

Chrissy A.:

Period Run baby. Run Time for social media dating. Wait a minute. Have you ever online dated? No, You've never online dated. No, Never downloaded an app.

Sir Anthony:

When I tried the apps, because I'm not doing it for the app's purpose, so I had zero traction. What you mean I tried the one one. I tried hinge and their thing is the prompts. I didn't care about those prompts, I just put in the. I skipped most of them that I could and put in the bear. Listen, I was on something else we said this episode is called.

Sir Anthony:

Hotels, right, if I were to tell the truth, it was going to be a bunch of lies on that app. So tried a little bit. It was dead. You know what? I forget the name of this. I did try another app, but it was during a pandemic. This is the time when nobody could come out, when it got really strict before it opened up, and the women on there were strange and desperate and I'm like, um, I don't think I should be in this place and deleted the app yeah, I could see that the niggas was strange and desperate too, but most of the niggas was desperate for vagina.

Sir Anthony:

I can see that.

Chrissy A.:

Because you wasn't desperate for it, but you was on there for some vagina too, yeah.

Sir Anthony:

The episode is called Hotels.

Chrissy A.:

Well, I definitely downloaded and utilized some dating apps and there are some weird people on there, I think, my favorite dating app, if anybody, because I do believe that you can find something on a dating app. I don't think that it's as bad as a lot of people make it seem. I know a couple of couples that got married had babies meeting somebody off a dating app, so I would recommend Hinge. You talked about it.

Chrissy A.:

I would recommend Hinge because Hinge is actually pretty dope. That and Bumble they blocked me, that's beside the point. Bumble and Hinge are really dope apps. Bumbleble I like bumble because you can date women too. Like friendships, like meet friends. I wouldn't personally. I tried. I wouldn't want to meet a friend on an app. Um, do, I think it's possible, I do, I think you can, but it didn't work out for me. As far as the guys on the app, I think Hinge has more like successful, good looking men on there, but be careful because they could possibly be one, just some coochie. So just try it out, be intentional. Um, so just try it out, be intentional. Maybe we'll do like a um thing about questions that you can ask on an app to make sure somebody's intentional, or something like that.

Sir Anthony:

And that's you know. Shameless plug. We have the resources section on pure intentions three, 14.com. We actually have a list of great hinge prompts.

Chrissy A.:

Oh, we do.

Sir Anthony:

We have that already.

Chrissy A.:

See, this guy, this guy I don't, I don't know, he writes the articles. He's very good at it too. They're really good articles.

Sir Anthony:

They're really good reads and while we edit, we talked about the new deck that just came out. So here is our you and me to us deck. Go and check it out now. This one is cool because it's fun games that couples can play and everyone is a cool activity that you can do, some that you can just do without anything else, like pan pad or going anywhere, and then some requires you to actually go. Um, so we have that. We have a bunch of other decks out, so just kind of showing a few of them off. Um, which one is this? This is the beyond dating deck. We're gonna do an episode on this.

Chrissy A.:

You want to describe it just very briefly um, it's just basically like we have the the intention starters deck, that's when you just first start dating someone, and then the beyond dating deck is the one where you're actually in the commitment stage, like you're trying to see if it's time to actually commit.

Sir Anthony:

So now we're moving from dating to actually starting a relationship and that they have good questions for that yep, and to talk about the reignite deck, um well, there's a whole episode about that, if you're listening on the podcast before this one you can go ahead and look up uh, spinning the block, reignite, whatever those keywords and look at that episode. And we talk about going back with somebody that you've been with. We have the cards that we introduced to that. And then you mentioned about on Hinge, where you can find friends.

Sir Anthony:

So we have for the ladies the sister circle deck and how you can get intentional questions to, as you say date your friends. And learn, not in a romantic way, but how to get closer and have intentional relationships with them.

Chrissy A.:

Y'all that tripped him up when I said it's a deck where you can date your friends.

Chrissy A.:

He's like date your friends. But I do believe that as much as we take dating men and women or whatever, whatever you're into as much as we take that serious, we should protect ourselves and our friendships too, because these are the people that, more than likely, when you are going through your toughest times, these are the people that you run to and you talk to when you don't have nobody else to talk to, like, let's be honest, like everybody can't go to their family members, because if you tell unsurely, unsurely gonna tell cousin Pete and everybody in the family gonna know. You know and you need to understand friendships and help what people value, what they like, and if we were in this scenario, how would you react to it? Or have you ever been in this type of scenario and how did that make you feel? You know, like I really do believe it's a good thing to date your friend, so I created a whole deck for it and you can find that at pureintentions314.com okay, enough with the promo, back back to to.

Sir Anthony:

that's what pays the bills, so we have to have that.

Chrissy A.:

We have to throw our infomercials in there, ok, so, aside from the dating apps and all of that, I did want to talk about the questions that people typically ask when dating. Have you ever asked a girl for her body count ever in your life?

Sir Anthony:

No.

Chrissy A.:

You've never asked.

Sir Anthony:

It's certain things you don't ask women. Are you never asked Some women? You don't know that age, things like that Not even as a kid no, oh, that's so good.

Erica:

I like that.

Sir Anthony:

It's certain things that fellas. You know you don't ask that question if you don't want that second date okay, go back to the questions. You don't ask a woman age, depending on if you're post 30. Don't ask, don't even guess it. You know what I do. I play a game and I reverse it on me. How old do you think I am? Remember me doing that? Yeah, and.

Chrissy A.:

But you know what? I'm a little iffy about that because I feel like a lot of us have a problem with the age thing. A lot of women have a problem with telling age. But I don't see, I think that aging is a beautiful thing. It's so many people that are dying so young To know that you have successfully lived a full life, to know that you're aging in, aging beautifully, like fine wine, like it's like why would you not want to disclose how long you've been here? Like it's not a question that they asking you how much in your bank account right now. It's literally like let's, what's your age, how old are you, you know? And then some people just have their preferences of what age group they want to date. So I think that's a typical question and no matter how old you get, you shouldn't shy away from answering it. But that's just my opinion. It's just my opinion. Teach his own, don't beat me up.

Sir Anthony:

They gonna blame the comments.

Chrissy A.:

It's just my opinion, Like I just don't. I never really understood why women do not like telling their age.

Sir Anthony:

Yeah, I'm gonna say some risky stuff here. I think the ones that don't look older, the ones that look older than their age, they have an insecurity about that and then that's going to cause or open that can of worms.

Chrissy A.:

Well, you still look old, it don't?

Sir Anthony:

matter. But the ones that are in reverse, that look way younger than what their physical age is, those are the ones that don't mind telling.

Chrissy A.:

But I've actually seen women that look great that don't like that question too.

Sir Anthony:

I don't know. I don't have experience in that, so I don't even ask it.

Chrissy A.:

I don't want that smoke you like, just right, just avoid it at all, all completely. But if you are a woman out there that is that type of woman who's afraid to tell her age, I I mean, I kind of want to know why, like, maybe inbox us. Everything that we get inboxed, everything that you message us, is done in secrecy. I just want to know why. What is it about the age question that gets you so antsy and makes you not want to answer it or makes you feel like it's very disrespectful?

Sir Anthony:

and be honest, we have a section on our website.

Sir Anthony:

So if you don't want to dm which has your personal identification, which you go on the website. There's a whole section. It's called dear pure intention. You can do it anonymously and submit your, submit the response to this, be honest, and then we can understand why. And if you want us to talk about it on the show, let us know. In that same communique and of course we don't have your information, we can just talk about and say here's we heard from some women and here's the valid reasons why and it could.

Chrissy A.:

It could be a very valid reason, like, I think, how we say it's two sides to a story and then there's the truth. Um, it could be a very valid reason why someone doesn't want to disclose their age.

Sir Anthony:

And I feel like, if, if that's what you want to do, that's what you want to do, I just honestly just want to know why yeah, but fellas, if you want a tip on how to do it, especially if you look young, suave and debonair, you know you reverse it on yourself, get them to guess your age and most often what happens is that open up and she'll tell her age as a conversation piece. So I don't even make it about her age, it's about my age, and if you look older than what you are, I don't know how to help you there. Brother, like, stop all that drinking and smoking.

Chrissy A.:

You know what I'm saying yeah and let your hair go, like just let it go, it's okay. It's okay. Like rip that head because your line of being all the way back here, it's fucking ridiculous, just just let it go I'm about four, five years away from that.

Sir Anthony:

So stop, I'm feeling a little triggered, but no, we we like.

Chrissy A.:

We like bald men too. We like a nice bald man with a beard. What's up?

Sir Anthony:

Well, I'm gonna go back to this episode where I said if I cut my hair?

Chrissy A.:

I mean you did say about the beard, but then when I said the hair you, you was like no, no, you don't purposely cut your hair. You have nice hair. You don't cut your hair, but when it's time to let it go, rip it, yeah, and let it go, I'm gonna. If you try to hold on to it longer than it wants to be held on to, it's like a bad. Y'all have a bad relationship with your hair.

Sir Anthony:

What if I get dreads and then my dreads?

Erica:

on hell no.

Chrissy A.:

I have ball dress and it's on the back of my head while you sleep.

Sir Anthony:

But I'm wearing a hat all the time, dope pets all the time to cover my ball dream.

Chrissy A.:

No cuz what if we go to a spot named like no hats? We can't go and then you gotta take.

Sir Anthony:

We can't go. We going all the way home.

Erica:

I don't know this nigga.

Sir Anthony:

Nah, I'm fucking around, I be like yeah. I'm not going to wear no bald dreads.

Chrissy A.:

So I do want to like double back, because we kind of got off on body counts so you've never asked anybody for their body count before. Has anybody ever asked you how many women you slept with?

Sir Anthony:

Yes, but I'm not telling the truth.

Chrissy A.:

You're not going to tell the truth. No, how many women you slept with? Never mind, never mind.

Erica:

Never mind.

Chrissy A.:

I don't know it's that many, it's three. Nigga, I know you're lying, lying how you know I'm lying you weren't there shooting with me when I was in the gym. I'm one, your ex before me was one, your ex-wife was one, and then you talked about, on this episode, the girl.

Sir Anthony:

I didn't say we slept together on this.

Chrissy A.:

I know you slept with her, though why you ratting me out?

Sir Anthony:

so like if the fans come red flag y'all hitting, she telling it on the show, ain't nobody even ask you that.

Chrissy A.:

Well, it's my business to tell, because that belongs to me hello four okay, okay. So we're gonna multiply that by 50 we got jokes.

Sir Anthony:

Huh, I'm gonna get you back.

Chrissy A.:

Well, I've definitely been asked my body count. And you told Well then, yeah, because it wasn't that many.

Sir Anthony:

Was it crickets after that? Oh, my bad, I wasn't listening. You said you told because it wasn't that many then, and that's cool with the guy. Did he believe it?

Chrissy A.:

He got mad.

Sir Anthony:

You know what, what I don't know why I'm shocked because my maturity now is like back then, like shit, anything over two for a guy that's what it was it's like but you've been out here running a hotel.

Chrissy A.:

It was a guy.

Sir Anthony:

I lost my virginity with you said he made number two and that was too much said he made number two and that was too much.

Chrissy A.:

No, he made number three.

Sir Anthony:

And that was too much.

Chrissy A.:

Yeah, because he wanted to be number one. I guess that's the only thing I can think of. I don't understand that, like I know a lot of people do this thing where they're just like, well, I need to know so I can know what I get into, what I'm getting into. But they ask after they already had sex with you nigga, you got into it already, ain't no turning back. You can't unfuck me, uh-uh, I'm finna.

Sir Anthony:

unfuck you because you got too many bodies well, uh, everybody, the guys, they know the rule to that.

Chrissy A.:

Whatever the woman tell you, multiply times 10 and add three and whatever the man tells you, divide that by six, because it's that blind you probably a virgin look, look, look.

Sir Anthony:

I'm putting that clip out because that make us look good. You said divide by six.

Chrissy A.:

That nigga probably lying.

Sir Anthony:

You ain't hear what you saying.

Chrissy A.:

That don't make y'all look good. You ain't hear what you saying no, I'm saying y'all lie about y'all penis Meaning. A lot of men out here say, oh, fuck this girl.

Sir Anthony:

I fuck that girl, and and ain't fucked nobody. See, I'm not listening.

Chrissy A.:

No, you're not.

Sir Anthony:

So they upping the count that they don't have.

Chrissy A.:

Yeah.

Sir Anthony:

I'm going to roll with that.

Chrissy A.:

If he tell you his body count, times that motherfucker by a hundred, she lying, she lying. Well, he shouldn't be talking to y'all about his body count anyways, Moving along. So do you think that? Just to end this conversation, do you even think that body counts matter in a relationship?

Sir Anthony:

They do if who you're dating is running a hotel and so it's like an indication to the guys like damn, is she for the streets? Am I the one trying to turn the hole into a housewife because a caged lion gonna have to roar? So she might be a little tame now, but if that's in her nature the whole round, she's gonna do that on you. I think that's what the deeper question that the guys are trying to get to is like man, if I come pull up, did the homie smash her because she grew up in this neighborhood? Like man, do I run that risk of being? I think it's getting to that that I just discussed and then the avoiding the embarrassment of it, like if she got around. That's the real issue that guys don't want to be open and talk about. Yeah, so that's what matters. And then all of that taps into emasculating his ego.

Chrissy A.:

But then it's just like I think that a lot of us go through a whole phase, like a whole era, and it's not that you are necessarily a whole. Some women, especially women that didn't grow up with a father figure, women that didn't grow up with any male figures, you know like in your life to show you. Or if you did grow up with one that didn't even teach you, you know like in your life to show you. Or if you did grow up with one that didn't even teach you you know what I'm saying how to respect yourself. Or even growing up with a woman that didn't even understand how to teach you to properly respect your body. You know, and it's like you go through this stage of trying to figure out life and find that person. I'm just telling you the mindset of how I thought I'm going to be real with you because we've been authentic. When I was young, I wasn't. I didn't care about the sex part, like sex was something that I felt like I had to do because if somebody made me their boyfriend and this was the misconception. This is why we do, as parents, need to have these conversations with our kids. This is why we need to have these conversations with our nieces. This is why we need to have these conversations with our nieces, our you know what I'm saying Our family members, because my perception of a relationship was make him happy and it will eventually make me happy, like I will get the love that I need if I please him. So I was literally a people pleaser and I was a man pleaser, a boy pleaser, because I was young and it was like you make me your girlfriend and let's just say we spend time together and you start like wanting to feel me or you want to like I feel like I'm supposed to do that because I'm your girlfriend, like that was my perception on what it was to be a girlfriend. Didn't know no better Hotels, and it's like, if you don't know, you're going to do what you think is the way to go. And the people that were teaching me were the people that were using me. You know what I mean.

Chrissy A.:

And now this relationship doesn't work out. So now I got a new boyfriend and this boyfriend is different because he's promising me things, he's telling me he's going to be here for me, and I don't know what that looks like exactly, because I never had it. So I'm believing him and I'm trusting that he's going to do right by me, especially if I tell him all the times that niggas did me wrong and I don't want to go through that again, not knowing that he's utilizing that to get what he want out of me. So then you go through these periods and over and over again until you one day wake up and say what am I doing? What's going on? I don't even want to do this like each time that I had sex.

Chrissy A.:

I didn't start enjoying sex until I became 30. Yeah, it's crazy, like sex was for other people. It was. It wasn't for me. I did have an experience in my 20s. I'm not gonna lie. I had an experience. We ain't gonna, we ain't gonna get that transparent, but I had an experience in my 20s that I did enjoy. But I'm talking about like as far as like relationship goals and actually feeling my body the way that I wanted to feel it, and doing it strictly because I wanted to do it you know what I mean and not because somebody else.

Chrissy A.:

So I would definitely advise that all these adults out here listening to us have those conversations with the children in your life. People are kids, are not too young to know these things. We have people that are having sex at 10, 11, 12 years old. So don't think my baby is too young for this, because you don't know who is actually teaching your baby what out in these streets at school. Even so, have those conversations. Teach your child how to respect their body and what it means to be respectful to your body, and that waiting is actually a good thing and not to do something unless you want it for you not to keep somebody. You know what I mean. So well said, who child? There's some transparency. So, with that being said, sometimes people go through them whole periods. We go through whole stages. It doesn't make us a whole. It doesn't mean that we're not marriage material. It just means that sometimes people take a longer process to get to know who they really are.

Sir Anthony:

Yeah, yeah and if you are a hoe, don't masquerade as if you're a housewife yeah stay on that side of the fence. Stop trying to trick these brothers. Hang on to that holes are literally tricks.

Chrissy A.:

So how they gonna stop tricking if they're ho?

Sir Anthony:

my fellas, learn how to look through the wholism, look past the tricks and get what you need and get out.

Chrissy A.:

Some women are made for fun, some women you settle down with that's true, but I think that a lot of men take the women that are made to settle down with and put them as fun and wipe up the holes. They got it backwards. Y'all got it wrong. How they getting it wrong?

Sir Anthony:

because of bbls and tdls and liposuction and all that. You can't tell the good ones from the bad. No more these mommy makeovers. Some of them is cold war. You want that like? Have fun with it. Yeah, have fun with it. Yeah, but there are some, some, some, uh mom makeovers that are good women, and now you got your double bubble. So to you, sister. I salute you.

Chrissy A.:

I ain't got no mom makeover, I just got a fat ass. Do you think social media makes dating worse or better?

Sir Anthony:

Overall, I think it makes it worse because there are some unrealistic expectations with dating. This. What we're talking about intentionality most the masses probably don't want to hear this, because it really first starts with you as the individual to figure out what you want. And if it doesn't work, you can it, it's okay to move around and when it does, to lock in. So social media doesn't show you this. They'll show you the goals, which is good as far as being inspirational, but it doesn't tell you, show you the hard work that go most times. Now there are some accounts that are sharing you know the trials and tribulations and then show those happy moments. But when you see that this girl got a room full of flowers and balloons and this and that and the couple looks so good, you don't know what comes with that.

Erica:

Yeah.

Sir Anthony:

The turmoil, the bad times, the ups and downs to get to that point. So it shows an unrealistic expectation and thinking that everything is supposed to be peaches and cream, when it's not.

Chrissy A.:

Yeah, I think that it could be good and a bad thing, because, even in that explanation that you gave, I think that a lot of people want those flowers everywhere in those balloons because they see it and they've never seen it before and what do we know until we actually experience it? And it's like you being the person that I'm dating or the person that I'm with and I tell you like, oh, babe, I would love this. It gives you a moment to connect with me on a different level and it's possibly possibly something that you've never experienced neither, and it's just like, oh, I'm doing something for somebody, I must really care about her. So I think there's a good side to that thought process too. It just depends on how the people on the other side of this camera perceive or perceive things. Because, baby, outside of the expectations, because there is social media where we see the bad parts of relationships. Let's call it, um, reality TV. Now, you don't think reality TV is real?

Erica:

right To a certain extent Right, okay, right okay.

Chrissy A.:

However, these people are living like. I do feel like that they they don't script it, but they put people in positions to where they can get more ratings. That's what I believe makes reality tv a little fake. Um, because if it wasn't for it, they probably would never bump into these people or even talk to these people or have conversations with them. Because I don't fuck with you. Why am I talking to you? Why am I sitting at the table? What you have in lunch? You know what I mean, but I think what people do is they judge at social media, judges everybody relationship when they see something going bad in a relationship.

Chrissy A.:

You don't watch love and hip hop, but I will bring this up the whole Rashida and Kirk thing. It just grinds my gears. Seeing all the comments that people make about this woman wanting to stick with her husband, through the cheating, through the bullshit, through the lies, through all of that, like it baffles me, because everybody has a breaking point. If she has not reached her breaking point, why does it matter so much to y'all? Like? This is a man that they built empires with. They literally have acres of land and buildings together. You know what I'm saying? Like it's a financial thing and we can sit here and act like money doesn't matter, but it does. They have children together. You know what I'm saying and I get the whole. Don't stay together in a miserable home because of the kids. But I only think that they get miserable because their, their stuff is on tv.

Chrissy A.:

I feel like Rashida wouldn't even go that hard if all of us wasn't judging her and her relationship like I think that she would just be like shit, he got hoes, fuck it. Just stop. Just stop getting them bitches, pregnant nigga. Like that's all I care about. Like if you gonna fuck somebody, fuck them, but don't bring that shit home.

Chrissy A.:

And a lot of people don't understand that concept because they think like oh, I'm in a relationship, it's supposed to be monogamy and you're supposed to be stay faithful to me, no matter what. But in reality some niggas cheat like some niggas cheat and the count on men versus women it's more women in this world than men. So I want Rashida to stay with her cheating husband because I want a faithful man. I want the Rashida's of the world to stay with their cheating husbands and allow them their peace in cheating, like she's trying to let that man cheat in peace and y'all making her have to say something and do something about it. Like that woman is beautiful, she know what she doing, she absolutely know what the fuck she doing and I don't see no shame in it. Let that man cheat in peace. She tried, but y'all said he commented like leave her the fuck alone, flame our comments that's my truth, like that's my opinion of it, like I honestly believe that she did.

Chrissy A.:

She did know her. We are women. We know when our man starts cheating, like we just know. We just know, we just do. God put that in us to know. And it's like she didn't need y'all. She didn't need BET VH1. What's on BET? It sound like BET. She ain't need that to tell her that her husband was cheating on her. She probably already had a feeling about it, but I feel like the pressure of social media and all the comments, the negative comments is making her feel like she has to say something. She has to now address the situation overly and the tears I feel like are real, but I think it's tears of nigga. Why did you do it to the point where now everybody has something to talk about?

Sir Anthony:

yeah, I understand that logic let that.

Chrissy A.:

Let that woman let her man cheat in peace, people. Let that woman free. She is a beautiful woman, she got her own businesses, she makes her own money and she happy. Now y'all making this lady miserable because she gotta keep trying to save face. Like, let her let her man she in peace, shit. And the rest of them too, because she ain't the only one, and the rest of them too, because she ain't the only one. That's all I have to say. I know you can't really comment because he did not watch social.

Sir Anthony:

I mean, he did not watch any reality TV no, I just overhear what you're watching and then the comments that you're bringing up, so I'm aware of it, but I just it's a variety of reasons, but sometimes because we y'all don't understand.

Sir Anthony:

We so simple that and we're visual. It'll be a chick in our face. That's just giving us rhythm. And you know how they say this. It's not literally that the pussy fall in your lap, but sometimes that's how it feels. It's like they just throwing it at us. It's like, okay, I took it and she means nothing to me and I'm back with you and I get. I'm gonna get flamed for that, but it really is as simple as that so men are weak you could say that I wouldn't say simple, I would say weak we are simple

Chrissy A.:

weak. If pussy could just fall in your lap I mean they can just fall in my lap it's just like. I don't think it's a simplicity thing, I think it is a weakness thing because it's so easy to just get a woman and fuck her. You know how hard it is to have a woman that you're attracted to and be like, no, I got, I got a girl, I'm good. Like it takes a lot of strength to do that and I understand that it takes a lot of strength to do that. And it's like for women it's not that well, for me it's not that hard to do.

Chrissy A.:

Like I could see an attractive man and don't even see him attractive. Like when, like I have a tunnel vision thing, like I got a good man. Or even if there is a man attractive enough for me to be like, oh he, fine. It don't be like oh he, fine. Like you know what I'm saying, it's just like oh's, he's nice looking and I think my mind will mostly go to like one of my friends that's single versus anything. You know what I'm saying, but I'm not gonna go talk to him. Try to hook him up with my friends. It'd probably be a thought like, oh, lele might be attracted to him, and then it ends there. You know what I mean. But y'all, just, y'all, just weak, weak ass. Get a hold of yourself I'll let you have it.

Sir Anthony:

You win that.

Chrissy A.:

You've won that round one, you've won okay, well, I feel like this is a good conversation. Yeah, I don't think we have to keep continuing, because you know I'll be talking, I'll go for days, so we're just gonna end this right here, right now. Okay and um, did you have anything like on your heart or anything you want to say, give some advice or close it up in your own special way?

Sir Anthony:

Well, young YNs, listen when the old heads were on. Now consider I learned that I'm on status. Now Listen when we tell you to get all your whole face out. When you young, do that because you really do. And when we say that, do it responsibly. You want to date and figure out who you are, what you really like, versus committing young and realizing you want to venture in your committed relationship.

Sir Anthony:

That's a mistake that I made. I should have sold my oats and did all of that while I was younger, figured that stuff out, so when it's time to settle down I can find the person that properly aligns with me. So that's my advice to the young guys figure out what you want like really really figure that out, even through failures, like when you mess around with some of these chicks and you're like, nope, I wanted this big booty IG model, but, man, she was fun to look at, fun with them clothes off, but she lay there like a rock in the bed. But when I had this Ooga Booga man, she was doing acrobats and flips in 17 different positions and all of that.

Sir Anthony:

Then, when I was with the Batty Off IG, she made me peanut butter, jelly sandwiches, cheese pizza and hot dogs, oh, and you know what's her best meal Tacos. And you're like, damn, where the pot roast and the fried chicken and the shrimp pasta and all that stuff I see on the gram Nope, buddy, you're going to be spending at the restaurant on her or y'all for that. Like, you have to figure that stuff out and you have to go through that. And if that's what you built on, you want to eat the hot dog cheese pizza and tacos. If that's what you into, then by all means go after it.

Chrissy A.:

But you got to figure that out and that's what you're into, then by all means go after it. But you got to figure that out and that's my word of advice to you. Do you think that men that typically serial cheat have been had their heart broken and that's why they became a monster?

Sir Anthony:

Yes, so a lot of. And then they don't want to admit it, so it would. Might. It might have been who he thought was that perfect girl, and it just for some. Whatever the reason is, it didn't work out. So I'm like I'm about to be out here and nobody will ever get that close to my heart anymore. And if you are getting close, I'm on to the next one.

Chrissy A.:

Yeah, I feel that heavy. Yeah, I feel that heavy. I feel that so heavy because, thinking about all the type of guys that I've dated, they really were like, really sweet and loving, like I could feel that part of them. I could look at their eyes and see that side of them, but it was masked by all this fear. That's what I'm going to call it. It it was fear fear of being hurt again, fear of letting somebody in and it not working out, fear of getting done like they probably did some women. You know what I mean. And it's unfortunate because it's like now. Their fear is now trickling down to each woman that they're hurting, that has good intentions for relationships, and now we creating holes this is the hotels episode period hotel everybody, um yeah, that's all I want to say.

Sir Anthony:

Okay we closing it out.

Chrissy A.:

Yes. So my word of advice is, of course, to my women, since he gave that beautiful advice to our young men, to my young girls specifically, those who do not have a strong male role model or strong feminine role model in their life I would say just be patient with yourself. Love on you. You don't need anyone to love you. You don't need any physical thing out there to make you feel special. You just are thing out there to make you feel special. You just are. God created each and every one of you, one of us, to be something special. Everything that you need is already inside of you.

Chrissy A.:

So don't go out looking for somebody. Don't take your daddy issues and try to find a man that will treat you right, because what's going to happen if we don't learn how to unlock those versions of us where we love ourselves? What's going to happen is we're going to go through those whole phases. We're going to give ourselves to people that we think are sincere with us and it nine times out of 10, be a front. So just be patient with yourself. Love on you. Love on you so heavy that you don't need anybody else at that point. And once you get to the point of loving you and knowing you and understanding what it is that you want and need. Then your Prince Charming will come and he will get on your fucking nerves, but you will love him Because the love he gives to you is way more than any of that, and that's all I have to say. So thank you for joining our episode on hotels.

Sir Anthony:

Until next time.

Chrissy A.:

See ya.