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The Sister Circle Talk: Setting Boundaries, Breaking Up & Healing in Friendships
Friendship breakups can be just as painful as romantic ones. Have you ever had to walk away from a friend? In this episode, we dive deep into the emotions, challenges, and lessons that come with ending a friendship. From setting boundaries to recognizing when a friendship no longer serves you, we share personal stories and expert insights on navigating friendship breakups with grace.
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Let's talk about the friendship breakup. Like mourning a friend is a lot. I recently went through friendship breakups. I lost a friend because of this podcast, but the podcast had nothing to do with her. It's like a certain topic we were talking about hit home and she thought that we were specifically talking about her. Welcome to the Pure Intentions Podcast, where real love, raw emotions and intentional relationships come together. Welcome back to the Pure Intentions Podcast, where we talk everything relationship from an intentional point of view. I am your host, chrissy A, and today we don't have Sir Anthony with us, but, however, we have a lot of beautiful women here. So we're going to talk about friendship today. We're going to start from this end and everybody, just you know, slowly, take a time and introduce yourselves.
Taylor Iman:Let's start here. Oh, we're doing the mic thing. Hey, I'm Taylor Iman. Yeah, I'm a singer, actress, all those things. So make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel, miss Taylor Iman, taylor Iman. Thanks Bye.
Erica:Y'all know her. That's E. I am Erica. I go by Lady E. You can follow me on Instagram At lady. Underscore E underscore 312.
Jasmine:My name is Jasmine. I am a dancer, educator and visual artist. You can find me on Instagram at the Jasmine Danielle. That's T-H-E-E Jasmine, like the flower Danielle. Well, she stated T-H-E-E Jasmine.
Christina:Like the Flower, danielle. Who would you ask for this? Like the Flower? Well, she stated I am Christina. I'm just a mom and a dancer where I met all these beautiful young ladies, and you don't have to follow me, but my handle is BrownSugarBaby S-U-G-A, baby B-A-B-I-E. You know, on Instagram, you know, I'm just living life.
Jazmine:Period. Hi, I am the other Jasmine. I am a mom, a Afro-historophile and a educator, and I don't have a handle because I can't be handled.
Chrissy A.:So oh, clock it, clock. It can't be handled. So hi, I am Deja Nara. Peoples, most people call me Deja.
Erica:I am an educator, I'm a mom and I'm just here for a good time, you know, with my girls.
Jasmine:Yo, yo, yo.
Erica:No, I'm kidding um, I am elena aka lele um, and I am a dancer slash entrepreneur. You can follow me definitely on all platforms. At that's hawkins. That's with a z period okay so Okay.
Chrissy A.:So, like I said, you guys, we are going to talk friendships today. It might lean into relationships because this deck gets you into points where, okay, we're just going to get into it to it. So, like I said, we have the sister circle um card deck that we brought out probably. We introduced this two podcasts ago, three maybe, um with Elena and E, so now we have more ladies that we can talk about this with and I'm so excited. Um, she's going to randomly pull.
Christina:Does anyone want to pull first? Okay, sure.
Chrissy A.:Okay. It says how do you deal with a friend that feels negatively about your partner? Do you address it or do you let it slide? Um, I answer okay, baby, I ain't letting this slide. Sis, I'm sorry.
Chrissy A.:I'm gonna respect the relationship but as somebody who loves you and who's in your corner, if I have an issue with your partner, I'm gonna tell you why. I'm not gonna treat your partner different. I'm not gonna be disrespectful to them. But if I see or I notice anything that kind of rubs me the wrong way, especially if I've been around you for a significant amount of time and I feel like I know you and this is it's safe for me to give my opinion I'm gonna do that for show. But even if you are not receptive of whatever I have to say again, no judgment, right I'm still going to be there to support you through the ups and downs of that relationship and I'm always going to treat your partner with respect. But I'm definitely going to let you know. I'm definitely going to let you know.
Chrissy A.:So what if it's like the other way around and a friend comes to you and say, hey, I really don't like the man that you're with because of X, y and Z and he did X, y and Z. How would you take that? I'm going to take it into consideration because, at the end of the day, anybody that I have around me me, I know loves me and cares about me right, and I'm big on energy, so I can feel if you're being genuine or not, or if you just probably got your own issues and you're projecting. So, at the end of the day, I'm gonna take it into consideration because I know you love me and so at the end of the day, I'm just like, okay, maybe there's some some reflecting that I need to do, maybe I do need need to, maybe, you know, keep an eye out for this or that, but at the same time, I'm still going to make my own decisions. I'm a Taurus, I'm bullheaded, so you know I ain't gonna let nobody talk to me about my relationship and go home to they man.
Jasmine:You say my man, my man my man.
Chrissy A.:But I'm going to take it into consideration for sure. Consideration for sure does it depend on the friend that's telling you this? Um, yes, very much so. If she's married, if she ain't got no man, I definitely ain't listening to her. You know no, but you know what. It also depends on the nature of the advice. Right, if we're talking, it just depends on the nature. If it's something that she's experienced, that I know she's actually walked and been through, of course I'm going to take that into consideration. But if we're talking about, maybe, some future endeavors and I know this is probably something that she hasn't yet touched on I might be like I'm going to let her speak her piece, but I'm going to be like, okay, I'll see when I cross that path on my own. You know when I cross that bridge on my own. So it just depends on the nature of the situation.
Chrissy A.:I feel like, when it comes to friends and advice, we got to have our own strong discernment Because, again, like I told you, people will try to talk you out your relationship and then go home to their men or do the same things that, or are doing the same things that you're doing, but just won't speak on it, you know, or, and then sometimes it can come from a genuine place because they, even though they're going through it too, they want better for you. So we just got to be able to, you know, kind of weed out what's what, what to adhere to and what to kind of like be like. Nah, I'm gonna just thank you for that. But no, thank you. Period, did you? You want to say something? She said it oh, it's done. At first she was like now she like it's done. Anybody else had to. No, okay, period, period, you ate, you ate.
Christina:Who want to go next?
Jazmine:If you looked over here, I guess we could eat it all Period.
Christina:Ooh, yankers, if a friend starts bringing toxic energy or bad habits around you, how do you protect your peace? This is so beautiful. I guess you gotta um. You gotta filter where they're coming from. Filter where they're coming from. Um, it's not even so much they're bringing something to you, it's just it's them. It's them whatever they're going through. If you're a person that do absorb energy, you could feel it and I am like that. I can get sad. When I'm not sad because it's somebody that's bringing whatever. So if it's a toxic thing or whatever, sometimes it's you. They're not your friend. Essentially it could be a hate. It's something you're doing that they People tend to project as humans.
Christina:You see something in somebody and you don't know that you hate them, but you want to have the lifestyle that you see, and a lot of times that's where people call it like um girl or women, mess. But it's like you. It's inner hate. It's inner hate. You see something like well, I can't have her life or her happiness, why I can't look like her, why I don't look like that in them pants. So you are diminishing yourself, you. You lost yourself love and you will get lost in a lot of people like that and it ain't just friends, it's family that does that to you Sometimes siblings, somebody that's supposed to have your back, and it hurts but there's nothing you can do about it.
Christina:You have to allow them to find they self, and trying to fix somebody like that will drain you, hurt you. You don't recover from it. In a way, it's just you got to let them be down, let them cross certain bridges by themselves. It's hard to tell somebody that needs to go through certain phases. It's like you remember what it was like growing up Can nobody tell you about your bad boyfriend. He ain't good for you, girl, you hating on me and then you looking back 20 years later like he wasn't no good for me. I missed all the red flags, but we can't talk each other through that. So somebody bad energy is just a phase they're going through. It's hate, but we don't want to call it that because of who they are in our life. But sometimes you just got to cut people loose. Love them from a distance, yeah.
Chrissy A.:So okay, so it's saying that if a friend brings toxic energy, is there a point where you might you may think that that friend is bringing that toxic energy because of something that they might be going through and they're like trying to, like they probably see signs in whatever you're going through and say, hey, this reminds me of something that I go through. How do you, how do you use your like she said discernment in that regard like so it's you could be open to.
Christina:I guess you want to call it interpretation, but people got to know when they can just talk, and sometimes I might just want to talk and vent, and if that's something you need, just talk and vent. But don't come and call out my situation, because what you see is just your perspective. It's not even my real situation. Or you might have seen one bad thing because you have been waiting on my situation to fall on the ground from the beginning. So you just looking, picking poking, you're not even there for me. So you bring your bad energy because you just looking, picking poking, you're not even there for me. So you look, you bring your bad energy because you just don't want me to be successful in what I'm doing.
Erica:Yeah, okay I think it depends just just for the I think it depends on what exactly the negative energy is like and also who is the person. If I don't traditionally know them to have negative energy, then I'm gonna be like what's going on? You know, I'm gonna try to figure out what's happening, you know. But for me, if, especially if I'm just getting introduced to you, you got about maybe three good times for you to have negative energy unexplainably, for me to be like, okay, let me pull away. You know what I mean.
Erica:But if you're my friend and I know you and you're like a part of me, like I be attached to the people that I love, so it's like if I know that you're suddenly having bad energy, I'm going to eventually be like you. Good, you sure you know what I mean, because I just think that's important. Now, if somebody is more so to what you were saying, like they're kind of putting you down and what you got going on, um, I think it's actually same same answer, because this is like if I, if I know you and I really mess with you, it's like why are you putting this down? What? What do you see that I don't see? And if you just a damn hater, and then and I'm just getting to know you.
Christina:I'm gonna be like, yeah, no, because I, I just I can't yeah, separating your relationships like that do me a favor, read the question one more time if a friend starts bringing toxic into your bad habits around you, how do you protect your peace bad?
Chrissy A.:habits. So I kind of want to piggyback off of what christina said. I actually I'm gonna take a page out of chrissy and sir anthony's book and be completely transparent in this moment, right, because I have a friend. I'm actually going through this right now and I'm actually in a healing place in my life. Right, I'm going through a lot of transition and, um, in this moment there's somebody that is very close to me, right, and it's a difficult time for me right now, but it's also a healing time. So I'm in a positive place, right, even though I'm experiencing so much right, but ultimately, I just feel like the energy that she brings is very negative all the time and it's not like towards me. It's things that are going on in her life, but sometimes that unloading on me while I'm in, while I'm trying to heal, right, while I'm on a path, a healing journey, right, and if I get that call and it's like a bunch of unload, my chest gets tight, right, I get anxiety and I'm like I'm not there, like I can't carry this with you, but it's like I don't want to be selfish, because I love you. You know what I'm saying and I'm grateful that you're on that. You're a part of my life during one of the most important times in my life, right.
Chrissy A.:Um, while I'm prioritizing my mental health, I'm prioritizing my finances, I'm I'm just rearranging everything in my life and you're a part of that, but it's like there's so much negative things that are going on in your life right now and it's like I can't carry that.
Chrissy A.:So I feel like it's it's a situation where you have to set boundaries and you have to be okay to have difficult conversations with your friends, and I feel like a lot of times we don't want people to think, oh, I don't give a fuck about what you're going through or what you got going on, so I'm dismissing you. But it's more so like I can't take that right now, like I love you, but my energy and where I'm at in my life I can't carry that with you and that's just where I'm at in my life. I can't carry that with you and that's just where I'm at. And it's not that I'm not here for you, because I am, but that unloading is too much for me. So I feel like it's okay to set boundaries, right, and then, in addition to that, with the bad habits, you just have to set boundaries. If you know I don't do certain stuff. Don't do it around me. That goes to show how much you love me and respect me, no matter what you do, right, just be respectful of what I don't do.
Erica:What does setting boundaries look like? Clear communication. There we go.
Chrissy A.:Clear communication. Hey, this is a problem for me, right, being okay, like I said, to have those difficult conversations with your friends, because we okay sometimes having those difficult conversations with our men, right?
Taylor Iman:But with our friend.
Chrissy A.:We'll go pillow talk with our man like this bitch getting on my motherfucking nerves. I can't stand her. She always calling me with that bullshit, talking about that nigga, but at the same time I'm going to tell that bitch too, and as you should, because that's the you know. So, at the end of the day, it's just being clear communication and setting those boundaries, like man, stop talking to me about him. Um, what did I tell her? I haven't told her anything yet. You haven't set them boundaries. And so I asked you that because I've been on the opposite end of that spectrum.
Christina:You haven't set some boundaries. Clock it, clock it. That's our intention.
Erica:And so I ask you that because I've been on the opposite end of that spectrum, right where I feel like had a friend set boundaries, communicated, effectively communicated instead of went about it in a different way, where you completely silenced me, in a way that I was just kind of like you are like the longest friend that I've known my entire life. I can respect if you're going through something, but what I can't respect is you ghosting me because you're going through something In your mind. Everything that you said sounds perfectly fine to me. I'm all about communication and transparency, all that good stuff. So I just encourage you to have that conversation. I know it's a difficult conversation, but if that person really means something to you, I think it's super important because from my experience, it kind of tainted my relationship with this person because that conversation wasn't had. Now we're cordial now, we're cool now, but it's still, if I reflect on it, it's still a little residue there.
Erica:I have to heal from that, because who's to say that's not how you're going to move again? All it took was you communicating and setting those boundaries.
Chrissy A.:But sometimes I know you say all it took was communication. Sometimes people don't know how to communicate.
Erica:Exactly.
Chrissy A.:And sometimes people are afraid of being, because that's a sense of vulnerability, to say there's something here that's not sitting well with me and to be able to tell you that, and sometimes it's scary to where it's like I don't know how you're going to respond to it, but no disrespect.
Erica:We're talking about sisterhood, we're about friendship, yeah, but you got. Relationship should mean something, to the point where you should know that you can communicate with me, even if you said a little something like I just need space and.
Chrissy A.:I would say like wait, taylor, because you ain't got no mic.
Taylor Iman:I'm sorry, um, I would say, like you can't necessarily judge someone else's wound without having the courage to to, uh, stare yours in the face.
Taylor Iman:So I don't feel like that's an excuse of like, oh, I don't feel brave enough to communicate.
Taylor Iman:If you're going through your healing journey journal about it, like, talk to God about it, whatever it is you need to do, but don't judge someone for the space that they're in, because I remember when I would I've been on both of those ends, but I remember when I was at a point where I didn't even know I was complaining all the time, I was pushing, I was fighting to get out of this, like depressive sadness, and this was my way of like okay, I'm trying to tell you that I'm not okay, but I don't know how to say it, so I'm gonna just keep telling you about all the stuff that's going on, um, and then eventually, once I finally got out of it now this person has resented me and, like, held it in and never told me that this bothered me.
Taylor Iman:And now they're in some heated argument when, wow, I felt comfortable enough to to tell you that I wasn't OK, but all you heard was man, you think everything is about you and it was like nope, I'm really trying to tell you that I'm always a strong friend, and right now I can't be the strong friend, and it would have been better had that person been like hey, let's, let's get some tools, because everybody wants to talk about like, oh yeah, I'm on, I'm on this healing journey, but oftentimes, let's be real, we heal when wounded, instead of healing being a continuous tool that we practice.
Chrissy A.:And I do understand that. So it's not like it's an excuse, it's just that everybody are in different places in their lives. So it's like even showing a little grace and saying, okay, this person doesn't understand what's going on, let me tell you, is there something wrong? Communicate that with me. Sometimes you have to tell people and you have to teach them, because you never know what somebody's situation and story is like. They probably never been taught to communicate their feelings. They probably live into in a household where nobody communicated and that's and that's what they're used to. So it's like understanding that there is grace there where you say, okay, you're my friend, if there's something bothering, you, communicate that with me. And if they don't communicate, from that point then you set those boundaries and it's just like okay, well, I try with you, I'm not mad at you, but I can't do this.
Chrissy A.:So I do want to say I do want to say that I feel like even a lot of times, just me personally, even in the situation since we, you know, know that I'm actually experiencing this right now I have issues with asserting myself right In the workplace, in friendships, in my relationship relationship, because sometimes I just I have trouble finding the right words right, and I don't want to.
Chrissy A.:I know how sensitive people can be and, like you said, people can get defensive right, and I don't ever want there to be a situation where it's like we can't come back from something and there's a a wound there that just has it takes years to heal, because I have had friends since grammar school right, that I recently cut off in my 20s, people that I mourn right now, that are still living right, friends right. So it's like I don't want it to get to that point. So all of the things that I was telling you guys, that's what I'm processing, right, and so I'm preparing myself to have that conversation. But it's a scary conversation, you know, for me, because I have had those boundaries crossing and those conversations have been had and then we weren't able to come back. You know what I'm saying? Because, because sometimes it shows, like you said, people are at different places in their lives. So then for some people it's like you're not there, I'm here, and so we just we don't have anything in common right now, and then that distance starts to create itself.
Taylor Iman:Yeah, that's a whole other thing of like. If you are just not aligned, that's a whole different conversation. Like that's a whole other thing. I wouldn't even put it in the same predicament, because if we're not in alignment, then I mean there's then, then we don't have to, you know, even we can distance ourselves. But like, if we have decided like you are my person not to get all Grey's Anatomy, but oh, definitely Grey's Anatomy but you know, if we've decided like, like you know, uh Mayor would never do that to Christina.
Chrissy A.:Oh, but we're not talking about Miss Kierna Springer.
Taylor Iman:Okay, period, I'm there with you.
Taylor Iman:I'm there with you. I'm there, okay. But, molly, can I ask you, are you in your late 20s? Yes, 29. Oh, so this is your Saturn return, okay, so that also makes a lot of sense. Yeah, that also makes a lot of sense in the sense of, like, you are going to go through that phase of losing friends, because right now you are in the stage of figuring out not only who you are, but in your Saturn return, you're basically deciding, like, is what I'm doing in life, working or not? Turn you're. You're basically deciding, like it is what I'm doing in life, working or not. So right now you're at a point of is the friends that I have around working? Because, if we're going to be honest, like you literally are who you are, surrounded by um, and the quicker you learn that, the quicker you start to let go of people. So, if this person is average, do you want to be average girl?
Jasmine:rich girl.
Erica:Um, I second all of those emotions because, like, like, I have that same sentiment of feeling, like I don't always know how to express how I'm feeling like sometimes I'd rather just shut down and be done with the situation as opposed to being like having those difficult or confrontational moments.
Erica:But it does depend on what that relationship means, because if I shut down and I push you away, then that means, to an extent, I'm okay with losing that relationship. And now that I'm like acquiring friendships and things that I feel like really means something to me, then it's like okay, no, now I got a woman up and figure out how to say this or say that, and I think that's also why I surround myself with women who are very upfront and straight to the point. Because it's like no, what's up with you. We're going to have this conversation. And it's like some of us who are more sensitive and more soft-spoken need that. You need a friend. That's going to be like no, I love you. What's going on? You know what I mean. So I think all of those things are factors for sure.
Chrissy A.:Okay, okay. You see what these cards do, you guys? They bring out the conversations because we also have to date our friends as well. Like we sometimes take friendships lightly, like I know, when I was younger I'd like you my friend, you my friend, real quick, without even knowing this person. And then you find out later on in life, you breaking up with friendships that you had in grammar school and let's talk about the friendship breakup.
Chrissy A.:Like, like, mourning a friend is a lot. I recently went through friendship breakups. 2024 was like a break, break, break everything. It was a breakup year for me. And you still have a love. No, I'm. No, I don't get me wrong. I absolutely love my friends that I I have now because I feel like, you know, sometimes you reach different points in your life and sometimes people don't move with you. It's just like relationships, like sometimes I'm growing and your growth is different than my growth and it's just not working, you know, and that's okay, like it's okay, but in the same sense you're still it's still a certain sadness there because it's like, damn, this was my friend since college, this was my friend since high school and this is a girl I thought was gonna be at my wedding. This is, you know what I mean. And it's like now I have to unthink about her, but I still have thoughts about her and it it kind of unthinking okay, it gets hard because I had this conversation with y'all and um.
Chrissy A.:I lost a friend because of this podcast and um and so in reality in her it was because of this podcast, but the podcast had nothing to do with her. It's like a certain topic we were talking about hit home and she thought that we were specifically talking about her, but it was just like no baby this was. This was recorded way before me. You had the conversation that we had it. You know what I mean, and it showed a different side of her that I've never seen. Like we were friends since college and never got into an argument until this came out. And I'm the type of person with advice for my friends. This one I'll be like go pray about it, like, meditate about it. And when you say period, what God? She says that to me all the time and I go and I take a beat and I meditate, I pray, and then I meditate to hear God's word and he say it's just changing for you, like it's shifting and that's okay. It's okay that there's a shift happening, but there are moments where something to pop you know Facebook be, oh, facebook, snapchat. Like remember this, no, nigga delete, I don't want to remember that Apple as well, apple as well Apple, google and we did a TikTok. And the TikTok popped up in my memories and it was just like oh, this was a time where, you know, we were happy together. And it's like damn, I ain't got that friendship no more. And you told me you was like oh, it's gonna take you a minute, I'm, I'm just tough and shit. I'm like, no, fuck that bitch. I'm like I'm good, I ain't thinking about who, what's her name, you know. But in reality, like I wasn't though. I wasn't though, because when I say we never argue, we never argue. And for it to be our first disagreement over something that I hadn't done, that I was being accused of, it was just like damn, but I had to take back and be like this had nothing to do with me and everything to do with her situation, and she needed somebody to take it out on. And I was the person. And she was like I'm very hurt, we are no longer friends. No, no, that's not what she said. She said our season has ended. Oh, that hits so hard. I'm like the season has ended. Oh, that hits so hard. I'm like the season has ended.
Chrissy A.:Was this via text. Huh, was this via text or was this? It was via text? She called. She called but we were filming a podcast so I couldn't answer. But he was like setting up. So the text message came through and I'm like okay, okay, well, we just had this conversation. She's been going through stuff you know in her relationship, so maybe I should like look at the text to make sure she's okay. And I'm reading a text message and I got broke up with. So I'm like pause everything and I call her like what's going on? You know what's going on and she just went off. So it's like your mind is already made up. You don't want to hear what I have to say. You already made up the story in your head did you send her some receipts of shoot date?
Chrissy A.:I, it didn't matter to her because that's not what she, she didn't care. Maybe I'm just that petty, okay, no, because I told her. I told her it's on this day, in the middle of the, in the middle of the conversation, I said I saw period Cause you know, when you film off real cameras they have timestamps, yeah. So I was like that episode was the crazy part about it is I didn't say a friend of mine, I didn't say a girl, I know, yeah, yeah, I just asked the question of if you, if some, if somebody was in this situation, what would you do? It was a general and most couples go through it, which is why it was a part of our podcast. So it's like I just talked to you about this last week. So you think that I filmed, edited the same day and then shot it out there the same day.
Erica:There's no, there's no reason to try to understand. Yeah, yeah, so it wasn't it wasn't even that she wanted to understand yeah she had already made in her mind because that's what she needed.
Chrissy A.:She needed that deflection to come on me.
Jasmine:So her situation how did you work for her?
Chrissy A.:um, I'm okay with our season ending, you know, I'm perfectly okay with that. Um, I wish you well. I even sent her a new year's. I sent all my friends new year's notes telling them how they impacted my life throughout the year. And I'm sorry, granted, granted you, you are a newer friend, so that's the only reason why yeah, let's talk about this later, but I send all my friends, my old friends, new Year's notes, telling them how they impacted my year and whatever, and what I've learned from our relationship. And hers was still a nice note and it was like I'm this isn't a note to say that I want our friendship back, but I enjoyed what we had when we had it, and that was my culture I wanted you to send her the time stamp, you know what.
Chrissy A.:And I started to Like Sir Anthony pulled it up. He like babe, we shot it on, we shot it on this day, we shot it on that day at this time, and he gave me the exact thing. And I'm just like why not let?
Erica:her day crack, it didn't matter.
Jasmine:Let me tell you why it didn't matter, because?
Erica:even before that happened, the same situation happened in a different way.
Chrissy A.:Yeah, so people start looking for reasons to end Start over yeah. People start looking for reasons to end situations, and I noticed that because, literally, it seemed like all of this is my life. That's why I listen to y'all.
Erica:That's why.
Chrissy A.:I listen to Pure Intentions because it's all my life. I'm living it. Y'all not just living it, we all living it. Take that as a soundbite For real, and that's why I love it so much, because, honestly, I'm on the receiving end of that right now and I've been on the other end of that right where I've ended a friendship. And then let's talk about regretting it. Let's talk about breaking up with a friend and regretting it. Talk about it, you know, and about mourning people and they still alive, like it's.
Chrissy A.:It's hard, right, for real, because my I, I I broke up with my sister from childhood people it's people to this day that still think that we are blood sisters and we were just best friends from childhood. Right, and it's hard. She live in Nashville, tennessee, so it makes it easier, but it's hard, it's very hard. And we broke up because I was engaged and I was getting married and I chose another one of my best friends to be my maid of honor and not my sister, and she was mad. And she was mad and she was like we had planned this all our life. I said, imani, we did not plan this. You were going to be my matron of honor because you're older, so you were going to get married first, but these were like child plans that we made from like six and seven years old six and, I'm sorry, six and nine years old and because I didn't adhere to that when we were in our 20s, it was like it was a lot. It was a lot.
Chrissy A.:It's like it's not ideal for you to be my maid of honor. You're not in Chicago, you know. You don't have the capacity to come up here. What about when I have to do a cake tasting right away and you can't be here? Then what? You can't just get that title just because you're my sister? Yeah, yes, being a maid of honor is a job. I'm like it's a financial situation. I'm like it's a lot that comes with it, and she just didn't understand that, so that had to end. And then I regretted that. I regretted that because I felt like she took my moment and made it about her you know what what I'm saying?
Erica:So I ended that. Them the three that you gotta let go. Yeah, I ended that.
Chrissy A.:I ended that because I'm like you can't just be and you know what's so crazy. Tia and Tamera they went through the same situation, yep.
Jasmine:And that's what it reminded me of.
Chrissy A.:I'm like, just be my sister, just be my sister. So I'm like you don't have to be my maid of honor, just be my sister. That's an important role too. And even in me literally being on the receiving end of a breakup, I literally my best friend from college. You brought the best friend from college. She literally just ghosted me. I don't know why. She's the godmother of my children. She was the beneficiary on my life insurance policy. She's in the will to get my children and she ghosted me.
Chrissy A.:I just took her off last week. I just took her off last week and she's an Aquarius. Her birthday was a couple of days ago. I knew that was coming out of her mouth next. I'm sorry I am a Aquarius, literally she's an Aquarius hater. I am a Aquarius hater. Y'all hate they, so weird. Not all of them, bro, she's the most beautiful person.
Erica:I've ever met.
Chrissy A.:I have some pretty close Aquarius friends.
Erica:No.
Jasmine:Yeah, I'm new card.
Jazmine:What am I Wait before we? We've been talking about this I will say before we we skip.
Erica:It's a good topic because it resonates with me. I don't even have to speak and everything that everybody has said hits home. I've experienced it in so many different shapes and forms college friend, grammar school friend and and being. And then I feel, like you know, we don't get to choose our family, but we get to choose our friends and even though, like, yes, okay, I'm a Pisces people, what'd you say earlier I had to cut my best friend off well, apparently people gravitate towards the energy you know, we're adaptable, we're all signs, we're all signs we get along a lot of people, um, but these were individuals where I felt like I was an amazing friend too.
Erica:And, to you guys' point, all it took was a conversation, and it showed me the way you were just giving your heart out. I was just pouring it out.
Erica:That's what we did and got ghosted. And in another situation it was because of business. But we was like, let's not make it personal, it's just business. But it turned into something different and, to your point, I was the godmother of child, maid of honor, all these things. And so, also to your point, I think it was just a transitional period for me. They, in order for me to grow in certain areas, I had to let go of those situations or learn how to let go of those situations, because it was really hard for me, like if you with me, we stuck, we stuck for life. And so when somebody turns a different leaf and goes that way, I just I don't know. It was always hard for me to deal with. But now the advice that I gave you, I'm like you're going to go through that. You're not going to understand it, you're not going to know why, but it's meant for a reason later on in life, is meant for a reason later on in life.
Jasmine:I'm a strong believer in the fact that the universe is going to provide to you whatever it is you need when you need it right, and so it applies to relationships, and I'm seeing a lot of connection. I'm hearing a lot of connection with what was brought up earlier about these difficult conversations that we're not necessarily comfortable having. When you regularly practice having difficult conversations with your loved ones, it kind of seeps into every other area of your life, including work. But when we're talking about these friendships right, like when you regularly practice having these difficult conversations the people that are going through things and project onto you and break up with you without explanation, usually because they're going through things that they're not necessarily comfortable sharing or don't know how to share when you have those conversations regularly, they can get there Right. And I'm not saying that you have to chase after anybody, you know I'm not saying that that you have to chase after anybody. I'm not saying that. But just being in practice of having uncomfortable, difficult conversations can open up a lot of different doors.
Erica:That's the word, that's the advice from this conversation.
Chrissy A.:Okay, so I do want to change the topic a little bit. It might stay in the same kind of lane, because these cards are about friends, but Jazz over here hasn't said anything, so let's roll a card.
Jazmine:Okay, okay, what Okay? You and your friend like the same guy. You're serious about the guy, but your friend sees him as just a casual fling. Do you talk to her about your feelings or keep them to yourself?
Erica:Is that your friend Is?
Jasmine:that your friend, or is that your?
Jazmine:associate this requires a second read. You and your friend, like the same guy, time out Keisha and Ava like the same guy. Keisha is serious about the guy, but Ava sees him as just a casual fling. Do you talk?
Jasmine:to your friend.
Jazmine:I am Keisha. Am I talking to Ava about my feelings or do I keep them to myself? You know I'm gonna pivot to somebody in the audience.
Jasmine:No, Keisha, keisha was Keisha, keisha was serious, but Ava was playing.
Jazmine:And Ava was playing.
Erica:Keisha really liked it. If you was Keisha, what would you do? Jazz, I have a valid question.
Jazmine:Yes.
Erica:Ava's not here.
Chrissy A.:Let Keisha answer first she hasn't said anything at all. Okay.
Erica:Keisha answer first, because she hasn't said anything at all for Keisha about Ava.
Taylor Iman:Ava has a valid question for Keisha about Ava. My valid question is is Ava a hoe?
Erica:before you answer. We don't know if she's a hoe we just know that she's okay.
Chrissy A.:So they have, she got whole tennis they have. They have an interest in the same guy. They're attracted to the same guy. However, you like the guy and see potential relationship with him, why the other girl just see him as like a nice little fling, like just something to play with. So, like, do you tell him, like look like I know you just want to play with him, but you know I can't. Like we actually vibe, like I feel a real connection here, but that's the. That's the question. Do you say something?
Jazmine:well, well, well, keisha does not congregate with hoes, so Keisha would not, uh, be around those. But I would say I think I know my friends pretty well and I would hope that they know me pretty well. So I think that would be a very simple conversation. And, you know, I think at the end of the day, if it's a good friend and it is a friend I care about, I'm not going to allow our relationship to falter over a guy.
Jazmine:I just can't see myself arguing, especially if it's a very, very good friend of mine and if the shoe was on the other foot. If I'm just casually looking for something, I can look elsewhere. I think, and I feel like my friend would have the same concept. I can find flings anywhere. But if you're serious about this particular person, then I'm gonna be in your corner, I'm gonna be supportive of your relationship and I'm gonna do what needs to be done to make sure that you all have a healthy relationship but what if she's not serious?
Chrissy A.:and you are like what if this person, if anybody see you two together, it just makes sense, like how y'all vibe, how like, and you've never felt that before. And she's just like I like, like she's more outspoken. So she's talking to this guy like and telling you oh, I'm going, I'm going to do this and that in a third to him. I ain't going to take him serious.
Jazmine:Well, pre-salvation, I probably would have going a different route, but post salvation. Those are, those are two different. Yeah, no, I think I think then we would have a serious conversation. I would have to, we would have to sit down and really evaluate, like the, the, the standards and expectations in our friendship, because obviously some communication got lost somewhere. Um, so I think we could. That's a, that's a sit down conversation, and if that season has passed for me and that friend, then so be it.
Christina:Yeah.
Chrissy A.:I'm going to just say I am grateful enough. With almost 30 years on this earth, me and my friends are not attracted to the same type of men. Even though the nigga might be fat when he open up his mouth, if he with her, he ain't my type and that's just what it is.
Chrissy A.:Wow okay, and I'm grateful for that, because I don't need that. I don't need that in my life. I don't like. I don't like um creating competition amongst me and my friends, because women, we can be just as um aggressive, right, or even as they. What do they call men? Um? They say that they are hunters. We have hunter spirits in us as well. We have masculine energy that dwells deep within us, that we can, that we can make come alive and and in that energy, when we're dwelling in those moments, and when we're dwelling in those moments, you know it's just like, yeah, I don't want to be, I don't want. No, what's for you is for you and what's for me is for me. And then, if I was in that situation, I think honestly, I would bow out gracefully because I'm not, you're going to be here before that nigga, you're going to be here after that nigga. So if you really want that nigga girl, have that nigga Possibly. Well, we just that's true. That's true. You said possibly.
Jasmine:You said possibly. I'm sitting around with a guy and I'm like what's he doing? So?
Christina:based on right. So, based on how the car was red, it sounds like one of them wants something serious and the other one is already having the fling with the guy. No, no, that's what it sounds like.
Chrissy A.:Well, what if it's not that way? But what if so? Let's pretend like it's not that way okay. And we had a conversation about this nigga. Like damn, we had a bar and like he finds it says she sees him as a casual funny okay.
Jasmine:So they can be friends with him.
Chrissy A.:Right, he could be in their circle and it's supposed to be like.
Christina:I always wanted a brother so even if y'all in a general area cafeteria, coffee shop, bar, whatever you having a conversation about some guy that y'all see attractive, who gets to pick, who gets the man? The man has to, the man has to. So why is the conversation serious? Why is the conversation becoming serious, and your friendship down there on the line, about a guy that didn't even pick neither one of y'all yet? Okay, say that oh, you know.
Erica:Um, I think what's dope about these cards in this conversation is a repetitive theme is people are saying well, with my real friends, like when you know, I'm saying because it's like in that conversation. I think I've been in a similar situation as this. And if you like, oh, I'm just playing around and she's like, no, I really feel this, that and other, you can be like, oh, girl, you got it, because I was just playing in a real friendship with real feminine energy, when they're really bonded together. You know what I'm saying? What's up?
Taylor Iman:Or just to kind of wait, or just to kind of piggyback off of what you're saying. You were kind of going this direction, but maybe not really. Or there's a difference between your real friend and somebody who's just your homegirl. Yeah, no, for sure it's a whole different kind of energy.
Erica:Yeah, so you might not even feel the need to even have it but I have a very strong line of that because I'm because of all of this that we talk about right now. I really don't have a lot of people that I consider a friend, a real girlfriend, even with relationships. I'm the same way with men, like if I suspect any of this weird shit is going on, I'm, I keep a certain distance, even if I'm cool with you. So if you are my friend, I go above and beyond to not cross your boundaries and to also communicate so that we don't have any issues then you know, me.
Erica:Okay, I know you yeah, have I met you before, do I know?
Chrissy A.:no girl like you know I'm saying if we're specific, know you love me, no girl like you know what I'm saying.
Erica:If we're specific, and we were me and you, and you were like, oh no, I really like him. And I was just like oh girl, I was just looking around, go ahead for sure, elena.
Taylor Iman:Elena, I was just talking about this for real. The question is, what if we?
Erica:were both serious about this guy.
Jasmine:That's a good question.
Christina:OK, look at that point we should just be like you know what?
Chrissy A.:let's just not yes.
Erica:That's going to get real sticky.
Taylor Iman:Come on OK. Meanwhile we don't even have the same type of Lena's style Chill.
Erica:You don't know that, because that real, real tall man you had one time, you know I like him tall.
Christina:I know the truth, I always wanted a brother.
Jazmine:Say that, say that I always wanted a brother.
Chrissy A.:No, no, no, I'm kidding, I'm kidding.
Erica:I'm literally kidding because I don't know who that man was. I hate to sound ridiculous.
Taylor Iman:I know Like you have been standing next to somebody and I was just like do you not know who that was? And you were like yeah, I have no clue. I'm like Alayna. That was the one that was the one.
Chrissy A.:See, that's what I'm saying. You were like that one Out of ten, you and your homegirl don't or you and your best friend Nine times out of ten.
Chrissy A.:You and your homegirl, you and your best friend, y'all not attracted to the same type of men. Like I don't know. It's like I don't know. That's why I love being friends with different women from different signs and stuff like that. Like, honestly, me, being a tourist, I don't vibe with tourist women. All of us are different. I just don't. I don't vibe with tourist women. I will. So if you don't like tourist women, I get that. I get that because also also the upbringing matters as well. My mom's a Virgo, right, and my dad's a Scorpio, so that that has a lot to do with you know my cultivation.
Chrissy A.:But at the same time I will say, like me and my friends, I just don't see us being attracted to the same man. We're so different, our taste is different. Even if we both may agree that this man is handsome, once he opens up his mouth, his morals, his values, what he likes to do, what he doesn't like to do, we're not he going to line with one of us, he's not going to align with both of us and so, like you said, at the end of the day it's about who he picks also Also it's about who he picks also. Also, it's about who he picks because you gotta, you gotta be like, you gotta be like. Okay, well, he picked her and you gotta, you gotta suck that shit up. You was not.
Chrissy A.:I'm kind of no, I'm kind of curious, because we say that we don't like the same type of man. But I'm kind of curious to know what our types are, to even see if we actually like the same type of man. But I'm kind of curious to know what our types are, to even see if we actually like the same type of man or not. Okay, like what's your? Let's start here.
Erica:What's your type? Let's go Tall, dark and handsome, okay. Spiritual creative Okay. Strong black man Okay. Spiritual creative Okay. Strong black man, okay. No, honestly, I'm going to be honest, I ain't got no type. Like they say with Swae Lee and them I ain't got no type. It's really about the connection.
Erica:Bad bitches this the only thing I like. You can be as fine as you want to be. You can be tall, you can be rich. I really don't care about none of that stuff. It's about the connection. Can I be all types of myself with you? Can I be the goofy me? Can I be the sexy me? Can I be the masculine version of me, the feminine version of me? That's really what it's about.
Chrissy A.:What if he 5'3"? Damn.
Erica:She's 5. The Lord said he wouldn't do that to me Me and the Lord got two arrangements he will be black and he will be at least taller than me. That's all we got going on. You're a tall woman? I am actually. You guys are all short Clothes. Look good on you. I am actually. You guys are all short. All of you, all of you, except for me and my girl.
Chrissy A.:I don't know, I don't know what my type is. I would say, out of my history of men, my type is Gemini and Scorpio, which are the two worst types. Oh, I hate it for me so bad, for sure, that's scary.
Chrissy A.:Yeah, it is, it is. It's very much so scary for me, but it's something about the way that a Gemini man can spot a Taurus woman out of a crowd of 100,000 women, like it's just, they just, they see us as a mag. They're predators, yeah, but so are Scorpios. So are Scorpios, though, and so with that energy, it's like I don't know, but that's just what. That's what I attract.
Chrissy A.:And so that's why I'm in a healing. That's why I'm in a healing. That's why I'm in a healing. It's phased in my life right now because you know what? And that's my toxic trait. My toxic trait is that I like toxic niggas.
Erica:So we definitely ain't fighting the same man.
Chrissy A.:We definitely ain't you ain't got nothing to worry about. But you know what, at the same, in full transparency, in full transparency, in full transparency, it's not even the toxicity that draws me to them with a gemini man it's more so like a he quiet, he, laid back. You feel what I'm saying. So I like that energy. I want to see like out of all of me, like why are you, why are you so quiet? Like what you, what you got going on? Yeah, what you got going on.
Chrissy A.:And they and they like, they like gemini men, like aggressive women. So tourist women, we're bullheaded, we're very aggressive. So they, they welcome that energy. A lot of men, they shy away from that. So that's why I, I, that's why I fuck with gemini men. And then scorpio men, they like a challenge, right, and tourist women we are very sure of ourselves. But scorpios, they got like a manipulative type of. So they want to try to see it's a challenge for them to try to like get us to, to bend on what we think we stand on. I fuck with. It's like some mind shit, like I don't know a scorpio.
Taylor Iman:Yeah, I did.
Chrissy A.:Yeah, I did say that, I did say that. And they have strong family. They have strong family ideals too. Scorpio men are very much so family-oriented I fucks with that, I fucks with that. So it's just their good qualities, more or less than their toxic qualities. I'm being honest, you know, I still don't understand why you have a Scorpio on your chest. My daughter is a Scorpio. Okay Okay, my son is a Sag Tag coming soon Another Sag.
Jazmine:Crazy. Okay, I don't know if I have a type to a CEO's point. I think I look for spirituality, I look for creativeness, I look for creativity. Rather, um, you don't have to be like a bibliophile, but you need to have read something in the last year and not just off your phone. Um, that'd be ideal. And, um, you know, kind good relationship with your family? Um says a lot about you. Know, your ability to communicate and hold healthy relationships. Um, yeah, those would be like the top ones. Now, yeah, that's it, yeah, yeah, I'm gonna leave it at that for media purposes.
Chrissy A.:I guess, Right, I already got her, I got my man. Y'all already know.
Taylor Iman:Oh, he's back there blushing, look at him.
Erica:You done passed the microphone.
Chrissy A.:Because they know who he is. We don't know your type If you don't know time if you don't know go back. If you don't know, go back to the previous episodes and you will see what my type is what about cuz?
Erica:we know who your man is, but we don't know what about him as your type?
Chrissy A.:well, everything that, everything that you said. Basically he's family oriented, we have the same type. Oh, okay, yeah, this is why I said that we always say our friends don't have our same type, but let's find out if we do. Literally everything you said was describing my man For the record, jasmine. For the record you brother.
Erica:That's what I'm saying, because we all can say family oriented, we all want to.
Chrissy A.:Yeah, you know, like we just vibe well together. It's just, it's like a certain spiritual bond that is unexplainable and it's like from the first moment that I saw him, I can't talk about nobody but him being my type, because at first I was just like I don't really have a type. But like he is strictly my type, like, yeah, he get on my nerves, but I love him even when he getting on my nerves, like he's just dope as fuck. Like y'all got the beard going on. I love me a beard with a little gray in it, you know. And I got my heels on. He's taller than me in my heels, you know. So that works for me. He has the muscles. Okay, is the couch all right, you know? Look, I tried to skip me but y'all wanted to hear it, so. So I'm going to give it to you.
Chrissy A.:No, seriously, like you go through things in relationships. For me, my biggest thing was communication and we're working on it. But he does communicate exceptionally well, more so than most men I've ever dated. So, yeah, and he's willing to go through life with me, like we're now in the couples therapy, you guys. Yeah, yeah, so so, yeah, my type is someone who leads and who also knows how to allow me to lead in moments where I'm strong at. So, my man, my man, my man.
Christina:So I've been small most of my life. I was like 90 pounds until I was probably going into my 20s and so, growing up watching my grandparents, my grandmother did not have to work, but she was able to, and so my grandfather literally did everything from the house chores, work five days a week, come home, give the grandkids their allowance. So I grew up with that, yeah, the man's supposed to literally protect, provide and do everything. So I looked for that and I always liked bigger guys. It made me like I like a teddy bear. So my baby is he a teddy bear? I like to get up in there, get my good spoon on.
Christina:But I also like a guy that when we talk and conversate I don't always want to have a conversation where it feel like we have to work on us so much or it feel like we always talking about somebody else, like if we could have a conversation about nothing. I love you because you find out how many minutes can't talk. For five fucking minutes you'd be like, baby, we don't got nothing to talk about. You okay, you cute, but this ain't going nowhere other than to a bed and see you later, baby. But with my baby we could see some bs on the commercial or something. We'd have a whole 10-minute skit about it. We'd have made up a whole nother life or whatever.
Christina:Because I don't want to have to always, because when you talk about somebody's life I feel like you're judging past a certain point and everybody wants to be spiritual, religious and all that. When you talk too much about somebody's life you are judging it ain life you are judged, it ain't for you to fix or talk about. If you're gonna fix on yourself, do that. But I don't want to have to look at you and talk about your life. I don't want to take my life into somebody else uh life and tell them all my problems. So we talk about our life, but we know how to table that and then we could talk about anything else. So that's why he my bag.
Jasmine:I love physically, I don't know that I have a type, but in terms of, like, what you bring to the table, and we're talking about the table, the table, um, let's see, must be service oriented, must be intelligent and educated, um, and preferably like. I mean, I'm in school for my PhD, you ain't got to be on that level, but I do want you to be able to have a conversation with me and I you know like and as Jazz said, like I love men who read 48 laws.
Jazmine:Of power does not count, and rich dad, poor dad, does not count no, no, no, but they can't be your personality.
Chrissy A.:They cannot be your personality a lot of narcissists read those books yeah, but very much service oriented, very, very much detail-oriented.
Jasmine:And I do appreciate open communication, but sometimes it's nice to know that somebody's just paying attention to the little things. I love that. I value that. Let me see there's something else that I'm missing Romance, you. You got to be romantic. Like we have to go on dates. Like I like spending quality time with you we could be in the house, but I also like adventure, um, and I have a fitness background, so preferably you would like like to exercise and move your body.
Chrissy A.:Yes, cuz that body is for the gods.
Jasmine:But yeah, I'm just a girl when I'm with you.
Erica:So I'm gonna be about the service you know and be a protector. I've been dying to hear this. I want to hear my coach's title yes, yes, lady.
Christina:Keep it simple. Keep it simple, yes.
Erica:I plead the fifth. No, no, I'm kidding, I I'm kidding, I have a mic, um crazy.
Erica:But I would echo wait a minute, right no, I think we all had a moment, like you, like crazy no, no, no crazy moment, because again the whole top or we started this conversation to basically debunk, if we like, the same type of man, right? Yeah, that pause was just a little too much. I'm sorry, but we're echoing a lot of the same things here. Um, same thing, physical quality I have, I would say, matured. Um, because you know, I'm a short girly, about five feet, and what I used to want was someone six feet tall and it's, it's cool, it's cool and all but, um, it doesn't matter to me anymore. Um, however, I am athletic and dancer, so I need I'm not gonna stand up, but, yes, um, physical physique is, or just fitness, wellness, fitness is important to me.
Erica:Family oriented I know we've spoke on before Someone who's super supportive and grounded, because I am a water sign and I like to flow like water. So sometimes I need somebody to bring me back to life in reality. Definitely ambitious, someone who reads, someone who's goal-oriented. I'm very determined, I'm more like the executor. I feel like If you have an idea, I'm going to be the one that kind of brings it to life. But I need you to have that ambition too. Yes, definitely, provider protector, and you got to be a little strong-minded a little bit and also understand how to deal with me, because I can be a little sassy and feisty and not take that personally. You know I need somebody that can, yes, handle me and not look at it like a challenge or or um, they gonna soften that up real good. You know, I'm saying, yes, be respectful about it because I could be submissive, but you just gotta know how to talk to me, right? Just ask that you can't tell me what to do.
Chrissy A.:You can tell me what to do.
Erica:Exactly, and I feel like. Also, I am a chameleon, so like I adapt to a lot of different environments and situations, so you just got to know that about me and just move with me, is that? It about me and just it moved with me yeah.
Christina:You ain't know Nigga trying to get the money for the rent.
Erica:You ain't know, man, we can kind of make a gas penny spend, yeah it be a whole lot of money, a whole lot of bitches talking shit yeah. All right, hey guys, how's it going, missy Mom.
Taylor Iman:Actually not. I know y'all going to be like boo, but me personally, I don't say my type on camera, um, because, because, um, I don't like people pretending to be something that they're not and then they change and all of a sudden there's somebody completely different, um, and also like with my following that I have people have put me in uncomfortable situations, so you do not have to worry about me, you do not have to worry about me.
Jasmine:Well, do you have a physical type?
Chrissy A.:That people can't change.
Taylor Iman:That people can't change. So tell us that, yeah, it's muscles.
Chrissy A.:Muscles. I didn't say my physical type.
Taylor Iman:I'm going to speak on my physical type Keep going Muscles.
Erica:You're not getting off the hook that easily.
Taylor Iman:One Pisces to another. Who did not want?
Erica:to share. She was already muscles.
Chrissy A.:Listen y'all. Well, I want to include y'all my close friends.
Taylor Iman:I'm like y'all. It's been some wild things that's been out there um you're, you're listen. Well, yeah, I know, I know y'all are my close friends. Hello, hello 16. Okay, I'm sorry I got distracted um you want me to ask you a question again dark skin, light skin oh, I don't think, I don't think I. I don't think I have a like complexion thing. I don't think that's not um, I would absolutely prefer black man, okay you know, does everyone prefer a black man?
Chrissy A.:wait, you ain't say nothing. This is a colors, only you know. Does everyone prefer a black man? Wait, you ain't say nothing. Okay, now if the Lord say otherwise you know, sometimes, sometimes, you get blessed with something else, I was engaged to an Arab and he was actually Arab and Puerto Rican.
Erica:Engaged.
Chrissy A.:I was engaged to him. He was a Pisces, though Pisces.
Taylor Iman:Toxic.
Chrissy A.:No, he wasn't toxic at all. He's not toxic at all. I heard women he wasn't black Say that.
Taylor Iman:Say that, say that, when I've seen women be like oh, you're a Pisces, oh, and I just be like I get it, I get it.
Erica:I got it. I know, I'm just kidding.
Taylor Iman:For. Pisces men, pisces men, the Pisces men Born in March, specifically Um, okay, sorry, I will say I'm also just, I'm not a Like water sign as my partner. It's just not my thing at all. So there's that you might fuck him. Nope, we will not drown together.
Erica:Never Did you have to learn that.
Taylor Iman:We will not drown together. So let me tell you, this is really random. Let me tell you about my first date on like my first Scorpio date ever and this was just like I don't want to say traumatized, but it was so weird. This man was just like, yeah, like you are so caring and nurturing and my mom died when I was young and my stepmom used to make me live underneath the steps and I just feel like you could heal that for me.
Chrissy A.:And I said what Check please?
Taylor Iman:I gotta go, I gotta go, I gotta go, but yeah, yeah, no, I, I don't need. You know, scorpios represent death and rebirth and all those things.
Jasmine:It's just, you know, no, no, thank, no, no, thank no thank you for me um, in terms of ethnicity, though, I will say that I have dated outside my race and it's for me, at this point, it's not ideal, especially because what I've experienced I had to do a lot of explaining and I've had to deal with a lot of racism within my relationships and so for me, like I'm not necessarily closed off to dating outside of my race, but I would prefer to be with a black man, we have to get into our Galentine's night.
Chrissy A.:We are celebrating Galentine's today, you guys. It's your birthday. Happy birthday, Chrissy.
Taylor Iman:Happy birthday to you. Break it down. Happy birthday to you.
Erica:Break it down Happy birthday One time for the birthday. One time for the birthday.
Chrissy A.:Two times for the birthday. Three times for the birthday. No, I have morals and standards. I can't shake my ass in front of everybody online. My man is watching. I am conservative. Everybody online, my man is watching.
Christina:I am conservative.
Chrissy A.:Well, that's what happens when you listen to that song.
Chrissy A.:You start twerking. Okay, so we're going to wrap this up. I want to thank you, ladies, for joining me in this episode. This has been absolutely amazing. I'm getting to know a lot of you guys, which this is fun. It's fun getting to know y'all. But, just to wrap this up, you guys, this was just like an example of what the Sister Circle cards are about.
Chrissy A.:We always talk about relationships when it comes to men and women, or whatever your preference is. However, I do feel like there is a certain power where you do need to date your friends and you need to get people, get to know people on a personal level, and I feel like these cards do just that. Even off pulling, how many did we do? Three, three cards. We had a long conversation about them and I think if I didn't stop them, we would still be be talking right now. Um, so you guys can find these cards on our website at wwwpureintentions314.com. Um, yeah, and they're yellow. The yellow is for friendship, if no one knew that. So if you guys buy your friends roses, buy yellow roses because it's for yes, it's for friendship. Um, but thank you guys for tuning in to another parentages podcast and we will see you next week.