The Lulu Essey Podcast
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The Lulu Essey Podcast
How to Build Confidence, Clarity & Calm—One Tiny Step at a Time
Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. Clarity doesn’t come from overthinking. And calm isn’t waiting on the world to settle down. In this episode, Lulu flips the script on three traits we often think are fixed and unreachable. She reveals how Tiny actions are the true key to building unshakable confidence, deep clarity, and a grounded sense of calm—starting exactly where you are. Whether you’re stuck in self-doubt, overwhelmed by indecision, or just longing for some peace, this episode will show you how to step into more of your power with tools that are deceptively simple and deeply effective.
Key Takeaways:
- Confidence is not the absence of fear—it’s the result of taking action while afraid.
- Clarity doesn’t come from thinking more. It comes from real-world feedback.
- Calm is an inner state, not a reward for having a perfect life.
- Taking Tiny actions rewires your brain for trust, courage, and momentum.
- The 3 Cs (Confidence, Clarity, Calm) work together as a feedback loop.
- Action leads to confidence, which leads to clarity, which creates calm—and then it loops.
- Tiny steps can shift your state and direction more than giant leaps.
- You don’t need to feel ready. You need to get moving.
- Mastery is built in the doing, not the planning.
- The path reveals itself after you begin.
Powerful Quotes:
"Confidence doesn’t come before action. It follows it."
"The feedback loop between confidence, clarity and calm is real—and Tiny steps are how you activate it."
"Clarity isn’t found in your head. It’s found in motion."
"Calm isn’t the absence of chaos. It’s the presence of self-trust."
"If you’re waiting to feel confident before taking action, you’ll be waiting forever. Confidence is the reward for showing up."
Timestamps:
00:00 – The Magnetic Myth: What Confidence, Clarity & Calm Really Are
03:30 – The Confidence Lie: Why Waiting to Feel Ready Doesn’t Work
07:15 – The Science of Tiny Action & Self-Efficacy
10:45 – Clarity Is a Byproduct: Why Overthinking Keeps You Stuck
14:10 – Real-Life Example: Finding Direction Through Doing
17:00 – Calm Isn’t External: It’s the Outcome of Confidence + Clarity
21:00 – The Spiral Staircase: How the 3 Cs Build on Each Other
24:00 – Choose Your Entry Point: Wherever You Start Is Enough
27:00 – Tiny Steps Shift Everything—Even If They Feel Insignificant
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DM Lulu on Instagram @lulu.essey with the word ACTION and tell her: What Tiny action are you taking today? And if this episode helped you, share it with 3 people who could use a little confidence, clarity or calm. It could change their day—or their life.
Until next time, Beautiful Souls...
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