Self-Care For Busy Women

Let's talk about self-care and personal development, queens! 👑 As busy women juggling multiple responsibilities, we often forget about our own wellness tips and self-awareness. Whether you're looking to level up your hygiene routine or just need some self-help guidance, this episode is your safe space to explore what self-care means to you. Share your journey with us! 💕

Chapters

• 0:00 What Is Self-Care for Busy Women?
• 3:36 Young Women's Approach to Self-Care
• 6:25 Individual Self-Care Practices
• 12:06 Travel as Ultimate Self-Care
• 16:12 Physical Wellness and Body Movement
• 22:15 Therapy and Mental Health Care
• 28:43 Faith, Meditation, and Spiritual Wellness
• 33:22 Final Thoughts on Self-Care

Transcript

What Is Self-Care for Busy Women?

Speaker 1 0:00

I want to talk about self-care. As busy as we are, different directions, we're running in and traveling and I just kind of want to talk to you, ladies, about what you do for self-care. I need help. We do so much and we do so much for everybody you know, and we just sit back and be like damn I'm tired. And then when you have children, think about how often you have to show up for your kids.

Speaker 3 0:27

I mean regardless of their age, because who said to stop at 18? That was the biggest lie they ever told it don't.

Speaker 2 0:37

This is Legra.

Speaker 5 0:39

This is Stephanie.

Speaker 2 0:41

This is Cherie and this is Evanya. Stephanie, this is Cherie and this is Ivanya.

Speaker 3 0:49

And this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are spilling the tea on midlife, one laugh at a time. We are back for another episode of Timeless and Unfiltered and y'all make sure y'all follow us on all social media platforms at timeless and unfiltered, go to our website at timeless and unfilteredcom and subscribe on youtube if y'all want to take a look and catch us doing our thing on video but anyway, this is legra this is stephanie, this is sharice evania.

Speaker 3 1:22

And again, this is timeless and unfiltered where we are here to spill the tea on midlife. One laugh at a time, one laugh at a time.

Speaker 1 1:29

What's going on? Nothing and everything.

Speaker 3 1:33

There you go.

Speaker 1 1:34

We just busy.

Speaker 3 1:35

Yeah, always, always, always busy. What's going on with y'all? That's it.

Speaker 1 1:40

No, I think for me guys, I want to talk about self-care, because as busy as we are and the different directions we're running in and traveling and work and scooters and whatever else we have going on, I just kind of want to talk to you ladies about what you do for self-care. I need help, I mean, but like okay, but for real y'all we can, and I think it's for women period. We do so much, and we do so much for everybody.

Speaker 1 2:25

You know, and we just sit back and be like damn I'm tired. And then, when you have children, think about how, how often you really have to show up for your kids.

Speaker 2 2:35

I mean regardless of their age, because who said to stop at 18?

Young Women's Approach to Self-Care

Speaker 1 2:38

that was the biggest lie they ever told right, it don't um the biggest lie, and so like we're caught, don't Right and don't the biggest lie, and so like we're constantly, don't stop. So I think we constantly move and, to be honest, being where we are in our moment of middle age and trying to figure it out and still having to carry for lack of a better term some of the burdens or try to release it, whichever one that is, at the same time can be a bit taxing. I think it just comes into trying to build some boundaries to protect yourself, but still trying to be loving and intentional to the people that you love. And so it's like how do we? How do I self-care myself? Like I think I'm doing okay, right, but what does that really look like? What does it really mean? Like what are you guys?

Speaker 5 3:37

doing. We're special creatures.

Speaker 4 3:40

I want to say that as far as being women because of everything we go through.

Speaker 5 3:45

We go through periods, we go through childbirth, we go through menopause. We're just like natural nurturers and so we just want to take care of everything and everybody. I think it's just innate, it's just who we are, and so it is important for us to figure out well, how do I take care of myself, and at what point do you begin taking care of yourself? I've noticed one thing about the younger generation, the younger women they don't play. I see them on social media. They do a lot of self-care. And I'm like man I never. I didn't even think about it back then. I guess because I was raising children. I never thought well, when the kids go down, do something for yourself. I just was doing something else to prepare for the next day so.

Speaker 5 4:31

I think for me. I'm just now coming into the self care the older I've gotten it now that my kids are gone and even though they're gone, they're not gone right. But now I have the boundaries where they're like monkey, I know and I can't, and now I'm starting to do more for myself, whereas I wasn't. But I applaud the younger women that started early.

Speaker 5 4:53

What kind of things are you doing Getting my lashes done. I don't know what my lashes my real lashes look like anymore. I've had them for years. I got a Bomb Girl Shout out to teacher Christy Beauty, but that's the one thing. If I don't do my nails, which y'all see, I'll throw on some press-ons real quick because I find out that they're becoming too much to spend money on and I'm like this is just ridiculous.

Speaker 2 5:21

They're expensive now. They used to be $20 to go get a pool set.

Speaker 5 5:24

Now it's $65. And I'm like yeah, press on, press me on. And I would say the one thing that I do do faithfully is my lashes, and I do my own hair and stuff.

Speaker 3 5:38

Because you will color your hair in a minute.

Speaker 5 5:40

Color, cut, curl something, and I do that for myself. I have the money to go do it, but I'm like use that money on something else and then I'll spend um more money on myself if I see a purse I want or shoes, because back in the day I couldn't with all them kids. Now I'm like I just do whatever I want to do and buy what I want to buy, and so now I'm finally taking care of myself. That's just my form of self-care just indulging on myself for once and not caring and telling kids yeah, I ain't got it, but I'm about to go buy this bag I don't have it for you, but I'm about to go buy this bag for me because I feel like I've sacrificed a

Speaker 4 6:18

lot now shit we do we do what about?

Speaker 2 6:24

you.

Speaker 3 6:24

Ivania.

Speaker 2 6:25

So I suffer from anxiety. So I feel like self-care for me is kind of pausing and taking a moment when I realize those moments are coming. So now it's just more of just breathing. So I do have certain apps or music that I listen to that calm me down. I started getting facials every month. So shout out to Tiffany. I started getting my hair done twice a month. All right, all right. Shout out to Dominique All right, all right. Things that I couldn't do, I'll say, even three, four years ago.

Speaker 5 6:53

So now I'm starting to do these things for me.

Speaker 2 6:55

Not my hands, but my feet done it's okay, all the time I keep those done. Sometimes it's just sitting in bed and not doing anything. I think sometimes self-care is just not doing anything Because we're always doing something, we're always looking for. I have to do this, Even in my head. I have to do this.

Speaker 4 7:11

Sometimes it's just doing nothing, which is rare.

Speaker 2 7:13

But to do nothing sometimes is the best thing you can do for self-care. And I think I want to do that more often. It is Sometimes it's just talking to a friend. It's okay, like you know, just chilling and hey girl, what you doing, how you doing. So it's a lot of things, but you know. I'm getting better at doing more for me, because you know you do have this list of things you have to take care of everything of. But now putting myself at the top of that list has been my self-care.

Speaker 5 7:36

That's fun. I actually find joy just laying in my bed and not doing nothing all day, Because I don't get to do that that often and I just feel so lazy. But I feel so proud and so good that I'm just lazy and I just get to actually watch something on TV.

Speaker 1 7:54

God, it's so hard for me to do it here, like at home or in the United States. It's so hard for me because there's just it's still for lack of a better term the noise still comes in for me. You know what I mean when people know you're here, you're home, you're whatever, it's still ringing. And so, now that I'm thinking about it, yeah, but self-care is when I'm gone, because when you're gone out of the country, when you think about it people know you're not home or you're gone, so they leave you alone.

Speaker 4 8:26

That's true, yeah, like everybody leaves you alone when you're gone.

Speaker 1 8:28

Yeah, I think that's why I travel so much.

Speaker 3 8:30

You think that's why you travel so much yeah.

Speaker 1 8:32

Now that I've done it, I might have just had a breakthrough.

Speaker 5 8:34

Yeah, right now. Yeah, and that makes sense. And when you said that that's the most enjoyable time time for me, when I'm away and people may not be able to reach me on my phone, like I go on a cruise, I don't have my phone out at all. I can't even say the whole time and no one can call me, no one can bother me and I could just. That is really self care to get away to wake up.

Speaker 1 8:58

You don't have to worry about the time. What's happening and aware is the same thing is still really going on here but you're just gone, you're in charge.

Speaker 2 9:10

You just take it out of your brain.

Speaker 1 9:12

So, yeah. I already know when I retire. I'm living in Costa Rica for two months and Mexico for two months.

Speaker 5 9:19

Stay away from everybody.

Speaker 1 9:21

And I'm going somewhere else for two months and I'm just about to just be a nomad because we're going to miss you we're going to miss you.

Speaker 5 9:32

Where are you at, girl? We're coming down. We're going to miss you.

Speaker 3 9:36

We just talked about going to Mexico City together. No, we're going to do this together. You're going to do what I do want to go to Mexico City.

Speaker 1 9:43

We're going to mexico city together but it's, it's amazing, I really do like it, but yeah, I, yeah, I realize that my self-care is away, getting away from it my self-care?

Speaker 3 9:56

I don't think I really do self-care just to be honest um, but I need to. It's. It's little things and I think just because when you have a health scare, all of a sudden everything your world becomes that. So you know, I get the hydration IVs, that's good.

Speaker 3 10:14

Which I actually really love and, as a matter of fact, after this surgery, this upcoming surgery, I'll get back on my schedule. But I bought a membership to get hydration IVs and the great thing about it is they have so many different kinds. Like I always do it before I travel, they have an immunity IV to boost up your immune system, and vitamin C and all that stuff. You know I'm trying to grow my hair back and all that stuff. They have one that's for skin nails, biotin, you know, and the great thing about it is, with the, the IVs one is I don't drink enough water. Let's start with that.

Speaker 3 10:53

I don't, just I don't drink enough water. It's equivalent of drinking like two and a half gallons of water. Love it because it's injected directly into your vein, so like when you drink regular water. That's why you got to pee every five minutes. A lot of it has not been absorbed into your system. Versus when it's injected into your bloodstream, you're getting 100% of whatever you're putting in your bloodstream V12, they have the.

Speaker 3 11:23

Myers cocktail, which is the most common one, has all your vitamins, minerals and all that stuff that your body is supposed to have. So I've been really lucky because after chemo and where chemo tears you down, I started going getting IVs. I was getting IVs every week.

Travel as Ultimate Self-Care

Speaker 3 11:41

Remember, I was going every single week and built my body back up like replenish all my vitamins and minerals and all that stuff, but it makes me feel amazing, especially after um. You know you get some energy and b12 and right all of that stuff. You know your vitamin d is low. That's another thing, ladies, that yeah, as africanAmericans, our vitamin D is naturally lower, for whatever reason. I'm sorry.

Speaker 5 12:08

We're not out in the sun. I don't have enough scientific, even though we're sun people.

Speaker 3 12:12

We don't have enough scientific background.

Speaker 5 12:13

We're inside more.

Speaker 3 12:15

Yeah, we're not in the sun as much, yeah, so I get vitamin D shots.

Speaker 1 12:18

That's great, and you're stretching right yeah.

Speaker 2 12:26

Oh yeah, stretching right.

Speaker 3 12:26

Yeah, oh yeah, um, I started stretch zone, um they had which I never knew, that even existed because all the aches, the pains, your joints and let's just be honest that that leg don't go up all the way up?

Speaker 2 12:33

no more. Hell. The knee don't even be right, no more you know all of that.

Speaker 3 12:37

So there's a place um. They have different places that will just do nothing but stretch your body for you. So they go in and kind of test and see how far you can go and all that good stuff.

Speaker 2 12:50

So you're going to split some, right?

Speaker 3 12:52

No, I couldn't do a split then.

Speaker 1 12:55

We're going to split.

Speaker 3 12:56

I was that little girl that could never do splits.

Speaker 1 13:01

Shatice and I are working on doing a split. What y'all doing to work on?

Speaker 3 13:05

it.

Speaker 1 13:07

You just have to stretch every day, like you would be surprised how low you'll start getting when you start doing it. But you really have to stretch the muscles.

Speaker 3 13:14

Well, right now I can't even bend down to get to the floor.

Speaker 1 13:17

Well, your stretch class is going to get you there, but I am determined that I am going to do a split with baby girl.

Speaker 3 13:23

I love it. I want to do a split and I want to twerk. Oh, so you want to?

Speaker 5 13:29

do a split. We need a twerk class. I do.

Speaker 3 13:32

I do want to twerk. Don't laugh at your mama. I want to twerk. I mean I don't want to. Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to be one of them.

Speaker 5 13:39

Old ass. Andrea Kelly does that. Yeah, she do. She could do a split end.

Speaker 3 13:45

She's also a trained professional dancer.

Speaker 5 13:48

She's been doing this all her life.

Speaker 3 13:51

But my body as the athlete girl stuff didn't wiggle like that.

Speaker 4 13:56

My butt was always so firm.

Speaker 3 13:58

I was like why it don't wiggle? Like that and don't be wrong, it's not about you having a big butt or whatever, because I've seen the smallest and littlest skinny girl but for whatever reason, my butt don't move like that and I just want to do it so I can have it in my sexual prowess repertoire from the last episode.

Speaker 5 14:20

For that little man Right.

Speaker 3 14:22

He's a little man, he's going to blow his mind. I episode that little man he's going to blow his mind. He's going to blow his mind. I want to learn how to twerk my butt. Don't twerk. For some reason it can. I want it, so look so for self-care. Well, I used to belly dance.

Speaker 5 14:35

Yeah, and it was cold. That's what I was going to bring up.

Speaker 3 14:38

I used to belly dance.

Speaker 2 14:40

I still know how to do all the moves and all that kind of stuff.

Speaker 3 14:43

But I love that and I keep saying I'm going to find me another class and stuff.

Speaker 1 14:48

But what I?

Speaker 3 14:48

loved about. It was the largest the instructor that I had at the time. She made you you had if you were wearing a t-shirt, you had to tie a knot in the front, you had to have your stomach out.

Speaker 4 15:01

She didn't care if you had the biggest stomach in the world, but I'm going to tell you it's women and we're women in there.

Speaker 3 15:06

I guarantee you pushing 300 pounds and they was in there, but they looked beautiful.

Speaker 5 15:13

There's something about it.

Speaker 3 15:14

It makes you feel sexy yeah and the way, even their stomach, the way that it rolled, even though they had large stomachs, the way that they could control it and roll their stomachs.

Speaker 3 15:25

But you can sit back and watch and you can see that woman just transform. Like you come in and you, you know you're all in your clothes and now you know, like you didn't did the warm-up exercises and then once, especially the women that had you know a little bit of background in or have taken several classes, you can see how the sexiness just came out of them, that they felt sexy. They felt sexy, it looked sexy, it didn't matter what size you were and honestly, in their culture, that culture, the bigger women are the sexy women, so they it was beautiful, I loved it.

Speaker 3 15:59

I loved how it made you feel and I loved you could see it in the other women how it made them feel. Love that. So I would love to be able to take start belly dancing again.

Physical Wellness and Body Movement

Speaker 1 16:09

Find a class. You know I'm gonna follow you Cause she is so good at it. No, not anymore. No, you were and I was like oh, gosh, I want to do it now you would

Speaker 3 16:20

show us like it's very, it's very easy. Well, no, let me repeat it, it's not easy, it's not just isolating and controlling yeah, I think it's a mind thing. Yeah, but now I feel like I'm so stiff and my joints ache and my knees it, will it really? Will so that, but there's a lot of things I'm going to do. You know this is this should be my last surgery.

Speaker 2 16:45

Well, this will be my last surgery and there's a lot of things that I want to do, but I was a gym rat.

Speaker 3 16:50

I love the gym and you know, part of my therapy, part of my self-care, will be also therapy, because I've developed some anxiety that I never had before. So I need to figure out what's going on with that, because that'll help me to get back out and do some of the things that I want to do. But I look forward to all the things. I want to dance more. Now I don't know where we're going to dance dance at it's considered we ain't got nowhere to go.

Speaker 3 17:22

Calories is there no but yeah, I want to dance more. I want to. I love my ivs. Um, I love my facials and and stuff as well. I I love my Netflix days. I love our girlfriend times out. I love and I just said to Sharice I think I told you too, stephanie like we need to all get together in our EPs and just celebrate this. You know I love when it's somebody's birthday.

Speaker 4 17:49

That's self-care to me.

Speaker 3 17:50

Like when I'm with my friends. That's part of my self-care.

Speaker 1 17:55

Just letting go? I think we don't. I don't know how to let go. And when I say let go, I think everything have to happen now, especially the entrepreneurial side of you. You just feel like gosh, I have to do this and I don't know if it's control some well, part of it is control, but you, you and I have tried to pass things off and when things aren't done, correctly and you have to go back and do it again yourself.

Speaker 3 18:23

anyway, you're like, well, hell, I might as well just do it, so you can't release the control, but we have to figure it out.

Speaker 1 18:30

We have to figure it out so that we can enjoy truly enjoy the fruits of our life. Take breaks and enjoy the fruits of our life take breaks and enjoy the food and whatever.

Speaker 3 18:39

And I love traveling, oh my gosh, traveling is self-care one of the best trips ever and we have been to some great places. I just come back from egypt. Um, I know you love hawaii, yes, and we don't know where the hell to find you, honey. You be everywhere, you know. You just come back from Mexico City. All of that, but my bestest and favoritest, most wonderfulest trip was when we went to Orlando. It didn't even matter that it was, you know, stateside it was just a few hours.

Speaker 2 19:12

It was because we got to hang out.

Speaker 3 19:14

Together, you know you brought your spouses and girlfriends and our kids, our adult children. Adult. Adult children, you know, and we just got to just hang out. I missed most of that I did yeah we had a ball.

Speaker 5 19:30

Because I got cold.

Speaker 1 19:31

Yeah.

Speaker 5 19:32

And left. It was cold. I had never been so cold in my no in the house. It was cold.

Speaker 3 19:38

She said it was cold in the house. I couldn't.

Speaker 5 19:41

I was freezing upstairs and I couldn't take any more. I was like, oh God, remember they didn't have a lot of, because it's Florida.

Speaker 2 19:51

It's just.

Speaker 5 19:53

We went to the store.

Speaker 3 19:53

We went to Walmart, brought us some blankets.

Speaker 1 19:55

And washcloths. It's just, I can't stand. We went to the store.

Speaker 3 19:57

We went to Walmart. Bought us some blankets mmhmm, that's too many words.

Speaker 5 19:58

Washcloths right and washcloths but the time I was there, yeah, we all went out to eat and just hanging around the house talking shit mmhmm cooking.

Speaker 3 20:05

We had good food that was great, nothing special, but it's part of the self care, it's fellowship, right it's?

Speaker 1 20:11

fellowship and it wasn't work. Yeah, yes, it was not work, right, so it didn't matter where we were, we had a great time, it was great, so I'm looking forward to being able to do more of that.

Speaker 3 20:24

Um, I'm looking forward to I don't know, we have never been out dancing ellery's okay we're gonna go to eloise, we're just going.

Speaker 5 20:34

Y'all are going to have the best time of y'all life. It's a dance club for older people. Everybody in there dances. The dance floor is never empty. You just have gentlemen come up and say can I dance with you? You're like yeah, it's just great, it's an old people dance club.

Speaker 1 20:52

They're going to have all purple suits with purple shoes.

Speaker 5 20:55

All yellow, shoes with yellow shoes.

Speaker 1 20:59

You're going to cut a rug. All red suits with red hats.

Speaker 5 21:01

And they're going to take you back to your seat. Thank you, young lady.

Speaker 2 21:05

They ain't buying drinks.

Speaker 5 21:07

Yeah, they ain't buying drinks, they just going to stand, you ready to dance again. No, but you have a good time. It's just genuinely a good time.

Speaker 1 21:14

You know what. So I don't even know if I can dance like that anymore. You'll be Well, they can either.

Speaker 5 21:20

So they'll be out there cutting the rug, because I used to dance a lot and all you need is that little two-step that's all we old people do you got those little One and two.

Speaker 3 21:29

One and two. You see me like that Like that's what we'll do.

Speaker 5 21:32

That's what we? Young lady. One and two, one and two, one and two, that's it Okay. Will you really?

Speaker 2 21:44

Are you doing all that? I'm doing some.

Speaker 4 21:46

Oh they're going to love that.

Speaker 1 21:46

They're going to love it. They're going to drag her outside.

Speaker 5 21:49

They're going to wash the front door. The lady going to disappear. Where are you? Some lady gonna disappear.

Speaker 1 21:57

Somebody's gonna have a heart attack but it's a good time to be had in here.

Speaker 5 22:03

It really is, stephanie, you plan it okay, for real, I'm playing because you talk about it all the time. You keep saying we need to go, we're gonna dance, we're gonna go.

Therapy and Mental Health Care

Speaker 3 22:07

I'm gonna tell you the last time that I went out, y'all gonna crack a laugh and oh god um, I didn't know they existed. I actually went to a place that was for Mediterranean men and women were in there.

Speaker 4 22:25

So the belly dancing.

Speaker 5 22:27

Cafe.

Speaker 3 22:27

Istanbul. No, it wasn't Cafe Istanbul. No, this was actually a club. But for their people and they danced on the tables. Was it Alparazza?

Speaker 5 22:44

No, no it was more um, um Tucker.

Speaker 3 22:47

Shambly some kind of that area um of Atlanta, but yeah, but the funny thing was they were playing Mediterranean music.

Speaker 4 22:58

They were breaking plates and stuff all over the place they were. They were dancing on tables place. They were dancing on tables.

Speaker 3 23:03

The women were dancing on tables. I mean, I'm talking about like, if you wanted to just get up on the table, you could dance on the table and all that kind of stuff, but they were playing our music.

Speaker 5 23:11

Wait a minute.

Speaker 1 23:12

But it was like in my full bottom jeans On top of our music.

Speaker 3 23:16

Yes, but it might have been apple bottom jeans.

Speaker 1 23:21

In their language, but it wasn't Nelly.

Speaker 5 23:23

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3 23:25

It was Mohammed Singing Apple Bottom Jeans. That is so neat, but you're sitting there like You're sitting there like that's not Nelly. Yeah, you're sitting there like that's the last time that I've been on. It's been that long how long ago. Oh my God, really, yeah, it's been that long. Oh damn, it's been that long For real.

Speaker 5 23:52

Look at the opening line we're going to get out.

Speaker 3 23:56

We're going to get out. I'm going to see my therapist first.

Speaker 5 23:59

No, you can get out before then I got to see my therapist. We're planning everything.

Speaker 1 24:03

You're going to see your therapist and we're going to take a belly dancing class. Y'all going to love it?

Speaker 5 24:08

Yeah, I know I will. You're going to love it.

Speaker 3 24:10

First of all, it's actually exercise.

Speaker 2 24:14

You don't think you're going to be sweating, but you will sweat.

Speaker 3 24:17

It's because it is actually cardio and exercise, but it comes handy in other areas.

Speaker 5 24:23

Listen, I'm going to the grocery store. Behind my thing, you know what I learned. I'm going down the aisle. They be like this lady. What is she doing? I'm going to be terrible if I learn how to do it.

Speaker 3 24:35

It is so funny, but you're going to learn to isolate different parts of your body Everywhere.

Speaker 5 24:40

Everywhere I'm showing out. You're going to kill, right, You're going to kill, Not even for that. I'm talking about just walking down the street. No, that's not. Hey, they be like she done. Learned how to belly dance. I been wanting to.

Speaker 2 24:53

Yeah, I can do it, ooh.

Speaker 3 25:00

Yeah, I love it Look right, I'm adding this exercise, you're just doing that I'm tired what else is just eight? You just ain't gonna blame it on the food shoot.

Speaker 2 25:11

We're gonna blame it on the food, but yeah, so you gotta take care of yourself.

Speaker 3 25:13

We are, we are stretched thin, we are very busy. We we taking care of other, everybody we're taking care of businesses, which means clients're taking care of businesses which means clients. Because, clients seem like you know you got to set them boundaries with your clients because they think they can call you any time of morning any time of night. Because you work at night. You think you're supposed to call me when you get off. Right. You know all those kind of things, but we're stretched very, very thin.

Speaker 5 25:37

All women are, so I think it's important for all women to take a break and take care of themselves sooner or it will show Sooner.

Speaker 4 25:46

And your health?

Speaker 3 25:46

Yeah, it will manifest in your health, your stress, mm-hmm. Your finances. Yep, your hair start thinning.

Speaker 4 25:54

Yeah, you know all those different things Stress down and y'all see these wrinkle-free faces.

Speaker 3 25:59

Y'all see these, honey, and y'all see these wrinkle-free faces, honey. This is called timeless over here. This is called timeless over here, y'all see, these wrinkle-free faces, y'all see these wrinkle-free faces.

Speaker 5 26:08

I got something on my forehead.

Speaker 3 26:10

You better take care of yourself.

Speaker 4 26:15

Not a little Botox won't fix my head.

Speaker 2 26:17

One thing we didn't really delve into is the therapy.

Speaker 5 26:21

That's a better form of self-care.

Speaker 2 26:23

Speaking to somebody, a professional sometimes about some of the things we're going through can be a form of therapy and self-care for us as well.

Speaker 3 26:30

Oh yeah, I know I'm going to start my therapy.

Speaker 5 26:34

My therapist got to get ready because she's going to every week be tuning in like. Game of Thrones because I got so much to unpack. She's going to be like man Okay, Every week.

Speaker 3 26:44

I didn't know where you was going.

Speaker 5 26:45

Okay, I need, yeah, I need a lot.

Speaker 3 26:49

Yeah, I do. Come sit on the couch, you do, baby. She said I need a lot of therapy.

Speaker 4 26:53

A whole sitcom. So what?

Speaker 5 26:55

happened again this week, so then I went into the yeah.

Speaker 3 26:59

I went into the. It's going to be a lot.

Speaker 5 27:01

Your therapist is going to need therapy after me it's going to be a whole sitcom.

Speaker 1 27:07

But we do. It's the best thing. I can truly say, though, that has been the best thing ever for me. I've come full circle and I know I'm a very different person because of it, because we need our therapist, our OBGYN, yep, pediatricians. If you have little kids, we don't what was that we're making sure everything's right.

Speaker 3 27:29

We're just making sure everything's right. Our hairdressers.

Speaker 1 27:31

You know, there's just some people we just got to have on deck. But a therapist needs to really be a part of that.

Speaker 5 27:37

I don't know why we run from it, but, um, I think we're busy because I want to say for me I always said I'm I'm gonna go to therapy, but really I'm like when do I have they're?

Speaker 1 27:45

all online now you could do it online you don't have to leave, so, but that is a part of self-care taking the time to even do that yeah, because you find time for everything else you need to do and everybody else.

Speaker 2 27:57

Yeah, you gotta find the time for you to get what you need to Talk these people head off.

Speaker 5 28:02

Yeah, that's what they're there for. Yeah. We can have one coming near you, oh goodness.

Speaker 3 28:09

Well we're not gonna play a game today, but I think we have a caller. And again, you guys follow us on all our social media platforms. We put up questions every week, a couple of different questions, questions. You do not have to write us. Y'all can leave us a voicemail, go to timeless and unfilteredcom and leave usa voicemail right through our website. You don't have to tell us your whole full name. You got to worry about it. Just this is legra from georgia. You know, which is just fine, and we want to hear from you.

Speaker 5 28:44

Well, it requires that before you close out.

Speaker 3 28:45

Yeah, so we can put you on our email list, but call in and participate. We want to hear from you, we want to feel you, we want to hear your emotions.

Speaker 2 28:55

We don't want the anonymous callers, because those might be the best callers, the anonymous callers Well we got a couple that made some interesting calls.

Speaker 4 29:03

Let's see who we have today For my self-care when I wake in the morning, the first thing I do is make myself a cup of coffee and go into my prayer room and pray and meditate for myself, my family and my friends. It gives me the calm I need to start my day.

Speaker 3 29:23

Now, how do we forget Jesus? Y'all are heathens.

Speaker 5 29:30

God is my center.

Speaker 2 29:31

He knows my heart.

Speaker 5 29:33

How do we forget?

Speaker 2 29:34

Jesus.

Speaker 5 29:35

But that's great and she said she started off with her coffee. Coffee and Jesus.

Speaker 3 29:41

Coffee come before Jesus. Jesus coffee. No, jesus coffee, jesus coffee. Oh goodness, I have to not to make this a religious thing, but I have to say that when I'm off center I got to get in the closet. Oh yeah, I got to get in the closet when I'm off center and sometimes I don't realize I'm off center. And then I also read a book called the Prayer of Jabez. Y'all probably heard me say that 10,000 times. I told y'all to read the book. It worked.

Speaker 3 30:09

In the name of Jesus, it worked, so I can't believe I didn't say oh my God, I got to pray and meditate. But I'm so off center Sometimes, when the noise won't stop, I try to pray, and then sometimes I'll just say I'm not even going to pray, I'm just going to sit still because I can't pray like when I try to pray then and then

Speaker 3 30:34

like all these other things be coming in, and sometimes I'll just say I'm not going to think about anything. I'm not going to think about anything, I'm not going to think about anything, I'm just going to be quiet. And then I'll sit there and then sometimes those thoughts are coming in and I'll just have to tell myself don't think about anything, don't think about anything, I'm just going to sit quiet and I'll receive whatever you have for me, lord. But sometimes it is hard to cut that noise off because your brain.

Speaker 3 30:59

Y'all know, my brain don't stop.

Speaker 5 31:01

I'm trying to figure out the next next.

Speaker 2 31:03

To the next of the next.

Speaker 3 31:04

So it's hard to cut that off. My son and I talk about this all the time. We might need to be checked. I might need to be checked for ADHD because my brain is so. It just won't stop. I think that's a lot of us. Yeah, it won't stop, won't stop, and sometimes you got to figure out how to cut that off.

Speaker 2 31:20

I read a book about that, but I can't remember the name right now, but it was really good, but you have to read it more than one time, obviously because it. It's not working right now but, it's not working right now. It's really good but it's not working right now.

Speaker 3 31:31

Well, part of this old age.

Speaker 2 31:33

I have a bad memory as well so I read it, but I don't remember everything I read, so I need to read it again but it was good to help.

Speaker 3 31:40

Part of me. Not reading is my vision.

Speaker 4 31:44

That's audio books.

Speaker 3 31:46

Yeah, because my vision has also changed. So there's a lot going on. Get to therapy y'all, Y'all. Go see y'all therapist. I'm going to see my therapist.

Speaker 1 31:56

Shutting down those tabs. We have so many tabs open.

Speaker 2 31:59

It's like the computer.

Speaker 4 32:00

We keep them open.

Speaker 5 32:01

It's like how do?

Speaker 3 32:02

you shut all these tabs down, but we'll figure it out you just got to take those moments, though I find that the IV is really a great time for me to shut down, because they got this massage chair that's like a spaceship.

Speaker 1 32:14

Oh, my goodness, that's like a spaceship. I remember that.

Speaker 3 32:16

So it massages your butt, your thighs, the back of your calves.

Speaker 1 32:21

Yeah you being out here tonight. A couple of times I said hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, who's back there?

Speaker 2 32:26

But you touch it now.

Speaker 3 32:28

It's like a spaceship. It hits your shoulders, the thing rolls all up under your butt and I say hey, that ain't my butt.

Speaker 1 32:34

Now Stop Wait a minute. Wait a minute, Right Feel trick.

Speaker 3 32:37

She said she said peltry oh, it's like a space chair. You know, you forget that iv is in your arm. That thing is so relaxed, and then it's got something going on with your feet, so it's rubbing your feet at the same time. It's like a spaceship yes though yeah, that's, that's.

Speaker 1 32:51

I like that.

Speaker 5 32:52

So we go there after we go to ellery get rubbed down like get replenished with all our electrolytes from dancing all night yeah, it'll be great, that's all right, that's all right but there's also you need to increase your collagen.

Speaker 3 33:07

College, I think it's collagen too that focuses on your joints and yeah, so let me know when it is, because I can start taking my collagen earlier.

Speaker 5 33:15

Let me get it now.

Final Thoughts on Self-Care

Speaker 3 33:16

Let me get it now early because these joints and stuff, because i'm'm going to feel it the next day. Hello, it will be worth it. It will Look. Did we help you at all? Talk about all the things we do.

Speaker 1 33:32

You know y'all be over helping by the time we get done talking. I'd be like shit. Okay, I just had a simple ass question.

Speaker 5 33:39

Here we go.

Speaker 1 33:41

It turns into a lot more. But kudos to, like you said, the young girls. Who's figuring this out? And doing their thing and taking care of themselves, because it's something we sure weren't taught at all.

Speaker 3 33:51

Well for y'all not to have been taking care of yourself.

Speaker 1 33:53

Y'all looked at it, we do Amazing.

Speaker 3 33:56

The grace of God.

Speaker 5 33:57

The grace of God. Genetics.

Speaker 1 34:02

Let's just say genetics yeah my mama looked timeless that is something to be said, though you, we, you're going to do a whole series on that, because there is something to be said about sitting here at our ages and really we look great.

Speaker 3 34:20

Yeah, we do so you know we need to talk about that. You know we don't have our best friend. We call our best friend Dawn, Our best friend Dawn this is our best friend Dawn. We have our best friend Dawn come in and talk to us about some things with our skin and skin care and fillers and Botox and hydrochloric acid.

Speaker 4 34:41

Yeah, yeah all the things acid, yeah, yeah, all the things to keep your face Hydrolyronic.

Speaker 3 34:46

There you go.

Speaker 4 34:47

Something like that Start with an H. You see it on all the commercials.

Speaker 5 34:50

Hydro, something, all that good stuff, all that good stuff Hydrolyronic, all right, let's see but we done heard from our caller.

Speaker 3 34:58

We done chit-chat and shoot the shit.

Speaker 5 35:00

Yes so.

Speaker 3 35:01

I think it's time to go. Y'all want to wrap this up. Yes, got another episode. Please be sure to follow us, timeless and Unfiltered. I'm Begra, I'm Stephanie, I'm Cherise and Vanya, and y'all subscribe so y'all can hear us spilling the tea on Midlife. One laugh at a time. All right, y'all Bye.