We're Still Outside . . . But We're Home By 10!

Getting older doesn’t mean giving up the fun! We dive into what it’s like to still be “outside” in your 40s, 50s, and beyond—just with a bedtime. From day parties to early exits, we’re keeping it cute, grown, and well-rested. If you’ve ever pre-gamed with antacids, left the club before midnight, or chosen sleep over the afterparty, this one’s for you. We're talking nightlife nostalgia, grown-up fun, and why being home by 10 might just be the new flex.

Perfect for:
✨ Millennials and Gen X trying to balance fun and recovery
✨ Anyone who’s traded shots for supplements
✨ Grown folks who still love a good party—but with boundaries

Tag a friend who's "still outside" but yawning by 9! 🥂💤
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Transcript

Dancing in the Mirror Reality Check

Speaker 1 0:00

You ever dance and you think you are killing it, and you look in the mirror.

Speaker 2 0:04

Oh, that look crazy when you look in the mirror.

Speaker 1 0:05

You feel like look crazy. You know what I?

Speaker 3 0:07

was like. I was like, oh, I thought I was out here cold. I'm in front of you looking stupid. Okay, Ellery's looking, probably looking real crazy. This is Legra. This is Stephanie. This is Cherie.

Speaker 1 0:27

And this is Evania, and this is Timeless and Unfiltered, where we are spilling the tea on midlife, one laugh at a time. What was that? Why does she always?

Speaker 3 0:47

have something weird, because before the cameras start rolling, we sing the song. What was that? I think it was a remix. It's a.

Speaker 2 0:58

Stephanie. And this is Sharice Missing the vibe. It's about to be her best life right now. Oh, best life.

Speaker 3 1:04

Oh, that's right. Oh, it's hard. What was that? Booty booty? What did you say? No, I was like boom, tickly boom, tickly boom. I used to love Dossifix.

Speaker 1 1:15

I used to love Dossifix.

Friday Night Plans vs Reality

Speaker 2 1:17

That was them, Okay.

Speaker 1 1:18

well, that actually kind of brings me to my conversation today because I was on Instagram the other day and I think it's Black Generation X, I think is the IG, but it's just people, our age and just a variety of different stuff. And there was this gentleman on there who did a. I was like what is that noise? I've got my fan just going on.

Speaker 3 1:44

I'm so used to having hot flashes of the fan just on by his damn self.

Speaker 1 1:48

Hold on, let me turn that off, it's just. It's just on. It's just on because, and it's cold in here, y'all so it's not cold, I don't.

Speaker 3 1:57

I'm sorry, I'm a, I'm a hot mama, oh okay okay, okay, every sense of the word, every baby, every sense of the word, but yeah, but there was this uh gentleman on instagram and he was talking about how um he made plans for friday night and he was so crunk all week.

Speaker 1 2:14

You know, he got his going. Now he got his going out clothes ready, like oh, you know, it's hump day, it's almost friday and he said friday came and he's like, oh lord, I gotta go out tonight. You know, he's like okay, I'm going, I got to go out tonight, tona.

Speaker 2 2:25

You know, he's like OK, I'm going, I'm going, I'm going.

Speaker 1 2:27

And then he got home, he took a shower. You know that itis started kicking in. You start realizing, oh, and he never made it. I say your friends is not texting Like man where you at you coming, you got me, you got me, you got me. And it reminded me of I was supposed to go out with Stephanie.

Speaker 3 2:45

To Ellery's, you know she keep talking about.

Speaker 1 2:48

Ellery's and I was like, oh my God, okay, I'm going to go to Ellery's, I'm going to go. And it was after Du Bois' EP event and I had already had a long day. But Stephanie was ready and I was like, okay, okay, you cannot back out. Come on, now I'm hyping myself up. You should stay up all night. Yeah, you can come on. Come on, go out, party all night, get up in the morning. You're like like I was trying to hype myself up girl.

Speaker 2 3:14

She texted me and said no.

Speaker 1 3:15

Ellery tonight when I tell y'all I'm so excited one dive to the bed.

Speaker 2 3:19

She was happy I was so happy.

Speaker 3 3:21

I was like when did I get home? Very, very, and the only reason why it wasn't in the Ellery's cause. We literally thought we're gonna get there at 9 o'clock, yeah, and then she made it to get there at 9 o'clock. We just pulled up at 9.01 and it was a line.

Speaker 3 3:34

it was a holiday weekend down the freaking block and we was like, oh my god, and it's only like so. Looking at all the people, I was like we're not going to have anywhere to sit and but for shits and giggles we said let's go in there. And see, we walked right in. I was like is there a seat? It's reserved, it's reserved. We was like alright, and we just left back out. So we was like, no, ellery.

Speaker 2 3:55

I was so happy and we thought we was going to parking lot pimp we thought we was going to parking lot.

Speaker 3 4:00

Pimp, they don't park in like pimp it was some jellies outside in parking lots with some jelly jelly, and they just weren't saying. Then they, they talked like little, like y'all going here with y'all going, with y'all going here, and that was it, just we was like I was just so happy to have that text I was so happy and I had to tell you I was like buying.

Speaker 3 4:21

You know she's like what happened. Yeah, old people was there early. I know people get there early, you gotta get there at eight. I was like Vanya, you know she's like what happened. Yeah, Vanya was up. Old people get there early. Old people get there early, you got to get there at 8. They are 30.

Speaker 1 4:30

We talking about old people, that's us. Stephanie, yeah, because we was there at 9 o'clock.

Speaker 2 4:36

We should have been there at 8.30. Because what?

Speaker 3 4:40

They don't even go out now time we were ready to go to bed 12,.

Speaker 1 4:44

We were ready to leave and I was like, when did we get old? When did we get?

Speaker 3 4:50

old, I'd still be kicking.

When Did We Get Old?

Speaker 1 4:51

And then the other day I was in the bathroom, oh goodness, I had my Spotify playing and just a little 90s old school and stuff and I can't remember what song came on when I tell little 90s old school and stuff and I can't remember what song came on. When I tell you if I could twerk, you were twerking I bounced that butt all over the bathroom. But when I tell you, my knee popped and I was like, oh, you're like what's going?

Speaker 3 5:15

on. I was so tired, god, I was so tired. Afterwards I was like when did I get old? When did I get old? I don't like it. I've been telling my friends lately. I was like I'm literally like scared you better be no. Like like literally every day I wait and I'm just freaking scared because it's like something new, hurting, and I'm like, oh my God, and I just fear like stuff is just going to get worse and I'm just I'm like scared, shitless, honestly at this point. Well, they say motion is lotion.

Speaker 1 5:48

I think the best thing you can do is to stay active. This is scary. Exercise all of those things, Because when. I tell you when that, when it kicks in, and when me being idle for the last two years. When I tell you my, I mean my joints. My hands hurt, my toe hurt, like my knees hurt my everything my joints and stuff are so stiff, since I wasn't able to exercise. So, and trying to get back, into exercising is really hard.

Speaker 1 6:17

And then in my mind, I'm at the level where I was before. No, you're not I lay that yoga mat on the floor and I stare at it for a long time, yep. Because I'm trying to figure out how to get down there.

Speaker 3 6:29

Just for real, I'm serious, I still have a little neuropathy in my toes.

Speaker 1 6:34

It's not bad, but it's more in my toes. It was the whole front of my foot and for neuropathy is when you can't the nerves damage.

Speaker 1 6:45

So chemo damaged the nerves in my in my hands and my feet. Now I have the feelings 100 back in my hands, but my toes are still tingly. So when I've been down your normal you know how you've been down and your toes been I still don't feel my toes. So it's really weird and it's uncomfortable. I don't know why it's uncomfortable, because you really don't feel it, but it's just. I think this is so weird.

Speaker 3 7:07

So when I have to get down on the floor. I'm like hmm, yeah, it's a different feeling.

Speaker 1 7:11

It takes me a minute because I got to think about it. Okay, put that knee down first.

Speaker 3 7:18

And then your knees be hurting when they get on the ground. I'm serious, it's like, and you don't unless you kids just stay active your whole life, oh, my God you have to stay active because I was trying to help my friend move something or roll up an air mattress, and I got on my knees and it just hurts. And I was like why my knees start hurting. It's bad. I used to be able to just pop down and pop back up.

Speaker 1 7:38

We can't Everything pop, but it ain't the kind of popping, it ain't the kind of mother it's all like oh, this is really happening man. You wake up. I don't like it. You literally wake up and it just happens overnight and you're like when did this happen? And we think it won't happen.

Speaker 2 7:53

We think that we're just invincible and it'll pass us.

Speaker 3 7:55

We're not man.

Speaker 2 7:56

That's the old people who go through that, and then you wake up and it's like oh goodness. And I remember the last time like you know I was in the midst of, you know, having relations, I'm like you know what I think, my back started hurting or something I was like I was like hold on, okay, like okay, or are you trying to adjust your angle at the yeah During the yeah During mid-stroke?

Speaker 1 8:21

Yeah, you're like You're trying to. Just because I'm sitting here going, is my back hurting right now Like what? The what is going on? Oh my Lord, when did I get old? When did I get old Sharice?

Speaker 2 8:32

You're not. This week we're going to get some fish oil, some glucosamine and get them getting down and up or something, but uh-uh.

Speaker 3 8:44

So I just had a homegirl's sleepover for birthdays and everybody woke up in the morning and they all went in the kitchen and had a bunch of vitamins and a bunch of and I was like I'm sitting there over the couch, I ain't doing that. They be like Stephanie, you the main one. I was like I ain't doing that. I started eating some cupcakes and stuff. I was like I'm not doing that. I was like I'm not.

Speaker 1 9:06

But how was the sleepover? Because y'all were talking.

Speaker 3 9:08

When you left, man, we thought we was going to kick it. We went on, we was going to, we was going to drink, play games, eat man. We was all in bed at tea. Oh my God, I ain't to the games. We drink and we eat and we'll dance around and be tired of dancing and be like oh girl, I got to lay down girl.

Speaker 2 9:34

And then everybody just started falling asleep, I said we just that's exactly what we just started this thing out talking about. Oh, my God.

Speaker 1 9:41

That's hilarious.

Speaker 3 9:46

Y' talking about. Y'all just had a small sleepover. Yeah, we went to sleep. Yeah, we just all slept together and then everybody wake up at the crack of dawn. All right, take their vitamins and all they can. I said, oh, what is that's like? When did we?

Speaker 1 9:55

get. Oh, I don't like this for us. Well, sometime I do a little, I gotta have little things that kind of remind me like I still got it, Like first of all, I knew this was the episode, so I squozed myself up in this hoe-ass dress.

Speaker 3 10:09

Listen, listen it ain't hoe-ass. Look, I'm not squeezed in it, it's sex, sex. I'm squozed.

Speaker 1 10:14

It's sex, sex. I'm squozed. That's beyond squeezed. I'm when you I dressed and sitting a bit too tight, sitting trying to hold my stomach the whole time.

Speaker 3 10:32

But anyway, there's certain little things that I do to kind of remind yourself who you are, and it's that one song that come on.

Motion is Lotion: Staying Active

Speaker 1 10:35

It's that one song they put you in there, like that. That makes you say I'm that girl but you know what the funny part is? You know how you ever dance and you think you are killing it and you look in the mirror.

Speaker 2 10:45

Oh, and look crazy when you look in the mirror.

Speaker 1 10:46

You're like look crazy.

Speaker 3 10:50

I'm like, oh, I thought I was out here cold. I'm in front of people looking stupid. I'll be at Ellery's chicken, probably looking real crazy, because you thought you was killing it. I still had all of my moves.

Speaker 1 11:02

Yes, oh, looking crazy, yes, but I got songs that kind of bring that out of me. Let's talk about a little old school music.

Speaker 3 11:12

Because you put that question out. Oh damn, Let me look.

Speaker 1 11:15

Hold on a second, I put a question on Facebook.

Speaker 2 11:17

I missed everything you got to pay attention, girl, you got to pay attention Attention.

Speaker 3 11:26

That was a bone crusher.

Speaker 1 11:27

Yes, I'm outside of the club.

Speaker 3 11:33

Pick up my phone. She had to dig deep. I was like Okay.

Speaker 1 11:39

So I put a post on Facebook and it just said when I find it Okay. What's the one song that, when you hear it, it makes you act a fool and forget your age?

Speaker 3 11:52

So make sure y'all comment and let us know the one song that makes you act a fool and forget your age. When you say forget your age, first of all we old, it's because you're going to hurt.

Speaker 1 12:05

Is that what you're saying? You're still trying to dance. You're trying to twerk.

Speaker 3 12:08

You're like, ooh Jesus, what? The that's what you mean.

Speaker 1 12:12

Whatever it is, it makes you forget you 50 something.

Speaker 3 12:17

So you guys comment and let us know what that song is. So let me give you a couple comments.

Speaker 1 12:23

Actually, we got quite a few. We got quite a few. Let me give you a couple comments of what some of them, I think, had said the same thing. Somebody said anything ludicrous, anything ludicrous yeah, that's thug.

Speaker 3 12:35

Really, all you got to do is throw some bowls and stuff to ludicrous.

Speaker 1 12:39

Uh-huh.

Speaker 3 12:50

Okay, so that's Cash Money. Somebody said pop that coochie.

Speaker 1 12:53

Pop that, coochie Pop that coochie baby.

Speaker 2 12:57

Anything.

Speaker 1 12:58

Janet or Bobby Brown. Someone said Someone said they're ashamed to say, but it's Trick Daddy and Trina.

Speaker 3 13:05

You don't know them.

Speaker 1 13:07

Reptile like me. Now, you know, madison, love anything, trina I love Trina too, If she hear anything Trina, she just loses her mind. Blow the Whistle came up.

Speaker 2 13:18

Blow the Whistle.

Speaker 3 13:20

Blow, the Whistle came up.

Speaker 1 13:21

I don't know how many times that's a smooth song it is.

Speaker 3 13:24

I don't see your age dancing off of that, like what you doing to Blow the Whistle that's going to make you hurt. I mean, you know, but some people I've seen people like do the Chicago Two Step and that's what in my mind with that song I remember the people doing it and they be cold, but you don't know, you don't know what memory it triggers when they hear that song.

Speaker 2 13:46

Cause I'ma tell you right now Put on.

Speaker 1 13:48

Nasty Girls by Vanity Fair.

Speaker 2 13:52

Look how I came out of it.

Speaker 3 13:56

Yeah, yeah, and he's heard some. He's like who am I right now? Who are you?

Speaker 2 14:03

You just went all the way back. You called Vanity.

Speaker 1 14:04

Six, that was it. And somebody said nasty girl by Vanity Six. See baby. You put on Vanity Six right now.

Speaker 3 14:11

And we'd be waving, I know and we'd be waving and I'm gonna be hurt tomorrow right up in here, but you think you really killing it and you look in the mirror and be like is that? What.

Speaker 1 14:19

I look like okay. And then, as soon as I hear that ding, ow ow, ow he loses my shit, like right now.

Speaker 3 14:37

And for y'all that don't know that If we can not make babies, maybe we can make them.

Speaker 1 14:46

As soon as I hear that.

Speaker 3 14:48

And then you just say woo, because, baby, that would make me forget my age and who I am. Because the way I be rolling, or think you rolling and be looking like stone, look a whole stone in that mirror.

Speaker 1 15:02

And that's how I was, and I can't remember what song it was. I was in the mirror dancing and I think I was trying to put five curls in my hair or something and I just had to look up and saw myself Burn your forehead Is somebody else in this mirror.

Speaker 3 15:16

I know that it's not me. It's not me anymore.

Speaker 1 15:20

I know that's not me. Or when you think you're going low and you still standing up straight.

Speaker 2 15:25

Yeah, no, no, no, no. You are stuck in the block. Drop down and get your eagle on. I tore my meniscus.

Speaker 1 15:30

You tore your meniscus and.

Speaker 3 15:32

I tore my meniscus. Yes, you have to do that in heels. Oh, it don't matter.

Speaker 2 15:36

The meniscus is torn. I don't know what. I had on. She's like I should have did nothing. Yeah, yeah, girl.

Speaker 3 15:42

Is that woman tearing her nut trying to yeah Girl.

Speaker 1 15:47

That's when I'm going to know that's going to be the end of your life.

Speaker 3 15:50

I knew when I looked in the mirror Because.

Speaker 1 15:51

I always dance, I always could dance, and you can't tell me I'm still not killing it. Until I looked in the mirror and I was like what? You killing it in your way. And other people will probably still think you're killing it. You know, you see them, aunties, that he's recording on video At Ellery's. At Ellery's.

Speaker 3 16:19

This was going around now. That's why that line was so long, because we'd be in there joking. Yes, everybody, be out there dancing. Oh my god, it's so great. But I think it's young people in there trying to be funny, like look at all the grand, don't, don't do us, don't do us. I'm going to show y'all something they, but they be out there giving it, they be. We don't care who looking I can't we all?

Speaker 1 16:37

I cannot look like that. I refuse man the vanity in me will not allow it.

Speaker 3 16:42

I'm going to be a liar.

Songs That Make Us Forget Our Age

Speaker 1 16:45

It will not allow it. I cannot look like that. No, everybody don't look bad don't look bad everybody having a good time when I saw I'm sure they having a good time. I'm not taking away from the good time, but if you think you still in there cutting up and you know what?

Speaker 3 16:59

I went to another place called 1942 and some song came on and this older man was like hold on, he stood up and he just started doing this.

Speaker 1 17:08

Like a robot. No, I didn't even know he was popping. I didn't he thought he was popping. He thought he was popping. I didn't think he thought he was, but he was like and what Nothing moving.

Speaker 3 17:16

I'm like Lord Jesus. I started filming. I said, baby, you can't tell me that man don't think In his mind he was, he thought he was, he was killing it, he was crazy and he was just. Oh, I was like I'm so proud of you, stephanie. He didn't care.

Speaker 2 17:34

Stop, I can't take it.

Speaker 1 17:36

I love it Because I'd have seen it, oh yeah, and in my mind I can still pop locks Right and that was cool.

Speaker 3 17:42

But my knees is popping.

Speaker 2 17:43

It's okay.

Speaker 3 17:45

Don't give up the dream, do you I?

Speaker 2 17:48

mean, but as long as the real key honestly is having fun At, the real key honestly is having fun.

Speaker 3 17:54

At the end of the day, and that's what everybody else can do. You know what I?

Speaker 2 17:56

mean, I mean I wish they really wouldn't take so much and make fun of them. I know. But it's still nice to be in environments where you can let your hair down and just really dance and have fun. Because we did that.

Speaker 1 18:09

But it's time to start two-stepping y'all. It's time to start two-stepping. That ain't enough for me. Just like that brother trying to pop lock. I have seen it many times. I was like what is he doing?

Speaker 3 18:22

In your mind you are killing it, but you don't realize you ain't moved yet.

Speaker 2 18:27

But he's doing like he said during the beginning.

Speaker 1 18:30

He's moving. No, but he ain't moving, he's moving.

Speaker 3 18:33

No, but he ain't moving.

Speaker 2 18:35

He's thinking moving I was like oh, I think you're supposed to move, and then they're going to hit all that.

Speaker 3 18:40

Yeah, but he was just stuck in the block, he couldn't get out. I was like, oh, bless his heart. You been going good. I'm going to pump you up, sir, because I'm going to pump me up even if I look crazy, because I don't want someone to pump me up. Even if I look crazy, I look crazy.

Speaker 1 18:54

I saw myself and I said, oh Lord, please don't let it be, it's official. No, it's okay, I'm going to get it back, though I'm getting it back, I got to when they say motion is lotion.

Speaker 3 19:02

Yes, I'm going to keep working out y'all.

Speaker 1 19:04

I got to get back.

Speaker 3 19:09

I got to keep it, you so young boy it's coming, shoot it's coming.

Speaker 1 19:14

But that's sexual too, though.

Speaker 3 19:17

What motion and lotion. Well, they think in their mind oh they killing it.

Speaker 2 19:23

Come on, what you about to say that you killing it, and they got some mood in.

Speaker 3 19:26

Yeah, I'm tearing her up.

Speaker 1 19:27

Uh-huh, did you move yet, hey sir, when, when you gonna start moving? You don't feel that, you don't feel that. Uh, yup, yup. She said I don't know, just like, um, yeah, I think, I think. I think yeah and it ain't no worse than us.

Speaker 3 19:45

I know you get two pumps on top. Oh, that shit on top man the knee.

Speaker 1 19:50

That's where all my wait my leg don't open that wide, no more. What? No, I let's roll up.

Speaker 3 19:53

Wait, my leg don't open that wide I didn't ask some of those because they done got wide, they done got wide. My leg, don't open that wide, I can't, I can't.

Speaker 1 20:02

I'm sorry, I can't straddle yeah.

Speaker 3 20:05

Just old love, baby Old love, what you say, just roll over, just roll over.

Speaker 2 20:09

Just roll over, just roll over, oh, just roll your phone, dude, just roll.

Speaker 1 20:13

Oh bar, oh lord, but that's what I'm saying, you think you still got it and with me being out of commission really the last two years, and then now with with chemo and my joints and trying to get I'm almost getting that sex right now, cause in my mind I'm, I'm getting it.

Speaker 3 20:33

I'm still that bitch. She's getting it in my mind, I'm getting it.

Speaker 1 20:35

I'm still that bitch, you still are and if he come from behind I might fall asleep. Hold on, oh, you're back there what's happening? Back there, I'm sleeping flipping through the magazine.

Speaker 3 20:49

I'm telling you.

Speaker 1 20:54

I do. I think this is stuff I think about sometimes at night, like do I still got it?

Speaker 3 20:58

you do.

Speaker 1 21:00

I'm sitting here looking at something on the floor trying to decide if I'm going to pick it up. Do I still got it? I don't know if I can sit down to pick that up. You're not going to tell me I'm not that bitch anymore.

Speaker 2 21:14

I just think that you still have fear. You still have fear because when your feet were, you know you really couldn't feel so. You had to take care and tipping and moving over. But you do. It's like riding a bike. You got to get the right person. Yeah, and you'll be okay, it's all going to be, the mind's going to go there and it's going to be right.

Speaker 1 21:34

Tell me no, you working out, and I don't care what y'all say, I still like R Kelly's music. I've been playing him all morning, you know.

Speaker 2 21:41

I don't like his actions.

Speaker 1 21:44

Yeah, but he has some jazz, but as an artist I like his music.

Speaker 3 21:47

I've been playing him all morning Because I heard an old song. So Just keep doing what you're exercising.

Speaker 2 21:51

You're doing all of the things you got to let the right person roll up in. Y'all you got it.

Speaker 3 21:58

You're going to be that sexy siren and you're going to be like girl, I didn't know I was getting any, because I'm squozing this dress.

Speaker 1 22:04

You're squozing that dress that I was talking about you got it yeah.

Speaker 3 22:11

That lady ready I?

Speaker 1 22:15

don't think I got the moves. No more.

Speaker 3 22:17

You don't, I don't know I'm trying to be that still, you are never doubt that.

Speaker 2 22:21

Okay, I'm gonna put on erotic city or something, because that that just breaks even if, even if I don't got it, I think I do, I think I do that and I'm telling you that, and then the leg rod is not going to get into any situation and not come out of it on top.

Speaker 3 22:39

That's just who you are, so you got it.

Speaker 2 22:43

How about that? Absolutely yeah, I'm very competitive, Right? So here you go.

Speaker 3 22:50

You ain't about to outdo me, sir. Even in the band I'm competitive. I know that's terrible to say, but I am. You ain't about to outdo me, sir. Even in the bed you hold on.

Speaker 1 22:54

I'm competitive. I'm competitive. I know that's terrible to say, but I am.

Speaker 3 22:58

I'm competitive in the bed I'm like oh you, oh, you're showing out, you're showing out. Oh, that's what we're doing Okay.

Speaker 2 23:08

I don't care if I throw this hip out right now.

Speaker 3 23:10

Hold on, you got it. You're not going to break me down like that.

Speaker 1 23:13

What you look like when you come up. I don't know if it's something different. I'm going to have to ice for two days.

Speaker 2 23:18

You got it.

Speaker 1 23:20

I'm going to have to ice for two days. Girl Lord, have mercy. What's your song, Cherise? What's your song that brings?

Speaker 2 23:27

that Atomic Dog. Really, you're just stomping it out. It's just music. No, it's just music. Now, it's not just the stomping, because everybody's used to it from the fraternities, but it's just something about the song that just reminds me of a certain time in my life and I just love the music.

Speaker 1 23:45

What was you doing at that time? I probably got pregnant.

Speaker 3 23:48

I don't know, you know I think that song is sexy because I love watching men step, but I love, but I love grown ones. As soon as I hear Tom McDowell, we like in a big setting where I know it's grown people and I'm like, please somebody be here and I love when they start to Let there be a cue, let there be a cue around. That's sexy as hell to me.

Speaker 2 24:06

And even when the cap of me Come on. Oh no, this it's so sexy to me.

Speaker 1 24:10

Any black man stepping that cap of stroll makes me say girl, stop looking at that young boy like that. That's somebody's child.

Speaker 3 24:17

No, if they grown man, they're doing it wrong, I know, but that's somebody's baby he look like he a baby, but the way they do that stroll that shit's so sexy, that's sexy as hell.

Speaker 1 24:28

And I don't remember them being sexy like that in college.

Speaker 3 24:30

Now the cues always were I just liked the energy and everything.

Speaker 1 24:33

Because it was something about them just being huh huh, huh, and it reminded me of Kyle Blackness. I love that, I love it, but maybe because we didn't have a lot of Kappas on the yard you know, as they say, back then On the yard we had a lot of alphas and whatever and uh whatever, but it's something now I have.

Speaker 1 24:53

Okay, hopefully eric brent does not watch this right now, please don't watch my clients but I love to watch when uh, because even grown men, because he's a, he's an omega and um, he does a lot of different events and all that kind of stuff, and I remember I did a a trip for him and and some of his friends and I guess I hadn't seen.

Speaker 3 25:15

Was that the trip where the people were trying to kill me?

Speaker 1 25:17

Yeah, but you weren't on this one. Oh, okay. But you weren't on this one I hadn't been around like grown fraternity men in a long time.

Speaker 3 25:27

That's what I love, but I just hadn't seen it.

Speaker 1 25:29

And then I remember going oh, y'all still do that I mean, I knew that young kids did it I knew that young kids did but yeah, but I love to watch them and when they do that little, that little neck roll, I'll be like, okay, stop looking at folks like this it don't matter if he a big boy, little boy, it's just cold. Oh, I, I love it. I was like oh, so yeah, that atomic dog, I try to that bring a mind.

Speaker 3 25:51

I try to look away that bring them out I don't look where I look, because I'm talking about the grown men.

Speaker 1 25:59

Yeah, I'm talking about the grown men too. I'll be like uh-uh, that's my. I'm like dude where were y'all at? Stop looking at folks like that, because I love when that song it's just, it's just exciting, it's just fun.

Speaker 2 26:09

Yeah, what's the?

Old School Music and Intimacy

Speaker 1 26:11

nasty girl song though that brings out that in a hoe in Charisse. What's the song? What's the song? Because we all got one. That song you hear in me going, I can't think of it. I was like what's that song, charisse?

Speaker 3 26:30

I'm sure I have songs, I don't know, we both said mmm, we did at the same time they did yeah, that's why we said the same thing.

Speaker 2 26:44

So so I do like. One of my favorites is Till the Cops, oh yeah, okay.

Speaker 3 26:49

So that's what I'm saying, like when you're trying to get in the mood back in the day you know we used to put on music.

Speaker 1 26:55

Oh yeah, put on the boom box, put the tape in. Had a little tape Like what little sixes got you ready for your company?

Speaker 2 27:01

Prince of Dora. I love that song. That song just will mentally take me there. I think that's so beautiful.

Speaker 1 27:07

I got a couple well, old, old, old, old school. This is 70s or whatever. Even though I was a child, I think it was just hearing these songs because my mother didn't play them. Al Green, um, living for the love, oh yeah, in between, oh yeah, yeah, I remember that more was

Speaker 3 27:28

at the Isley's. No, that was between the sheets is Isley's.

Speaker 1 27:30

Yeah, yeah and then I love Zoom. Oh yeah, I love, zoom, mm-hmm, yeah, and then there was one more, oh, ltd.

Speaker 3 27:42

Mm-hmm. Oh yes, now, that's still great sex music, that's yeah.

Speaker 2 27:48

That's sex music. That's like my wedding reception.

Speaker 3 27:50

It's on my playlist from-. Okay, yeah, wedding that I plan that's sex music.

Speaker 2 27:54

I'm like what is this future?

Speaker 1 27:56

I'm manifesting, go manifest it. We're going to be my wedding. We're going to just I don't want to be a bridesmaid though Me either. I will come to the wedding. Well, really no. No, what I always said I don't want to be at nobody's wedding.

Speaker 2 28:08

No, I'm not doing that.

Speaker 3 28:12

Okay, because. I have way too, I'm in a relationship and I'm like I'm having a party and whoever's going to show up, that's who's meant to be there and that's who's at the wedding.

Speaker 1 28:21

Oh nice, yeah, just tell me where to bring the gift. I'm going to have a little tag on Don't have me in these dresses and stuff, yeah because I haven't had way too many. My party be good, I don't know. I just think if you get to a certain age, it's like, yeah, I've been there, done that. Yeah, let's just applaud you.

Speaker 3 28:39

We come and we dance, we're going to eat, drink, dance and celebrate we got married and just yeah, that's what we do.

Speaker 1 28:50

Now I would love to do, I do want to say, if I ever get married again, I do want to do the dress shopping, do you? I do? I want to say yes to the dress moment.

Speaker 3 29:00

But you're not going to actually wear it. No, I'm going to wear the dress, but I'm not having bridesmaids.

Speaker 1 29:05

I'm not doing none of that, and I'm not wearing a dress.

Speaker 3 29:07

I always want a jumpsuit. Oh no, I just want to go.

Speaker 1 29:10

I mean, even if it's a jumpsuit. You know I want to.

Speaker 2 29:18

You are not going to do all that. I don't even know why you just did. I know my wedding song.

Speaker 3 29:22

I'll be like, yep, that's it right, there, I got my wedding song you want to try it on?

Speaker 1 29:25

No, that's the one, Because you know I hate trying on clothes.

Speaker 3 29:28

She just want to look at it. I'll come back here. I can get fitted later.

Speaker 1 29:39

Yeah, work that and we'll try it later. But I do want the experience of shopping for a dress, but I don't want to do the whole bride space thing, so my wedding song when I'm walking down the aisle. Okay, what's the song?

Speaker 3 29:45

At last with my cane. My love's coming along. Girl, you heard Baby last. So much Cause I don't know when it's gonna happen for me. Shit, my love Baby.

Speaker 1 30:02

We might have to push you down. Gonna, push that lady down. Gonna, push you down now. Oh, stephanie, it's okay.

Speaker 3 30:11

It's gonna happen.

Speaker 1 30:12

You keep manifesting girl. I'm gonna manifest it in an audience. I'm just sitting in the audience, y'all ain't got a whole song. I'm going to manifest it in an audience. I'm just sitting in the audience, you ain't got a whole song. She like I mean she had her sensual song.

Speaker 3 30:26

Oh, you did.

Speaker 2 30:26

You did yeah, because that's her whole song.

Speaker 1 30:29

Yeah, that song is just. That's just bring it out of me.

Speaker 3 30:33

I'll tell you You're a sensual lover.

Speaker 1 30:35

You know, you ain't got that one that just triggers something. Tell you, you're a sensual lover. I, you know, ain't got that one that just triggers something in you. Make you forget how old you were, make you think you still? Got good knees.

Speaker 3 30:44

Till the cops come knocking at Remix Chef's kiss Gosh, Ooh okay.

Speaker 2 30:50

I mean I might you know I don't do good with on the spot stuff you got to process things. You got to think I got a process thing, I got a thing.

Speaker 1 30:57

I got such a long list because I love music. I love old school music. I love old school music. I got a bomb old school playlist.

Speaker 3 31:04

I love all my old school, you know.

Speaker 1 31:05

I'm a Confunction LTD Lakeside.

Speaker 2 31:09

Which is so funny they coming in concert again. I know, oh they are.

Speaker 1 31:18

Because I was just going to say I haven't heard of their concert this year. I think Stockbridge it might be they're doing something. Do you remember when we went to the Lakeside concert and for a minute the lead singer of Lakeside was replaced with the young dude and he dressed as a pirate? Yes, I was like what is going on? I know, but everybody's like hey pirate, hey pirate. That ain't the old man that's supposed to be.

Speaker 2 31:38

That ain't the old man that would leave Lakeside.

Speaker 1 31:41

I think everybody want that. Fire honey, we was all coming.

Speaker 2 31:43

Oh, oh oh, oh y'all was gonna be walking around Another patch on right, we saw those honey.

Speaker 1 31:52

Ahoy there, ahoy, ahoy there. I was like. Yes, we love our old school concerts and our old school music, but yeah, those are songs that kind of trigger make me think I still got it. I still got it. I almost feel like the Tin man and the Wiz Aw To my slice of oil.

Speaker 3 32:13

You're just loyal to me. What'd you say?

Speaker 1 32:15

My stuff ain't cracking Motion is lotion honey.

Speaker 2 32:18

I got to get moving.

Speaker 1 32:19

I got to get moving.

Speaker 2 32:20

But you've been doing all of the things though. I really are doing all of the things I'm impatient.

Speaker 1 32:24

You know I'm all right now you want to nap. I want to start working out and I'm slim and fit tomorrow. You know I want to start working out. My knees feel good and you know like this is taking too long and you know you're younger, you you healed so much faster and all that kind of stuff too, and it's like but this is part of the realization like I am god no, live y'all life, but you know what you keep saying.

Speaker 2 32:46

Okay, okay, but no, listen to me. You keep saying that, right, but you're still younger. I'm really sitting here looking at us and she squalls in this dress. Okay, you can squeeze in it, but you in it and you look good in it. And I remember seeing women our age.

Speaker 1 33:06

We see them every day.

Speaker 2 33:08

Well, I don't want to talk about nobody right now. So I remember being younger, seeing people our age, and I'm not trying to be smart, but their boobs sat all the way down here. The bras was crazy. Still probably is the weight from just over the. That's why I said you're working out, but you know, over the years of just not doing anything like the age of the same 50, I think the 50s we saw.

Speaker 1 33:34

Okay, we have push-up bras now my titties still hang low.

Speaker 2 33:38

But even today, where we are, today, people, there are still people our age. We look damn great yeah.

Speaker 3 33:47

I agree, I think we do so.

Speaker 2 33:48

I'm just saying I didn't say I wasn't fine.

Speaker 3 33:52

I didn't say and I didn't say, you didn't say that but what?

Growing Older with Grace and Humor

Speaker 2 33:56

I'm just saying is, I think, the terminology for me you're not old, you're not old, you are fine. You just went through a stage where you actually had cancer and you had to do things and have things in your body that you didn't care for, and they did some things different before that happened, to be honest you don't look like somebody you do not look like somebody who went through two years, or whatever, of chemotherapy.

Speaker 2 34:31

You look great. You didn't lose weight. Your, your skin is still amazing. You know what I mean you know what I mean so everything about Legra is still great. You know what I mean and as your friend friends, I am telling you you look amazing, so don't you might as well. Where's nasty girls?

Speaker 1 34:55

put nasty girls on for me right now. But you're not. But look, I just don't. Y'all might have been where's Nasty Girls?

Speaker 2 34:58

Put Nasty Girls on for me right now, you know, but you're not. We're not getting older, you're not. But look, we're still alive.

Speaker 1 35:02

I just don't Y'all know that. You know, Sharice ain't going to never get older.

Speaker 2 35:04

I don't accept. No, I don't accept the terminology, I don't accept things, that people I'm not running away from that because people say you ought to be glad you're here for another day.

Speaker 3 35:16

It's a privilege, yeah.

Speaker 2 35:17

I'm glad and all of that stuff.

Speaker 3 35:19

Yeah.

Speaker 2 35:20

We're good with where we are right, but for me we're better than most. When I say better than most, I mean we're doing a lot, we're active. We actually travel from May. We won't stop till October. I went to Peru no-transcript, far away, all sides for the rest of your life.

Speaker 3 36:03

Manifest me girl.

Speaker 2 36:05

You just got to get it in your brain that you're good and you're there. But you know you're not. You're not old, You're not old. We're going to progress in age. That's just going to happen and we're going to appreciate it. But we're going to do everything we can do to keep our health, wealth, vitality and everything and just be good until we can't anymore. And we still can. So I don't accept any of those things until I really can and that's a long time.

Speaker 3 36:33

Yeah, that's all it's way down the road.

Speaker 1 36:35

Well, ok let's say a prayer with our vaginas right now too.

Speaker 3 36:41

Don't let her get old, be hunching and I want to.

Speaker 2 36:47

Amen.

Speaker 3 36:48

And you know what I've recently learned. I had just recently found out that the desire for sex and intimacy never goes away. It don't, I thought, and it came from a my 80.

Speaker 3 36:59

My aunt at the time was like 80 85 and she was like contrary to what people believe, she's like I still want to have relations. And I said what did she call it? Relations, yeah, relations, okay. And she said the desire never goes away, and I don't know for whatever reason. I just thought when people age, they just didn't think about her or want it and she was like no, it don't go nowhere. She said it don't go nowhere. She said no. She said I might need some cream to help me out down there. She said but I still want to hunch. And I said oh, so it just does not go anywhere. I'm trying to hunch over.

Speaker 2 37:31

She and her 90s still want to the general public think, like when they think about us and our age group, they literally think you know younger people actually. That's why they be like that grandma, she need to go sit down. I'm arguing.

Speaker 3 37:44

Because in their minds they think you're too old, Because I thought that when I was, I always thought that too. And it was.

Speaker 1 37:48

I was like I wonder if, when I'm about 88, 95 and nasty girls come on, oh, you going to dance when I'm about 88, 95 years old, if I'm gonna get up Grandma's on Instagram, me getting the day be on.

Speaker 3 38:09

That came moving in.

Speaker 1 38:14

Still gonna get it. I'm gonna go and my teeth gonna fall out and everything, don't wonder if you go back gonna hate. She missed this episode, y'all she is we love you girl, I know she'll what'd you? Say what'd you say, she would probably wherever I'm somewhere, huh, say she hunting yeah, we hate I'm hating right now, I'm low, I'm low. Congratulating right now, kitty girl I'm hating, but get something for me. This is.

Speaker 2 38:40

Lurie, y'all the Timeless and Unfiltered. This is Stephanie, this is Sharice and we are missing Evania.

Speaker 1 38:45

But we still spilling that tea on Midlife.

Speaker 2 38:48

One laugh at a time.

Speaker 1 38:50

See y'all next week. Y'all Thanks for watching, guys.