From Coughs to Connection: A Tale of Resilience

This episode emphasizes the importance of prioritizing your partner amidst life’s distractions and challenges. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, Dre discusses strategies for maintaining strong, loving relationships as life evolves.

• Importance of prioritizing marriage 
• Personal experiences with illness and support 
• The role of distractions in relationships 
• Exploring the balance of self, children, and partnership 
• Understanding the 3 D's: distraction, disruption, discontent 
• Challenge for couples to evaluate their relationship 
• Encouragement for fostering joyful connections

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:06

Welcome to another episode of Leo's Liberation. Your host, dre, here, and I'd like to wish you a happy Friday. Another week down, another lesson learned, hopefully, and another page in an autobiography that you're writing but haven't started yet, or have you Write a book. So I missed connecting with you guys on monday and I do apologize. I worked over the weekend and brought the flu home with me, or some variant of a virus, and luckily it didn't spread and it didn't last long. Um, so yay for the youth that I so proudly proclaim that I still have.

Speaker 1 0:39

It's all in the mind, right, and you know, plus, I'm that guy that will mix meds to get well as fast as possible. Is it dangerous? Of course it's dangerous. The labels say that it's dangerous and I don't actually promote, you know, mixing medications, but in the end I hate being sick, and it is a rare occurrence these days and I do everything in my power to stay that way. So you know, out of curiosity, you know what age, old or new treatments do you guys use to handle the cold or flu? And you know, are you that person that calls out from work or do you tough it out and show up with that virus in tow and you try to spread the wealth, because misery loves company right. And you know, for all the families that listen, I hear and understand what my parents had to deal with. You know, when one person in the house gets sick, it's only a matter of hours, maybe a day at the latest, before someone else falls victim. And you know, when I'm at work I hear these horror stories of people with children and how they talk about not being able to get rid of that cold or flu that just keeps moving its way through everyone in the house because they're all passing it back and forth like some sick twisted game of dodgeball and usually can extend the problem for at least a week or two.

Speaker 1 1:43

I'm not a doctor either, so you know. So you can fact check me on that. I don't care. But I just kind of remember growing up being super sick with the flu or something I always remember, and this is why it's good to have whiskey in your home, even if you don't drink. But I just remember having hot toddies mixed and those things. I'm telling you, lord, they will kick a cold to the curb real quick, or at least it felt that way, probably because I was drunk off of drinking hot liquor? I don't know.

Speaker 1 2:09

So anyway, moving on, enough about me being sick. So next week there will be a longer show uploaded to kick off a separate season or saga that's getting ready to come here for about the next year and it's just going to involve a lot of traveling. And it's just going to involve a lot of traveling and I haven't decided if I will post be posting it on for your Monday listen or if I'll post it at a separate time and date, but I am pretty excited to record with a friend and talk over a few topics that we agreed upon and curious to see where this goes. So, yeah, this is going to be the start of, technically, yeah, a new saga for this podcast which, you know, I'm hoping a lot of you actually follow me along with this one. So, anyway, back to me being sick for a quick second, because this is actually going to lead into today's topic.

Speaker 1 2:54

So you know, while I was sick, you know, obviously, love of my life sends me a video reel, short, I don't know what you call them nowadays, but anyway, a short, a reel, whatever. Facebook short, youtube short, and anyway, so you know, it's kind of like, it was kind of like a, I guess, a get well soon kind of car with a little chuckle added to it. But you know, also just a quick way to say, hey, I love you. But you know, I'm pretty sure that you know, most couples do this. But when one of you bombs your partner with a bunch of video shorts and uh, yeah, I think we all do that at one point or another we, you know, we flood the other's phone with just like things that we find funny because we have nothing else better to do than flip through videos, you know, tick tock all day, um, but you can be assured that that other person most likely it's not reading or looking at them. So, yeah, don't be offended, but it's just something that happens, it's. You know, after the first, maybe second one, it just kind of becomes like this thing where, yeah, no one cares, so anyway, anyway, back to the video. So I get this video clip of a couple in the car sharing a meal and I'm pretty sure everybody has seen it. But the video read and had a message in it and the message actually stated you know, prioritize your marriage. Kids grow up and leave Parents pass, so make sure your bond is unbreakable.

Speaker 1 4:13

Now I have searched for a moment and when I say a moment, I'm talking like for a couple hours actually because I was looking for the origin of this, saying Like who said this first? Where did this come from? And everything pointed back to social media. So you know what? I'm going to go with it for right now until someone can find it or I find it myself, but I'm going to keep looking because I, you know, I love quotes that actually hit home a little bit and I'm going to find it. But you know, if you feel like looking for it, please do so. You know the point is. Anyway. The point is, you know, I like this quote and it says something. Obviously, it says something, but it does say something. Its message is pretty clear and you know.

Speaker 1 4:51

My question to you is what do you prioritize in life? Some people may say they prioritize themselves first over everything. Others will place their children first, pets, parents, so on and so on. The thing is, we all prioritize things differently. You know, some people in our lives we place on a higher pedestal than others, and this person will always receive 100% of our attention, without question.

Speaker 1 5:15

Now, being honest, because this isn't a perfect world, yes, you have to make yourself happy. But in my humble opinion, that's what's wrong with a lot of relationships nowadays. Everyone is overly self-centered and using it for you know, using it as an excuse for the greater good or backdrop for the behavior. I'm not judging anyone or your relationship. If this works for you and it keeps the peace and love in your house, so be it. I'm happy for you. Do what you do. But I guess you know I'll aim this gun at people who may be struggling rocky relationships, those soon to be empty nesters, engaged couples Maybe that's where this quote is a little bit more focused, I guess.

Speaker 1 5:48

But you know, as always I'll throw out this disclaimer I'm not a professional marriage counselor or marriage specialist of any sort. I can only speak from my own lived experience and my own observations. So you know today's world is busy and you know that's my backdrop. But today's world is busy and it's more difficult these days to kind of focus on one sole person, I think. And the bottom line.

Speaker 1 6:13

This happens because we allow it to happen. We allow distraction, disruption and discontent into our lives and relationships and you know you may be asking how can this contribute to prioritization of your partner over? You know these three D's or you know the things that were mentioned as far as family members and friends and stuff. You know I think we've talked about this in another episode but you have to gain control of what you're allowing in that front door, right? So the distraction of being overwhelmed pulls the focus from doing things that make your relationship blossom. And this can unknowingly happen in most cases because yet again, the world is busy. We all have something to do. The disruption that is going to require you to deliberately put all things aside to fix what you know you may think that it's broken. You know, and then, finally, that discontent is pretty much that sum total of that distraction.

Speaker 1 7:00

Disruption, you know, after the kids have moved out or the parents have passed. You know friends have disappeared. You're now unhappy with. You know what you're left with because you failed to work at it when you may. You know when you may have allowed all of the outside forces to keep you from building upon. You know the reason. You committed yourself to this person.

Speaker 1 7:21

So you know this is not to say, you know, discard your family and friends. By no means. That's not what I'm trying to say here. This is you know. This is just to say you know this is to say maybe find a way to, you know, make them a part of your marriage or your relationship, versus your marriage or relationship, adapting to you know, change or to please everyone all the time. So sometimes you know kind of have to make that, make those elements rotate around you to kind of get that piece a little bit. Does that sound selfish Kind of? But you know it's a case by case basis. Yet again, we all live different lives, we all have different things happening. So yet again, you know, do what works for you.

Speaker 1 8:00

But I definitely say, put a little bit more focus in on it. Yes, you may have kids, you know that. That. You know that may tire both of you out. Or you may have sick parents that may be tiring you both out, but you still have to take time out. You know, maybe do these things together, handle them together. And you know, maybe come up with some type of you know, a team effort kind of thing where it's not always a separate thing to where you maybe you can still have the kids out to their sporting events but at the same time that's kind of like a date night for you in a sense, because the kids are playing their sport, you're cheering them on, but you're still doing your thing and working on your relationship.

Speaker 1 8:29

So, yet again, I don't have kids, that's just me taking a stab in the dark, but you know, you let me know how I'm doing or how I'm thinking about that. So, basically, at the end of the day, some sacrifices have to be made. So the challenge for the weekend sit down with your partner and this is a team challenge. So, you know, evaluate your lives, your life together actually, and, you know, evaluate that past, present and future, future. Focus on the good things, but also look at those distractions and disruptions that may lead to that discontent in the future, or even now, if that's actually what's going on in your relationship right now. So I think, at the end of the day, I was hoping that this episode would spark a little bit of conversation between you as a couple and kind of get you guys working towards something a little bit more positive for yourselves in the long run. Because, yeah, life doesn't end, you know, when the kids move out, or you know parents pass away or friends leave you, life continues because that person that's, you know, kind of been by you, since you both agreed to kind of stick it out together. They're going to be there in the end, most likely, and you guys will most likely die out. You know you'll grow old together. So you know, just take a look at those things.

Speaker 1 9:32

So here we are again. I'm Dre. I'm going to sign off from another episode of Leo's Liberation. Take care of yourself and each other. And you can find me at leosliberationbuzzsproutcom. Leoliberated on Facebook, or leo underscore liberated on X, or leos underscore liberation on Instagram. But you know, please follow me on whatever platform you're listening to this podcast on. Give me a like, a rating, follow me. Um, you know, leave comments for me to grow on and, um, you know, I'll talk with you guys on monday. Have a safe and happy weekend, thank you.