Reframing Orgasm for Greater Fulfillment

Unlock the secrets of a more fulfilling intimate life by exploring the multifaceted nature of sexuality and communication. We promise you'll walk away with a fresh perspective on sex as more than just a biological function or a label of identity—it's a personal, pleasurable journey shaped by your desires and openness to new experiences. From traditional sex to self-exploration and virtual connections, discover how understanding yourself can enhance your future encounters. Learn why being a great sexual partner is less about technique and more about open dialogue and mutual satisfaction, ensuring every interaction leaves you and your partner feeling satisfied.

Ever heard of edging? Get ready to challenge your conventional understanding of orgasm as we reveal how postponing it can lead to heightened pleasure and control. Perfect for those dealing with premature ejaculation, this episode unpacks the safe and beneficial practice of edging, which leads to extended activities and more intense experiences. We'll guide you through the mental and physical benefits and offer practical tips for incorporating this exhilarating practice into your routine. Whether you're looking to spice things up or explore new dimensions of pleasure, this episode promises to transform your intimate life into an exciting journey of discovery and satisfaction.

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Transcript

Speaker 1 0:05

sex. What is it exactly? We use the word or engaging the act multiple times in our lives and, yes, those that you even think they cannot have sex. They are having sex, but the thing is, most of us can't identify it, or at least what it is, or you know what it's supposed to be and and I would say especially nowadays. But sex is always and is constantly evolving. It can be conducted however you find it to be pleasurable, and as we advance, so do our desires. There is sex to reproduce, make babies, you know, extend the bloodline. And then there's sex. You know that we use to identify us, as far as you know, being male or female gen's sex. You know that we use to identify us, as far as you know, being male or female, genitalia kind of thing. But the pleasurable side of sex, or that act, has an infinite amount of layers that aim to teach, invigorate, stir the passion pot and please the body, mind and spirit. Welcome to leo's liberation.

Speaker 1 1:01

And on this fabulous day we're going to continue with our lovesves in the Air series. I'm super excited about this week because it's all about sex, that one thing we dream of, think about most of the day or most of the week and you know, like I said before, what is sex, you know who's good at it, who sucks at it, who wants it more, males or females. All of that is good stuff and we'll touch on them quickly before getting into this week's challenge. And I think you'll want to try it if you don't already practice it, but it's going to be definitely an enhancer, uh, you know, when we get to talking about orgasms and it will also be a nice segue into our practices talk, um, as far as sex goes, and basically love talk. That'll be happening later this week.

Speaker 1 1:44

So so, you know, there are a few formal definitions of sex out there and, um, I found some. Obviously you have the ones in the Bible, the dictionary, webmd, so on and so on, um, but I found one that I guess just parts of it kind of like. You know, for some reason it caught my eye, but the Washington civil jury instructions definition of sexual intercourse. And sexual intercourse, um, you know, is basically the uh that the sexual organ of the male entered and penetrated the sexual organ of the female and occurs upon penetration, however slight, or any penetration of the vagina or anus, however slight, by an object, including a body part, when committed on one person by another, whether such persons are the same or opposite sex, except when penetration is accomplished for medically recognized treatment or diagnostic purposes, or any act of sexual contact between persons involving the sex organs of one person in the mouth or anus of another person, whether such persons are of the same or opposite sex. So, yeah, none of that sounds fun. That's just. You know, obviously, legal definitions and whatnot. But the last part, yeah, I guess that's kind of spicy for some folks, I guess. But you know, you just got to love how government phrases things. They just make every, they just take the fun out of everything. I swear as far as definitions go.

Speaker 1 3:07

Anyhow, sex, you know what is the right way to perform the act. You know what is the right way to be that one on everybody's list, that ride at the amusement park that everybody is talking about because it's such a great time. You know, truth be told, there isn't really any way to have or conduct the act of sex. You know, most of us at a young age begin with masturbation and you know I find this phase very important because it's you getting to know yourself in a safe and secure environment, because it's you getting to know yourself in a safe and secure environment and you're learning what you may or may not like, which obviously eventually, as you grow into an adult, you may want to kind of have some of these things figured out by the time you get to a certain age so that way can make you a better partner or at least make your actual first time engaging with another person more exciting. So you know, sex can be penetration of the vagina, the mouth, the anus. It can be kissing, it can be just straight up body contact. You know the use of sexual toys, phone sex, and you know obviously everyone's favorite porn. You know you have things like OnlyFans out there now. But you know it's all a matter, it's all a way to figure out you know what you like first and then introducing this, you know, to your partner to see if you guys are going to be compatible in this department.

Speaker 1 4:21

Um, ensuring that you have an open-minded sexual partner is key in most cases, cause it makes you know your sex lives a little bit better. Um keeps you guys uh, kind of on the adventurous side of things versus the plain Jane. Hey, let's go to bed, lay down horizontally, let's lay there, sweat, grunt and you know, the night's over. So but you know what makes you a good sex partner, you know. Is it size, is it the pillow talk, is it the? You know the aesthetic appearances, you know basically how you're attracted to that person. You know you're a good sex partner in my eyes. You know you're a good sex partner if you both leave the bed, car or wherever it is you've chosen to.

Speaker 1 4:58

You know conduct this act. But if you both leave the act honestly, feeling pleased and satisfied with the outcome, or act itself, um, you know this doesn't mean that everyone should have an orgasm, because that doesn't happen in every case. But some people are plenty fine with you know that submissive role of only pleasing the other. But, but you know, if you want to run around and boast about how you know how good you are, before you do that, check in with the other person, um, to see if they enjoyed the moment and whether, uh, you know whether it be two minutes or two hours, you know still do that check-in, get a quick progress report, because you may not be as good as you think. And that's males and females. So you know who enjoys it more and you know who's better at it Men or women In my eyes.

Speaker 1 5:42

I say neither Enjoying sex is solely based on what that person you know, what they say is good sex or what they think to be good sex, and this includes couples. So you know, if you're as a couple, if your communication is good enough to know the answer to this question, of course. But you know to ensure that everyone involved enjoys that act. You know, ask and learn. I think a lot of people are scared to ask or to get that progress report because I think you're scared you're going to get shot down or you're going to get a negative review. But you know, if I did something wrong, I'd rather either know in the moment or I'd rather know after, like hey, I didn't really like that too much, let's try something different next time. But you know, if they don't take out the time to do so, you know, to kind of check in on you to see how you're doing and vice versa.

Speaker 1 6:26

I imagine this person probably isn't the one. Or if you're married, you know it's literally like I say lay down horizontally, sweat and grunt and it's over and nobody really cares what's happened with the other person. But you know the partner that doesn't care should be. You know they shouldn't be shocked, I think, if the other partner decides to stray or they lose interest in you. If you're single, you shouldn't be shocked because you know, I don't care who you are.

Speaker 1 6:50

Yes, there's an animal side to us, which I've said plenty of times, but there's also that human side of us and you know, obviously, connecting with someone on a you know a level, such as, uh, sex intercourse, whatever the case may be, you know that is probably when you're you're most vulnerable is when you're in that, in that state, um, you know, you're fully negative. I don't care how strong you are, you're vulnerable, you're exposed and this person that you're standing in front of or laying down with now knows pretty much, probably more about you than some of your own family members. So, you know, take out that time and check in with each other. But so, you know, we're going to move into the challenge of the week here because, yet again, the challenge of the week is going to take a quick second to get through this one. So now the challenge of the week, it's going to be an act. I've practiced it, I still practice it, but you know, quite frequently, I might add, actually there's nothing unhealthy about it. But you know, like I said, you'll get to learn more about me as these episodes go on.

Speaker 1 7:45

But you know we're going to talk about the challenge today. It's going to be edging, and I don't know how many ofing ejaculation, because I think that's more of a medical issue, but I would definitely say it's the act of, let's say, deliberately postponing an ejaculation or, you know, an orgasm, and you know edging is not bad for you. So you know you're not going to die if you, if you hold back and don't let go it's not like you know they say, if you, if you hold back a sneeze, you know you're going to kill yourself or something or another. Um, but you know it may, it may cause. You know something that I think you know pretty much every man. I'm not really sure women actually get this condition or not, but if any women are listening and you do get this, please let me know, cause I've actually kind of curious about that.

Speaker 1 8:38

But basically, you know, if you basically can only speak from a male perspective but as men, basically edging first few times that you do it, yeah, you may actually kind of experience blue balls. It happens, but it's not bad guys, it's not going to kill you. Yes, there's a little bit of discomfort and it can hurt a little bit, but, you know, actually, after you've done it a few times, you no longer experience that. I don't know, the body just makes the adjustments that it needs. But, you know, edging is both physical and mental control over your orgasms, basically, and you know it extends that act of sex, whether it be masturbation or, you know, basically using these things, but whether it be masturbation, foreplay or intercourse, in actuality it's pretty good for someone who may, you know, have pre-ejaculation issues where you may, you know, orgasm too quickly. So, you know, gentlemen, I definitely recommend, you know, you know, I think, getting out of your head when you kind of think that you know she should orgasm the same time I do her before I do, because when I'm done I'm done.

Speaker 1 9:38

If that's your mentality, jumping into bed, ladies, I say don't waste your time, um. Or if it's man, man, I say don't waste your time. Or female, female, don't waste your time. If that is their, their, uh, their mindset, going into this whole thing, cause that's actually a selfish lover and they're not going to do anything to please you. That's just my opinion, though you guys talk it out, um. But basically, like I say get over it.

Speaker 1 9:59

And you know, basically, um, you know women, if you're helping your guy or girl out, you know, get them to that point. Basically, this is edging and this is where it kind of gets fun. So, whoever's pleasing, whoever, um, or whoever's, whoever's performing acts on the other, you know, get them to that point. Whoever's performing acts on the other, you know, get them to that point. And you know when they're just about probably getting to that point where they're going to pop, or right before they do pop, which I probably say, cut it a little bit earlier, in my opinion. But you know, just as you know they're about to get to that point. If you know their body well enough, you know when it's going to happen.

Speaker 1 10:28

Um, stop, and it's not to be mean, but just, uh, you know, stop, um, you know, keep fooling around with each other and you know, pick up where you left off a little bit later in the evening, um, and it doesn't have to be hours, it can be minutes, but you know, just stop, take a break, go slower and uh, you know the the benefits of this. Uh, I know this sounds painful. Probably people are cringing a little bit like I don't want to hold it and it's not the equivalent of holding back a. You know, a P you've been holding all day, um, but you know the benefits, I think, of uh, edging um. Basically, you know there is like this pleasurable explosion that you, you, you know that you may feel to some extent and then you know you actually have anticipation. Anticipation can be very sexy if used properly. Um, you know the thought of not knowing and stuff like that. That's just that can be kind of hot, um, but the best benefit, like I say, it's basically that intense orgasm that you'll actually have, um, and it is pretty much out of this world. It's uh, it's going to feel different probably than any orgasm you've had before.

Speaker 1 11:29

Um, I would probably equivalent um, um, make that equivalent to, uh, the cracker meth of sex. Make that equivalent to the cracker meth of sex, in my opinion, basically as far as orgasms go. So you know you're probably asking like, ok, how do I go about this? Like I said, take it slow. Sex doesn't have to be rushed. If you have kids, I get it. You got to get it in when you can. But you can also have those date nights where hopefully you have friends or a play date or something where you can send your kids off and you can still like take your time with this. So you know, yeah, slow things down, no need to speed through pound town.

Speaker 1 12:02

Basically, you know, mix up the mix up things a little bit. You know, change the rhythm a little bit when you're actually conducting intercourse. You know, just stop the bam bam, bam, bam, bam, bam bam. I think they're going to be OK with that. So, change things up a little bit and, uh, you know, maybe slow, stroke it a little bit, um, while you're in there, but you know, get yourself to that point and pull out, or you know you just rest in there, do what you have to do. Um, obviously this is a mature show, so hopefully no children are listening.

Speaker 1 12:27

Um, but you know, go back and forth, switch things up as you, as you um enjoy, uh, basically each other's bodies and just having sex and, you know, have a little bit of oral, a little bit anal, whatever you're into some vaginal penetration, um, just body contact. Blindfolds kind of make this experience, you know, way better as well. Um, but you know it's all up to your imagination at this point, and speaking of which, these things actually kind of lead into the BD, uh, the practicing um, or the practices of sex that we'll be talking about here a little bit later this week. So, yet again, it's all left up to your imagination on how you want to pursue this. But challenge of the week, and I think you can do this alone and you know, hopefully you'll you'll get laid up this weekend or you can talk with your partner. You both participate, which I think would be tons of fun.

Speaker 1 13:12

But you know, for the week, if you are a couple who interacts quite often with sex and or not, actually it doesn't really matter which way you go on this. But I would say, definitely utilize masturbation, oral pleasure or any form of sex that doesn't involve vaginal or anal penetration. You know, get yourself or yourselves to that point and just stop Keep teasing each other throughout the week, literally just make this a hardcore teasing session. But you know, the fun part is you can turn this into a game. Let's see who can actually last the longest in this state, who has the most self-control. You know, um, you know, set the stakes at loser cooks dinner or whatever the case may be. But I guarantee you, when Friday gets here, um, there will be plenty of explosive moments in that bedroom and I think it's going to feel better for both of you just to kind of have that release happen. Um, but you know, you know you both worked up to it to some extent. So give edging a try this week and see how you feel about it on Friday when you actually do engage in the act. And no cheating, you know, no shower anything by yourself, no sneaking off to do whatever because I don't know. Just don't cheat yourself out of this experience. But you know, you know. I wish you and your partner the best luck on this journey this week. I know it's probably going to be tough, especially if you're kind of feeling each other this week. Or you know the kids aren't there or you don't have kids yet. Whatever the case may be, I know it's going to be hard, but definitely give it a go and I think you'll hopefully thank me for the experience once you've had that orgasm or explosion.

Speaker 1 14:44

So here I am, I'm Dre, and I'm going to be signing off from another episode of Leo's Liberation Later this week. We'll be talking about BDSM and our Valentine's Day episode will be all about love. There may be a few clips from a conversation I had when I was recording Back Porch Banner last year. You know there was a. There was a great conversation with a friend and I'll see if I can get some of those soundbites posted for you guys to hear. But, as always, take care of yourself and take care of each other. You can find me at Leo's liberation dot bus route dot com. Leo liberated on Facebook, leo underscore liberated on X and Leo's underscore liberation on Instagram. Please follow me. Sorry. Please follow me on whatever platform you're listening to this podcast on. Give me a like, rating or leave me comments to grow on and remember. For this week's challenge. May the best person win and if you're by yourself, still have fun with it. But I hope you guys enjoyed the challenge. I'll be talking to you later this week. Peace out.