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Almost dying taught me how to live. Being struck by a car left me in a 3.5 week coma with 15 broken bones and 13 surgeries to complete…including brain surgery. However, I woke up from that coma in an even greater place than what I ever foresaw for myself. How? The Universe will guide you out of the depths and into the light if you allow it. Often, spirituality can come off as too high brow - I’m not about that. Welcome to the podcast that talks and teaches about it through the lens of humor. Together, we’ll harness positive energy and use it to work with the Universe, all while giggling the entire time. Welcome to ‘Gabriella Rebranded.’ Win most, lose some.
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4 l The Graphic Spiritual Life Coach Episode
Two spiritual students brought together by curly hair & boobs. Meet my life coach, Dominique Gold, who teaches through the lens of spirituality. In this episode we discuss navigating the crossroads and transitions we go through in life - especially when growing up and learning how to adult. . Career changes, moves, social life fluctuations, the campy drama that is dating in Los Angeles all while battling trauma?! To start your own business is a lot for anyone, that difficulty is multiplied my 3 when you're a young adult, and raised to the power of 7 when you add in a brain injury. Balancing that, friendships, dating, family life - CHAOS to say the least. With Dom & the Universe guiding me, I've stayed mentally sane(ish), been on that high vibe, and felt supported the entire way,
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She didn't know any of this, she wasn't aware of it, she wasn't even trying to make progress in these areas, and we're only human. Like, part of that is we will never-- - Or are we dancers?
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Almost dying taught me how to live. Being struck by a car left me in a three and a half week coma with 15 broken bones and 16 surgeries to complete, including brain surgery. However, I woke up from that coma in an even greater place than I ever saw for myself. How? The universe will guide you out of the darkness and into the light if you allow it. Often spirituality comes off as too high -brow. I'm not about that. Welcome to the podcast that talks and teaches about it through the lens of humor. Together, we'll harness positive energy and use it to work with the universe, all while giggling the entire time. Welcome to Gabriella Rebranded,
Win most lose some.
Hi guys, so on today's episode, well, actually it's not today's episode. It's an episode that was already recorded, but I forgot to do this. I want to give a formal intro to my guest and friend, Dominique Gold. Dominique Gold is My life coach, she is an ICF certified life coach. She is my friend. We became friends and we instantly bonded over the spiritual beliefs that we both hold in common and our shared love for Gabrielle Bernstein, Gabby Bernstein in the spiritual community. She's a spiritual leader, author of many books. I'm sure a lot of you know her and I would always complain to Dom as a friend about various things as you know, girls do and guys do as we just do with our friends. And then Dom decided to take on life coaching and become ICF certified. And I was like, well, you already talk me through all my problems. Um, I just don't pay you for it. So want to get paid for it and we can have weekly sessions devoted to it? So now she does that for me and she's coming on this and it is such a blessing. The episode is gonna be really great. Dom and I have the best energy, the best connection, and I'm really excited for you guys to hear it.
This is Dominique Gold. She is my life coach, but we first became friends. And one of
the first things we bonded on was our hair and curls. - I don't even remember that. - Yes. - Please, tell me. Remind me. I know we were at the pool. - If we were at the pool, - We first started talking because Camille and I were both having surgery. - Ear surgeries. - No, I was having - - Surgeries in general. Camille was having - - Camille was having, okay, okay. - surgeries in general. I was having my boobs done. Camille was having her sinuses. - Different types of surgeries, but surgeries nonetheless. - The episode I'm recording next week is the boob job episode. And yo, I told you - - It's called the boob job episode. - Yes, that's what it's gonna be called. But yo, I had this crazy epiphany. epiphany, like, I might have voice memo. Did you about it? About like, literally applying the story of my boobs and the boob job and the boob bleed, that was another incident. - The boob what? - Bleed, do you know what I mean? - Oh, wait, I've, this could be a separate bleed story, but I am aware of-- - I'm gonna tell the story on the next episode. I'll tell the full story, but like just for you, like when we were going out for Jeremy's birthday and it was like-- - Oh, yep, I wasn't there, but I heard about this. - Yes, you'll hear the story next week. But that was-- - Oh my God, he's dying to know. - I know. - We're all dying to know. - The story of my boobs is insane.
But one of the first things, you just happened to be on the lounge chair next to me and our other friend, Camille, was having a surgery, not a boob job, I'm her. - I remember that you were like, "Oh my God, I'm also having a surgery." And I was like, that's an interesting thing to bond over. I'm not, so maybe I leave. I don't know. And her surgery was for a legitimate medical problem. So was mine. Mine was a legitimate medical problem as well. Arguably a better surgery. Yes. She was like, something with her sinuses and I was like, oh, I'm getting my boobs done. Right. And then you stole the conversation from there because nobody wants to talk about their sinuses. And everybody wants to talk about their boobs. No one wants to talk about their sinuses. But that was like the first thing We connected on and then like I forget how we discovered it
But we discovered pretty quickly that we're both like we really firmly believe in the tenets of
spirituality and also we're both actors. This was yes There were a lot of similarities that began to come up as we saw each other more Yes, we're both actors and we're really interested in the same tendencies of spirituality. We're really big Gabby Bernstein fans somehow She came up. I think maybe one of us had the book out or somebody else was reading it and we just we went off It suddenly it suddenly came up
But that was like the start of it all and I think what's really interesting is we'll talk about this more is that Dom and I as we're friends again, we’re both actors and I've decided to put acting on the back burner so I can focus on this podcast and the book I'm writing 'cause I feel like that's what I'm being called to do right now. And at basically the same time, you also made the decision to take a step back from acting 'cause you wanna focus on life coaching. - Yes, and also I'm writing a book, not as prevalent as yours or pressing I should say, but Similar, similar in topic. - Yours is a collection of essays, right? - Yes, a collection of short stories, essays. But yeah, I remember us talking about this and the decision to do that because I remember you specifically were like I don't want it to feel like I'm giving up or I can't be successful doing it, but it's more just That's not my path at the moment There's something else that is more of a priority that I want to pivot towards which is always interesting with acting specifically because I think People assume when you stop doing it. It's because you can't yeah,
But that was actually a very interesting part of that conversation is I remember one of the reasons why I was really scared about giving up acting is because I was the embarrassment. And I was like, everyone's going to say like, ‘oh, she decided she couldn't do it.’ And then you had me think about my own opinion of myself and my view of myself. And I said, and I talk about this in my initial episode, It really was that eye -opening moment for me where I was like, if I went through everything that I went through and I just wanted to do the same things, I just still wanted to be an actor. That would be embarrassing for myself. Like, I didn't have any change in perspective after all this. - Yeah.
- We're both uniquely at this crossroads. And we both sort of decided, well, let me rewind 'cause we'll get to the bulk of the episode. But I wanna start by, Dom and I know each other. We go to the same gym slash co -working space. It's a lot of things. HEIMAT in Los Angeles, social club. It's a lot of things. That's how Dom and I know each other. We met-- - At the pool? - Up at the pool a year and a half ago now. - Wow. - Or almost a year, which is crazy. - Almost a year and a half ago. - She's my life coach. And I was kind of her first test client. - She was, yeah, The guinea pig. - Yes, and now you are in a course to be ICF Life Coach certified. - Yes, I am. - And I have other clients now too, but Gabriella was the first. - Yes, because you have to have other clients just for the course in order to get certified. - Of course. - So she's legit, she's not scamming me. She's not scamming me. - Not scamming her anymore, just the first. - She has to do this.
What I really wanna ask you is, because we met and we bonded over our spiritual, we both had this connection. - Yeah, our views. - What drew you to spirituality? - I think what draws mostly everybody, some sort of hardship, I wish it wasn't like that, I wish I just stumbled upon it when I was in an amazing place in my life, but I really struggled post -grad. I have always been someone where I kind of just like followed the plan in front of me, even when I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted to do, like I just wanted everything to be right. And so I studied the major that I thought would be the best and I got the best grades and I got the job before I graduated and did everything that I like could check off on my little list. And once I actually graduated and I got there, I was miserable. And I have never experienced that like I'm a very happy person. But at that time, I truly was so lost and confused because I did everything that I thought I was supposed to do and yet everything was so so hard and bad for me and it was at that time where I was kind of at another crossroads where it was like ‘okay do I just forge forward and continue doing this and learn to accept this and honestly be kind of unfulfilled and pretty unhappy? or do I do the scary thing and kind of wipe the slate clean, start over, like redefine myself and what I think success is and what I want and kind of step into that unknown?
So it was at that crossroads where I actually had a really, really pivotal conversation with a friend who had gone through something similar and she told me about the book, "The Universe Has Your Back" by Gabrielle Bernstein and I was desperate at that point. I was like, ‘okay, she sounds great. Like if she was in my shoes, I will try anything.’ Like it was the perfect time for me to read that. And it changed literally my entire life. Sounds so dramatic, but it's not at all. - It changed my life. - It changed my whole life. And from then on, it's just been like completely 180, a new direction. And I'm really glad that all that happened. I can't imagine where I would be without that one conversation though with my friend. I think about it all the time. I wasn't even going to call her that day. I was just like so sad, but it was meant to happen. - You got it because you were ready for it. - Exactly. - You got these things when you're ready for them.
Now, you grew up in Northern California. - Yes. - You went to college. - South Carolina. - South Carolina on the East Coast, and now we're in LA. - Yes. - I assume you came to LA to pursue the acting thing. - Interestingly, I Didn't. When I was really unhappy post -grad in that period of time. - Yes. - I was in San Francisco And I just wanted a change in general. I just didn't like it there. I needed like a radical change with all areas of my life. And honestly, it was the weather as cliche as that sounds. And yes, I wanted to pursue acting, but I could also have done that like in Atlanta where all my college friends were, which was another place. So it wasn't mainly because of that. I just wanted to be here. Honestly, I like California. I like it here. - You like it here? - Yeah, I do. Well, that's I'm glad you came here because that's how I found you. I'm glad I did too
I think this whole this crossroads that we we've touched on a few times is really interesting because that is what I want to talk about today because That's happened to me so much over the course of the last few years. Yeah, I'd - specifically with my accident, It started there because it started with I had everything taken away from every single thing. And I was like, where do I go? And I was frantically for a while, like just trying to make things work. And I needed to learn the importance of stillness and just being and stop trying to make things work and start just letting things happen to me. So I did that and I was in a really good place For a bit. I mean, I'm still in a great place. I was always in a great place, but I mean, I wasn't at a crossroads I was like good for like right. I don't know how long? like a little over a year? I was like good and then I came to another crossroads this Summer and this Summer that the crossroads for me was that It was a lot of things.
It was like stuff coming to a head with friends. I was moving, I was in litigation for a period of time after my accident and that had finally ended. So it was like, before that ended, I was so restricted in what I could do and now like it was all open and I could do whatever I wanted. And it was like, what do I do? Where do I go? And that's the one thing that I think is similar both as it pertains to my accident. Initially It happened crossroads number one and crossroads number two when we get to these crossroads in life. Albeit in losing a relationship that you think defines you or Not getting the job that you really really really want or something as drastic as like some sort of accident or whatever We wind up in these places and it's like well - Well fuck, I know what's wrong. I know what I need to change. I know, but where do I go? How do I do it? - It's like uncertain the way forward for sure. - Yes, and I think so much about life and growing up especially, like being in your 20s, is being comfortable, being uncomfortable. You've been so instrumental in all that I learned. So thank you.
How did you first find allowing yourself to be comfortable, being uncomfortable when you didn't know what to do, trusting stillness and just being? Okay, there's so many things. Well, my first instinct is to say I just had to, like I think I became more comfortable with the unknown and just kind of like surrendering, giving up the outcome by being forced to do that that over and over. It truly does get easier the more crossroads you come to because there'll be infinite crossroads in all of our lives, some bigger, some smaller, and seeing the actual proof that everything has worked out. And even in moments where they don't seem like big crossroads, but looking back on any disappointment you've had or anything that didn't go your way, even small, I feel like I'm really able to pinpoint why and it always makes sense after. Like looking back on things, I'm like,
okay, I'm so glad that didn't happen, even though I really did want it to happen because this other amazing thing came into my life or something happened that I wasn't expecting and that was better for me.
So it was first like truly looking at my past and seeing that, even when I wasn't aware of it necessarily, because it's happening regardless if we’re aware of it or not. So that was the first step, allowing it to actually happen and then gaining more confidence in it working out. And also just realizing that I really just wanted to control everything. I think when we don't know the path forward, we feel scared because we don't know what the unknown holds. We want to feel secure. So we therefore like manically trying to figure out, okay, this is my path, this is my path, this is my path. Even if they're not just to like have something to cling to and we really want to figure it out. - You want a path. - You want to figure it out when sometimes-- -
When you're at these crossroads, you want a path. You want the way forward. - And I found like,
okay, the way forward isn't going to be found in like that state of being. When you're in a frenzy and you're truly just trying to pick something to make yourself feel more at ease. Gabrielle Bernstein talks about this a lot. Like she says, ‘okay, forget what you think you need, what you think you want, just do what makes you feel good.’ So like, whether it's hobbies, anything, like if you're feeling good and you're feeling like happy and it's fun, that will lead you towards that next path so much more than you sitting down, like pulling your hair out, trying to control what's gonna happen next. And I think that is counterintuitive because in doing so, it might feel like you're not making progress. Maybe it feels like you're kind of just hanging out, playing, whatever. - I know how that feels. - But you're really not, 'cause that's bringing you closer to everything. And I've seen that so much in my life, and I do really trust that now, just through seeing it happen, and through seeing it in my friends. - Yeah.
- I feel like you definitely relate to that. - Yeah, I definitely relate to that. And when I was writing, working on my book, 'cause we're almost done with it, but when I was working on my book, I
texted you about this. I had this great moment where I compared trying to control it like desperately trying to control the outcome of what you think you need to helicopter parenting. I drew a direct parallel to the relationship between Troy Bolton and Coach Bolton in the High School musical Universe. So for those who are not familiar, basically When we try to control too much, we are helicopter parenting the Universe. And look at the High School Musical series, okay? Troy, he thought he was gonna play basketball and Coach Bolton, his father. Troy was gonna play basketball. That's what Troy was gonna do. He was team captain. That's all Troy was ever gonna be.
Then Troy meets Gabriela, but with one L. - I didn't even make that connection. - I know. He discovers his love for music, the theater arts, and for Gabriela. And he's like, "Well, why can't I do both?" And in high school, this is okay. But then in High School Musical 3: Senior Year, what happens? It's time for Troy to go to college. And they all think he's going to go to the University of Albuquerque, that's his, which I don't know if that's a fictional university. I haven't even seen the third one. So like, I'm at the edge of my seat. What is he gonna pick? And that's like been his plan for the last 18 years of his life, that he and his best friend, Chad, that's Corbin Blue, Chad, they're going to go to the University of Albuquerque and they're going to play on the basketball team, but Gabriela Montez, Gabriela is very smart. She's, she's going to Stanford. That’s a baddie. She's going to Stanford and Troy's like, ‘I don't want him to be far from Gabriela’ and Coach Bolton is like, this has been your-, he's been pressuring Troy basketball the whole series. and like, ‘this has been your plan, this has been your life, this has been all those things’. - Don't throw it away. -
What winds up happening? Troy says fuck you to his dad, says fuck you to Chad, chooses Gabriela and he decides to go to UC Berkeley. He's smart, but not as smart as Gabriela, feminism. - Still pretty smart, but not quite there. - Not as smart as Gabriela, he's not a woman. And he decides to go there, where he can play club basketball and also do some things with music. So what happens when you helicopter parent the Universe, Coach Bolton?
When you helicopter, the Universe is gonna, it's gonna wind up giving you something entirely different. The Universe does not like being helicopter parented. No one likes to be helicopter parented. And another thing I compared to is that like in the workplace hierarchy, right? The Universe is the CEO. And we, we're like VP level, like our opinion matters a lot, our opinion is valid, but like we're employees, we don't have final say. - Yeah, we don't have final say. - So like, you can like tell the Universe what you want, what you want to feel. - You can make some decisions. - But if - you try to make the actual plan, the Universe doesn't like that because you're going above the CEO and you're not, you're not supposed to do that.
- And when you do that, oftentimes, I mean, you know, you feel it, right? Like people aren't happy whether they put on a mask that says they are, but they're not. And you know when you're off path, like something I feel like your intuition can always tell you, it's just really scary to change. And I don't think a lot of people do. They don't always listen because they want their own path. They want what they think is right when we don't always know.
- Well, that's the next thing I wanted to talk to you about is the ego versus the soul. Our ego is us wanting to think that we are right and the Universe is wrong. But our soul knows love and light. It knows the correct way of being, so to speak. If you can call it correct, I don't know. But I don't think you can call it correct. - What we're meant to do. - Our purpose. - What we're meant to do. And I feel like you're very good at articulating the difference between ego and soul. You kind of taught me how to. - Well, thank you. I appreciate that. - Yes. - I'm glad it was helpful. - Yes. - I think the distinction, once you start paying attention to why you're doing things is pretty clear. I mean, our ego, it really cares about the opinions of others a lot. It's how things are going to look and be perceived. I mean, think about acting or, well, what if I quit this job and I do something so random? What are people gonna think? And it's also fear -based. The ego is constantly being fed by fear. So if that's what our decisions are being led by, it's our ego.
When it's our soul and our purpose, things should feel, we just know. Like there's just a sense of knowing where you feel at ease and calm and it might not even make sense. Like you could be thinking, "I want to stop acting and have a podcast and write a book," and maybe that doesn't make any sense logically or people have no idea why, but it doesn't deter you. Like you just, it feels right. And I think you do have to be in touch with yourself to know the difference between those two things. A lot of people aren't in touch with their intuition and just themselves. So if they don't take the time to like be with themselves and reflect and think, they might misinterpret those cues differently. But when you do take that time and get to know yourself and work on what that feels like, that yes, it's pretty easy to differentiate. Now, making that decision might not be easy, but knowing what you should do or what feels right to you should be easy when you get used to it. - Yeah, to take the next step.
And that's also a really hard part of trusting your intuition. That I've really had to work on is sometimes you just feel something, whether it's the decision to get out of this relationship. The decision that this friend is-- - And you have no proof. - Not, you have no proof. - And you're like, "What the fuck?" - You need to leave this job. - Yeah. - And you have no proof, but you just know. How do you get to that place of trusting yourself, but also not needing the proof? How do you become, because like I'm someone who, I'm an Aries, I really wanna be right. I want the facts, I want the data. - You want to know before you move - I think that's a work in progress. I mean, it's difficult for me even still, but like you said, there's been so many instances where I have this really strong gut feeling, but I don't have the proof. And yeah, I haven't listened to it, but what I find is you'll always get the evidence. It might not be immediately when you have the feeling though. So you can have the feeling, ignore it. Eventually you will get the evidence. And I think people always are like, ‘wow, I wish I would have listened to how I felt’ or ‘I wish I would have done that.’ And it's not too late, right? Like you can always make the change, but I think your life would be a lot easier and more in flow if you would have made it when you had your initial intuitive feeling about it.
I mean, I've had this in like a silly example, dating. You like go out with someone and they're great. There's nothing wrong with them. You just, I don't know, I've had feelings, such strong feelings where I'm like, they're not, they're not for me. And I didn't know why. And I'm like, but that's, I don't want to write them off. I think we rationalize so much when we have those feelings. Cause sometimes we also don't want to do what that feeling is saying. Like, ‘oh, I want to keep going out with this person’ or ‘I want to stay in this job.’ It's easier, it's exciting. And I've ignored it - always down the line. Have I been like, okay, now I know why. I didn't know it then. I knew it intuitively, but I didn't have the reasons listed out. So I think seeing that for myself so many times, again, it's like proof, like you prove it to yourself throughout your life. Look for those examples and you can say, okay. And then when you do trust yourself, it's just always so much more natural. - I mean, it's a work in progress. - Yeah, for me too. - I've had to really, really work on that one.
- It's definitely hard when you feel a little insane because you're like-- - I know, people ask you why and you're like, I can't tell you, like just trust me? Like I just trust myself? That's hard when people are asking you, when others are asking you for the evidence. - But I've had so many rewarding moments where I'm like, I just know. And then later it comes to light. - And you're like, ‘huh!’ - Yeah, you're like, ‘everybody! - See, I said it, I said it.’ - I do think also, and we touched, -
I know we've touched on this in our sessions together a little bit, like we weaken that inner voice so much just in everyday mundane things, like I don't know how it is for men, maybe it's a little less, but I know as a female, we check with our friends on everything we do. Like ‘should I wear this? Should I text this? What do you think this means?’ Like everything we get an input on. And I'm not saying advice is bad because advice can be great and helpful. And I always consult my really trusted friends, but I think we need to be careful about who we ask and also how often. Because by doing all those things, by themselves are not inherently bad or wrong, but we learn to just rely on, like we take all of this evidence and it can kind of muddle our own inner voice. If we can just start making everyday easy decisions on our own that do not need to be consulted, that would really strengthen, I think, our trust in ourselves and our intuition. And it starts with those things.
- That's a big thing I learned specifically with coming, like being at these places in my life, where I had to let go of acting, or I had the option for career changes, or this summer I had the opportunity to like keep dating someone, or like stop doing that. - Oh, I remember. - Yes, like I think one of the biggest things of these like crossroads, so to speak, is learning that you can't go to everyone for everything.
And something that I talk also a lot about in my book is that not every friend you can go to for everything. And that's fine. You can have many friends. But I have friends who like, I won't go to for advice on guys. I have friends who I won't go to advice on like dealing with my family, like, you know. - People have their purpose. - Everyone sort of has their purpose. And I think it is important to be more, especially as we get older, like our levels of consciousness are not the same as our friends.
And like, I feel like in post -grad, you really see that. Like, whichever friends still kind of-- - The mindset, the lifestyles, things really start to shift. Yeah. And you have to learn like, Oh, in college, I could go to this person for everything for XYZ when we were living very similar lives. But now that we're living different lives, I don't actually think I'm getting solid advice from this person on this specific area. Because when you're at a crossroads, whether it's choosing to, are you going to get out of this this toxic relationship, are you gonna start to explore this new career endeavor? Are you gonna finally set the boundary to not talk to this person or not and or stand up to your boss at work and like have your limits? Like we almost want like approval from everyone that We're- validation - that we're making the right choice to do this thing to either pivot
into this new career or embark on this new hobby.
- I definitely resonate with that. I mean, I still struggle with that. It's, it really just stems from like, if we don't trust ourselves fully, which most of us don't, why would we when we're told to constantly seek advice? when we're told that people who are older than us know better? Like we're not really taught to trust ourselves as much as I think people assume we are. But needing that validation, yeah, for me, it's more, okay, I have an idea of what I want to do. Now I need everybody to agree with me so I can say, okay, yeah, that is right. I think it's so powerful to not need any of those external voices. You can still share it with them, but it shouldn't sway you.
And for me in the past, it really has swayed me, specifically parents too. I think as you get older and you're in your 20s, you learn with adults and your parents, okay. They might not agree with this but that also doesn't mean it's wrong and it doesn't mean that they're right and I've gone through a lot of things where my parents have very very much not been for what I'm doing or they're worried and they're scared and they're like but your security you know specifically in that tough time post grad I ended up quitting a job with no other job they were really not a fan of that but I just I knew and that was kind of the first time that I didn't care what anyone else thought about that and I had to trust myself. I think it's easiest to do that in times where it's really difficult because nobody else knows what you're experiencing and there comes a time where like staying is harder than changing. There's a tipping point.
Yes, real quick I want to talk about that more because that's very interesting. You left your job and you did not have another job lined up. I left my job, my college boyfriend and I broke up, I wanted to move. It was like, I find myself doing a lot of things at once during my crossroads, it's like one thing happens and I'm like, awesome, I have momentum to do like 10 other things now and we're just going forward, which is good but also can be overwhelming. I've gotten a lot better at it now but yeah, I was miserable in my job even though I was like top performer, I was getting promoted, I was making money, I lived in a cool place in San Francisco, had a long distance boyfriend from college. He was playing football still. And everything like on paper was great. I was the most unhappy I've ever been. Literally nobody supported me in wanting to quit, move, do any of those things, which shocked me because I was like, if they knew how I felt, surely they must…How could they not support me? But people are also so bound by their own fear and only what they know. So I mean, my parents as well intentioned as they were, were worried for me. ‘Don't quit your job. It's easier to get a job when you have one.’ That's such a common expression I hear all the time. And I hate it because if you're so unhappy, like I disagree.
Obviously, of course, you need to have a certain level of security. And I was lucky enough to have savings. But I've had a lot of friends who have been very, very unhappy and stuck. And their parents have really, really not been in support of it, and you tend to trust that advice, right? They're older, they've been through it. But I'm like, hey, you know what you have to do? Like, if you feel so unfulfilled and so down, I also don't think you're gonna attract another opportunity. Like, you need to get right with yourself first. So I did that, and I had no idea what was gonna happen, and everything worked out so much better than I could've planned.
- So you're like a trailblazer trailblazer of sorts. You like, I mean, I try. No one was supporting you. Actually, I was interesting. I was just talking with someone about this like a few hours ago. We were talking about how new opportunities and great things in whether that's new relationships, new career opportunities, new friendships, all that stuff can't come in if you are still holding on to any of the old stuff. And like this woman specifically was telling me about how her and her ex, she was still kind of seeing him, you know, that like that situation. - Oh, I know, I get it. - And she eventually was like, if I don't fully ax this man, nothing's gonna come in. And she was like, as soon as I left him, she was like, it's not that a new man showed up. It's not, I'm not saying girls need to be depended on a man , 'cause as soon as I left him, career things started happening. Like she goes, I made all these, I met all these new friends. And she was like, but that only happened. And she was like, it was almost an instant.
- When it was full, I basically just went through the same, not just, but recently in this last year, same exact thing. And I think we're so good at convincing ourselves that we've let go of
things and that we've just surrendered when we really haven't. Like, oh, yeah, I'm over this person, but I'm still secretly kind of hoping that things work and we'll talk here and there, that's not surrender. I convince myself of this all the time. I'm like, ‘I'm good, I'm over this. I'm letting this thing go’ and I'm not exactly what the woman you were speaking to said happened. As soon as I fully, fully surrendered, and that's like the hardest part, right? 'Cause you can kind of partially surrender, it doesn't matter, it has to be all or nothing. Everything changed. - Yes, yes. - Literally everything.
You know that like my life has been completely different in the past five months because I had this feeling of momentum once I did that to make all these other changes and all these amazing things came in and I was like, wow, when will I learn? When will I learn to just let things go so much sooner so this can happen? 'Cause it takes a long time sometimes for us to do that.
- I mean, that was true with my accident when I finally had my moment where I went on my LoveYourBrain retreat in March 2023 and that was really the catalyst for like my spiritual growth and for 20 months I just been trying to fit back into the same life and it wasn't working. I had been trying to do the exact same things that Gabriella 1.0 was doing be friends with the exact same people and it wasn't working at my career opportunities. Nothing was going my way surgeries were even going wrong because it was focusing and it was only when I, completely Surrendered and just gave up and at least know that like, I met a bunch of new friends. I like really got happy with my life and like really got happy. Like it didn't matter that my career wasn't thriving. I was just truly happy like– - There were so many other areas that could improve too. -
Like I feel like my career, 'cause at this recent Crossroads I was at this Summer, I feel like now my career has like gone. - You had to let go of other relationships and other things bringing your energy down. Exactly. To expand in areas that weren't even friends and relationships. Yes, and it's almost instant. Like the day before I first saw this place, first met Diego who owns this place and is kindly letting me use it, but like the first place I had like a final straw moment and like literally the day before I came to this place, which is just insane. And I was like, I needed to have that final straw moment and officially let go of X to have all this.
- It's so funny that way. I mean, again, I always say, I wish I would have done this sooner, but everything truly is happening exactly how it's supposed to. And if it's not as soon as we want, it's because we're learning something that we needed to learn or perhaps a lesson that wasn't cemented before. So we need to go through it again. And yeah, that's frustrating, but also, it's just what we need. And I feel like I see that over and over. And so at this point, I'm like, OK, I don't know shit. I don't know the timing. I don't know what any of this is going to go. I think I know. But also, if that doesn't happen, I know that it's going to work out regardless. And having that belief is so concrete to everything.
That was the main takeaway from that first bout with spirituality back when I was figuring all my stuff out post -grad. It was like, okay, everything is always working out. Everything always works out for me and everything is always positive. - Everything is always working out for us. - People don't have that belief. Like it's actually interesting, like we do. We say it all the time and it sounds funny and silly, but like your beliefs create everything. So if you do not think that and you think the world is this hard, terrible place and you have to struggle to get results, it's like, that's
what's gonna happen. Adopting this one belief will change everything. - Delulu positive is literally the only way-- - It really is. - To go.
I've had, I don't know why we keep using dating as an example, but I feel like it's the most-- - I feel like it's the most relevant, it's not as deep. - As soon as I started embodying 'cause it's not as relevant, it is so easy to meet guys, which is not-- - We talked about that in our session. So many people are like, ‘men suck, dating in LA sucks.’ Well, yeah, if you think that, yeah, it's gonna suck for you. - Everyone says, yes. - You're gonna only find evidence of that. - Everyone says that dating in LA sucks. I said that for years. As soon as I started-- - I disagree. - As soon as I started being like, it is so easy for me, guys. - Exactly. - I meet guys like, every time I go out. - Everywhere I go, I meet quality people. - I do, I do. - It's not hard. - Yeah, it's not hard. - It totally changes it. and it's like, okay, your brain will start to like prove your beliefs right, like look for the evidence to support your beliefs, positive or negative. - Exactly. - So why not
make it positive? There's no downside.
- Yes, but last thing I wanna touch on before we go on to our second theme, the last thing I wanna touch on is, we've talked a lot about surrendering, and a lot, like you had to make that decision to like officially let go. And this is something that I've really learned lately. Part of growth and development is that it's not all fun all the time. Oh my god no it's fucking hard. No like living. It's scary and it's hard that's why people don't want to do it. When you are developing, when you are growing, when your vibrations are increasing, things are going to no longer serve you that used to serve you because you're actively taking steps up. So a lot's gonna fall away like having no job, like moving, like anything in a relationship.
And I think that is something that I just really wanna hammer home and make sure that we say. Part of spiritual growth and development, it's not fun all the time. - It always turns out okay. And it's amazing, I would say. But yes, it's difficult to make those decisions. Once you feel called to that's never easy, right? You have to explain yourself to other people. You don't know what's going to happen. That's scary. We want to feel comfort. And then exactly as you said, in making those decisions or even without making those decisions, because when you start raising like your vibration and your energy and you're elevating yourself, even if you're not actively making radical change, people that are not in that same energy will not be in your life. Things will not work the same.
So again, it might not even be like you're actively changing, things will just start moving away. - And you'll start seeing that like people that like, you were really good friends with and you really did fit with. It's like, what the fuck? That's I'm gonna talk about this more when I talk about my conversation with the Universe while I was on shrooms. But you're like, what the fuck? like we're not a match like I thought we were I thought we were boys yeah nothing happens like but no it's just same your consciousness not in a bad way it's not in the bad way you're just vibing at different levels and it's neither is wrong or right you're just different I've yeah
I've definitely experienced that where I feel like I'm going through like massive phases of growth and I'm doing really well and not to say that my friends aren't but It's just a different, it's different. And I've noticed like, oh, they're not reaching out as much. You know, we're not as close and it made me sad. And then I was like, you know, they probably also are like, they don't know it as much as I do like the why, but I'm sure they're probably just feeling disconnected as well. And the reason is we're just not, we're not in the most compatible place right now. And it's not bad or good that doesn't mean you can't be friends with them. Doesn't mean that they're a bad person. doesn't mean that they're also not growing, going through their own journey, but it's on both sides. It's not just us feeling that way. Like other people feel it too, whether they identify the why or not. - Yeah, exactly. Other people feel that too.
And it's like, for example, like it's not like I'm not friends with somebody that I can't go to and tell them all my like, times I fuck guys. Like it's not, it's not, I mean, I said, but it's not like that's, again, we're using the dating. You know, but It's just like, it's not like if there's somebody that I don't want to discuss career things with, it's not like they're no longer my friend. It's not like that. It's just not. - It's natural. You can try and force it and try and control it or you can just let it happen. And I've done both, so. - I've done both and sometimes people do fall away.
But I was upset about something in a particular situation and this was a particular situation that had been making me upset for a while. It's one of the things that was at my crossroads. I had this conversation with this person and it was like this thing kept arising, this thing kept arising. And I had a conversation with this person and I was just like in tears. Like I'm just like, I don't know why it just won't stop. Like I don't know why it won’t leave me the fuck alone. And they said to me like ‘I'm really sorry that you're going through it.’ And like I have this sort of like moment where I claimed and I was like, ‘I am not going through it in any other area of my life. In every other area of my life, dating, friends, career, I was like, in my career, in dating, in new relationships and in old relationships and in old friends, fitness, that's all going excellent. I'm not
going through it.’ And that was like sort of like claiming that and like realizing like ‘oh yeah this one area this one piece is making me so uncomfortable and so upset and draining my energy, but if I focus on all these other things I'm doing great in all these other places’ and that's what we should be focusing on we should be focusing on what's thriving it's easy to forget when things are tough but but yeah, to remind yourself of all the things that are going well. - Yes, focus on positivity. - 'Cause there's always things that are going well.
- And now, we've said all this. - Said all this. - We've said all this, which leads us to theme two, which is an SOS. When you want to send up an SOS, you've listened to this episode,
you've taken up my recs, you've read The Universe, Has Your Back, and you're like, "Oh, I know this Universe." - Changed your life already. - It changed your life. - Like it changed ours. - And you're like, make sure my, okay. - It's not the boob episode yet. - It's not the boob episode yet. That's next week. You're like, I know, I do my meditations. I know all the ways I'm supposed to be thinking. And then something happens that rocks you. It could be with a person. It could be with a situation at work. It could be something with your family. Something happens that rocks you.
This is one of the things that this happening every October it's the year anniversary of my accident and every October since my accident it hasn't been that many but every October since that accident it's a hard month for me and I am not thinking the way I'm supposed to be thinking and I and at my crossroads experience this summer I was not thinking the way I was supposed to be thinking and I was like saying really not spiritual correct ways. And I was like, ‘Gabby would not be proud of me,’ Gabby Bernstein. And I was like, ‘I am not love and light.’ And I was like, but no, you have these moments where you're like, I know how I'm supposed to be. I know how I'm supposed to be thinking. And you think you failed as a spiritual student. And you're like, I've done all this work. I poured all this hours into meditation and affirmation saying, and it's all for nothing. I failed as a spiritual student, the SOS goes up for forgiveness, for failing.
- I think this might be an area that I, I'm not that I don't struggle with it, but I feel like I have a lot of grace for myself in this area. I don't view any of that as failing. The fact that you even are aware of these new ways of thinking is such a win. Like think back to before you were the Gabrielle you are now. You weren't aware of spirituality. - When I was Gabriella 1.0 - 1.0, she didn't know any of this she wasn't aware of it She wasn't even trying to make progress in these areas, and we're only human like part of that is- or are we dancers- Yeah, are we human or are we dancers regardless? We're not perfect either way and I know a lot of us are perfectionists But we do know that we will always make mistakes. We will always kind of like backtrack a little bit.
And I think it's just important to know when you're doing that that it's not failure. It's actually amazing that you're even able to realize that and it's so easy to shift back. Easy isn't the right word, it's so doable. Once you recognize it, all you have to do is forgive yourself and say, you know what, okay, I'm gonna choose again. Gabby Bernstein always talks about this. It takes one instant to change your mood, change your energy. It takes one day, one moment to change your life. Things can happen so quickly. So you can shift from that negative to that positive quickly and then you can shift back and then you'll, that's just our journey as people. Like there's nothing we can do to prevent that. I go through it, you go through it. And just knowing that wholeheartedly makes it so much easier. Knowing that when you feel on top of the world, inevitably, you will falter. - Yes. - Okay, we already know that. It's gonna happen, it is what it is that can kinda help us knock it so down on ourselves.
There's nothing we should or shouldn't be doing. All we need to do is focus on how we wanna feel. These are the actions and beliefs that help me feel the way I want to, then that's what I'm going to always fall back on. And one last thing I wanna say is I know When you are in a really really good place and then these challenges happen sometimes I find myself being like I thought I already learned this lesson like I I don't understand. That's a big one for me. It's it's not Oh, I failed. It's I just I don't understand why if I've been on such a good track But a quote that really stuck with me was ‘maybe the Universe isn't testing you, Maybe it's giving you an opportunity to prove that you are the person you say you are’ So for me, instead of like, ‘Oh, here's another test I got to go through. Here's another lesson I have to learn.’ It's like, I already am this person. This is a really good opportunity where I can prove that I am this person. How would this person act? And this like, what would they do? Cause I am that person now. So it's not a test. It's just another way I can show that to myself and put that out there at others. And this is why you're my life coach. Uh, and this is why you're a mic drop. So, so - Yeah, so, no, because it is true that forgiveness sets you free. Like that is ultimately what forgiveness– - Especially forgiveness to yourself.
- Yes, but I had a hard time forgiving myself after this summer specifically. Like I really had to embody that forgiveness sets me free. And something that I've really learned throughout the discovery of my spiritual, whatever, spiritual journey, the spiritual awakening. And I knew this, I knew this before the Summer, but I, this Summer it was really hammered in is the goal of spirituality and the goal of being a spiritual student is not to think the right way a hundred percent of the time. Yeah. The goal of spirituality is to get back to thinking the right way as quickly as possible.
Exactly. It's that shift when you find yourself in these darker moments, recognizing it and being like, okay, now I have the tools to get myself out of this. And it might not be instantly, like I said, sure that's possible, but maybe it takes a day. That's okay. In the past, God, it would take me weeks. - Oh my God. - Months, like who knows? Now I'm like, okay, I can really, even within a day, that's such a win, any improvement is a win.
- To really feel the emotions and let go of them, you have to let yourself fully feel them. Like if you put any of it down, it will always be like attached to you in some way. And my neuropsychologist, Dr. Anne Gottuso, she gave me this really sort of helpful tool. That was what she taught me was give yourself a time limit. And when something goes wrong, you decide what amount of time you think is appropriate. And like, depending on the situation, it can obviously change. So if it's like something like a breakup, it might be, I don't know, three weeks, it might be two months, depending on how significant the person was. It might be a year, depending on how much that person was to you. If it's something like just something at work, that was like, give yourself a time limit, 20 minutes, six hours, four days, whatever it is, and I've done this. And she’s like, and for that amount of time, you can be as angry as you want. You can be as sad as you want. You can be thinking the wrong way as much as you want 'cause you have to let the emotion move through you. But when the time limit is up, back on that positivity mindset and you can't, you can't let it get at you anymore. And that's really helped me 'cause like, letting yourself off the hook, giving yourself that grace and the freedom to throw a temper - Yeah. - and just be fucking mad. - Just feel it, yeah. - About whatever it is. - You have to. - We need that. - We do.
I used to not like crying. I'm definitely like an emotional person, but I'd always feel when things happen, like, okay, I should be over it. But like letting yourself fully feel that, like God, now if I like have to cry about something, I'm like, thank God, like get it out. Like it's, you feel so much better. - I love. - I think of it like a tank. Every time you like release that lower and lower until you're not holding on to it anymore. I think people resist it so much. I first of all have no shame in my tears too much. Like I, like I'm over emotional places where it's like, okay, read the room a little bit. Like no need for it. No, no, no, no, just, it's like, you're, you're in public. You're at this setting. Like maybe, maybe not. But sometimes I really want to cry and like, I can't same, I'm like, I just - need a good cry, let me. - I know, I'm with you on that.
- I think forgiveness is like self -forgiveness. It's the most freeing thing in the world.It truly forgiveness sets you free because it's like I'm allowed to not be thinking the right way all the time. - Even when it is for other people, like it's a gift that you give to yourself. It has nothing to do with the other person. If it's about yourself, then of course you're forgiving yourself, but even in relationships, - You're not doing it for, you're never doing it for anyone but yourself, truthfully. - It's always for yourself. - It is. - It's always for yourself. - You're only hurting yourself when you're hanging on to that negativity. - The other person's reality is not your reality. - Yeah. - Yeah, now.
- Now. - Two things. - Two things. So I wanna have my spiritual moment of the week. - Okay. - I do this every-- - Tell me. - I do this every episode. So my spiritual moment of the week, this week. And this Tears this it goes back to tears and not the prime look prime location. Okay Tears in inappropriate places. Yes So I was at my co -working space. HEIMAT Where I’d met Dom and I was you know working and my Dad asked me to call him So I called my Dad and he gave me some not very cash money news. Oh, yeah, definitely negative cash money negative cash money news
And now with my injury, it used to be several hours that I did this, but I've gotten it down to like 10, 15 minutes which is a win. When something goes wrong, my brain goes into fight or flight. I have a frontal lobe injury. - That is a win to get it down that much, that's amazing. - Hopefully one day it will be zero today is not that day, but my brain goes into fight or flight, that's what it does. 'Cause I have a frontal lobe injury which is executive function, it's problem Solving it's your ability. It's emotional rationality. It's basically your - it's interpersonal relationships and interpersonal Like it's just it's your ability to read the room
So my Dad tells me this bad news while I'm in a public Public setting public say people are working. Yes public setting and as I just said with my No shame in my tears like a little too much is I'm tearing up. I wasn't fully crying, but it was so not great news. I was, I was flabbergasted and like, again, fight or flight, like, and I, I'm a New York, Italian, and like, we don't hold back on those F bombs like fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck, like, like, like, and it was, it was not cool. I finally like am like, I need to leave.
So I get up and I leave. And the entire time I'm going home, I'm like, Why did he call me and tell me this while I'm in a public setting? My Dad knows how my brain works. He knows it better than most - better than everyone. Like, why would he have done that when I'm in a public setting? Like, why didn't, and he didn't know I was in a public setting. Like he's like, it was quiet behind you. I didn't know. Which then I'm like, and this is communication. Why communication is important. I said next time, just ask. And he didn't ask. he just assumed communication is important, he didn't ask. And now we know you need to ask, but whatever. I'm driving home and I'm thinking, why did he not ask if I was in a public setting? Like, why did he, he knows what that's gonna do to me? Now I've lost the workday where I was gonna be so productive 'cause I'm so upset when if he had just waited until I got home, Like I'm just like why?
as I'm you know driving home a car Rear ends me. I know I keep getting hit by cars, but this one we do this one was Like, this one was better There was there was no major damage. It was nothing, but this car Bumps me and I'm like are you fucking kidding me? And I get out in support I get on my car and because I do have an experience being assaulted by automobiles, my first thought process before I address anything is to take a picture of shawty’s license plate.
And then I'm like, "Ma 'am, did you just hit me?" And she tried to say yes, but only because the person behind her hit her, like hit her into me. The person behind me, they're on the job, they're driving a company car, they're driving, they're driving for a workplace. She says this. And the woman in the car behind me goes, ‘no, that is not what happened. What happened was you hit her, me first, and then you backed up because you hit me and you backed up into my truck.’ So she hit two people. So she hit two people. She hit two for one.
And they're like, they're fighting back and forth about what, who hit, who, what happened. And
I'm just like, my car is not damaged, but the woman behind me in the company car her car's fucked up so we go to pull over we're like we should pull over and I was like I'm gonna pull over too even though my car wasn’t damaged I was like I'm technically involved so we go to pull over while we're pulling over the bitch that hit both of us fucking drives away fucking fucking hit hit and run but luckily no one was hurt hit talk and run they hit talk and run fucking drives away and
The woman who's driving the company car is so upset because it's the girl backed into her. So it's gonna look like she re -rendered her. So she's gonna get in trouble at work. They're not gonna take her seriously. They're not gonna believe her. And they hadn't exchanged information yet. We were pulling over. They hadn't exchanged information. Like this girl legitimately fled the scene 'cause she knew she was gonna get fucked. And this woman was like so upset and she was like, and then all of a sudden, I remember and I go, ‘oh wait, I have a picture of her license plate.’ I was like, ‘I have a picture of her license plate.’ And I was like, ‘oh, and I have a dash cam.’ I was like, and ‘I have a dash cam. So I have a video.’ - You have literally everything. - I have a rear and my dash cam is front and back. - Shout out to Will for installing those. - Shout out to my friend Will for installing my dash cam.
I was like, I have a video of exactly what happened and she's like, ‘oh my God, God bless.’ So I have the license plate, give that to her supervisor and I'm able to share the video because I have it. - You were meant to be there. - I have it clear as day that this girl hit me, then backed up into the company car. So I probably saved this woman. - Saved her job. - So I probably saved her job. And now like, she can get her car 'cause she can go track it down. She's not paying for this car. She's not paying for this car. She can go handle this herself. And I was meant to be there because if I hadn’t been there, who knows if this accident would have happened. We don't know what would have happened. But you were there and you helped them. I was there. And if I had not been there, I like, I really, really helped someone.
And that's why we're here. We're here to bleed positivity into the world. That's why I have this podcast. That's why I'm writing my book. And I really, really helped someone. - I'm sure it helped you too. Like you were in a not a good mood. And to be able to do that for someone else and be like of service only makes you feel better too. - I was in a terrible mood and people did really fucked up shit to me. And that was me saying, I'm not stooping to that level. I'm gonna be a good person. Because like I didn't have, if I was a selfish motherfucker, I didn't have to like take the time out of my day to like have a conversation with her supervisor, - you could have driven away,- give a statement to the police, like get all the footage, like I didn't have to do that. But because like I took a couple hours out of my day, which doesn't sound like the biggest thing, but people in their 20s can be fucking selfish, I took a couple hours out of my day to handle this situation that was purely helping someone else. It wasn't for me at all.
After I just been, - What is the spiritual moment? - Butt fucked by a few other People. - Graphic as always, lovely. - That's what I think the real hook of this podcast is, is we are discussing spirituality. - Graphically. - But it's fun, it's a good talk. - In a way you've never heard it before. - No, no, no, that is what Gabby, Brinstein and I-- - Graphic spirituality. - Differ on - I think we’re-- - I think we're on to something here. - Graphic spirituality, that's a great thread. - Let's think on
that. - Okay, I'm-- - We're gonna chat about this later, we'll doodle. - Yeah, we'll be
in touch.
But that was my spiritual moment of the week, but now what I wanna do is, every week, I give a recommendation to my listeners, a book, a movie, a whatever that I feel can help spiritual growth in some way. - Ooh. - And I've decided, and you're my first guest, so you're the guinea pig. That one I've guests on, I'm gonna ask guests. What's your rec? - Okay, so one of my favorite movies, it's a comedy movie, it's called ‘I Feel Pretty.’ It has Amy Schumer in it. It's hilarious. I think not only is it so funny, it is such a powerful, uplifting movie. I honestly watch this movie anytime I'm feeling down. If I'm ever feeling kind of like Secure I think this movie is incredible essentially the theme is Amy Schumer plays this really really insecure Doubtful woman who is like not going after what she wants struggling in dating like kind of dead -end job nothing's really going right for her and She falls off of a SoulCycle bike one day hits her head.
She has TBI?! She has a TBI?! I didn't plan this. Well, no no traumatic brain injury, but does hit her head pretty hard. They think she has a concussion. She wakes up. - Concussions are TBI's. They're mild. - Yes, she is a TBI. - They're mild TBI's, they're mild TBI's, but they're TBI's. We are learning so much more about the concussions and brains. - I feel like I'm learning a lot. - Yeah. - She has a TBI.
She wakes up and she sees herself as the most beautiful woman in the world. Like we still see her as the same, not that she isn't beautiful, but we see her as she was before when she looks in the mirror she's like I'm a fucking supermodel like look at my abs look at my face and people are like what the fuck's wrong with her okay that change in perspective her confidence everything in her life shifts dramatically like the way she holds herself her beliefs about what people think of her everything changes she meets an amazing man she gets this incredible promotion at work other like supermodel men are like like after her, all these fun things happening. She's so confident, she's putting herself out there. It has a great ending, you should watch it.
But for me, it's so powerful because it just reinforces. - Delulu positive! - It's not even Delulu though, it's like what you believe about yourself, like your self image and self concept is so powerful. Like if I think I'm beautiful, I'm attractive, all these things, it will be mirrored back. If I'm not confident, if I don't think I'm good enough like that will be mirrored back to me by the relationships, the things, everything. So it truly is like, it doesn't even matter in the movie what you look like or what you feel like, it's what you choose to believe and how you act on it can change everything. And I think that's such a powerful message in like a really silly comedy movie. But I love it. It's so true. It is. And it changes everything.
And I, we last month, I mean Dom, we had a dinner party that I hosted last night and it was great and I did a I passed an audition and she cooked really well. I had a moment because it was just habit because this is the way I used to think and the way I thought two years ago three years after my accident it was just the way I used to think where I forget what it was that was said but I said ‘oh yeah it's another reason to not like myself’ because that's the way I used to think. And as soon as I said it, I was like-- - I said, "Who are you?" - I said, "That is so not fucking true. I love myself, so I'm my biggest fan. I'm so obsessed with myself." - We like, we have to be. Everything we believe about ourselves is mirrored. - It's so true. Like, I am truly obsessed with myself. - She is truly obsessed with herself. - And Dom is also truly obsessed with herself. And-- - I like to think I'm more understated about it, but I'm a fan. - I'm very loud. I'm an extrovert, I'm very loud about it. I'm very dramatic. It truly changes your entire experience, whether it's in work, friendships, relationships. - Everything stems from it.
Literally, like if there's one core thing-- - Abundance, yeah. - Your self -concept. - Your self -concept. - Like everything extends from that. I talk a lot about that. We’ve talked a lot about it in your coaching sessions too. - Yeah. - 'Cause a lot of us, if we think of a tree, we're like at the branches, trying to change that. But it's like, the root is literally always your self -concepts and your beliefs. Everything else stems from that. If you're not at the root, you can kind of change things, but it's not gonna be as big a change.
And this movie articulates it in such a fun way that I think everybody should watch it. Shit, I might go watch it. Who knows? - I haven't seen it. - I'm gonna re -watch it. - I haven't seen it. - You'll love it. - I know what it is like I'm familiar with the movie, but I've never seen it. - We're gonna watch it. - All right, this is a good chat. - This was good, thanks for having me.
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