Are we more about “what we do” than “who we are”? The world likes to define who we are by what we do and accomplish, which is totally backwards. What we do should flow from who we are. While Doing and Being are related, it is the order they come in that is critical. If we define ourselves by what we have done (achievements, accomplishments) then we place our value (self-worth) in the hands of others. Consider defining our self-worth as a being made in God’s image.

The Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector found in Chapter 18 of Luke’s gospel, clearly shows the link between doing and being. The Pharisee was all about what he did – tithing, fasting while the Tax Collector knew his being – he was a sinner in need of God’s mercy. There is also the story of Martha and Mary, again found in Luke’s Gospel. Martha is all about doing – all the acts of hospitality. While Mary is simply about being at the feet of Jesus. Jesus notes that Mary chose the better part. While Doing and Being are related, it is the order they come in that is critical. In this instance there was more value in being present with Jesus than a focus on doing.

This struggle between being and doing starts early and is often innocently encouraged. Schools focus on preparing us for our life’s work, our doing, not what we could become. We inspire their dreams which are all great dreams, but they are all related to doing and accomplishments, not being. We ask our children what they want to do when they grow up - be a veterinarian, banker, professional athlete, etc. Although we may phrase it as “what do you want to be” we are asking for the title of what the doing is based on. Those dreams tell us nothing about who our children are, or want to be, inside.

In Paul’s letter to the Galatians (5:22-23) he talks about the fruit of the Spirit - “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” When do we ever embrace or applaud these inner qualities of others? They don’t seem to fit within the world of competitive sports or business.

Being well is an evaluation against our true north or purpose, not necessarily scoring the merits of our actions. Doing good and being well must work hand in hand. In sports, Lance Armstrong and Barry Bonds were driven to do great things, yet their actions were less than ethical. Businesses want to be well through investing in social impact, sustainability, and philanthropy. They would fund a thousand buzzwordy programs rather than fundamentally alter their own behavior. 

What you and I do feeds what we become. The focus moves from doing to being. Here is where our doing feeds our being. Community is not an option we choose to participate in, like a club or group, it is not a DOING. Community is a fundamental aspect of our being. One of the great joys in life is being part of a community.

One of the tragedies of Alzheimer is that it not only strips away what we are capable of doing but ultimately impacts our being. It is not the loss of doing that creates sadness as age and other infirmities can do that too. It is the loss of being that makes this illness despicable.

It will be our being and not our doing that matters most. Being versus doing; distinguishing between them and their order will make all the difference in the lives we live. We also need to go the additional step and take time to know the ‘beings’ around us and not just focus on what they do. Let’s answer His call, let’s leave a legacy and BE a difference in His Kingdom. 

Rejoice and Godspeed.

Ordinary things, days, events, people, etc., without something noteworthy tied to them will fade from memory and become part of the blur. What can’t be remembered is forgotten. What is forgotten never gets deposited into our memory banks. What doesn’t get deposited is that which does not strike a chord.

Extraordinary things are another story. There is no generic definition of extraordinary, noteworthy or ‘big’ does not guarantee something being memorable. But one thing is for certain – to qualify it must strike a chord. Anything that strikes a chord will be remembered longer than usual. If it really strikes a chord, it can remember it forever. It is striking a chord that creates the legacy.

My analogy of leaving a legacy is like the wake behind a boat. The wake that is left behind a boat exists because of the water being moved by the boat, actually the term is displaced. The wake (i.e. legacy) is there as a result of the boat (i.e. event, ourselves) moving or displacing the water around it (i.e. others). Consider the wake left behind an aircraft carrier – a lot of displacement occurs behind the huge ship which creates a huge wake and a significant trail. We all have people in our lives who are like an aircraft carrier and leave a longer lasting legacy.  

It is important to note that success is not the standard for leaving a legacy; significance is. Success is when results exceed expectations, but who sets those expectations (others – coaches, bosses, Wall Street, etc.) and often uncontrollable factors significantly influence results as well as performance. Success is wonderful but significance is even better. As individuals we were created and put here to make a difference, contribute and leave a mark on the people around us, and move His kingdom forward. We are not defined by someone else’s scorecard. 

The ‘coin of mattering’ is the currency that values how we have existed and spent time on earth. Mattering is investing in what we profess to care about, what we love, and what we value. It is the essence of what it means to be human, the true purpose and reason for what we do. It is an investment of time, energy, attention, and passion in relationships; all components of a life well lived. The capacity to dream, wonder, imagine, create, build, transform, better, and love. It is a responsibility to live a life that matters. Not just for the sake of our own self-gratification, but for the enduring obligation of fulfilling the privilege of life and serving those around us.

The greatest asset on the mattering ledger is love; one person caring for another. Thomas Merton said, “Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another.” Knowing this and living it are not the same. To matter, it cannot be a mere passing idyllic infatuation or fascination, but must be an enduring, intense passion. A life that matters can demand a lot. Breakthrough after heartache, accomplishment and jubilation over the anguish, a more difficult journey with a truer north. 

We have been given the opportunity to love and serve those around us and to do it with excellence for His glory. We have been given the means and opportunity to matter. It means everything to have loved in our humanity through God’s grace. Our legacy is not how many footprints we leave. It's how long they last. 

"If you squeeze a tube of toothpaste, what comes out?” Many times, I stood in front of high school and college students and asked that very question. After some quizzical looks, I hear mumbled answers, “toothpaste.” I next ask “Why?” “Because you squeezed the tube and that is what was put there in the first place.”

This is one of my better character lessons. Goes back to high school. It has stickiness because of Its imagery. It is all about preparation.

When you find yourself in a pressure-packed situation and life squeezes you, what will come out?  Whatever you have put in. If you have prepared properly, you will see positive results. If you have put in faith, character, morals, principles; then when you get squeezed, good decisions will come out. A wrong choice made in the heat of the moment is a result of lack of preparation, lack of conditioning or lack of putting quality toothpaste in the tube.

On January 15, 2009, US Airways Flight 1549 suffered a bird strike immediately after takeoff that annihilated both engines requiring an emergency landing on the Hudson River in New York City. Captain Chelsey “Sully” Sullenberger expertly piloted the plane to a safe landing saving all 155 people on board. He was quoted, “I’ve been making small, regular deposits in this bank of experience, education, and training. And on January 15 the balance was sufficient so that I could make a very large withdrawal.” He had been putting toothpaste in the tube all those years. 

Armies at the time of King David had 3 kinds of warriors - cavalry on horseback; infantry with swords and spears; and what we would today call artillery: archers and ‘slingers.’ Slingers had a leather pouch attached on two sides by a long strand of rope. They would put a rock or lead ball into the pouch, swing it around in increasingly wider and faster circles, and then release one end of the rope, hurling the rock. In the Old Testament (Judges 20:16), slingers are described as accurate within a hair’s breadth. An experienced slinger could kill or seriously injure a target up to two hundred yards away. While protecting the sheep, David as a shepherd boy perfected his skills by practicing day after day. When his moment came against Goliath he had plenty of toothpaste in his tube.

Putting toothpaste in the tube is a form of intentional mental conditioning. Just like running and lifting is intentional physical conditioning, you can condition yourself in this area. The more you practice the better you become. However, the opposite also holds true. If you allow your mind to relax too much and get lazy and not take ownership, then it becomes more commonplace to just go through life letting circumstances control you, whether you recognize this lack of control or not. If we don’t, what fills the void can be the negative influences of today’s world. 

We need to prepare to meet any challenge. Be putting the right toothpaste in the tube. Be able to step up and answer your ‘Goliath call.’ Make enough daily deposits to cover an unexpected withdrawal.

Our moral alignment reflects what we have internalized, what we have decided is our core essence, what are our values and principles, what we have put in our tube.

Let’s answer His call and be a neighbor to those in need, let’s leave a legacy and make a difference in His Kingdom. 

Rejoice and Godspeed.

If you are asking who is my neighbor, you are asking the wrong question.

In the Good Samaritan parable, Jesus never directly answers the question, who is my neighbor. Instead, he turns it around by asking “who was neighbor to the beaten man.” We should not be worried about who is our neighbor, but who we can be neighbor to.

The emphasis that Jesus places is not about knowing one’s neighbor, but about being a neighbor and providing as a neighbor. The question isn’t “Who are they?” but “Who are we?”

Jesus extended the concept of "neighbor" to the outsider, the enemy, and the persecutor. Beyond just physical proximity. A neighbor is anyone who has a need that we can help meet. Anyone with whom we can share God’s love. Not only those who are similar to us or with whom we are comfortable, but all whom God places in our journey. In reality, who isn’t our neighbor? 

The concept that we love our family and then we love our neighbor, and then we love our community, and then we love our fellow citizens, and then after that, prioritize the rest of the world is not the Christian way. Jesus invited us into a different world altogether. A world where love moves freely, without hierarchy or a series of concentric circles. Where borders have been removed. 

We belong to each other with full acceptance as the rule. We need each other. We depend on each other. We affect each other. The early church survived in part because it was a loving community. Christianity was a response to the chaos, fear, and misery of life in the urban Greco-Roman world. The church provided a new kind of social relationship making life more tolerable. To the homeless and impoverished, it offered charity as well as hope; for newcomers and strangers, it offered an immediate basis for attachment; to those affected by epidemics, fire, and earthquakes, it offered comfort and care; for orphans and widows, it provided a sense of family and safety.

 I Am Third represents the basis for every faithful life: “God is first, others are second, and I am third.” Others are our neighbors. The defining elements of our lives is the two-fold commandment of love, God and neighbor. By placing ourselves third, we have things in the right order and are living a life that will bring the greatest good to others, and unexpectedly, to ourselves. The intended connection between God, others, and us is not a zero-sum relationship. It is a dynamic in which God wins, others win, and we win. 

St. Thomas Aquinas first suggested that love is a choice to will the good of the other. Willing the good of the other captures the selflessness that should always be understood when we speak of love. Living love is an action to will the good of our neighbor. To love neighbor as self means seeing the outcome of their good as fundamental to our sharing in the good. 

 My last concept on this subject is enlightened self-interest, a philosophy in ethics which states that people who act to further the interests of others ultimately serve their own self-interest. The Bible constantly encourages us to look with enlightened self-interest. Enlightened self-interest is a bottom-up concept - "We the people” are the ones striving for a more perfect union. The well-being of society is a result of the choices and actions of mankind being a neighbor.  

If we find ourselves asking, "Who is my neighbor?", we already missed the point. We should be inspired to cross the road for our neighbor. We were created by divine compassion and also for divine compassion. We need to live each day with love for each of our neighbors. Love the best we can today, then get up tomorrow and do it again. We’ve been blessed—now we must not begrudge that same blessing to others.

Let’s answer His call and be a neighbor to those in need, let’s leave a legacy and make a difference in His Kingdom. 

Rejoice and Godspeed.

What good does paint do in the can? It was created to be used; to provide color, to seal, to cover up scuff marks, to create art and express ourselves. “The paint in the can needs to be applied.” 

We can be averse to taking action. Some of us fall victim to ‘paralysis by analysis.’ Maybe the fear of being wrong impedes us. Maybe we feel that we would not apply the paint properly. We need to act even if we don’t know everything we should or feel as if we aren’t completely prepared.

I also use the analogy about chocolate milk. Just pouring chocolate syrup into milk does not give you chocolate milk. It needs to be activated, energized, stirred up.

Too many times we hesitate to act or decide, because we want there to be more information, training, or a guaranteed outcome. If we act 80% of the time while spending 20% of our time analyzing options and are only correct half the time, that is a 40% success rate (80% x 50%). Whereas, if we spend 80% of our time analyzing things and only 20% talking action, then are right all the time (which is highly unlikely), that equals a 20% success rate. By being more decisive, we are more successful, at least twice as successful.

We spend a great deal of time learning about theories, be it business success, personal development, even spiritual enhancement. We seem to have a love affair with theory and an aversion to effort. Some of us even become experts on these theories, reciting them chapter and verse. We seem to believe that prolonged or repeated exposure to theory is enough. However, theories do us absolutely no good unless we put them to use out in the real world. Just attending a webinar or reading the latest blog will not make you a better speaker. We must “pull the trigger” “stir the milk” or “paint the house.” We need activation, stirred up, and energized.

God uses us to execute his plan. It is His paint that we apply with our actions. We are His paintbrushes.

In the Gospel of Matthew is the Parable of the Talents (25:14-30). Servants have been entrusted with talents and when the Master returned, he wanted to know what the servants have done with the talents they received. It doesn’t matter if it is one or five talents, it’s what we do with the talents that matters. Not everyone gets the same ‘paint’. God has given each person a unique variety of gifts, and he expects each to use whatever gifts we’ve been given to the best of our ability. We don’t need the Master returning to see the paint is still in the can or the chocolate syrup has yet to be stirred.

Like paint, we were created to be used. As we work, God works. As we paint, God guides our brush. We must “stir the milk” or “pull the trigger.” Let’s get started and apply His paint. Let’s answer His call, leave a legacy and make a difference in His Kingdom. Rejoice and Godspeed.

 Over a dozen years ago, I was asked by a friend to be a speaker at a 5th grade farewell ceremony when their original speaker canceled at the last minute. Being a High School football coach who did character training sessions, she felt I could come up with something on short notice. It obviously went well as I was invited back 10 years straight to deliver the exact same speech. Fortunately for me, each year there was a new audience of 11-year-olds. I only stopped giving the talk as a result of moving 4 hours away.

My speech was about the nursery rhyme Row, Row, Row Your Boat and how it is life’s instructional manual. Apply its insightful messages and we can be successful in life. ‘Your boat’ being a metaphor for ‘your life.’ It is certainly a simple message for the young students, but it has enough ‘meat’ to it that the teachers (who did hear it every year) and the parents also enjoy it. In addition to the 5th grade farewell, I have given this talk to High School and College football teams, businesses, and in many social gatherings with audiences as few as 1 and as many as a 100. I will dig into the Nursery Rhyme, line by line.

This is Yoda‘s memorable line from the second Start Wars movie, “Empire Strikes Back.” There is so much more to the line than its catchy symbolism. It has deep philosophical meaning. When someone says, "I'll try..." it gives the person an out. Trying lets failure be an acceptable option. To prevent ourselves from being exposed to the stigma of failure, we use words like “well I tried.” I think that society likes to use the word “try” as it means to not acknowledge the lack of accomplishing something. But in reality, we make too big of a deal of not doing something and we call it failure. The point is, there isn’t always a problem with lack of accomplishment.

One of my first lessons around “trying” was a sales job I had early in my career. We had Monday morning team meetings with a roundtable discussion on our activities and every week one guy kept telling our boss all the appointments and sales he was trying to make.  The boss finally snapped one Monday and said, “I don’t pay you to try, I pay you to sell.”

I use this similar adage with my high school football players; when they tell me they tried to make that tackle they missed, my response was” I play kids who make the tackle as opposed to those who try to make it.”

Why do we fear failure? There really is no failure, one either succeeds or learns. There is the Chinese proverb - fall down seven times, get up eight. The reality of ‘do not’ from Yoda isn’t a negative, just a fact. If you keep trying to sell but don’t; maybe it’s time to take a sales training course or even find another career choice. If you try to tackle but can’t, maybe it is time to stay after practice and relearn technique or become an offensive player that doesn’t have to tackle.

It is not politically correct to allow failure or even discomfort to ever develop. We’ve gotten soft – parents, schools, society. Our Nation uses Government Bailouts (GM, Housing market) and other overreaching actions to ‘lift everyone up’. We give everyone a trophy just to try. I would argue that as we have become softer, more people get bitter than get better. We hesitate to allow suffering; overlooking that suffering is often how one learns to be a success. We are failing in developing mindsets to overcome the problems. Success by failure is not an oxymoron. As parents, my wife and I never wanted our daughters to fail, but we did look forward to their failures. Sometimes what we learn in failure is the best education we can get. When you make a mistake or fail, you're forced to look back and find out exactly where you went wrong and formulate a new plan for your next attempt. Football teams spend on average 3x the amount of time looking at game films of losses as opposed to wins as there are more coaching moments.

History is littered with examples of success from failure. Failure isn’t the opposite of success—it’s part of the process. Every setback is a lesson. Every misstep is a chance to adjust. The ones who go the distance are the ones who don’t let failure define them. So, if you’re struggling, doubting, or feeling like you’ve fallen short, remember this: Failure is not fatal. Keep going. Failure isn’t a verdict; it’s data. Use it. 

I have the pleasure of doing and hosting podcasts for my church highlighting our various ministries. During the most recent podcast with our Haitian Ministry, I touched on the phrase “standing in the gap.” It was front of mind as in one of my blogs I reference Jackson Browne’s song, “Standing in the Breach,” that uses the aftermath of the 2010 Haiti earthquake as a rallying cry of the need to “bend our backs and hearts together standing in the breach.”

Most if not all our church ministries “Stand in the Gap or the Breach” with their mission. They are fulfilling an unmet need. A gap in society related to poverty, homelessness, education, and even fellowship. "Standing in the breach" means taking action to protect or defend those who are vulnerable or in need, often when others are unwilling or unable to do so.

It means protecting those who are unable to protect themselves. It means working towards positive change wherever and whenever positive change is needed. It even means interceding on behalf of others, often through prayer or other acts of faith, service, advocacy, and moral guidance. We all have neighbors in need. Standing in the gap is being Christ like, our actions are to enhance the holiness of life, life given by God. It’s important to stay thirsty for righteousness, but to also to stay hydrated, too. That means when we stand in the gap for our less fortunate neighbors – we should be drinking in all their stories as we pray and advocate for them. Let their stories enrich our lives. Value them as a person and their experiences.

Breaches or gaps can create significant issues. False storefronts are facades that look great on the outside but are only window dressing. They hide the old and ugly storefront. If a fire gets going in the gap between, firemen have a huge problem fighting it because of the hidden nature of it. Even the smallest of gaps when under pressure can be disastrous. A gap created by a frozen O-ring not allowing a true seal caused the Challenger explosion. "Watch or Mind the gap" is a safety warning issued to passengers while crossing the station platform to the train.

Coming together is a way that communities or nations stand in the breach. We see time and time again that when tragedy strikes, people care about one another, they answer the call, do whatever needs to be done. 

Ephesians Chapter 4 is often looked at as a plea for unity in the church. But Christian unity is more than adherence to a common belief. It is shown in serving the community more Christlike by standing in the gap. St. Paul writes in the opening verses, “I, then, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to live in a manner worthy of the call you have received, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another through love, striving to preserve the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace: one body and one Spirit.” Paul is preaching to the Ephesians to stand in the gap for each other.

An everyday common area where we can stand in the breach within ourselves is in our words, in our actions. Hall of Fame basketball coach John Wooden saw hypocrisy in the gap between 'Do as I say’ and ‘not as I do.' Hypocrisy is the practice of feigning to be what one is not or to believe what one does not. A self-hypocrite is a person who pretends to have virtues or qualities or whose actions contradict their stated beliefs or feelings. Hypocrisy can be the gap that exists between our public life and our private life. If there is a gap, we must watch our steps more carefully lest we trip ourselves or, worse, fall into the opening.

In the ancient world of the Bible, cities had walls surrounding them to provide protection from enemies. When the wall was breached, the city was vulnerable to destruction; the only way to secure it was for people to risk their lives by literally standing in the gap in the wall and fighting the enemy. This is the reference behind Ezekiel’s plea, “I sought a

If you are a follower of Coach Mahr at all, then you know that I love the analogy of life being a journey and our need to focus on that journey and not the destination. This perspective started back in High School when my Dad shared with me the Robert Hastings essay called “The Station.” During this Jubilee Year in the Catholic Church I am reflecting on where I am in my journey and what lies ahead. I’ve decided to transform my journey into a pilgrimage.

What is the difference? A pilgrimage is a journey that carries with it a greater significance, a level of importance where the result can lead to a personal transformation. A pilgrimage can change our hearts and expand our minds. A journey becomes a pilgrimage through its uniqueness and the presence we bring to it. 

I look at a pilgrimage the way I do a long hike. A hike is a slow trek in nature that provides time for reflection and communion with my being. They are walks of convictions, purpose, and direction.

Salvation history is the story of a pilgrimage.  Abram journeys from civilization to the desert. Moses from the Pharaoh’s palace to a mountaintop. The people of Israel are led through the desert to the Promised Land. All these journeys are God inspired, where He accompanied them. We likewise – for our Salvation - should be on a pilgrimage, living our current, earthly lives in a way that brings us closer to Him.

Our pilgrimage upon this earth began when we were born. Each of the moments we live are the ones that "count" and that prepare us for our destination. The pilgrimage process is about the grace, custom-designed for each of us by the Holy Spirit, imparted by God’s power and in God’s perfect time. This is the greatest reason to listen for and respond to God’s call to transform our journey into a pilgrimage.

A pilgrimage is a journey to a holy place with a holy purpose. As Christians, all of our life journeys need to be pilgrimages – we should all have a holy purpose, to move His Kingdom forward, to a holy place, heaven. 

A community or society may at times come together and simultaneously communicate the same thought and participate in the same action. People within a group feel united in a more intense way when they come together for unique experiences, a “sensation of sacredness” that happens when we are a part of something bigger than us. 

During these experiences, our focus shifts from self to group. It is more than just people coming together to distract themselves from life by watching a game, volunteering, or attending an event. It is an opportunity to feel joy, social connection, meaning, and peace – and then share it. Research suggests that people who experience these things are likely to be happier and feel less anxious and depressed. 

The very definition of spirituality is the recognition that we’re all intimately connected to each other through love and compassion. Religious rituals and experiences have the power to generate strong feelings of identification with a group. There is a collective joy that is social and familial.

We were commanded to live every day with love for each of our neighbors. Love the best we can today, then get up tomorrow and do it again. True meaning, purpose, and community are to be found in Christ. Through our two commandments - Love God and Love others.

It is early February so let’s discuss the furry rodent that sticks its head out of the ground to tell us how much longer winter will last. Groundhog Day. Groundhog Day is also the same day as “Candlemas Day” and the two are related. And, yes, Groundhog Day has its roots in the Bible.

Our lives are a collection of ‘nows.’ A collection of moments. A collection of choices, failures, successes, ups, and downs. Each one is a piece of a bigger picture, like a mosaic, an image comprised of thousands of smaller colored tiles. Life is a mosaic of moments. Mosaics will include sudden moments of significance, moments we know are coming, unplanned moments that catch us off-guard, moments that seize us and those we must seize intentionally. There will also be moments that might be of something we are not proud of, but still part of who we are. Irregularities in a mosaic do not “spoil” it. But removing a tile leaves a gap, an incomplete picture. God’s plan for our lives is less like a roadmap and more like a mosaic. The process of taking unrelated fragments and assembling them to reveal something only in the mind and the heart of the artist. Or Creator.

Presence is an essence, a state of being. Presence is seeing all aspects for what they are. To grasp what presence is, we must be fully present, fully conscious, with an acute awareness of our surroundings. Presence generates dignity. Peace is presence. Justice is presence. Presence is understanding and appreciating where we are on our journey at that moment. Not distracted by reflections on the past or worries about the future. We need far more than physical presence to cope in today’s world. We must be “rooted within ourselves” & “rooted within our faith.” Presence becomes meaningful when we move beyond the trivial and rise above the chaos. Through the act of creation, God manifested His Divine Presence into the physical and material world. God created all things. Ordinary matter is the hiding place for Spirit and thus the very Body of God. The burning bush, the communion wafer. Since the very beginning of time, God’s Spirit has been revealing its glory and goodness through the physical creation. There are sections of space and moments of time more “sacred” to us than others. The very thing that defines something as sacred is that it is precisely where and when God attempts to make Himself known to us.

“We are saved by grace through faith, a faith demonstrated by acts of love and works of mercy.” Jesus demonstrated His love for us by an act, the ultimate act. We present our beliefs over and over. If we don’t demonstrate those beliefs with our actions, they are simply words. We need to walk our talk. Community is a byproduct of our creation. It does not bring us to life, we bring it to life. We bring it to life by works and acts. “What you and I do feeds what we become.” We must use our God given gifts to bring to life the community that reflects His kingdom. It is our choice to act and model Jesus’ ministry. I want to live love; not by feelings but by acting accordingly and giving the gift of self to those around me, friend, or stranger. To love God, is to will the good of what God loves, which, of course, is our neighbor’s good.

There is a line from the movie, Avenger’s End Game, said by Tony Stark/Iron Man - ‘part of the journey is the end’. Michael J Fox, of Back to the Future, while reflecting on his current state with Parkinson Disease said, “The last thing we run out of in life, is the future.” We are not physical beings having spiritual journeys, we are spiritual beings having physical journeys. Our physical journeys are finite, they will expire. When a river arrives at the sea, the river’s journey has ended but the essence that was the river continues and becomes part of something bigger. The journey of our spirit does not end here on this Earth but continues onward. Our divine journey has no end. It has a goal. We are all passing through this life. We have no permanency in this world. Our ultimate goal is beyond this life.

Martin Luther King Jr. said it best, “Anybody can serve.  You don’t have to have a college degree to serve.  You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.  You only need a heart full of grace, a soul generated by love.” God will use whoever is willing to be used. So “open up” to being used - where, when and how. “I am Third” means that God is first, others are second, and I am third. Being Third in a “Me First” age of social media, selfies, and instant gratification where personal comfort reigns is no easy task. By placing ourselves third, we have things in the right order. It is a dynamic in which God wins, others win, and we win. A key piece of a rewarding life is helping others; truly being altruistic without any obligation to do so.

Love takes work and ‘work’ is the definition of a verb. Consider the meaning of love, it is filled with actions—sacrificing, serving, listening, honoring, protecting, trusting, appreciating, affirming, among many others. Love is about making a positive difference in people's lives, all people’s lives. It is accepting people for who they are, including difficult people. “The Coin of Mattering” is the currency that values how we have existed and spent time on earth. It is a responsibility to live a life that matters. To transform, create, build, experience, and do what matters; be what matters. Live for the privilege of serving those around us. God has put us in a position to contribute to the success of wherever we are and with whomever. He has given us the opportunity to love and serve those around us and to do it with excellence for His glory. He has given us the means and opportunity to matter. It is our responsibility to live lives that matter.

Athletics and athletes were created in Greece. Purpose was to train citizens to strive for excellence, not merely victory. Excellence in every area.     To improve society. Sports teach us to persevere and push through, something we need in our faith. We can’t finish strong without pushing through somewhere along the way. We all like to win. Competing to win is good. However, the value derived from playing sports lies not in winning the game, but in giving our best; regardless of the outcome. The primary motivation for playing sports must be to obtain the goods internal to them, more so than the external gains. Competing to give glory to God and respect for others, is a display of loving God and loving others. God is with us in the wins, He is with us in the losses, and His acceptance of us doesn’t change in either of those circumstances. He is with us in the competition. Importantly, He is ‘with us’, not ‘for us.’

Humility has gone out of style. In an era of selfies and Social Media channels we are more aware of ourselves than ever before. The concept of ‘self’ is constantly in the forefront of our minds. Humility is the “lack of vanity or self-importance.” It is vitally important, but mostly overlooked in society today. Humble people don’t feel the need to paint a perfect picture of an “ideal life”. They are more concerned with the quality of their effort, the impact of their lives, and the content of their character. People with humility do not think less of themselves, they think of themselves less. They do not deny their talents and capabilities, rather they recognize these strengths pass through them, not from them. We live in a world where ego gets attention, but modesty gets results. Where arrogance makes headlines, but humility makes a difference.

We were commanded to live every day with love for each of our neighbors. To welcome them. The best we can today, then get up tomorrow and do it again. We must rise to the level of belonging. Belonging implies welcoming - acceptance and inclusion. Belonging is good for society. Creating a Welcoming environment in our community means loving those that live in our community, all of them. The foundation of welcoming is Love. The Bible does not say “tolerate thy neighbor” or even “be civil with thy neighbor,” it says, “love thy neighbor.” To love my neighbor is to welcome my neighbor. To welcome my neighbor is to see them through the eyes of God’s grace.

My “Coach Mahr” persona grew out of “answering a call.” Built off my life experiences as a business leader, a high school football coach, and a father. Most importantly it is uncovering how God’s presence is interwoven through everyday life. Now being in my third and final phase I feel called to invest in others and focus on “eulogy virtues” and not “résumé virtues.” Mentoring, motivating, building connections, raising the tide for all ships; establishing a better tomorrow, moving HIS kingdom forward. I am happy to be where I am in my life. The road I have taken is unique and it is mine, one that I was called to take.