EP 172: Why your 'authenticity' is Repelling Aligned Clients

You’re showing up as yourself.
You’re being honest in your content.
But the right clients still aren’t coming.

If that’s felt true lately, this episode will name what you’ve likely sensed but couldn’t quite put words to:

It’s not your truth that’s repelling people.
It’s the part of you still hiding inside it.

🧠 Inside This Episode:

▪️ What “authenticity” looks like when it’s still rooted in self-protection
▪️ How your body might be bracing - even as you’re sharing from the heart
▪️ The quiet ways fear still shapes your pricing, messaging, and presence
▪️ What it means to be congruent - emotionally, energetically, and strategically

This is not about being louder.
It’s about being cleaner.

The version of you who no longer edits her power just to feel safe?
That’s who your people are waiting for.

💭 Reflection Prompts:

▫️ Where am I softening my message to be liked?
▫️ What part of me still fears being “too much”?
▫️ How would I show up if I didn’t feel responsible for other people’s reactions?

And as always - come tell me what landed.
This episode might hold the mirror you’ve been needing.

Transcript

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Welcome to Resource with Jessica Read. This is the podcast for visionary entrepreneurs who are here to build a thriving business and luminous life, fully resourced from the inside out. Here we unlock the magic of inner alignment, emotional mastery, and energetic strategies, so you can lead with clarity, confidence, and ease. This is your space to shed what no longer serves you, embody your highest potential, and expand into the next evolution of your business and soul's work. You are meant for more, and it all starts here.

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Your mind has been telling you a lie. Your premium, highest ticket clients, they're not repelled by your truth. They are repelled by the version of you that is still holding the truth inside. And I say this with love. I say, this is so much love because I have lived this. There is a kind of authenticity that we are sold online. Okay, one that looks soft and grounded and real, but too often it is not truth because it is not you. It is still a performance of palatability. It's still shape shifting into someone that you think is going to be chosen. It is still shrinking yourself to be safe, and if you are not getting the traction that you expected in your business, if your content feels vulnerable but not magnetic, then this might be why. Welcome back to Resourced. This is the podcast where we hold the human, behind the business, and the nervous system behind the strategy. My name is Jessica Read. I am an intuitive business mentor, clinical hypnotherapist, and creator of the energies of success. Now, today, we are going to name something that is hard to admit. Sometimes what we are calling authenticity is actually just another way that we are hiding. Oh, that feels like I have just been stabbed in the heart. Okay. You are going to learn the difference between authentic expression and fear-based visibility. While your pricing isn't about confidence, but nervous system congruence and how to shift from being relatable to being real clean and magnetic. I. And let's face it, that's what most of us are scared of being seen as. Okay? The real resonance isn't about what you say it is about who you are when you say it. So let's go deeper into this. Relatable isn't always gonna be resonant. Here is a thing that high performing emotionally intelligent women just like you. Have mastered things like vulnerability. You've shared your truth, but underneath that truth, there is still a level of performance. And so that performance might look like posting the messy middle, but avoiding direct calls to work with you.'cause then you're fully seen talking openly about your fears, but not naming your core values. Undercharging, calling it being accessible. What you're really saying underneath that is, please don't leave me. So on the outside, it's honest and it's all done with good intention. I know. But on the inside it is tension and that is the giveaway. Because if you are leaking energy every time you sell, if your body contracts, when you quote your prices for your services, that is not authenticity. That is you in survival. We need to learn to feel the difference in our bodies. Your audience can feel that, and not because they're judging you, not because they're out to get you, but because congruence is felt before it is understood. And so whilst your softness is absolutely sacred, it's not the strategy we need to ask ourselves. Is this visibility or is this self protection? So let's name the patterns that come up with this. Things like showing up, being seen, but it's costing you because when you're visible, it takes so much survival energy to do so that you are drained, you are creating, you are doing content reels, podcasts, but you edit yourself along the way. God, heaven forbid that someone sees who you really are. That's not you having lack of discipline or inconsistency. This is just your nervous system trying to stay safe. It's that part of you that remembers when being too confident got you cut down. It remembers when asking for more made other people uncomfortable. It remembers when your power actually made you feel like a burden to people. And so now. Are shrinking instead of being seen for who you authentically are. Instead of owning the pricing that you charge and the transformation that you offer, you're explaining your prices instead of declaring them or you're toning down your bigness to avoid being salesy or rejected. You're toning down the confidence in yourself and what you do to avoid being seen as stuck up or arrogant. You wait until they ask before you invite them in, so you're not leading your audience. You're hiding, hoping that all of the posts that you are putting out that are covered in pretty Pinterest style covers hoping that someone resonates with that because chat, GPT wrote you a really good caption, but no, the clients that you are calling in. They don't want the softened version of you, even if that version of you is not accepted everywhere. And you know what? That's the emotional resilience and the muscle that is really hard for a human to build. Accepting that you're not everybody's cup of tea, that you don't wanna be everybody's cup of tea, and not everyone's gonna like you. And that's actually okay. Not everyone's gonna agree with you. That's actually okay. They want the congruent version of you. The one who is essentially the same values, the same beliefs, the same over here as she is over here, the clear version of you, the energetically anchored version of you. I had so much trouble with being seen in this energetic space because I had a story that I had to be clinical. I literally had a mask on and I was trying to feel a deficit within myself that believed that just because I wasn't academic. It meant that I wasn't valuable in what I was doing. That hiding that inauthenticity, that me, oh my gosh, I had to work so hard. I had to work so hard to be seen as someone that I wasn't. I had to work so hard to be seen as someone that I was so scared. People wouldn't like me if I wasn't, that they wouldn't trust me, they wouldn't invest in me. But this version of you. The one who says, this is the work, and I am the woman who leads it. She's the most magnetic. And if you are editing your energy to feel safe, trust me when I say this, trust me from the lived experience from the bottom of my heart, your audience can feel it. And the ones who were ready for you and your transformation and your brilliance, they are walking away confused by your hesitation. They've got no idea. They don't feel safe enough that you can actually lead them because you don't believe in that yourself, and that's why it's not actually your price, it's your identity. So let's talk about pricing for a moment, because I have seen coaches, healers, women in different businesses. Charge$200 and still feel desperate. How? I used to charge$50 and still felt desperate, and I've seen women charge$5,000,$20,000,$50,000, and feel clear and grounded and magnetic. And so the difference between that woman, the$50 woman and the$50,000 woman, that's only the nervous system, not the strategy. Don't say only lightly.'cause there's a lot of work to be done in that. But when your body is still holding the shame, the urgency, the performance, the fear of being seen for who you truly are, the old memories, the old survival self. I just recorded a integration session for the Ascension Academy where we were freeing the survival self because we've just done a whole module on bringing safety to that survival self. You're not only going to undercharge when you're leading from the survival self, you're going to overgive, you're going to burn out trying to justify the value, but when your body feels safe, you don't need to convince you, just speak. This is why I offer embodied business mapping sessions because to regulate your pricing energy, to clarify your message, to clean up the invisible cues that you are sending when you sell, because that high ticket strategy can't land when you are leaking power. Your most magnetic marketing is going to come from the version of you who isn't trying to be chosen. She already knows that she's the one to lead this work. So in our embodied business mapping sessions, we meet that version of you and we find where the incongruency is between your strategy and how you're showing up between the identity of who is leading and the version of you who actually needs to lead to get the results that you want. We spend two powerful hours together diving deep into what is most pressing for you in that moment, and we bring it into alignment. We clear what is ready to be cleared. It is an extremely powerful session. I had one a couple of weeks ago with a woman. Who sent me a message the day after. So she came in and she was struggling with her pricing and she was struggling with some money identity work, and she was really unclear on her offers. I. And we did some subconscious work on her pricing. We found the block, we found what needed to release. We did the work in the two hours. We made some tweaks to her offer after that. And then the next day she sold her first$3,000 offer. Okay? So we can do a lot in these two hours if you are ready for the work. So I wanna ask you as we wrap up this episode. By the way, you can book one of these sessions if you would like. They are limited though, because I do, I'm very discerning around my energies. So if you would like to book an embodied business mapping session, there is a link down in your show notes. If this is resonating with you today, I wanna ask you as we wrap up, where are you calling it real and actually it's fear, and where are you shrinking your voice or your price to stay palatable? Where are you still trying to be liked more than you're trying to be true? Because this work today, this conversation today it's about gaining this awareness for your energy to become cleaner, for you to become more congruent, for you to become more you. And if this episode landed, you know there is a part of you still hiding behind the performance of authenticity, then I do invite you into the business mapping. Your business isn't meant to be built on old stories or someone else's strategy, it is meant to be built on you, the clean, congruent, embodied version of you who no longer performs to feel safe. As always, thank you so much for joining me here on Resourced, and I look forward to seeing you next week. Bye for now.

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