I am a trans widow - Kelly Oliver Dougall talks to Ute Heggen

Find Ute Heggen here -https://www.youtube.com/@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals @UteHeggenTranswidowHeals  Substack blog is uteheggen.substack.comMemoir is In the Curated Woods, True Tales from a Grass Widow(iuniverse.com/bookstore, eBook and soft cover, 50 nature photos, 2022)SummaryIn this conversation, Ute Heggen shares her profound experiences as a trans widow, detailing the unraveling of her marriage to a husband who revealed a hidden cross-dressing identity. Ute discusses the emotional turmoil of betrayal, the challenges faced in therapy, and the broader implications of gender identity on women's rights. Through her memoir and survey insights, she sheds light on the unique struggles faced by women in similar situations, advocating for better understanding and support. In this conversation, Ute Heggen discusses her experiences and the broader implications of unwanted sexual experiences, financial abuse, and the influence of clergy on family dynamics. She highlights the psychological impact on children and the societal changes regarding gender identity and language. The conversation sheds light on the challenges faced by trans widows and the complexities of navigating relationships and societal expectations. In this conversation, Ute Heggen discusses the complexities surrounding gender identity, the impact of transitioning on mental and physical health, and the often overlooked experiences of trans widows. She reflects on the societal pressures and censorship faced by those who speak out against mainstream narratives, emphasizing the need for open dialogue and support for individuals navigating these challenging issues. Ute also shares her personal journey towards healing and wellness, highlighting the importance of community and understanding in the face of adversity.TakeawaysUte Heggen identifies as a trans widow, having escaped an abusive marriage.Her memoir, 'In the Curated Woods', details her experiences.The unraveling of her marriage began with her husband's cross-dressing revelation.Ute emphasizes the emotional impact of betrayal and infidelity.She highlights the challenges women face in therapy regarding gender identity.Ute's experiences reflect broader societal issues surrounding women's rights.She developed a survey to gather insights from other trans widows.Ute advocates for better mental health support for women in similar situations.The conversation touches on the risks women face when leaving abusive relationships.Ute's story is a call for awareness and understanding of trans widow experiences. 28 women sexually assaulted by their husband when he's pretending to be a woman.Financial abuse is common in relationships with trans individuals.Clergy often suggest women should accommodate their husband's identity.Children are negatively impacted by parental transitions.The language around gender is changing and affecting societal norms.Many women feel isolated in their experiences as trans widows.Financial fraud is often committed by ex-husbands during divorce.Religious institutions may not support women in these situations.The concept of motherhood is being challenged in society.Women are often blamed for the trauma caused by their husband's transitions. J.K. Rowling's comments sparked significant backlash and discussion.Health risks associated with transitioning are often overlooked.Finding community support is crucial for those affected by gender transition.Trans widows face unique challenges and vulnerabilities.Censorship and fear prevent open discussions about transitioning.Mental health professionals often avoid discussing detransitioning.Personal wellness practices can aid in recovery from trauma.The narrative around detransitioning i