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The Wedding Dress Scandal That Broke the Internet with Raylee Rukavina

• Christa Innis • Season 1 • Episode 5

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What would you do if your wedding dress arrived looking nothing like what you ordered—just days before the big day?

In this episode, Raylee Rukavina shares the jaw-dropping story of how her custom wedding dress turned into a disaster and sparked unexpected TikTok drama. From communication breakdowns with the designer to a last-minute dress search, Raylee takes us through the rollercoaster of emotions she experienced leading up to her wedding.

But it didn’t stop there—when her designer took to social media to twist the story, Raylee found herself at the center of a viral controversy. Things took an even more unexpected turn, leaving her to navigate a whirlwind of emotions and tough decisions.

Beyond the drama, we dive into wedding etiquette hot takes, from outdated traditions to handling plus-ones and unexpected family opinions. 

Whether you're a bride-to-be or just love a good wedding story, this episode is packed with real talk, lessons learned, and a bit of chaos.

Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

  • How Raylee’s gown turned out completely different from what she ordered.
  • The frustrating lack of updates and missed deadlines from the designer.
  • How a false accusation on TikTok led to online hate and doxxing.
  • How Raylee managed to stay focused on her big day despite the controversy.
  • Outdated traditions and how to handle family dynamics.
  • The dangers of social media drama and public callouts.
  • Raylee’s advice for brides dealing with vendor issues and last-minute wedding disasters.

About Raylee

Raylee Rukavina is a TikTok influencer, entrepreneur, and hairstylist from Colorado with a passion for golf, weightlifting, and all things beauty. Recently married, she found herself in the middle of an unexpected viral controversy when a custom wedding dress disaster took an unexpected turn on social media. 

Raylee shares her firsthand experience navigating vendor issues, handling online hate, and staying focused on what truly mattered—her wedding day. 

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Christa Innis: Hi, Rayleigh. Thanks so much for joining me today. I'm so excited to chat. Thank you 

Raylee Rukavina: so much for having me. I'm excited to be on your podcast. 

Christa Innis: Yes. So before we get into it, I know You're involved in some Tik Tok drama with your wedding yourself. So I want to get into that in a minute, but before all of that, can you just tell us a little bit about you?

And I know you are a bride this year, so kind of a little bit more about that. 

Raylee Rukavina: I'm 24. I'm a hairstylist. I absolutely love doing hair. I also love to golf and weightlift. But yes, I planned a wedding this year. It was so much fun. Weddings are a lot of work. I didn't realize how much until we started my mom and I really put the whole thing together.

 it was a lot of fun. I'm super thankful that we went big and I did see that some of your like hot with weddings is it worth all of the hype? I'm not sure after the fact, but it was so much fun and I'm super thankful for where I am now. 

Christa Innis: Amazing. Yeah. It's definitely one of those things where.

You can go really big with weddings. You can go really simple. And I think it's so easy to get caught up in it either way of like, I have to impress these people. I have to do, this big event and it's so easy to just kind of like Lose sight of what you actually want for yourself. So it can get very overwhelming.

Absolutely. Yeah. So starting off, let's kind of just jump right in. I feel like you were pulled into this TikTok drama kind of nightmare. I mean, it started with your wedding dress, and I kind of want to hear that on your own perspective first, and then kind of when you realized it was brought to TikTok.

Raylee Rukavina: Hmm. Well, In the beginning, we started, I reached out to the designer back in February, and that's when we started the entire dress process. it seemed like it was going good, there was a lot of communication in the beginning, and then when we were trying to schedule like our first fitting, that's when I was Oh no, like this could get really bad really quick because the communication just dropped off.

And I was like, we made it down to Miami, we had picked a slew of dates and we made it down there and they didn't tell us when the first fitting was or where it was going to be until the night before. And the first fitting went fine. It was just a couple pieces of fabric to get my measurements and make sure everything was right after our zoom call of getting measurements.

Sorry. And the first fitting went fairly smooth. I figured it would go better after that. then it just went downhill from there. And after putting so much time, money, into a dress like this, I was super excited about it. I thought that I communicated everything that I needed to communicate pictures as a hair stylist.

I'm really good with consultation. I want to make sure that you know what you're getting. I know what I'm getting, like the whole, everything. So the second fitting, I'm pretty sure that nothing was done and that's why it got canceled, which was supposed to be like the end of May. but we were already down there for five days.

So we had a few days that we could have done the fitting for. And then our last fitting, I didn't get any photos throughout this entire process, which made me super nervous. And the last fitting was. It wasn't scheduled and she told me the dates for the fitting 10 days before and the due date for the dress was august 11th and we ended up going down there august 9th through the 12th and like I said I didn't get any photos when I finally did it was horrible and I was like beside myself I sent them to my mom and I was like Do you see what I see?

And she was like, yeah. What do you think? Because she's always you tell me first. And I just started to cry before I saw it in person because it was that bad and I was like, this is nothing what I asked for. So when we got down there, I had communicated all that with her, exactly what I didn't like, what wasn't like the photos that I had sent her.

When I got down there, it was better but I realized that the jewels were glued on top of the original design. So I had four inches added to my waist. It was so thick. And when I put it on, it was so tight. There were places rubbing. And then when she pulled the skirt out, like the second piece of the skirt, It was completely bare.

There was nothing done to it. I made sure that the slit was in the right place and they did their work. And before I left, she was like, we're not going to have the dress done. And I was like, it's literally due tomorrow. this was on the ninth or 10th. Sorry, I haven't thought the dates since my wedding because I'm so over it, but yeah, it was when we got in and she was like, yeah, I don't think this is going to be And I was like, what am I supposed to do? I'm not going to take home an unfinished dress. can't do anything with it. I'm not a  So she kept it and told me that by the 16th, she would ship it off. And I was like, That's cutting it really close. Well, the 16th came and went, she didn't ship it.

She said Wednesday before my wedding. So like four days before my wedding or Tuesday and Tuesday came around. And I was like, well, you need to like fly it here because I am nervous that it's not even going to make it here. You need to bring it, especially if anything's wrong with it, because I haven't seen a clear video of it.

I haven't seen it in person. Who knows if it even fits right now that you added all. Whatever else you added and she declined that and then said she shipped it out Tuesday night, didn't actually ship it out until Wednesday night. And then it got to me Thursday. She also rerouted the package using my name when it was on Thursday morning.

 because it was supposed to come straight to my house and it went to a different address and we had to go pick it up. when I put it on beside myself, it was horrible. It made me look like I literally weighed 300 pounds, double. It was the worst feeling. And I had to go find a new dress.

I offered to ship it back. She declined that. The next morning, I was like, Thursday when I got it, I asked her, can you come fix it? It's not right. The entire back is off to the right. The leg slit, if the back was center, the leg slits literally in the center showing both of my legs, it was horribly made.

I found a dress and then that next morning was like, do you want me to send this back to you? Because I can't wear it. I have to. Refocus. I have to get married tomorrow. I can't be thinking about this dress and I don't want to I don't want to wear it. I don't want to think about it. I want to give it back to you and I told her that if you don't choose one of these now, I can't communicate with you any longer because I'm literally getting married and that was Friday morning.

Well, she responded just a ton of messages pissed off. All the things and I was like, I'm not dealing with this. We can speak on Monday But i'm not gonna wear it just so you know and Friday night When she posted those videos, I was sitting with my girls just chit chatting And one of my girlfriends was have you seen this?

And it was her tiktok video and it blowing and I was my heart sunk. I was like, what is that? Watched it. She's calling me a thief on the internet. It's blowing up. I'm like You It's the night before my wedding. what would you have done? So I like, made all of my social medias private because I can't deal with this.

Not right now. Made private, and then the next morning, I just put my phone on do not disturb, only talk to the people that like, were gonna be there that day. And, um, I really tried not to think about it at all. I didn't want any part of the social media on my wedding day. I totally refocused.

I do think that it took away a little bit from my wedding day, even though I was truly focused on my wedding. I still think emotionally it took some of that excitement away. And then when I woke up Sunday morning, I checked my phone and I had 3 million Messages, phone calls, voicemails, anything you can think of, the most crude things anybody could say.

It was horrible. Absolutely horrible. 

Christa Innis: Because they'd only heard, because they'd only heard her point at this point. So they thought you stole a wedding dress and they're, and how are they getting your personal information and calling you? It was 

Raylee Rukavina: doxxed. Somebody commented on her video all of my information.

My phone number, my email address, my home address, my parents home address, and my work address.

Christa Innis: I just can't imagine as a wedding vendor that makes wedding dresses for a living, putting something so publicly out there and putting your name out there when that's not even the full story. That is crazy to me. 

Raylee Rukavina: Yeah. And let alone just bringing it to social media when it could have been handled privately and professionally.

 yeah. And I don't understand why was she saying you stole a dress when they were the ones that were delayed? was she like, because you were basically saying, I'm not going to wear it. I want to send it back. But she's saying that it was stolen. I don't understand how that. 

So I paid a 60 percent deposit in February when we started making the dress.

 when it was supposed to be due, when it was supposed to be done and finished, that's when we would have, I would have paid her and I would have taken the dress home because it would have been finished. It would have been done correctly. It would have fit my body the way it was supposed to, and it would have been right?

Well, since it wasn't done on our due date. And she was 12 days late getting it to me. She shipped it without receiving payment. And she kept pushing so hard Thursday morning. And I was like, are you kidding me? I didn't approve the dress. I haven't approved the dress and you shipped it without me actually seeing it.

Those photos and videos of that model in my dress were never sent to me. Ever. I never saw those. It was a blurry video in her apartment, and the video of it was only, there was one video only of the back, without the corset dress underneath, and then the other video was only of the front. there was never a video all the way around, and they were both blurry.

 she was pushing so hard, and I was like, I haven't seen it, I haven't even approved it, I don't even know what the skirt looks like, because you haven't been sending me photos, it even barely started when I was there, in the beginning of August. And I told her, I have to see this dress, I can't do anything until I see what the dress actually looks like. And when I got it, I see why she was pushing so hard because it was the worst made dress I've ever seen. And that's why I told her, I said, will you come fix it? She said, no. I said, okay, how about we send it back to you? Because this is horrible.

It was supposed to be custom made with my measurements.

It was not good. 

Christa Innis: Wow. I can't. it's so baffling to me that someone, she has to know that she did something wrong and that's why she made the video to have people on her side to like, kind of change the story to get people to feel sorry for her in some way. for one, I'm just like, I don't get the whole, sharing a story on Tik TOK to hurt someone.

And. You know, there's so much tiktok drama that always goes around, but I feel always feel like there's multiple sides to every story. Right. And the fact that she would do that to hurt someone, especially on your wedding weekend, when there's so much already on your mind, so much going on. that just seems very intentional.

 that's what's I think so kind of gross about it. 

Raylee Rukavina: Yeah, absolutely. Especially as a female, like I've been dreaming of getting married that's all I've ever wanted is to be married and loved by my partner and be able to like share that love in front of all of our family and friends.

And to have something like this happen to try to ruin everything. it was baffling. Yes. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Wow. I'm so sorry you went through that. you said you did a really pretty good job about that day, kind of blocking it out, not going on social media after seeing all those calls and people like calling you horrible names, not knowing the full story.

What then led you to share your site on Tik TOK, to kind of get it out there. And do you still deal with people like, saying horrible things to you or you think most people have kind of seen your side now? 

Raylee Rukavina: I am still dealing with people, messaging me like on TikTok and Instagram saying pretty mean things until they actually watch my explanation videos with all the proof and everything.

 and then most of the time they apologize, but I still have so many horrible reviews from people I have never spoke to or done hair on my hair Facebook page. And so those will never go away. I had to delete my Yelp account because there were tons of rude reviews again, from people who have never even met me or spoke with me.

And so those are two places that I'm still struggling with. And even I still have people reaching out to my close friends. And messing with their businesses too. So that's really upsetting,  in itself. But when I woke up on Sunday and had all those mean messages, voicemails, all the things, when I can't deal with this right now, I just got married, I want to enjoy that.

We had to go back out to the venue and clean everything up. So I was like, I have things to do. I can't deal with this. Thankfully, I had a huge support system who know me, know my heart, know what happened, and they were like, Rayleigh, you can't just let this slide. what's happening is that she posted those videos to try to ruin you and scare you into just saying, oh, never mind.

when the truth was, it was a made dress and trying to ruin me and my wedding day was not going to fly. So that's why I was like, no, my name does not get to be drugged through the mud because of lies. I am going to sit down and I'm going to make the video and put all the proof in there so that everybody can see it.

And I tried to make it very, start to finish so there wasn't a bunch of jumping around in my video so it was very easy to follow. But there was just so much to put in the video, the explanation videos. That it was a lot of information. Yeah. 

Christa Innis: I bet that's like stressful too, because you're like, I want to make sure I say it the right way.

Because people are like nitpicking at this point. Every little thing, I noticed that with TikTok drama too, people will be like, oh, well, she said this date and it was actually this date. And it's like, okay, that's irrelevant. let's look at, the timeline here. where did you guys leave off?

 where did it end? Has there been any other communication with her at this point? Or was it kind of just left in the dust?

Raylee Rukavina: She was messaging me threatening to come get the dress on Friday night before my wedding and she told me she flew here, which I doubt, honestly. but after that video was posted, after the several videos were posted defaming me, if she wants to reach out, if she wants this back, she can reach out.

Christa Innis: And even in my video, I put that in there where, like, If you want to deal with this, let's talk off of TikTok, like adults. And I never heard from her. There was no other communication after that, so I just let it go. Wow. So it's almost the truth came out, and then she was like, I have nothing, I can't say anything else.

Because you were able to say your piece. I guess that's good in some way that there's just nothing else to deal with there, man. Well, thank you for sharing that because I'm sure it's like a lot to relive it. Cause you know, you have this most beautiful day and everything, saw your wedding video that you shared and like, everything looks so beautiful.

And so I'm glad you were able to like, think quickly and be like, I need this new dress. And you look beautiful in the dress you found. So like, how did you quickly find a dress? Like, what was your thought process? Like when you're like, I need to find a dress this weekend for tomorrow or whatever the 

Raylee Rukavina: date was.

 so my mom was a Saint. She helped me put on the custom made dress and that's who took the pictures of me. I like dropped and I was like, this is horrible. I was crying and she was like, okay, let's be calm. Let's figure it out. I was like, okay, what? And she was like, I'll take the dress.

I'll bring it to the seamstress. We'll see what we can do. We'll start there. we took separate cars because I still needed to go get my marriage license because my husband was working out of town at the time and there was no time. So Thursday before our wedding was the day and he called me and he's like, let's go get our marriage license right now.

And I was like, right now, I have a crisis on my hands. So I called my mom and she's like, it's fine. Go do that. And then I already scheduled you an appointment with two of the bridal shops. And I was like, I haven't seen you in 10 minutes. She was like, already go do it.

And was like, okay. So I went to both of the bridal shops in town. Mind you, they were amazing. So sweet. So helpful. It was perfect. I'm so thankful that they were able to get me in that quick. And then the seamstress I told her from the beginning that especially since I hadn't gotten any pictures of it, at the beginning of August, I was like, if this dress doesn't get in and it's perfect, I might need your help.

Or I might need your help with something different because I want to wear this dress that I'm getting custom made, but it's gotta be what I asked for. It was really when I got those videos. Of the dress on August 6th. And I was like, what is that? So I told her just a heads up that didn't look good.

I might need your help. So my mom took the dress, the custom made dress to the seamstress. And they talked about it. I got there, tried it on for her. she was like, there are too many things wrong. I wouldn't even want to touch it. Let alone of this can be fixed in two days. And I was like, okay, so that's when I went to the two bridal shops, tried on dresses And I found the dress that I was gonna wear.

I brought it back to my seamstress and This was Thursday night at like late and we just hemmed up the bottom of it and it fit like a glove. It was meant to be. 

Christa Innis:  I would lying if I said it wasn't the first time I heard someone in a panic, how to find a quick dress and just somehow.

the dress was just waiting for them. and like I said, the pictures looked amazing. It looked like it all still went so nicely together. So I'm glad you ended up finding your dress and it worked out, but it's crazy that all that had to happen in the midst of it. Yeah. Thank you. We went through the crazy story that you have.

I also like to get some wedding hot takes. I know we kind of talked about one in the beginning, but I have a couple and I want to see your opinion on these. So what is one wedding trend that you think needs to be retired for good? And why?   

Raylee Rukavina: don't like the groom going up under the dress to get the garter is so uncomfortable in front of everybody.

 I didn't even have a garter and so my husband used a beer can, but I'm like, this is weird. It needs to be retired for sure. 

Christa Innis: Yes. this is funny because I just shared on my Instagram stories, like share your unpopular opinions. And I would say a third of them said that we didn't do it at our wedding because I feel the same way.

 I had been to so many weddings where I was like, What have you seen this? It's just kind of like a weird, I don't know where the tradition started. I still bought a garter for like photos. like photographer did some in a shoe box and stuff. But yeah, I think it's one of those trends that, uh, It's more traditional, I guess, but that is slowly fading away.

I don't see it as much anymore, but, yeah, that's a good one. Cause I definitely saw it a lot in my Instagram comments. okay. One more thing. if you could change one thing about how weddings are typically planned or celebrated today, what would it be? 

Raylee Rukavina: Not putting so much pressure on it really.

 Going more simple. We had so many moving aspects of the wedding that being able to check something off your list and it just be done, but what was amazing. I got all my flowers. almost all of them were fake. I would do that again. They were beautiful. And it was just one thing that was like, I don't have to worry about that anymore.

The dress, I would recommend not doing a custom dress. I would recommend just buying one and being done with it. Yeah. 

Christa Innis: I am with you on the fake flowers too. It's funny because when I got engaged, we used fake flowers. And I was like, mom, no one does that. I'm not going to do fake flowers.

And a friend of mine got married six months before me. And she made these custom bouquets that were gorgeous. And she was like, do you want them for your wedding? And they matched my color scheme and everything. And I was like, Okay. And they were bouquets and like in photos you would not have known.

And I never would have thought I would have done that. Yeah. They've come a long way. 

Raylee Rukavina: Oh my gosh. They have. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. Okay. The next segment is called pick a side for wedding drama. so these are the unpopular opinions. what is your thought on, this is what someone commented on my Instagram story, even if a parent helps to pay for a wedding, they don't have as much say because it still isn't their wedding.

Raylee Rukavina: That's fair. I think being able to make kind boundaries. With your parents who are paying, not totally shutting them down, but being able to have a mutual agreement that you still have the last say at the end of the day. That is huge. mom, my stepdad and my dad paid for my wedding and they were so sweet.

My dad was just like,you guys do whatever. But my mom really helped me and she was so respectful of my opinion when I was like, uh, We're not doing that. She was like, okay, what's next? And I think that you have to have that. If your parents are going to pay for your wedding, because that is a huge thing.

And you, have to be super thankful for them to pay for it, but you can still say no, if you're kind about it. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, I totally agree. I feel like people try to make it so black and white online and they'll be like, if you get money, you got to do whatever you want for your wedding.

And I'm like, it's all about respect. And my thought is if you have a mutual respect and they are giving you money for the wedding or helping you, it's because you have that good relationship. if I wasn't close to someone, I would never take their money for the wedding or allow them to purchase something I'd be like.

No, let's respect each other. But yeah, of course, it's like you helped me with this. So what are your thoughts on this? You know, of course, 

all right, here's an unpopular opinion. Unwanted guests should not be invited to weddings, including family. Ooh, 

Raylee Rukavina: there was actually some family members and friends that I actually said we're not inviting them, and I know that that sounds horrible, but if they don't add to your life and make you feel good, why would they be there?

Why would you have anybody that you don't love and they love you wholeheartedly? Why would you have them there? 

Christa Innis: Exactly. I'm all for that too. I don't feel like someone should get invited just because of their title to you. yeah, because you want to be surrounded by love and support. And if you know someone's not going to do that, why have them there?

 let's get into it before I take too much longer. So this is, A wedding submission story that I'm going to read. And I tried to find one. Actually, my husband is behind the scenes on the podcast. So I told him to find one that had to do with. Wedding dresses. So I have not read this yet either.

So we're going to live react to it together. Okay. My mother was a nightmare with my wedding planning. The worst story was probably my dress shopping. I worked at David's bridal at the time. So my coworkers and I had already had fun playing in the dresses with myself and other coworkers, were engaged.

So we all spent breaks and lunches talking about plans together, trying on dresses. For my event of my parents coming to pick out my dress and all the accessories, it was myself, my mom, my stepdad, and my roommate, Michael. So they are all sitting and my supervisor, Annie, is nearby supporting me. My coworker, Annette, is helping me as my consultant.

We tried on like six dresses for fun that I loved because my mom wanted to see me in different types of dresses. The last one I tried on, I had actually already picked out. My mom was being nice but a little cold with her opinions, very unlike her. My dad is being awesome, just uncomfortable being in a dress store.

I'm having fun, a fun time with my friends around. I get the dress on and I walk out. I'm so excited for them to see. Annette Gets my veil I want and the jewelry we were playing with to finish the look. My dad says, that one is great. And my mom says, I want to make sure I read this right.

My mom does the whole hands to her mouth and starts tearing up. what do you guys think? This is my favorite. I love this one. And my mom says, that is the perfect dress. Now if only we could find the perfect groom. Oh, I didn't know where that was gonna go. I was shocked that I like you're already she's already engaged.

 we're looking at dresses. Why not 

Raylee Rukavina: ask the parents? Did he not ask the parents before getting engaged with her? 

Christa Innis: I don't know. I wonder if there's more to the background here, but like,

Raylee Rukavina: not the right 

Christa Innis: time or ever. 

Raylee Rukavina: I would have cried and stormed out in the wedding dress.

That's so sad. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Cause at that point you can't move on or forget what your mom said. That's you're going to think 

Raylee Rukavina: about that the rest of your life. Like at the altar, you're going to be thinking about that. 

Christa Innis: why do you not like him? okay. So this is what she says next. She says, I was shocked and so hurt.

Annette quietly asked me if I wanted to go get changed. So I nod and she got me to the dressing room before I started crying. I got in there and she asked me if I was okay. Tells me that was so messed up. The supervisor Annie comes into the dressing room with us and asked me if I want her to kick my mom out or say anything.

And I tell her, no, I get myself calmed down And ready to pretend like nothing happened because I know that's what she wanted. I let her and dad pay and leave. Then Michael, my roommate and I went home and watch movies and try not to keep crying. Oh my gosh. That is crazy. Okay. that's part one.

So that's like the beginning of her story. I guess she did a part two. I don't know if this has to do with, Her mom. So let's see. another one about two days before my wedding was supposed to happen. We were out at a camping area with my family and that we went to every year.

And I asked my stepdad who raised us and I have amazing relationship with if he would be all right. If I asked my older brother to walk me down the aisle with him to kind of represent my bio dad side of the family as well. He was totally fine with it and thought it was really sweet. And then my brother would appreciate it.

So I asked my brother, Kyle, if. He would go for a walk with me to talk that evening after dinner. He said, yeah. So we started walking and he asked me how I was feeling. And if I was excited and all that. Here's the approximation of how that conversation went. Me. I'm good, really excited, can't wait to wear my dress for everyone.

Kyle. Cool, cool. So, are you sure you're ready to get married? I mean, you guys are really young, and you only have known that guy for like, a minute. Me. Yeah, I'm definitely sure, and we've been together for three years as of next month. Wait, he's calling three years a minute? Oh my, is he even married? He's right.

I'm like, why is this family have such an issue when they've been together for three years? And we've been prepping for marriage pretty much since day one and he has seen me through so much, He's been my biggest support and we totally love each other Kyle, but you are so young. You're only 21 I've been dating a lot longer and more people than you I And I don't know if I'll ever get married.

Well, there you go. There's your answer.

who warned him to think he was able to give this advice? It's that kind of person. he can't understand why, because he has a different view for his own life, which is fine, but Oh my goodness. Oh my gosh. she just says, I don't know. I guess I've always just looked at relationships differently than you.

 I always only dated looking for a husband and you told me you just wanted to have fun. So different priorities. I shrugged my shoulders when I said this statement, then we were all of a sudden just walking in silence. And then I said, are you okay? Did I upset you? And he goes, It's really messed up what you just said.

Raylee Rukavina: You don't know anything. And he started yelling at me in the last sentence. What?! I don't know why her family has such an issue. 21 is definitely young to get married, but it's not anyone's place to say that. well, and maybe the parents before they got engaged, but now they're engaged. And now they're two days before the wedding.

This is not stuff you bring up now. Yeah, 

Christa Innis: wondering if like all along there were some issues I don't know, it just seems like really out of nowhere, all this crazy stuff when they should be planning for this exciting time. So then she says, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to upset you.

That's just what you've always told me when I've asked you about who you were dating. And then he yells in my face. I thought you were a psychologist. How could you tell? Wait, what? How couldn't you tell I was lying and just putting on a facade? then stormed off to the campground, leaving me on the path, just dumbstruck.

And I started tearing up. Side note, I had just graduated with my BA in psych a month before this, and he was still way off. I ended up texting him later that night, after I got back to the campsite and was hiding in the RV, and I told him I didn't mean to upset him, and it didn't make me a psychic.

 after that, he and I didn't talk unless necessary for the rest of the trip. So I'm guessing he didn't walk her down the aisle. She didn't say anything else about it. I'm guessing not. That's 

Raylee Rukavina: really odd. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. I'm wondering how a lot of these stories I want follow up because I'm wondering how this actually played out the wedding day.

Cause first you have this comment from mom and then now you have your brother acting this way. If I were her, I would ask the stepdad at this point because he seems like the most supportive. 

Raylee Rukavina: that might be the only one walking her down the aisle. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh my gosh. I'm always like one story will really shock me.

And then I'm like, okay, that was the most shocking. And then I see another story. It's,   

my gosh. I 

Raylee Rukavina: can't believe people say stuff like that. Pick a better time. Oh my goodness. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, it never ceases to amaze me when I just hear some these comments because I'm so lucky my in laws are amazing.

My parents are amazing. We didn't have any wedding drama and When I hear this stuff or when I see this stuff I'm just like guys it's not the place or the time Let them enjoy their wedding unless there is like some reason we're like, you've seen him be like abusive, something like crazy like that.

It's not the time to just share your disdain for someone. 

Raylee Rukavina: Yeah, we had my husband's father marry us and it was wonderful and he did a great job and there was nothing like this. I would have never even thought. oh my goodness. Yeah. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. Well, those were Good ones to read. All right I'm gonna end this with our weekly confessions game where I'm gonna read three different confessions that people sent me on Instagram It's an other new thing.

We're starting I'm going to ask you to rate the confession from one to be mild tea and 10 as absolute chaos. and then feel free to share your thoughts or opinions on it if you want as well. Okay. The first one, my psycho violent and estranged brother found out about my wedding and said he might crash it.

Raylee Rukavina: with that being said. There were so many people trying to crash my wedding. So I would put that at, from the whole dress stuff. People from the internet were threatening to crash my wedding. Yes.   

Christa Innis: Did you find this out after the wedding or you found this out before the wedding?

Raylee Rukavina: the designer was to come to The town that we live in and. do whatever or send people. So we upped the security for our weddings. So I would put this probably like at a nine or 10 of pure chaos. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh. She was threatening to show up or have people show up.

 

Raylee Rukavina: And then when I was like going through the comments on the TikTok videos, there were people that were like, Oh, we should have shown up on my wedding day, August 24th, they were like, let's show up and also the venue address got doxxed too. Yeah. So, I mean, it definitely could have happened.

Christa Innis: That's where I'm like, too. again, I wouldn't do any of this as a but the very least Contact them after the wedding day never post it publicly and stuff this is why she had to do this all to like hurt you in some way Doing it. Absolutely. Yeah. Oh my gosh Okay.

This next one. I am so over my fiance's family. They don't even treat us like family since the other brother got engaged. 

Raylee Rukavina: Weird. I would say definitely like a five, it's not nothing, but it's not insane chaos, but that's upsetting. That is very upsetting. 

Christa Innis: I don't know how some of these people do it when they say like their fiance's family or partner's family are like, horrible to them.

Raylee Rukavina: I'm like, that's supposed to be like an extension of your family. I don't know what I would do if my in laws and family didn't treat me like their own, Well, and once you're married, you're there for life. you better start liking me or we figure it out, exactly.

That's crazy. 

Christa Innis: I don't know. when you hear those crazy stories, I don't know what they think or they just don't think probably, but I don't know what they think is going to happen by like treating someone so badly. They're just gonna be like, okay, I'm done at the very least.

They're going to have their own child be estranged from them because they're going to choose their wife or their husband. It's just like, I don't get why. I don't know why you would create that. Yeah. okay. This next one says, I just started my own little nail business a bride reached out for free nails and said she would promote me.

No, 

Raylee Rukavina: I don't even know where to rate that, but absolutely not. I'm sorry. before all of this, I only had 2000 followers on TikTok, and now I have like 53,000. But no, I would never. Be like, can you do this for free? Just because I'll post you on my Tik TOK. Who knows where all these people are from.

Thankful for them to be following my story, but they may not even care about the nails and just to be promoted. Like I like maybe a discount at the most, but not for a free service. Yeah. And I always have to remember that I am still just a person. I put my pants on the same way that you do every day.

So it doesn't matter if you have a massive following or not. we're all very equal still. Exactly. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. I've heard very cringey stories like this before where like a big influencer will reach out to a company and be like, Expecting all this free stuff. And it's like, I'll promote your business.

And it's like, if they want to offer that, that's amazing. And that's so nice of them, but a small business is already like needing that help and the boost in sales. you should not just expect it. I think that's this like new kind of culture we're in where people think they can just get free stuff.

Well, and wouldn't, wouldn't you want to support? The small business starting out, wouldn't you want to pay them for it and post about it? Mm hmm. Exactly. Yeah. Why wouldn't you want everybody to be winning? Yeah, I always like to quote, I haven't watched it in a long time, but there's this South Park episode about, Yelpers, and they go into restaurants and they'll be like, expect free food.

And they'll be like, well, I'm a Yelper and I'll leave a review. And they like, try to like throw it in. So they like make fun of how like people will be like, I have five stars on Yelp. So if you don't. do this. I'm going to go on and leave a negative review. People love doing stuff like that, but craziness.

Well, thank you so much for coming on and reliving your crazy wedding story. I'm so appreciative for you coming on and also sharing your wedding hot takes, and reacting with me. I really appreciate it. it was so great meeting you after hearing the craziness. And I'm so sorry that you went through that, but it sounds like you still had an amazing wedding day.

Raylee Rukavina: Yes, we did. Thank you for having me on here. It was awesome. And I can't wait to see all the sneak peeks and everything. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. 

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