Here Comes the Drama with Christa Innis

Drunk Groomsmen, Wedding Nightmares & the Crazy Faux Pas with Krysta Hofmeyer

• Christa Innis • Season 1 • Episode 9

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What happens when a groomsman shows up wasted before the ceremony, a maid of honor hijacks a wedding speech with politics, and a mother-in-law makes everything about herself?

Absolute chaos. In this episode, Christa and Krysta dive into jaw-dropping wedding drama, viral moments, and astrology’s role in wedding personalities. From boundary-setting with difficult family members to why some people just have to make the big day about them, we’re spilling all the tea. Plus, we debate the most overrated wedding trends and read the wildest listener confessions.

Get ready for a rollercoaster of wedding mayhem!

Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments

  • The Drunk Groomsman Disaster - A groomsman arrives plastered before the ceremony, harasses the staff, and then causes a full-blown medical emergency—only to be found passed out in the bathroom.
  • When Wedding Guests Steal the Spotlight - From over-the-top speeches to wearing white, Christa and Krysta break down why some guests just have to make it about them.
  • The Most Overused Wedding Speech Joke - If you’re making a toast, please—for the love of weddings—don’t use this one-liner.
  • Social Media’s Influence on Weddings - The pressure to create a “viral moment” is real. But is it ruining the authenticity of weddings?
  • The Ultimate Mother-in-Law Meltdown - A mother-in-law sabotages the wedding, takes money from the bride, and pulls the ultimate victim move.
  • Wedding Boundaries & The Power of Saying No - Christa and Krysta share their experiences with setting boundaries and why people-pleasers struggle at weddings.
  • Wedding Confessions: The Cringe Edition - From political speeches to shady in-laws, these listener submissions will leave you speechless.

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Christa Innis: Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of here comes the drama. I'm your host, Christa Innis from Party Planning by Christa and today's episode is packed with juicy stories and hot takes you will not want to miss. I am so excited because today's guest is my very good friend Krysta. And yes, I'm not talking about myself.

My friend Krysta is someone I used to work with actually many years ago in social media and marketing. And we've just stayed friends over the years. We Have a lot of very odd similarities and we met at such weird times, her boyfriend and my husband worked together and they would always talk about it was funny that they both were dating Christas and that we both worked in marketing, but we had never met and then, I was actually hiring for an assistant at my old job.

And I saw all these job applications come in, and I interviewed a couple different ones, and Krista was one. so it just kind of like worked out. she is just so insightful when it comes to different things. She, you can find her on TikTok at CardinalKrys, where she shares different astrology.

tips and skits. And she's helped me kind of learn a lot about myself, over the years, which we'll kind of get into in the episode. And on top of that, she used to be an event planner, during the height of COVID actually. So she's got a lot of crazy stories. And the one that she shares is, Very intense.

So I'm going to let her share that with you guys. She's got a lot of great takes. and she's also been involved in so many weddings over the years that allow her to see many routine things that happen at weddings. So without further ado, here's my episode with my good friend, Krysta. Enjoy.

Thank you so much for coming on, Krysta. I'm so excited to have you here. for those of you that don't know, Krys and I used to work together a couple years ago now. and your boyfriend and my husband worked together years ago, so it just kind of worked out.

And we always said it was funny that their significant others were both named Krista and both worked in marketing and social media. So, So that was just my long little spiel, but thanks so much for coming on. 

Krysta: Yeah, I feel like we've had, a weird amount of similarities too, like, I always say that about me and you, I feel like both of our names are the same, both of our boyfriend or fiancé at the time was, doing the same thing, knew each other, they both, like, disc golf.

even, weird synchronicities that I remember where, our childhood dog passed away, I don't know if you remember this, like, within the same week, I feel like there were just, always, synchronicities between the two of us. Which even our love for The Bachelor, just like this very same things that we both enjoyed.

Christa Innis: and I could always get lost in conversation, where like we would start talking about something And people might not understand this, but it's that like, that indigo, the aura talk, you know, or astrology talk and we would just get like lost in conversation because we're very similar when it comes to one on one conversation, and so many things have like aligned in our Lifes and families.

We each have one brother, one sister, but you have a different way of spelling your name. Mm hmm. 

Krysta: Yeah, when I started at the company that we both worked at, I feel like I remember they were introducing me as likethe other Krista, which was kind of funny, or like Krista 2.

 I think I wrote on my board, like, welcome Krista number two or whatever. But, yeah, different ways of spelling it, but, just always have had very similarities with you. 

Christa Innis: yeah, it's funny how that works and how, timing worked and now it's like, I can't picture my life without you.

We just have so many Storylines to go along with that. So before we dive too far in can you just tell everyone a little bit about you what you do? And then we'll get into today's wedding drama. 

Krysta: Yeah, Like I said, we both worked in social media marketing and that's how we originally met each other. So that's my original kind of like love and background.

I'm still doing it to this day where I work for a nonprofit, it's in Chicago called one hope United. And we work with like foster kids and getting kids adopted and. Helping families stick together. So I love that aspect of my job too, while tying in still like social media and marketing. and then I think it was about a year ago now, maybe last month, a year ago, last month where you were trying to convince me to start Tik 

Christa Innis: TOK, 

Krysta: which your Tik TOK was blowing up and you were like, just.

Let's do it because I have that love for astrology where I bring it up in like every conversation. I'm like that super annoying girl that's like, Oh, you're a Virgo or like, you reel it in, but um, astrology. So you helped me start my tick tock, which has been happening for a year now where I talk about like astrology and.

pop culture and just like information and skits about astrology. So doing that a little bit on the side. but other than that, like tying in today, I do have a background in event planning as well before I got into social media and marketing. So I definitely have a lot of stories and that was during COVID too.

So a lot of Yeah. COVID stories and like attending weddings and I bartended weddings and have been in weddings. So 

Christa Innis: yeah, guys, Krista is so knowledgeable when it comes to astrology. That was one of the things like I never really understood all of it. And if you're not into it or you're rolling your eyes right now, I get it.

We think we've all been there at one point and I'm not trying to convince you otherwise, but we would just have conversations about what this might mean or what certain tendencies mean or stuff like that. And I always thought that was so interesting. We could talk about that for hours.

and actually did a skit with Krista. Maybe like a little bit after you started your account or something and, people were showing a lot of interest in what you were doing, but we did a skit showing brides as different signs, and I thought that was pretty fun because, you were so quick to be like, okay, this kind of bride's gonna be like this, and you just know, like, I'm a Virgo, and I tend to be a perfectionist, and you were like, Brides having stuff in bins and knowing where everything goes and directing people and I was like, yeah, that sounds, about right.

Krysta: Yeah. And when we were working together, you were planning your wedding. And I remember you had like every month planned out. You're like, well, this month I should have this done. And then next month I should have this. And I feel like. I don't remember what part it was in your wedding planning journey, but it was at least like a few months beforehand where you're like, yeah, I have like everything done where like, I feel like a lot of brides are like scrambling at the last second.

Like, I don't even think about that. you had everything spreadsheets, like the timing, which I'm so jealous of because I'm not that way whatsoever. 

Christa Innis: I think I like, just being in so many weddings, I saw kind of like what, not went wrong, but where brides stressed a lot, and I was like, I don't want to be the bride that's stressing all the time, and I will honestly say, I Barely stressed.

If I stress it was maybe in the beginning or like random things here and there, but I knew brides that like lost a ton of weight cause they were so stressed or they were just overly like, they couldn't focus on anything but their wedding. And I was like, I want to enjoy my engagement too. I don't want to be overwhelmed.

And so, yeah, I kind of made it like just like a fun project where I was like, going to sign this off. And, That led me into creating, like, that bridal checklist I have because I'm, like, that makes it easy just to be able to see, like, okay, this month I need to do this thing, and then you can hang out for a couple months, and then this month you gotta do this other big thing, then you can hang out and enjoy it instead of, like, going crazy.

Krysta: Right. Yeah, and I think, too, I'm trying to remember if this was in the skit we did, but I think we've talked about it before where, certain brides, and I think we've talked about it before with, our friends in weddings, I think of an Aquarius bride is very much so, like, I just want to party.

 don't really care. I just want to get to the dance floor and have the drinks flowing I think you were talking about your Taurus friend who like, she really cared about how the food was 

Christa Innis: like, she 

Krysta: cared That's one of the main things she cared about was like how good the food was.

the cancer bride's going to be like crying and things like that. So it is funny, like the synchronicities, even if you don't believe in astrology, I'm like, 

Christa Innis: okay, well things are adding up. Yes. Yeah, no, I totally, totally agree with that. you've taught me lot when it comes to, uh, all that kind of stuff.

So, people ever want to learn more, they should definitely, follow you on, TikTok to see your fun little skits and your fun takes on that stuff. So jumping into, you talked about you were a part of event planning, which I think you're gonna have a lot of stories. What's probably like one of the craziest stories that you Witnessed as a part of event planning or being at a wedding yourself that you're like, Oh my gosh, I still can't believe that happened.

Krysta: I think one of the main ones that come to my head was one of the COVID weddings that I bartended and those weddings were always so chaotic because we were masked up we were gloved up it was like the summer of COVID so obviously a lot of the weddings were outside and we had to be extra cautious but I remember it's like a typical drunk groomsman story where this happened One of the groomsmen showed up like probably an hour before the ceremony and was already like plastered like visibly very drunk and I'm setting up the bar and he is trying to get shots from me and I'm like okay well number one we're not allowed to do shots number two like the bar is not even set up yet like we're not open so he was just giving the staff trouble like right from the get go and feeling very entitled and rude but fast forward to when we're serving dinner the place that I worked at was an event and catering company.

So we were serving the salad and the salad had nuts on it. And he flipped out because he was apparently deathly allergic to nuts, but didn't tell anyone, even though within the process,  on the invite, it's like, Hey, tell us your food, preferences, tell us your allergies. And he never filled anything out How are we supposed to know? So he gets the salad and starts screaming at staff in front of everyone, causing a scene, like, I could die, I'm gonna sue you guys, how dare you, But he wasn't telling us if he actually took a bite of the salad or not, he was refusing to tell us, What?  I don't know. He was belligerent. So just to be cautious. I remember one of the other event planners. She called 911 because she was like, well, this guy might be having an allergic reaction. So the ambulance show up, the police showed up and then he's like nowhere to be found.

And we're like, okay, he was found like drunk in the bathroom just passed out and he didn't even eat the salad. 

Christa Innis: Oh my gosh, we caused this big stir when he actually didn't take a bite of the salad. He just wanted to get angry at somebody. It sounds like. 

Krysta: Mm hmm. Yeah. I felt so bad. I think it, was the groom's friend, but like the bride was so embarrassed.

I felt so bad, but yeah, it just sucks when your wedding party has to do things like that. it's like, are you making it about you? 

Christa Innis: Yeah. I was just talking to someone about like, if. You know you can't handle your liquor. Don't drink before a wedding, or  really limit it, because, this day is not about you, and it just sounds like he was more into, the party of it, which, I get it, it should be fun, it should be a party, but at the same time, if you're gonna make a fool out of yourself, then it just makes it all about you and then to berate staff that's trying to make this day magical, it's like, yeah, it was so chaotic.

Krysta: Yeah, that's the one that comes to my head where I'm like, yeah, that one was probably the most chaotic that I've experienced. Yeah. 

Christa Innis: Were you there just like, Oh my gosh, please  calm down. 

Krysta: so I was bartending. So I was in the outside bar, but I remember  all the staff were obviously talking about it and a lot of the staff had to get involved.

And then the ambulance showed up and I was in charge of trying to find him too. And everyone's like, he's gone. we're like, did he just run away? Like no one knew where he went. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Oh my  That is insane. Like, the number of, drunk groomsmen stories I've heard is quite appalling.

 

I feel like it's just so disrespectful. if you know you want to, like, party, have a good time, wait until at least after the ceremony. When you're, kind of off the hook a little bit. If you want to have a couple drinks before, sure. But it's like, you need to really know your limit and know, okay.

Christa Innis: Am I going to be causing a scene? But I think the other thing is like people that act that way. Don't think about that. They're like, whatever, it's fine. It's the same people that,cause other issues on wedding days. They're not like, you know what, it's their day. I'm not going to make it about me.

That's their last thought. Exactly. Those people are thinking about themselves first. and most of these issues that we see at weddings, it's because they're not thinking about that. So I don't know if that'll help or not. That's why I like, to share these skits and hope that people see it and be like, Okay, maybe I should tone it back a little.

Krysta: Yeah, or just resonate and be like, Oh my God, at least I'm not the only one where like something chaotic happened. Cause I feel like Working with weddings and working in event planning, there's always something that goes wrong. Like, it's inevitable. I can think of very little events that I've worked where at least one thing hasn't gone wrong.

But as long as the, bride and the groom, for the most part, are, like, chill and, go with the flow, it's, normally very small things where it's, like, don't let it ruin your day. you're still, like,  you're marrying the love of your life. Like, that's what should matter. And don't let, little small things ruin your night.

Christa Innis: Yeah, absolutely. and I always say to, I don't want to freak people out because for the most part, you're not going to have some crazy thing like this happen. like, if you have bad gut feeling or you're like, Oh, that person is going to do something. Chances are it'll be fine.

most weddings I've gone to and been a part of. There's no drama. Or if there is, no one else knows about it. It's kind of behind the scenes, you or it's like something little that happened between two people or something. We just talk about it because it's kind of memorable when it does happen because you're like, whoa, that was crazy.

Um, but yeah, I don't want to scare people because sometimes I see comments that are like, oh, thank God I'm never getting married or thank God I'm just going to elope or I'm never going to do this because of that. And I don't want to scare people because so many weddings do not have this drama.

Krysta: Yeah, that's so true. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, so I want to get into just some wedding hot takes. just to kind of get your opinion on wedding culture. the first one is, what is a trend that you are totally overseeing and what would you replace it with? 

Krysta: Ooh, that's a good one. I guess the first thing that comes to my head, and maybe it's because it's fresh in my brain right now, because I'm going to be the maid of honor in my sister's wedding in August of next year, and Speeches are like a big thing for her and her fiance.

 they've told me on multiple occasions now, like we really are excited for your speech. Like we hope it's good. it's our favorite part. I'm like, okay, the pressure, but I'll do my best. but I think. Working in weddings too and seeing and hearing so many speeches, one thing, and this is probably really irrational of me and no hate to anyone that does this, but there's this one saying, and I might have already talked to you about this, but where people might just Google funny things to put in my speech for my like maid of honor or whatever.

And the one that I heard, I want to say almost every speech when I was bartending weddings that summer was, I just want to give a toast to my favorite people here, the bartenders. And by the time, the end of the summer, I was like, Oh my God, if one more person says that I'm going to lose it. it is funny, but to me, I'm just like, okay, let's be like a little bit more original.

Let's be more authentic, but So that's one irrational thing That I feel like annoys me at weddings, but I mean replacing it with something I think just Maybe speaking more from your heart and preparing for the speech and telling personal stories because there's always that one groomsman to that's like, I didn't even prepare the speech.

I wrote this on a napkin five minutes ago. And it's like, why are you bragging about that? You know, they like think it's funny and then they ramble on for 10 minutes because they had nothing prepared and they're just rambling. 

Christa Innis: There's a very small, small, small percentage because I know when I say this, people are going to be like, well, I did it and it was fine.  

There's a very small percentage of people that can just do things like, wing it. Most people need at least some notes or some preparation, because I posted about it before I was like. Rule number one when it comes to speeches, don't wing it. And someone commented, they're like, well, I didn't. It was great.

I'm like, maybe it was for you. Maybe you have that personality. We can just do it. But I think it's good just have basic, notes. Like, I mean, me, I wrote out the whole thing ahead of time when I had to do it. But, you know, I think that's a really good example because I'm sure you heard, a lot of the same, like, jokes.

And you're like, okay, they just Googled, how to start off funny, you know. 

Krysta: Cause I saw this one TikTok recently where it was like a compilation of everyone, at the same time, like, how else are you supposed to start it with everyone starting off their speech with, For those of you who don't know me.

And it was like a compilation of everyone saying that, but I'm like, Like, how else are you supposed to start it? I guess you don't have to say it. Cause half of the people there probably may not know you because you're only one part of the groom or the bride. 

I don't know, but I do think like with social media.

It definitely puts a pressure and that's why people may feel like, oh, like I want this viral TikTok moment in my speech where I say this like super funny thing. So it does put like an element of pressure that your speech needs to be super good because there's like cameras on you, videography, photography, everything on you.

So, there's a connection. 

Christa Innis: I was just talking to someone about how, the, social media kind of puts this extra pressure because there's now, videographer companies, which I'm sure, slash, I hope, that they reach out to people first. Like, can I share this on social media? like, they'll share people exchanging their vows and it goes viral.

Sometimes it's for the right reasons and sometimes it's for the wrong reasons, I don't know if you saw this one on TikTok. I don't know their names or anything. But Basically, the groom's vows were not very nice about the wife and, she kept laughing through it and I think she was very uncomfortable, but they went viral.

And because the wedding company or the videographer company shared it, he was just saying very inappropriate things about why he finally wants a ball and chain. And I guess I decided to give into this, being like gross about it. And hers was so adoring of him.

hers was like, you're the best husband and father to our two girls. You're this and that, and his was just putting her down. And so that's where I'm on the other end of it, it's like, you don't know what things are gonna be shared. I mean, that's a whole other discussion about like vows and stuff.

But when you're saying something in front of a group of people, you gotta like, Make sure it's gonna take off the right way. It's about the couple. You should be respectful. Like I love a good joke, but don't do a joke that's gonna like put them down or hurt them. I think I was telling you I was at a wedding where the maid of honor said something about her friend wanting to marry for money And she got him.

And I was like, Oh, 

Krysta: God, just silent cricket. I 

Christa Innis: was like, No, don't do it. so let's know your audience a little bit. 

Krysta: Yeah. Or like the people that purposely like trying to tell like a really embarrassing story or try and make fun of them and the bride's like mortified or just, I think maybe this is from a movie Where they're like, Oh, like I remember back in the day when I used to date like the groom or whatever, like if they were in middle school together or like younger, like back in the day, I 

Christa Innis: dated him 

Krysta: just, it's like, don't bring that up.

 yeah, making word. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Like, let's not do that. 

 So let's jump into, a wedding drama. Bates. These are unpopular opinions that people send me on Instagram. So here we go. this first one says getting married four months before the big day and not telling anyone until right before the rehearsal dinner.

Whoa. Popular opinion. 

Krysta: So they probably went to the courthouse or whatever, like by themselves. Is that kind of what you think they're meaning? 

Christa Innis: It sounds like they did a private wedding, just the two of them. And then they're just kind of going along with the wedding planning and then just being surprise, we actually are already married.

 I think my cousin did that or a family friend of mine. Also, I've heard about doing that before. And I don't personally understand the reasoning, but pop off if that's what you want to do, because maybe to them, it's like, Oh, this is just like another added special day that we can just have a memory of just the two of us, because I know a lot of people on their wedding day, they're like, I barely spent time with my husband.

Krysta: Like I was so busy doing other things. And I think that's why the first look has become super popular too, because. It's just an added moment where you get to spend time with your partner during the day. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. 

Krysta: So, I mean, I don't hate it if that's what they want to do. 

Christa Innis: Yeah.  I know a lot of friends of mine that,  legally got married before their wedding, but we're talking like a couple years before, and for different reasons, But then there were some friends that I didn't know until after their wedding they were like, oh, yeah We've already been married seven years and I was like, oh Okay.

 and yeah, I think it's people view Marriage and vows differently Zach and I had already been together so many years so for me, it was just another step and like, life didn't feel different for us. I know some people like they don't move in until they're married or everything's just different.

So for us, it just felt like it's just another step. I didn't feel like different after we got married. But, if you want to do that, I think that's. Your choice. I think it takes the pressure off some people too. Like, we're already married, so there's no pressure in the actual ceremony.

but yeah, teach their own. Yeah. this next one says sparkler send offs are awful.

Krysta: So I actually, I feel like I've only attended one wedding where there were sparklers. Is that where, like at the very end they run through it and they run through it and it's kind of like another photo op. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Yeah. 

Krysta: Yeah. 

Christa Innis: I mean, 

Krysta: I don't hate it. 

Christa Innis: I think they look really good in photos, honestly. Like I think I've been a part of three or four weddings.

I did it and I thought it was really pretty. 

Krysta: And this can go into a whole other topic, but like photo ops in general, as long as the couple, isn't so focused on, cause I know I've dealt with brides before where they were so focused on like, Oh, we need this photo op or we need to do this trend on Tik TOK or where it almost takes away from them just naturally having fun throughout the day.

So if they're like, stressing out about like, Oh, like I need this photo, then I would say don't stress about those certain photo ops. But if it's just like something that naturally happens where you're like, okay, yeah, that's time to do the sparkler send off. Like, that's fine. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, totally. I actually liked my candid photos way more than The staged photos.

I shouldn't say staged, but like the group photos where he does stand there and smile. At first when I was scrolling through them, I was like, I don't know, posing to me is just not me. The candid ones from Cocktail Hour, or just like, randomly interacting with people, I loved those so much more because they just felt more genuine.

Krysta: But yeah, I get it, it's like, that social media thing of we have to look this way, let's do this, andI totally agree and I've been taking some photography classes and stuff. So I've been dipping my toes into photography too. And I always feel like it is the candid ones where they look 10 times better rather than people posing like super like stiff, awkwardly.

That's why I'm always like, okay, now look at each other and laugh or look like you like each other. So they're like leaning more in rather than like, just like. Straight up. So yeah, I totally get it. The candid photos are my favorite. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, I feel like it takes the pressure off too because I feel like a lot of times men, and not to generalize, but when you do like engagement photos or something, the guy's more nervous about it because they're like, I don't want to pose for this, but it's like, just hang out with your fiance and then I can snap.

But, I'm just going from what people have done for. Photos I've seen. I'm not a photographer. Okay, let's jump into this week's wedding submission story. It's a little long, but it seems like a good one and I'll try to do my best to read fairly quickly. Okay, for context, my mother and I never had a great relationship, even when I was a child.

She had a lot of issues from her childhood she refused to deal with, along with some mental illness. So for most of my life, she abused substances. By the time I met my now husband, she was sober, but she was incredibly controlling. She didn't like my husband because he gave me the support to stand for myself.  

Okay, that usually happens when someone's used to taking advantage of someone. She also hated his family because they were nice and helpful with no strings attached. My mom wanted to be the better family without having to do anything, and it made her feel threatened that I was being taken away. On top of that, I was a fresh adult at 19, still had my parents on my bank account, they would  over half my paycheck.

That's unheard of. 

Krysta: Hello. 

Christa Innis: Whoa. And I was still in the process of figuring out how to handle that. Okay. that's a lot. She 

Krysta: was 

Christa Innis: 19. Yeah. other than when I was a kid, I don't think I ever had my parents on my bank account. 

Krysta: And they weren't taking half of my paycheck. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Definitely not. I called my mom to tell her my husband and I were getting married and her immediate response was, well, I'm not paying for it.

I didn't even ask for help. I wanted a congratulations when I told my mother in law separately, she was so excited and said we would just go to the courthouse. and when we said we were just gonna go to the courthouse, she asked if we would mind holding off and she would pay for it so she could watch her oldest child and first be married, get married.

We agreed. That's a very nice, respectful way of doing it. Didn't sound like she wanted to control it, but she wanted to like help and gave her opinion, which I, thought was really nice. I came up with a date, during holiday, so it would be easier for the family to drive down, since a lot of them were in school.

When telling my mom the date, she freaked out, saying I shouldn't be catering to them, and I should cater to her instead, because they would be in X town, two hours away, and wouldn't be able to make it. So, again, just making it all about herself. I reminded her that she and my father lived in an RV and she told me it couldn't be changed.

My father later told me that he would make it whether or not she wanted to be there. Later on, when my mom realized my mother in law was paying for the small wedding, she said I was icing her out. And all she wanted to do was help.   

Krysta: Oh my gosh. 

Christa Innis: This just sounds like someone that wants to be a victim.

Yeah. 

Krysta: Mm hmm. 

Christa Innis: She wanted to buy our champagne glasses and the food, but wanted it to be in her style, not mine. She also then cried to my father about when I picked my wedding dress, so she asked me to let her come pick. I agreed and invited her. The dress I picked was actually a bridesmaid dress that was white with lace, so the price was under 200.

My mom was glowing and taking pictures. Once I said this was my dress, she grinned and told me, well, I'm not paying for this. 

Krysta: Oh my god. Here we go again. 

Christa Innis: It's like, you get like two steps forward and then four steps back. 

Krysta: Yeah, literally like a whiplash. 

Christa Innis: she's like trying to work with her here.

I was frustrated and annoyed, but I was able to buy it myself. Again, I brushed this under the rug while my husband was very angry for me. A week before the wedding, my mom said she wasn't going to pay for anything anymore, which it doesn't sound like she agreed to pay for anything at all. Right. 

Krysta: Not at all.

Christa Innis: So I don't know why she keeps, stressing, I'm not paying for anything. She was, 

Krysta: like, dangling it, oh, maybe I'll pay for this, and then taking it away once she got angry about something. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. It just sounds like that, controlling behavior. So my mother in law scrambled for glasses. Oh, it's the champagne glasses.

She said she wanted to buy in the champagne. The food order had already been placed. Everything. My mother now refused to pay for my mother in law found a way. I still, to this day, do not know if my dad or father in law paid for the food. We did pizza at a pizza shop. I was working at the wedding was incredibly low key.

The wedding happened, we walked from the beach, back to the beach house, and hung out. At some point, my mom fell and ripped open her knee, so half the wedding guests sat around with her the entire night, and catered to her every want and need. Because again, we were around nice people. And my mother in stepfather in law pulled my parents aside, and my parents left incredibly fast after that.

I later found out they told my parents they needed to stop asking me for money because I was still a kid and they were established adults. Whoa! Bold! 

Krysta: Putting 

Christa Innis: them 

Krysta: in their place. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. Okay, we've just stopped at the knee thing. Do you think she really fell or do you think she did it on purpose to get attention?  

Krysta: who knows, if either way, she knew she was gonna be milking it. Uh huh. maybe she was mid fall and then was like, I'm gonna make it worse than it actually 

Christa Innis: is. Yeah, because I'm thinking like, opposite pleasers, we would fall and be like, we would have a broken leg and just hobble.

Krysta: Yeah, blood dripping down our leg. Be like, fine. No one pay attention to me. 

Christa Innis: Don't worry about it. I literally, this is a small side story. One time it was the day before a wedding and they did a bachelorette party. I fell the night before, broke my elbow and I was like, don't worry about it. My dad didn't come pick me up.

I went to the hospital. wasn't broken. It was sprained. and they were like, you don't have to come. And I was like, no, I'll be there. Don't worry. And I'm like still on the dance floor with my little sling and everything.

Krysta: You were probably like still helping out with everything, like setting up too. 

Christa Innis: I was, and I was like trying to do my makeup and the bride felt so bad and she's like, I'll just do your makeup. I'm like, no. I don't. Aw, yeah. It was like a friend from college's sister's wedding, so it was like, it was very low key, but that was a side story.

People pleasers, like 

Krysta: a Libra Rising. We're both Libra risings. 

Christa Innis: Yes. Yeah. Pleaser 

Krysta: for core. 

Christa Innis: We can't help 

Krysta: it. 

Christa Innis: when you started talking about that stuff that helped me really understand myself. That's why I am the way that I'm, what'd you say? 

Krysta: That's why I am the way that 

Christa Innis: I am. Yes. We were rising.

Oh my gosh, to the core. so that's why when I first read this, I was like, she's the opposite, which when you read someone like this, and I'm sure the intense or narcissistic, I don't want to label anybody, but the intense mother in laws or father in law, whatever. Do you see that as a certain sign or do you see that as like, a mix of things?

It's a mix. 

Krysta: I feel like it's definitely a mix and I don't want to throw any Zodiac sign under the bus because every Zodiac sign has their pros and cons, but I've seen a pattern with like mother in laws where it could be like the Aries mother in law is kind of Aries is the first sign of the Zodiac so they're a lot about themselves, which is a good and bad at the same time where it's like they're very driven it's the opposite of Libra where they are very focused on themselves.

The sign Libra is very focused on other people and how other people perceive them. So I've seen like Aries mother, especially at weddings maybe the more controlling, like, whoa, is me victim, 

mentality. So a lot of time I could see it being like a fire sign, which is Aries Sagittarius in Leo.

Christa Innis: Oh, interesting. Oh, yeah, the fire signs, the 

Krysta: dramas. the dramatics. Dramatics, 

Christa Innis: yeah. Mm-hmm . 

Krysta: And, 

Christa Innis: and if you're in Aries listening, don't be offended becausewe did a video where there's like positives for Everyone I know that it's I love Aries. There's mean Aries listening. That's like, I'm not that way.

And believe me, there's so many parts to every personality. This is not 

Krysta: no. I'm jealous of Aries, if I'm being honest, because I feel like Aries are so good at thinking about themselves where I'm constantly thinking about other people. So I'm like, I'm jealous that you're able to stick up for yourself and like not care what other people think where I'm.

In the trenches struggling and can't sleep at night thinking about one stupid thing that I said three months ago. 

Christa Innis: Yes. Oh my gosh. I know we were just talking about this the other night. because my daughter is an Aries and I read something once where it was like Virgo and Aries or the people please.

I don't know if it's Virgo because I don't know if that's my, people pleaser side. It's the Libra. But they, like, people pleasers tend to pair up well with people that are, more about themselves or, like, know how to spend time with themselves because admire it. They're, like, that's really cool.

You can say no to people. You've good boundaries. Oh, my gosh. And, when I've been working my whole life at setting boundaries and, protecting my peace. And even when I do it and I'm proud of myself, I still think about the other person, like, Are they okay? Mm hmm. Sorry. 

Krysta: I feel bad. Yeah. And we've probably talked about this before too, but I feel like me and you tend to go towards certain types of friends too, or maybe a friend that is more likely to stand up andhave your back and like, not care about what other people think.

Like I tend to like gravitate towards those people because I'm not that way. Yes. So no, I really admire that, especially about fire signs where I'm like teaching your ways. 

Christa Innis: one of my closest friends is really good at just speaking her mind or like standing up for herself. She's always been really good about boundaries and stuff.

 and when we're together, I'm like. That is really cool. Um, okay, let's continue this story. I know we're kind of going a little past time. the whole weekend was just a casual celebration and we made everyone aware that they could come over whenever they wanted to hang out since we rented the house for the weekend.

The house was full of my husband's side of the family and everyone we invited lived in town being in the RV. I got yelled at that night by my mom for not inviting her specifically back over because I apparently made it clear that I had hated her and did not want her around anymore. At that point, I put my phone on you and enjoyed being married.

Good for this ride. Talking about boundaries and just being like, you know what, I'm not going to be pulled under this spell. that people pleaser spell of constantly being like, no, it's okay, I really want you to be here. no, you made it clear you wanted everyone to come if they could.

And so good for her. 

Krysta: The bride was probably over it. it seems like the whole, wedding planning experience for her, she was trying to cater to her mom and her mom's needs and make her mom happy. So I'm glad at the end of the day, she was like, okay, I'm over this block or like mute. Yeah.

I'm going to enjoy my night and not let you ruin my night. Yeah. It sucks. I do feel bad for her and her mom. it seems like her mom needs. some inner work or needs to like go to therapy or like I'm no expert, but it does seem like, yeah, there's just some internal things that need to be figured out.

Yeah, 

Christa Innis: yeah, definitely. I think they did figure out a lot of, Relationship stuff with the whole bank account thing and trying to take parent or money from her. because it sounds like we don't hear it until, her in laws talk to the parents that they need to stop asking her for money. So that's the first time we hear that, like, the in laws have been asking for money.

So they make it clear, we're not giving you money. Even though they've secretly been asking the bride for money all this time and she's 19 that's super young It's old enough to you know to be like on your own as an adult I mean, I look back and I'm like, oh my god, I was a child at 19, but you know, everyone's different She's still a kid in my mind.

And so the fact that they're taking money from her half her paycheck That's insane and so good for her to be like, you know what, I've had it. Let me enjoy being married at this point. 

Krysta: Yeah. I totally agree. That sucks. I'm glad, like I said, that she was able to set that boundary at the end because I'm sure at that point you're just like, I'm over it.

I want to enjoy my night. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, yeah, totally. I think, I've heard this too, it's with people pleasers. You get to a point, whether it's with one person or it's a time in your life where you're just like, No, I'm blocking everyone out. This is it. that you have that time with a job, like boss that was root to you.

Finally, you're like, you know what, I quit. Or you have enough time with one friend that's constantly walking all over you. It's like, you know what, I'm done. she might have just been at her breaking point and I've seen too much. Yeah, for sure. you can only take so much. Yeah, definitely. that was a good story.

Okay. So to end this, I like to do the weekly confessions game where I'm going to read a couple of confessions, that people sent me on social media and then you kind of rate them based on, I said, one is mild tea and 10 is absolute chaos. Or we can just like reply on what they said.

Okay. This first one, my maid of honor made the entire speech about politics. 

Krysta: Oh no, Jesus, I thought you were gonna say all about her, because I've definitely heard that before, where the maid of honor is talking about herself the whole time, and it's like, okay, this isn't about you, but politics, there is a time and place, why are you bringing that up?

Christa Innis: Yeah, hate to think I'm repeating myself, but I saw one where, the father of the bride made a speech at the wedding Talking about the election like this just happened and how proud he was and wearing a make America great again hat and she apparently had a feeling he was gonna do this and was like, please don't This is not the time.

Please do not do this. So yeah, just like that's not the time to make your speech about politics. and you said you saw a maid of honor make this speech about herself. I've seen that before, too. I've seen a best man. Literally, this is so tacky, guys. Don't do this. My husband and I just kept looking at each other like, is this really happening?

was talking about how much money he made. And how he worked his life to compete with his brother, and they've competed, then he literally said how much money he makes, and he's like, so now I know I make more than you. Okay. I looked at Zach and I was like, are we listening to this? 

Krysta: Rooted in jealousy?

Like, why are you saying that? 

Christa Innis: Yeah. I don't know. It's one of those where you're just, everyone's looking around. I'm like, does everyone think the same thing or is like most people okay with this? Don't do that, Next one. My dad's wife wore a short white dress to the wedding.

Krysta: Oh, I've seen this before where I'm like, What are you doing? You saw it at weddings. Yeah, where people would be wearing white. And every bride is different, Because it's happened sometimes where I don't know, the white thing where it's if it's a white dress with flowers on it, or if it's fully white, I know in my head, I'm like, you should always ask the bride.

I try and stay away from white, just personal preference in general. But if there is a flowery white dress, just ask, ask the bride if she's okay with it. But like fully not asking and wearing a white short dress, it's like, again, calling attention to yourself. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, yeah, that's bad.

Especially because, it's dad's wife, so I'm trying to understand, what the relationship is. not even mom. sounds like a competition kind of thing, if I'm reading into it. This next one's very G. I wore bridal slippers during the wedding so I would be comfortable. Hell yeah.

Yeah. I mean, don't be in pain. I'm so jealous of college age kids now that go out in gym shoes because that's trendy. come on. I struggled. I'd be like wearing wedges and heels out to bars. it's all about comfort, guys. I wore one pair of heels and then For the reception I would switch to wedge gym shoes and they were the best thing ever.

Krysta: Oh, I remember those. Those were so cute too. Yeah. 

Christa Innis: they were just like white and no one saw them under my dress other than like my dance and I had to run to each table, so that made it so much better. 

Krysta: Yeah, no way I'd be doing that in heels. 

Christa Innis: Yeah, I don't want to break an ankle on my wedding day.

Krysta: I'm a pass on that. 

Christa Innis: Yeah. All right. Well, that's all I've got for today. Thank you so much for coming on. It was so great, catching up and hearing your, hot takes. 

Krysta: Yeah. Thanks for having me. 

Christa Innis: Well, where can everyone find you? Um, if they want to hear more of your takes and then maybe we'll have to do another skit in the future too.

That'd be kind of fun. I know. We 

Krysta: definitely should. Right now I'm just on TikTok doing astrology content inMy handle is at Cardinal Chris and Chris is spelled K R Y S. 

Christa Innis: Awesome. Well, link it to and I don't know if you're like into like personality quizzes or that kind of thing, like learning more about yourself.

you can learn so much. I just, I love it. well, awesome. Well, thank you so much for coming on and, we'll talk soon. Yeah. Thank you. 

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