Single and Saved: Don't Trade Your Treasure

We’re recording from the calm before our 10th-year convocation gala, and we get real about what it means to be single with discipline and purpose. We break down why certain choices feel “allowed” but still leave damage behind, and how awareness changes what God holds us responsible for.

Transcript

Convocation Welcome And Setup

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Grace in peace. Grace in peace. Grace and peace. What's going on, family? Welcome to another rendition of the Moral Compass Chronicles. And this is a special convocation. Rendition. Convocation edition. Convocation 2026 NCACI. Shout out to each and every one of my people. God bless y'all. If you are seeing me on the screen, I love you. Shout out to my girl and my the Moral Compass group's first intern. Shout out to Bean. I call her Bean. You guys may know her as Sabina, my little sister. She is the first member of the Moral Compass Next Gen Collective. All right, so you'll be hearing more about that. But I'm here, man. If you can see me, man, you see my setup. I am, I am locked in calm before the storm type vibe. Calm before the storm, where we're having our 10th year convocation gala today. And this is, you know, the setup is going on in front of me. The setup is going on in front of me. And today, you're going to see me sort of and hear me. You know, you're going to, we're going to be going around. You're going to we're going to be having some different conversations. Some over here you'll see while we're celebrating our 10th year. It's going to be, it's going to be dope, man. I see the setting up going on. Shout out to everybody setting up. I saw the young ladies from the Bronx, Refuge Bronx, I'm doing some setting up along with my fellas from the Bronx as well. My wife and my cousin Tishari. They're out there doing the backdrop and balloons and stuff. The staff here at the hotel is locking in. I'm watching them. You know, they're going around making sure everything is in place, man. It's a beautiful thing. I wish I could flip this camera and show you, but I'll have the I'll have the road, the road audio with the with the iPhone vibes later as well. But man, let's let's let's just let's have a little bit of a conversation. And I I had I had the opportunity to get on my brother, Minister Warren's YouTube channel. He

The Single And Saved Origin

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had me as a guest. And you know, I had the opportunity to come up with a topic for it. You know, he kind of, you know, started telling me to think of some things. And as we were talking about it, that that topic came to me about being single and saved. Some of you may remember that. Single and saved. It was a two-week sort of a two-week thing where, you know, it was on one week I was on there, and then I was there the next week as well. And we were able to have that conversation. I know a lot of people locked in, a lot of people tuned in, and it was actually really dope. It was really dope. I enjoyed that conversation because it's a conversation that I have often. Being a minister, being a youth president, being a young man straight up that is a child of God. And I understand the importance of being single the right way. I am somebody who is now married. I have a child now, but I wasn't always married. Huh? Somebody talk to me. I wasn't always married, right? I wasn't always married. I'm a I'm a man. I'm a, I would say a good looking young man. You know, I'm 33, but I was even better looking when I was younger. You know what I'm saying? You know, I didn't have this little dad gut that I have now. You know, it's, you know, I'll be losing it soon, but I didn't have this. I remember having a six-pack. I remember having a head full of hair. You know what I'm saying? I remember being, you know, 185, 200 pounds of straight muscle. You know what I'm saying? I'm a drummer. You see my setup right behind me. I thought this was a pretty good shot, you know, a pretty dope shot. So I decided to set up right here today. I'm a drummer. I'm a drummer. I'm a musician, right? I'm I'm I'm a straight, young, black, good-looking man that was born and raised in the church. Now, the single and saved conversation was for the watched, it was for the saved, right? But the the Moral Compass group, that that's the name of my company. This is the Moral Compass Chronicles, but the idea behind the company, what does my company do? We

Church Principles The World Uses

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are looking to help the world with the principles of the church. It's so funny because the entire world has adapted, we have adopted us as a society, we have adopted, we have adopted the principles of the church, and a lot of us don't even know it. A lot of us don't even know it. Oh Lord, and the principles of God, for real. You know what I'm saying? And and the church is, we are a representation of God, right? We we are the church. It's not a building, it's not a it's not a place. We worship in a church, right? We can worship in a tent and you know, have tent services, we can worship at people's houses, we can worship on the street, right? We can do, we can do it anywhere. So we are the church. But the world has adopted so many biblical principles. Some don't, some know it, some don't. And one of those ideas is, and it's kind of like a mor, it's it's kind of like a moral thing where it's like some people agree with, you know, not having sex before marriage and things of that nature, you know, not dating and doing all that stuff outside of marriage, waiting until you're married to do these things. Some people believe that because they go to church. Some people just believe in that and they they don't go to church, right? Some people just say I'm saving myself until marriage. It's not all because, for some people, it's not because of the fact that they believe in God. There are some people who just have adapted that principle, right? But that is a biblical principle, that is a biblical idea. And now, so this conversation can be applied to the world. And I kind of want to, I kind of want to shift it a little bit. I had the conversation for the people in the church and with them on that YouTube channel with my brother Warren. Shout out to Minister Warren, and it was the topic was single and saved. And so right now I kind of want to have that same conversation and I want to kind of shift into shift right into the same idea, but I want to apply it to the world now, to everybody, because being single, not being married, and living life in a certain way is very important as well, not just for the church, but for everybody. And I'm gonna explain to you why. I have some biblical principles, biblical evidence, and proof of why there's a certain type of way we're supposed to live while we're single, but I also have practical ideas and practical reasons why, for the person who is not a believer in God, this can still apply to you for very practical and and realistic reasons. So let's let's let's dive into it. Let's dive into it for a second, okay?

Married Men Unite Preview

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And it's so funny. We are going to have one of my, I call him my little big brother, bro. My brother Andrew Seal is gonna join us. Some of us may know him as Brandon Seal. Overseer Andrew Seal Sr. Son. I call him Pops because he reminds me of my dad. I am going to have my brother on this podcast tonight. We are going to have this conversation tonight. And I am really looking forward to it. Married Men Unite. Remember that, remember that name. Married Men Unite. Married men united. Married men, men with children. We are going to have such a lock-in, bro. It's not even funny. And I'm gonna have that conversation, married life, having a wife, going from not being married to getting married, the struggles that come with it, the things we gotta deal with, raising children in a married household. Man, we got some real good things in store. So it might be a little twist on you know this kind of conversation, but I think it's very, I thank God I just prayed and said, Lord, where should we go right now? And this is where he led me. Why? Because he knows what he has in store for all of us with the married men united. Right? And we're gonna get even some perspectives from single men who are not yet married, maybe, who have children or who don't, who are looking to be married one day, have that type of conversation as well. So this is kind of consider this a precursor. Consider this a pre a precursor. Consider this a precursor to to that what we're gonna do. What we're gonna do. All right.

Dating With Marriage In Mind

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So now growing up in in the church. Hell, let's talk about it. Growing up in the church was not easy. And you know, I I don't need to go into all the reasons why, because we're this is a very specific conversation. So being single and saved is not easy, bro. As I started talking about before, young, black, very good looking, musician, love women just as I'm supposed to. To God be the glory. Because there are some men who do not love women, and that's a whole nother conversation, and that's something I'll never understand. But I've come to the understanding that it's because it's not for me to understand, right? That's so that that got nothing to do with me. You know, I just pray, I pray for y'all. That's it. So I'm growing up now, and yo, I had, and I was never like no dog for real, you know, contrary to what people might think. You know, people have in the past painted me as, you know, a ladies' man who, yes, I'm good with ladies. Yes, I've always been good with women, right? That's it's it's I inherited that from my father. Like, let's keep it 100, right? Myself and my brother. Runs in a family, good with women, love to be around women. And it's not all the time where I'm loving the company of women where I gotta be involved with, you know, I've had so many female friends, good-looking female friends that never been involved with, ever, right? But, you know, people have a lot of people have painted that picture of me as, you know, the late a lady's man who, and you know, anytime they see me talking to a particular woman, it it's like automatically, oh, Ion, gotta be, you know, doing something with her, right? And that's not the truth. That's not the case. But that's okay. You know, I there was a time where that bothered me when I was younger. And I thank God that there came a point where I stopped caring. I stopped caring about what people thought about me. Because there was a time where I cared too much. But I stopped caring what people thought about me. And and it and you know what I noticed? It'd be the people that don't know me. Excuse me, it was the people that don't know me that used to say these things about me. Because anybody who knew me for real, knew my heart for real, you know where I stood. So I had several girlfriends growing up in a church.

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Outside the church.

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But any relationship I was in, in the church, bro, I was looking toward marriage. I wasn't, I didn't date nobody where it was like, I'm just dating to smash, or I'm just, you know what I'm saying? Like, sorry, I'm just gonna keep it 100, bro. But that was never the case, bro. I saw myself marrying, potentially marrying, probably almost every girlfriend I've ever had, bro. And I really haven't had that many. Bro, I hear the numbers, oh my God, bro, of let's call it the body counts of some of my, some of my dogs, some of my brothers, some of my friends, male friends, they're yo, the body counts I've heard. When dudes like, because you know dudes love to compare. I I never really was into that. I remember one time my my my one of my homeboys from back in the day said, yo, let's make a list. Make a list of what? You know, bodies. I'm like, what, bro? Like, ain't that just something you just do in your head? Like he like legitimately wanted to write it out to compare and see who. I'm like, bro, come on, son. I'm I'm not doing that. I'm not doing that, bro. I'm not doing that. But bro, some of those numbers I've heard are traumatizing, bro. I absolutely traumatizing. Like, what is wrong with some of these people, bro? But guess what? That's not for me to understand. So, yes, I wasn't a saint. You know, I'm, as Paul referred to it, becoming a saint. I'm a becoming saint. I think I might have said that on the last episode or the one before that. Becoming saints. And that's not a that's not a diss to any of us, bro. That's because none of us are perfect. That's that's that was the point. None of us are perfect, none of us are where we ought to be yet. But God is molding us. He is making us, he's taking us there. That's the whole point. That's why we come to him. All right, hold up now. I don't want to preach here, but people think we owe that people go to church because we got it all figured out. No, I come to God because I need help figuring it out. I can't figure it out on my own. And if I wait to figure out, here, all right, watch this. Here's a message for somebody out there who isn't going to church for this reason. If you wait until you have it all figured out to find yourself to God now, bro, find yourself back in his grace, find yourself back in the church, bro, you will never come back because you will never figure it out on your own. You need the help of God. You need the help of God to get yourself together. You need the help of God to get yourself right. You need God's help to get you out of that mess that you're in. You can't do it by yourself. And if you wait to do it by yourself, you're gonna wait until you die in sin. And that is not what God wants for any of us, bro. Not at all. Not at all, right? So I and I'll take it back here now. I wasn't, I was becoming a saint, right? I wasn't perfect. And I had several relationships, and in many of them, we were doing things that we were not supposed to do. And I didn't see the harm in it then, right? And it was always with good intentions, you know. Like I said, I'm bro, I'm looking for a wife, bro. I'm I'm all I've always been a lover. You know what I'm saying? I love and I love hard. I love with my with my with my whole heart, bro. I got wearing my heart on my sleeve. I'm more of a lover than a fighter. Always have been. Always have been, right? So I didn't see the damage that I was doing and the damage I was causing to myself and to these women. And it took a while for me to understand it, but I remember when I finally got it, bro, I decided, yo, that's it. I'm done. I cannot do these things outside of marriage any longer. I cannot do it because I am causing damage. I'm causing damage.

Lawful Versus Helpful Choices

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There's a there's a scripture, one of my favorite ones in 1 Corinthians, I believe it's 1 Corinthians chapter 10, and it says that all things, and I'm gonna explain it, all things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient. All things are lawful, but not all things are expedient, which means that all things, I'm able to do whatever I want to do, right? I'm able to go wherever I want to go, but that doesn't mean that I should. And furthermore, watch this. If I do, I gotta be willing to pay the consequences. I gotta be able to understand that there are consequences for my actions. All things are lawful for me, but all things edify not. That's what he goes into. So he says, all things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient. All things are lawful for me, but not all things edify. Not all things edify, not all things are gonna build me up, not all things are gonna take me to where I need to go, not all things are gonna be are are gonna uh preserve, right? This thing that we're trying to preserve, which is ourselves. And shout out to my brothers who just came in, you know, my brother DJ, my brother Donnie. But not all things are are are edifying to to God and to myself, bro. So I I I finally figured that part out, finally understood that, and I say, yo, that's it. I gotta stop, bro. And watch this now. I find myself trying to do things the right way. Tell some of these women, yo, listen, I can't do this no more. You know, I'm trying to do things the right way. And then I get blocked. Imagine that. You get blocked for trying to do things the right way. But that's okay. That just means you were never supposed to be here. You weren't supposed to be here.

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It wasn't you. You're not my wife. That part.

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So I had to recognize the damage that I was doing. And now here goes, here goes the part where I try to help, right? Here goes the part where I try to I try to help. I recognized the damage that I was doing, right, to myself, right? This body is the temple of the living God. This I have a treasure, right, in this earthen vessel. I had a thought one time that and the thought was trading out, and I I was gonna make it an episode, and maybe I still will, trading your treasure, and there is no equal return. That's what we're doing. When we defile ourselves, when we are engaging in married people, business, and activities, while we ourselves are not yet married, we are defiling the temple of God. Okay, your body is a temple, and I don't want to sound cliche, but the Bible says that we have a treasure in earthen vessels. That treasure is is that which God has placed in us, right?

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His spirit, his likeness, all that he wants us to become. Our soul, our spirit, our soul.

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We are a treasure, and the treasure is hidden in this flesh that wants everything that it's not supposed to want.

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It wants everything that it's not supposed to want.

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And so the thought came to me that we're trading our treasure, and there's never an equal return for it. We're never gonna get an equal return value for the treasure that's in this earthen vessel that we lay aside and give up and give away.

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Lord help me.

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So all things, all things are are are are and when it says all things are lawful for me, it's not talking about you know the law per se, but all things I'm allowed to do anything that I want to do, bro. We are allowed to do whatever we want to do, but not all things. Things that we want to do are going to be good for us. Not all things are going to make sense for us. Not all things are going to edify us and edify God. And so I had to recognize now that doing these things, and

Soul Ties And Spiritual Weight

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I had the revelation that, yo, this is exactly why God told us not to have sex before marriage. Because when you see the fallout, come on now, somebody. Anybody ever experience what we refer to as a soul tie?

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Anybody ever experience what we refer to as a soul tie? Hit record for me on that camera.

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And I'm sorry, I'm talking to my brother Donnie. It's that record button right up there. Anybody ever experience something that's referred to as a soul tie? Where you're locked in with somebody, you're laid up with them, you live in a life you ain't supposed to be living with them, and then you find yourself attached to them, attached to them like never before, can't live without them. You feel so, so connected to them. Yeah, that that that all of that, that was, that was supposed to be reserved for marriage. And some of us are so tied up now. Watch this. Here we go now. We're getting into it. Some of us are so tied up, some of us are so bound up because we have tied ourselves to so many people. We have tied ourselves up and locked ourselves in and connected ourselves as we have connected body parts with them, so have we connected souls with them. We have given of our treasure, we have given of ourselves to everyone. And we wonder why we so locked up and tied up and screwed up and messed up.

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And picking up spirits from other people and carrying them around.

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Some of us don't even know it. And some of us are so bogged down and and and got such a dark cloud over our lives because we've got spirits that are attached to us now from the people that we laid with. Oh, God Almighty, help me today. Help me today, Lord. Single and saved, but single and not saved. This is something you deal with also for the person that doesn't believe in God, for the person that doesn't believe in Jesus. You being single and laying up with people you're being affected the same way. Watch this. Whether you know it or not, that's why the world, I mean, the first time I heard the soul ties thing was from the world. Soul ties is not in the Bible, but that's what it is, and we don't we don't understand, but that's what it is. It's a spiritual thing. A soul tie is a spiritual thing. Come on, help me, Holy Ghost. Help me, help me today, Lord. I I asked you what I should talk on or speak on. I might make this the theme of the day. I might make this the theme of the day today.

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Some of us are so locked up and tied up and bound up and don't understand why. We're so locked up and tied up and bound up and we don't understand why. Can I say that again?

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We're so locked up and tied up and bound up and screwed up and twisted up, and we don't understand why. It's because you have connected yourself as you have connected in the bedroom with this person and these people, you have tied yourself to them, you have locked yourself up with them, you have that deep connection with them, and none of that was supposed to be experienced outside of the covenant of marriage. That is why soul ties exist, and our soul and body is connected to all these people, and it was never supposed to be. It was never supposed to be. That was not so now I understand why now. This is why I said, Oh, this is why God didn't want us doing any of this stuff outside of marriage. And now, watch

Breakups And Lingering Connections

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this. Now, here comes the breakup. And I'm talking to somebody, here comes the breakup now, right? Here comes the breakup where you lock up and lay up with somebody, and you you're sexing and you're doing all of this stuff that married folks it that's supposed to be reserved for married folks, right? And you do all these things, you do all these things with these people, and then here comes the breakup. Here comes the breakup. You guys break up, and now the heart is broken, the spirit feels broken. Your life is never the same. Your life feels like you, you're you're you're you're it's falling apart without this person because you're so in love with this person, right? And now you can't get yourself together, you can't find yourself, you can't figure yourself out now. And these things are happening in the church. I recognized this is why God did not want us doing any of these things outside of marriage, because now the relationship ends, but the tie, the connection, the soul tie, the body tie, that connection, it still exists. It still exists, and you still now you can't do nothing about it. And now you got two people who have tried who are trying now to coexist, two people who are trying to live uh live brotherly, right? Live in brotherly love amongst each other. You go from laying up and sexing up and connecting on that level, doing everything under the sun, inventing new things to do to each other and with each other. You go from that, now you gotta go because you broke up now, and now he's seeing somebody else, and she seeing somebody else after after y'all heal. Now y'all dating other people, and now you gotta look at these people who you've done this and that with. This is why some people can't worship, can't worship in church, can't live life even outside in the world. You you you work with somebody and y'all lay together, y'all connect with each other. You ever seen workplace drama like that? Come on, somebody, talk to me. Talk to me, somebody. Oh, this is a good conversation, and I'm gonna have it with somebody. I'm gonna have it with somebody. And this is why, this is why we can't get it together. This is why we can't figure ourselves out. This is why we can't figure ourselves out. This is why. And we so lost and so bound up, and and and some of us don't know why, but some of us do. Some of us do. So what yo look I figured this out finally, it took me a few years, but I finally figured it out, and I said, yo, I gotta change the way I live now. I have to. Because I'm causing more harm to myself and these other people than I once understood. But what did I talk about on one of these last episodes the other day?

Awareness Raises Your Responsibility

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Awareness, right? Awareness level. Once my awareness level changes, what I do after that point, it matters. Increased awareness means greater responsibility with anything. You can apply that to anything. And God holds you accountable. Once you have an increased level of awareness about something, something moral, something, something spiritual, once you have an increased level of awareness, now your responsibility increases as well. And God holds you accountable. And I finally learned that. It took me almost about 30 years or so, you know, third 20 something, 20-something years, whatever. I'm 33 now. Took me several years, but I figured it out and I realized, all right, what I do with this information matters now. And then single and saved was was was was born. And so I I I hope I hope I hope this helped somebody, man. I hope this helps somebody. I hope this helps somebody.

Gala Night Closing And Next Talk

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And we're gonna, I told you, we're we're this is gonna be something I discuss in maybe similar details and even with a different spin later on today. You guys again, this is gonna be a two-for-one. So I'm I'm gonna make sure I drop this one and then we'll we'll release the the other one as well. And I don't know who else we're gonna have this conversation with. I don't know who else we're gonna talk to, but we're gonna make sure it's good. But I hope this encouraged somebody, man. This is the beginning of this conversation. We're gonna continue it. Because as I mentioned, they're here setting up for the gala. We've got a team that's uh praise and worship team that's gonna do their thing tonight as well. And they're about to come in and rehearse, right? And so, man, we're here. Holy Convocation 2026, 10th year anniversary, 10th year gala. I'm gonna catch you guys later, man. This is the Moore Compass Chronicles. I love you guys, and until next time.