Mystical Misfits with Courtney and Phil
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Mystical Misfits with Courtney and Phil
Embracing Your Inner Strength
Ever found yourself overwhelmed by future uncertainties? We explore the importance of embracing the now, setting intentions with optimism, and letting life unfold in its own wondrous way. The episode unfolds with a discussion on the transformative power of meditation and Kundalini practices, shining a light on maintaining energy hygiene to ward off negativity. We embrace the guidance of a higher energy that supports our growth, fostering a harmonious flow that empowers us to meet life's challenges with grace.
Hi Phil, it's so nice to see you.
Speaker 2:Hi Courtney, how are you today?
Speaker 1:I'm good. How are you?
Speaker 2:I'm great.
Speaker 1:So we just had this. I thought about it, I thought about you actually, because we had talked so much last week about our Gemini energy and how much we just had a full moon in Gemini. But we're not going to talk about astrology so much, but it is interesting how we naturally go along with the sky.
Speaker 2:Whether we're aware of it or not, we we definitely do. It's just like getting up in the morning and going to sleep at night. It's part of the natural rhythm.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was actually wondering about this because I was thinking about did you hear that they're thinking about not having what is it called?
Speaker 2:Daylight savings time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, daylight savings time, and so we would stay on standard time. And I thought do you have an opinion about that?
Speaker 2:I haven't thought about it that much, so I don't know. I guess it would mean that you know we don't go through that one hour forward, one hour backward transition. So I guess it would make our sleep patterns less disruptive.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I thought about that because I've been so tired actually since the change and I've been hearing people are so tired. I actually think it's because the sky is shifting so much and the energy is changing. But I thought I wonder if it would be easier for us. So, for instance, right now, you know five something at night, right, and so it would actually be six o'clock and so it would get darker later. Anyway, it is interesting, I was. I was thinking how would we feel better?
Speaker 2:Right, Right With the days. I guess the days would feel longer yeah.
Speaker 1:Well, and my daughter's always had a really hard time with when they got dark at night. She hates when it gets dark. Well, we were used to it in New York and it would be four o'clock and now it's six o'clock, so it's better 536. But it is an interesting, I think it's. I think it'd be nicer to have it be lighter later.
Speaker 2:Yes, sun energy, I can't get enough of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, me too, me too. So how was, how was your weekend? Was it good?
Speaker 2:Yeah, it was. It was nice, very quiet.
Speaker 1:You know, I'm definitely in that nesting phase you know, and I guess that has to do a lot with the season and the shorter days, yeah, it's. It's interesting right in winter, you, you tend to want to be more cozy and you're more tired and you're more inward. I always think it's interesting because you know the holidays come and people want you to go out and bowed and be social. But I actually feel much less social in in december than in other times of the year yes and I.
Speaker 2:It's also a time for a lot of reflection, for me too. I mean it's it's funny how easily memories pop up at this time of year for me. I think about them a lot, much more so than at other times during the year.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I would think most people do, right, because the holidays, I mean, think about your childhood, right. When you're a child, you don't really remember very much, but you do remember Christmas, or you remember Hanukkah, or you remember New Year's, and then the rest of you remember starting school. So you do remember certain periods. And wait, that's actually really interesting, right? Because when you start school it's September, so isn't that one of the beginnings? Yeah, I don't know, it's very interesting. It's an interesting thought because, yeah, I do. I I'm more nostalgic, I'll say Definitely.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's, it's. I wonder if it has something. Well, I think, if you want to do the, so, I actually think there's something very amazing about that, because if you think about the new year and how it's a new beginning, you kind of want to do look back and say, well, what have I done really well, what have I not done really well, what can I do even better? And maybe what if my life hasn't worked? And how, like, what do I want to change? Are you, are you? Are you that kind of person with the new year?
Speaker 2:I, yes, but I also, like I said, spend a lot of time on thinking about the past and recalling things, and it's interesting to me that each new year begins and I have so many goals and expectations and you know I follow through with them to the best of my ability, but it's so interesting that by the end of the year, they all are just memories, conversations, whatever it may be. In the end, they're just part of my thoughts, and good thoughts, of course, but it's just interesting that we, as we get older, we carry so much more of that with us and I think it makes things more meaningful for me what?
Speaker 1:what made more meaningful the relationships you have, the memories you have, the just everything.
Speaker 2:Everything has more meaning because I know that it will be a part of me. So, even if I'm going to, let's say, the gym and I'm having a conversation, I want that conversation to have something that resonates, because I hope to draw on it, or I hope that it will influence me or give me strength when I need it, or or give, even give me a piece of information or make me laugh. You know, but I really that's. I really cherish and value those things, whereas if I was younger, not so much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think that's so amazing. I think we're obviously recording this and we're actually sending this out into the universe, and I do think there's this idea of how important it is to appreciate everything we do. And I do think there's this idea of how important it is to appreciate everything we do, and it might be the smallest thing, like going to the gym, and but who you meet matters, and each person you touch and each, yeah, I think that's so beautiful actually, and I don't I wonder if it's age or if it's something that maybe you could have younger, just that we didn't right.
Speaker 1:We we maybe are just getting this, you know, at an older age, of really appreciating everything, but I wonder if we're going to move forward, that more people are going to really be in appreciation for where they are in this moment I mean in this moment in time, it's really perfect, beautiful.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think it's. I think that has to do with consciousness becoming more conscious, right and, and being a little bit being able to step back a little bit and expand your awareness to understand that, so that you're not victim to the things that seem to be an obstacle to you and they're much larger in my mind than they actually are and they don't have to be. They really don't have to be, because I'm using my own thoughts as the only source and that can get me into trouble, because a little bit of a objectivity and, you know, a feeling of connection to source just will absolutely diffuse all of that yeah, well, yeah, knowing that we're one with the divine, I think is so important.
Speaker 1:Right, it's like this. It's the knowing that there's something more than this situation right in front of us and maybe the situation that seems so I was I was just talking about my daughter this you know, you have this situation that shows up and our emotions could get extreme, our feelings could get extreme or we could, but maybe this is the biggest gift that ever happened to us and you could then look back and see that, but in the moment, you're like, okay, no, but, but I do think there's a consciousness and I think, the more you wake up and the more you're aware that there is something bigger than what we see. It does. It shifts everything. I mean, it is amazing and I appreciate that you're saying with age, but I think that we're getting it younger and younger and younger People can really understand that it's all okay where you are right now.
Speaker 2:That's great that people are getting it younger and younger, because I I wish I had the understanding now back then.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, thank God you wait. But there are people that are in their eighties or nineties or seventies that still don't have that. So I'll say, thank God, you have it Right. I mean, thank God you're have awareness that you're loved and that you're loved and that you, it's all beautiful.
Speaker 1:Right, it means I suffer less with that awareness yeah, I think about that so much and I imagine if we just didn't have to suffer, like if people didn't suffer. But I, but I also think people don't change or I'll say we were as human I don't know if that's been your story over the years but as humans we tend to not shift or change or grow until something happens and makes us really uncomfortable right, because I think we, we're not fully conscious, and I speaking of myself here, I, I want to be more conscious, but I think it's constant diligence to be more conscious, and I succeed and fail, you know, depending on what's going on.
Speaker 2:If things get too intense, I lose it, you know, and but but not in the same way I would if I was young I feel like you don't lose it.
Speaker 2:I don't really when you say lose it, like maybe for five minutes, 10 minutes maybe an hour, right, but then I, then I, you know again, I, I draw on that awareness of hey, this is, this, is this will pass, and I do not, I do not have to respond, I don't have to over-respond to these things and I don't have to overthink them, and I don't have to be fearful of these things. They're, they're all. I'm making these scenarios up in my head.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I think. I think that's such an interesting thing, Cause we do. I have the same thing. Where you and everybody does is so much of our worry is not really in the moment, it's actually in the future. And you know, you said, oh, the new year, and you have all these ideas, and at the end of the year you don't even really remember, it's just a fleeting memory. And so to worry so much about what's going to happen next year seems to maybe be a waste of our time. Rather, we could have intentions. I like that. I like the idea of having intentions for the new year but not getting so absorbed of how it's going to happen or worrying about it or the stress of it.
Speaker 2:Exactly, I mean, and all those thoughts about the future, if you're not embracing them in a healthy way, in a positive way, in an optimistic way, I mean that's healthy Not to be overly optimistic or naive. That's not what I'm saying, I think you're right.
Speaker 1:I think you have to be Wait. I think you have to be optimistic, because what else is there If you're not going to believe that something really good could happen? Chances are the really good thing doesn't happen.
Speaker 2:You know the how I think I spend more time than I need to imagining future scenarios, right Because of my. I let my imagination go and I can think of all kinds of possibilities, but they can't all possibly happen. There's only one outcome and it's always fine.
Speaker 1:I love this. So do you have like visuals of like? Do you imagine? I think that's really great. Actually, that's called creating your life. Wait, this is great. So you actually visualize what you want to happen. Are you good at that?
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:That's a gift, that's a really big gift. Yeah, a lot of the stuff happened over the years that you've envisioned.
Speaker 2:Yeah, a lot of the stuff happened over the years that you've envisioned. If I go back to where I started, to where I am now, I would have to say yes, I definitely would have to say yes, I'm yes, yeah. I've. I've changed a lot, a whole lot, and my circumstances have changed a lot, and you know there've been lots of tumultuous changes and surprises, good and bad, but I feel at this point that I have been embraced all this time.
Speaker 1:I love that. I mean, that's exactly how I feel. I feel and I'm trying to teach my children that right that there's this higher energy around us that really does support us. And it might doesn't seem like that always, but if we could go back and look, it's always. You always could say, oh my God, there's something so beautiful that came out of this situation, or something so beautiful that came out of this situation or something so beautiful that came out of that, and it is this embrace from the divine. It's. It's not always what we would say we want, but maybe it's for our highest good. I was thinking about that the other day, like if I actually picked, if you could pick for what you wanted. It might not be as great as what the embrace is of what you know the higher, the higher consciousness or the higher mind would want for you, or the angels or the divine source energy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's. You know, many things exceeded my imagination in my life, that I wasn't entirely bound to those ideas that I had, because life offers surprises and opportunities that I didn't think I would have, and I think there is a loving energy that does embrace us, but I also think that we emanate energy that protects us and guides us. We don't see it, but it's there and people respond to it in an intuitive way, and that's that's like the invisible threads that connect us, and it's that has as much to do with our wellbeing as anything else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I, I, I agree with you and I think the energy is so important and, and I'll say to you, not everyone has, not everyone is able to understand the energy, but I'll say I'll say no, no, I'll tell you how I do it. I mean, I work on my energy all all the time. I, first thing in the morning, I wake up and I meditate and I connect to the divine energy and I make sure that my I'm feeling well before I respond out to the world. So that's my gift to myself every morning. But I'm guessing, since you also are aware of your energy, how do you wake up in the morning and take care of your energy so that you can connect to this divine source, energy?
Speaker 2:I do a Kundalini practice every morning with a group online and I feel like that's part of my daily hygiene routine. It's my soul hygiene and I know that it works for me. It's incredibly valuable to me. I get all kinds of positive results from it and I don't know exactly how it works. I have an understanding of it, but again, I think it's that those invisible energies and forces. I just have to uh, engage with it, you know, just make myself a channel to it and let it all unfold.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, I I can't really explain it no, I think you explained it really well and I but I. And it's so interesting because I think life unfolds just the way it's supposed to unfold. But the better you do take care of your energy and the more I think the word hygiene right. I like that right and if you think of the energy of your daily life as hygiene right, it's, um, the flow will be so much more beautiful right everybody.
Speaker 2:Your energy can get dirty, you know, throughout the day depending on you know throughout the day, depending on you know depending on yes, on your interactions and all kinds of who you might bump into or who might be passing you in a car. There's, you know there's energetic forces everywhere and you can. You can protect yourself from them if they're not good for you by finding a practice of some kind and it's really about, I think, just your intention right, if you're aware of how you're feeling energetically and knowing how to respond to it and not to be victim of it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I have this little trick, right, it's like this is how I feel when I'm doing, going somewhere. And then afterwards I literally asked myself well, how am I feeling now? Do I feel? Okay, Because you do.
Speaker 1:You go around different people and you have different experiences with people and you, we are emotional beings, so we do pick up energy and and so important that we ask ourselves how do I feel? And if I don't feel to my highest, what can I do? And I sometimes even just like put my hands on grass and I say can you ground me or I? You know, it's an interesting thing about trees or nature, right, you could go to a tree and say can I hug you? And I, have you ever done that? Where you say can I hug you? And he literally hugged the tree and you feel better.
Speaker 1:You touch a pet or you touch a cat or you touch your dog and instantly you feel so much, you could feel so much cleaner of energetic. But you have to ask yourself, because I think you could just go through the day and and now you have these phones and you're, someone could call you and you, you almost don't have any protection if you're not conscious of it and then if you don't have, if you don't have a way to deal with that energy that you don't want, then it accumulates in you and you're not even, you're not even aware of it.
Speaker 2:You just, I just sometimes, when I'm having conversations with people, I just there's something, there's residue that just doesn't make, doesn't sit right. I just know it's there.
Speaker 1:So do you do? What do you do when? How do you clear it?
Speaker 2:I dwell on it, right and I and I, I, I, you know, I do affirmations, but and fundamentally, the affirmation is everything's fine. That's the basic affirmation.
Speaker 1:I think we should lift it up. Life is really good, right, yeah, life is really good.
Speaker 2:Right. Or what I can sometimes say is that you know that person isn't aware that what they're saying has that kind of impact, and boy I wish kind of impact, and boy I wish they wouldn't think that way so much because it harms them more than anybody else.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I I think that a lot. I wish people could feel better about themselves and know how wonderful they are, and and to not believe that little voice. We talked a lot about the little voice last time but that little voice in our head that says that we're not enough and you know who you think you are. But yeah, there's this. Yes, everyone knew I was thinking that, like you're born right and you're you we were talking earlier about ego and I thought it's so interesting. I wonder, if you're born, when you're born, if you know, know, you're perfect, like, and then what happens? And then the outside socialization or something happens, and then all of a sudden you remember that you're. You get told that you're not great, but when you're born, you think you're great. Know that to have that I am here, I feel good about myself. Whether you like me or not, it's not my business right.
Speaker 2:I think you're absolutely right about that. I think we do come into the world without all the baggage, but we pick up that stuff, that baggage, as coping skills. We need those things to thrive, let's say, in the world. But those skills can backfire if we let them, because they're just skills, it's just ego stuff that we can use when we need to, but we can't let it overrun us, capture us, because then we're we really are a victim.
Speaker 1:Yeah Well, I think that is the worst place to be. I always say if you're a victim, you can't. It's been my biggest mantra. Just the biggest thing you can do is not be a victim, Because when you're a victim, when you're stuck and when you have a problem and you see yourself having a problem, you can't get out of the problem. You have to look at yourself. From not having a problem, you have to say, okay, this is what's happening in my life and I want to be there. You know, it's like the contrast, right, and I might not be happy where I am, but that's the gift I'm not happy where I am, I can go someplace else and I you're never a victim of your circumstances.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Are you good at that? Are you good at not being a victim?
Speaker 2:I can be. I can be better at it, I can. You know, I can definitely be better at it because it's it can be easy for me to fall into certain mental traps, and that's a that's an easy one for me If I, if I don't have to look at myself and change when, when I can tell everybody else that they can do it, but that's, I'm sure, changing myself if I do that that's, I'm sure, changing myself.
Speaker 1:if I do that, yeah, I feel like you're harder on yourself than you are on other people. So, just based on what I've seen about you, I don't think. I think you're probably harder on yourself than other people.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I have a Pluto square, my son. I think that has a lot to do with it.
Speaker 1:Oh, do you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:You're going to transform. No wonder you've had so much transformation in your life so much change, and so much growth.
Speaker 1:Yes, it's exciting, yeah, it is exciting, and I think I do believe we're all here to know. Oh, I like my phone keeps ringing. I don't know if you guys hear that. Do you hear it? Oh, good, okay. So the telephone keeps ringing, our mind rings. Our mind is ringing pretty much and it could really play a trick on you. But yeah, I'll say, I think if you feel like a victim, you can't succeed from that state. So the warrior is an interesting. It's an interesting square right, because you think about Aries and cancer. But being the warrior and being a spiritual warrior to boot would be really a beautiful blessing for everybody.
Speaker 1:And you are already a spiritual warrior.
Speaker 2:Thanks, yeah, I think of warrior and more heroic terms. You know's, it's, it's um a great attribute to be a warrior. You don't have to. You know, it can be taken, it can be perceived in a different way, like you can be aggressive and assaultive. That's not what in my mind, what it means. It means you know you're, you're you, you have bravery, you have courage, you have determination, you have really strong beliefs. Right, and you want to. You want to represent yourself and represent others in your pursuits.
Speaker 1:That's I think it's a nice word. Yeah, I like. I think it's a. It's a good word, I mean word. Yeah, I think it's a good word. I mean I know war doesn't seem like a good word, but it is beautiful. Can you imagine if we all were brave and we were all courageous and we were all took care of ourselves and then took care of everybody else while we're doing that? I mean it's a beautiful word and I think we're all meant to kind of step into our warrior, our hero energy, like the hero's journey. But I think we're all being asked to do that right now.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:It's a little scary.
Speaker 2:That's right ourselves. By drawing from that inner energy to find our courage and our bravery and our peace of mind. You know to do benevolent, loving beliefs. Then you have a lot of power, then you are a warrior, no matter what happens to you, if you have those attributes you will excel.
Speaker 1:Yes, yeah, I mean. I literally think, if you have loving intentions and the loving mind and loving mind to yourself, you, you will always come out ahead. It's the other. It's the other way that that you become the warrior. That's not so kind.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Yes, the warrior you don't want to see.
Speaker 2:That's right.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:And I think that's where the ego can override all these things and make someone bloodthirsty or lustful or power hungry or mad, for whatever you name it.
Speaker 1:That's angry, right? That's yeah, Like the anger, yeah, I think. I think it's because we, we all want to be able to control. I got you go back to control and we really can't control anything. I you can control things in some ways, but not really. So you have to really practice letting go and letting God and trusting and being love. And that's why love or fear?
Speaker 2:Right. So that's all that, I think comes from within. Because if you have that core from within, because if you have that core loving, brave, courageous attitude then you're still going to get hit by surprises, you're still going to find those obstacles. That the outside stuff doesn't change, but how you respond to those things is the key issue. It's everything.
Speaker 1:But that's the beauty of it. Maybe it might not change for other people how they see it, it might look like your life's exactly the same, but it does change. I mean it, it does change. It changes in a in the most beautiful way. So, really, and I think it's interesting because I I think what we're doing here is so brave, because we're starting. We're both not very good with electronics and we're not sure what, where this is going to take us, and so we're kind of I always think we're not sure where this is going to take us, and so we're kind of I always think we're on the hero's journey together, trying to see where it leads.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it feels great, even though we don't know where it will lead.
Speaker 1:No, but I really love spending time with you and I love getting to have these wonderful conversations with you and bring more peace. My goal is to bring more peace out in the world and I think you, I think you're so peaceful thank you, yeah, I.
Speaker 2:I would love to know that what we might be sharing helps somebody or just shifts their thinking or just shifts their beliefs, even if in a small way. That would be great because I think it would you know, it would lead to other things.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and just like the, I was thinking that, just like the person that you meet in at the gym and that person that you could appreciate something from that conversation. I hope that whoever listens to this can find something that they could appreciate. I'll see you next week.
Speaker 2:Thanks, courtney, I'll see you next week.