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EP.21- Your Body Keeps Scores: Trauma, the Body, and Paths to Healing

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-The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma



What if the trauma you've been carrying around isn't just in your head but deeply rooted in your body? Join us as we unravel the intricate web of trauma's impact on our lives, inspired by the insights of "The Body Keeps the Score." In this episode, we shine a light on how unresolved childhood trauma can manifest in unexpected ways, influencing everything from our emotional responses to our physical health. By finding our voices and processing these hidden burdens, we open the door to healing and transformation.

Discover the profound connection between trauma and the body through personal stories and experiences with therapies like Rolfing and yoga. We'll challenge the outdated notion that trauma is purely a mental struggle, showing how it can be stored in muscles and manifest as chronic conditions. With inspiration from the story of Holocaust survivor Edith Egger, we explore the powerful roles of forgiveness and self-awareness, emphasizing that true freedom begins in the mind.

Explore the cutting-edge world of psychedelic therapy and its potential to unlock hidden emotions and foster profound healing. We'll discuss the promising research behind substances like MDMA and psilocybin in treating PTSD, while also acknowledging the importance of proper guidance and preparation. From EMDR to community-based healing activities like singing and cooking, we advocate for embracing diverse methods and supportive communities to foster a world where healing and connection are within everyone's reach.

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So trauma huh, what a freaking mystery. Right, it's not just some external event, it's not just some internal freak-out, no way. It's when you're like totally overwhelmed, just consumed by something you cannot handle and like nobody's there to help. Okay, and boom, you are stuck. Your nervous system gets this like twisted view of everything, like you're still back in the freaking trauma. So you're just feeling all that continuous fear, that constant anxiety that someone's gonna jump out or ditch you, and everything feels like a dang catastrophe, even if it's just like a tiny thing, even if it's just like a tiny thing.

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But listen, the thing about trauma is not just about the experience itself, but it's about that same old pattern running through your mind, affecting your whole dang body. You know like living in this giant still world Seriously and you guys wouldn't even believe how widespread this is Like we're talking about domestic violence One in three couples, one in freaking three. It's insane. We need like serious maturity to actually connect with people properly, serious maturity to actually connect with people properly. Okay, seriously, like half of the people I meet, despite them having this supposedly awesome childhood turns out, maybe it wasn't as awesome as it looked at all. Okay, people can really hide stuff right, like we bury those dang old memories, those unprocessed things. They just kind of chill there in the deep end and continue messing with you and a lot of the time people go with denial right, just start weaving their stories of how great things were, just so they can completely avoid all the bad junk. Here's the thing, though Trauma. It rarely comes out, as you know, like trauma. More often it pops out as like an unreasonable anger to a spouse, some total intolerance for when your kids make noise or need something, or like this really big need to just vanish, to hide when anything at all starts to feel like it's too much. Like sometimes, suddenly your boss just gets on your nerves. Suddenly, your boss just gets on your nerves and then you end up doing some musical chair job stuff, jumping from gig to gig till you're like, okay, it might be me and listen. You usually pick these signs from the reactions you're getting your friends pulling away, your coworkers dodging you in the halls. Like a lot of those people think like they're just at fault when relationships get rocky, and sure it does take time, like to figure it out.

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A normal family okay, here's a kicker that would be a place that feels really warm, where everybody actually connects with each other, you know, where people they actually spend time with one another, okay, where nobody needs to hide behind the dang screens or their work or whatever their addiction. People are able to talk like, just have a darn conversation with one another. They enjoy themselves being together. Oh, my god, what a fantasy, right? And in a family where there's been trauma, well, that's where it all goes. Pear-shaped right. Parents who just can't connect. Maybe they just feel cold, you know, almost invisible to their kids.

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A whole bunch of pain, chilling in silence, and everybody has just lost the ability to talk about anything. No, no, no, that silence, yeah, that silence does not mean nothing happened. More often than not it means some major freaking things just messed them up. And now let's talk. The body, holy smokes, like it really starts to do all kinds of wacky things, like basic body functions that totally freak out, like appetite Gone, motivation, passion, sayonara, sleep Never heard of her. The body Dude, like it totally starts losing its mojo and ability to take care of itself.

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You see, lots of these symptoms of trauma. They're actually signs. The body is just falling apart and can't freaking take care of its basic needs. That's why a bunch of traumatized people do substances like drugs and alcohol as a freaking shortcut so that they can calm down their bodies and feel some kind of freaking peace. It's like a way to kinda escape all the freaking feels, because those feels whoa of escape all the freaking feels because those feels whoa, those are overwhelming. Yeah, man, sometimes that pain from a traumatic experience, oh man, that can be so freaking intense. It's too much to handle and people will want to escape all these painful feelings in like just in any way they possibly can.

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Yeah, we know some common things Stuff, you see, on public health guidelines, like people they drink or drug or both. It's not some thought through, rational decision here, people, it's just like, like, like freaking chaos, that out of control thing that takes over and that's why many folks use drugs or start gambling. The freaking fields are too much, man. They gotta go anywhere to stop freaking feeling. That am I right people? It's not rational, ok, and yes, of course doctors write prescriptions and try to take the edge off all that stress and anxiety.

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But we seriously need to understand this is far, far more than just physical issues. And what's under all those freaking emotions? Okay, people, those adverse childhood experiences, the AC studies, these things tell us, hey, trauma as a child. It's linked to a lot of stuff. You name it to smoking, obesity, heart, heart disease, alcoholism and drug use. They also all correlate with someone really feeling disconnected to their own darn body, not trusting, not loving, not caring. It's just a total disaster.

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And this book, the Body, keeps the Score. Seriously, the dang bottom line is all the crap that we went through, all that freaking instability and trauma and how we feel to our loved ones. Holy crap, these all have effects that are hardwired to our freaking brains and are basically in our darn biology and they affect us forever. But things, things, they can change. Okay, there's freaking room to freaking change. Finding our voices to articulate all of our history. That helps Changing our relationships to our body. With a bit of dang yoga, like even that neurofeedback thingy, man, they are pretty awesome. Okay, also, like doing theater and acting out. That gives your down body a chance to find out what feeling powerful actually is.

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So, okay, here's a rub when we're like only freaking, fixating on that past trauma, that it all happened to me thing. We tend to see people saying it's cool, none of it's my fault, all things are justified because it all happened to me in the freaking past. Oh, the victim complex man, people in that complex give you that look like Everything bad is legit, because that's the story that I have. This is why professionals should actually help people reclaim their own flipping powers. Oh, my goodness, the negative effect that crap has on our quality of life. Dude, this mindset of being powerless is very freaking hard to let go. If you keep blaming things and giving away your power to all of those freaking external forces, guess what? Nothing will ever, ever, ever, ever change.

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To assist people to break this mess, we need to just like, be there, walk through them to all. That brings them joy, gives meaning, seriously, not just telling someone you need to start choosing better options. Oh God, no. How about showing different possibilities and let's just walk together down that path and check out these things that actually might bring a change? You know, like maybe go sing in a choir with other human beings? How's about we prep and feed those homeless dudes? You know we gotta bring things and spaces to help us do it that can lead to change and to feel capable and in charge. Human being need other human beings support.

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Now here's the thing about medical care. What's totally lacking now in the medical field is that dang doctor-patient connection that used to be there back in the day. You know when that dang connection's just totally missing. Well, guess what people you will never get to see what really happened to someone. So we're getting like just quick fixes from doctors with medicine but not real connection for people and why they feel like poop. Now what happens is when people get like a person to talk with who listens and actually cares about what you're saying, boom, those hidden freaking traumas start loosening their grip on our souls.

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Human freaking connections is key. Like in the clinical field, the person should connect so freaking deeply and also help them to actually find those potential freaking opportunities. The therapeutic goal is to give them enough darn autonomy to actually make change in their freaking life and make it happen from within themselves, like listening with heart and giving spaces that are not judged so they can feel totally freaking safe while they're starting that journey of healing. Dude, as they actually begin to be seen and listened to, boom, those nasty old feelings of shame start to melt and give way for more compassion and acceptance and the power to change. All right, and you have to understand. You must seek a freaking connection. Therefore, people have to show themselves as vulnerable so they can connect to others. A laoty of freaking people will try that like people pleasing mode, but that is not them. That's the whole freaking program that will make other humans see them the way they want to be seen. You know what I mean. They will do and say the right darn things. They will do and say the right darn things. Right, they'll jump and dance like a freaking monkey. But that will never be the true freaking self. Okay, it's not like it's bad people, just never will freaking be known. Therefore, healthcare provider people, they gotta actually get interest for their patients as people and what do they value it's about? If their lives have freaking joy and are capable of creating, like dude, if people actually see you, the whole of your being changes For the person living with all that dang trauma. They have to understand Coke, I've gone through this freaking awful stuff, but, dude, I'm capable of getting back. We should start saying it Early.

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In my medical career as a family doctor, I realized people connection and care is key, like one time there was a young woman that came to me freaking sad and low, like those usual freaking depression symptoms, and I had this chance to give her the med and thank you next, like normal know. But no, no, no, no. I actually spoke to her and wanted to get into what she freaking felt from inside and that whole dang interview. It went over time, like over 30, 35 min, and then for next week's man we met again. We just spoke, nothing else, and you will never believe that within four to six weeks her symptoms just freaking vanished. And that taught me that caring and connections can bring way more freaking improvements for people rather than just pushing medication to freaking suppress everything. Med is a tool, not a freaking replacement for the love we all need man.

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And actually what has happened is medical fields collapsed under pressure. They've ended up giving us those stupid flipping pills to hide issues and in the freaking process they just lost contact with people and all that care man that does not mean that medicines are not important or cannot help in some freaking cases is like necessary people, but we do have to see to bring that old school connection back man and have people know we see and freaking care that has to be in medicine. Now I can tell you one thing for freaking sure, Like recently with my dang brother when we recalled how we were like back as kids, he said my 4th grade teacher's name and I freaking fell off my chair that my brother, tiny small detail about, could notice such tiny detail about me, dang, I was truly freaking moved. And this really makes it so dang true. When people see you and know you, then we all experience, like our very cell structures changing and reducing the freaking stress. Oh people, it's so legit. And I really love John Boley when he said if people do not freaking see you, you'll never find out yourself.

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And given we know the body stores it all, like the muscles and hormones, they all hang on to trauma, on to trauma. We gotta give them this dang experience. That's really freaking. Opposite of feeling trapped and feeling lost, angry or defeated. Oh, it's not some mind game, crap. Trauma really is a state within your body. Oh, boy, a body is everything we got. Man. A place with really rational western ideas will just say dude, it's all your mind, it's all up here, but that has no staying power, no power, oh, amen, the big kicker in the body keeps. The score is. It is not saying our freaking body remember. The score is it is not saying our freaking body remember, but that we experience all our traumas on our external freaking body. And some say, like a person who is filled with anger lives in a body full of anger, a depressed person dwells in a body with all that heavy depression. Oh yes, but every single body is different so you will not see all trauma playing out in the same way because how one feels it all not in their freaking brains but within that external body.

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Man, I got to personally learn this thing, how the body just hangs on, to the past from when I, freaking developed asthma myself, like a long time ago, and asthma really impacted my views of the freaking world. So one time I tried that thing called rolfing, which it goes super intense into your muscles and man this Unlocked the lay was just holding in all of his fears and avoid a pickle transformations and did those parody of that tipik 80 thing had power over were both Actions and all of his cosmetic boy. That was holesulse. The little freaking Mikeyspheres, them are this asthmatic immersers. And like it completely changed the whole dynamic doody. When I freaking released the past stories I gave new opportunities for my freaking self. Now, isn't that awesome. There are a couple more freaking things in the past decade that helped me understanding body within trauma sense and like after they loosened they shifted, like my entire freaking being was in a different plane. I have a friend who's like a personal trainer. You know they were all. You should have your hamstrings checked. They are super freaking tight. We would work on it every freaking time but like boom back. But it all changed. One two year after, when I took my freaking family's work session, I experienced and my body was free, like my dang hamstrings also freaking, gave and released.

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Showing traumas could get healed, like indirectly but not only directly targeting the freaking body with it, but not only directly targeting the freaking body with it. You know also that people with freaking traumas usually have flexibility and usually tuck in that freaking fetus form protecting themselves, shows body, it holds stuff too and it shows toes too. And when the freaking body is able to heal, they can connect to the joy and the new feelings of how the body actually feels in order for them to fully integrate themselves. The touch can also connect with people. Histories right, a human that has been sexually assaulted. Histories right A human that has been sexually assaulted man. They will not enjoy any consoling feeling or enjoy any security when the person has that past experiences man, and this totally turns freaking touch into like a terrifying thing and stops them to build connection and feeling vulnerability with others. So it's vital for all of them to rebuild feeling, to enjoy safety and loving connections of touch. Okay, of touch, okay, our inso.

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In Sula explorations also show us how our bodies give us info with all our freaking feels, needs and such, because that area deep in your brain give us knowledge about those dang bodily feelings and if that connection to the body's broken you may miss and connection happiness and feel so lonely and you may make you so lonely, you know. That's why a mindful process for checking in with our bodies really comes into place. Oh, like, even when you notice, oh boy, I really have to pee, dude, your body and mind, yeah, like our back together as one. We see very often in trauma it's like people completely disengaged of what their own dang body signals, like it's not Thim, you know, and underneath there can really lie some freaking unhealed issues, man Like, even with how cognitive therapies are still so much in Like, dude, you just can't think your way out of this, like sometimes, people. They really can tell you every freaking detail of something, but pain is still freaking real, you know.

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It is about understanding why something is like this instead of trying to, like freaking, cure something from it. Man, as they begin understand their histories, it means they now hold power to shift something or begin taking those choices back to them. They may try and go to a martial art like repossess their power back to their bodies. You know, a person who has felt all kinds of harm to their bodies will gain this new sense of power to protect itself. Dude, it is something your entire body will get, not only you mind understanding something, and it happens that same way in theater or even like unusual stuff. This is how your body actually creates new opportunities to integrate themselves with themselves.

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Will thinking make all that dang traumas disappear? Well, I have absolutely no freaking clue. It's just so freaking confusing People. People just get well doing different dang things Movement, yoga, theater, stuff like that. But the kicker here is we gotta also learn. Our medical staff must not see ourselves like as the freaking only answer to things. I need you all to understand Many other ways out there make people better Too. So Just freaking, explore and learn of people.

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There was this woman I knew she was a survivor of the concentration camp in Auschwitz. She's called Edith Egger and from here I learn forgiveness and love. This woman is like your greatest jail is within all those minds you've made in your own head. The shock, the power that this woman brought into my freaking self to give me that realization that my dang self holds that power. So, man, it changed all of my experiences. It is like what the freaking heck actually happened within is like feeling of power. It's all dang energy. Is that what some of the cultures see? People who are special or with specific influence with human beings, do they affect your views or beliefs in your own darn head? When you meet those people? Yeah, there's this freaking understanding that occurs that there is something between you guys and is real. It really shifts. If you have spent some time with Desmond Tutu, right, you will not be same dang person. Man. You take so much knowledge, so much wisdom from those encounters.

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I call it a download. This download, man. This goes so far than intellectual ideas the integration of your body, heart and whole being. It will be hard for you to explain with words If a friend it is being a complete mess in their families. My impulse it is not. Hey, listen, dude, I think we should use a specific method for you. No, that is for a completely freaking robotic person that it has lost their senses. Dude, it's gonna be me just going to those freaking places where change actually lives. How's about some strolling through streets baking stuff or cooking? That's how you actually get a person involved, because is within our very roots. That community support system is what creates opportunity for some hope, for like-feeling agency and the power.

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The darn state of medicine in the US is not doing too good. Man, we just fell so hard for those freaking meds and now patients we are not connected at all with our darn freaking doctor Oak. A visit will feel rushed and not actually helpful and well dang, it's a total heartbreak. This really pushes apart those connections. It is time that we realize each and single person with feelings they deserve. The entire care Like that must include those emotions and start building again those meaningful human to human connection, like all societal freaking shifts.

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That dang magic potion psychedelics are now finally going out there, so all will hear it saying it does freaking miracles, it changes things up and I do understand this. Cam and peeps really freaking, anxious and back off because our preconceived notions and our freaking change. But the scientific research be beneficial for all. Mental Then does seem the same to Sarky from Fiume Princess and Haint Um, these are free conceived notions and are conceived for change, actually, than anything else. You see, oh man, when I use psychedelics in talk, like the substances here I talk MDMA or EX and the thing called LSD acid, psilocybin, known as magic mushroom, ketamine and ayahuasca and ibogaine each have different freaking processes but they end up giving people the same type of experiences. These things crack wide open someone's really narrow viewpoints and people can get awareness of all that dang limitless potential from this wide universe and we can go so far there. But obviously the issues like those freaking dangerous aspects we should take a note on right people. Ayahuasca, for example, it can get messed up because it's complex stuff, not pure, but all of them man they do bring some sort of similar effect to people so they can see their freaking stiff thinking that blocks their inner potential.

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By showing and bringing up all that hidden junk, the old past, feelings or aspects that were hidden or never explored, do people start to actually be aware of what has been the very root of the dang problems. Studies that have been well made show great progress with MDMA-assisted therapy with folks suffering from post-traumatic stress, and most people were like a mess with trauma, right. So when this person, they're feeling it all under those of effects, they feel like a sensation of their inner time that gave them new understanding. And then, hey, wow, I see a little child here that had something so brutal and it's not my job to carry all that guilt. Yo, by getting into that understanding, people feel compassion to themselves, which decreases all that nasty, freaking feelings of self-blame. They usually feel okay, also, like oh well, this is why I'm all freaked out when I feel the desire for food, alcohol or drugs and suddenly all of those reactions.

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Well, people now see them with new freaking eyes, new freaking perspectives. Yeah, long story short, the freaking whole inner system. It changes dramatically and in the process they do not take these drugs just alone. Like people, they are alongside a therapeutic person that takes care of the journey and assist on it. So there's more and deeper access into all those feelings and understanding. Oh boy, from what I've learned when working with traumatized humans is that people believe they are not enough or just simply flawed and man, oh, oh man, those stories we carry. So we got to tell people that's not on you and actually show you are more than able to recover.

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The medicine does allow for these folks to see their darn selves, to notice all this stuff that happened and understand all, oh man, this, what happened back then and wow, it's got. Freaking. Nothing to do with who I am now. This way, those relationships do see a huge change and they start to build opportunity for some dang good experiences in the very near future. That research out there is pretty conclusive, as the neuroplasticity of the brain will make it more available to make these new beliefs actually stick and allow a new brain for these new experiences of themselves and allow new xin sin. So the stiffened pattern of their brain because that dang trauma now, oh my, this brings an immense and an unbelievable possibilities for change, dude.

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But with all the dang magic that drugs can bring, they ain't gonna work as easy fix to life oak. We still do need preparation, coaching and integration, as these things will just freaking open the freaking door that, without care, can actually turn a little bad. Turn a little bad when those bigwigs in the Food Drug Administration. Fda rejected this treatment due to risks that would overwhelm the dang good side. It's simply outrageous. They obviously have no knowledge from trauma studies on psychedelics. For all those folks who do suffer that actually may hold the most dang hope there, they keep just shutting them all down, like in the freaking Nixon times. You know they have the freaking fears to people feeling joy or accepting anything different. Actually, these psychedelics, the addiction potential is way, way smaller than it's been said. As the chemical structure of all of them they cannot increase like the opium family drugs and with multiple doses your dang body will start to have less of a feel for it, so is actually less of a pull or more like tolerance effect. You see the FDA decisions. It usually holds tons of political power, social agendas and even biased choices against data, so a lot of peeps from several communities never had access to treatment.

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Here we are. Medical system America is rooted in commercial issues. It's liability driven, so it will see only drugs Right. It might take much education for the normal person, like all good things of them, the freaking dangers too, the best freaking practice, so they really know how these things are best used in the right way. So many humans understand about these type of things we talk and the access is becoming a right yeah. Now for Europe we are seeing a little progress of that. Specifically, countries like the Netherlands or Australia have become friendlier with this approach for peeps. We will begin the shift when more dang countries actually acknowledge all these research with care. A lot more people out there will experience healing from their issues because they won't have these dang old fashioned ways being a barrier.

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Like not only psychedelics have that darn power, but all freaking cultures have their own methods and ways. Like Germans usually cannot discuss World War II traumas or China and Japan, man, there are, like certain historic facts. People never publicly go, though people of China did found an insane technique in their bodies with Tai Chi and Qigong. Like they just keep themselves all aligned within their bodies and movement. Their body responds instead using words and feelings. That's quite impressive, you see, and similar to this there's other ways to tap that, like dancing or music and other movement type stuff. These all do really help to tune in, adjust, support and find all your freaking inner peace and balance. So it's very critical that us Western docs we learn those dang cultures so we understand all those meanings and support them.

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Dude right Exercise for your heart and your mind. It has immense values that really can't be denied at all. People Like an exercise. We all do find balance and how to express yourselves within that. That could mean walking or a heavy gym day, swimming just keep moving and sensing the freaking movements. Dude, it will truly and immensely shift the freaking person, not only in that moment, but everything starts shifting with all that body-brain and heart-relationship. Man, all that inherent value in that exercise that does is create internal joy and a great and new way for connecting to yourselves. Just that alone. It is amazing, when the connection between your head, your heart and body has aligned, that your body now talks with you, and what I freaking believe for the person is that if you can involve people on social activity too, it may actually be more than just moving, like more joy with connection, and this would give like the energy people do need to go out and go outside their comfort zone. It's like what those big dang community research it does find is what those core communities build National Science Foundations in SF. They created one report on synchrony of our beings in movement and it shows all group activities like moving on group settings that were.

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Yoga is about people bonding in harmony, but is they become a recurring that truly creates them in harmony? Addictions within system, you see, is when people, because when people feel within harmony, maybe through dance, the actual rungru settings are beings in movement. Meaning the movement is not only for the body itself, it is what builds new possibilities for our Deng health on a spiritual, emotional and social plane. As I experience calm in long journeys or all that peaceful sense I felt during yoga practices, it is more meaningful to me. All those freaking connections we human build to each other give us a more powerful boost in happiness. The blue zone Research show us that there are several zones on earth. People are just freaky, healthy and usually live the longest and do. These have one main idea they live in community. They are moving their bodies a lot more in their day life. Plus, they have very tight-knit family connection in their culture. My personal experience of all that showed me the absolute necessity of what families can give to others, because we are born needing this for freaking living man.

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It's always worth to remind because, like to repeat, do we seek for diversity of connection, for real interaction, and never those limited options right, and of course we have to see the progression of humankind, not from the very big studies, but with peeps' inspirations as well. I found freaking yoga practice on Harvard Time and start diving to the eye movement therapy, emdr, where your body is in contact, to that traumatic moments, using eye moves to unlock some stuff. But that at time everyone said like they all were like completely bat crazy. And now every dang people understand and acknowledge those processes, while the academic circle, no, oh, they live in the world of promotions and big buck hikes. I see different because in the end I did saw in my years working with these, the upcoming generations. They have an awareness and a focus on that important factor and what all our inner works actually do, which it is truly and freaking cool.

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Before those generations, well, we would run like crazy and be at work in the ER at the night time shifts without thinking, okay, should we slow a bit? I mean, we never talked to anyone about tiredness, we simply just move forward. Those days have shifted. Now it requires work and understanding to move together in order for that awareness in all generations. Right, like many cultures out there, we are also acknowledging that greed and money it is really not the highest aim on our list. Many people. What they all seek is those meaningful connections, family, being included and seeing each other In culture. These days we have this trend that seeks material gains for getting the other side, which needs to be seen as well, which our own growth to make the full freaking person.

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I really believe those all need to find some kind of balance in all in the middle there, order for the person to reach that feeling of peace that is truly deserved. Being one with the guys that keep studying these fields out here, dude, I can't go saying our humankind will last forever for alms. I also do really see those climate issues, so I stay alarmed with our chances to self-destruct ourselves. But yet I feel like all hope is there. When we start to shift Fear, we start shift. We actually do hold that dang hope in us for some more growth in awareness to human kindness and for true love in order to have a positive and better community in life. Okay, as people move forward with hope and with love, those are better experiences for them in this life.

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My greatest desire for every darn human on this planet remember you can make freaking change happen and you're not trapped in that suffering ever again. There's a freaking guiding light in all your beings that will navigate, even when you walk those darkness. You hear me. So whenever you go within for inner change, man, have compassion, have care and always freaking, hold hope close to your chest. It can help so much. So the parent part of us, man, this important task in all our lives is to build the self-assurance of your children, to help them believe they are freaking land, are truly ready for exploring this huge, beautiful world that awaits.

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Being the freaking parent is about bringing that love, that trust, the safety where the little humans feel comfortable for any freaking adventure in this existence. And the most beautiful is when they are all with confidence to explore. They can go where they feel welcome, where they all feel go home and can go home when feel their warmth. By doing that and creating this freaking solid base, then there's that motivation and that desire to be free and seek the world, like when a freaking bubbly says through that base relationship you then take off from the family and get to actually explore our world. But that same experience does happen when, if things feel shaky, you never get free or actually trust new spaces and situations. You will rather hide inside that discomfort.

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Oh, when the families. Well, when families show as normal, we tend to actually see very sensible and available parents with these very clear signs of true connection. All attention goes for that moment for them. And a big skill To just to deeply listen with every being you have for your kid's needs. But, man, when traumas mess your whole entire system, how do you make sense with all your internal turmoil? So give attention to anyone. The fight or flight response or freeze. This thing takes so much focus on those old experiences that makes parents in chaos to support those next generations to come, or that love for them.

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Right, because if we understand what Darwin taught is how trauma really affects human systems, because having new life in you, it's not about escaping All it takes to create for others. That care is all this dank support for what must come after us that traumas in a person will make that almost impossible or harder. Right for the studies that I have made through my work. I really have joy of seeing my dang son giving his full care and devotion to his little family. That brought peace to me. That brings the responsibility that I am a freaking person too, and my work now is to guide my young ones that they should and that they could improve our history by taking the best dang care for the young generation.

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For all my dang life work, I keep remind people to freaking pay attention when getting a professional to heal, because many of us we use the good word of mouth technique, you know, as we try to get support and remember whenever someone says, man, this thing actually made it better, then trust that experience much more than certifications or the degrees. If they actually got some type of shift, then go and make an appointment. It will give the opportunity and time for finding more about how our amazing brains can heal through time. Now, if the professional can show some skills for working with body feels and emotions, plus EMDR therapy, or even some work for all family systems great work for all family systems, great Then it must mean that all that different needs from several humans are taken seriously into account. Like through my journey I have learned, like all those clinicians out there might not be a freaking good fit. So it's important to find your real guidance in this.

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So speak loud about all of these people. Don't be silent with those humans that have little care about you, because in the human world there's freaking, always some crap going down for all of us. Never forget it. Every single human goes through stuff in life. It's the way right, but the best, that people must seek help. They all deserve help. Then they can reconnect in their journey. That we should all thanks for making the efforts and have more gentleness and patience with all these external and internal issues that we all experience. Last, okay, what can we do if people can't in access or they have economical issue to start a path of healing by themselves?

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All the activities that makes you do thing with others will work wonders. Look at the way people in communities gather to sing all the songs together on moments where those are big disaster. Like human action, it's powerful medicine. So go with others to go bowling, go to cook together, move to music. It's important to connect with a purpose alongside other people, and that will get something new and good coming for sure.

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You bet your sweet life. It will, like always with big community change, there will need to be some shared meaning or a shared vision on things and that will challenge those limiting, outdated views on our world, because we do really need a shift of our own roots. We have to go against all things that are not supportive to us, to give place for these ideas, to move and evolve us into a new state of being, where that's where your true colors and purpose, where you truly are. With this shift, we can completely alter all these communities and ourselves, which will lead into a far better world. This has always been the message of us and hope it's something that every generation will start, hold close and improve. Thank you.