The Work From Anywhere Agent
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The Work From Anywhere Agent
21. My secret to staying consistent
Ever wondered how one word could transform your life?
In today's episode, I reflect on how choosing a singular word—consistency—as my theme for last year led to profound personal and professional changes. By sharing my journey of transitioning to a mostly vegetarian diet, navigating my spiritual path, and diving into chess, I reveal how small, habitual actions compound over time to create lasting impact.
Join me as I delve into my personal experiences and the eye-opening realizations that came with them. I discuss the balance between grand gestures and consistent efforts, the power of tiny habits, and the subtle yet significant identity shifts that happen along the way. Plus, I preview my theme for this year, “Momentum from Unity,” and how I plan to build deeper, more meaningful relationships.
Curious to see how embracing consistency can reshape your life and business? Tune in to discover actionable insights and heartfelt reflections that aim to inspire you.
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Today's episode is going to be just a little different than what we've talked about in terms of the practical stuff and really digging into what happens underneath the surface, and I'm going to share with you my word of the year from last year, as well as my word of the year for this year and how my word of the year last year completely transformed my entire life. So, to start, my word of the year from last year was consistency. I had started to see that everything in my life was coming down to how much energy I was putting towards it, and not just when I say how much, I mean how frequently the energy was being put forth. So I'm a big person where I'll go do the crazy extra thing right, I'll do the 12 hours of working on a project rather than 20 minutes a day. Right, like I'll go do the crazy workout rather than staying consistent. I do work out consistently because my mental health needs it, but I'm giving the example here that I'm the person who will do the dramatic one time, the grand gesture, rather than staying consistent. And so last year, making consistency my word of the year literally transforms my life. I just want to tell you the quick story and then I'll walk you through how it transformed me.
Speaker 0:So, firstly, I started adopting this mindset because of how my relationship with going vegetarian has been. So if you've spent enough time with me, you know that I always say that, like I'm mostly vegetarian or I'm mostly plant-based, and people usually kind of cock their heads and look at me crazy because that doesn't really make sense, but it works for me. So about seven or eight years ago, my mom's family is from Minnesota and I was up there with them over 4th of July it was still cold, by the way. So those of you that live in Minnesota, you guys are crazy because it's so cold there. My uncle had gone hunting and he was talking about how he hunted this animal and getting the meat ready and it was very graphic to the point that it kind of traumatized me a little bit in really just feeling so connected to the meat that we were eating and it just made me not want to eat it. Like I was there for six days. I didn't eat meat for the whole six days that I was there because I was so grossed out by just how graphic he described it.
Speaker 0:And so after that I went six months without eating meat and if any of you have ever tried to go vegetarian, the challenge that you will typically run into is that if you're going to go vegetarian, you have to plan your food. Otherwise you're going to spend a ton of money eating out every single meal, because you have to eat healthy as well, and it just takes some extra planning. And so I started eating more meat and started kind of adding it back in, just because I didn't have time to plan for it, and it became like okay, well, now I'm eating meat again, but I felt terrible, like my digestive system hated it. It just I didn't feel good. And so I realized okay, well, my body craves to eat more vegetables, not more meat. And I'm not saying that I'm a diet expert here or anything. I'm just telling you what's worked for me and how this all plays into consistency. And so this idea sort of became for me not about eating less meat, but eating more veggies, eating more plants, and so now the kind of mindset I go into the week with is I need to make sure that I have at least 30 plants for the week, and so now the kind of mindset I go into the week with is I need to make sure that I have at least 30 plants for the week, and so that includes like spices and fruit and veggies and nuts and whole grains and all of that. So it's like a game for me to hit this number of eating 30 plants per week. And I don't say no to me, if I really want it, I'll have it. But typically I don't find myself wanting it because I'm trying to hit my goal of 30 plants for the week, and so having the sort of opposite reframe of not saying let me do less of this, but let me do more of something else instead, and making it fun was a really big part of it for me.
Speaker 0:And so, going into 2024, I decided that consistency needed to be my theme of the year. I had done it in my fitness, I had done it in nutrition, and I just knew that there were parts of my life that I was missing consistency. And so the two things I committed to for the year were reading the Bible, reading the entire Bible and I'll talk about that in another episode, because my spiritual journey has been completely life-changing and learning how to play chess. And so last year, I read the entire Bible, I'm super proud to say, and I played an insane amount of chess and had so much fun doing it.
Speaker 0:And I started to realize that in sitting in that, in the 15 or 20 minutes a day that I was doing both of these activities, that I was really feeling the changes in myself. I was seeing the way that I was looking at the world and how I was thinking about things was completely transforming. And so that was where I started going. Oh, ok, I get it Right, because over time, the compounding that happens day over day, over day over day over day, of doing the same thing over and over and over again, your brain starts to change, the way that you view the world starts to change. And so that was where I started going. Ok, I can see how affirmations work. I can see how all these things work, right, and for me, doing challenges like 30 day, 60 day, 75, hard all of those have never worked for me because I didn't feel like they were going to make a big difference.
Speaker 0:But I'm now learning that by adopting a really small habit, all of a sudden, over time, the compounding changes. And I know that. There's the books about this, right, there's Atomic Habits. I've read the Power of Habit. I've read Grit, I've read the Slight Edge, I've read all the books on habits and yet, until you actually do it and until you actually experience it, it happens so gradually that it doesn't feel like it's happening in the moment, until you go back and reflect on where you've come from and you're like, wow, I am a completely different person. And so, through that consistency, I watched how it started to show up in my relationships, in my business and everything, and that really took me on this path of understanding that when we say that our business is a mirror of ourselves, our relationships are a mirror of ourselves, it typically comes down to there's one piece or one thing in our lives that we really need to focus on developing and that will transform everything else in our lives.
Speaker 0:If you want me to get really nerdy here, we can get into the quantum physics of this, and so we live in the third dimension, right? So we're in the 3D and this might be too airy-fairy for some people, but honestly, I committed to making this show something so vulnerable, so authentic and so consistent that those of you that it resonates with I hope that this really really kind of hits you in a deep place, and if this is not for you. I promise I'm not going to be offended, but I hope that this resonates with somebody. So if we think about, in the third dimension this is the dimension of space we say that the fourth dimension is the dimension of time and that's where, supposedly, in quantum physics, past, present and future don't exist. Everything is just one. But in the fifth dimension is where alternate timelines potentially exist, and I know again, this is super super out there, but this is just kind of my theory of things, and I know again, this is super super out there, but this is just kind of my theory of things. Now, when we start to realize where our growth areas are right, we say I'm going to be the person where I recognize that consistency has been a challenge and all the opportunities that I've missed by not being consistent, and I'm going to step into the version of myself that is consistent right. It's almost like we step into a different timeline in the fifth dimension and so we become a literal different person. And that's why, in this identity shift that you go through, in this journey, I truly believe that we start to be like I don't recognize the person that I used to be, because you are now literally on a different timeline. Because of the fact that you've chosen different paths, you've diverted from the old timeline that you're on, and so this has been kind of my journey. With consistency Coming into 2025, I decided that I really wanted to deepen my relationships.
Speaker 0:I wanted to go deeper with my relationships, I wanted to feel more connected to people, and so my theme of the year became momentum from unity. And this idea is not just to say I want to have great relationships, but I want to have relationships with people who are going to help build together. Like I want to help build them, I want them to help build me. I want to be able to come together and make something that's greater than the sum of our parts. Having the momentum is great. I knew that the momentum I was building from the consistency needed to keep going, so I couldn't leave that behind in 2024. So I knew that had to be part of it. But I truly wanted that depth and I truly wanted the relationships and that's where the unity came from.
Speaker 0:And so, coming into this year, I started thinking like, okay, well, building on what I did last year, what am I going to incorporate this year to make sure that that theme is so practical, so tangible, and I can look back and say I definitely did that. And so it became okay. Well, I just need to have more consistent conversation. And in this kind of conversation that was happening in my head I'm like, oh well, that's just consistently generation. And I realized that this became an opportunity to redefine my identity as well. Instead of saying let me just go focus on generating leads, it became let me focus on deepening my relationships.
Speaker 0:And so from there it was like okay, let me update my smart list, let me make sure that my you know, my database is clean, and then, going through the lead generation and the conversations, deepening those relationships and not just saying let me go generate more leads right, because this other concept of consistency and this whole concept of identity, right, it's not about just doing the activity, it's about embodying the energy of the version of you that has already accomplished the goal, that's already doing the things. Yes, we can simplify it into confidence and we can simplify it into the skills, but truly there is a difference between somebody who moves through life and they know that they belong in that space, they know that they are going to accomplish the goal, versus somebody who moves through life and they're doing the activities, but there's no joy there, they're not enjoying it, they're not really going deep with people, they're not putting their heart into it, and we wonder what is the difference? The difference is the energy that they're embodying while they're doing the things. And so when we go into this concept of manifestation and going into what I just talked about with quantum physics and the fifth dimension it really comes down to, we have to step into the energy of the version of ourselves that already lives that life. And so, again, like I said, today was going to be so different, but I feel like this message needed to go to somebody. It was on my heart this morning and I just felt like I needed to share it.
Speaker 0:So the last thing I'll leave you with is this Tony Robbins says the strongest force in the human personality is to stay consistent with how we identify ourselves. And so when we start trying to transform ourselves, we have not only the external pushback right, like from our friends and family and our partner and all these other people, but also the internal pushback of not wanting to be a hypocrite, a feeling like that imposter right wanting to stay consistent with how we identify ourselves. So when we talk about agents who are like I'm not tech savvy, well, of course you're not and you never will be until you start to change the way that you identify yourself. Well, I'm not really a morning person, of course you're not, because you've identified yourself as not a morning person, so you will never be a morning person. So you will never be a morning person.
Speaker 0:A lot of these things that we think are like ingrained traits, personality traits, are things that are just habits and are conditioning that we've adopted and developed by circumstance and have just become part of who we are, but they're not actually rooted in the foundation of who we are, and so, with that in mind, I hope that today you walk away with this idea of one little habit can transform everything, and it takes time, but if you sit in it and you let it transform you, man oh man, everything can change. As always, please join our daily discussion on our Business Systems for Realtors Facebook group and I will see you in the next episode.
