Wed and Wild: The Podcast for Marriage

In the inaugural episode of the Wed and Wild podcast, we discuss the chaotic yet humorous aspects of marriage and parenting. We share our motivations for starting the podcast, recount wins and woes in our parenting journey, and delve into a recent disagreement about financial management. We explore our new financial strategy, the challenges of cooking, and share funny stories about our children. We conclude with a preview of the next episode, focusing on balancing the chaos of family life.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Wed and Wild Podcast
02:17 Wins and Woes of Parenting
04:36 Navigating Financial Disagreements
10:25 The Challenge of No Spend Month
20:01 Cooking and Meal Planning Struggles
27:45 Humorous Parenting Moments
38:26 Preparing for the Teen Years

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Transcript

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Welcome to the very first episode of Wed and Wild. This is the podcast where we talk about the wild, wonderful, downright ridiculous parts of marriage and family life. We're the Smiths, a married couple who's surviving love, kids, and each other. Welcome everybody to our very first podcast. Welcome, welcome. We're very excited to finally get this up and running. It's been a long time in the making. To include 10 takes that we did yesterday that didn't make the cut. Yeah, we are, we're my executive producer, aka my husband was told me that I needed to prepare for this podcast. And I told him I did it and then it comes to find out we did need to prepare. So, but here we are. And we're really excited to be able to launch a podcast that couples can hopefully relate to and laugh with us, cry with us and have a little bit of fun. anything to add there, James? No, you can start with just why we wanted to start this podcast. Yeah, I think I, I'll go first and then I'll let you go. But I wanted to start a podcast because I really started listening to podcasts when we had the twins. and it helped me understand what we, I was to expect in the pregnancy and things and, it was relatable. And so that's kind of where I was at. And I think back then I said I wanted to start one and we'd just been really busy and Yeah. Also, I don't know if everyone can hear them yelling in the background while we're doing this. But the reason I wanted to do this was to create a space where couples can laugh and learn and realize that they're not alone in the messy, crazy stories. Hey, hey, Sophie. Yeah, so hopefully this podcast is someplace that you can relate to. We're trying to record this episode while the girls are still awake. So hopefully this goes well. And if not, they might come in and say hi. And so on today's episode, we're going to cover a recent disagreement that we had about something petty, some hilarious parenting moments and then some financial decisions that sparked a debate. So let's start off with we're doing wins and woes in our podcast and so James is gonna start first. So what's your win from this week? I will take a win as getting the girls to go to bed without them fighting me on it or arguing or crying or anything They just went to sleep easy Easy parenting that that's definitely a win because I struggle there sometimes My win was that I was able to navigate picking up the girls, hosting my holiday party and simultaneously watching the girls run around. But in that same vein, my woe is also that the top golf staff knew who they were and came to find me to let me know that one of my daughters was running down the bays and that I needed to go and pick them up. yeah, it win and a woe. I was really embarrassed. And if anyone wants to just send in their wins and lows for the week with parenting or relationships or just life in general. Go ahead and send it to us. We can talk about it. What's your woe Yesterday when we took over 10 times to record five minutes and couldn't even get through that part. That was my fault. We're more prepared now. I realize that this is a harder job than I thought it was going to be. I'm going to start preparing for our episodes in advance. Definitely got to do homework throughout the week. Yeah, I didn't do that. okay. Let's talk about a recent disagreement that we had. And for some context, James and I decided to change the way that we did our financing. We've been together for almost 10 years, married for two and have been doing our finance financing the exact same way all of those years. And James proposed to something different. And so let's we had a little bit of a disagreement about it, but let's let's. you're angry. Yeah, I was. Let's let's jump into it, man. Basically, we have three. We had three accounts. One was for bills, one was for spending, one was just a savings account. My idea was to split our spending account and take a certain percentage that is from my check, my money, into my own account. And she gets her check, her money, into her own account. She did not want to do that. Was there a reason behind that? I don't... I think I just felt like it was going to be too challenging to try to figure out like who has to pay for what and No, I think that was probably it. But honestly, I think a little bit just had to do with like, we've done this the same way for the last 10 years. And so why are we changing this now? Yeah. Well, I mean, the way it was was we had one spending account. So, you know, we both would whatever we wanted to do, we would use that account. Well, it would turn out that she would spend a lot of money out of that account. So when I wanted to spend something, I could not. Because it would be gone. I wouldn't really say that you couldn't. would just say that I would give you a hard time about what you were spending. So like I would spend it on shopping and you would be door dashing things. food. Survival things. then I would give you a hard time. Yeah. And I would give you a hard time about it. Yes. Whereas she would be spending two to three hundred dollars. I'm spending about twenty. But I'm the bad person. But the idea was to split the accounts that way she could actually see what she was spending compared to me. And once we did that, I believe you cut back a lot on shopping. yeah. I've I've saved quite a bit of money. will say overall, believe we saved more money than we were ever the first way ever this year after splitting. Yeah, I I think like one I'll name I was highly upset about the decision. I was really pissed off. But I think ultimately it was the right decision. We spent we save a ton more money going through this. whole reason that I wanted to split in the first place, because I was tired of me being the one that got in trouble when I ordered food for twenty dollars after you would go shopping for two to three hundred dollars. So I was like, OK, let's do this the fair way. I'll have my own money. What's mine is mine. What's yours is yours. Yeah, and I. It's turned out to be the best decision for us, even though I was not for it to begin with. And I do think that people would benefit from hearing how we split it up. And so I think we can talk about what exactly that is on a future episode of how we've split up our finances. We could do it now. It's just, It's percentage based. Great. I'll let you do it I have no idea. All I know is that I get a certain money in my account and I have a certain money that goes into the bills. And I handle both because James doesn't know how to pay the bills in our household. Everything is automatically taken out. None of us know how to pay the bills in this household. We just know it comes out when it's supposed to come out. Where what's the name of our water and gas company? The water and the gas. What's the name of the company? consolidated utility. That's only a partial answer. my There's only one. No, there's actually two. So we paid a consolidated utility and we pay Smyrna, the of Smyrna, water and gas. It's water and gas. I know that because that cannot be paid online and automatically. Anyways, go ahead. You can tell them the percentages. have no idea. The percentages of the check is just basically whatever she brings in, 25 % goes to her spinning account where she's able to spend on whatever. And this is 25 % of check. Another 25 will go to the savings account, which we don't touch, and then 50 % stays in bills. And that would be the same with mine. I get 25%, 50 % in the bills, and 25 % in the savings. Now, before I would remember, we pulled from our savings a lot to keep adding to our fun account or whatever else we needed. It was like when we went on vacations and stuff, we would pull the money out. Yeah. And now we haven't touched our savings since switching pretty much. No, we also know we took a vacation. We went to Cancun and we didn't touch any. We still didn't touch it. Yeah, still didn't touch it. And the way that we split things since 50 percent it goes to bills, it's we don't touch it. We just have every bill that's set up there that comes out automatically. And that's it. Our main checks go into there and get split from there automatically. As for gifts, like Christmas, for instance, we split the gifts. So we'll say, hey, we're spending X amount on the kids. I'll pay you half or pay, you know, we'll just split it. I'll do half. She'll do half. So if we spend, I don't know what, a thousand dollars, I'm paying for five hundred dollars worth. She's doing the other five hundred. Out of our fun account. Yeah. And when we want to go on vacation, I we have not purchased a vacation since doing this So I don't know what account that would come out of Mexico, but we and California do we buy it out of there? don't remember but Anyways, yeah, because basically the bills bills account is for a need if it's not a need we're not touching it So a vacation wouldn't be a need Vacation would be fun And also for dinners and stuff if we go out to eat If it's whoever's idea it is to go out to eat, they're the ones paying. So if I wanted to go to a restaurant as they're screaming in the background, if I wanted to go to a restaurant, I'm Yeah. And same for her. Yeah, if we're doing stuff for the kids, we just kind of just figure it out. But this might be a good time to bring up my idea about what I want to do for 2025. And you're going to tell me. OK, here's here's my. So I think last year we did no spend January. We failed Did we? Probably. did we buy the TV in January? I don't know. OK, well, anyways. That's never not going to be a thing. OK, but no. OK, here's my I want to do and no spend as much as we can and see how far I can get. Here's the rules. Are you ready? OK, one obviously. This is what you wanted to talk about. Yeah, this is what I told you. my God, I got it. I want to talk to you about this. Okay, so here's the rules. Obviously, we still have to pay our bills, but we don't buy any new clothes for ourselves. So we don't go shopping at Marshall's and spend $300. You don't buy new shoes. The only exception to that rule is, and I can't see how this would be an exception for us, is I gain 15 pounds and I need to buy new jeans because none of mine fit me, right? And 100 % of my jeans don't fit me, so I need to go and replace them. Or like I break a shoe or lose a shoe and I need to buy that exact same shoe, but I also have a hundred other pairs. So there would really be no need to have to buy clothes, okay? So we don't buy clothes. We eat out only once a month. So we're allowed to, and that includes door dashing. So we can't door dash food or anything to our... workplaces. So here's the dilemma though. You don't cook. I know. Well, this is hopefully we can talk about what I'm going to do. This is my idea. Okay. Just listen and listen, hear it out. Okay. Hear it out. So we don't, we don't door dash food to work and we only eat out once a month. So I can't be stopping at McDonald's to get the kids McDonald's on the way to the basketball game. Yeah. So we don't eat out except for once a month. And then the only other spending that we're allowed to do is like we could deem one like family activity that we want to do a month, which we've been doing pretty good at, and or like kids clothes and necessities. The boys grew out of their jeans and they need new jeans. We would go and buy them. They grew out of their shoes and we would go and buy them. I think I could challenge myself. I know you could do it. The door dash might be hard for you, but I think we could do it. I think it would be easy. Okay. I think we set a goal. If we make a full, let's do like two months. If we make two months, then obviously we don't want to spend money. So don't know what the reward would be. If we save for two months, let's just spend it all. No, if we save for two months, I don't think there's a reward, but there's no- See, so my thing is I don't like spending money anyways. I know, but I think this would be a good challenge. I window shop and I'll be like, that's really nice to have, but I'm not going to get it. Even if I can buy it. OK, well, I'm a different story. The only other exception is like maybe getting my nails done that I need to get once a month or something. But I would like to challenge you. So you're saying you're not going to get your nails done for two months? No, I am. That's going to be the exception. Then what's my exception? Yeah. You can get your Your vapes. So that will be the only exception is a vape. OK, then I quit, too. I an at home gel nail. I will take that challenge. All right. So are we up for the challenge? I will take that challenge because if so, I'm going to print a calendar so that we can do this and highlight the days that we don't Yeah, I mean, I'll do it. I don't care. OK, so stay tuned. We'll keep you updated on how we're doing because I saw this challenge and I was like, I want to try it. I'm too competitive. OK. Yeah, I mean, did you? Back to the bank account thing, did you have anything that you hated about it other than? Mm-hmm. Other than did you have like any emotional side? Like what was the real attachment just because we always did it? Because you you were mad like you were mad. Yeah, I think it was a little bit of just like the emotional attachment of like this is how we've always done it. And now this is what now we're changing things. And I didn't I think it me it took me seeing that this is actually working in us. We're we're saving a ton of money versus. Cause you're trusting that you're, are doing the right thing. Cause you're, you're the emotional one. And I'm the, I'm the logical thinker all the time. And you just react off of, I don't like it. That's, that's your, and then you're stubborn. So you won't change your thought process. Even though I break it down, like in detail, how this is better. You're still like, no, I don't like it. That's the reason you give. I think the other challenging thing though is that you work at night and so we're having these conversations via text message and I'm not able to like full the time I wasn't. Yeah you were. No. Yeah I think you were. I think you already. You think it started in May? No I think it started in like July-ish. It was after you had started working at night. So. Then we've been really well. Yeah I think we need to start having our serious conversations in person versus when you're at work. Because I think that's also part of it is like I'm not I'm just reading a text message I'm not necessarily like having conversation with you about it in person so but I do suggest that if you are able to Split to your finances at least in the 50. What was it 50? 2020? Well, I just do I just do fit because I mean if I just this is me personally I feel like if you are spending more than 50 % of your check on bills You probably need to. And bills aren't just like water, mortgage, rent, car payment, not just that. Bills are like, how many subscriptions do we have? Like Disney, Netflix. All of those. It's child care. Yeah. Child care. All their groceries, sports activities come out of that. I mean, everything that is like mandatory that we do or like that our family does. Think of it like a need. If it's a need, like Netflix really isn't a need, but if it came down to it, we would cut Netflix to spend what an extra $20 on groceries or something. did have a discussion about my Peloton membership and you told me it should move to my account because I'm not using it, but that's a different discussion. So for those who don't know Peloton's like what, $40, $50 a month? I think it's like, yeah, I think it's about $40 a month. This Peloton has been collecting dust while we're paying $50 a month for the membership. for the past four months, five months maybe, I don't know, but it's been collecting dust. And so I said, that needs to start moving out. If you're not gonna use it, it needs to go to your fun account. So then it'll make you start using it again. Because once you're paying $50 out of your own spending money. Yeah. Yeah, I would. I can't disagree with you. do need to start using it. So like at the end of the day, I need to, I need to start riding it and I go on and off with it. Like I did one or two day classes. tried to make the deal saying, if you're going to use it, it can stay in bills because it's being used. But if you're not using it and you're still going to keep paying for it for that one day, that one day you might use it sometime soon in the future, switch it to your fun. Then you'll notice it. Yeah. Then I want to pay it. so, but anyways, All right. We are going to segue into our... That's not how a segue works. sorry. I'm new here. Okay, guys, I'm learning. I'm learning how... You don't tell people you're going to segue. You just segue in. Okay, sorry. I'll get better, I promise. We are going to segue. We're amateurs here. I thought this was going to be easy. It's not just a PSA for everybody who wants to start a podcast. It is more challenging than you think. We're really busy and it takes it takes a lot of work. And thankfully, James has done all of the all of the work, all of the work and setting everything up. And I came and sat down to watch it and didn't have anything prepped. So she's the one with the ideas. I'm the one with the actions. That is true. I've learned how to become a woodworker. I've learned how to become an electrician. I've now learned how to become a podcaster and equipment manager, basically. What else have I learned from your ideas? I'm about to learn how to become a what you want me to like redo the closet. yeah, I do want to build a painter. So painter, I'm to be a carpenter. A little bit of everything. Master of none. Meanwhile, she she's good at watching me, though. I'm really supportive. I say like, thanks. You did a great job. That's about all the support I that's my support. Yeah, kudos to you. Same with cooking too. It's like, I'm hungry. James, can you cook? Because that's something you don't want to learn. wait. Let's talk about the cooking because that is going to be a problem. It is going to be a problem here's my thought. We need to heavily go back to using the Mealime app. OK, just so everybody knows. We pay for that, by the way. It's like $3 a month or something. Very helpful, though. Yeah, it is very helpful. So Mealime is an app on your phone. and this isn't a paid promotion. No, this is not a paid promotion But if they're listening, we use your app. and you would like to sponsor our podcast, please let us know. but meal lime is an app and you get on your phone. It's like $3 a month. and you can pick different recipes and then you healthy recipes too. They're not like an easy. Yeah. It takes like 30 minutes. 30 to 45 minutes. They're not, they're not bad. Well, actually the app itself is free. There's a paid subscription, which is the three dollars which gives you even more. Okay. Well, we're a family one where you we've got a lot of things that happen with our four kids and then ourselves and our work and careers and things like that and I just I never really have time to go to the grocery store and then if I do go to the grocery store end of spending a boatload more money because we buy a ton of snacks and things that we don't really need Hold on we I heard that. That's why I said, hold on. Me and the kids. OK. Me and the kids. Because that's another argument there where you come back from grocery shopping after spending $400. And I'm like, where's the food? How did you spend $400 and get no food? There's only chips. There's cookies. There's snacks. There's. Well, saw you it. You saw what you saw where I get it from, right? Your dad. Yeah, my dad's stay and my mom and dad are in town with us for the holidays and my dad went to Costco and he came back with, I think, seven different options of pastries and cookies like Costco size cookies, just pastry containing. just containers Donuts, dozen donuts, donuts, chocolate chip cookies, macadamia nut cookies, sugar cookies. It's like one. I don't eat sweets like that. I don't eat a lot of sweets. So those things just sit here. Our kids do though. kids destroy them. But anyways, back to Meal Lyme. So I think we need to heavily get on the Meal Lyme app because I don't go to the grocery store and Meal Lyme, once you select your groceries or the recipe that you're going to do, you can place it in your Walmart Instacart. say, hey, this is how many people I'm feeding. So for us, it be six. And it'll give you the exact amount of ingredients that you need that will automatically be placed in your cart. in your Walmart shopping cart. Well, and I shop at Walmart, but I'm sure there's other grocery stores on there. There's a lot. And it automatically downloads to your Walmart app. And then I can just place the order for them to get delivered to our front door. This is also another PSA for those of you who do not use Walmart Plus. I think it's $100 a year membership, but it's saved my life so many times. get for $100 a year, you can get unlimited deliveries. It's zero delivery fee for your groceries to your house. loading up for children and yourself in a car and going to the grocery store to spend an hour to pick out groceries? No, absolutely not. And especially when we didn't have a car that was big enough for all of us to fit, we had groceries sitting on top of our laps. So that's crazy. That would be an enjoyable family time out. know, occasionally I don't mind all of us going to like a Sam's Club or a Costco, but no, that's not fun for me. And so, yeah, I think that in order for us to make the no spend work, I think we need to go back to. using that and then meal prepping for sure. I mean, it gives you not only does it give you the ingredients and stuff, it gives you the actual recipe to follow step by step and the amounts to use for each one. Here's the thing I didn't want to admit, but I'm gonna have to is the one time I ordered or I ordered the groceries for me to do it. I mess. I totally fucked up the the recipe so like clearly I need to learn how to follow a recipe better because my food did not come out great but every time you cook from there it comes out delicious. You just read. Because you're in a rush you have zero patience. No I don't but you know what if on okay well football's about to end but what about on Sundays if we cook two to three and then I just put them in the fridge it's a problem is that we get home at six the girls need to go to bed by 7 30 I have to shower them that gives me 25 to 30 minutes, that's my mom's dog, Lunita, barking. I just don't have the time during the week to cook and prep a meal. If we do it on Sundays or even on Mondays, if you do some on Mondays on your day off too and prep some meals for the week, think that'd What time do you get home? Anywhere between on a good day, 5.45 and 6.15. What time do you go to bed? I go to bed Around nine o'clock. So from five o'clock to six fifteen. Or five o'clock or six fifteen till nine o'clock, what are you doing? I am getting children ready for the next day. So around seven thirty. It depends on what time we get home. So for home later than six fifteen on days on Wednesdays, we're not home until almost six forty five seven. I hear that you still got a couple of hours in there. Okay, but I also need to decompress. don't get a lot of alone time Okay, so the hours between the girls going to bed and myself going to sleep, that is my two hours of decompression time that I do not want to spend. absolutely hate cooking. I do not want to spend that cooking. So if I can spend my Sundays doing that, I would rather spend my Sundays prepping meals. I'm down to use the app. Okay, let's try it. And if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. But at least we can. kind of, I don't know, figure out life because this brings me into my story. You weren't here on, shoot, what day was it? Thursday of this week. My mom cooked us food and- and she burnt it? No, it wasn't burnt. So she cooked us this chicken with cream of mushroom that you don't like. So she cooked it on a day where she knew you weren't gonna be here and- I was really, I've been really sick, guys. Today's the first day that I've like put on makeup and got myself ready and feel a hundred times better. But I was really sick. And so she said she was going to cook dinner and she made food. And I told her I don't think I could taste it, but I'm pretty sure it was really bland. But Ava looked at me and said, this is the best dinner I've ever had. And she tore up that chicken to the bone. She tore up the chicken to the bone. She ate it like no one's business. Requested it the next day. Yes, she did. And the next day and did the same thing. was like he did. But it was kind of like my chicken. It reminds me of my tick tock chicken recipe where you guys just destroy the chicken that I make. And that's how it was. And I was like, well, and my friend was to taste that. It's pretty bland. But Ava thought it was great and she thought it was the best cooking she's ever had. And I was like, wow, she used to tell me I was the best cook. To be fair, Ava eats everything and Sophia who doesn't eat. Well, Sophie didn't eat the chicken. Yeah, exactly. She's the one. did eat two pieces of broccoli. No, get- But there was no salt or butter on the broccoli. was just steamed. To get Sophie to eat would be impressive. That's a win. That's true. So, okay. They're distracting me with their. They're what? They're jumping. They're yes, outside the window. I barely hear it. Let them go to town right now. Okay, if anyone has a... All right, we're gonna share a funny story about somebody in our immediate inner circle. And James is gonna share the story. I don't know what story that is in our circle. Is this person listening? Are they gonna know? Maybe. Who what story? You said I'm going to share the story about the inner circle and I have no idea what story or who in this inner circle that I'm sharing. So I need some assistance here. You just threw me straight under the bus. I was like, yeah, you're going to do this. I don't know what you're talking about. This was not in the notes. It was in the notes that we're sharing a story about someone in the inner circle. sorry about us. We're in the inner circle? Yeah, let's try to be discreet. Elaine, that sounds like a story for you then, since you know what it is. Miss Discreet? The inner circle about us? What story are you referencing here? I'm referencing the Ava story. There's a lot of Ava stories. I don't know what Ava story. as she peeks her head across. She sensed it. She sensed it. She's our wild child. She popped her head in the window. Sorry, I'm going to snort. Then you're going to have to tell me what Ava's story is because there's a lot of Ava stories to tell. OK, so each week we're going to try to tell just like one wild story that we've encountered in our lives that has either happened to us that week or in the the recent times. And we're gonna talk about Ava telling me that my stomach was hairy. yeah, that's it. Yeah, that's it. I definitely couldn't tell this story. This is this is a story that you and Ava share not has nothing to do with me. OK. Hey, so you and Ava are in this inner circle. OK, well, I'll I'll. You know, kids. Kids are very humbling. So and now she's sticking her tongue out at me through the glass window. kids are really humbling. And I could tell a hundred stories about Ava, but I'm going to tell you the time where she told me my stomach was hairy so just bear with me for a second, because I will never forget this. And this was in recently. So she's currently four. Sometime this year. She's currently four. And just for some context, our girls are about to be five. They've got older brothers that are one's gonna be 13 on Christmas. And then the other one is going to is 11 going to be 12 in March. And they are sassy. and full of life and when they get in front of others they're a little bit shy but I think that also they say things I don't think they're shy I think they're plotting okay well that could probably be right and then once they feel comfortable then they unleash their flirt their fury their fury selfs but that they're they're around all of us and our family is pretty wild So they'll do things like party boy and say call people big backs and say bro and they just they talk they talk like their brothers and their dad. And so one day I was taking a shower and for I'm home by myself with the girls and any of the kids throughout the course of the week. while James is at work, because he works the evening time until the late evening hour or late early morning hours. And so now that they're four, I have been trying to like come home, make them dinner and then simultaneously take a shower while they're still awake and then get them ready for bed, et cetera. Throw the TV on. Throw the TV on. Let them watch. Let them play while I try to take a shower. So I went to take a shower. and I had the TV on there watching Disney or something and all of a sudden Ava runs into my room and she comes in and she looks at me and she says, why do you have hair on your stomach? Mom? I'm just going to tell you, she wasn't looking at my stomach. I'm going to let you think about what she could have been looking at. between the stomach and the legs. Area she didn't understand. And then what makes matters worse. So I told her I yelled at her to get out of the shock. I was like super. You just got embarrassed by a four year old. did. You got humbled. I got humbled real fast. But to make matters worse, we often FaceTime with my mom and my sister and my dad. And I. Don't know if it was that day or the day after, but we FaceTime my mom and she proceeded to tell my mom on the FaceTime that I had hair on my stomach and then proceeded to tell my sister that I had hair on my stomach and tells everybody that I have hair on my stomach. thing about Ava is she knows your business, so does everyone else. If she knows anything about your business, everyone's going to know it. She cannot hold water. that girl will tell it all. But yeah, like. I think she told you too. Did she? She didn't tell me I had hair on my stomach. No, but did she tell you that I had hair on my? Yeah. Yes. Yeah. She told everyone. Everyone has to know that her mom had hair on her stomach. We had to tell her don't go to school saying that mom has hair on her stomach. Yeah. I will also just let you know we don't do any gentle parenting in this household. So it was really like a shut the f up. Be quiet I mean she she's came in on me before when I was in the shower. I don't know if you remember that Because I had she say I have a poop I have a poop hanging from my stomach There there there's still the age where they are learning body parts and we are trying to teach them what the body parts are somebody told me that they needed to know. So that in case anybody touched them somewhere. So I'm trying to teach them now. But the proper terms, because everything was their butt. Yeah, their butt always hurt. Yeah, their butt always hurt. But if you guys have any wild stories that you'd like to share, we'll want to be able to share them on our podcast. We'll keep you completely anonymous. Or just email us. Yeah, or drop us or send us a direct message on our Instagram. Who calls it a direct message? Me, I'm old. don't even think direct messages, it's proper name. The proper name is DM. I'm joking that that's really what it means, but but it doesn't have a name. It is just DM direct message. Are we in AOL? Can you send me an AOL chat? Well, first of all, I have not been sliding into anybody's DM. I don't think ever in my life. You don't have to know that's the term. I don't DM people. us a direct message. I'm trying to be politically correct. us a letter, written handwritten letter to our mailing address. But yeah, so. But yeah, if you want to share a story, we will not bring up your name unless you say, hey, bring up my name. I want to hear what people say about me. And I think they're going to bed. I don't know. Yeah, probably. My dad's probably tired of him. He spent all day with them. We can. We can read your story and talk about it. Try not to make fun of you. Or laugh with you. Or say, like, we've been, you know, we've experienced the same things. I'm sure there's some things out there that we've experienced that are the same and some things that we're like, we're probably going to experience it in the near future. Don't send us in teenager stories because I'm kind of terrified of the teenager phase. We're getting into that phase. We're at the preteen phase, which you're scared of already. I'm terrified. Yeah, you don't want to walk into the boys room at all when their door is closed. No, I always knock. no, not me. I'm not busting. I kicked the door in like a Kool-Aid man. Yeah. If I catch him, it's nothing I've never seen or done before. know what mean? Well, here's the thing is I don't know if any other parents like just like experience this like quick shift in their kids dynamic in a preteen. But I feel like the boys went from like naive and not knowing things to like When they say pause because you're talking about something sexual. I want to be like, how the F do you know that? Remember what did what did Roman say the other day? They pause everything though. But what did Roman say the other day? And he raw dog. Yeah, raw doggy. He was like something about raw doggy. And I what does that mean? And he wouldn't tell me and I was like, no, I want you to tell me what that means since you're using the term. And he didn't want to tell me so like just you know what a raw what a raw dog what raw dogging is or is he just like repeating words either way it's either way it's a problem and I'm not okay with it they're at that age they're gonna be 12 and 13 and that's why it terrifies yeah and you're not walking into their room already but like I said I'm I'm going in great and even Roman Roman will lock his door and that I just open it I just pick his lock I'm like all right I just send the girls I even so we go in there that's better Let's send the four year old to go see what they're doing in their room with the door locked. Nobody judge our parenting styles. Okay, again, like I said, we don't do gentle parenting around here. The one who still thinks you got hair on your stomach. We're sending them in there to see. Yeah, you know, she'll keep it real with us. let us know what's happening. So anyways, well, thank you guys for joining us on our first episode of Wed and Wild. We're so excited to have you guys here as part of our wild little community. Again, hopefully we've brought some laughs and shared some insight for you guys and we can't wait to join you guys again next week. Thank you again. Make sure to follow us on at Wed and Wild podcast on Instagram. Are we talking about next week? it the relationship conflicts and miscommunications? No, next week we're talking about balancing it all. well that's going leave me out of it, Yeah, because you don't do any of the balancing. But yeah, next week we're going to talk about how we balance all this chaos. So tune in then. Thanks, guys.