Embracing Extraordinary Podcast

Ep.17: Why Can't You Have What You Want? – The Real Reason No One Talks About!

with Jodie Ross and Deidre Dattoli.

🦋 Welcome to Embracing Extraordinary Podcast - EP 17!

What if the reason you’re not getting what you want isn’t because you’re not trying hard enough?

In this juicy and powerful conversation, Jodie and Deidre dive deep into one of the most common frustrations high-achieving humans face: “Why can’t I have what I want?” This episode peels back the layers to reveal the hidden dynamics that shape your reality—your identity, your energy, and who you're being.

Whether you're pushing hard toward success, longing for more abundance, or craving ease and fulfilment, this conversation will help you unlock the subtle (but massive) shifts that change everything.

✨ You don’t attract what you want—you attract who you’re being

  • Why hustle alone doesn’t work, and how “being” creates transformation
  • The energetic difference between “please” and “thank you”

✨ Shift from ‘Have-Do-Be’ to ‘Be-Do-Have’

  • How to align your identity with your goals
  • Why imagining it as already true rewires your reality

✨ What’s really in the way of your desire

  • Normalising success in your body and nervous system
  • Why healing and growth often surface right before a breakthrough

✨ Practical Ways to Shift Into Alignment with Your Desires

  • Use "more please, thank you” mindset to playfully shift from lack to abundance
  • Ask yourself: “Who would I be if this desire was already true?”
  • Practice embodying your future self now—posture, energy, emotions, and language
  • Swap “I want” for “Thank you” to shift from yearning to receiving
  • Tune into your nervous system—does your body feel safe having what you desire?
  • Use imagination to normalise success: see yourself as already living your vision

Key Quotes to Remember:

💡“Wanting is not enough. You attract who you are being.”
💡“You don’t get what you want. You get who you are.”
💡“Every result in your life is a reflection of your inner alignment.”
💡“If it feels true in your body, it becomes easeful. If not, that’s the work.”

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Until next time, lots of love!
Jodie and Deidre 🦋🦋

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