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The Architect of 2026: Goal Setting Through Resilience

Linda Brown, MPT Season 2 Episode 35

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Welcome to Healthy California! I’m your host, Linda Brown, Physical Therapist and Functional Nutritionist here in California. Today, we’re ditching the exhausted "New Year, New You" pep talk. Instead, we are becoming the architects of 2026 by examining our goals through the lens of true resilience.

Resilience isn't about being unbreakable; it’s about being rebuildable. Traditional goal setting often fails because it assumes linear progress and ignores our limited bandwidth. In this episode, I break down why you don't need to do more—you might actually need to do less.

Join me as we walk through my 5-step framework for sustainable growth:

  • Identity First: Choosing a specific "word" for 2026 (I reveal why mine is Brave).
  • Behavior Mapping: Defining how that identity acts on a daily basis.
  • Resilience Goals: Setting targets that support your nervous system rather than burnout.
  • Micro-Routines: Creating 10-minute habits that actually stick.
  • Support Ecosystems: Building an environment and boundaries that protect your energy.

Drawing on psychology and scripture (Romans 12:2), we explore how to renew your mind rather than just filling your calendar. Let’s set goals that feel like nourishment, not punishment.

Thank you for listening to Healthy California.

If you have tried all my suggestions and are still having trouble with your health, and would like an appointment with me, please email me, text, or call me via the contact information below.

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Linda Brown, MPT, Doctoral Candidate Functional Nutrition

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All right, welcome back, California.

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This is Linda Brown, the host of Healthy California and your physical therapist, functional nutritionist here in California. 

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Today is the beginning of the year, and today we are talking about goals.

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However, a little bit differently than what you might be used to.

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If you've already set your goals, then that's great.

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If you have not, then that's great as well.

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We're going to be doing things a little bit different.

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Today I want to help you become the architect of 2026, your 2026.

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When we talk about goals every December, we toss it around like confetti, but rarely with the depth it deserves.

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So we're going to get a little bit deeper.

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This isn't a new year, new you pep talk.

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We're going to examine our goals through the lens of resilience.

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We often feel like we have to be strong, we have to bounce back, we have to push through, but rarely are we taught the actual science of resilience or how to set goals that honor our nervous system, our lived experiences, and our capacity.

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Capacity for growth, our capacity for living.

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For 2026, I'm not asking you to do more.

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If anything, I'm actually asking you to do less.

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This episode is about designing a year that doesn't just look good on paper, but feels aligned, sustainable, and deeply supportive of the person you are becoming.

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In 2026, I'm asking you to be intentional about what you choose to hold, which may mean letting go of the things that you don't want to hold.

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Focusing on what's important.

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So let's get to it.

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What is resilience and what isn't resilience?

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Resilience is one of the most misunderstood concepts in psychology.

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Most people think that resilience means being tough, never breaking, staying positive, and pushing through.

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But research tells us a different story.

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According to the American Psychological Association, resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, or trauma, or stress.

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Not the absence of struggle, but the ability to move through it with flexibility and recovery.

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Because struggle never leaves.

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It's always going to be there.

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There's always going to be adversity.

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So we don't necessarily want to ignore that it's there.

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We want to be able to just move through it.

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That's resilience.

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Studies by Anne Mastin, PhD, call resilience ordinary magic, the natural human capacity to adapt, especially when supported by connection, meaning, and structure.

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And research from the Center for the Developing Child at Harvard shows that resilience grows through supportive relationships, a sense of control, opportunities to strengthen skills, and the ability to make meaning from challenges.

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Resilience isn't a personality trait.

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It's a skill set that can be cultivated intentionally.

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So I want you to think about that, actually. I'm going to state it again.

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Resilience isn't a personality trait. It's a skill set that can be cultivated intentionally.

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You know, when I think about someone that's resilient, I typically think of like a military person.

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Someone who in the face of adversity can just stand tall and not break.

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But that wasn't always the case for that person.

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They had to learn that.

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And it's a skill set that can be cultivated intentionally.

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That's what we're going to go over today.

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Let's go over the resilient goal setting for 2026.

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Traditional goal setting often fails because it assumes linear progress, right?

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You go from point A to point B.

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It also assumes we have unlimited bandwidth.

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We can do, we should be able to do anything all the time, no matter what.

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Goal setting assumes predictable schedules, minimal emotional labor.

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So it's almost like we should just be robots with our habits.

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You know, when we think of setting goals, it should just, we set the goal, we do it, boom, it should be done.

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And then when that doesn't happen that way, we are so hard on ourselves and then we give up.

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You know, we set goals for the beginning of the year and by a couple weeks in where we've already failed in some of our goals and then we feel bad about ourselves.

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So that's what I want to break through.

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Because our lives are dynamic.

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They're relational.

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They're cyclical.

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So we have to treat our goals that way.

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We don't have an unlimited bandwidth.

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So here's the new model.

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One that's grounded in resilience science and designed for real life.

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Instead of asking, what do I want to achieve?

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I want you to think, of identity first.

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What is your identity?

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What is the identity you want to take on?

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So here's five steps.

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Step one, choose your identity word for 2026.

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Choose your identity word.

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So ask yourself, who am I becoming?

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Or who do I want to be when life gets hard?

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Many of us don't thrive on pressure.

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We thrive on identity, meaning, and alignment.

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So your word will be your anchor, your North Star, your filter for decisions.

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So for example, just one word, I want you to think of one word.

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Here's some examples, but you should come up with your own.

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So example would be steady.

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You know, maybe you want to stay grounded when things shift.

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Maybe courageous might be a word.

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You want to take aligned risks.

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Or rooted, maybe you want to make choices that stabilize you.

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Maybe your word is radiant because you want to prioritize energy, joy, and visibility.

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Maybe your word is vital.

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You want to nourish your body and boundaries.

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Maybe your word is expansive.

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You want to stretch into new opportunities without snapping.

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Maybe your word is adventurous, fearless, healthy.

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Pick one, come up with one.

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Think about it for a little bit.

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Don't have to come up with one right now.

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But listen to this podcast and then think about it and then re-listen to this podcast and go through the next steps.

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So pick one word that feels like a gentle yet powerful invitation and put it on a post-it note.

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Put it on a post-it note and put it on your mirror.

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Put it in your car.

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Put it in your wallet.

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Put it on your computer.

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Put it someplace where you're going to see it often, and it's a word that's going to empower you.

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Just pick one word, because that identity will shape your behavior, and then your behavior will shape your outcomes.

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My word is brave, and this encompasses both courage and fearlessness.

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So this is the person I want to become in 2026.

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I want to become brave as an entrepreneur, as a friend, as a Christian, as a person with a new career once I finish school, and a person who will stand firm despite a not so good last few years.

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So my word for myself is brave.

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Find one that works for you.

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Your past can define you, but it can only define your past.

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Take that word and move forward and create a new identity.

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So think about that.

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Your past can define you.

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You don't want to deny your past because it's who you are today.

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But it can only define your past.

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create a new future.

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So that's step one, is to choose an identity word.

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Step 2, define the behaviors of that identity.

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So identity is not a vibe, it's a pattern.

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Let's say your word is adventurous.

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So then ask yourself, what does an adventurous person do daily?

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Or how does an adventurous person make decisions?

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What does an adventurous person say no to?

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What does an adventurous person say yes to?

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Define the behaviors of that identity.

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This is where your goals will begin to take shape.

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Not from pressure, but from embodiment and self-empowerment.

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For me, let's say, my word is brave.

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So for me, a brave person may have a pattern of not procrastinating. because procrastinating is pretty much just delaying success and for what reason, right?

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Usually it's fear.

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So a brave person may not procrastinate.

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A brave person may not overthink things.

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A brave person may be the first person in line, may stand tall.

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Maybe something simple as making eye contact.

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Maybe being the first person to say hi and not waiting for someone else to say hi first.

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There's a lot of different ways you can

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define the behaviors of your identity.

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So take a minute to think about it.

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Take some time to think about it, a day or two or however long it's going to take.

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So choose your identity word and then define the behaviors behind that identity.

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And then step three, create resilience-aligned goals.

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What does that mean?

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Resilience-aligned goals.

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We don't need to make bigger goals.

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we actually need to make smaller steps or like little micro habits or micro routines that fit into real life so that your identity can shine.

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So what does that mean?

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So these goals may support your nervous system.

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Typically, when I'm talking about supporting your nervous system, I'm talking about rest and digest, and I'm talking about the rest part of that rest and digest.

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So you need to rest, digest, and recover.

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So that's what I mean by supporting your nervous system.

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And we know that when stress is down, your body is healthier.

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Also, these goals honor your bandwidth.

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You can't always be a yes person.

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There's only so much capacity you have in your life.

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So I want you to honor, with these goals, I want you to honor your bandwidth.

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And make positive goals with a positive mindset.

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So what I mean by that is, If your goal is to go on a trip, then don't make your goals by saying, I'm not going to spend money.

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I'm not going to go out to dinner.

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Those goals are, I'm not, I'm not, I'm not.

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And that makes it hard to take.

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So instead, your goal may be, I'm going to put some money aside first, and then whatever I have left over, I will go out to dinner.

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I will have fun.

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I will do whatever I'm going to do.

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If your goal is to go on a trip,

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put the money aside first, and then use the rest of it to do what you will, whatever it is your habit is.

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That way you're not constantly thinking about all the things you can't do.

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You're just putting money aside and you're thinking about the things you can do.

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Another goal may be, you know, we're thinking about the beginning of the year, so everyone always makes a weight loss goal.

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So let's say I want to lose 20 pounds.

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that's very broad, and that is, it's a difficult goal.

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But instead of saying, I want to lose 20 pounds, maybe you should say, I'm going to live in the identity of someone who weighs 20 pounds less, and I'm going to make different decisions.

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Instead of saying, I'm not going to eat, I'm not going to do this, I'm not going to do that, I'm going to exercise, it's just so broad, and it just sets you up for failure.

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So be positive with your goals and put a positive shift on it, a different type of mindset.

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And we'll go over that more in a second.

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I also want you to think about goals on building capacity, not burnout.

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So this is where like little micro habits or micro routines come in.

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So we'll talk about that.

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These are resilience aligned goals.

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Goals that support your nervous system, honor your bandwidth, and build capacity and not burn out.

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So some examples are, if you're trying to lose weight, let's just say, for example, because we just talked about it, your goal may be to walk daily, because walking daily becomes a resilience practice in regulating your stress.

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So you're not thinking about losing weight, you're thinking about regulating your stress.

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And we all know that walking is good for your health anyways.

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So that might be a micro habit or a micro routine.

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Go for a daily walk.

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And if you're trying, again, if you're trying to save money, because money is typically always a goal.

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Let's say you're trying to not necessarily save money for a trip, but you're just trying to be better at saving money

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in general, like saving for retirement or a rainy day fund.

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Your goal is not going to be, again, what you can't do.

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Your goal then becomes a resilience practice in creating safety, your safety net.

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Putting that money aside first and feeling good about you having a safety net makes it easier when you try to pull out your credit card or your money for a coffee and you don't have as much as you normally would because you put it in your safety account, you could just think that I'm creating a safety net for myself and I am a resilient person and I have an identity of being adventurous, fearless, healthy, or whatever your identity word is.

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And then let's say you have a goal for setting some boundaries.

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Boundaries, that's a big one.

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Because when we don't have control or don't have boundaries, then we have a life set up that's a little bit more out of control.

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We don't have control over our life.

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Someone else has control over our life.

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When you set boundaries, your resilience part of this is self-protection.

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You're building a resilience practice in self-protection.

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So maybe your phrase that you can just say to people is, I'm at my capacity for that today.

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if you have someone who's always crossing that boundary and you're not good at creating that boundary, become good at saying, I'm at my capacity for that today.

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Maybe come back to me tomorrow.

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Because everyone has a different boundary for different things.

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So find a way to use that phrase with someone, I'm at my capacity for that today.

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Why don't you come back tomorrow?

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And then I'll come back tomorrow and you're going to be at capacity again and they'll come back again.

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Eventually, they're just not going to come back.

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And maybe that's just an easier way.

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I'm just at my capacity for that today.

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That's step three, create resilience aligned goals.

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And step #4, build those routines, resilience routines.

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When I'm thinking about routines, I'm talking short routines.

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We don't want to add one more thing to your to-do list.

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I'm talking about building a 10-minute routine, resilience routine that's 10 minutes.

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If you can't find 10 minutes for your resilience routine, then you need to take something off your calendar.

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You are at capacity.

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I'm telling you that right now.

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If you can't find 10 minutes, you are at capacity.

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So build a resilience routine.

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What might that look like?

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Maybe 10 minutes in the morning for Grounding, reflection, journaling, maybe breath work, maybe read 10 pages, maybe walk outside and get the morning sunshine into your eyes.

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Maybe prep 1 nourishing meal a day.

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Not buy it, but prep it.

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Find a resilience routine and just start making that a daily routine, just 10 minutes.

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And this is something you're doing for yourself.

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Maybe you're going to have to cut out 10 minutes that you wake up and you grab your phone and you start scrolling.

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Maybe you have to cut that out.

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Maybe cutting out, waking up and turning the news on and standing in front of the TV while you wake up.

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Maybe you have to cut that out.

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Maybe instead of making your cup of coffee and drinking your cup of coffee, you can take that cup of coffee and do a little walk around your house for 10 minutes.

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Just something that starts building a routine that gets you out of your other habits.

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Find time to spend 10 minutes for yourself and start building that resilience routine.

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It's really important.

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Because micro-goals or micro-routines, they compound.

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And these routines become your anchor when life gets chaotic.

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They build your identity.

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They create momentum without burnout.

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They're really important.

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Don't cut these out of your day.

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Cut something else out of your day to prioritize your resilience routine.

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So that's step 4, resilience routines.

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Step 5, final step, is build a support ecosystem, not just a community of people, a whole ecosystem.

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So resilience grows in community, not isolation.

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But a support ecosystem not only includes people like family, friends, co-workers, maybe church members, but it also includes tools.

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Tools not like a hammer and nail, tools like what maybe a counselor gave you as a tool, maybe a book, maybe something you learned in a book, maybe something you've learned from a teacher or a podcast, different tools to support your ecosystem.

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Also, a support ecosystem may include your environment.

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So have an environment that is welcoming, have an environment that is free of clutter, maybe soft music, maybe good lighting.

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I mentioned clutter and I'm going to bring it up again because a cluttered environment equals A cluttered brain.

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In A cluttered environment, there's always something to look at, something to do, and it's a constant reminder of things that you haven't gotten to yet.

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If you have a cluttered environment, try to declutter it.

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I'm not adding that to your to-do list, but create a supportive ecosystem.

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And that just would mean get yourself in a spot in your house or at work or outside that is a supportive ecosystem.

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And then boundaries.

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Part of your supportive ecosystem is boundaries.

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We just talked about boundaries.

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So boundaries aren't for others.

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You're not setting boundaries for others to not cross.

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You're setting a boundary for yourself.

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Your boundary is what are you going to tolerate or not tolerate and find your capacity.

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And if you don't have the capacity,

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Say it, say it out loud.

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I don't have the capacity for that.

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So find your boundary and set your boundaries.

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Find your capacity and set your capacity.

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And then we can call that a boundary.

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Other supportive ecosystems are rituals, habits, routines, accountability structures.

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So start building all that.

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Build a support ecosystem, not just a plan, but start building your environment around you.

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And then ask yourself, who supports the person I'm becoming?

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Not who supports me right now, but the person I'm going to be in the future.

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Who is going to support that person?

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The person I'm becoming.

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And not the person that I am in the future, because it's a journey to get there.

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Who is going to support that?

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And what systems make this easier?

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And a system is a series of micro-habits or routines.

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So what system is going to make this easier.

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So when I think about system, I think about being organized as a system.

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And little habits or routines that make that organized system might be just the habit of making your bed every morning.

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That is a habit of becoming organized.

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Maybe it's a habit of making sure that there's nothing in the sink before you go to work.

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All these little habits create a system of organization.

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So what systems make this easier?

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What things, like tools or boundaries, protect my energy?

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Oh, that's a good question.

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What protects my energy?

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And this may be having positive music on or having people around you that are positive so they're not draining your energy.

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I used to have someone in one of my patients that would come into my physical therapy office

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And I could feel his energy across the parking lot as he came in to my office.

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His energy would suck the life out of my office.

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Don't be that person.

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So what things, and it doesn't have to be a person, but what things or tools or boundaries protect my energy?

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And it could be even what you're looking at on your phone.

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The news, if you watch the news, man, that's going to suck the energy out of you.

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What you expose yourself to and what it was visual or auditory makes it into your brain and you have to protect that.

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Ask yourself, what environments nourish you?

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What gives you energy?

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I don't believe that we should always only do what makes us happy.

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There's people that say, if it doesn't make you happy, don't do it.

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I don't believe that.

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But I believe we should always head in the direction towards something that gives us energy.

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And sometimes that means we might have to do something we don't like for a second with the ultimate goal of something that's going to give us energy.

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For instance, I go on a week-long hike every year, 100 plus miles.

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And the thought of that to some people is very daunting.

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For me, just the thought of doing that gives me energy.

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And I might have to do things that I don't like initially, like training for it, even though I do like training for it.

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But loading my pack every week, it has to be a little bit harder, a little bit harder, a little bit longer, until I'm at the point where I can hike for days at a time with a pack on my back, sleeping on the ground.

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You have to work up to it.

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But the thought of it gives me energy.

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So don't do something only just because it makes you happy, do something that's going to head you in the direction that's going to give you energy.

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Because that's going to be what powers you, empowers you to keep heading forward.

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This is where your goals become sustainable.

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So that was step #5, build a support ecosystem.

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And then you can ask yourself those questions.

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Who supports the person I'm becoming?

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What systems make things easier?

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What things protect my energy?

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And what environment nourishes me?

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So let me go back through all five of those steps first before I move on.

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Five steps, choose your identity word, define the behavior of that identity, create resilience-aligned goals, build your resilience routines, and then build a support ecosystem.

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The resilience approach for 2026.

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You know, we're cyclical.

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Life is cyclical.

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Goals should also be cyclical.

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You don't have to do it all at once.

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You don't have to do it all in January and then be good at it by February so that you can continue on for the rest of your life.

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I think a lot of people have this misunderstanding that we should set goals.

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We should just be able to do it.

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If we set the right goals, we should just be able to do it.

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And then by February, we're headed down that road of a good life because we had that perfect goal and it's just going to be that easy.

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And then you don't have to work at it for the rest of the year.

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I don't think, and I don't think you think that is the case.

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I think years and years and years of being on this earth and making goals every year, I don't think that has ever really worked for most people.

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So instead of planning the whole year,

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Just plan for seasons, because our life goes through seasons and every season changes.

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So those changes is what builds resilience.

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Plan for seasons.

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Season one, let's just say, the spring season.

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That might be a stabilizing season, January through March.

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So focus on grounding.

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Focus on the nervous system regulation.

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Ask yourself, you know, what helps me feel safe and steady?

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This is your warming up season.

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So this may be where you focus on breath works and walks and journaling.

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Again, we don't have to do everything all at once.

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We're just trying to create these little micro routines, micro habits.

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So maybe just for this spring season, January, February, and March,

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Do your warm-up season, breath works, walks, journaling.

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It doesn't have to be that.

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Find something that is going to work for you and just focus on that for that season.

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And then season 2, the spring season, I think the first season was winter season.

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The spring season, or April, May, June, maybe focus on skill building.

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This is where you're going to take action, maybe build momentum and confidence.

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And then maybe ask yourself, when am I ready to practice?

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So maybe this is where you practice your boundaries.

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Maybe this is where you start your daily meal prep.

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Focus on skill building.

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Again, we're not doing everything all at once.

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And then the summer season, season three, July, August, September, maybe this is where you focus on expansion, visibility, creativity, courage.

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Then ask yourself, where am I ready to grow?

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Maybe this is where you declutter.

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Maybe this is where you find your environmental support.

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your support system.

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This is where you start to shine.

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You're not going to think about starting to shine right now because you think you're going to shine and then two weeks out, you're feeling bad because you weren't as routined as you thought you would be.

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And then you're hard on yourself.

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So don't be so hard on yourself.

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And then season four, that autumn season, October, November, December, maybe focus on reflection.

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Focus on the year that passed. refinement.

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Maybe you're going to refine the things that you need to refine, recalibrate, celebrate.

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Again, you're not expecting to be perfect, so this is the time you're going to reflect and refine, recalibrate.

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And you might ask yourself, what wisdom am I going to carry forward?

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And this is where you harvest the year's wisdom.

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The seasonal approach honors your natural cycles of resilience, so it stabilizes, strengthens, and stretches and integrates.

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It also removes the pressure to get it all right in January.

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When you think about reflection, I want you to close your eyes if you're at a place where you can close your eyes.

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And imagine it's December 2026 and you're sitting somewhere peaceful, maybe your kitchen table, maybe a couch, maybe outside in your favorite lawn chair, and you're looking back at the year and you feel proud.

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Not because you did everything perfectly, but because you lived intentionally and with resilience.

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When you're reflecting, ask yourself, What challenges did I navigate with more grace?

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Maybe it was time management, maybe it was stress, maybe you navigated your calendar with grace, maybe you got rid of some things.

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And then ask yourself, Where did I surprise myself?

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Maybe it's, What did I do for the first time?

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Maybe you had some first-time things.

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What did I delegate?

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What did I release control of?

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Where did I decrease spending?

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So where did you surprise yourself?

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And then ask, what did you release?

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Maybe you released control.

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Maybe you released past trauma.

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Maybe you forgave someone.

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Maybe you forgave yourself.

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And then ask yourself, what did I reclaim?

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Did you reclaim some time?

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Did you reclaim some energy?

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Did you reclaim some health?

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Maybe you reclaimed your voice.

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Maybe you reclaimed your courage.

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And then ask, what did I learn about my strength?

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What did you learn about your strength?

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You survived one year, so you know that you can survive.

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How will you choose to enter the next year?

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For me, when I reflected on last year, my reflection included that last year was a shedding period for me.

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I'm getting rid of some things from my past, and using my new brave identity to create a new identity and get out of the old habits.

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So I'm not stuck in that past.

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I'm creating new habits for a braver identity.

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So I consider last year a shedding period.

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I'm getting rid of all the things that no longer serve me.

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So find that new version of yourself and let that version of you speak.

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You know exactly what you need to do.

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So how do we start?

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Let's figure out how do we just start.

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So here's your simple 24-hour resilience plan.

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Choose your identity word, your resilient identity word, write it down, put it somewhere visible.

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Pick 3 microhabits that support your nervous system, and they should not be more than 10 minutes.

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And remember, those microhabits could just be breathing, it could be reading, it could be journaling, it could be praying.

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So pick 3 microhabits.

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Identify 1 boundary that protects your energy, something that you will no longer carry into the next year.

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Maybe you'll be better at saying no.

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That's what my new boundary is, I will be better at saying no.

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Choose one person that will support you in your new identity.

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And choose one thing in your environment that will support you.

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So maybe like find a friend, a coach, a partner, a colleague, and the one thing in your environment maybe

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That one thing is decrease phone time.

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Maybe it's decreasing what you're putting into your brain, you know, what you're listening to, what you're watching.

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And then create one ritual that grounds you.

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So one ritual would be, could be morning tea, evening journaling, a weekly walk, something that just grounds you.

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So small steps are how you begin.

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Small steps make big shifts, not with pressure, with presence.

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So before I recap, let me share a scripture that I think applies to the resilient goals you will be setting.

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And this is from Romans 12, 2. And it says, I think this is very applicable, it says, do not be conformed to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good, pleasing, and perfect.

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Wow.

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That's exactly what we're talking about.

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So the patterns of this world are not what it's about.

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It said, be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

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And it takes time by making what is important a habit.

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This is pleasing to God, and this is His will.

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I want you to understand that it does take time.

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That's why it's in the Bible, because

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God, even God knows that you are not going to be perfect at it and you're going to have to do, you're going to have to read the Bible and do it over and over and over.

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So be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

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Think about that when you are trying to squeeze another goal into your day.

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The purpose is not to do more, but to do less.

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Do what's important and not what's important to the world, but what's important to you.

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To finish this off, let's think about resilience.

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One last time.

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Resilience is not about being unbreakable.

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It's about being rebuildable.

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Taking the good and the bad moments both.

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Because we can't deny the fact that there will always be bad moments and we don't know when they're going to come.

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So it's taking the good moments and the bad moments both.

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This next year is your year to design a life with intention that supports your strength, honors your humanity, honors your capacity, and expands that capacity for joy, courage, and resilience.

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You're not starting from scratch.

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You're starting from wisdom.

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So is it wiser to keep adding things to your schedule or taking things off your schedule so you can focus on what's important?

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Choose goals that feel like nourishment, not punishment.

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Choose to become the person you've been quietly evolving for all these years.

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You don't need a new you.

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You're perfect the way you are.

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You need a truer, resilient you.

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You're already here.

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So if this episode resonated with you, share it with someone you love or someone who deserves to step into the new year with clarity, confidence, and resilience.

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Until then, stay healthy, California.